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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya Read and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it. Tanya. Yeah, so last

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Speaker 2: week we were talking on the podcast, was like, hey,

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Speaker 2: like what happened last week? And you were like, no, nothing,

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Speaker 2: like we talked about nonsense, and you forgot to mention

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Speaker 2: that you fully interviewed Chris Martin.

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Speaker 3: I know, and I would like to apologize because that

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Speaker 3: was pre taped, and so I'm supposed to keep my

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Speaker 3: mouth shut until it airs, and so I sometimes forget

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Speaker 3: when I'm allowed to speak. That sounds bad, but you know,

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Speaker 3: I don't talk about it. Yeah, so let me tell you.

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Speaker 3: Making Chris Martin giggle is something like that. It's almost

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Speaker 3: like an angel came and blessed my life in that moment,

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Speaker 3: Like I didn't even see straight.

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Speaker 4: He giggled like I actually made him laugh.

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Speaker 2: Did you feel like you were high on life?

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Speaker 4: I will never have to do drugs. I was happy

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Speaker 4: to call that for that moment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you say that made him giggle? Uh?

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Speaker 3: Oh, well, I pronounced one of the songs correctly, Coloratura.

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Speaker 3: It's the last one, and I was saying how I

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Speaker 3: love how long the song is because it's a really

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Speaker 3: good makeout song, because that's when I'm you know, I

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Speaker 3: love the like, yeah, a good makeout playlist is like clutch,

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Speaker 3: and so I say something to that effect, and they all,

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Speaker 3: actually all the members of cold Play had a nice

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Speaker 3: giggle wow, and it just really brought me to a

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Speaker 3: euphoric place. And Chris Martin actually, honestly, I want to

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Speaker 3: say every single one of them, they are so humble,

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Speaker 3: so nice. After the interview was done, he was like,

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Speaker 3: is rad really your last name? And I said, oh,

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Speaker 3: it's you know, ready Savia Beach. And he was like

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Speaker 3: asking me stuff about me, and I'm like, you're Chris Martin.

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Speaker 3: You can walk off and be done with me, you know,

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Speaker 3: like you don't need to entertain me.

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Speaker 4: Or act like you care. But he, like, I think

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Speaker 3: And he wants to be nice to people, and he's

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Speaker 3: so humble, and I'm just like, there's nothing I could

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Speaker 3: say that would encapsulate how I feel about that band.

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Speaker 2: I mean that is I can't even process like that

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Speaker 2: one and Harry's styles, Like I can't even process what

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Speaker 2: it would feel like to have a like conversation outside

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Speaker 2: of a public interview, but like a one on one

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Speaker 2: conversation where they're just being a genuinely nice human being. Oh,

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Speaker 2: Chris Martin, like he wrote the soundtrack to like when

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Speaker 2: I'm driving in the car a loon and I want

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Speaker 2: to feel something, I put on cold Play.

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Speaker 4: Oh my, I know. The song's just like Oh, he

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Speaker 4: just knows.

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Speaker 3: They know how to get you, they know how to

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Speaker 3: like go into your intestine and like ruffle things up.

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Speaker 3: And I just love I just love them. And honestly,

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Speaker 3: I've had such great interactions with Chris Martin in the past.

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Speaker 3: He's come on the Morning show, he's come in studio before,

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Speaker 3: and I've said things about like those love pins, about

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Speaker 3: how I try to get one at one of his.

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Speaker 4: Concerts, and he literally took it off his.

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Speaker 3: Jacket, his own personal jacket, and gave it to me.

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Speaker 4: I'm nothing, I'm a little peon. Like I'm nothing. Chris

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Speaker 4: Martin does not need to be nice to me, and

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Speaker 3: Been so nice. So I'm just I'm a forever fan.

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Speaker 3: I really enjoyed that experience. And if you are a

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Speaker 3: cold Play fan and a Chris Martin fan keep at

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Speaker 3: it because they deserve everything good that comes their way.

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Speaker 2: I love that. I mean you think that it's you

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Speaker 2: mean nothing, but like, we're all just human beings and

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Speaker 2: they have created such an amazing art for us, but

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Speaker 2: also they're still human. I love that he treats people

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Speaker 2: as if he hasn't like captured the world with his music,

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Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. But like, isn't that sad

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Speaker 2: that the expectation is like, he doesn't even have to

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Speaker 2: done after the interview. It's like, no, like it shouldn't

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Speaker 4: Level, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Why except for Jenniferson, Jenniferson unapproachable.

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Speaker 3: Wait, there is this there is this concert that Chris Martin.

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Speaker 3: I can't remember where it was, but he basically said

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Speaker 3: something he was going to play my Universe and he

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Speaker 3: universe is here. It was Dakota Johnson and I played

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Speaker 3: My Universe the song the Coldplay song on my weekend show,

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Speaker 3: The Vibe, and I dedicated it to Red Star.

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Speaker 4: And I was like oh, and he does like, oh.

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Speaker 3: Do you feel like Dakota Johnson and I dedicated this song.

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Speaker 2: He's like, huh yeah, it's like who yeah, what I

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Speaker 4: I know me too, bless up.

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Speaker 2: Like I feel like there's been times where we're just

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Speaker 2: Tanya and I are having a full conversation about something

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Speaker 2: culture and Reds are just like looking back and forth,

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Speaker 2: like just watching us has no idea what we're talking about.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's crazy though. He's on Twitter all the time, like

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Speaker 2: Choice of news news.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he loves Twitter.

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Speaker 3: And we were talking the other day about the Cravis.

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Speaker 4: I was like, you know, courting crashing, Travis got engage.

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Speaker 3: I was like, this is so great for Halloween cost

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Speaker 3: and don't you think and he was like, they did.

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Speaker 2: Inst you on Instagram.

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Speaker 3: I was like it was everything that I saw on

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Speaker 3: It happened on a Sunday. He's like, I didn't see anything,

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Speaker 3: So he like googles it, right, he searches it on

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Speaker 3: maybe yeah, maybe the algorithm feeds me this stuff because

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Speaker 4: Populish yoursel I know, like what's his feed? Like football

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Speaker 4: and stuff?

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Speaker 2: Just sports?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Sports. Yeah, I mean that's pretty epic. Congrats. I don't

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Speaker 2: know who you can. I guess to sit down with

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Speaker 2: Taylor Swift would be next. Was that like, at what

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Speaker 2: point do you feel like you've maxed out?

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Speaker 4: Just that cold play? What I feel good? Strong about that? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to trance, you know, go into

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Speaker 2: the next topic. I have nothing to add to that

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Speaker 2: that's even comparable. I did watch Grays last night.

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Speaker 2: What do you think? Okay, wait, before we started, way,

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Speaker 2: are you talking about this week's episode? You know, we

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Speaker 2: didn't discuss last week's episode Amelia with the new doctor

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Speaker 5: There is something there. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think she's coming on because I saw

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Speaker 2: on Twitter it said like welcome new doc or something

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Speaker 2: to Grace. I mean, they're totally setting this up for

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Speaker 2: Amelia to be by or you know, have some sort

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Speaker 4: Because I agree, you don't think some.

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Speaker 5: Mark no, I'm saying, is that bye? Is it straight?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but well, because she's been up until

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Speaker 2: this point, Oh, I don't know if she's ever talked

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Speaker 2: I guess I shouldn't assume, ye, but it totally feels

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Speaker 2: much past Link after last night's episode. Yeah, this week's episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's two scenes from this week's episode that really

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Speaker 3: and Amelia was basically saying how when she like she crumbled,

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Speaker 3: that was kind of like when she realized a marriage

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Speaker 3: and it just it's interesting to me to see how

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Speaker 3: the pandemic and the quarantine affected people in such different ways,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like people, some people had

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Speaker 3: of for me it was cool to see the difference

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Speaker 2: I just Addison being back made me feel like the

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Speaker 4: I agree. I just love she's like the duchess.

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Speaker 2: I yeah, I don't know. There was just something in

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Speaker 2: then seeing it again on Gray's and I don't know,

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Speaker 4: It was a very short exchange a last scene.

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Speaker 2: Grinning and I'm like, oh, I haven't done that since Darren.

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Speaker 4: He touched her hand, did you see that? He was like.

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Speaker 2: At the end, yeah, at the.

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Speaker 6: Very end, Oh I see, Oh yeah, And I think

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Speaker 3: That last scene of the show, I get emotional like

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Speaker 3: thinking about it. What scene the very last scene with them, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because Meredith goes into this monologue and it's all about

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Speaker 4: I like it, like really.

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Speaker 3: Resonated with me because I feel like I pride myself

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Speaker 4: And so I'm like really resonating with every isn't it

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Speaker 3: And then the last line or whatever when they like

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Speaker 3: when it's her and Scott Speedman, but she says, there's

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Speaker 3: there's nothing like feeling like somebody has your back, and

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Speaker 3: that's where it ends. And I literally like lost it

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Speaker 2: I've expected twist and emotional. No, but I that's so injured.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I was like, it's so weird because I

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Speaker 3: Like he has my best interest on her. He's like

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Speaker 4: Yeah, struck me beautiful. I really like, I loved it.

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Speaker 2: But it says nineteen things every Gray's Anatomy fan is

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Speaker 5: All Right, So this is both of you. How many

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Speaker 5: which ones you each do.

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Speaker 2: Of these nineteen Yeah, like, let's count, let's tally all right.

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Speaker 5: I got it, tally ready to go all right? Number one,

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, both, yakay.

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Speaker 5: Number two. Believing you're basically qualified to give medical advice.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, after and after many hours of watching grades,

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Speaker 4: I'm not that delusional. Someone, go ahead and.

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Speaker 5: Now, sure, quoting the show on a daily basis.

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Speaker 4: It's a great day to be alive.

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Speaker 2: Don't say that every day you don't get on. It's

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Speaker 5: One three apiece Number five, ripping your face mask off

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Speaker 2: Sure, when I leave a store or something.

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Speaker 5: Number eight. You're watching old episodes two of those Number nine.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I overlooked like making it they like feel,

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Speaker 5: Falling in love with someone new every.

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Speaker 2: Season, Yeah, I think Grace does a great job at

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Speaker 5: Taking online quizzes to find out which dream boat you'd

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Speaker 2: I have done that.

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Speaker 5: Wanting to move to Seattle.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't think I ever wanted to move there.

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Speaker 5: That's true. Having a international fear of weddings after all

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Speaker 2: They all fail.

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Speaker 5: Warming to the idea of hooking up with a colleague.

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Speaker 2: I did have a moment where I was like, how

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Speaker 4: But you're not a doctor.

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Speaker 2: But in another life, if I had been a doctor,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if the show did that for me,

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Now you speaking of backstorage room, back in the

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Speaker 4: Oh right, right right right, right right.

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Speaker 5: Right like yeah, reading spoilers on the newest season.

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Speaker 2: I used to seek out spoilers for Grace. I don't

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not a big spoiler girl.

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Speaker 5: Okay. Having a love hate relationship with Shonda Rhyme ye,

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Speaker 5: and finally wanting to find your.

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Speaker 2: Person obviously, Yeah for sure.

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Speaker 5: Well Becca wins. Becca is eighteen of nineteen and Tanya

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Speaker 2: Loser, so I don't know, maybe I'm the loser. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Watch you're pointing that finger, missy.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: It was exciting. And you know what's funny is like

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Speaker 2: trying to make someone watch Grays. That's like not into Grays.

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Speaker 2: This is crazy, and I'm like, they have a pole

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Speaker 3: No, I'm like a sicko that makes people watch it,

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Speaker 3: and then I'll follow up with them like where are you,

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Speaker 3: What season are you at? What episode are you at?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Yeah, that's so good. Just wait, Like

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Speaker 2: I do, Like I do have friends and family who

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 3: I made Red Star's cousins watch it from the beginning,

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Speaker 4: Da, how do you feel? Do you like him? Oh

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Speaker 4: my god, you weren't upset by that death, Denny.

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Speaker 2: What, Yeah, no one, Yeah, this is upset about that

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Speaker 2: so excited about our guest today because she is making

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Speaker 2: to have you. Thanks for thanks for taking time. I

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Speaker 1: Absolutely of the podcast, so very excited to be here.

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Speaker 2: Wait.

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Speaker 3: Is it Jenna Johnson or Jenna Johnson Schmikovsky.

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Speaker 1: Well, it is officially Jenna Johnson Schmerkovsky. And you know what,

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Speaker 1: that is probably one of the best times I've ever

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Great.

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Speaker 3: I'm Serbian, so I really feel like, you know, it's

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Speaker 1: Yeah it makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Name.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was just like, listen, I'm gonna I'll let Tanya

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Speaker 2: This is not gonna go overwhelmed.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's it's funny, you know. I went from a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Johnson is like so easy.

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Speaker 3: You never have that as a kid where they like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, now I have to like spell it a billion

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Speaker 2: So I don't even know where to begin with I

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Speaker 2: So I'm so curious. You're dancing with Jojo Seawhile it's

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Speaker 1: be having a same sex pairing. And for some reason,

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00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,679
Speaker 1: my initial thought was, Oh, it's going to be two guys.

442
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 1: So I just thought maybe they're going to ask me

443
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 1: my opinion on like choreography or just what I thought

444
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:44,359
Speaker 1: about it, and I was like, that is amazing. And

445
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 1: then they were like, it's going to be two females

446
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I see how this is

447
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 1: going down. And so they just asked me straight up,

448
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:54,919
Speaker 1: you know, like would you be willing to dance with

449
00:21:54,920 --> 00:22:00,760
Speaker 1: a girl this season? And immediately I answered yes, And

450
00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,120
Speaker 1: then I started thinking like, oh my goodness, what did

451
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 1: I just kind of sign myself up for Because I

452
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,280
Speaker 1: haven't ever been in this position before. It's never been

453
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 1: done in America, like you said Meacka, but it has

454
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 1: been done in the UK. So I did some research.

455
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 1: I kind of looked up how it went for them,

456
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 1: But honestly, I just I think why I said, yes,

457
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,639
Speaker 1: I've done I think this is my eleventh or my

458
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 1: twelfth season on the show, and I've had some amazing

459
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 1: partners just all sorts of a variety, and this is

460
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: the first time I felt like I was really going

461
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:42,679
Speaker 1: to be challenged, and so I just I was like,

462
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: I love a challenge. I'm super competitive, so I kind

463
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:47,640
Speaker 1: of wanted to prove to myself too that I could

464
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:53,199
Speaker 1: do it. And it has seriously exceeded all of my expectations.

465
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 1: I was really worried about people's reactions, what just what

466
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: the overall feeling was gonna be, you know, because it

467
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 1: is something super new and something super scary I think

468
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: for a lot of people. But as soon as I

469
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 1: met Jojo, we just like had this natural just friendship

470
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,680
Speaker 1: and connection and we both felt so comfortable doing it

471
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 1: that I think it's kind of translated throughout our dances

472
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 1: and has just felt natural for everybody else watching us.

473
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:27,119
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, it's watching y'all dance is. And maybe

474
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 2: I have tailored my social media and my algorithm to

475
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 2: where I don't get any I don't see as much

476
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 2: ignorance maybe to her, but I all I see is support.

477
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 2: All I see is like this is amazing, Like y'all

478
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:43,160
Speaker 2: crush it, like I haven't seen, you know, Because when

479
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 2: I first.

480
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 4: Heard about it, I was like, here come the hater.

481
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. I kind of like rolled my eyes like oh no,

482
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 2: but like I thought it was amazing. I just was

483
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 2: already like anticipating what I was going to see under

484
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 2: the you know, comments and stuff, which is how my

485
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 2: brain works. But it's been so pleasant to see such

486
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 2: a at least from what I'm seeing, a pun a

487
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 2: reaction from people.

488
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I told my husband, my husband the night

489
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: before the premiere, I was like, you know, I'm I'm

490
00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 1: so excited. But because we hadn't announced who the pairings

491
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: were yet, they didn't announce them until the first show.

492
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 1: So I told my husband the night before. I was

493
00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 1: just like, you know, I'm so excited for this, but

494
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: I am really nervous about the backlash and just how

495
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,920
Speaker 1: to handle it because the season is already stressful enough.

496
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 1: But you know, it's inevitable you're gonna get haters, You're

497
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 1: gonna get just like toxic people trying to bring you

498
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:34,679
Speaker 1: down when you're doing something great always, and I was

499
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 1: shocked that it was full of love and support. You know,

500
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: you get a few of those, just like bad apples,

501
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 1: But like you said, I was blown away at just

502
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 1: how accepting everyone was was of the situation. Who is

503
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 1: it's been really awesome?

504
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,200
Speaker 3: Do you fixate on the bad apples though? Like when

505
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 3: you see the negative ones? Do you just or are

506
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 3: you able to kind of like brush it to the

507
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 3: side and move forward, or does it like get to you?

508
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: You know, I think I've just dealt with haters my

509
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 1: whole life, and this isn't the first time, it's not

510
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 1: the last time. Obviously, I take my work very seriously,

511
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: and so when people are commenting about my work, it

512
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,120
Speaker 1: affects me because I'm a perfectionist and I always want

513
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 1: to put my best foot forward. I think after meeting

514
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:27,119
Speaker 1: Jojo and just working with her and kind of hearing

515
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 1: some stories that she've had to dealt with, I just

516
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: don't even care anymore. They don't even phase me. Just

517
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. It's not worth your energy. You know,

518
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 1: you know what you're putting out and what you're putting

519
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 1: into your project, and so why dwell on the negatives.

520
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 1: If anything, I just want to keep like pushing and

521
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: keep proving people wrong. So you know, obviously we're human.

522
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: I'm a female as well, Like people are just rude.

523
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: But I just think I've been so inspired and so

524
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,640
Speaker 1: focused on my work this season that it hasn't really

525
00:25:59,640 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 1: phased me.

526
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, stronger woman than I.

527
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 2: Same I do you know watching the show, you watch

528
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 2: all of you who are the professional dancers, and your job,

529
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 2: like what you do every season is you have this

530
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 2: incredible chemistry and connection with your partner, and it's kind

531
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: of like, I guess not acting but maybe a little

532
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 2: not acting, but you're performing, you're putting on a show,

533
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 2: you're dancing together. All this time together, you get to

534
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 2: know each other. And of course every single person is

535
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 2: like anytime you have a partner, whether it's male or female,

536
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 2: they're like they feel like there's this intimate, like this

537
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 2: romantic connection every time because it's kind of what you see,

538
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 2: It's what you see on the Dance War. It's like

539
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 2: kind of when you watch people dance together, you kind

540
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,239
Speaker 2: of are creating this like romance in your head. And

541
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 2: I wonder like being in this profession and having your

542
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 2: husband be someone who is also a professional dancer. Do

543
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 2: you even go there or is it kind of like

544
00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,959
Speaker 2: this is our job. We both do it every season

545
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 2: and we're not not even in our head about it.

546
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 1: It's funny because you know, there was this whole blow

547
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: up on this TikTok just this past week recently about

548
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 1: this similar situation. Because I have amazing chemistry with my

549
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:18,880
Speaker 1: partner and he has amazing chemistry with his partner, and

550
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 1: going into each season, you hope that you're gonna have

551
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 1: amazing chemistry with your partner because honestly, those are the

552
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: people that do the best. You want to have a

553
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 1: great energy about you where people watch you and you're like,

554
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: why is that magic? Yeah, And you can really tell

555
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: the difference between people that get along and people that don't.

556
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: And so also, dance is very intimate. It's physical. You're

557
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: touching somebody, you know, you're in each other's personal space.

558
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 1: And so I think for the outside eye and for

559
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 1: people that aren't dancers or aren't actors, you know, like

560
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 1: what about actors that have to do makeout scenes? It's

561
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: somebody else, you know. And so I think that Valani

562
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 1: to understand our work. And we're so comfortable with it.

563
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:07,479
Speaker 1: I mean, he's seeing me dance with many men many

564
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 1: and I have to you know, like even my partner

565
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 1: last season with me, we just had such a great

566
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: bond and such great energy and chemistry together performing. People

567
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 1: were drawn in by our performances, you know, So it's

568
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 1: inevitable for people to like paint narratives. But it's just funny,

569
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 1: I think, you know, And it's not the first time

570
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:29,919
Speaker 1: we've dealt with this. It's not going to be the

571
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: last time, and I hope not because that means that

572
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 1: we're doing our job really really well. But you know,

573
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 1: again dealing with haters again. People love to create toxic

574
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: narratives and the Ella and I were even talking about

575
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: this this week, like we're then really doing our job well,

576
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:53,239
Speaker 1: so sorry, but you know, obviously it's hard, like you

577
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 1: never want your marriage or relationship to be talked about

578
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 1: in that way, really narratives, I mean, but that's the

579
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: workplace that we chose, and we know what we signed

580
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: up for. So again, it's it's difficult in the moment,

581
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: but I guess because we've just had to deal with

582
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 1: this so many times before, and I've watched them also

583
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: dance with females my whole life as well. Like I'm

584
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: just used to it. So if people are bugged by it,

585
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: like that's on them.

586
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 2: If you were to describe, like just to lay it

587
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 2: all out there when you were if you were to

588
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 2: describe your friendship relationship with Jojo, like what's the dynamic

589
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 2: or is it like big sister? How would you describe it?

590
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: Because people see these TikTok montages of just like these

591
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 2: dance moments to a slow song, and they're like, oh

592
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 2: my gosh. But in reality, y'all are just like probably

593
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if you yell at each other, but

594
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 2: like get to get you know, trying to practice a

595
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: dance and learn a dance. It's like, it's.

596
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 1: Really funny because I'm like, did people forget that I'm married?

597
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,719
Speaker 2: Yeah?

598
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm also straight, you know, like so many

599
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: funny things, but it's yeah, it's and obviously she has

600
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: like a huge following and big on TikTok, so we've

601
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: been giggling about it. But and I'm like a thousand

602
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: years older than her. I feel, you know, it's hysterical,

603
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: but I do feel she's eighteen and I see just

604
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: so much potential in her. I see an eighteen year

605
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: old Jenna in her. She reminds me a lot of

606
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: myself when I was just tapping into my star. And

607
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: there are so many directions that she could go, and

608
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: I just want to be the best mentor best partner,

609
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: best big sister for her, and I do feel like

610
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: we have this amazing like big sister little sister relationship.

611
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: She definitely keeps me young and like, oh my gosh,

612
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 1: She'll say some of these things and I'm like, is

613
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: this like a trend right now? So I feel really

614
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 1: old when I'm next to her, But I'm so grateful

615
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: for this partnership. It's I think it's something that I

616
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: really needed. I tend to do very safe things because

617
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: I never want to make anybody else feel uncomfortable, you know.

618
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: I just I like to like be a safe position always.

619
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: And this season has really challenged me to do something

620
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 1: scary and courageous. And I think that she's been somebody

621
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: that I can look up to because she was willing

622
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: to like put her whole name on the line and

623
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: be this face the first time ever, and she just

624
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 1: like wasn't scared, didn't hesitate one time about it. So

625
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: I've learned a lot from her. But yeah, I think

626
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: she'll be my little sister for life for sure.

627
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 3: Okay, I need to know if you have driven in

628
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 3: the car with her face plastered all around it, because

629
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,719
Speaker 3: let me tell you, I don't even know if she

630
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 3: still has that car.

631
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 4: She still has it, she has it. Have you ridden

632
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 4: in it?

633
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: Yes?

634
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 5: I have.

635
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: It's pretty insane. I wish you could see the inside

636
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: of it. Every seat is a different color, the whole

637
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: dashboard is Ryan Stone. It's like beyond. But you're not

638
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: even ready. You're not even ready. She has another car

639
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 1: that was wrapped in something else. She called me this

640
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 1: morning and she has had it fully wrapped and I'm

641
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: not even going to tell you because I'm sure she's

642
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: just going to post about it, but she has had

643
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: it custom wrapped. And like Dancing with the Stars situation,

644
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: you're ready.

645
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 5: With the voting it.

646
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 4: No, I'm sure your face on it.

647
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: Both of us. Our team name Mirror Balls Stars Like it's.

648
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 4: I'm telling you that car makes such a statement.

649
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 3: So I was I don't know where we were coming

650
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 3: out of, but we were out of ballet and I

651
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 3: was with my boyfriend at the time, and he just

652
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 3: like pop culture. He doesn't know much about anything, so

653
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 3: he didn't really know. I was like, oh my gosh,

654
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 3: that's Jojo Seawaw's car. And he was like, is that

655
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 3: is that the person whose face is.

656
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 4: On the car? And I was like yeah, and we

657
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 4: got her.

658
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like that's that's her that's getting in the car,

659
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 3: Like that's her face.

660
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 4: On the car.

661
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 3: And I was just totally you see in the flesh

662
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 3: was truly I felt blessed seeing it.

663
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 1: So here's the ironic thing, and it's funny how the

664
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: universe works. But my husband and I recently just moved, well,

665
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: I guess about a year ago, we moved into our

666
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 1: first home, and you know, we were new into the neighborhood,

667
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: so we would drive around, but to get to our house,

668
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: we would pass this house every single day. And it's

669
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: a gorgeous house, had like all these cars in the

670
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 1: front yard in the front like gate area. And one

671
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: day we drove past it and I was like, I

672
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: think that Jojo Seawaw's car. And then every day we

673
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: passed it and I'm like, oh my gosh, our neighbor

674
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 1: is Jojo Seewak. No, so we knew that she was

675
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: our neighbor. For like a straight year and then like

676
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,760
Speaker 1: a year later, I'm her partner. I'm like in her car.

677
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 3: Now, Like I'm telling you, that's not coincidence. That is

678
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 3: like that is the manifesting thing.

679
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:17,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. And like she didn't know

680
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: we were neighbors. But like I literally I have to

681
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: drive next to her house to get to our house

682
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 1: every single day. What are the odds?

683
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 2: That is why pretty crazy? It was in the stars,

684
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 2: It was in the Stars, the Dancing Stars, Dancing Stars.

685
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 2: I have a question about your marriage because I always

686
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 2: wonder if I were in your position personally. This is

687
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 2: my probably trauma or something things I'm working on in

688
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:05,280
Speaker 2: therapy and I had I don't know that I could

689
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: either have a partner who did what you did if

690
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 2: I wasn't doing it as well or flipped like that,

691
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: Like do you think you could be with someone who

692
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 2: didn't understand what your job looks like? Because I don't

693
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 2: think people, I mean a lot of it.

694
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, so challenging, no chance.

695
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it does make it a lot easier

696
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: that we are in the same workspace and we understand

697
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: what goes into the show and just what goes into dancing.

698
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 1: I commend my friends who don't have husbands that are

699
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: on the show or understand what they're doing, because it

700
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: is a lot. You're spending a ton of time together

701
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 1: with somebody, a stranger, you know, Like we said earlier,

702
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 1: you're in an intimate space with somebody you're touching all day.

703
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 1: You're creating this this undeniable friendship that nobody else is

704
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: going to understand or get, you know. And so it

705
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: is nice that he understands what I have to do

706
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 1: to be successful on the show and in my workplace,

707
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: and that I understand as well. And again I'm not

708
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 1: always I'm not saying that it's always easy. I've also

709
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 1: had to work on it and we've built a lot

710
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: of trust because of it. Even in general, just working

711
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: together with your spouse is a lot, you know, because

712
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: you do want that separation as well, like I want

713
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:32,919
Speaker 1: to come home and be able to tell you about

714
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 1: my day or to not talk about work at all.

715
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: But we're constantly like just in the same space. So

716
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: it is a balance and we've had to figure it

717
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 1: out throughout the years. But again, I think because we

718
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 1: have been on the show together for so long and

719
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: we do understand like what it takes to be successful

720
00:36:56,280 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 1: on the show. So yeah, just having that understand But yet,

721
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,320
Speaker 1: and again, I guess I've had some good examples because

722
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: there aren't a lot of people in our same position.

723
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: But my brother in law and my sister in law

724
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 1: also had to do this together and figure it out,

725
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: and so I think they were a great kind of

726
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 1: just role model for us. But yeah, everybody has their

727
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: own individual things, and so it's just really being open, honest,

728
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 1: having that very direct communication. I think that leads you

729
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: to success in your marriage, but also in your workplace.

730
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:36,800
Speaker 4: Do you like marriage work?

731
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: I love marriage. I grew up always knowing that I

732
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: wanted to get married and be in a happy marriage,

733
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 1: and Val has created my fairy tale. Marriage is hard.

734
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 1: It's not always easy, that's for sure, But you know that,

735
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that we dated for so long before

736
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 1: getting married because we went through all of those ups

737
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: and downs. There were no surprises once we got married,

738
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: you know. And I feel like if we hadn't gone

739
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 1: through that nitty gritty and spent time exploring each other,

740
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: living together, we wouldn't have been ready for marriage. And

741
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 1: so I marriage is everything and more than I expected. Again,

742
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 1: it's a constant work in progress. But I love being

743
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 1: somebody's wifey, Like I have so much pride wearing my engagement.

744
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:39,439
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, what was that?

745
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, can you say that again.

746
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 1: I love being like that's my husband, that's my hobby.

747
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: So like, there's just like so many things that I

748
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: love about it.

749
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 3: I was talking to my girlfriend the other night or

750
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 3: the other night. She's married, and we were just talking

751
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 3: about the concept of marriage, and she's like, honestly, it's

752
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 3: so weird to think about, Like I sleep in the

753
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 3: same bed as a person for the rest of my life.

754
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 4: And it's like, when you put it like that, it's

755
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:04,800
Speaker 4: so weird.

756
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's funny because because of the show and

757
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 1: COVID and everything, there's actually three married couples on Dancing

758
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 1: with the Stars right now, and because of COVID, we

759
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 1: had to do this last season as well. So annoying.

760
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: But we all have to live separately for the duration

761
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,959
Speaker 1: of the season because we can't get each other sick.

762
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: We have to be in our pods. You know. It's psychotic.

763
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 1: And I hated it last season obviously because I had

764
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:36,760
Speaker 1: just gone from like quarantine COVID spending every breathing second

765
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 1: with my husband and I being like, oh, you have

766
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: to like live separately for work, and I was like,

767
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 1: what does this mean? But and then we have to

768
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: do it this season again. But it's you know, it's

769
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: been really nice to miss him, and because I do

770
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: have the luxury of sleeping next to my my person

771
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: every night, it's been a nice remind and you take

772
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: that for granted, you know, and forget what it's like

773
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: to sleep alone, and it sucks. So it's been nice

774
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 1: in a very twisted, disturbing way, like I love missing

775
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 1: him and I love missing sleeping next to him, and yeah,

776
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 1: it's it's wild.

777
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 2: You know what they say, Absence does make the heart

778
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:22,959
Speaker 2: grow fonder.

779
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 4: And if it doesn't, you should be probably yonder.

780
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

781
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 2: How long did y'all date before you got married?

782
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 5: Oh?

783
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: Man, we were on and off for a while. And again,

784
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 1: you know relation, I'm sure you know, relationships in the

785
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: public are just like everybody wants a peace, everybody wants

786
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 1: to stay in the matter. So we were discreet and

787
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:52,360
Speaker 1: quiet about it. We were like on and off, but

788
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 1: I would say officially we were. We dated for about

789
00:40:56,600 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 1: five and a half years. And then we got engaged,

790
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: like in our in four years and sedating.

791
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 3: So yeah, on and off countse girl, yeah all together,

792
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 3: Oh for sure, Oh for sure.

793
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

794
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:12,320
Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna say because you always hear people

795
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 2: say marriage is hard, you know, like that's kind of

796
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 2: the thing, like it's great, but it's hard. And I

797
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 2: always wonder, like, what's the what's the difference in the

798
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 2: challenge like marriage being hard versus a long term relationship

799
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 2: being hard? Because if you're kind of if you're living

800
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 2: together and spending that much time together not married, what

801
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 2: is what changes in marriage that or is it the

802
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,879
Speaker 2: same challenges that make just a relationship hard?

803
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: You know? I guess they are very similar for me.

804
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,760
Speaker 1: The difference is and how I've always looked at marriage

805
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: is like when you make that commitment to somebody that

806
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: is solid and you are working to solidify it, to

807
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: cherish it, to help it grow. And again, I feel

808
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 1: like you should have that same intention with relationships, but

809
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 1: I feel like just marriage is very solidifying of that,

810
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: and I feel but I don't know. I guess that

811
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: Valen I always had that same energy in while dating

812
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: and in marriage. But yeah, it takes work, but like

813
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: so does everything, you know, Like I always think, if

814
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: I'm going to put in the effort, I want to

815
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: my body to be in shape that I want to

816
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 1: or to be healthy. Like you have to have that

817
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:32,720
Speaker 1: same sort of mindset going into your relationships. It can't

818
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: just be just mediocre or just like lazy about it.

819
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: So I don't know, but it's a balance, honestly. Because

820
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: also what valin I have had to find out is

821
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 1: we love me time and our personal personal moments whatever

822
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: that is. And again, because we do work together, it's

823
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: important for us to find those moments of alone and

824
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 1: things that may just us happy.

825
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 4: So yeah, yeah.

826
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 2: I'm not, but I'm like no expert, well none of us,

827
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 2: nobody is.

828
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 1: To learn and and yeah I had.

829
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 2: To work on Yeah. I I also am curious dancing

830
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 2: with a female and she like picks you up and

831
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,800
Speaker 2: lifts you. And I mean, y'all are doing everything.

832
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: Rebecca Tilly, all the wires, I just silt.

833
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 3: Yeah you can't water Celsius.

834
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's fine.

835
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 2: This is this is. I get lectured on this all

836
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 2: the time.

837
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: No more anything for you ever ever, ever.

838
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 3: Like my mom, the amount of wires that are plugged

839
00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 3: in to this desk, it's like literally, I would be

840
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:06,759
Speaker 3: I'm in I would be embarrassed to show you because

841
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 3: it's like they're not even like done like a pretty way,

842
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 3: you know how, like you like band them up and

843
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,479
Speaker 3: put them up, just like they're just all over the place.

844
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 3: And there's like probably like fifty machines on here, and

845
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 3: the Celsias.

846
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:17,359
Speaker 5: Just dropped.

847
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 2: It like sprinkled on wires. I am curious, with all

848
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 2: the lifting and flipping and doing all the things that

849
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 2: you normally do with men, do you have the same

850
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 2: trust in Jojo that you do when you dance with

851
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 2: male partners.

852
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:41,799
Speaker 1: It's funny because when we first met, she had never

853
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:45,399
Speaker 1: really worked out before, she didn't have much muscle. So

854
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: starting from day one, and I guess we're about now

855
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 1: eight weeks and two from when we started rehearsing to

856
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 1: the live competition weeks. We started doing push ups and

857
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 1: planks every day. When I met Jojo, she couldn't do

858
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 1: one push up. We are now at thirty five solid, consistent,

859
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: strong pushups, and we hold a three minute plank every day.

860
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:11,360
Speaker 1: We don't start our rehearsal until we do. My girl

861
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: has lost I'm I'm gonna let her tell the world

862
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 1: how much she's lost and wait, and how much muscle

863
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 1: she has gained. It's insane. She looks so amazing and

864
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 1: she's just you can see she's gotten so confident in

865
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 1: her body, and she really does. She's gotten so much stronger.

866
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 1: And so I do now have more confidence going into

867
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,799
Speaker 1: some of these lists, because let's be honest, like, if

868
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: we want to compete with the other couples, she's got

869
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,919
Speaker 1: to be able to lift me. You know, we've got

870
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: to do that. And so I do have way more

871
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:45,839
Speaker 1: trust than I did week one, that's for sure.

872
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 2: So I need I might need you to train men.

873
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: She keeps laughing, and she keeps saying boot Camp by Jenna,

874
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, let's get it.

875
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: But no, seriously, that was it just push ups and planks?

876
00:45:58,640 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 2: Is that what y'all focus on?

877
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 1: That's all we've been doing, I mean, other than like dancing.

878
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, that book.

879
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:08,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were really committed and serious. We don't miss

880
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 1: a day push ups planks and it's insane kind of

881
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 1: how it's transformed your body.

882
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: Should we start doing Dennis Vokam?

883
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, push ups a day and a three minute plank.

884
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 3: I can't do thirty five probably get it close.

885
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 1: Well, we we started at ten and then we'd work

886
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: our way up in like fives or twos, so you know,

887
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 1: just start where you can. But the plank, I'll tell

888
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 1: you what a good way to get through the plank

889
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: is play Wicked, Play define gravity. It will take your

890
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: mind off of everything.

891
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 4: Fine, exactly exactly.

892
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,879
Speaker 1: That's what that's what we do. And it just kind

893
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 1: of takes your mind off of everything and you get

894
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: through it and then boom, you do a three minute plank.

895
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 2: Three.

896
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 3: I mean, we're going to do this together and we're

897
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 3: going to ta Yeah, Yeah, we're gonna do Yeah.

898
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 2: For sure, we'll do progress updates.

899
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 1: I love it.

900
00:46:56,920 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for scrubbing in and hey hang

901
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 2: out and answering all of mostly my questions. I was like,

902
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,720
Speaker 2: I have so many questions ask I just think it's

903
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 2: amazing and I love that y'all are getting so much

904
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 2: love and support and I mean, absolutely crushing it. And

905
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 2: everyone vote for Jenna and Jojo.

906
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 3: Vote also Jenna's clothing collection at Joe and Jacks dot com.

907
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 4: Do you want to tell us a little bit about

908
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 4: your clothing line.

909
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:29,280
Speaker 1: Yes, I started my first ever dancewear collection. I really

910
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: wanted to be. I really wanted people to have access

911
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 1: to hot fears ballroom skirts, but also be able to

912
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:39,919
Speaker 1: provide at leisure for women and kids. So it's both

913
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: for kids and for adults. But there's cute French skirts,

914
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: there's bros, there's leggings, the whole vibe. So go check

915
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 1: it out at Joe and Jax dot com.

916
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm on the website right now.

917
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 4: It's so cute, super cute, so cute, and do.

918
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 2: Some shopping and some pushups today. Yeah, kind of point.

919
00:47:57,719 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for taking the time. We really

920
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:00,400
Speaker 4: really appreciate it.

921
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:02,800
Speaker 1: Thank you, guys.

922
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 4: Bye bye.

923
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 2: Okay, first of all, I'm sorry I talked so much

924
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 2: about I just I feel like what they're doing is

925
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 2: so amazing, and I just had so many questions about No,

926
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 2: you know, it's okay.

927
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 3: You know, sometimes we have guests that we're very excited about.

928
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,120
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'll take the lead. Sometimes you take the lead.

929
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:39,479
Speaker 3: And that is what true partnership is. That's what's great

930
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 3: about true partnership.

931
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 5: You know.

932
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes you're the lead. I'm the caboose. Sometimes I'm

933
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 4: the lead. You're the caboose.

934
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 2: And I'm sorry for spilling to Celsius.

935
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 3: So Becca has officially lost her liquid privileges in the studio.

936
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 2: Y'all don't understand how hard I fight to have these

937
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 2: privileges and then I just ruined it for myself.

938
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 4: So I'm not even only have water. You just better

939
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 4: drink up before we do the podcast.

940
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 2: I know, my my, my liquids are on the floor

941
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 2: now away for me to or I can't even like

942
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 2: actually reach them, so there's no point. Might as well

943
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:12,440
Speaker 2: as not.

944
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, so drink up, buttercup before you come in here.

945
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 2: It's like it's like your mom who won't let you

946
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 2: eat in the car. You know, That's what it's like.

947
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 5: It is. But there's a reason that mom's like that,

948
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:25,919
Speaker 5: because we have a new throw rug in our living

949
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 5: room because of a chocolate milk incident last weekend. So

950
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 5: you know, these things need to be regulated sometimes.

951
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:35,400
Speaker 3: Yes, rules have purpose, and the purpose of the rules

952
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 3: is to keep things orderly. And if now we're not

953
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:41,120
Speaker 3: going to have another disruption in our interviews like we

954
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 3: did with Jenna Johnson Schmerkovski with your Celsius spilling like

955
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 3: an ocean flow over the wires.

956
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 5: Here is so proud of her pronunciation.

957
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 2: Anywhere you can.

958
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, So we're sorry Jenna Johnson Schmierkowski for the interruption

959
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:58,800
Speaker 3: in your interview and for wasting your time.

960
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 2: We did it. Oh you mean because of the spill bill, Yeah.

961
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 4: That was a good two minutes of her time wasted.

962
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 5: Yeah.

963
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 4: Well, we love you, Jenna Johnson. We do love you.

964
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 2: And to be honest, like, it was a pretty dramatic

965
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 2: reaction from Tanya because it landed on the floor, it

966
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 2: sprinkled on some of the wires, but like, by no

967
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 2: means was it covering the wires.

968
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,720
Speaker 3: So that everybody knows. I can't physically see the wires.

969
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 3: I can just see her drink spill over there, and

970
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 3: it's very adjacent to all like my entire chord with Like,

971
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 3: I'm gonna post a picture that on the Facebook group

972
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 3: just so people are aware.

973
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:33,360
Speaker 4: I'm not being dramatic.

974
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:38,319
Speaker 2: It's a lot of wires anyways. So that was a

975
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 2: really fun interview and I like her, like I got

976
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 2: to see us being friends. Should we go over to

977
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 2: maybe hers in JoJo's house and rage in the Jojo?

978
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 5: No?

979
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 4: I think first step, So here's how social cues work.

980
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 2: No, tell me, okay tell me.

981
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, So first what we have to do is we

982
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:02,920
Speaker 3: have to do her challenge. We'll tag her. We'll do

983
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 3: like the Jenna Johnson Schmerkowski challenge and we'll do push

984
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 3: ups and a plank and we'll tag her and we'll

985
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:13,280
Speaker 3: create some sort of repertoire repertoire between.

986
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,799
Speaker 4: Us and her. Then then we go in.

987
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 2: For the for the kill, which is and invite ourselves over. Yeah,

988
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:24,760
Speaker 2: we go from tagging to inviting ourselves over for sure. Okay,

989
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 2: that's Tanya tread lightly. Okay, So I do know we

990
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 2: have an email to read and give some advice on.

991
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 5: So Mark, Oh, thank you so much. Becca. I'd be

992
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 5: happy to chime in with an email from Ashley. I

993
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 5: believe this was the one that didn't get chosen last

994
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:48,480
Speaker 5: week did the Rock Paper. So it's so fun memories,

995
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:50,879
Speaker 5: what a classic moment, all right. I recently just turned

996
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:53,359
Speaker 5: twenty six and my husband will turn twenty nine soon.

997
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 5: We'll be married for six years. We've had nothing but

998
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 5: fun being married, and the conversation of having kids has

999
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 5: come up. We are equally unsure if we want kids.

1000
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 5: It's very appealing to both of us to travel, move

1001
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 5: to different places and spend our lives together having fun.

1002
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 5: But I'm afraid I'll feel a void in my life

1003
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 5: if we don't have kids. Help What should we do

1004
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 5: to be sure one way or the other and be

1005
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,840
Speaker 5: confident in our decision. This is tough, just because I

1006
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 5: know of people who are sure they don't and are

1007
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 5: sure they do. It's tough when you're kind of on

1008
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 5: the fence.

1009
00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 2: Actually, I have some thoughts on this, but actually, Easton,

1010
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 2: I feel like you should weigh in because I kind

1011
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,040
Speaker 2: of feel like we've had this conversation about you and

1012
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 2: Alison and where you'll stand on having kids.

1013
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:36,799
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, I'm trying to think of how to

1014
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 7: help Ashley because like we're pretty Allison and I are,

1015
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 7: like i'd say eighty percent don't want kids, but there

1016
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 7: is there's you know, I think it's impossible to be

1017
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 7: one hundred percent sure one way or another. Something we

1018
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:59,000
Speaker 7: talk about a lot is Before I say this, I

1019
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 7: want to say parents are beautiful and incredible and we

1020
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,320
Speaker 7: are so grateful for parents.

1021
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 2: I have parents.

1022
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 7: I know we all have parents. They're great, and being

1023
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 7: parents to a young child is a trial that I

1024
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 7: am not strong enough to do, and I have nothing

1025
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,759
Speaker 7: but respect for it. But Allison and I will go

1026
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 7: out in public and we'll see like struggling with a

1027
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 7: young child, and our first reaction is like, oh, good God,

1028
00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 7: we do not want to be involved in that whatsoever.

1029
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 7: So something we talk about a lot is maybe adopting

1030
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 7: a child. We talk about that pretty frequently because I

1031
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 7: do think it would be enriching to be parents, but

1032
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 7: also I don't know. I just don't think. I don't

1033
00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 7: think it's for us. And I think the way you

1034
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 7: figure that out is, I mean, you just imagine the

1035
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 7: situation and your first reaction, Like because she says like,

1036
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 7: I'll be missing out on something if we if we

1037
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 7: don't have kids, I don't feel that way. I truly

1038
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 7: don't feel that if we don't have kids will be

1039
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 7: missing out on anything. And Alison doesn't either. So what

1040
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:11,359
Speaker 7: my advice is to Ashley, I think you just take

1041
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:13,399
Speaker 7: a few years and go do those things you want

1042
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 7: to do without children, you know, go travel, you know,

1043
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 7: move somewhere, do something disruptive to your life, and then

1044
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,760
Speaker 7: have kids. Because it does sound like she wants them.

1045
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 3: Right and she's twenty six, it's like she could have

1046
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:28,399
Speaker 3: another she'd have a baby like fifteen years from now.

1047
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean yeah, like I'm almost thirty four. I mean,

1048
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,359
Speaker 7: my life is over, you know, like it's it's done

1049
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 7: for real, you know you're done. Yeah, but actually has

1050
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 7: some time left on the clock.

1051
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:41,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, Your spurmes can last till you're like seventy

1052
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:41,720
Speaker 3: or something.

1053
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:43,839
Speaker 2: I promise you. If anyone's do research on.

1054
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 4: This, Yeah, it's this girl over yere.

1055
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna say I really relate to this

1056
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 2: because actually ninety five PM, I feel very similarly to Ashley,

1057
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:59,280
Speaker 2: where it's like that feeling of is that what we want?

1058
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,839
Speaker 2: And talk about kids. I mean we've been there for

1059
00:55:02,920 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 2: almost four years, like we talk about like but Easton,

1060
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:08,799
Speaker 2: I do the same thing when I see like and

1061
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:10,840
Speaker 2: I know it's different when it's your child and you

1062
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 2: have a different level of patience. But when I see

1063
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 2: like a bad kid or like just to struggle, I'm like, God,

1064
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:20,800
Speaker 2: I'm glad that's not me. But you know, I'm still

1065
00:55:20,840 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 2: I think in a selfish space in my life where

1066
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:24,640
Speaker 2: I want to do what I want to do. I

1067
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 2: don't want to have to worry about the responsibility. Like

1068
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:29,759
Speaker 2: even sometimes having Phoebe feels like, you know, it's like

1069
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:32,360
Speaker 2: I have to find someone to keep her some refertigo

1070
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 2: when I travel, and it's like it is a big

1071
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:37,839
Speaker 2: responsibility that I don't take lightly. So I totally get

1072
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 2: the struggle of wondering will I feel like I missed

1073
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 2: out eventually if I don't have kids. So astulely I

1074
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:45,720
Speaker 2: relate to you. I don't know that I have any help,

1075
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:49,160
Speaker 2: but I think Easton's advice if you can, I mean,

1076
00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 2: you're twenty six, so I would say, travel, see the world,

1077
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:54,520
Speaker 2: do everything you want to do, and revisit this in

1078
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 2: a few years and see if you still feel the

1079
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 2: same way.

1080
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, my knee jerk reaction was to freeze your embryo

1081
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:01,440
Speaker 3: because you're married.

1082
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 2: So twenty six. I think she's like, she has a

1083
00:56:04,440 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 2: few years before she needs this insurance policy.

1084
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 5: Freezing embryo's costs like fifty grand, doesn't it.

1085
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 3: You know, it's actually I don't know how much it costs,

1086
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 3: but somebody recently told me. They were like, you should

1087
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 3: freeze your eggs, and I was like, I don't want to.

1088
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Speaker 3: I just don't want to, and she goes, it's insurance policy,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, well, when you put it.

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Speaker 5: That way, I think it's very expensive. And I also

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Speaker 5: think the the you know, keeping them in storage monthly

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Speaker 5: is very vis Well, yeah, so I'm not so that's realistic.

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Speaker 5: I do want to say though, as the parent of

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Speaker 5: the quartet here, I feel like the most challenging we

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Speaker 5: were talking to Jenna about wedding, sorry, marriage and relationships being.

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Speaker 3: Jenna Johnson Schmarkowsky, that's the one.

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Speaker 5: I've never found marriage and relationship to be challenging, but

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Speaker 5: I do find parenting to be challenging, and I find

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Speaker 5: that parenting makes your relationship challenging. I feel like that's

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Speaker 5: the hardest part, is the relationship within parenthood. But also

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Speaker 5: I've also found that those two three year old moments

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Speaker 5: where they're having temper tantrum in public, those were nothing.

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Speaker 5: I feel like the real challenging years are kind of

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Speaker 5: in between. Like my kids are twelve and fifteen th

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00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 5: so we're kind of in a good place now, and

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Speaker 5: I feel like we're in a good place then. It's

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Speaker 5: kind of in between. It's when you get into technology

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00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 5: and you get into social dynamics. They're friends and not

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00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 5: bullying in the traditional sense. It's stuff like these two

1110
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 5: girls are hanging out without me and posting on the

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Speaker 5: group chat about it, And now I feel like they're

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Speaker 5: excluding me, and why are they talking about me? And

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Speaker 5: those people are laughing at me, And that's that's the

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Speaker 5: really challenging stuff of being a parent. That's the real

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Speaker 5: problem area is right in between there. So anyway, I

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Speaker 5: don't don't let those little kid tantrums deter you from

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00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:50,919
Speaker 5: being a parent. There's plenty of things that can Those

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00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 5: little kid tandems are nothing. Those are over in a

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Speaker 5: few minutes of no big deal.

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Speaker 2: Well. Also a team raising a teenager in these times

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Speaker 2: feels very stressful too. So that's what I'm saying. If

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Speaker 2: I'm overwhelmed seeing a tantrum from a little three year old,

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Speaker 2: then what am I gonna do when it's a sixteen

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00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 2: year old screaming their head off at me, right, like.

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Speaker 4: Being mean to you?

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00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what if I get child?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's you got to really put your ego aside

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Speaker 5: when you're a parent. And I've not done a great

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00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 5: job of that as a parent, but you need to.

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Speaker 5: That's the best advice for parents is, uh, remove your

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00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 5: ego from the equation as much as you can.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what my therapist told me about because you know,

1133
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 3: Red Star has kids, and she was like, you just

1134
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 3: have to completely take yourself out of it, because kids

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00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 3: just in general, they're they're gonna go up, they're gonna

1136
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 3: go down, They're gonna go up, they're gonna go down.

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Speaker 3: And that's how their relationship is with their with your parents,

1138
00:58:43,760 --> 00:58:45,480
Speaker 3: you know, like when you're a kid. I remember when

1139
00:58:45,480 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 3: I was a teenager that have moments where you love

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Speaker 3: your parents.

1141
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:49,680
Speaker 4: Then there's moments where you hate your parents.

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Speaker 3: You know, like everybody has that, but when it's not

1143
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:54,560
Speaker 3: your own kid, you get your super sensitive to all

1144
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 3: that stuff, you know, because you take everything personal.

1145
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 4: And then I was like, you know what, I'm just

1146
00:58:58,200 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 4: not gonna take anything personal.

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Speaker 2: It's hard to do and you.

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Speaker 5: Will mess them up, and you will. You have to

1149
00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 5: realize that going in because we are all messed up

1150
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:09,640
Speaker 5: by our parents, as great as they may have been,

1151
00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 5: and mine were great, but I've got issues from them,

1152
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:14,800
Speaker 5: and I'm given issues to my kids, not even.

1153
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Speaker 3: Like your parents, Like we all get messed up. Even

1154
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:19,320
Speaker 3: like I've discovered through therapy, there was like this one

1155
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:22,840
Speaker 3: incident in fifth grade just with my friends at school

1156
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:26,000
Speaker 3: that like traumatized me. Like it's still a part of

1157
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 3: a lot of like triggers in my life. Now, and

1158
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:31,560
Speaker 3: I'm like that one event in fifth grade at school,

1159
00:59:31,600 --> 00:59:33,040
Speaker 3: you know, had nothing to do with my family, nothing

1160
00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 3: to do my parents. It was these mean girls at

1161
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:36,280
Speaker 3: school and so.

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Speaker 2: The apple throwers.

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Speaker 4: No, that was high school.

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Speaker 3: I was like, so like had such a hard shell

1165
00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 3: by sophomore in high school, Like they could have thrown

1166
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:46,480
Speaker 3: apple and it could have knocked me unconscious and I

1167
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 3: would have been fine. I was strong, but fifth grade

1168
00:59:50,120 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 3: I was not the Tanya I was then. So yeah,

1169
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:55,200
Speaker 3: I think everything's going to mess them up.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: My therapist actually said that the other day where she

1172
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 2: was like, no matter how amazing your parents are, how

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01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 2: great of the job they did, there's still things that

1174
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 2: they did that affect you now, like no matter what.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, that actually gave me a lot

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01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 2: of comfort and peace, because yeah, it's that pressure of

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Speaker 2: like if you have kids, are they gonna end up

1178
01:00:21,480 --> 01:00:27,680
Speaker 2: having therapy talking about you? Most likely? Probably so dark

1179
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 2: but actually just when I'm.

1180
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Speaker 4: Real dark, But I think it's very true.

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01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:34,520
Speaker 2: No, I think it's I've actually found it like relieving

1182
01:00:34,640 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 2: to know that just we're all humans and we're so

1183
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 2: complicated and different things affect it, Like what if you

1184
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:45,440
Speaker 2: were raised to be so emotionally like your parents were

1185
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 2: so emotionally available and sensitive to your feelings, and then

1186
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 2: you felt smothered. It's like you can never know, you.

1187
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 4: Can never do it right.

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01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like, as a parent, you spend so much

1189
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:58,200
Speaker 3: of your time and so much energy parenting these kids

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01:00:58,200 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 3: and like like you're charge of their survival for like

1191
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,439
Speaker 3: a good chunk, you know, until they're capable of doing

1192
01:01:04,440 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 3: stuff on their own, you know, and then all of

1193
01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 3: a sudden they're adults and they like resent you for things.

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01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, sounds I like what Mark said, though.

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01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 2: I think that's great advice as a parent to put

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01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 2: your ego aside, because you can do everything right by

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01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 2: what you think is right, and it might not be

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01:01:21,720 --> 01:01:22,480
Speaker 2: right for your kids.

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Speaker 5: I have many regrets that I'll always have as to

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01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:29,880
Speaker 5: how I've reacted to certain parenting challenges over the years,

1201
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 5: and I can trace every one of them just back

1202
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:35,560
Speaker 5: to ego. So I wish I'd had that lesson earlier.

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01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:38,800
Speaker 3: Wow, ego is such a hard thing to put to

1204
01:01:38,840 --> 01:01:41,960
Speaker 3: the side, Like it's so crazy.

1205
01:01:42,600 --> 01:01:43,360
Speaker 4: It's so crazy.

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Speaker 2: Well, to wrap the email up, Ashley, I say, what

1207
01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:50,200
Speaker 2: we were about to go on a that could have

1208
01:01:50,240 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 2: been a whole nother app We might need to.

1209
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 3: Have a whole act putting your ego aside, because that's

1210
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:57,360
Speaker 3: something that I'm trying to work on right now too

1211
01:01:57,360 --> 01:01:58,000
Speaker 3: through therapy.

1212
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Speaker 4: And it's hard. Yeah, I mean not ego and feelings.

1213
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 4: Being a person is hard. Being a person's hard.

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01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:08,919
Speaker 7: The title that episode will be called Lego my ego.

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Speaker 2: I'm yeah, I was thinking I go to easton same page. Actually,

1216
01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 2: I say, you're so fortunate that you're twenty six. You

1217
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 2: have time to do everything that you want to do

1218
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:24,200
Speaker 2: without the pressure and timing of having a child. And

1219
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:26,120
Speaker 2: I think you do all the things you want to do,

1220
01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 2: live your life, and there might come a time where

1221
01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:34,920
Speaker 2: you feel more certainty either way, and until then, do

1222
01:02:35,040 --> 01:02:36,720
Speaker 2: your thing enjoying.

1223
01:02:36,440 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 5: Right, Maybe this is stupid. Get a dog, yeah, seriously, honestly, Yeah,

1224
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:45,240
Speaker 5: see how that feels. Because that's a real commitment and

1225
01:02:45,280 --> 01:02:49,120
Speaker 5: a responsibility, and it limits your social life and limits

1226
01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:52,520
Speaker 5: your traveling. It becomes much more expensive. Like give it

1227
01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 5: a shot. Yeah, see how that feels.

1228
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:55,400
Speaker 2: It's true.

1229
01:02:55,480 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 3: And if that seems overwhelming, yeah, try a bunny. No

1230
01:03:00,680 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 3: that's easy, anybody, Well, no, that's not true.

1231
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 2: Hamster plants are very also very hard to keep. The

1232
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:13,480
Speaker 2: last yeah, well, in that note, I love when I

1233
01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:15,080
Speaker 2: say on that. No, no, it has nothing to do

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01:03:15,160 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 2: with the note that I'm.

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Speaker 3: Going to get speak speaking of plants, speaking of how

1236
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:25,200
Speaker 3: my plants end up when I try to take care

1237
01:03:25,200 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 3: of him.

1238
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 2: The podcast is over done, dead over.

1239
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 3: We'll continue this conversation next week because I would like

1240
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 3: to explore the idea of putting ego and feelings aside

1241
01:03:38,840 --> 01:03:39,880
Speaker 3: as somebody.

1242
01:03:39,520 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 4: Who has.

1243
01:03:41,680 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 3: Ego but also very strong feelings.

1244
01:03:46,040 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 2: Yes, yes she does. Okay, sheall didn't know. Tanya feels

1245
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 2: a lot, a lot all right, Well, until next time,

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Speaker 2: we love you, Love you by