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Speaker 1: a guy on the phone for a second date update today.
Speaker 1: His name is Kurt, and Kurt's request is kind of weird,
Speaker 1: okay because normally when people write into the show for help,
Speaker 1: there was an actual date that happened. Yeah, but Kurt
Speaker 1: hasn't really been out with this woman yet. Well then
Speaker 1: why doesn't countess? I'm sorry? Why are we wasting time
Speaker 1: with people that are falling? Well, it's kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know middle school rules, where Kurt wants us to
Speaker 1: ask her friend to go ask her if she likes him,
Speaker 1: and then she'll tell her friend to come back to us,
Speaker 1: and then we'll report it back to Kurt. Do you
Speaker 1: like like like likeness circle? Yes? No? Or maybe on
Speaker 1: this crumpled up piece of paper? Can no one be
Speaker 1: an adult these days? No? I don't know, Kurt? You
Speaker 1: can you? All right? I have been extremely misrepresented already.
Speaker 1: I am an adult. I've asked her out. We've actually
Speaker 1: shared appetizers and fingerfoods, so we kind of happened on
Speaker 1: a day. Okay, well maybe your email just confused me.
Speaker 1: Why don't you tell us a little bit more about her.
Speaker 1: I'll break it down for you so that you can
Speaker 1: understand a little better. Oh, thank you so much. Like
Speaker 1: you obviously listen to the show. You need to talk slow.
Speaker 1: I know how to handle you, guys. So what's her name?
Speaker 1: Her name's Cassie, and how'd you meet her. I'm actually
Speaker 1: a server for a catering company, and so I actually
Speaker 1: get hit on by women a lot of these parties,
Speaker 1: but they're usually much molder than me, and the kind
Speaker 1: of like cougars who have had a few too many
Speaker 1: champagne flutes. I was going to comment on how hot
Speaker 1: I think men with food are, but now I'm not
Speaker 1: going to after you finished that sentencear, No, I am
Speaker 1: very young and hip. Oh yeah, so is Cassie one
Speaker 1: of the cougars. No. I finally met a nice, beautiful
Speaker 1: lady who is in my age range. That's exciting, And
Speaker 1: I mean, did you notice her first, or did she
Speaker 1: notice you. I mean I definitely noticed her. I don't
Speaker 1: know when she noticed me, but she was with her
Speaker 1: little group of friends, and she was wearing this very
Speaker 1: sexy little black dress. And I'm very observant, and I
Speaker 1: have to be especially observant when I noticed a gorgeous
Speaker 1: young woman. If I noticed that she liked this particular
Speaker 1: little finger food that we were serving as He's mashed
Speaker 1: sweet potato avocado bites. Yea, women in their avocados, they
Speaker 1: can't resist actually are really good. So I noticed that
Speaker 1: she was like really digging the so a buddy of mine,
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, dude, let me get that tray.
Speaker 1: So I switched the trades, and then I was like
Speaker 1: circling back to her little group of friends as much
Speaker 1: as possible, just so I could like interact with her
Speaker 1: and just kind of get a feel for you know
Speaker 1: what she was all about. Yeah, for sure, like sprinting
Speaker 1: all the way around the outside of the party and
Speaker 1: coming right back to her. And now I'm realizing why
Speaker 1: all the ogos at these parties are always carrying the
Speaker 1: crappy ass because the hot guys took the good one.
Speaker 1: You gotta trade up for the best food. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: guys would be surprised. That's really actually very accurate. I know.
Speaker 1: I love getting this insight into the catering world. All right,
Speaker 1: So you were talking with Cassie a lot. How did
Speaker 1: that go? It was great? I mean she was really flirty.
Speaker 1: She's really funny, like she's waiting and cool. And then
Speaker 1: at one point, like I was like, whoa, she's into
Speaker 1: me because she's been because sometimes I'm kind of a
Speaker 1: dirty girl. I was like, whoa. I'd be like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't because I'm a dirty boy. She's like, no, actually,
Speaker 1: it's why I'm wearing a black dress. I tend to
Speaker 1: stain everything that I owned. She was definitely just like
Speaker 1: being funny. It was cute. Yeah, well that's a good sign, right,
Speaker 1: and then you're thinking it's on. I mean, it was
Speaker 1: your turn to make a move, would you do? I
Speaker 1: fully put my tray down and I just started having
Speaker 1: a full conversation with her. My boss was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta get back to work. But oh, it's a
Speaker 1: catering bad boy. I se So you told us that
Speaker 1: you didn't go on an official date with her, So
Speaker 1: how did this end? At the end of the night,
Speaker 1: I was like, we should hang out, and she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's really fun, and we exchanged numbers and we started texting,
Speaker 1: and after what she was doing on a Friday, and
Speaker 1: that got no response, I texted her again and I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, what did you get my text? And
Speaker 1: I never heard anything from her. So it's been like
Speaker 1: almost a week, kind of like maybe she has a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Maybe she was drunk and like didn't actually like me.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe you're not as sexy without a
Speaker 1: tray of avocados in your hand. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe she only likes me when she can get free
Speaker 1: little finger foods. Yeah, you were the gateway of the
Speaker 1: sweet potatoes. So what what's you her instinct? What is
Speaker 1: your instinct telling you? Maybe she'd turned off by me
Speaker 1: being a cater waiter. I don't know if she gave
Speaker 1: her number. So it is a good sign though, that
Speaker 1: she like took the time to flirt with you and
Speaker 1: gave you her number. I mean those are all signs
Speaker 1: that she probably is single. Yeah that's or she's a
Speaker 1: terrible girlfriend. I don't know exactly. Yeah, And I mean
Speaker 1: she was with like what seemed like all the best friends.
Speaker 1: So I said if she was married or like had
Speaker 1: a boyfriend, she wouldn't be openly flirting with some guy
Speaker 1: in front of all the song. Yeah, I think that
Speaker 1: this sounds hopeful. I think we can get you a date.
Speaker 1: So let's play a song. We'll come back and we'll
Speaker 1: call your sweet Potato princess, and we'll try and get
Speaker 1: you a second date up there. All right, brother, all right,
Speaker 1: we all know there's certain things a woman just can't resist,
Speaker 1: like a man with a guitar, a man in a
Speaker 1: freshly pressed uniform, or a man carrying a tray of
Speaker 1: sweet potato of a auto bites, Big boys, she'll definitely
Speaker 1: be whispering I want you in my mouth, even if
Speaker 1: she's only talking to those avocado bites. You guys need
Speaker 1: to be locked up. He is speaking truth right now,
Speaker 1: all right, Kurt. That's one of our listeners, Kurt, who
Speaker 1: emailed us for a second ad update. He was carrying
Speaker 1: a tray of delicious appetizers when he met a woman
Speaker 1: named Cassie at a party because he was working the
Speaker 1: event as part of a catering team and actually traded
Speaker 1: dishes with another server because he noticed Cassie like that
Speaker 1: particular food, so much, and she seemed to be flirting
Speaker 1: with him, and at the end of the night she
Speaker 1: even said I'd be down to hang out. But she
Speaker 1: hasn't responded to any of his techs since then. That's
Speaker 1: pretty much the story, Kurt. I just really hope it's
Speaker 1: not one of those situations where it's like, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't want to date the hired help. You know, I'll
Speaker 1: flirt with them, maybe fool around in a coat closet
Speaker 1: really quick, but not date them. It's below me. I mean, hey,
Speaker 1: that's the truth. I want to know it's I can
Speaker 1: move on, but I don't. I don't think she's like that.
Speaker 1: I don't think so either, because she wouldn't have given
Speaker 1: you her phone number if she thought that way, right,
Speaker 1: and she would. Dude, I'm impressed by her. That Napkin
Speaker 1: line about her being a dirty girl, I'm gonna tuck
Speaker 1: that away. I think that's a really nice line to you.
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, Kurt, you fell for it totally. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, guys, she's really cool. I know, it's
Speaker 1: just not as sexy when you're saying it to your
Speaker 1: husband while French onion soup is dripping down onto your movement.
Speaker 1: We're like, I'm a dirty girl, honey, and he's like,
Speaker 1: literally like, what is wrong? Can you not put a
Speaker 1: spoon in your mouth correctly? And where'd you get that French? Well? Listen,
Speaker 1: dirty girls get things and dirty girls walt. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: we have listeners tuning away by the thousands or turning
Speaker 1: them on. I'm sure that's what it is. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: let's stop grossing people out and call Cassie. Are you ready, Kurt? Yep?
Speaker 1: Let's do this all right, I'm gonna die the number
Speaker 1: right now here we go? Hello, Hi, can I speak
Speaker 1: to Cassie? Please? Do you think Hi? Cassie. My name
Speaker 1: is Jeffrey from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the Morning. You have a moment to talk with us.
Speaker 1: What is this about? This is about a segment we
Speaker 1: do on our show called a second Date Update. Have
Speaker 1: you ever heard of that before? I might have, I
Speaker 1: don't know. Well. The way it works is if you
Speaker 1: go out on a date with someone and afterwards they're
Speaker 1: not calling you back, you can email our show and
Speaker 1: we'll reach out to that person for you to figure
Speaker 1: out the reason why. Oh okay, yeah, and so we
Speaker 1: got an email about you recently from a guy you
Speaker 1: met named Kurt. Oh. Yeah, this one's kind of weird
Speaker 1: because you guys didn't actually go out on a date.
Speaker 1: This is just so weird. I'm not really used to
Speaker 1: getting a call like this and just like, Bam, tell
Speaker 1: me about this guy, like a little strange. Ye, yeah,
Speaker 1: he sounds so nice and cute though, Like, and he
Speaker 1: said that you guys had a really good connection. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I thought he was a cool person, but technically I
Speaker 1: never went on a date with him, so I don't
Speaker 1: know if I'm really supposed to be like talking about
Speaker 1: all this. Well, okay, let's let's forget the date stuff,
Speaker 1: whether it was a date or not. Like, did you
Speaker 1: like him, did you feel a connection? Because he definitely
Speaker 1: felt one with you. He said that you even told
Speaker 1: him that you'd be down to hang out with him sometime. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I would just maybe like in a group setting,
Speaker 1: you know, like nothing romantically. And I don't really know
Speaker 1: how to tell him that. Are you not single? Oh no,
Speaker 1: I'm not in a relationship. It's just like he's off limits.
Speaker 1: So it's just kind of like, yeah, he exchanged numbers,
Speaker 1: but it's like nothing's going to happen. There. So that's
Speaker 1: why I'm suggesting a group thing, because I did think
Speaker 1: he was really cool. I don't understand why is he
Speaker 1: off limits? If you're single and you think he's cute
Speaker 1: and you like him, what's the problem your parents not
Speaker 1: letting you date yet? Oh my god, Oh my god. No.
Speaker 1: To be one hundred percent honest, one of my friends
Speaker 1: called DIBs on him that night, and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: so I yeah, but you can't call DIBs on someone
Speaker 1: if they're not interested in you. Like she could call
Speaker 1: Dibbs if he gave her his phone number. She doesn't
Speaker 1: get to call Dibbs if he gave you his phone number. Well,
Speaker 1: it doesn't really work that way, because, like, I have
Speaker 1: a big group of friends and it was like, literally
Speaker 1: my friend Rebecca's turn to call DIBs on whoever she
Speaker 1: wanted to that night. And you know, we just kind
Speaker 1: of like respect this kind of thing in my group
Speaker 1: of friends. But why can't you talk to Rebecca about
Speaker 1: Dibbs because it doesn't make any sense. Did you hear
Speaker 1: her respect the dib I did talk to her about it,
Speaker 1: and honestly, I don't want any drama, guys. I just
Speaker 1: really want to avoid that at all cost. And when
Speaker 1: I spoke to her as, she was just like, no,
Speaker 1: like I called dibbs and that means something. So how
Speaker 1: is Rebecca ever even gonna find Kurt again? Rebecca doesn't
Speaker 1: have Kurt's phone number, or does she? Maybe Kurt gave
Speaker 1: out his phone number to multiple women. No, Like, I
Speaker 1: literally was just gonna like text him and see how
Speaker 1: I kind of like hooked them up together. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: were going to be the wing woman there, dude. What
Speaker 1: I mean, it's the same like you you call that
Speaker 1: dude and like nobody else gets to hit on him
Speaker 1: that night so that there's no drama later, right, Cassie
Speaker 1: follow me on this one. So basically she saw him first.
Speaker 1: She said, Hey, I called DIBs on him, and everyone
Speaker 1: else has to just kind of fall back and we
Speaker 1: just respect it. It's, you know, it's that whole sister's
Speaker 1: before misters kind of bangs, that is. But I got
Speaker 1: you pose before bros. Makes sense. I just I mean,
Speaker 1: it kind of makes sense, but I wonder if it
Speaker 1: makes sense to Kurt. But I forgot to tell you
Speaker 1: as that Kurt's been on the other line listening, Oh
Speaker 1: my god. Yeah, And he No, I'm serious. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: this is so uncomfortable. Hey Cassie, Hi boy, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: I'm all right. Um um, this is so awkward for me.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'm really sorry. You have to like
Speaker 1: care all this this way. No, I mean, don't be awkward.
Speaker 1: I mean you seem like such a fun, loving, cool
Speaker 1: girl that I have met you, so I'm surprised to
Speaker 1: hear you feel like awkward about this. Yeah, it's just
Speaker 1: you know, it's like a weird situation and you're definitely
Speaker 1: my type. I just want to put that out there.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I don't know how much you heard,
Speaker 1: but like basically, Rebecca, my blonde friend, the one that
Speaker 1: was with us, and like the first dress, Yeah, she
Speaker 1: called DIBs and there's really nothing I can do. All right,
Speaker 1: why don't you give me Rebecca's number. I'll call her up.
Speaker 1: We can work this out. WHOA, So you're gonna negotiate,
Speaker 1: Kurt or you're just gonna date her. I'm gonna negotiate.
Speaker 1: I don't have an interesting dating her. I'm clearly into Kathy,
Speaker 1: and if her friend is holding her back from like
Speaker 1: seeing a guy that she's into, you, like that's not
Speaker 1: being a friend. So that's a very good point, Kurt,
Speaker 1: you know what, that's so nice of you to say.
Speaker 1: But I don't want that kind of drama. I'll lose
Speaker 1: a friendship over it. And it's really too much, you
Speaker 1: know what. I mean. She's a really nice person, but
Speaker 1: like she gets pissed off. She's very vindictive. Wait, Cassie,
Speaker 1: I mean she sounds like a kind of terrible friend.
Speaker 1: I'm a totally sweet girl, but I will effing kill you. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: if that girl is that much drama, why do you
Speaker 1: even want her in your life anyway? No, we've just
Speaker 1: been friends for forever, you know. It's just the kind
Speaker 1: of person that kind of like has your back and
Speaker 1: all of that, and it's just like always available. But
Speaker 1: he puts her off in one of these kind of ways,
Speaker 1: she'll just like go nuts. Like we have another friend
Speaker 1: in our group who ended up poking up with our
Speaker 1: brother and Rebecca herself pissed off. She had this girl's cartoon.
Speaker 1: Oh that is very vindictive. I mean, but a brother
Speaker 1: hook up situation is different than this guy doesn't like you,
Speaker 1: Rebecca and he likes me. Sorry, right, that seems even
Speaker 1: worse Okay, I don't know. Let me ask Kathy this.
Speaker 1: What if I go on one fake date with your
Speaker 1: friend Rebecca. Yeah, I'll be like a total pig. I'll like,
Speaker 1: I have terrible manners, like I won't put on Deo
Speaker 1: rant that night, like, and then afterwards it's like the
Speaker 1: dip has been given up, undipped. I don't think it
Speaker 1: works that way. That's really really speed of you to try.
Speaker 1: I mean, so you're afraid of losing a friendship, but
Speaker 1: aren't you afraid of losing true love? Jessie and I
Speaker 1: even am true to the dip. Okay, yes, my heart
Speaker 1: is melting right now from every word that comes out
Speaker 1: of Kurt's mouth. Give me one date, and if it's
Speaker 1: horrible and you don't want to see me again, then
Speaker 1: Rebecca or whatever her name is, they didn't even need
Speaker 1: to know about it. Oh my god, what do you say? Ridiculous?
Speaker 1: I feel like feel pressured right now? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: don't feel pressured. Just go out with him while everybody
Speaker 1: is listening, and we will offer to pay for that date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: question group thing? Would you be open to that? We'll
Speaker 1: hang out like in a group and see, like with Rebecca.
Speaker 1: That is a dumb idea. Cassie him, Guys, there's just
Speaker 1: like a girl's code. I just can't do it. I'm
Speaker 1: girl's code wasn't broken. Come on, if she's a good friend,
Speaker 1: she'll understand, and if not, she'll make me suffer. Brooke
Speaker 1: is signing off as a female that it's okay to
Speaker 1: break girl code on this one. Yes, well, because her
Speaker 1: girl code is entering into ridiculous code. Like you know,
Speaker 1: you can only take it so far and always your
Speaker 1: friend's happiness should be at the forefront of every decision,
Speaker 1: and that is not true for Rebecca. Guys, I'm really
Speaker 1: so sorry, but my decision is final. Oh my god, dude,
Speaker 1: you're gonna regret this. Okay, listen, I'm gonna get one
Speaker 1: of my buddies set up with Rebecca, someone hotter than
Speaker 1: me that she can like her energy and not worry
Speaker 1: about what a friend does. Oh. I like that, Cassy.
Speaker 1: I'm not giving up on you, but I'm just letting
Speaker 1: you know what's going on over here. Oh, you guys
Speaker 1: are like cuted. That's brocode right there. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I guess no second date for the moment, but yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like this could possibly change. Will you guys,
Speaker 1: keep us updated on what happens between you two. I'll
Speaker 1: let you guys know. Oh my god, upgrade Rebecca and
Speaker 1: go for Kurt, Cassie, I'm so excited moving ninety two
Speaker 1: point five