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Speaker 1: to know when things get rough, when it seems like

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Speaker 1: How do you find happiness when it seems like there

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Speaker 1: is none left? I'm glad we pulled up this question

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Speaker 1: did change in much tired and long line of my

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Speaker 1: fool of hump and down going back, Rangy cove evage.

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Speaker 1: Yeah youation alright one of my favorite guests, Chad. People

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Speaker 1: were lucky that ask questions today. Chad is uh so grounded,

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Speaker 1: such a a good thinker, good listener, good at kind

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Speaker 1: of I hope my wife's listening. Yeah, getting all this?

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, you could kind of craft your way unbiasedly

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Speaker 1: if you guys want to uh, if you have any question.

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Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. That's the email email away.

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Speaker 1: The more and more I get your emails, the more

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Speaker 1: and more categories I get to divide them into. And

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Speaker 1: with I'm gonna start with a very light one. It's says, hey, Granger,

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Speaker 1: my name is Dakota. What my question is, what is

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Speaker 1: You drop the mic. Yeah, I look at that poet.

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Speaker 1: probably interests people. Hey Granger, my name is Joe. I'm thirteen. Man.

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Speaker 1: You guys get a young man. I know I have

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Speaker 1: so much stuff I have to pay for Ammo prices

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Speaker 1: he's from Montana. Just like, yes, so did he say

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Speaker 1: he's thirteen? I have run into this so many times

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Speaker 1: over and over. But yes, thirteen, thirteen and thirteen he's

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Speaker 1: don't know? That's what I'm like. What So he's he's

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Speaker 1: it is my truck savings account. He's saving up for

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Speaker 1: does sound like I'm Montana. It sounds like he's like

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Speaker 1: I don't mean that in any kind of offensive way,

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Speaker 1: that's what I want to do. How do I get there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: How do I start saving so I could do that?

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Speaker 1: When when I look at it and go, man, you've

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Speaker 1: what if you go down to a local hunting outfit

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Speaker 1: and say, my name's Joe, I'm willing to work for

639
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: food and gas money, and I just want to be

640
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: part of this organization. I love elk hunting, I love

641
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:45,800
Speaker 1: being out in the woods, and I want to learn

642
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 1: and I want to learn from you older guys, and

643
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:52,720
Speaker 1: I'll carry your packs, or I'll sweep the floor, I'll

644
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 1: wash your cars. I'm actually from a car to you

645
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 1: detailing company. I could wash your trucks for you. I

646
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 1: can clean your rifles for you, exactly. There's a book

647
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:07,280
Speaker 1: called Where the Red Fern Grows, such an awesome classic,

648
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 1: one of my favorites, and so it's like a strange

649
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: it's like a strange ride, a passage in my family

650
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 1: where I have to read it to my kids when

651
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 1: they get to a certain age. We read it together.

652
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 1: I read it aloud. And it's a story of this

653
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: boy who his passion like yours, great our Joe greatyst

654
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 1: email Joe is too. So he wants to go hunting,

655
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: and he wants to hunt raccoons with two dogs. And

656
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 1: he can't afford the dogs or anything that goes with it,

657
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 1: so he starts doing all kinds of odd jobs like

658
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: collecting collecting berries and helping his grandpa at the general

659
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 1: store and trapping hides. And this takes place in their

660
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:54,320
Speaker 1: late eighteen hundreds in Arkansas or Oklahoma, and he earns

661
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 1: enough to buy these dogs that they're fifty dollars for

662
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 1: two dogs. So that's that's an awesome book. And it's

663
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: such a simple, simple task for a simple goal. He

664
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 1: wants two dogs and he needs to make money to

665
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: get there. I think it's awesome you have dreams. And

666
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: I think Chad is absolutely right that it's awesome you

667
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 1: have this kind of ambition when we just talked about

668
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: the entitlement problem, the millennial problem that we mentioned, and

669
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: you don't seem to have that at all. In fact,

670
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 1: you're willing to take on more and you're wanting advice

671
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 1: on how to expand even more what you're already doing.

672
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:36,399
Speaker 1: But the fact is these years are going to fly by.

673
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:38,840
Speaker 1: You're going to be fourteen, then you're gonna be fifteen,

674
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 1: so fast, you're gonna be twenty and go, man, where

675
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 1: did the seven years go? And you don't want to say,

676
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 1: I know where those seven years went, working at the

677
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: card to you telling business so that I could buy

678
00:41:54,000 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: something that I don't even have anymore. So keep them,

679
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 1: keep the passion and the ambition. Maybe pump the brakes

680
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: on money, money, money, and find a way. There's my

681
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,919
Speaker 1: brothers and I always say, there's there's always a back

682
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: door to every house you want to go into, and

683
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: in country music, we constantly see the line waiting at

684
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: the front door of people trying to get in, and

685
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 1: we always could find some kind of open window that

686
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 1: we could crawl through in the back. And I'm suggesting

687
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 1: that with you, with this, with your l hunting passion,

688
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 1: that there may be a back window you could slide

689
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 1: through into one of these companies and you might be

690
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 1: hunting for free, just for a sweeping the floor of

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00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 1: the hunting lodge. Yeah, that's cool, Thank you, Joe. Let's

692
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 1: see we got well here. This is the one that

693
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:52,439
Speaker 1: says question I opened it up. I saw the word

694
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 1: church in it. You work at a church. Let's read

695
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: this one says hey Granger. I found out through my

696
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 1: son watching Earl about you, and I watched the Smiths

697
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: and your family as much as we can. Here's the deal.

698
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: I've been in church my whole life. Recently changed churches

699
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:11,439
Speaker 1: as something was missing in our old one. Things have

700
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: been better, but I need some personal Not sure how

701
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: to say it. Tune up. Do you have an author

702
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: or simply a daily devotional for a guy needs to

703
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 1: be paper is I don't do any kind of apps.

704
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:27,799
Speaker 1: I work alone. I have a lot of time to

705
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: think thanks a lot, James from Ontario, Canada. So you

706
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 1: have some classics out there, my utmost for His Highest

707
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:45,400
Speaker 1: by Oswald Chambers. You've got Morning and Evenings by Charles

708
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 1: Spurgeon that I think are phenomenal. You can get some

709
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 1: really cool if you like paper, you can get some

710
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 1: really cool kind of old bound versions of both of those. Yes,

711
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: there would be one that's a little bit more intense

712
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: but still highly valuable. Is it's called for the Love

713
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: of God, and it is there's a two volume version,

714
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: but it basically yeah, you can get one volume per year.

715
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: But these are all designed around daily interaction in the scriptures,

716
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: so that you're every day, every year in the Word

717
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: and these these men and very gifted teachers give you

718
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: some insight into the text. Yeah, that's great. There was

719
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: one that I got got one time for a gift

720
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,839
Speaker 1: and I went through it in a year and it

721
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,880
Speaker 1: was like Devotionals from a deer blind or something. So

722
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 1: it's very you know, it's very country relevant. It would

723
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 1: read read a passage, help explain the passage, and then

724
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 1: it would have a direct relation to nature in the

725
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: outdoors and a way to connect with those thoughts in

726
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: the outdoors. I'm assuming this is kind of where you're

727
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 1: coming from. I know Ontario. Ontario is a very, very

728
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: country place, so I think the fact is there's a lot.

729
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: There's a lot of really good ones, and if you

730
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 1: find a Christian bookstore, maybe they could even direct you

731
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:30,320
Speaker 1: to some of these. And I always have to say

732
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 1: that at one time in my life I became what

733
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: I call a devotional junkie, and it became for me,

734
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 1: not everyone, and I'm just speaking for myself. It became

735
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:45,280
Speaker 1: a little bit dangerous because it started replacing the actual

736
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 1: Bible reading itself, and it starts to kind of clearcoat

737
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:59,479
Speaker 1: the Bible and cherry pick and paint everything beautifully, when

738
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 1: that's not always what we need in our life. Sometimes

739
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:06,800
Speaker 1: we just need to go straight to the truth. And

740
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 1: what it also does, I think reading too many devotionals.

741
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 1: Once again, it's not bad or wrong in any way.

742
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: It's not wrong, but it needs to be a supplement,

743
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 1: not a source. And it starts if you take the

744
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: supplement too much, it starts to dilute the source, where

745
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: the source gets boring or doesn't matter, or becomes irrelevant.

746
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: There's the danger of it, once again, not saying James

747
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 1: that that could happen to you. But this is what

748
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: happened to me. It starts to dilute the source, and

749
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 1: so I had to I had to get rid of

750
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: all devotionals and go straight to the source until I

751
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 1: was good enough in the source that I could supplement,

752
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. And I think a way to

753
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: guard against that is, you know, in a devotional, they'll

754
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: have the scripture passage, and some of them have the

755
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 1: passage kind of printed out there, or you need to

756
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: have your Bible ready. But I would say always begin

757
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 1: with whatever passage that they're going to kind of give

758
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 1: you their devotional thoughts on. You read the scripture first.

759
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 1: You get into that passage, you read it, you process it,

760
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 1: you want it, and then see what they are going

761
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: to say or guide you in. So don't just open

762
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 1: it up, see the scripture reference, and then read their

763
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 1: thoughts and then move on. Yeah, make sure it's you

764
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 1: guys having a conversation whoever the author of that devotional

765
00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:33,440
Speaker 1: is about the text. Yeah, yeah, and read the paragraph

766
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 1: before the text and the paragraph after the text, just

767
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: to get some of the foundation of where it's coming from.

768
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 1: You got to have that contrast a little bit for

769
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: me when this all came to a head with me,

770
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: I just started in Matthew Matthew one, opened it up,

771
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:55,240
Speaker 1: It's the beginning of the New Testament, and started reading

772
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: just cold, no devotional, just out of my own interpretation,

773
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 1: and made it all the way through the New Testament

774
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:06,879
Speaker 1: once before I was ready to then now onally check

775
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: out some man made references and oh yes, I remember

776
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: that part and I know how that now I know,

777
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 1: and it just and it connects everything way better. It's

778
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: it's like watching take your favorite movie, and you could

779
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 1: live your whole life just watching the preview of the movie.

780
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: That's a great way to put it. And the previews

781
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:30,239
Speaker 1: are great, they're entertaining, you get a lot from it,

782
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 1: but you're missing the whole thing, yeah, getting the highlights

783
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: of it. And so no matter no matter how you

784
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 1: think about the preview, you're still not seeing the end.

785
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:43,720
Speaker 1: They're not going to show you the end on the preview.

786
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 1: They're not seeing the wrap up. So anyway, that reminds

787
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: me of the podcast idea. Remember I floated by you, Yes, yes,

788
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 1: this idea of what would it be like to on

789
00:48:55,920 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: a weekly basis just open the text, read a passage

790
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 1: and just talk about it. But read the text and

791
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: get into a passage of scripture and then continue with

792
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: the next one, and just read through a book of

793
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: the Bible at a time and just talk about it.

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00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 1: You know, I think that would be so exciting. I would.

795
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 1: I mean, I do that every day anyway, so it'd

796
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: be fun to to do it. Yeah. Sometimes if you do,

797
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: if you get into this James, regardless or if it's

798
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:31,720
Speaker 1: devotional or if it's just Bible itself, say say prayer

799
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 1: before you start, that you have a clear mind to

800
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,359
Speaker 1: be reading it, that you're reading it, not to just

801
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 1: check a box, but you read it, or that you

802
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 1: filled a space at your at your work when you're

803
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:48,720
Speaker 1: alone because you're bored. Don't think that's what you're doing.

804
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: But say quick prayer and it could be as informal

805
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:55,920
Speaker 1: as you want. Just God, I'm about to open up

806
00:49:55,920 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: this word and I need it to speak to me.

807
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 1: I need to see you through this text. I need

808
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: to understand you better through this text in the way

809
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 1: that it relates to me. And it's a it's a

810
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: supernatural book. It does supernatural things, and you can't read

811
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: it like it's where the red fern grows right. Yeah, yeah,

812
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 1: I was open with in Psalm one nineteen think it's

813
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:26,439
Speaker 1: verse sixteen. Just was reading that this week. Were you yes?

814
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:30,920
Speaker 1: Psalm one nineteen and he says, Lord, open my eyes

815
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: so that I may behold wondrous things from your word.

816
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: But this this request that God would open or pass

817
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:42,399
Speaker 1: to see what's there. Yeah, it's perfect. There's a time

818
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 1: and it's like in the fifties. I don't remember which one,

819
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:48,400
Speaker 1: but it says, it is good that I've been afflicted.

820
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: It is good that I have been afflicted. That is

821
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 1: so powerful and not many people could come to that

822
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 1: kind of reallyation that it's good that I've been afflicted.

823
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: Let's go to thank you, James. Let's go to all

824
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 1: that you choose. Chad. Hey, Grangeer needs some advice, promotion,

825
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 1: please answer or faith in friends? Uh, either advice or

826
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 1: please answer. We've been I don't know they'll seem I

827
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: get yeah, I feel bad for that. Let's go to

828
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: please answer. It says, Hey, this is Jake from Wisconsin.

829
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 1: You thought state farmed, didn't you. I just want to

830
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: start by saying I love all your stuff and your

831
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: music and YouTube and your family. Thank you. Buddy, it says,

832
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: but I want to know when things get rough, when

833
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 1: it seems like no one is there for you, or

834
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: mainly the one or mainly the one that you want

835
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 1: to be there for you doesn't seem to care, how

836
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 1: do you push through to find motivation to move on

837
00:51:57,800 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 1: and be happy again? How do you find happy when

838
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 1: it seems like there is none left? I'm glad we

839
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: pulled up this question. Thank you, Jake. Shout out to

840
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 1: Wisconsin and man that this is this is like the

841
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:19,880
Speaker 1: question is this is the question that everyone asks and

842
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 1: just words it differently, and you just went straight to

843
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:26,720
Speaker 1: the point. How do you find happiness when it seems

844
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: like there is none left? Such a human emotion, such

845
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 1: a human sentiment. Yeah, because I think it's very easy

846
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 1: to tie our our happiness to circumstances. Right the if

847
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: the conditions are ideal or our expectations are fulfilled, then

848
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: we can be happy. And I think there's true liberation

849
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: and freedom when our joy, which I'm going to use

850
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 1: a different word, right, our ultimate ultimate contentment isn't tied

851
00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: to circumstance or fulfilled expectations, because rarely do things play

852
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 1: out the way we would design them. And usually it's

853
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: probably better that they don't, right, Yeah, that and I mean,

854
00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:27,399
Speaker 1: how awesome, how blessed is it to be somebody who

855
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 1: navigates this world and can have joy through a variety

856
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:37,760
Speaker 1: of different circumstances, because it's never tied to if this happens,

857
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 1: then I'll be happy, or if this plays out, then

858
00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 1: I'll be happy. But it has to be tied to

859
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 1: something that's not that doesn't ebb and flow or go

860
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 1: with the waves of the sea. Right, it's not tossed about,

861
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:53,759
Speaker 1: but a joy that is tied to something that is unchanging,

862
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 1: you know where I'm going from. Right, So, if we

863
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 1: tire how happiness to a job or something that's there

864
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 1: in the future, something that we're hoping for that we

865
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 1: hope plays out, or we tie it to a person,

866
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 1: those things will almost eventually not turn out and have

867
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 1: a high probability of failing. But if our hope is

868
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 1: in something that is sure and yeah, isn't influenced by

869
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 1: you know, humanity or circumstances or job or money. Do

870
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 1: you get this kind of question when you're when you're

871
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:42,839
Speaker 1: doing discipleship or counseling or yep, yeah, almost all the time.

872
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 1: Almost all the time I figured. So this question sounds

873
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 1: like the root of this question from Jake sounds like

874
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: it's it's some kind of breakup, because he says, I

875
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 1: want to know when things get rough, when it seems

876
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,400
Speaker 1: like no one is there for you, or mainly the

877
00:54:57,440 --> 00:54:59,919
Speaker 1: one you want to be there for you doesn't seem

878
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: care mm hm. It sounds like there's been some kind

879
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 1: of either girlfriend breakup, wife divorce, wife separation, or even

880
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: a good friend has turned his back. So we are

881
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 1: we are humans need community, we need connection. We're built

882
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 1: for connection and community. And the good news for Jake

883
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:31,840
Speaker 1: is that we live in a modern world where it

884
00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:35,399
Speaker 1: is we all we live closer together than we ever

885
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 1: have in human history. Meaning if you were a pioneer

886
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 1: in New Mexico on a ranch and you're you know,

887
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 1: you're all alone, it would be tough. It would be

888
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 1: really tough. You know, you'd have to move to Kansas

889
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 1: City or something. But Jake, wherever you are in Wisconsin,

890
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 1: don't don't shut me off here. Okay, don't don't shut

891
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,840
Speaker 1: this podcast off when I say this. But there's a

892
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: church close to you. And the reason I could even

893
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 1: say that is because I was in I was in

894
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:16,480
Speaker 1: South Dakota on Sunday, Sue Falls, and I called Chad

895
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:19,640
Speaker 1: here about a week and a half ago or so,

896
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 1: and I said, Hey, I'm going to be in Sue Falls,

897
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 1: South Dakota on Sunday. We're playing that night, and I'm

898
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: going to be available that Sunday to go to a church.

899
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 1: Do you have anybody there that you know of? He

900
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 1: did a little research. I still don't really know how

901
00:56:35,120 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 1: you did it, but he found a church for me.

902
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: He goid, hey, check this out. Here's the website. If

903
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 1: I was going to Sue Falls, this is where I

904
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:45,799
Speaker 1: would go. So I was like cool, So I went

905
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 1: and I went in with all these strangers. Of course

906
00:56:50,239 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 1: I had two of my guys with me, but I

907
00:56:52,719 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: went in to this church with strangers, and I went

908
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 1: straight to the hospitality desk. I'd already emailed them before

909
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 1: and told them I was new and coming, and they

910
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 1: had a little gift bag waiting for me with a

911
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 1: little coffee mug and a journal and a pin and

912
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:12,719
Speaker 1: we we had a great talk and then and then

913
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 1: I was just welcomed instantly into this family. I'm not

914
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: gonna lie guys on this podcast. We started to worship.

915
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 1: I literally started crying. I literally started crying because I

916
00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 1: had been on the road for a week. I was

917
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 1: away from my family, away from my friends in Texas,

918
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 1: and I felt like I was home. I felt for

919
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 1: that time under that roof, I was accepted, I was wanted,

920
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:43,439
Speaker 1: and I was connecting with other humans. And the reason

921
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 1: I even bring it up is because you said, when

922
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 1: it feels like no one is there for you, and

923
00:57:48,240 --> 00:57:50,959
Speaker 1: I'm telling you that wherever you go in Wisconsin down

924
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:55,560
Speaker 1: the road is a is a church, and I'll help

925
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 1: you find one. So if you wow, if you need

926
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: help right there, I will. Yeah, I'll find one that

927
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 1: I would go to near you. That's an incredible offer.

928
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: I don't know how I would do that. Or email

929
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: right back here, Okaja, email right back here if this

930
00:58:09,960 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 1: is something that's perking your interest, and it absolutely might not,

931
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: but you asked me, and so this is my answer

932
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: and this is my podcast. So if email right back

933
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 1: on the same email and say yes, actually, I would

934
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: like to hear from Chad about a church. Okay, Chad's

935
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: going to get your hometown and he's going to find

936
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: that for you. In fact, I don't know if I

937
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: shouldn't even say this on air, but maybe if there's

938
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 1: anyone listening that has that similar question goes, well, I'm

939
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 1: in South Carolina, this town. Where is there a place here? Yeah,

940
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 1: we might not always be able to find you one,

941
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:53,800
Speaker 1: but well look, yep, so good call. Yeah. Yeah, we're

942
00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:56,840
Speaker 1: kind of like in the middle of maybe have time

943
00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: to do one more. Let's do this promotion. Hey Grainger,

944
00:59:01,080 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: my name is Justin Toner. I'm a big fan of

945
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 1: yours and I've been wondering if I can get your

946
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 1: opinion on something. I've been at my job for six

947
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 1: years now, finally got a promotion dot dot sort of.

948
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 1: They told me I have the job, but they needed

949
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:19,040
Speaker 1: to hire my replacement first. Well that happens, and then

950
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 1: someone quits and now I have to stay longer. And

951
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:23,040
Speaker 1: they've been telling me different excuses and why I can't

952
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 1: just move up yet, and they keep delaying it. Would

953
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,920
Speaker 1: you just work through that or start looking for a

954
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 1: new job. It's been four months since they told me

955
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 1: I have the job. Thanks for your time. Come back

956
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:39,919
Speaker 1: to TOLS so soon. This is one of these questions

957
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 1: where we just need you really present with us, so

958
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 1: you could say so many questions. You could say, how's

959
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:50,600
Speaker 1: your boss, how's your commute to work, how's your benefits,

960
00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: what's your skills? How easily could you move to another position? This? Man,

961
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 1: I have to say this because going to go back

962
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: to what we've said several times, here is open communication

963
01:00:06,920 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: with your boss. It's a hey, boss, I would love

964
01:00:12,560 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 1: to be able to grab lunch with you or sit

965
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:19,280
Speaker 1: down with you. When's a good time next Friday? Okay, no,

966
01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: how about next Tuesday? And so you can get him.

967
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 1: You just need ten minutes with him and just say, boss,

968
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 1: I love this job. I'm even more excited about this promotion,

969
01:00:32,520 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 1: and I feel like I could really deliver for you

970
01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: in this capacity. And to be totally honest with you,

971
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit stuck right now because I'm kind

972
01:00:41,560 --> 01:00:43,960
Speaker 1: of in this I'm in my old job and I

973
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: was excited, and so I'm needing some motivation. How could

974
01:00:47,360 --> 01:00:51,280
Speaker 1: I stay motivated and still be encouraged that I am

975
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:53,160
Speaker 1: going to move up? Is there a date you could

976
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:55,960
Speaker 1: give me? Is there a deadline you can give me? Yeah?

977
01:00:56,040 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 1: I think that's the open communication. I think that just

978
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 1: would clarify a lot and asking for give me a

979
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 1: sense of the timeline, what needs to happen and when

980
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,560
Speaker 1: does that need to happen for me? Because I want

981
01:01:11,600 --> 01:01:14,640
Speaker 1: to continue to be excited about working here and that

982
01:01:14,680 --> 01:01:18,120
Speaker 1: future promotional job that you've offered. I continue to get

983
01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 1: excited about that. But because you offered it, you got

984
01:01:21,200 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 1: the wheels turning, and so now I'm really excited. And

985
01:01:23,840 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 1: if you don't think that that's a possibility, I might

986
01:01:26,360 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 1: need to explore something, because you know I'm thinking about

987
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:34,120
Speaker 1: that in that new position. Man, I would almost write

988
01:01:34,160 --> 01:01:37,760
Speaker 1: down what Chad said on a notepad and memorize it somewhat,

989
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,920
Speaker 1: and an honest boss, Hey, if the guy is not

990
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 1: a good guy, then you don't need to be there anyway.

991
01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 1: If he doesn't accept that with open ears and just say,

992
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 1: justin absolutely, let me give you a straight answer. If

993
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 1: he can't, that's a good indication you're not in the

994
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 1: right place anyway. But any decent man would say, I

995
01:01:58,800 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 1: get it, absolutely, this is this is on me, and

996
01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: this is a this is a bad circumstance because of

997
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:06,440
Speaker 1: we lot. We needed to hire a replacement for your

998
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 1: old job, so someone quit. Justin, I get it. Let

999
01:02:12,360 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 1: me tell you what. Let me tell you what. July first,

1000
01:02:15,320 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna be either bump up your pay

1001
01:02:17,680 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 1: or you're gonna be the new spot. But we need

1002
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 1: you here. Don't leave, or he might say, man, I'm

1003
01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:25,520
Speaker 1: in a different spot than I was when I told

1004
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 1: you you'd have the promotion. I don't think I'm in

1005
01:02:27,760 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 1: the position to say that. And then you can go, Okay,

1006
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: here's my two weeks. Yeah, and you'll feel better about

1007
01:02:34,040 --> 01:02:35,919
Speaker 1: it when you leave because you'll feel like you put

1008
01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 1: it all on the table. Yeah. Yeah, that's a good call, dude.

1009
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:42,440
Speaker 1: That's all the time we have. That went fast. I

1010
01:02:42,560 --> 01:02:44,480
Speaker 1: know it went fast. If you guys want to see

1011
01:02:44,560 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: chat again, say more Chad in the comments. But yeah,

1012
01:02:48,240 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 1: you guys are awesome. See you next time. Thanks for

1013
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 1: joining me on the granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all

1014
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:56,840
Speaker 1: of you guys. You could help me out by rating

1015
01:02:56,880 --> 01:03:00,480
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1016
01:03:00,560 --> 01:03:03,800
Speaker 1: this channel. Hit that little like button and the notification

1017
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Speaker 1: spell so that you never miss anytime I upload a video.

1018
01:03:08,120 --> 01:03:09,760
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1019
01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

1020
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: Yie