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Speaker 1: What's of all our Happy Hour listeners. We hope you

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Speaker 1: guys are doing well. We hope you guys enjoyed the

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Speaker 1: the holiday. Some may have, some may not have. I

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Speaker 1: this just everything that we've been going through all of

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Speaker 1: a lot, and we know that it's been really hard

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Speaker 1: to celebrate things, just with everything that's going on in

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Speaker 1: you just watching it, just reading it. So I hope

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Speaker 1: that you got some time to just relax, reathe self care,

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Speaker 1: self love, just in light of everything that's going on.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like our podcasts have been a little

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Speaker 1: bit heavy too, but very relevant. So I appreciate it,

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Speaker 1: and I'm glad that we have the space to do that.

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Speaker 1: Glad that we had Claire on where we could just

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Speaker 1: that's going on, we figured, you know what, let's have

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Speaker 1: a little fun today. Let's do something that we haven't

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Speaker 1: done before, but that we always talk about at the

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Speaker 1: end of every single episode, you guys, we always ask

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Speaker 1: for you to write into us and you know, just

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Speaker 1: been doing that, and you know what, we haven't been

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Speaker 1: holding our end of the bargain until today. So we're

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Speaker 1: going to answer your questions. We're going to dive into

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Speaker 1: some of it. Becka and I are so excited to

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Speaker 1: impossible to get to every single one of you, guys,

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Speaker 1: what we're gonna do. Yeah, Rachel, I can't wait. I

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Speaker 1: but there's obviously so many more that are just like flooding,

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Speaker 1: because we're all watching the recaps of the Bachelor's greatest

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Speaker 1: And Rachel, I'm excited to hear from you too, because

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Speaker 1: goal to get within a league and work with them. Damn,

428
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 1: oh life, did you stay abroad? No? Well, I that's

429
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 1: the one regret I wish I would have. Um, I

430
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: was about too. I was gonna go to Adelaide, Australia

431
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:53,640
Speaker 1: for the semester, and um it just was such a

432
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 1: mess with the admissions and back and forth for months

433
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:58,439
Speaker 1: and months. So I just finally pulled out. But I

434
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 1: wish looking back, that's like the one thing in college

435
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: I wanted to do that I never did. So I

436
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 1: still got to make it to Adelaide one day. Adelaide,

437
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: How crazy would that have been if that's where you

438
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 1: went on your season? Talk about a full circle moment? Yeah,

439
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:18,640
Speaker 1: like who talked to my mom? And who planned this? Well?

440
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 1: Then okay, next question, going back to I mean present day,

441
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 1: someone wrote in who mentioned that they're interested in starting

442
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 1: on the podcast, and so what are some pointers for

443
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,640
Speaker 1: being a good host? Rachel. I'm gonna let you take

444
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: this because you are the best host, not all stop, Decca.

445
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: Please the pressure. You know, you're only as good as

446
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: the people you surround yourself with, so you know, give

447
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 1: yourself some credit for sure. I would say, I think

448
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 1: it can be intimidating to start a new podcast, So

449
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 1: kudos for you for wanting to do it, because there's

450
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: so many podcasts out there, and you think, how can

451
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,679
Speaker 1: you stand out and be different? And I think the

452
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 1: only way to do that is there's there's probably everybody

453
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:04,120
Speaker 1: has the idea out there. You know, whatever subject matter

454
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 1: you're going to talk on, it's already out there. What

455
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 1: makes you different is you and finding your voice and

456
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 1: how you're going to relay the information to whatever audience

457
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 1: it is. So I think finding your voice, the subject

458
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 1: matter and the topics for your podcast, having segments I

459
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 1: think really differentiates yourself from other podcasts too, and then

460
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: knowing who your audience is and how you want and

461
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 1: make sure you have the right target audience for your podcast.

462
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: But if one thing, if I'm going to pick it

463
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:44,239
Speaker 1: is your voice, you being you. People are going to

464
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: come listen to your podcast because of who you are

465
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: and what you bring to the table. And I would

466
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: also say a part of that is being well researched

467
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:56,239
Speaker 1: in what you're saying, whether it's informing, educating, or you know,

468
00:25:56,400 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 1: just entertaining. Make sure that you research what it is

469
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 1: that you're actually talking about, because people will call you

470
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: out on your vs. Oh yeah, take it from someone

471
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: I'm pointing to myself right now, from a couple. Yeah,

472
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I want to add on to

473
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 1: that too. Those are some great pointers. One thing too,

474
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: that I think I've learned from the past couple of

475
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 1: months of doing just this podcast in general, is it

476
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: like guests really can make a good episode for our listeners.

477
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 1: And I mean, thank god, Like especially when we recap seasons,

478
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 1: thank god we have the lead and contestants or people

479
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 1: who have performed or guests who have been on that

480
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,360
Speaker 1: make it more fun. But even like and even thinking

481
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:46,400
Speaker 1: about who we've talked to for like listen to your Heart,

482
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: I think they bring such a new perspective, like when

483
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: we had Kesha and Jason Mraz and Rita Wilson. They

484
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: bring such a different vibe to what Just the Bachelor

485
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 1: Happy or podcast was. And so it just has a

486
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 1: good variety. So make sure that if you can at

487
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: times have some awesome guests and also too, like yes,

488
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: this is our podcast and more host but people don't

489
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: always want to hear from us. They want to hear

490
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: from the guests. So make sure you have the right questions,

491
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 1: the good questions, listen, have follow up questions, and just

492
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: keep that conversation open and flowing. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely, And networking,

493
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 1: I think not only for podcasting, but literally in any

494
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 1: career endeavor. Networking is so key. Just say yes to

495
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,160
Speaker 1: talking to people. Put yourself out there. It's not probably

496
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: going to hurt you. The more people you know, the better.

497
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,160
Speaker 1: You never know who knows someone, and so that's key

498
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: I think for anyone starting something new and for any

499
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: job network. Okay, so this is a question, Becca. I

500
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 1: don't know if I've ever been asked this question in

501
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: all the years I've been affiliated with the Batchel franchise,

502
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: but it's do you ever miss having quote normal lives

503
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 1: where you could go places without being recognized. So here's

504
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: what I find interesting about this question. Bachelor Nation is

505
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: a bubble, and I think a lot of people it's

506
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 1: easy to get caught up in that everybody knows you

507
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 1: because the audience is big, and so many people you

508
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: know talk about it on social media or even in publications.

509
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 1: But I come from a world where I did not

510
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: watch the show before. None of my friends watched the

511
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 1: show before my family members didn't. So I come from

512
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: a world where I could have seen you Becca walking

513
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: down the street and I would have never have known

514
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: who you are. So I guess function in a world

515
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: where I don't think people know who I am because

516
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 1: I come from a world where people did not watch

517
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 1: the show. I think it's very easy to get caught

518
00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: up in thinking that everybody knows us because there is

519
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: such a large audience, But the reality is most people

520
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: don't know us. Now do we get recognized or I'll

521
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 1: speaking for myself, I won't put words in your mouth.

522
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: Do I get recognized, Absolutely, But I don't get recognized

523
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: to the point where I can't eat at a restaurant,

524
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: I can't grab a drink unless I go to like

525
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: a college bar or something like that. But for the

526
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: most part, it's somebody might say hi, and so I

527
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: feel personally like I live a very normal life. I

528
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: don't think it's hard for me to function in this world.

529
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: I mean, yes, they're there are times that I've been

530
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 1: surprised and I'm like, oh my gosh, was I picking

531
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 1: my nose? Was I doing something? Was I say me

532
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: in the car? But for the most part, I feel

533
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: quite like I live a normal life. I don't know

534
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: a little bit of both. I think it depends on

535
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 1: flick where I'm at, because like when I'm in California,

536
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: no one think like really cares because there's actual, like

537
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: cool celebrities in LA. I will say, when I come

538
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: back to my hometown in Minnesota, it's a little bit

539
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: different just because it's a smaller town. You know, not

540
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 1: as much happens in Minnesota, so it is different. Like

541
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 1: there are times where I'll be driving down the road

542
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:19,959
Speaker 1: and I don't even and I'll have my sunglasses on,

543
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: my hat on. Thank God for face masks now, but

544
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: people will like come up I like if I'm parked,

545
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: like knock on the window or literally. Yeah, There's been

546
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 1: a couple of times in Minnesota where like I'll be

547
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 1: sitting down or walking and like people have come up

548
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: and like put their arms around me, and I'm like,

549
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 1: I get very on edge just because in that instance,

550
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 1: like the personal space and the touch scares me from

551
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: strangers and it should. Yeah, so and like at the

552
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: end of the day, I mean we're still people too.

553
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: I would never go up to a random person and

554
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: like grab them. That's just me. But yeah, I think

555
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: for the most part, like you said, it is this bubble,

556
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: and you know, there's I think when one person recognizes

557
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: you and makes you know, more of like a thing

558
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: about it than other people kind of look and they're

559
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 1: like what's going on. But usually for the most part,

560
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 1: it's so chill that yeah, like you can go and

561
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: do your thing just fine. Unless yeah, as you said,

562
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 1: like you're at a college town or I'm in my hometown.

563
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: It's those are the only cases where it's a little

564
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: bit more extreme. But it's only colleges. I know. I

565
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 1: was at an airport one time and a group of girls.

566
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: One girl was like that is her, and she's like,

567
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: are you rachel and so like it was like a

568
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 1: basketball team of college. I'm telling you, college is the

569
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 1: only time where it's like, Okay, this is a little

570
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 1: out of control. You know. I think it's a little

571
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: bit too much for me. But other than that, you know,

572
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: most people recognize you and don't even say anything, which yeah,

573
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 1: I appreciate. I will say, when you first get off

574
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: the show, that's when it's the craziest, and then you

575
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: fell the pressure to kind of always be on with

576
00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: if you're lucky enough to leave the show with this

577
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: a significant other, you feel like, and I remember an

578
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 1: article came out that it was like Brian and Rachel

579
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 1: were both on their phones and they weren't talking to

580
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 1: each other, and it's like, Okay, you feel like you

581
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: need to be lovey dovey is smiling and happy all

582
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 1: the time right off the show. And then you kind

583
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: of things normalize and you're like, yeah, who does that

584
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 1: all the time in real life? Yeah, exactly, like you're

585
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: especially when you live with someone and you're together all

586
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: the time, Like you gotta check your phones. You gotta

587
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: still do your own thing and have your own space

588
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: and time and everything. So I will say when you

589
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: mentioned college, when I was on the tour for like

590
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 1: the month that we were traveling, it was so funny

591
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 1: because a lot of times, whether it was before or

592
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: after the show itself, like Ben and I and the

593
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 1: dancers would go out and grab drinks or dinner at

594
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: some places, and Ben would for whatever reason, I always

595
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: be early and get there first and show up, and

596
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: I always knew where he was because there'd be a

597
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: fulllock of people around him. Like one time we went

598
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 1: out to dinner and I was like, where's Ben, and

599
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: one of the servers was like, oh, he's upstairs, like

600
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 1: weigh in the back corner, and they get up there

601
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: and the entire corner is just packed with people. I'm like,

602
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna let him do his thing. I'm not

603
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: gonna go over there. You know what, For guys, I

604
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: think it's they get recognized more than we do as women,

605
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: and because it's the audience is mostly women. I remember

606
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 1: I was talking to ask her one time and she

607
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: was telling me that they were doing an event in

608
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: Toronto and it was Jason and Blake back when Jason

609
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 1: was still single, and the line she said was wrapped

610
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: around the door and they all kind of had stations

611
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 1: for people to come talk to them, and people were

612
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: just blocking to Blake and Jason. So it's it's definitely

613
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: more heightened for men. And I'd be very curious just

614
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: to hear a Bin answer this question or I don't know,

615
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 1: Blake or somebody else like that. So yeah, yeah, the

616
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: girls love the guys. I mean even yeah, even between

617
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 1: meet and greets and having everyone just wanted to talk

618
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: to Ben and ask him like if he was still

619
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: single and all these things, and so yeah, they love

620
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 1: and they can't have it. They can have it. I

621
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 1: just want to keep living my life and doing what

622
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 1: I'm doing. The recognition is not something obviously it comes

623
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:18,799
Speaker 1: with it. But if I had a choice to not

624
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 1: be recognized, I'm cool with that. I'd rather not be recognized. Yeah,

625
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 1: and coming from someone who like especially if it happens

626
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: at restaurants, I always have food in my teeth that

627
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: it's like, I don't need to be recognized in that case,

628
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,919
Speaker 1: like I have to blow my nose or something. That's

629
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 1: when I say thank God for the face masks. I

630
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 1: love when people are like is it okay? If I like,

631
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: are you okay? Because they want to take a picture,

632
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: and I'm like, girl, I was on reality TV. You

633
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 1: saw me at my worst, ugliest, Go ahead and snap

634
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 1: this picture. I don't care if I am on lipstick

635
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: or lashes or whatever. Take the picture. Yeah. Yeah, Well

636
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 1: they're gonna do it anyways, whether you say yes or not.

637
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: Like they're gonna go and how their phones out. That's

638
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 1: that's the part I think that weirds me on more

639
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 1: is like I'd rather have you just asked them like

640
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: take one with me and smile with me than just

641
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 1: like film in the corner, you know, like, just come,

642
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,359
Speaker 1: let's do it together. I completely agree. So you've heard

643
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: it here first Becca said, come on over, take a

644
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: picture if you hear all right, let's see some more questions. Um,

645
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:33,399
Speaker 1: oh okay, well, Rachel, I guess in terms of the podcast, Well,

646
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: let's do it in terms of podcasts and as when

647
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: we were leads on the show, what episode did we

648
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: have the most fun recording and filming? And why? So? Wait,

649
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: answer this for the show, our season and for the podcast.

650
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 1: Oh that's good. Oh okay, for the season the best episode?

651
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I'm trying to think if I go drama

652
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: Field one, but then that involves Lee, who I despise her?

653
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 1: The ex girlfriend? Who did she? What was that mean

654
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,839
Speaker 1: that I did enjoy telling Damario off? But I'm gonna

655
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 1: be honest with you. In the moment, I was not happy.

656
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 1: That was not my like going back it was like, yeah,

657
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,479
Speaker 1: it was a girl power moment. But honestly, in the moment,

658
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: I was so upset that they put me in that

659
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: situation and I thought I was gonna lose my job.

660
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 1: I remember thinking I designed to be on Jerry Springer.

661
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:31,720
Speaker 1: This isn't what show where it was like the second

662
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: week and I was like, seriously, but that was a

663
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: good episode because it was Kareem Abdul Jabbar. I will

664
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 1: have to say, No, the most fun episode was was Ellen.

665
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: That was a lot of fun, just because I love Ellen.

666
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 1: To be on the show with her, she was so welcoming,

667
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 1: so great. I had met her once before because I

668
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 1: had done her actual talk show. She was great with

669
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 1: the man she hated Brian. I thought that I was

670
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: so funny. She's like, don't pick him. I don't know

671
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 1: about eight years later at this point or not, but

672
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: just to see the guys open up was that was

673
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: the most fun episode. I will say it was a

674
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 1: fun day. Um and the women went crazy in the audience.

675
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 1: As far our podcast, oh we've had a lot of

676
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:23,760
Speaker 1: good episodes. Um, oh my gosh, what would it be?

677
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: I know what mine would be for the podcast? What? Well?

678
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: Okay do you hear? I have two for very different reasons. Well. First,

679
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: I mean I loved Kesha because she's just y yeah,

680
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: so that's just given. But my favorite was with Neil Lane.

681
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: That's it, hands down. Nothing will beat that. And I

682
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: feel like, I mean we only recorded with him and

683
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: probably was saved like an hour of conversation with him,

684
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 1: but we were with him for like much longer, talking

685
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 1: to him before and after, and he's just like this

686
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: amazing ball of energy and I freaking love Neel Lane

687
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: and it was so much fun. You call No. That

688
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 1: was it, and I am so thankful that we were

689
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: able to do that in person and not over zoom.

690
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't even think we could have

691
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: held his attention over He would have been looking at

692
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 1: and like, where's the camera? But though that's it, I

693
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: can't stop that one. There will never be another episode

694
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: like that. Is that he is the most interesting man alive?

695
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,879
Speaker 1: That's oh yeah, yeah by far? Yeah, so nothing, yeah,

696
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: okay to him. Well, then, what's your favorite episode from

697
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: your season? Oh? Gosh, uh, you know, it was, well,

698
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 1: one of my favorites, and it was one that I

699
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 1: had asked for and I'm so happy that they gave

700
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: it to me. But I really wanted a lumberjack date

701
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 1: and so it was when we were in Park City

702
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,919
Speaker 1: and all of these guys come like with their heavy

703
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: boots and their suspenders and their flannel and they had

704
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 1: to throw axes and like move these heavy slogs and

705
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 1: I'm watching them sweat and they're like trying to climb

706
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: up these totem poles like and get to the top

707
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: and like ring the bell and like it was just

708
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: so much fun. It was just like it was a

709
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,240
Speaker 1: nice day. We were finally outdoors outside of the mansion.

710
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: It was the first place we had traveled to. I

711
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: think everyone just like was in this, just like these

712
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: great spirits. It was just a fun, like super interactive

713
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: date where I felt like I finally really got to

714
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: know the guys, like away from the show, kind of

715
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: like where we could let loose. Yeah, so that was

716
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: mine and I also, for the record, want to say

717
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: that I threw the axe smacked out on the middle

718
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: of the board before any of the men did. So

719
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: that's that was my date. We all know women do

720
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:47,360
Speaker 1: it better. We all know that. I think the best dates,

721
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: or the most fun dates are the ones towards the beginning,

722
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 1: because they're so lighthearted. When you get to the end,

723
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 1: things get so heavy as you're letting people go that

724
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: you care about, and even though you appreciate them and

725
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: they're fun and they're more me thankful, the ones at

726
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: the beginning, it's just because we still don't know what

727
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,839
Speaker 1: we're getting into. We're all figuring out this journey ourselves,

728
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 1: figure out who each other are. So much fun. It's

729
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 1: like the first days of college where yeah, like away

730
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 1: from your family and you're like anything can happen. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

731
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 1: it's just followed for everybody. You know. It's so great.

732
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: It's so great. Okay, what was the best and worst

733
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: part about your time being the Bachelorette? Oh? Best and worst? Well,

734
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: I'll leave with the worst, just because I want to

735
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: say the best for last. Um, It's just I don't

736
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: think people realize how you're always on and you're constantly filming.

737
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 1: I mean, of course every week you tune in every

738
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 1: Monday you see a two hour episode, but you're filming

739
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 1: almost twenty four seven. It's very exhausting. Like you you

740
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 1: you just are always on for the guys and in

741
00:40:55,200 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 1: the interviews, and so that part, like it's chaotic for

742
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: two months straight. Basically you really don't sleep for two months.

743
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: That was probably the hardest worst part, I would say,

744
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: And then of course, I mean like crying on camera

745
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: is never fun. Best part though, I mean, well, I

746
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 1: have to lead with of course, meeting Garrett and meeting

747
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: my partner. That's number one, hands down. But then I

748
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 1: think forming the friendships with the girls during the Bachelor

749
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: season that are still lasting, and then friendships with the

750
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: producers like they some of them I still stay in

751
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: touch with. We talk constantly, we still see And that's

752
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 1: the thing where I think a lot of people think,

753
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: like the producers are evil and that they're manipulative, and

754
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: it just has this bad connotation and that's not true.

755
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: Like there are some amazing people and some really lifelong

756
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 1: friendships form from that. So that's probably another one of

757
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: the best things that came from it. Yeah, I think

758
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 1: for me, I'll do it like you all end on

759
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 1: the good one. The worst for me was sending when

760
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 1: you got to that halfway point, sending people home, because

761
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: I underestimated how difficult it was to send people home.

762
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 1: I thought, oh, I don't know yet, it won't it

763
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: won't be anything to just send you home. At least

764
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: you'll know, you know before I take you all the

765
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: way to the end, and your feelings are too invested.

766
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:20,839
Speaker 1: I was wrong, because even if you don't develop that

767
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: love for them, you develop a friendship, and so you

768
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 1: have this person who's pouring their heart out to you,

769
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: sharing intimate details about their life and you know you're

770
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: not going to keep them. That was so difficult to

771
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 1: me to encourage you to open up. But at the

772
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: same time, no, this is only going to go to

773
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: a certain point, right. You cannot prepare yourself for letting

774
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: someone down in that way, and you also just can't

775
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: prepare yourself for the feelings that you're just going to develop.

776
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 1: So you just don't know. Just have to get into it,

777
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: but you have to be present. You have to put

778
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: yourself out there because otherwise you kind of cheat yourself

779
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:58,320
Speaker 1: from the experience. The best thing obviously it's meeting Brian,

780
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:02,600
Speaker 1: but honestly, because I was so skeptical about it. I mean,

781
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 1: I was open to love, but I was more so like,

782
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to represent myself as a black woman and

783
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: maybe I'll find love. I doubt it. There is no

784
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 1: way they're going to find somebody for me on the show.

785
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 1: And I was beautifully surprised, and I'm so happy that,

786
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 1: you know, I took a chance that I was open,

787
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: and then I found Brian at the end of the day,

788
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: and it's changed my life completely in every single way.

789
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 1: My life has changed yeah. Better. And that's the thing.

790
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: There's so much that comes from it, of course, like

791
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:33,359
Speaker 1: all these crazy opportunities, but the people that you get

792
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 1: to meet along the way in those cool opportunities, like Rachel,

793
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 1: you were just like you're all over the world meeting

794
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: cool people like I. Let's be honest, I never thought

795
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 1: I was going to meet Michael Strahan and oo not

796
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: too long ago. Yeah, so I which I was very jealous.

797
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 1: I think I message you about it. But but like,

798
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:51,319
Speaker 1: had I not been on this show, I would have

799
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: never probably met him or all these other cool, amazing people.

800
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 1: So it's it's very special in that way. Yeah. So

801
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: next question, And I think this is a good one

802
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: because I feel like I get this a lot, not

803
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: just from our Bachelor happy our listeners, but just like

804
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: in everyday life. This is one of the big questions

805
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: people have when they stop you on the street or

806
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 1: want to know something about the show. They're like, oh

807
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 1: my god, you're on the Bachelor. Okay, let's talk about

808
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: Chris Harrison. People want to know how involved was Chris

809
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:19,800
Speaker 1: Harrison in your seasons? Did he actually act as a

810
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 1: sounding board and help you or is it all just

811
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 1: a facade? I've actually never asked you this, Becca, like,

812
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 1: I'm very curious to how involved Chris was with you. Chris,

813
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 1: I would say, Chris was like my safety net that

814
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 1: if I would ever get overwhelmed, I always knew he

815
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,879
Speaker 1: was there and had my back, like he does genuinely care.

816
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 1: And one thing about Chris that I obviously never realized

817
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,359
Speaker 1: until I met him being on the show was just

818
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 1: how witty and funny he is. I mean, he is

819
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 1: constantly on, like he can just like he is so sharp.

820
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 1: He just kept me laughing, especially in the moments when

821
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: I was very stressed and anxious and overwhelmed. He just

822
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 1: he was that person. I think it was one of

823
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: my most special times with him was the very last

824
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,840
Speaker 1: week it was in the Maldives. I only had Garrett

825
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 1: and Blake left, and I was really really struggling with

826
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,879
Speaker 1: just knowing the gravity of the decision I had to make,

827
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: and I was so overwhelmed with like I didn't want

828
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 1: to hurt anyone, you know. Of course, I was overwhelmed

829
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: with like this feeling of love for these guys. There

830
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: was just a lot, like I literally felt like I

831
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: was going to burst in half with all of the emotion.

832
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: And there was one day where so we're in the

833
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: Maldives and we have all these like little huts along

834
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 1: the water, and when you're on the show, you don't

835
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 1: really have much alone time. You're always with people. You're

836
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 1: always either filming or prepping whatever it might be. And

837
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: so there was one moment where they were like, okay,

838
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: you have we're waiting for the cameras. You have an hour.

839
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: And so I actually snuck away, and I knew Chris's

840
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: was like around the corner for mine, and he was

841
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:05,879
Speaker 1: with Carrie the stylist and Gina, amazing makeup artist, and

842
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: I saw them all floating out in the water, and

843
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm going to sneak away. And I knew

844
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: I was going to get so in trouble for sneaking

845
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 1: away from everyone, but I was like, I just need

846
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 1: a moment of just normal in this chaotic thing, and

847
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: so I swam over. I was actually walking on all

848
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 1: these seashells. I think I had bloodied up my feet

849
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: a little bit just trying to like go to Chris.

850
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 1: But I just hung out on the raft with him

851
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:31,280
Speaker 1: for an hour and just talked about life and everything,

852
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,360
Speaker 1: and he in that moment, and I think I needed

853
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: it because I was about to lose my mind and

854
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 1: he just talked me through some things. He's really good

855
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: about inserting his previous contestants situation too, to be like,

856
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 1: don't feel bad, don't get done on yourself, don't feel hard,

857
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: like this is this is normal, and he just I

858
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:52,439
Speaker 1: feel it kept me sane. And then I got back

859
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: and they were like, where were you? Why weren't you here?

860
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,439
Speaker 1: We have so much to do and I was like, oh,

861
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 1: I was just with Chris and they're like, oh, okay,

862
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 1: So I couldn't technically in trouble because it was Chris,

863
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: but he is very president. At least for me, he

864
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: was very president and helped me so so much and

865
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: a lot of that was never shown, but it was

866
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: really special. Yeah. I think when I guess, when you

867
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 1: get this question, you think, oh, is he helping you

868
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 1: pick the guys. My experience is similar to years. Of course,

869
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 1: I wasn't in the Maldives floating on the wine. I was,

870
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: but well, I don't know if you know this with

871
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 1: mal D's is where if they were like you had

872
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 1: a dream location, that's where I was. I was like, oh,

873
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: you just tell me, I had to wait one more

874
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: season say hit themal D's um no, but I for

875
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: me with Chris and this, Okay, I didn't know you

876
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,439
Speaker 1: were going to compliment Chris the way that you did,

877
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: because what I was going to say is I found

878
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 1: out that Chris and I really have very similar personalities.

879
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 1: But now I feel like I'm bragging because you were like, oh,

880
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 1: he's witty and he's smart. I'm like, that's not what

881
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 1: I necessarily Well, so are you? Well, I'm more so

882
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 1: just you know, we don't know Chris. When you're a

883
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: contestant on this show. He comes in, he comes out.

884
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 1: So once you become the lead, you're with a whole

885
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 1: new set of people, you travel a day early, it's

886
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 1: completely different. I don't know if you guys know that.

887
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 1: So what you get to spend more time with Chris.

888
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 1: And so what I realized is he is very sarcastic

889
00:48:14,160 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: because we just see him in like a diplomatic way

890
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: and he's a lot more loose and so I found

891
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 1: that very refreshing. But he is a sounding board to

892
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,800
Speaker 1: answer your question. And more so, similar to what Becca

893
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 1: was saying about life, I didn't sit there and say, hey, Chris,

894
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 1: who do you think I should choose? It was more like,

895
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 1: how do you navigate all this when it's over? It's

896
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 1: going to be so overwhelming. Your life is upside down.

897
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: I want to go back to some sense of normalcy.

898
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 1: How do I do that? What have other contestants done?

899
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,240
Speaker 1: Have you given them advice? I don't want to lose

900
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 1: myself in this process and forget who I am. And

901
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 1: I think Chris is amazing at doing that. And he's

902
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 1: such a straight shooter, and that's what I like. I

903
00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 1: need someone to just say, you know what, this is

904
00:48:57,200 --> 00:48:58,879
Speaker 1: what it is, this is how it is. And so

905
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: he is great for that at so he really is

906
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: just like a life coach almost, because you're in such

907
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 1: a whirlwind living in this bachelor bubble. You really don't

908
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:11,439
Speaker 1: even know you kind of when you when it's over,

909
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, now how do I put my shoes

910
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 1: on right? How do how do I take a bath?

911
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, like how do I use

912
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 1: my phone? Well, that's the thing that I think we

913
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,240
Speaker 1: should touch on two for everyone, because when we're filming,

914
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 1: we don't have our phones, we don't have all these

915
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:29,240
Speaker 1: normal things you always have somebody taking care of your schedule,

916
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: where you have to be, when you have to be there,

917
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 1: all of your flights. So one of the hardest things

918
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 1: coming off at the show for me was just to

919
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: get back to normal, Like how do I function? I

920
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 1: remember the second I was given my phone and left

921
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: at the airport alone. I had such anxiety. I was like,

922
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. I went to the

923
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: wrong airport. I was like, I legit can't function as

924
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 1: a human that that happens to me. Yeah, I had

925
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 1: I don't know where I am right now. No. I

926
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 1: sat with my phone in my hand when I was

927
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 1: on the Bachelor and it was over that I was

928
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:03,240
Speaker 1: in Finland, partly because of the election that just happened,

929
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm not really trying to go.

930
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: So I was like and then the finished people were like,

931
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 1: we have great seasonal jobs, and I thought I might

932
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,080
Speaker 1: have to take you up on that. I just sat

933
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: with my phone in my hands, staring at it. I

934
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: was afraid to turn it on, and I was afraid

935
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:18,479
Speaker 1: of all the messages I have. But then my phone

936
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: really did this weird thing where none of my text

937
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 1: messages came through after a while. Yeah, so I was like, uh, okay,

938
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 1: I'm good, but I didn't want to look on the internet.

939
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: I was just scared. Um okay, yes, but all that

940
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,879
Speaker 1: to say, yes, you lose yourself in this process. It's

941
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 1: it's a scary situation to go back to reality. You know.

942
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: I just remember even even this is trivial, but like

943
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 1: pop culture news, I found out somebody had passed away

944
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 1: that I didn't even know. It's like, you, miss you

945
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 1: were not living in this world right, Like we're in Carolt.

946
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: Are you care Bears fan? Yes, just say camel Lot

947
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: that I've been Carolt. You are in this phase world.

948
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:01,760
Speaker 1: It's a really much harder or transition I thought personally

949
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:04,840
Speaker 1: coming back then I ever could have imagined. And then

950
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 1: when you find someone, you are so excited and you

951
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,800
Speaker 1: want to tell everybody, oh my gosh, i found the

952
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:11,799
Speaker 1: love of my life and I'm engaged and I've never

953
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: been engaged. You know. It's you're so excited, but you

954
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 1: can't really tell. Let me see, let me sift through

955
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 1: some of these. When you were on The Bachelor, I guess,

956
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 1: or the Bachelor, it was it awkward? No Bachelor. When

957
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:27,240
Speaker 1: you were on the Bachelor, was it awkward making friends

958
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 1: with other women on the show, knowing you were all

959
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: making out with the same dude. Well, I feel like,

960
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: I'm just really weird, and of course it's weird, like

961
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: it's not comfortable, but you get so close with these

962
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 1: girls that you I mean, I felt like at first,

963
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: especially I had a stronger bond with some of the

964
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 1: girls and I did the Bachelor, and so I would

965
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: joke with them like, yeah, we're sister. Wise, we would

966
00:51:53,719 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 1: just make light of the situation because let's be honest,

967
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 1: everyone knows what's going on. You don't always want to

968
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 1: see it. So yeah, I mean, I think I was

969
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:06,839
Speaker 1: like a little bit not as affected. Did she talk

970
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 1: fantasy suites with the other girls, like when we went

971
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 1: in the fantasy well or because at that point, okay,

972
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 1: see did you We were way too open, so we

973
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 1: were so excited for each other. If something would happen,

974
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: were like, girl, did you make out with him? Did you?

975
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 1: We would like did you use tongue? And I remember

976
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:30,440
Speaker 1: Alexis was like, I gave him the lizard tongue and

977
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 1: we were like, what is that? And she was like,

978
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 1: I just jabbed my tongue and he blocked me with

979
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 1: his teeth and I lizard tongued him and what is

980
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:41,520
Speaker 1: that we I mean, I don't know why it's weird.

981
00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 1: I know it sounds incestuous, maybe because there's not that

982
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 1: much to talk about your whole life as this one

983
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 1: guy and these girls are your only friends and the

984
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 1: producers are your family members. It's kind of Chris Harrison's God.

985
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 1: I mean, it's like, really, how it is that's a

986
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,279
Speaker 1: setup in the world. And so, yeah, we always did,

987
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:01,240
Speaker 1: but we talked about so I remember, or I would

988
00:53:01,920 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 1: people were like, I was very reassured throughout the whole thing.

989
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: I would get dates, I'd get group rose dates, and

990
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 1: everyone would say like, how do you keep getting roses?

991
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 1: And so when we were in off days, we were

992
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 1: always like I was teaching the girls to twerk, so

993
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 1: we would like twork on the walls, we would work

994
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: on the bus, and I was like, how do you

995
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 1: think I keep getting these roses? What do you think

996
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: I do in my one on one time with Nick?

997
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,959
Speaker 1: I just like I would get in people's heads like that, yeah,

998
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, it's over when it comes to

999
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 1: the fantasy suite, you guys, you can all just go

1000
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,399
Speaker 1: home after that. I didn't even have sex with Nick

1001
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,920
Speaker 1: in the Fantasy Sweet, but I would just say random

1002
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 1: things like that to people, and we would talk, yeah

1003
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: about what we will do when we get there, and

1004
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 1: I feel like, yes, And well now that you like

1005
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 1: I thought you meant like after the Fantasy Suite moment,

1006
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 1: do you talk about it with other girls? But I don't.

1007
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: But weren't you separated from everyone? So do that have?

1008
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 1: Raven and I had? It was me, Raven and Vanessa

1009
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 1: and we had this thing and I remember before we

1010
00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 1: were like, are we going to be Eskimo sisters? We

1011
00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,880
Speaker 1: kept saying that to each other. And so when I

1012
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 1: saw her when we were in that row ceremony, you're right,

1013
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: we're separated. And so we were the first two out

1014
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 1: or no, maybe even Essa was out at that point,

1015
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: I don't even know. And we're just standing there and

1016
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 1: I just turned and I look at her, and they

1017
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: keep going because you know, you're not each other faces

1018
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,759
Speaker 1: and yeah, game faces, like that's another behind the scenes thing.

1019
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 1: And so I turn and I look at her and

1020
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 1: we both just look and we just start laughing. And

1021
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: I was like you and she's like no, and I

1022
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:25,719
Speaker 1: go and she's like you and I was like, no,

1023
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:28,759
Speaker 1: we're like, dang it, we didn't meet and get so

1024
00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:31,399
Speaker 1: we just kind of like laughed and looked at each other. No. Well,

1025
00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 1: so I never had that specific moment because I think

1026
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:37,040
Speaker 1: I was brought into that row ceremony last, and then

1027
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: he brought Kendall away right away, so it's like we

1028
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:41,879
Speaker 1: couldn't even talk um. But no, before him, we were

1029
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 1: all super open. I mean, like you have to keep

1030
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 1: in mind people you're living in a mansion or these

1031
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 1: houses with people that you get really close to, like

1032
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: there's not much privacy everyone, Like my season, I don't

1033
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:53,799
Speaker 1: know if it was the same for yours, Like all

1034
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: the girls were walking around naked, like it was just

1035
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: like it was like a sorority, and so you just

1036
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: get really close with the girls, and so of course

1037
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,560
Speaker 1: you make jokes like Becca and I think was the

1038
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:05,240
Speaker 1: best about I mean, and I always knew she was joking,

1039
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:07,359
Speaker 1: and so I would never get upset. Like I could

1040
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 1: definitely see some girls being like, oh, well he's mine

1041
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 1: and don't talk about always. Some of them are like

1042
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 1: there is seventy nine thousand of us girls in this house.

1043
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,760
Speaker 1: We all know what's happening. We're all kissing the same dude.

1044
00:55:18,760 --> 00:55:21,439
Speaker 1: We're all going for him. So it's like, you gotta

1045
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:23,399
Speaker 1: know what you're getting yourself into. And I think that

1046
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 1: that's a huge success for survival on the show, and

1047
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:30,719
Speaker 1: it's actually it's unfortunate because part of the journey is

1048
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:34,080
Speaker 1: making these lasting friendships. I know, you're still friends with

1049
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: girls from the season and you were on and so

1050
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 1: am I, and they're so a part of my life

1051
00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: and ingrained in my life. I can't even imagine not

1052
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:46,799
Speaker 1: having those friendships, right, you know, because you just go

1053
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:49,319
Speaker 1: through something together and you really learn a lot about

1054
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: each other really fast. It really bonds you in a

1055
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 1: special way, like a special weird way. Okay, this is

1056
00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 1: a good one. And Brian and I talk about this

1057
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:00,239
Speaker 1: all the time. Actually, So I'm really curious about you

1058
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 1: and Garrett. If you hadn't become the Bachelorette, would you

1059
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 1: have gone on Paradise if they ask you? And then

1060
00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 1: also think if you hadn't chosen Garrett, do you think

1061
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 1: Garrett would have gone on Paradise? One thousand percent? Garrett

1062
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:19,280
Speaker 1: would have never gone on Paradise? Okay, hell no, would you? Um? Okay,

1063
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: here's the thing before the Bachelor season. I had never

1064
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 1: watched Paradise until probably a week before I left, and

1065
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: one of my friends showed me one episode and I

1066
00:56:31,960 --> 00:56:33,920
Speaker 1: think it was the one where the twins came in,

1067
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: and I was like, I was very scared. I was like,

1068
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:40,520
Speaker 1: if this is what the Bachelor is going to be? Like,

1069
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:42,759
Speaker 1: I like, they just seemed very mean and I was

1070
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 1: so scared, and so I would have said in that moment, no,

1071
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 1: But then I went on the Bachelor met all these

1072
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:52,960
Speaker 1: great fun girls that I was like, hell, yeah, I'd

1073
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: go on Paradise, like we'll just spend the summer together

1074
00:56:55,080 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 1: on the beach, and like, well why not. But yeah,

1075
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: if you like no, I don't think I would have

1076
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 1: lasted very long on Paradise. If I'm being honest. I

1077
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 1: get sun burnt too easily. Okay, So it's so funny

1078
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 1: that you say a thousand or one hundred percent Garrett

1079
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 1: would not have gone a thousand percent. Brian would have

1080
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 1: gone on Paradise really absolutely, And I tell him when

1081
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: we watch it, I'm like, I saved you. You would

1082
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 1: have gone on this show. I say that to him

1083
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, I would not have gone on

1084
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,439
Speaker 1: Paradise because I was still practicing law at the time,

1085
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 1: and that's why I almost said no to Bachelorette because

1086
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:39,840
Speaker 1: I didn't want to jeopardize my career and Paradise just

1087
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 1: has a different connotation than the Bachelor a bachelorette, and

1088
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 1: so I felt like, if I go on this, I'm

1089
00:57:47,040 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 1: going to jeopardize my job. I see that I would

1090
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:52,880
Speaker 1: I say I would, you know, never say never. But

1091
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 1: I don't think I would have gone on the show

1092
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:58,040
Speaker 1: unless there was just somebody I was just really into

1093
00:57:58,240 --> 00:58:01,640
Speaker 1: and looking forward to meeting. But Brian, but you could

1094
00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 1: have just that no one else did and slide into

1095
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: their DMS. I don't do that, I like, I know,

1096
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 1: I just I don't. I didn't even know I had

1097
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 1: DMS until six months into the batch re being over.

1098
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 1: I didn't even know what MS will. Yes, I'm telling

1099
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 1: you I'm our dinosaurm or archaic when it comes to you.

1100
00:58:19,480 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 1: Saw what has happened when we did that live a

1101
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 1: while back. Um No, But Brian, I think Brian is

1102
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 1: such he reminds he's like Peter in some way. It's

1103
00:58:32,040 --> 00:58:36,880
Speaker 1: like very hopeful, very romantic, very optimistic, and I think

1104
00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 1: he would have and he likes the show. Brian as

1105
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 1: a fan of the show. There's no secret to that.

1106
00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: So I think he would have wanted to go to

1107
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 1: see what the experience was like, to meet new people,

1108
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 1: to be hopeful, oh love didn't work out with this

1109
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: this way, I wanted to see if I can give

1110
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 1: my all to someone else. I really he would have

1111
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: gone interesting. I always wonder like what who? Like, like

1112
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 1: who would I try to think like I'm the only

1113
00:58:59,800 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 1: girl in the world for Garrett, So I'm like, who

1114
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:04,320
Speaker 1: did he even go for it? Like no one because

1115
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 1: it's not me. That's how I feel. I'm like, yeah,

1116
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 1: that's and that's how we have to think. Um, Okay,

1117
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 1: next question, what's the most surprising thing you learned about

1118
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: yourself from being the bachelorette? M Um? From being the Bachelorette?

1119
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 1: Oh man, I would say two things. One would be

1120
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 1: and this is kind of like post Bachelorette, just in

1121
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 1: the world that we live in now that it's okay

1122
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 1: to say no to things and and to take time

1123
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 1: for yourself and to not say because there's a lot

1124
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:44,160
Speaker 1: that comes from it. And I found myself like I

1125
00:59:44,400 --> 00:59:47,680
Speaker 1: for my sanity, I have to say no, that's just

1126
00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: a side thing. I would I think though, from actually

1127
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,880
Speaker 1: being on the show, it's that, um, just to be

1128
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 1: more decisive in my decisions and to not apologize for that.

1129
00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 1: It's very easy when you're the lead, especially because you're

1130
01:00:00,360 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 1: sending guys home, you're breaking their hearts, you're hurting them

1131
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 1: in a way, and to know that they're going to

1132
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 1: be okay and that you'll be okay, and to just

1133
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:12,919
Speaker 1: stand by what you feel and to not apologize because

1134
01:00:13,120 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 1: everyone goes through things like that, Everyone has to pick

1135
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 1: and choose at times, um, and so to just stop

1136
01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 1: saying sorry if moments aren't comfortable. Yeah, I think for

1137
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 1: me it was not being so controlling, Like I learned

1138
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 1: to let myself go. I try to control every situation,

1139
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: and this was a situation I really couldn't And the

1140
01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: only way that this was going to work, because I

1141
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:37,760
Speaker 1: knew what I wanted deep down inside, was to let

1142
01:00:37,800 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: myself go and just let things happen and see where

1143
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 1: the chips fall. Yeah, and so, and I struggle with

1144
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: that in real life, but that world allows you to

1145
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 1: do that. And if I hadn't, I never would have

1146
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 1: been able to find Brian. And so I'm really glad

1147
01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 1: that I was, you know, it's it's just such a

1148
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 1: as crazy as the Bachelor world is if through therapy,

1149
01:00:59,320 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 1: if I ain't going to therapy before I had been

1150
01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 1: on the show, I do not think I would have

1151
01:01:02,760 --> 01:01:07,440
Speaker 1: survived it. But definitely, I mean truly, Well, Oh I

1152
01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:10,880
Speaker 1: was gonna say, is that world allows you to just

1153
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: let yourself go because the only thing that you can

1154
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 1: be present in is with yourself and how you're feeling

1155
01:01:16,600 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 1: and focusing on the men that are in front of

1156
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:21,200
Speaker 1: you and what you really want for yourself and if

1157
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: in the real world there's so many other distractions, and

1158
01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 1: so if you let yourself go and you trust the process,

1159
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:31,080
Speaker 1: even if it doesn't work for you, it is truly

1160
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:35,160
Speaker 1: the most beautiful learning experience because I remember coming out

1161
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:36,920
Speaker 1: of The Bachelor it didn't work for me, but I

1162
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:39,800
Speaker 1: remember thinking, I know exactly what I want for myself

1163
01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 1: and what's missing out of my life hands down, because

1164
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 1: I've taken the time to focus on me, and in

1165
01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:47,200
Speaker 1: real life I do not do that, right, So want

1166
01:01:47,240 --> 01:01:48,880
Speaker 1: I learn to be a little selfish and focus on

1167
01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:51,120
Speaker 1: me and then too just to let go and not

1168
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:54,960
Speaker 1: control everything, and things can still work out when you

1169
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,320
Speaker 1: don't do that. I mean when you do that, let

1170
01:01:57,400 --> 01:01:59,520
Speaker 1: it go. I've never seen Frozen. You know that I

1171
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: have not. You were the only other person I swear.

1172
01:02:02,320 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: And now it's to the point where I'm kind of

1173
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 1: happy that I haven't because if I ever have to play,

1174
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:08,440
Speaker 1: then never have I ever game. That's how you get

1175
01:02:08,480 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 1: everyone outrage. Wait then never have I ever game ever?

1176
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 1: Like play that now really quick, three fingers. I'll lose

1177
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 1: really quickly. I might too, though. Wait, but what are

1178
01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 1: what's the topic anything? You just have to say, never

1179
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: have I ever? And if you've done it, you put

1180
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:27,440
Speaker 1: a finger down. Okay, do you want to start to

1181
01:02:27,520 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 1: do with me too? You start? Okay, Well, the only

1182
01:02:33,560 --> 01:02:35,240
Speaker 1: thing I could have gotten you out with was the

1183
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:40,000
Speaker 1: Frozen thing. Okay. Never have I ever been in a blimp?

1184
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 1: I know I have? Oh yeah, okay, so we're doing

1185
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:52,160
Speaker 1: the Bachelor at Batch slash Bachelor addition addition, um, okay, yeah, blimps.

1186
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 1: And that was a really special moment. Can I just say, guys,

1187
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:57,520
Speaker 1: because as a child, we used to drive past this

1188
01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:00,040
Speaker 1: place and there was a blimp that was sitting in

1189
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:03,880
Speaker 1: in this trailer, and as a kid, I would always say, bimp, bimp, bimp.

1190
01:03:03,920 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with blamps. So the fact that I

1191
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 1: got to go in one on the season and production

1192
01:03:08,200 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 1: didn't even know that it was like a real thing

1193
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 1: for me. Yeah. Anyways, Okay, Biver, have I ever oh gosh,

1194
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:24,800
Speaker 1: h never have I ever gotten it on in a

1195
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:32,240
Speaker 1: hot tub on the show? I never have. Damn. I

1196
01:03:32,280 --> 01:03:35,760
Speaker 1: don't know what. I don't think on my season, I

1197
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:37,680
Speaker 1: don't think I went in a hot tub with anyone.

1198
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:41,600
Speaker 1: Oh lucky you. There were no hot tubs. It's weeded.

1199
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:46,560
Speaker 1: I went in three hot tubs they had. Okay, no, no,

1200
01:03:46,680 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 1: here's one thing during my second was it my second No?

1201
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 1: I had a oh yeah, it was my second one

1202
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:55,760
Speaker 1: on one day with Colton the night he told me

1203
01:03:56,080 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 1: he was a virgin, like that whole conversation. Instead of

1204
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 1: a hot tub, there was a bathtub filled up with

1205
01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 1: hot water and rose petals, and I was like, I'm

1206
01:04:09,360 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 1: not I'm not doing that. He just told me he

1207
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:13,080
Speaker 1: was a virgin. I'm not about to get in a

1208
01:04:13,120 --> 01:04:16,320
Speaker 1: bathtub that was I can't fit in myself. Was it

1209
01:04:16,360 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 1: at least like um, like not a regular bathtub with

1210
01:04:19,920 --> 01:04:21,560
Speaker 1: like the shower head in it? Was it at least

1211
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:25,640
Speaker 1: like it was like a nice jacuzzie room, but it

1212
01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:31,480
Speaker 1: wasn't big. No, okay, I have another one. Well I

1213
01:04:31,480 --> 01:04:33,160
Speaker 1: would have to put a finger down, but I don't know.

1214
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: I'm just like, did you well, effect fine, I'll play

1215
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:40,200
Speaker 1: the game. Never have I ever and I have never

1216
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:43,320
Speaker 1: have I ever had a too hot for TV moment

1217
01:04:43,440 --> 01:04:46,680
Speaker 1: on my season? Was there like a hot moment that

1218
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 1: didn't air? There was? There was a time. It was

1219
01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:57,280
Speaker 1: with Garrett in the Bahamas. What you have to share

1220
01:04:57,360 --> 01:05:01,720
Speaker 1: yours after? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, So Garrett and I it

1221
01:05:01,760 --> 01:05:04,680
Speaker 1: was it was the week before hometowns and we had

1222
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 1: our date, we had like our dinner together and then

1223
01:05:08,400 --> 01:05:11,000
Speaker 1: and they were like, okay, we'll let you guys go

1224
01:05:11,120 --> 01:05:13,800
Speaker 1: into the ocean together. So we went and like ran

1225
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:16,000
Speaker 1: into the ocean and it's nighttime and of course, like

1226
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:19,240
Speaker 1: you have the camera, so you know the camera, and

1227
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:21,320
Speaker 1: like the team is still standing on the beach, but

1228
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 1: you're so far out there, you're not Mike. It was

1229
01:05:23,160 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: like it was legit our first time not mics together

1230
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 1: where we fell alone and so we stayed out there

1231
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:32,280
Speaker 1: for quite some time and we heard them yelling like

1232
01:05:32,320 --> 01:05:33,800
Speaker 1: come in, we gotta go because we were out there

1233
01:05:33,840 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 1: forever and Garret and I were just like having fun

1234
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:41,080
Speaker 1: in the in the ocean, hanging out, like pretending to

1235
01:05:41,120 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 1: ignore them. And so then when we I don't know

1236
01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 1: if this should be aired, but but so then well

1237
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,200
Speaker 1: so then when we walked back up on the beach,

1238
01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:52,600
Speaker 1: Garrett of course like had to kind of readjust like

1239
01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 1: walking backwards a little bit, so the cameras didn't get everything.

1240
01:05:56,240 --> 01:05:59,040
Speaker 1: But that was I think like the only time that

1241
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 1: we were really like alone together besides fantasy sweets. I mean,

1242
01:06:04,320 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 1: we were into like a car together, but that doesn't coult.

1243
01:06:06,720 --> 01:06:08,640
Speaker 1: The ocean would have been really nice. We didn't have that.

1244
01:06:08,760 --> 01:06:12,160
Speaker 1: But Brian and I had a hot tub moment that

1245
01:06:12,280 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 1: never aired, and we were in Spain and the narrative

1246
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 1: on the day and it was it was a weird date.

1247
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 1: I was like not in the right headspace so what

1248
01:06:21,280 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 1: you saw really was true. But then we had this

1249
01:06:24,400 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 1: moment in the hot tub that it was like I

1250
01:06:27,160 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 1: was like, Brian, literally, fantasy sweets are tonight? Can you

1251
01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 1: just wait until then? It was like that, and it

1252
01:06:34,560 --> 01:06:36,920
Speaker 1: was so awkward because it's not like we were away

1253
01:06:36,960 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 1: in the ocean. I mean, it was good, but it

1254
01:06:39,280 --> 01:06:42,040
Speaker 1: was awkward because cameras were right there and you can

1255
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:45,080
Speaker 1: see all in the water, and I'm like, literally, fantasy

1256
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 1: is tonight. It was that night. I'm like, you can't wait,

1257
01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:53,080
Speaker 1: you can't wait a few hours? Yes? No, If it

1258
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:55,840
Speaker 1: never aired, I really think it was just too I

1259
01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:58,920
Speaker 1: really think it was too much for TV. I really was.

1260
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 1: But you know, at least these are the men that

1261
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 1: we chose, and these are the stories that we have

1262
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:05,360
Speaker 1: to tell. Well, I mean the world side Garrett and

1263
01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:08,080
Speaker 1: I break our headboards, so I feel like that's really

1264
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:11,360
Speaker 1: off limits at this point. Well, Rachel, that was so

1265
01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:14,480
Speaker 1: much fun. Thank you guys for writing in. You know,

1266
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:16,720
Speaker 1: don't let this be a one and done because hopefully

1267
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:18,560
Speaker 1: we can keep this going. Like I said at the beginning,

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Speaker 1: so keep writing to us, ask any questions, and hopefully

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Speaker 1: we can do these every couple of weeks because I

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Speaker 1: feel like it's just a fun walk down memory lane

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Speaker 1: for us. Right. So yeah, So we cannot thank you

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Speaker 1: guys enough for supporting us and just being the best

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Speaker 1: fans ever. We want to continue to get you guys

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Speaker 1: more involved in our episodes and answer as many questions

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Speaker 1: as we can, as well as keep inviting guests and

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Speaker 1: covering topics that you guys are interested in so not

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Speaker 1: only write in your questions, but any topics too. We

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Speaker 1: would love to hear from you. With that being said,

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Speaker 1: keep writing to us. Don't hold back on your thoughts, questions, suggestions, criticisms, anything,

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Speaker 1: because we are listening and hearing you guys. Yes, and

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Speaker 1: we know you guys know where to find out because

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Speaker 1: you sent such great questions in. But if you're new

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Speaker 1: to Bachelor Happy Hour and maybe you haven't, maybe you've

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Speaker 1: been a little scared to send in a question or

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Speaker 1: a DM or anything like that, let me tell you

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Speaker 1: where to find us. You can find us at Bachelor

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Speaker 1: Happy Hour on Instagram and at bach Happy Hour on

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Speaker 1: Twitter and Facebook. And one last thing before we go,

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Speaker 1: I want to say this because we need this you guys.

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Speaker 1: We put this out on our Instagram. We need a

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Speaker 1: name for our listeners. We will totally shout out the

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Speaker 1: person who gives us the name. We will give you

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Speaker 1: credit because we need something to call you guys. You

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Speaker 1: know we keep saying listeners. You're more than that to us,

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Speaker 1: So we want a cute nickname for you guys. All right,

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Speaker 1: that's your homework for now until next time. See you later, guys,