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Speaker 1: Welcome to this country Life.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Brent Reeves from cone hunting to trot

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Speaker 2: lining and just general country living.

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Speaker 1: I want you to stay.

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Speaker 2: Awhile as I share my experiences and life lessons. This

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Speaker 2: country Life is presented by Case Knives on Meat Eaters

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Speaker 2: Podcast Network, bringing you the best outdoor podcast.

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Speaker 1: The airwaves have to offer.

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Speaker 2: All right, friends, grab a chair or drop that tailgate.

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Speaker 2: I've got some stories to share. Letting go. Life lessons

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Speaker 2: arrive in various vessels during our natural maturation and understanding

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Speaker 2: of the world around us. We advance in knowledge of

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Speaker 2: the things in our environments incrementally, a little bit at

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Speaker 2: a time, allowing us to see and experience the real

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Speaker 2: world in advancing degrees of complexity. It's how we learn

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Speaker 2: the good in the world and the harsh realities of

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Speaker 2: the same space. This first story is a prime example

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Speaker 2: of what can happen when you least expected. It's a

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Speaker 2: discussion as mentors, a responsibility to make our young ones

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Speaker 2: know parents can prepare them for everything, and when they're

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Speaker 2: out of our reach, they have to be.

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Speaker 1: Prepared for anything.

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Speaker 2: It's a little heavy, but I think it's important, and

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Speaker 2: we'll finish up with a celebration, but before we do,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you the story. This one comes

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Speaker 2: from Ken Nysley. Ken's from New Holland, Pennsylvania, and he

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Speaker 2: shared the following story. I think it says a lot

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Speaker 2: on many different levels, but I'm gonna let you decide

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Speaker 2: for yourself what it all says without any bias from

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Speaker 2: me to begin with.

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Speaker 1: So, in Ken's word, in my voice, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes in life it feels like the Good Lord has

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Speaker 2: a way of shining down on you, or maybe it's

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Speaker 2: just plain.

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Speaker 1: Luck that comes your way when you least expected.

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Speaker 2: I was the oldest child in a family where my

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Speaker 2: I often thought it was one of the most unfair

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Speaker 2: their fathers taking them hunting and flowning their trophies with

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Speaker 2: stew and jealousy. Growing up on a chicken farm, my

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Speaker 1: Thrill of the hunt.

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Speaker 2: The chance to roam the woods and discover the wild

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Speaker 2: life didn't seem fair, not one little bit, And as

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Speaker 2: The azer came from my cousin Ernie, a farm boy

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Speaker 2: like me, a few years older, with similar daily responsibilities.

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Speaker 2: But Ernie had found a way to slip away from

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Speaker 2: He showed us our first rubs and how to spot

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Speaker 2: it felt like such a distant dream. One day, Ernie

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Speaker 2: Ernie guided me off the dirt lane is flashlight dancing

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Speaker 1: Sounds effortless, but it wasn't. He had to shut your

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Speaker 1: Wanted to hunt again. At daybreak, several doors wandered into

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Speaker 2: I aimed carefully and I shot, and the deer took off,

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Speaker 2: but it seemed like I was one unlucky boy. The

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Speaker 2: and unpredictability. It's been forty four years since that day.

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Speaker 2: Every now and then, my mind drifts back to that

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Speaker 1: And it was a.

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Speaker 2: Hard lesson, but it helped the shape be into the

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Speaker 2: according to Ken Nicely, that's just how that happened. Now

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Speaker 2: in this episode, I'm talking about our young ones, maturity

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Speaker 2: so many things within Ken's story that it spoke Jimmy.

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Speaker 1: His passion for.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing.

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Speaker 2: Ken May is a transition month, and where I live,

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Speaker 2: spring is beginning to give way to summer. Turkey hunting

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Speaker 2: activity starts tapering off Yearling bear cubs begin looking for

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Speaker 1: And they'll load to another. Twelve years is a long time,

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Speaker 1: thirteen if you count kindergarten, and how could you not.

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Speaker 1: For many of us, it was the end of a

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Speaker 1: different era as well as the beginning of a new one.

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Speaker 1: Work for many families these days is a husband and

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Speaker 1: wife partnership. The days of housewives and stay at home

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Speaker 1: a generation or so ago it was the standard. Things change.

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Speaker 1: I get it.

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Speaker 2: They have to change in order for us to progress,

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Speaker 2: and I'm not big on change, but don't misunderstand me.

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Speaker 2: I'm not advocating for moms, wives, husbands, or dads to

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Speaker 2: things change. We lived in Star City, Arkansas for a

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Speaker 2: If we have done our jobs, we will have prepared

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Speaker 2: We have to take comfort that we've done our best

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Speaker 1: Good luck to all of you. Whether it's college, trade schools, military,

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Speaker 2: And thanks to all of you who have joined us

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Speaker 1: Until next week. This is Brent Reeves signing off. Y'all

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