Speaker 1: Hey, this is Jake from Wisconsin. You thought state farmed,
Speaker 1: didn't you. I just want to start by saying I
Speaker 1: love all your stuff and your music and YouTube and
Speaker 1: your family. Thank you, buddy, it says, but I want
Speaker 1: to know when things get rough, when it seems like
Speaker 1: no one is there for you, or mainly the one
Speaker 1: or mainly the one that you want to be there
Speaker 1: for you doesn't seem to care, how do you push
Speaker 1: through to find motivation to move on and be happy again?
Speaker 1: How do you find happiness when it seems like there
Speaker 1: is none left? I'm glad we pulled up this question
Speaker 1: did change in much tired and long line of my
Speaker 1: fool of hump and down going back, Rangy cove evage.
Speaker 1: Yeah youation alright one of my favorite guests, Chad. People
Speaker 1: were lucky that ask questions today. Chad is uh so grounded,
Speaker 1: such a a good thinker, good listener, good at kind
Speaker 1: of I hope my wife's listening. Yeah, getting all this?
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, you could kind of craft your way unbiasedly
Speaker 1: through through these questions from from the listeners. And I
Speaker 1: love that about you, and uh so I look forward
Speaker 1: to every time you come to the EU Farm. So
Speaker 1: if you guys want to uh, if you have any question.
Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. That's the email email away.
Speaker 1: The more and more I get your emails, the more
Speaker 1: and more categories I get to divide them into. And
Speaker 1: the categories are pretty broad. So I split these up
Speaker 1: a little bit today and I'm gonna I'm gonna kind
Speaker 1: of leave some of these to you. I'm gonna start
Speaker 1: with I'm gonna start with a very light one. It's says, hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: my name is Dakota. What my question is, what is
Speaker 1: your favorite dog breed? Oh? Which is good, it's are
Speaker 1: you a dog guy? I am okay, Yeah, I've got
Speaker 1: a crazy story about a dog. So I grew up
Speaker 1: with dogs and then got married and my wife did
Speaker 1: not grow up with dogs. Her dad was really allergic
Speaker 1: and so they could never have dogs. So then we
Speaker 1: get married and I'm like, hey, what do you think
Speaker 1: about a dog? And she's like, no, that's just one
Speaker 1: other thing to take care of it. I'm like, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: And then I go on a trip about a year ago,
Speaker 1: a year in a couple months to Uganda and I'm
Speaker 1: there doing some mission work and getting to go to
Speaker 1: these remote villages, speaking to pastors, encouraging them, and I
Speaker 1: finish up in one particular village in the mountains. One
Speaker 1: of the pastors comes to me and says, Pastor, Chat,
Speaker 1: I have a gift for you. Now. Our driver that
Speaker 1: was driving us around these villages he said, Oh, it's
Speaker 1: probably going to be like a chicken or a goat,
Speaker 1: and we'll just we'll butcher it and have it for
Speaker 1: lunch tomorrow. And I was like, oh, okay, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: that'll be a new experience. And the pastor comes out
Speaker 1: with this like six week old puppy. Wow, and we're
Speaker 1: all just shocked by this, like what are we gonna
Speaker 1: do with a dog? And so I call back home.
Speaker 1: I'm on the video chat with my wife and kids,
Speaker 1: and my wife being you know, she's thinking, yeah, you
Speaker 1: can have the dog, because she's you know, in the
Speaker 1: back of her head going there's no way you'll get
Speaker 1: that back from Africa through customs and all that stuff like.
Speaker 1: So she's like, yeah, I'll be yeah, I'll be the
Speaker 1: supportive wife and I'll say, yeah, sure you can have
Speaker 1: a dog. This is one shot you have to have
Speaker 1: a dog. And sure enough it worked out. We got
Speaker 1: the dog. Back. So now I have this dog. Wow,
Speaker 1: I don't know the breed or anything, but he's he's
Speaker 1: our African dog from Uganda. What does he look like?
Speaker 1: What does he lean towards? He leans towards like a
Speaker 1: German shepherd, but the hair is shorter. Okay, And I
Speaker 1: think he's got some sort of hound because anytime he
Speaker 1: sees a deer or a bird or something, he kind
Speaker 1: of like he'll put the foot up and the tail
Speaker 1: goes straight and he kind of points a little bit.
Speaker 1: So I'm not hound, but pointer or bird dog or something.
Speaker 1: So German shepherd, bird dogs, Okay, something that's cool. Yeah.
Speaker 1: First of all, I want to go on this next
Speaker 1: trip to Uganda with you. We are going in October,
Speaker 1: so absolutely right, we're going. I'll get you there. I
Speaker 1: grew up with labs, actual fact, in fact, yellow labs.
Speaker 1: I had three yellow labs from two years old all
Speaker 1: the way up to the third. One died in twenty sixteen.
Speaker 1: So I've had a lot of labs, a lot of
Speaker 1: life with labs, i should say, and they've always been great.
Speaker 1: They are shedders, but they're great family dogs. I now
Speaker 1: have three. I never thought i'd have three dogs. Especially
Speaker 1: My wife, similar to yours, didn't grow up with dogs ever,
Speaker 1: so the thought of her having three dogs was definitely
Speaker 1: not not predicted. But we have a German short hair
Speaker 1: two of them, we have a puppy and a six
Speaker 1: year old, and then we have a Vishla. All three
Speaker 1: or bird dogs. I've always heard that that mutts are
Speaker 1: are just a great dog because first of all, they're
Speaker 1: very healthy. They don't have the pure breed health problems
Speaker 1: and so, Dakoda, it's hard to say. I do love
Speaker 1: dogs just like Chad. I'm not as much of a
Speaker 1: small dog guy. My dad used to say little dog,
Speaker 1: little brain. That might offend some people, but but but
Speaker 1: there's something about a bigger dog that wants to get
Speaker 1: up in your lap and be part of the family.
Speaker 1: And so so yeah, I think I'd lean just like Chad.
Speaker 1: I think I'd lean to the bird dog esque type. Yeah,
Speaker 1: dogs are Thanks for the question, Dakota. Dogs are They
Speaker 1: just blow them my mind. How canines could be manipulated
Speaker 1: through breeding like that. Everything started with a wolf at
Speaker 1: some point, but you could have Chihuahuas and Great Danes
Speaker 1: and bulldogs and poodles and they are all manipulated. Through breeding,
Speaker 1: which is so bizarre. Yeah, so crazy. Take the shortest
Speaker 1: nose dog and read it with the other shortest nose
Speaker 1: dog and keep doing that. You're gonna have a bulldog.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you pick some of these sweet based
Speaker 1: on the subject. We have urgent relationship advice. We have
Speaker 1: was it? What is it to be a man? We
Speaker 1: have making money? We have a Hey, Graandeur really need
Speaker 1: some advice we need We have a please answer, We
Speaker 1: have a promotion, we have faith and friends, and we
Speaker 1: have church and country music. And he goes, well, the
Speaker 1: urgent one. Maybe we should Maybe we should do it
Speaker 1: just because it's urgent, the urgent relationship advice. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: Hey Grandeur, I'd like to keep my name off of
Speaker 1: this one. Thank you for saying that early. I've emailed
Speaker 1: a few times and I always love your wisdom and
Speaker 1: relationship advice. Thank you, buddy. There is a girl that
Speaker 1: i've dated almost two years that I dated almost two
Speaker 1: years back, so I'm assuming you're not anymore. We had
Speaker 1: an amazing relationship, but we were just two different people
Speaker 1: in two different places maturity wise. I'm a little bit older. Recently,
Speaker 1: her and her boyfriend broke up. She's awesome. She excuse me.
Speaker 1: She is someone that I'd be willing to give another
Speaker 1: shot with if she was willing to take it. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure if I reach out to her first or
Speaker 1: wait and see if she calls me like she has
Speaker 1: done in the past. I can't stop thinking about what
Speaker 1: we could be and at the same time, I have
Speaker 1: no idea if she would even be interested anymore. What
Speaker 1: are your thoughts? Immediately wonder what caused it not to
Speaker 1: work in the first place? And has that changed? Right?
Speaker 1: Was there some kind of circumstantial component that's now different? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we were just two different people in two different places
Speaker 1: maturity wise. So maybe he's thinking now that time has
Speaker 1: gone by, they're more equal in that in that category.
Speaker 1: So the question is, I'm not sure if I should
Speaker 1: reach out first or wait. I can't stop thinking about
Speaker 1: what could be. At the same time, I have no
Speaker 1: idea if she'd even be interested. That's interesting, Yeah, I would.
Speaker 1: It sounds like, you know, as you consider this, you
Speaker 1: have hesitation, uh, And so I would explore that, what's
Speaker 1: what's your hesitation? And like, quite honestly, I would I
Speaker 1: would tell somebody pray about it like that. That would
Speaker 1: be you know, you know, explore what what is the hesitation?
Speaker 1: There have the things change that caused it not to
Speaker 1: work initially, And then I would yeah, I would seek
Speaker 1: wise counsel, and I would seek the Lord. I would
Speaker 1: pray about it. Yeah, I think Chad and I will
Speaker 1: say that we could always say that at the beginning
Speaker 1: in every question is we'll pray about it. Pray about
Speaker 1: it first, seek wise counsel. That's that's that's the kind
Speaker 1: of the foundation of anything that we would tell you.
Speaker 1: I think, I think you just and after that he
Speaker 1: goes and has coffee, Yeah, and just lays it out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just yeah, be honest, to be up front. There's nothing
Speaker 1: you could lose from that. I think what what exhausts
Speaker 1: a lot of people is the game, right, the posturing
Speaker 1: and trying to figure out and not willing to risk it.
Speaker 1: And I think guys should be willing to risk it,
Speaker 1: to be the ones that take the risk in a relationship,
Speaker 1: to initiate and be the ones that are vulnerable first
Speaker 1: by reaching out and engaging. So that's good to keep
Speaker 1: to be, you know, consistent with my own own advice there,
Speaker 1: I would say, take some time, think about it, pray,
Speaker 1: about it and then ask hef to coffee. Yeah, that's good,
Speaker 1: that's good. I avoid the game because no matter what
Speaker 1: her reaction to this is going to be, she's going
Speaker 1: to respect you if you're completely honest and you're saying, listen,
Speaker 1: this is how I feel. And you don't even have
Speaker 1: to tell her I think you're the one of my dream.
Speaker 1: You don't even have to say that, you just you
Speaker 1: say what's on your heart. I think there could be
Speaker 1: something really special between us, and I wanted to bring
Speaker 1: that up to you as honest as I can, without
Speaker 1: playing games and without drawing this out any further. I
Speaker 1: care about you a lot, and I think I think
Speaker 1: we're very compatible. But before we go any further with that,
Speaker 1: what do you think? And she might go, oh, you
Speaker 1: know what, I just don't. I don't see us that
Speaker 1: way anymore, And okay, good, guess what. Then you have
Speaker 1: a good answer, a solid answer to move on to
Speaker 1: the next part of your life. And if she says yes,
Speaker 1: then here we go. You're off to the races. So yeah,
Speaker 1: thanks for the question, buddy. What do you think, Chad?
Speaker 1: What was it to be a man making money? I
Speaker 1: need some advice promotion, please, answer, church and country music,
Speaker 1: faith and friends. Okay, let's go into church and country music. Okay,
Speaker 1: and then we'll see. I like that they couldn't lead
Speaker 1: us a lot of different ways. Hey, Grandeur, I'm Kyle
Speaker 1: from Utah. I'm almost sixteen years old. I know you
Speaker 1: said to those looking for a church that they will
Speaker 1: know when they find the church that's right for them.
Speaker 1: I just recently left a church that my whole family
Speaker 1: was going to for many generations because I didn't feel right.
Speaker 1: I don't think that some of the things they were
Speaker 1: saying were with the Bible. So I want to find
Speaker 1: a church that feels right. But I also know I
Speaker 1: need a way to find a church that my parents.
Speaker 1: I'm looking for a way to attend a new church
Speaker 1: because my parents wouldn't take me to the one and good. Okay,
Speaker 1: so your parent, you're sixteen, I got it, I got it.
Speaker 1: What would you recommend? And he then at the end
Speaker 1: he says, also, I want to be a country music singer.
Speaker 1: So that's where country music comes in here. I've watched
Speaker 1: your podcast from the very beginning. So you're wondering you're
Speaker 1: not feeling right at your church that your parents go to,
Speaker 1: and you're having trouble reconciling going to another one separate
Speaker 1: because you're only sixteen years old. It's an interesting question.
Speaker 1: I don't think i've gotten into this this yet where
Speaker 1: a sixteen year old is going against where his parents
Speaker 1: are going to church. Yeah, I think there's a couple
Speaker 1: of things going on here given the age, right that
Speaker 1: there is a there's a concept of honoring our parents
Speaker 1: that I think is pretty clear biblically and what does
Speaker 1: it mean to honor our parents and respect them? And
Speaker 1: without going into all of that, I think that there's
Speaker 1: a component of that here that you know, has the
Speaker 1: conversation been had with him and his parents would be
Speaker 1: one of the questions that I would have for him
Speaker 1: and really encourage that conversation, for him to be open
Speaker 1: and transparent about some of those things and to have
Speaker 1: them as a part of the conversation rather than just
Speaker 1: making a decision and finding an alternative and then just
Speaker 1: doing that one weekend and the parents kind of going
Speaker 1: where did that come from? Specifically to your dad, Kyle,
Speaker 1: So going to your dad and I would be I mean,
Speaker 1: it's tough because you're sixteen and not that you aren't
Speaker 1: capable of thinking on your own. You are, but you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to have some some scripture references that completely
Speaker 1: contradict the current church, which is not easy. And as
Speaker 1: we said earlier, this is gonna take prayer and counsel
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna have to go to your dad
Speaker 1: and go, Dad, I gotta have to talk to you.
Speaker 1: And this is gonna take some massive maturity on your part.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I possess that kind of maturity
Speaker 1: at sixteen. That's all, just throw that out there. But
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to go with scripture references to your
Speaker 1: dad and go. It says this, this, this, And on
Speaker 1: Sunday he said this, Dad, what do you think? And
Speaker 1: then then we get into where is your dad in
Speaker 1: this kind of situation? This is a tough one for
Speaker 1: me only because of the age. And what I don't
Speaker 1: want you to do is just bail on church, right,
Speaker 1: And so you end up just not going anywhere. You
Speaker 1: stay at home, your parents get dressed and go, and
Speaker 1: Sunday you stayed home saying I don't believe what you
Speaker 1: are learning. That's not going to make anything better. You
Speaker 1: have to at least have a conversation and then you're
Speaker 1: going to have to find these scriptures, which is difficult,
Speaker 1: and then you're and then you're probably going to have
Speaker 1: to attend an online church for a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I was thinking, that there's there's something to
Speaker 1: be said about the accessibility of great biblical teaching that's
Speaker 1: available on whether it's through podcasts or online services. You
Speaker 1: can find historic and current sermons a lot of places,
Speaker 1: and you can still remain as a part of your
Speaker 1: family attending that local church, because I don't want to
Speaker 1: excuse the you know, the importance of the local body
Speaker 1: of believers is absolutely crucial, and so you don't want
Speaker 1: to remove yourself from that. And so it is possible
Speaker 1: to get great sound biblical teaching and be a part
Speaker 1: of a church that maybe you don't you don't totally
Speaker 1: agree with everything that's happening, but there's still something about
Speaker 1: the fidelity of a group of believers and the beauty
Speaker 1: of that and the benefit of that. I heard RCI
Speaker 1: Sproull say one time that all preachers, all teachers, all
Speaker 1: pastors will only be right about seventy percent of the
Speaker 1: time because they're human, not that they're intending to be wrong,
Speaker 1: but to get up there and speak for an hour
Speaker 1: and say one hundred percent truth the whole time is
Speaker 1: impossible because we're human. So I agree with Chad. Continue
Speaker 1: to show up with your family. If you were if
Speaker 1: you were thirty years old and had a couple kids
Speaker 1: at home and a wife, okay, it's time to lead
Speaker 1: your family spiritually to where you feel called. But when
Speaker 1: you're sixteen and you're with your parents, there is a
Speaker 1: lot to be said for obeying your parents, following them.
Speaker 1: And as Chad said, there's going to be truth in
Speaker 1: all of these churches at some level. You're gonna be
Speaker 1: able to find truth there. You're gonna have worship, You're
Speaker 1: gonna be able to worship, and everyone in that congregation
Speaker 1: doesn't all believe the same They're not all against you.
Speaker 1: There's people in there in those seats that feel the
Speaker 1: same way as you do. And if you're brave enough
Speaker 1: at sixteen, which I'm not necessarily even calling you to
Speaker 1: do this, but if you're brave enough, you could approach
Speaker 1: an elder in the church, maybe even the pastor himself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean that would be powerful if as a pastor,
Speaker 1: if I have a sixteen year old approach me about
Speaker 1: some things that I've been saying or teaching in a
Speaker 1: humble Wayah, that would be powerful, It would for both parties. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's that's your answer. Man. I don't think
Speaker 1: you move right now. I think I think you stay
Speaker 1: put and you continue to learn, and for everyone, continue
Speaker 1: to read the scripture on your own, in your own time,
Speaker 1: your own quiet time, which I was not doing at sixteen.
Speaker 1: I was not diligently sitting up and reading on my own,
Speaker 1: on my own merit, on my own discipline. I was
Speaker 1: not doing that at sixteen. So what I'm what I'm
Speaker 1: asking from you is above and beyond what I was
Speaker 1: capable of at that age. But reading on your own.
Speaker 1: Everyone should be able to read their own and draw
Speaker 1: their own interpretations through their own reading and led by
Speaker 1: the Holy Spirit. That's a good question, man, That is good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you, Kyle, and shout out to Utah. Where do
Speaker 1: you want to go out, Chad? So we had a
Speaker 1: question about masculinity. Yeah, it does mean be a man.
Speaker 1: It says for you, Kamma, what is it to be
Speaker 1: a man? I read that one, sir. It says, Hey, grangeer,
Speaker 1: how's it going. I've been trying to figure out how
Speaker 1: to answer this for a while. Now. I know we
Speaker 1: all have different answers, but I haven't been able to
Speaker 1: get my answer. So I figured your answer might help
Speaker 1: me figure out mine. I ask you this because you're
Speaker 1: the best man, better said, most complete man I've ever seen.
Speaker 1: So for you, what is it to be a man?
Speaker 1: And what makes a man a man? Thanks? David. I
Speaker 1: have to say, right off the bat boom to I
Speaker 1: have to rebuke the me being the best man or
Speaker 1: the most complete man. And it's interesting because Chad and
Speaker 1: I were talking about right before we started this podcast.
Speaker 1: We're talking about the world of social media, the world
Speaker 1: of influence that is unknown to humanity up until now,
Speaker 1: in fact, maybe even the last five years that recent
Speaker 1: that we could look everywhere and we could see examples
Speaker 1: and influence everywhere, and every time you see it, you're
Speaker 1: only seeing what you're supposed to be seeing. You're seeing
Speaker 1: what that influencer has prepared you to see. So you're
Speaker 1: not seeing my flaws and my mistakes, and you didn't
Speaker 1: see my journey in my stumbling blocks and my obstacles
Speaker 1: and the ones that still come up. So you can't
Speaker 1: look at me as the complete man. But I can
Speaker 1: lead you where you can, and that's in the four Gospels,
Speaker 1: in the Bible. You can find the complete man there.
Speaker 1: And so I could tell you if you're looking at me,
Speaker 1: I could tell you what I'm looking at to try
Speaker 1: to seek this same answer. And I think Chad seeks
Speaker 1: the same answer. I think at some level all of
Speaker 1: us seek the answer of what is it? What is
Speaker 1: it to be a man? So we continue to study
Speaker 1: every day. Yeah, yeah, that was a big part of
Speaker 1: my growing up and not having a dad present in
Speaker 1: the home for me, a lot of my early years,
Speaker 1: teenage years, formative years, I was exploring and asking that question,
Speaker 1: not even knowing I was asking that question, but wanting
Speaker 1: to know when do I arrive, When do I become
Speaker 1: this thing called a man? And so I'm looking at
Speaker 1: I'm watching movies, I'm listening to music. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: look outside, mostly in pop culture for masculinity, and a
Speaker 1: lot of it had to, you know, revolve around alcohol, drugs, sex.
Speaker 1: It was those were in those arenas. That's where I
Speaker 1: saw what I thought was manhood. And it was a
Speaker 1: big part of me understanding full what the Gospel is
Speaker 1: my new life in Christ and then having manhood defined
Speaker 1: completely counter culturally, and realizing that in Christ we have
Speaker 1: a demonstration of manhood that involves vision right, the ability
Speaker 1: to see God's power and presence despite the obstacles. The
Speaker 1: idea of empowering others and enabling others rather than using
Speaker 1: other people. The idea of integrity that man, what you
Speaker 1: see is what you get. I'm not going to put
Speaker 1: on a show and be something I'm not. The idea
Speaker 1: of attitude that I can't control what happens to me,
Speaker 1: but I can control how I respond to those things,
Speaker 1: and so therefore my attitude, humility, the idea of that
Speaker 1: I'm not going to build up myself. I'm going to
Speaker 1: walk humbly and have a right understanding of myself, my capabilities,
Speaker 1: and you know, the idea of meekness which man our
Speaker 1: culture often associates just because it rhymes with weakness, but
Speaker 1: meekness in the understanding that it is power under control,
Speaker 1: like the ability to have as a man, we have
Speaker 1: certain strengths and abilities. We don't always need to tout those,
Speaker 1: we don't always need to make that the thing that
Speaker 1: people know about us, but we use it in order
Speaker 1: to serve and help other people. It's like a Nascar
Speaker 1: going into the pit, going at forty miles an hour
Speaker 1: and all that power under complete control. At forty miles
Speaker 1: an hour, it could wide open, it could, but it's
Speaker 1: holding it in meekness. And that, guys, that's a powerful thing.
Speaker 1: Is harnessing what you're capable of and a very controlled atmosphere.
Speaker 1: And that's the much harder thing to do than fly
Speaker 1: off the handle and engage in power full strength. When
Speaker 1: you see it, when you see a quarterback and you're
Speaker 1: watching football and you see him going going off at
Speaker 1: the ref or casting out the coach or throwing his helmet,
Speaker 1: you just think, man, what a loser. But when you
Speaker 1: see the quarterback that it's fourth down and two, he's
Speaker 1: got to make this first down, he's just cold. His eyes,
Speaker 1: his eyes are clear. He's composed. He's composed. He's checking
Speaker 1: out the line of scrimmage, looking back and forth. He
Speaker 1: knows exactly where he's going. That's that meekness in that quarterback.
Speaker 1: That's so admirable, and you go, I want to be
Speaker 1: on that guy's team. And he might not even make it,
Speaker 1: he might not get it. And you know that if
Speaker 1: he doesn't get it, He's going to be ready for
Speaker 1: the next game. And if he does get it, he's
Speaker 1: not going to take the credit for it. He's going
Speaker 1: to say, this is the team's win, this is the fundamentals,
Speaker 1: this is my coaches that taught me this. That's the
Speaker 1: kind of guy you want to look up to. That's
Speaker 1: the man you want to become. Yeah. I talk to
Speaker 1: my sons about the idea of the victim mentality, that
Speaker 1: that is not something that that is not manhood. I
Speaker 1: talk to them all the time. I'm not raising boys,
Speaker 1: I'm raising future men, and the idea that we take ownership,
Speaker 1: whether it's our fault or not, in any given situation.
Speaker 1: We don't blame someone else. We identify what it here?
Speaker 1: Can I own? What is it that I can take
Speaker 1: responsibility for and work on, get better and push through.
Speaker 1: But I'm not going to blame other people. And so
Speaker 1: right now I'm in the world of youth sports and
Speaker 1: I get to coach little league and so, yeah, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of times the umpire man, we could really
Speaker 1: blame it. Man, we had bad umps or whatever. Man.
Speaker 1: So but that's now, that's not what men do. Men go, Okay,
Speaker 1: I go, I gotta make it clearer next time that
Speaker 1: I didn't mess up, or that I am safe, or
Speaker 1: that I made the throw or whatever. I've read this
Speaker 1: on this podcast before, and it echoes what Chad's saying.
Speaker 1: But it's if by Richard Kipling. You heard this poet,
Speaker 1: I think I might as well read it to you, David.
Speaker 1: It says, if you can keep your head when all
Speaker 1: about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you.
Speaker 1: If you could trust yourself when all men doubt you,
Speaker 1: but make allowance for their doubting too. If you could
Speaker 1: wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about,
Speaker 1: don't deal in lies or being hated, don't give way
Speaker 1: to hating, and yet look too good, And yet don't
Speaker 1: look too good nor talk too wise. If you could
Speaker 1: dream and not make dreams your master. If you could
Speaker 1: think and not make thoughts your aim. If you could
Speaker 1: meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two impostures
Speaker 1: just the same. If you could bear to hear the
Speaker 1: truth you've spoken twisted by knaves to make a trap
Speaker 1: for fools, or watch the things you gave your life
Speaker 1: to broken and stoop and build them up with worn
Speaker 1: out tools. If you could make one heap of all
Speaker 1: your winnings and risk it all on one turn of
Speaker 1: pitch and toss and lose, and start again at your beginning,
Speaker 1: and never breathe a word about your loss. If you
Speaker 1: could force your heart and nerve and send you to
Speaker 1: serve your long turn, to serve your turn long after
Speaker 1: they're gone, and so hold on when there is nothing
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Speaker 1: If you could talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
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Speaker 1: and which is even more, you'll be a man, My son,
Speaker 1: You drop the mic. Yeah, I look at that poet.
Speaker 1: If you want to know what is a man? What
Speaker 1: does it take to be a man? I look at
Speaker 1: Ridrid Kipling's poem in eighteen eighty five. That's awesome. Yeah,
Speaker 1: good question, David. I don't know if there is a
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Speaker 1: brought up nas car, have you? You probably have been
Speaker 1: in the pits I have. Man, It's it's incredible. I
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Speaker 1: just the rumble shake your like nothing I've ever seen.
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Speaker 1: unbelievable power. Man. I want to I want to be
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Speaker 1: moving through today. Up next, we have some subjects we
Speaker 1: have making money, one that says question when it says
Speaker 1: I need some advice, promotion, please answer? And faith and friends.
Speaker 1: Any of those stand out to you. That's funny because
Speaker 1: when I ask you that, and I wonder if people
Speaker 1: are going, oh, please answer. I wonder if there's some
Speaker 1: we don't get to and then somehow we can respond
Speaker 1: in comments or something. Sure, sure, making money making money
Speaker 1: probably interests people. Hey Granger, my name is Joe. I'm thirteen. Man.
Speaker 1: You guys get a young man. I know I have
Speaker 1: so much stuff I have to pay for Ammo prices
Speaker 1: right now are ridiculous and I love shooting. I have
Speaker 1: an l hunt that I need year for plus gas
Speaker 1: and renting a trailer, fishing, my truck savings account, et cetera.
Speaker 1: I have a car detailing business that pays okay, but
Speaker 1: I can't get very very many customers. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: get a job on one of my family's ranches, but
Speaker 1: that's not a guarantee. Do you know anyway for me
Speaker 1: to earn some money? Thanks? And yege, he sounds like
Speaker 1: he's from Montana. Just like, yes, so did he say
Speaker 1: he's thirteen? I have run into this so many times
Speaker 1: on this podcast where I have to read their age
Speaker 1: over and over. But yes, thirteen, thirteen and thirteen he's
Speaker 1: Ammo prices are getting in his truck. Wait why, I
Speaker 1: don't know? That's what I'm like. What So he's he's
Speaker 1: very future thinking because he's a good if he's in here,
Speaker 1: it is my truck savings account. He's saving up for
Speaker 1: it in three years? Yeah? Smart? Yeah, smart dude. He
Speaker 1: does sound like I'm Montana. It sounds like he's like
Speaker 1: elkkunt animal prices and get a truck. I have to
Speaker 1: start answering this the same way I answer all of
Speaker 1: these type questions. I just say, Joe, make sure you're
Speaker 1: not skipping out on just being thirteen year old boy.
Speaker 1: I don't mean that in any kind of offensive way,
Speaker 1: because I was once that, and Chads wants that. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to get caught up in saving and
Speaker 1: responsibility of making money and adding jobs to your resume
Speaker 1: and skip out on the fact that sometimes you just
Speaker 1: got to go roll around on the dirt in the
Speaker 1: sunshine and be thirteen. And I worry about that. And
Speaker 1: I think this might go back to what we said
Speaker 1: earlier with the world is so vibrant on social media
Speaker 1: right now that people feel like they're missing out a lot.
Speaker 1: The fear of missing out is a real thing. People
Speaker 1: watch these YouTubers, the influencers, these TikTokers, and they go, man,
Speaker 1: that's what I want to do. How do I get there? Yeah?
Speaker 1: How do I start saving so I could do that?
Speaker 1: When when I look at it and go, man, you've
Speaker 1: got to You have a lifetime of responsibilities ahead of
Speaker 1: you and worries and bills to be paid and money
Speaker 1: to be saved and jobs to be worked. You have
Speaker 1: a lifetime of that. Why do you want to start
Speaker 1: that so early when sometimes just going out in the
Speaker 1: woods with your dog and finding a little fishinghole. Yeah. Well,
Speaker 1: and I'm impressed because there are a lot of younger
Speaker 1: folks in our culture that would love it to just
Speaker 1: be handed to them. Here's a young guy who is
Speaker 1: willing to work. He's willing to do the hard thing.
Speaker 1: So my advice to you, in order to continue to
Speaker 1: enjoy being a kid is find a way to leverage
Speaker 1: what you love to do. It sounds like you love
Speaker 1: to hunt. Is there a way that you can do
Speaker 1: what you love by elk hunting or whatever, and you could, yeah,
Speaker 1: start to generate an income from that. I don't know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like maybe going to an outfitter. Maybe maybe you are
Speaker 1: from Montana, maybe you are from a I'm assuming you're
Speaker 1: from some kind of mountain state, Utah, Idaho, Colorado. And
Speaker 1: what if you go down to a local hunting outfit
Speaker 1: and say, my name's Joe, I'm willing to work for
Speaker 1: food and gas money, and I just want to be
Speaker 1: part of this organization. I love elk hunting, I love
Speaker 1: being out in the woods, and I want to learn
Speaker 1: and I want to learn from you older guys, and
Speaker 1: I'll carry your packs, or I'll sweep the floor, I'll
Speaker 1: wash your cars. I'm actually from a car to you
Speaker 1: detailing company. I could wash your trucks for you. I
Speaker 1: can clean your rifles for you, exactly. There's a book
Speaker 1: called Where the Red Fern Grows, such an awesome classic,
Speaker 1: one of my favorites, and so it's like a strange
Speaker 1: it's like a strange ride, a passage in my family
Speaker 1: where I have to read it to my kids when
Speaker 1: they get to a certain age. We read it together.
Speaker 1: I read it aloud. And it's a story of this
Speaker 1: boy who his passion like yours, great our Joe greatyst
Speaker 1: email Joe is too. So he wants to go hunting,
Speaker 1: and he wants to hunt raccoons with two dogs. And
Speaker 1: he can't afford the dogs or anything that goes with it,
Speaker 1: so he starts doing all kinds of odd jobs like
Speaker 1: collecting collecting berries and helping his grandpa at the general
Speaker 1: store and trapping hides. And this takes place in their
Speaker 1: late eighteen hundreds in Arkansas or Oklahoma, and he earns
Speaker 1: enough to buy these dogs that they're fifty dollars for
Speaker 1: two dogs. So that's that's an awesome book. And it's
Speaker 1: such a simple, simple task for a simple goal. He
Speaker 1: wants two dogs and he needs to make money to
Speaker 1: get there. I think it's awesome you have dreams. And
Speaker 1: I think Chad is absolutely right that it's awesome you
Speaker 1: have this kind of ambition when we just talked about
Speaker 1: the entitlement problem, the millennial problem that we mentioned, and
Speaker 1: you don't seem to have that at all. In fact,
Speaker 1: you're willing to take on more and you're wanting advice
Speaker 1: on how to expand even more what you're already doing.
Speaker 1: But the fact is these years are going to fly by.
Speaker 1: You're going to be fourteen, then you're gonna be fifteen,
Speaker 1: so fast, you're gonna be twenty and go, man, where
Speaker 1: did the seven years go? And you don't want to say,
Speaker 1: I know where those seven years went, working at the
Speaker 1: card to you telling business so that I could buy
Speaker 1: something that I don't even have anymore. So keep them,
Speaker 1: keep the passion and the ambition. Maybe pump the brakes
Speaker 1: on money, money, money, and find a way. There's my
Speaker 1: brothers and I always say, there's there's always a back
Speaker 1: door to every house you want to go into, and
Speaker 1: in country music, we constantly see the line waiting at
Speaker 1: the front door of people trying to get in, and
Speaker 1: we always could find some kind of open window that
Speaker 1: we could crawl through in the back. And I'm suggesting
Speaker 1: that with you, with this, with your l hunting passion,
Speaker 1: that there may be a back window you could slide
Speaker 1: through into one of these companies and you might be
Speaker 1: hunting for free, just for a sweeping the floor of
Speaker 1: the hunting lodge. Yeah, that's cool, Thank you, Joe. Let's
Speaker 1: see we got well here. This is the one that
Speaker 1: says question I opened it up. I saw the word
Speaker 1: church in it. You work at a church. Let's read
Speaker 1: this one says hey Granger. I found out through my
Speaker 1: son watching Earl about you, and I watched the Smiths
Speaker 1: and your family as much as we can. Here's the deal.
Speaker 1: I've been in church my whole life. Recently changed churches
Speaker 1: as something was missing in our old one. Things have
Speaker 1: been better, but I need some personal Not sure how
Speaker 1: to say it. Tune up. Do you have an author
Speaker 1: or simply a daily devotional for a guy needs to
Speaker 1: be paper is I don't do any kind of apps.
Speaker 1: I work alone. I have a lot of time to
Speaker 1: think thanks a lot, James from Ontario, Canada. So you
Speaker 1: have some classics out there, my utmost for His Highest
Speaker 1: by Oswald Chambers. You've got Morning and Evenings by Charles
Speaker 1: Spurgeon that I think are phenomenal. You can get some
Speaker 1: really cool if you like paper, you can get some
Speaker 1: really cool kind of old bound versions of both of those. Yes,
Speaker 1: there would be one that's a little bit more intense
Speaker 1: but still highly valuable. Is it's called for the Love
Speaker 1: of God, and it is there's a two volume version,
Speaker 1: but it basically yeah, you can get one volume per year.
Speaker 1: But these are all designed around daily interaction in the scriptures,
Speaker 1: so that you're every day, every year in the Word
Speaker 1: and these these men and very gifted teachers give you
Speaker 1: some insight into the text. Yeah, that's great. There was
Speaker 1: one that I got got one time for a gift
Speaker 1: and I went through it in a year and it
Speaker 1: was like Devotionals from a deer blind or something. So
Speaker 1: it's very you know, it's very country relevant. It would
Speaker 1: read read a passage, help explain the passage, and then
Speaker 1: it would have a direct relation to nature in the
Speaker 1: outdoors and a way to connect with those thoughts in
Speaker 1: the outdoors. I'm assuming this is kind of where you're
Speaker 1: coming from. I know Ontario. Ontario is a very, very
Speaker 1: country place, so I think the fact is there's a lot.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of really good ones, and if you
Speaker 1: find a Christian bookstore, maybe they could even direct you
Speaker 1: to some of these. And I always have to say
Speaker 1: that at one time in my life I became what
Speaker 1: I call a devotional junkie, and it became for me,
Speaker 1: not everyone, and I'm just speaking for myself. It became
Speaker 1: a little bit dangerous because it started replacing the actual
Speaker 1: Bible reading itself, and it starts to kind of clearcoat
Speaker 1: the Bible and cherry pick and paint everything beautifully, when
Speaker 1: that's not always what we need in our life. Sometimes
Speaker 1: we just need to go straight to the truth. And
Speaker 1: what it also does, I think reading too many devotionals.
Speaker 1: Once again, it's not bad or wrong in any way.
Speaker 1: It's not wrong, but it needs to be a supplement,
Speaker 1: not a source. And it starts if you take the
Speaker 1: supplement too much, it starts to dilute the source, where
Speaker 1: the source gets boring or doesn't matter, or becomes irrelevant.
Speaker 1: There's the danger of it, once again, not saying James
Speaker 1: that that could happen to you. But this is what
Speaker 1: happened to me. It starts to dilute the source, and
Speaker 1: so I had to I had to get rid of
Speaker 1: all devotionals and go straight to the source until I
Speaker 1: was good enough in the source that I could supplement,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. And I think a way to
Speaker 1: guard against that is, you know, in a devotional, they'll
Speaker 1: have the scripture passage, and some of them have the
Speaker 1: passage kind of printed out there, or you need to
Speaker 1: have your Bible ready. But I would say always begin
Speaker 1: with whatever passage that they're going to kind of give
Speaker 1: you their devotional thoughts on. You read the scripture first.
Speaker 1: You get into that passage, you read it, you process it,
Speaker 1: you want it, and then see what they are going
Speaker 1: to say or guide you in. So don't just open
Speaker 1: it up, see the scripture reference, and then read their
Speaker 1: thoughts and then move on. Yeah, make sure it's you
Speaker 1: guys having a conversation whoever the author of that devotional
Speaker 1: is about the text. Yeah, yeah, and read the paragraph
Speaker 1: before the text and the paragraph after the text, just
Speaker 1: to get some of the foundation of where it's coming from.
Speaker 1: You got to have that contrast a little bit for
Speaker 1: me when this all came to a head with me,
Speaker 1: I just started in Matthew Matthew one, opened it up,
Speaker 1: It's the beginning of the New Testament, and started reading
Speaker 1: just cold, no devotional, just out of my own interpretation,
Speaker 1: and made it all the way through the New Testament
Speaker 1: once before I was ready to then now onally check
Speaker 1: out some man made references and oh yes, I remember
Speaker 1: that part and I know how that now I know,
Speaker 1: and it just and it connects everything way better. It's
Speaker 1: it's like watching take your favorite movie, and you could
Speaker 1: live your whole life just watching the preview of the movie.
Speaker 1: That's a great way to put it. And the previews
Speaker 1: are great, they're entertaining, you get a lot from it,
Speaker 1: but you're missing the whole thing, yeah, getting the highlights
Speaker 1: of it. And so no matter no matter how you
Speaker 1: think about the preview, you're still not seeing the end.
Speaker 1: They're not going to show you the end on the preview.
Speaker 1: They're not seeing the wrap up. So anyway, that reminds
Speaker 1: me of the podcast idea. Remember I floated by you, Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: this idea of what would it be like to on
Speaker 1: a weekly basis just open the text, read a passage
Speaker 1: and just talk about it. But read the text and
Speaker 1: get into a passage of scripture and then continue with
Speaker 1: the next one, and just read through a book of
Speaker 1: the Bible at a time and just talk about it.
Speaker 1: You know, I think that would be so exciting. I would.
Speaker 1: I mean, I do that every day anyway, so it'd
Speaker 1: be fun to to do it. Yeah. Sometimes if you do,
Speaker 1: if you get into this James, regardless or if it's
Speaker 1: devotional or if it's just Bible itself, say say prayer
Speaker 1: before you start, that you have a clear mind to
Speaker 1: be reading it, that you're reading it, not to just
Speaker 1: check a box, but you read it, or that you
Speaker 1: filled a space at your at your work when you're
Speaker 1: alone because you're bored. Don't think that's what you're doing.
Speaker 1: But say quick prayer and it could be as informal
Speaker 1: as you want. Just God, I'm about to open up
Speaker 1: this word and I need it to speak to me.
Speaker 1: I need to see you through this text. I need
Speaker 1: to understand you better through this text in the way
Speaker 1: that it relates to me. And it's a it's a
Speaker 1: supernatural book. It does supernatural things, and you can't read
Speaker 1: it like it's where the red fern grows right. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was open with in Psalm one nineteen think it's
Speaker 1: verse sixteen. Just was reading that this week. Were you yes?
Speaker 1: Psalm one nineteen and he says, Lord, open my eyes
Speaker 1: so that I may behold wondrous things from your word.
Speaker 1: But this this request that God would open or pass
Speaker 1: to see what's there. Yeah, it's perfect. There's a time
Speaker 1: and it's like in the fifties. I don't remember which one,
Speaker 1: but it says, it is good that I've been afflicted.
Speaker 1: It is good that I have been afflicted. That is
Speaker 1: so powerful and not many people could come to that
Speaker 1: kind of reallyation that it's good that I've been afflicted.
Speaker 1: Let's go to thank you, James. Let's go to all
Speaker 1: that you choose. Chad. Hey, Grangeer needs some advice, promotion,
Speaker 1: please answer or faith in friends? Uh, either advice or
Speaker 1: please answer. We've been I don't know they'll seem I
Speaker 1: get yeah, I feel bad for that. Let's go to
Speaker 1: please answer. It says, Hey, this is Jake from Wisconsin.
Speaker 1: You thought state farmed, didn't you. I just want to
Speaker 1: start by saying I love all your stuff and your
Speaker 1: music and YouTube and your family. Thank you. Buddy, it says,
Speaker 1: but I want to know when things get rough, when
Speaker 1: it seems like no one is there for you, or
Speaker 1: mainly the one or mainly the one that you want
Speaker 1: to be there for you doesn't seem to care, how
Speaker 1: do you push through to find motivation to move on
Speaker 1: and be happy again? How do you find happy when
Speaker 1: it seems like there is none left? I'm glad we
Speaker 1: pulled up this question. Thank you, Jake. Shout out to
Speaker 1: Wisconsin and man that this is this is like the
Speaker 1: question is this is the question that everyone asks and
Speaker 1: just words it differently, and you just went straight to
Speaker 1: the point. How do you find happiness when it seems
Speaker 1: like there is none left? Such a human emotion, such
Speaker 1: a human sentiment. Yeah, because I think it's very easy
Speaker 1: to tie our our happiness to circumstances. Right the if
Speaker 1: the conditions are ideal or our expectations are fulfilled, then
Speaker 1: we can be happy. And I think there's true liberation
Speaker 1: and freedom when our joy, which I'm going to use
Speaker 1: a different word, right, our ultimate ultimate contentment isn't tied
Speaker 1: to circumstance or fulfilled expectations, because rarely do things play
Speaker 1: out the way we would design them. And usually it's
Speaker 1: probably better that they don't, right, Yeah, that and I mean,
Speaker 1: how awesome, how blessed is it to be somebody who
Speaker 1: navigates this world and can have joy through a variety
Speaker 1: of different circumstances, because it's never tied to if this happens,
Speaker 1: then I'll be happy, or if this plays out, then
Speaker 1: I'll be happy. But it has to be tied to
Speaker 1: something that's not that doesn't ebb and flow or go
Speaker 1: with the waves of the sea. Right, it's not tossed about,
Speaker 1: but a joy that is tied to something that is unchanging,
Speaker 1: you know where I'm going from. Right, So, if we
Speaker 1: tire how happiness to a job or something that's there
Speaker 1: in the future, something that we're hoping for that we
Speaker 1: hope plays out, or we tie it to a person,
Speaker 1: those things will almost eventually not turn out and have
Speaker 1: a high probability of failing. But if our hope is
Speaker 1: in something that is sure and yeah, isn't influenced by
Speaker 1: you know, humanity or circumstances or job or money. Do
Speaker 1: you get this kind of question when you're when you're
Speaker 1: doing discipleship or counseling or yep, yeah, almost all the time.
Speaker 1: Almost all the time I figured. So this question sounds
Speaker 1: like the root of this question from Jake sounds like
Speaker 1: it's it's some kind of breakup, because he says, I
Speaker 1: want to know when things get rough, when it seems
Speaker 1: like no one is there for you, or mainly the
Speaker 1: one you want to be there for you doesn't seem
Speaker 1: care mm hm. It sounds like there's been some kind
Speaker 1: of either girlfriend breakup, wife divorce, wife separation, or even
Speaker 1: a good friend has turned his back. So we are
Speaker 1: we are humans need community, we need connection. We're built
Speaker 1: for connection and community. And the good news for Jake
Speaker 1: is that we live in a modern world where it
Speaker 1: is we all we live closer together than we ever
Speaker 1: have in human history. Meaning if you were a pioneer
Speaker 1: in New Mexico on a ranch and you're you know,
Speaker 1: you're all alone, it would be tough. It would be
Speaker 1: really tough. You know, you'd have to move to Kansas
Speaker 1: City or something. But Jake, wherever you are in Wisconsin,
Speaker 1: don't don't shut me off here. Okay, don't don't shut
Speaker 1: this podcast off when I say this. But there's a
Speaker 1: church close to you. And the reason I could even
Speaker 1: say that is because I was in I was in
Speaker 1: South Dakota on Sunday, Sue Falls, and I called Chad
Speaker 1: here about a week and a half ago or so,
Speaker 1: and I said, Hey, I'm going to be in Sue Falls,
Speaker 1: South Dakota on Sunday. We're playing that night, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to be available that Sunday to go to a church.
Speaker 1: Do you have anybody there that you know of? He
Speaker 1: did a little research. I still don't really know how
Speaker 1: you did it, but he found a church for me.
Speaker 1: He goid, hey, check this out. Here's the website. If
Speaker 1: I was going to Sue Falls, this is where I
Speaker 1: would go. So I was like cool, So I went
Speaker 1: and I went in with all these strangers. Of course
Speaker 1: I had two of my guys with me, but I
Speaker 1: went in to this church with strangers, and I went
Speaker 1: straight to the hospitality desk. I'd already emailed them before
Speaker 1: and told them I was new and coming, and they
Speaker 1: had a little gift bag waiting for me with a
Speaker 1: little coffee mug and a journal and a pin and
Speaker 1: we we had a great talk and then and then
Speaker 1: I was just welcomed instantly into this family. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie guys on this podcast. We started to worship.
Speaker 1: I literally started crying. I literally started crying because I
Speaker 1: had been on the road for a week. I was
Speaker 1: away from my family, away from my friends in Texas,
Speaker 1: and I felt like I was home. I felt for
Speaker 1: that time under that roof, I was accepted, I was wanted,
Speaker 1: and I was connecting with other humans. And the reason
Speaker 1: I even bring it up is because you said, when
Speaker 1: it feels like no one is there for you, and
Speaker 1: I'm telling you that wherever you go in Wisconsin down
Speaker 1: the road is a is a church, and I'll help
Speaker 1: you find one. So if you wow, if you need
Speaker 1: help right there, I will. Yeah, I'll find one that
Speaker 1: I would go to near you. That's an incredible offer.
Speaker 1: I don't know how I would do that. Or email
Speaker 1: right back here, Okaja, email right back here if this
Speaker 1: is something that's perking your interest, and it absolutely might not,
Speaker 1: but you asked me, and so this is my answer
Speaker 1: and this is my podcast. So if email right back
Speaker 1: on the same email and say yes, actually, I would
Speaker 1: like to hear from Chad about a church. Okay, Chad's
Speaker 1: going to get your hometown and he's going to find
Speaker 1: that for you. In fact, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: shouldn't even say this on air, but maybe if there's
Speaker 1: anyone listening that has that similar question goes, well, I'm
Speaker 1: in South Carolina, this town. Where is there a place here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we might not always be able to find you one,
Speaker 1: but well look, yep, so good call. Yeah. Yeah, we're
Speaker 1: kind of like in the middle of maybe have time
Speaker 1: to do one more. Let's do this promotion. Hey Grainger,
Speaker 1: my name is Justin Toner. I'm a big fan of
Speaker 1: yours and I've been wondering if I can get your
Speaker 1: opinion on something. I've been at my job for six
Speaker 1: years now, finally got a promotion dot dot sort of.
Speaker 1: They told me I have the job, but they needed
Speaker 1: to hire my replacement first. Well that happens, and then
Speaker 1: someone quits and now I have to stay longer. And
Speaker 1: they've been telling me different excuses and why I can't
Speaker 1: just move up yet, and they keep delaying it. Would
Speaker 1: you just work through that or start looking for a
Speaker 1: new job. It's been four months since they told me
Speaker 1: I have the job. Thanks for your time. Come back
Speaker 1: to TOLS so soon. This is one of these questions
Speaker 1: where we just need you really present with us, so
Speaker 1: you could say so many questions. You could say, how's
Speaker 1: your boss, how's your commute to work, how's your benefits,
Speaker 1: what's your skills? How easily could you move to another position? This? Man,
Speaker 1: I have to say this because going to go back
Speaker 1: to what we've said several times, here is open communication
Speaker 1: with your boss. It's a hey, boss, I would love
Speaker 1: to be able to grab lunch with you or sit
Speaker 1: down with you. When's a good time next Friday? Okay, no,
Speaker 1: how about next Tuesday? And so you can get him.
Speaker 1: You just need ten minutes with him and just say, boss,
Speaker 1: I love this job. I'm even more excited about this promotion,
Speaker 1: and I feel like I could really deliver for you
Speaker 1: in this capacity. And to be totally honest with you,
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit stuck right now because I'm kind
Speaker 1: of in this I'm in my old job and I
Speaker 1: was excited, and so I'm needing some motivation. How could
Speaker 1: I stay motivated and still be encouraged that I am
Speaker 1: going to move up? Is there a date you could
Speaker 1: give me? Is there a deadline you can give me? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think that's the open communication. I think that just
Speaker 1: would clarify a lot and asking for give me a
Speaker 1: sense of the timeline, what needs to happen and when
Speaker 1: does that need to happen for me? Because I want
Speaker 1: to continue to be excited about working here and that
Speaker 1: future promotional job that you've offered. I continue to get
Speaker 1: excited about that. But because you offered it, you got
Speaker 1: the wheels turning, and so now I'm really excited. And
Speaker 1: if you don't think that that's a possibility, I might
Speaker 1: need to explore something, because you know I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: that in that new position. Man, I would almost write
Speaker 1: down what Chad said on a notepad and memorize it somewhat,
Speaker 1: and an honest boss, Hey, if the guy is not
Speaker 1: a good guy, then you don't need to be there anyway.
Speaker 1: If he doesn't accept that with open ears and just say,
Speaker 1: justin absolutely, let me give you a straight answer. If
Speaker 1: he can't, that's a good indication you're not in the
Speaker 1: right place anyway. But any decent man would say, I
Speaker 1: get it, absolutely, this is this is on me, and
Speaker 1: this is a this is a bad circumstance because of
Speaker 1: we lot. We needed to hire a replacement for your
Speaker 1: old job, so someone quit. Justin, I get it. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you what. Let me tell you what. July first,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna be either bump up your pay
Speaker 1: or you're gonna be the new spot. But we need
Speaker 1: you here. Don't leave, or he might say, man, I'm
Speaker 1: in a different spot than I was when I told
Speaker 1: you you'd have the promotion. I don't think I'm in
Speaker 1: the position to say that. And then you can go, Okay,
Speaker 1: here's my two weeks. Yeah, and you'll feel better about
Speaker 1: it when you leave because you'll feel like you put
Speaker 1: it all on the table. Yeah. Yeah, that's a good call, dude.
Speaker 1: That's all the time we have. That went fast. I
Speaker 1: know it went fast. If you guys want to see
Speaker 1: chat again, say more Chad in the comments. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you guys are awesome. See you next time. Thanks for
Speaker 1: joining me on the granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all
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