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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,

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Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know,

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Speaker 1: it could be yours. It could be yours. It's time

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Speaker 1: for the Strawberry Letter with my great friend Shirley Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: We are friends, Junior. Congratulations again on your marriage. All

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Speaker 1: right subjects. I spied and he lied, Dear Stephen, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a wife and a mother of two young kids.

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Speaker 1: I worked full time and taught an evening class at

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Speaker 1: the college in my town. My friend's husband works at

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Speaker 1: the college and he hooked me up with the job.

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Speaker 1: I planned to teach full time at the school, so

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Speaker 1: I quit my other job, But after a strange turn

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Speaker 1: of event, I am job lists and in hot water

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Speaker 1: with my husband. One evening after class, as I was

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Speaker 1: walking to my car, I saw my friend's husband sitting

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Speaker 1: an attorney. I made a point to spy on him

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Speaker 1: He never even noticed when I was spying as he

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Speaker 1: meet me on campus. It had gone on long enough

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Speaker 1: woman's car. I showed her the woman's car and her

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Speaker 1: husband was sitting there looking crazy. He said they were

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Speaker 1: this man's marriage. I consider myself a good friend, even

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Speaker 1: though my friend isn't speaking to me. Now, how am

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Speaker 1: I wrong for trying to help her? Wow? I can't

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Speaker 1: even believe that we have to tell you this, miss Messie.

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Speaker 1: I can't even believe this. But you're wrong on so

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Speaker 1: many levels. This is not your business, it's not your marriage.

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Speaker 1: Point blame period. You were doing way too much, don't

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Speaker 1: you know? You can't meddle into other people's business in

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Speaker 1: their marriages. You can't get into that. They didn't take

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Speaker 1: Of course you got fired. Of course your friend is

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Speaker 1: mad at you. You overstepped and stuck your nose into

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Speaker 1: something that was wrong. Yes, it was wrong as far

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Speaker 1: definitely not the lord. Mind your business. You know now

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Speaker 1: you're without a job, you've lost your friend, and your

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Speaker 1: husband is mad at you for being messy. I just

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Speaker 1: tell you to sit down and worry about your own marriage,

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Speaker 1: your own business. This is crazy. You're not the police, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I want to say something. Shelley's response defies everything she

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Speaker 1: Shelly deserves to know the truth. Her girlfriend to tell her.

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Speaker 1: I have been on the radio with this woman's sister

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Speaker 1: would tell I have heard just before Color has said

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Speaker 1: said the same thing. I just wanted to clear that up. Yes, sir, Yes,

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Speaker 1: for all of you fans of the Strawberry letter, I

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Speaker 1: stand behind my response, in front of my response, and

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Speaker 1: Many times if you told me you would want to know,

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Speaker 1: I will find out eventually what I'll find out eventually.

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Speaker 1: What's what's the question? Would you want to know? What?

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Speaker 1: I don't know people. I know you don't want to

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Speaker 1: put it silly because you're kind hearted and you don't

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Speaker 1: and you ain't nobody's business. But I am telling y'all

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Speaker 1: Harvey's sponse goals kissing. Where is your response? I have?

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Speaker 1: I'm not mine shot. That's why I use up this

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Speaker 1: those people's business. You know I don't like that? All right, listen,

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Speaker 1: coming up with twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll

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Speaker 1: have maybe perhaps a response from Steve Harvey. Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject is I spied and he lied. We'll get into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's just recap the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: I had to recap. I was talking about response. My

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Speaker 1: or pray, tell what could be this strange turn of events?

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Speaker 1: Let me show tell. One evening after class, I was

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Speaker 1: who writes a letter. That's a liar. The woman that

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Speaker 1: they means smiling, talking, laughing. Now see you weren't even

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Speaker 1: you know you could have cost this man his job

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Speaker 1: too with this foolishness, But you didn't have no proof,

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Speaker 1: and all they was doing was sitting in the car,

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Speaker 1: just as calm and collected. And what do you mean

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Speaker 1: by openly affectionate? Because you never clearified that, because you couldn't.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. If she just saw this

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Speaker 1: man kissing, this would be in the letter. If she

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Speaker 1: just saw him hugging, it would have been in the

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