WEBVTT - I'm so glad y'all asked this question 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:14.560 Hey, this is Jake from Wisconsin. You thought state farmed, 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:19.840 didn't you. I just want to start by saying I 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:21.959 love all your stuff and your music and YouTube and 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:24.320 your family. Thank you, buddy, it says, but I want 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:27.800 to know when things get rough, when it seems like 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:31.840 no one is there for you, or mainly the one 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.239 or mainly the one that you want to be there 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.760 for you doesn't seem to care, how do you push 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:40.400 through to find motivation to move on and be happy again? 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.960 How do you find happiness when it seems like there 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:46.800 is none left? I'm glad we pulled up this question 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:27.280 did change in much tired and long line of my 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:36.920 fool of hump and down going back, Rangy cove evage. 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:50.040 Yeah youation alright one of my favorite guests, Chad. People 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:54.800 were lucky that ask questions today. Chad is uh so grounded, 0:01:54.920 --> 0:02:00.560 such a a good thinker, good listener, good at kind 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:03.840 of I hope my wife's listening. Yeah, getting all this? 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:08.600 Yeah yeah, you could kind of craft your way unbiasedly 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:12.720 through through these questions from from the listeners. And I 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.560 love that about you, and uh so I look forward 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:19.040 to every time you come to the EU Farm. So 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.440 if you guys want to uh, if you have any question. 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:26.680 Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. That's the email email away. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.080 The more and more I get your emails, the more 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.639 and more categories I get to divide them into. And 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:37.400 the categories are pretty broad. So I split these up 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:39.680 a little bit today and I'm gonna I'm gonna kind 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:42.799 of leave some of these to you. I'm gonna start 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:49.440 with I'm gonna start with a very light one. It's says, hey, Granger, 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.880 my name is Dakota. What my question is, what is 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:58.200 your favorite dog breed? Oh? Which is good, it's are 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.640 you a dog guy? I am okay, Yeah, I've got 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:03.160 a crazy story about a dog. So I grew up 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:07.399 with dogs and then got married and my wife did 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:10.639 not grow up with dogs. Her dad was really allergic 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.880 and so they could never have dogs. So then we 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:14.919 get married and I'm like, hey, what do you think 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:17.040 about a dog? And she's like, no, that's just one 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.120 other thing to take care of it. I'm like, okay, okay. 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:22.320 And then I go on a trip about a year ago, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:26.960 a year in a couple months to Uganda and I'm 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:30.200 there doing some mission work and getting to go to 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:35.800 these remote villages, speaking to pastors, encouraging them, and I 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:40.160 finish up in one particular village in the mountains. One 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:42.680 of the pastors comes to me and says, Pastor, Chat, 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.800 I have a gift for you. Now. Our driver that 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:48.520 was driving us around these villages he said, Oh, it's 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:50.760 probably going to be like a chicken or a goat, 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.120 and we'll just we'll butcher it and have it for 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.680 lunch tomorrow. And I was like, oh, okay, okay, cool, 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:59.520 that'll be a new experience. And the pastor comes out 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:04.080 with this like six week old puppy. Wow, and we're 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:06.160 all just shocked by this, like what are we gonna 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:10.760 do with a dog? And so I call back home. 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:13.000 I'm on the video chat with my wife and kids, 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:16.919 and my wife being you know, she's thinking, yeah, you 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.040 can have the dog, because she's you know, in the 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.520 back of her head going there's no way you'll get 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:24.400 that back from Africa through customs and all that stuff like. 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:26.560 So she's like, yeah, I'll be yeah, I'll be the 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:29.080 supportive wife and I'll say, yeah, sure you can have 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:31.000 a dog. This is one shot you have to have 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:34.159 a dog. And sure enough it worked out. We got 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.880 the dog. Back. So now I have this dog. Wow, 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:40.240 I don't know the breed or anything, but he's he's 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.960 our African dog from Uganda. What does he look like? 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:45.880 What does he lean towards? He leans towards like a 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:50.480 German shepherd, but the hair is shorter. Okay, And I 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:54.039 think he's got some sort of hound because anytime he 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.920 sees a deer or a bird or something, he kind 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:59.760 of like he'll put the foot up and the tail 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:01.720 goes straight and he kind of points a little bit. 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:04.159 So I'm not hound, but pointer or bird dog or something. 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:09.920 So German shepherd, bird dogs, Okay, something that's cool. Yeah. 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:11.440 First of all, I want to go on this next 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:14.360 trip to Uganda with you. We are going in October, 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:18.600 so absolutely right, we're going. I'll get you there. I 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:22.640 grew up with labs, actual fact, in fact, yellow labs. 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:26.360 I had three yellow labs from two years old all 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:32.560 the way up to the third. One died in twenty sixteen. 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.560 So I've had a lot of labs, a lot of 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.839 life with labs, i should say, and they've always been great. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:44.080 They are shedders, but they're great family dogs. I now 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:46.560 have three. I never thought i'd have three dogs. Especially 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.840 My wife, similar to yours, didn't grow up with dogs ever, 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:54.360 so the thought of her having three dogs was definitely 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:59.080 not not predicted. But we have a German short hair 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.520 two of them, we have a puppy and a six 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.440 year old, and then we have a Vishla. All three 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:10.440 or bird dogs. I've always heard that that mutts are 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:14.680 are just a great dog because first of all, they're 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:18.320 very healthy. They don't have the pure breed health problems 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.040 and so, Dakoda, it's hard to say. I do love 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:27.000 dogs just like Chad. I'm not as much of a 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:30.200 small dog guy. My dad used to say little dog, 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:34.520 little brain. That might offend some people, but but but 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:39.080 there's something about a bigger dog that wants to get 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.159 up in your lap and be part of the family. 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:45.760 And so so yeah, I think I'd lean just like Chad. 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:50.240 I think I'd lean to the bird dog esque type. Yeah, 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.320 dogs are Thanks for the question, Dakota. Dogs are They 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:58.000 just blow them my mind. How canines could be manipulated 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:01.440 through breeding like that. Everything started with a wolf at 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:05.159 some point, but you could have Chihuahuas and Great Danes 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:10.000 and bulldogs and poodles and they are all manipulated. Through breeding, 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:15.720 which is so bizarre. Yeah, so crazy. Take the shortest 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.000 nose dog and read it with the other shortest nose 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.200 dog and keep doing that. You're gonna have a bulldog. 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:25.400 I'm gonna let you pick some of these sweet based 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:30.120 on the subject. We have urgent relationship advice. We have 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:33.400 was it? What is it to be a man? We 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:37.880 have making money? We have a Hey, Graandeur really need 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:41.080 some advice we need We have a please answer, We 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.880 have a promotion, we have faith and friends, and we 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.000 have church and country music. And he goes, well, the 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:51.080 urgent one. Maybe we should Maybe we should do it 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.480 just because it's urgent, the urgent relationship advice. Yeah, okay, 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:57.800 Hey Grandeur, I'd like to keep my name off of 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:01.240 this one. Thank you for saying that early. I've emailed 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:04.480 a few times and I always love your wisdom and 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.600 relationship advice. Thank you, buddy. There is a girl that 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:11.600 i've dated almost two years that I dated almost two 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.800 years back, so I'm assuming you're not anymore. We had 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:17.680 an amazing relationship, but we were just two different people 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:21.600 in two different places maturity wise. I'm a little bit older. Recently, 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:26.520 her and her boyfriend broke up. She's awesome. She excuse me. 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:29.160 She is someone that I'd be willing to give another 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:31.840 shot with if she was willing to take it. I'm 0:08:31.840 --> 0:08:33.720 not sure if I reach out to her first or 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:36.640 wait and see if she calls me like she has 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:39.719 done in the past. I can't stop thinking about what 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:42.400 we could be and at the same time, I have 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.240 no idea if she would even be interested anymore. What 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:51.400 are your thoughts? Immediately wonder what caused it not to 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:55.320 work in the first place? And has that changed? Right? 0:08:55.760 --> 0:09:01.520 Was there some kind of circumstantial component that's now different? Yeah, 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.520 we were just two different people in two different places 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:07.280 maturity wise. So maybe he's thinking now that time has 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:11.760 gone by, they're more equal in that in that category. 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.720 So the question is, I'm not sure if I should 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:20.920 reach out first or wait. I can't stop thinking about 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:22.680 what could be. At the same time, I have no 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:27.800 idea if she'd even be interested. That's interesting, Yeah, I would. 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:31.200 It sounds like, you know, as you consider this, you 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:35.400 have hesitation, uh, And so I would explore that, what's 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:42.040 what's your hesitation? And like, quite honestly, I would I 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:45.640 would tell somebody pray about it like that. That would 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:49.240 be you know, you know, explore what what is the hesitation? 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:52.080 There have the things change that caused it not to 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:57.320 work initially, And then I would yeah, I would seek 0:09:57.480 --> 0:10:00.440 wise counsel, and I would seek the Lord. I would 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:03.160 pray about it. Yeah, I think Chad and I will 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:05.640 say that we could always say that at the beginning 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:08.200 in every question is we'll pray about it. Pray about 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:12.160 it first, seek wise counsel. That's that's that's the kind 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.880 of the foundation of anything that we would tell you. 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:20.000 I think, I think you just and after that he 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:23.679 goes and has coffee, Yeah, and just lays it out. Yeah, 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.559 just yeah, be honest, to be up front. There's nothing 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.720 you could lose from that. I think what what exhausts 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:34.120 a lot of people is the game, right, the posturing 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:36.720 and trying to figure out and not willing to risk it. 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:41.920 And I think guys should be willing to risk it, 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:44.400 to be the ones that take the risk in a relationship, 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:47.680 to initiate and be the ones that are vulnerable first 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.760 by reaching out and engaging. So that's good to keep 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:53.800 to be, you know, consistent with my own own advice there, 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.920 I would say, take some time, think about it, pray, 0:10:56.920 --> 0:11:01.120 about it and then ask hef to coffee. Yeah, that's good, 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.440 that's good. I avoid the game because no matter what 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.320 her reaction to this is going to be, she's going 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:12.640 to respect you if you're completely honest and you're saying, listen, 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:17.800 this is how I feel. And you don't even have 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.240 to tell her I think you're the one of my dream. 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:22.400 You don't even have to say that, you just you 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:27.320 say what's on your heart. I think there could be 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:32.520 something really special between us, and I wanted to bring 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:35.520 that up to you as honest as I can, without 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:39.720 playing games and without drawing this out any further. I 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.520 care about you a lot, and I think I think 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:46.160 we're very compatible. But before we go any further with that, 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:50.520 what do you think? And she might go, oh, you 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:52.640 know what, I just don't. I don't see us that 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.840 way anymore, And okay, good, guess what. Then you have 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.840 a good answer, a solid answer to move on to 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:01.440 the next part of your life. And if she says yes, 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:06.079 then here we go. You're off to the races. So yeah, 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:10.520 thanks for the question, buddy. What do you think, Chad? 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.240 What was it to be a man making money? I 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:17.800 need some advice promotion, please, answer, church and country music, 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:22.360 faith and friends. Okay, let's go into church and country music. Okay, 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:26.480 and then we'll see. I like that they couldn't lead 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.120 us a lot of different ways. Hey, Grandeur, I'm Kyle 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:34.120 from Utah. I'm almost sixteen years old. I know you 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:37.439 said to those looking for a church that they will 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:39.000 know when they find the church that's right for them. 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.920 I just recently left a church that my whole family 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:45.560 was going to for many generations because I didn't feel right. 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:50.280 I don't think that some of the things they were 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:54.280 saying were with the Bible. So I want to find 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:59.000 a church that feels right. But I also know I 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:02.480 need a way to find a church that my parents. 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:08.920 I'm looking for a way to attend a new church 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:12.079 because my parents wouldn't take me to the one and good. Okay, 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.240 so your parent, you're sixteen, I got it, I got it. 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:19.040 What would you recommend? And he then at the end 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:20.960 he says, also, I want to be a country music singer. 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.320 So that's where country music comes in here. I've watched 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:29.080 your podcast from the very beginning. So you're wondering you're 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.559 not feeling right at your church that your parents go to, 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:36.520 and you're having trouble reconciling going to another one separate 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:40.520 because you're only sixteen years old. It's an interesting question. 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:42.679 I don't think i've gotten into this this yet where 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:47.199 a sixteen year old is going against where his parents 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:54.360 are going to church. Yeah, I think there's a couple 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.520 of things going on here given the age, right that 0:13:57.640 --> 0:14:03.240 there is a there's a concept of honoring our parents 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:08.240 that I think is pretty clear biblically and what does 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.520 it mean to honor our parents and respect them? And 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.440 without going into all of that, I think that there's 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:19.080 a component of that here that you know, has the 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:23.080 conversation been had with him and his parents would be 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:24.720 one of the questions that I would have for him 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:28.280 and really encourage that conversation, for him to be open 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:32.960 and transparent about some of those things and to have 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:35.280 them as a part of the conversation rather than just 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:39.240 making a decision and finding an alternative and then just 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.960 doing that one weekend and the parents kind of going 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:46.880 where did that come from? Specifically to your dad, Kyle, 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:52.080 So going to your dad and I would be I mean, 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:58.440 it's tough because you're sixteen and not that you aren't 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:03.040 capable of thinking on your own. You are, but you're 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:09.600 gonna have to have some some scripture references that completely 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:14.520 contradict the current church, which is not easy. And as 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:16.720 we said earlier, this is gonna take prayer and counsel 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:19.280 and then you're gonna have to go to your dad 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:22.480 and go, Dad, I gotta have to talk to you. 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:27.720 And this is gonna take some massive maturity on your part. 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:29.640 I don't know if I possess that kind of maturity 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.960 at sixteen. That's all, just throw that out there. But 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.840 you're gonna have to go with scripture references to your 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.440 dad and go. It says this, this, this, And on 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:44.360 Sunday he said this, Dad, what do you think? And 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:47.520 then then we get into where is your dad in 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:52.760 this kind of situation? This is a tough one for 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:57.960 me only because of the age. And what I don't 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.120 want you to do is just bail on church, right, 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.400 And so you end up just not going anywhere. You 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.080 stay at home, your parents get dressed and go, and 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:08.440 Sunday you stayed home saying I don't believe what you 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:12.320 are learning. That's not going to make anything better. You 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:16.440 have to at least have a conversation and then you're 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.200 going to have to find these scriptures, which is difficult, 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:23.080 and then you're and then you're probably going to have 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.720 to attend an online church for a little bit. Yeah, 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.920 that's what I was thinking, that there's there's something to 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:34.000 be said about the accessibility of great biblical teaching that's 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:37.720 available on whether it's through podcasts or online services. You 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:43.680 can find historic and current sermons a lot of places, 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:47.160 and you can still remain as a part of your 0:16:47.200 --> 0:16:50.200 family attending that local church, because I don't want to 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:55.520 excuse the you know, the importance of the local body 0:16:55.560 --> 0:17:00.520 of believers is absolutely crucial, and so you don't want 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:04.399 to remove yourself from that. And so it is possible 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:09.560 to get great sound biblical teaching and be a part 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.840 of a church that maybe you don't you don't totally 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.480 agree with everything that's happening, but there's still something about 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:20.199 the fidelity of a group of believers and the beauty 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:22.960 of that and the benefit of that. I heard RCI 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:28.280 Sproull say one time that all preachers, all teachers, all 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:31.480 pastors will only be right about seventy percent of the 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:35.479 time because they're human, not that they're intending to be wrong, 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:39.600 but to get up there and speak for an hour 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:43.000 and say one hundred percent truth the whole time is 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:50.160 impossible because we're human. So I agree with Chad. Continue 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:52.040 to show up with your family. If you were if 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.600 you were thirty years old and had a couple kids 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:58.440 at home and a wife, okay, it's time to lead 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.680 your family spiritually to where you feel called. But when 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:03.879 you're sixteen and you're with your parents, there is a 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:08.720 lot to be said for obeying your parents, following them. 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:12.520 And as Chad said, there's going to be truth in 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:15.080 all of these churches at some level. You're gonna be 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:17.880 able to find truth there. You're gonna have worship, You're 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:21.200 gonna be able to worship, and everyone in that congregation 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:24.520 doesn't all believe the same They're not all against you. 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:28.480 There's people in there in those seats that feel the 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:32.200 same way as you do. And if you're brave enough 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:35.159 at sixteen, which I'm not necessarily even calling you to 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:37.040 do this, but if you're brave enough, you could approach 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:42.040 an elder in the church, maybe even the pastor himself. Yeah, 0:18:42.080 --> 0:18:45.440 I mean that would be powerful if as a pastor, 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:48.119 if I have a sixteen year old approach me about 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:52.280 some things that I've been saying or teaching in a 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:58.160 humble Wayah, that would be powerful, It would for both parties. Yeah, 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:01.480 I think that's that's your answer. Man. I don't think 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:04.440 you move right now. I think I think you stay 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:09.320 put and you continue to learn, and for everyone, continue 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:12.200 to read the scripture on your own, in your own time, 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:15.920 your own quiet time, which I was not doing at sixteen. 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:20.480 I was not diligently sitting up and reading on my own, 0:19:21.520 --> 0:19:25.760 on my own merit, on my own discipline. I was 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:27.720 not doing that at sixteen. So what I'm what I'm 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:30.760 asking from you is above and beyond what I was 0:19:30.760 --> 0:19:34.920 capable of at that age. But reading on your own. 0:19:34.960 --> 0:19:40.720 Everyone should be able to read their own and draw 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:44.720 their own interpretations through their own reading and led by 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:50.560 the Holy Spirit. That's a good question, man, That is good. Yeah, 0:19:50.600 --> 0:19:54.119 thank you, Kyle, and shout out to Utah. Where do 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:56.560 you want to go out, Chad? So we had a 0:19:56.640 --> 0:20:00.440 question about masculinity. Yeah, it does mean be a man. 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:02.760 It says for you, Kamma, what is it to be 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:08.240 a man? I read that one, sir. It says, Hey, grangeer, 0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:10.560 how's it going. I've been trying to figure out how 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:13.280 to answer this for a while. Now. I know we 0:20:13.320 --> 0:20:17.600 all have different answers, but I haven't been able to 0:20:17.640 --> 0:20:20.640 get my answer. So I figured your answer might help 0:20:20.680 --> 0:20:23.760 me figure out mine. I ask you this because you're 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:27.359 the best man, better said, most complete man I've ever seen. 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.320 So for you, what is it to be a man? 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:36.919 And what makes a man a man? Thanks? David. I 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:41.560 have to say, right off the bat boom to I 0:20:41.640 --> 0:20:44.679 have to rebuke the me being the best man or 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:48.399 the most complete man. And it's interesting because Chad and 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:50.760 I were talking about right before we started this podcast. 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:53.880 We're talking about the world of social media, the world 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:59.520 of influence that is unknown to humanity up until now, 0:21:00.080 --> 0:21:02.800 in fact, maybe even the last five years that recent 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:07.120 that we could look everywhere and we could see examples 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:13.359 and influence everywhere, and every time you see it, you're 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:16.520 only seeing what you're supposed to be seeing. You're seeing 0:21:16.560 --> 0:21:21.320 what that influencer has prepared you to see. So you're 0:21:21.320 --> 0:21:26.440 not seeing my flaws and my mistakes, and you didn't 0:21:26.440 --> 0:21:29.560 see my journey in my stumbling blocks and my obstacles 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:34.440 and the ones that still come up. So you can't 0:21:34.480 --> 0:21:38.240 look at me as the complete man. But I can 0:21:38.320 --> 0:21:43.159 lead you where you can, and that's in the four Gospels, 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:46.480 in the Bible. You can find the complete man there. 0:21:46.800 --> 0:21:50.760 And so I could tell you if you're looking at me, 0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:54.160 I could tell you what I'm looking at to try 0:21:54.200 --> 0:21:58.040 to seek this same answer. And I think Chad seeks 0:21:58.040 --> 0:21:59.800 the same answer. I think at some level all of 0:21:59.840 --> 0:22:03.000 us seek the answer of what is it? What is 0:22:03.040 --> 0:22:04.960 it to be a man? So we continue to study 0:22:05.640 --> 0:22:08.640 every day. Yeah, yeah, that was a big part of 0:22:08.640 --> 0:22:14.119 my growing up and not having a dad present in 0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:19.760 the home for me, a lot of my early years, 0:22:19.840 --> 0:22:23.840 teenage years, formative years, I was exploring and asking that question, 0:22:23.920 --> 0:22:27.119 not even knowing I was asking that question, but wanting 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:31.240 to know when do I arrive, When do I become 0:22:31.400 --> 0:22:33.880 this thing called a man? And so I'm looking at 0:22:34.080 --> 0:22:36.879 I'm watching movies, I'm listening to music. I'm trying to 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:42.520 look outside, mostly in pop culture for masculinity, and a 0:22:42.560 --> 0:22:47.160 lot of it had to, you know, revolve around alcohol, drugs, sex. 0:22:47.320 --> 0:22:52.680 It was those were in those arenas. That's where I 0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:56.520 saw what I thought was manhood. And it was a 0:22:56.560 --> 0:23:02.200 big part of me understanding full what the Gospel is 0:23:02.640 --> 0:23:07.440 my new life in Christ and then having manhood defined 0:23:08.240 --> 0:23:13.280 completely counter culturally, and realizing that in Christ we have 0:23:13.560 --> 0:23:18.600 a demonstration of manhood that involves vision right, the ability 0:23:18.680 --> 0:23:23.080 to see God's power and presence despite the obstacles. The 0:23:23.080 --> 0:23:27.840 idea of empowering others and enabling others rather than using 0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:31.919 other people. The idea of integrity that man, what you 0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:34.080 see is what you get. I'm not going to put 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:36.960 on a show and be something I'm not. The idea 0:23:37.000 --> 0:23:39.760 of attitude that I can't control what happens to me, 0:23:39.880 --> 0:23:42.320 but I can control how I respond to those things, 0:23:42.359 --> 0:23:47.840 and so therefore my attitude, humility, the idea of that 0:23:47.880 --> 0:23:50.639 I'm not going to build up myself. I'm going to 0:23:50.720 --> 0:23:54.040 walk humbly and have a right understanding of myself, my capabilities, 0:23:54.840 --> 0:23:59.080 and you know, the idea of meekness which man our 0:23:59.119 --> 0:24:03.280 culture often associates just because it rhymes with weakness, but 0:24:03.440 --> 0:24:07.840 meekness in the understanding that it is power under control, 0:24:08.680 --> 0:24:12.320 like the ability to have as a man, we have 0:24:12.400 --> 0:24:16.360 certain strengths and abilities. We don't always need to tout those, 0:24:16.400 --> 0:24:19.359 we don't always need to make that the thing that 0:24:19.359 --> 0:24:21.560 people know about us, but we use it in order 0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:25.600 to serve and help other people. It's like a Nascar 0:24:25.680 --> 0:24:29.040 going into the pit, going at forty miles an hour 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:32.880 and all that power under complete control. At forty miles 0:24:32.920 --> 0:24:36.560 an hour, it could wide open, it could, but it's 0:24:36.640 --> 0:24:42.520 holding it in meekness. And that, guys, that's a powerful thing. 0:24:43.359 --> 0:24:50.360 Is harnessing what you're capable of and a very controlled atmosphere. 0:24:50.880 --> 0:24:54.080 And that's the much harder thing to do than fly 0:24:54.119 --> 0:25:01.240 off the handle and engage in power full strength. When 0:25:01.240 --> 0:25:03.119 you see it, when you see a quarterback and you're 0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:08.919 watching football and you see him going going off at 0:25:08.920 --> 0:25:12.479 the ref or casting out the coach or throwing his helmet, 0:25:13.040 --> 0:25:16.159 you just think, man, what a loser. But when you 0:25:16.160 --> 0:25:20.040 see the quarterback that it's fourth down and two, he's 0:25:20.040 --> 0:25:23.760 got to make this first down, he's just cold. His eyes, 0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:29.520 his eyes are clear. He's composed. He's composed. He's checking 0:25:29.520 --> 0:25:31.600 out the line of scrimmage, looking back and forth. He 0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:35.240 knows exactly where he's going. That's that meekness in that quarterback. 0:25:35.440 --> 0:25:37.800 That's so admirable, and you go, I want to be 0:25:37.800 --> 0:25:40.960 on that guy's team. And he might not even make it, 0:25:41.240 --> 0:25:42.960 he might not get it. And you know that if 0:25:42.960 --> 0:25:45.240 he doesn't get it, He's going to be ready for 0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:48.080 the next game. And if he does get it, he's 0:25:48.119 --> 0:25:50.240 not going to take the credit for it. He's going 0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:53.640