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Speaker 1: Best Bits through the week, and we've got a Morgan.

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Speaker 2: Best Bits of the Week.

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Speaker 1: With Morgan hum Or two.

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Speaker 3: Here we are over in listener Q and a Amy

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Speaker 3: is with me this weekend.

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Speaker 1: I mean we're diving ride in Amy. I hope you're

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Speaker 1: you're ready, go for it ready.

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Speaker 3: Kelly from Philly would like to know, since your ex

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Speaker 3: husband is going to have the kids this Christmas, what

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Speaker 3: are your plans.

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Speaker 2: I will just be home. He's going to take them

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Speaker 2: to Colorado. And since I took them on a big

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Speaker 2: Thanksgiving trip, I mean, we wouldn't normally go to a

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Speaker 2: going because my nephew is doing his freshman year there,

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Speaker 2: and so we decided to just make a family, big

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Speaker 2: old family vacation out of it. So we went for Thanksgiving,

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Speaker 2: and I feel like that was that was good for

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Speaker 2: me and the kids. And then he can go take

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Speaker 2: them to Colorado, which is also where my sister lives,

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Speaker 2: same town that he goes to with his family, very

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Speaker 2: small town, everyone's in the same yep. So if I go,

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Speaker 2: I mean I would most definitely see them, run into them,

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Speaker 2: obviously tried to see the kids. I went last year,

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Speaker 2: and he stayed with his family. I stayed with mine,

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Speaker 2: and because we were separated at the time, but people

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Speaker 2: But I feel like what is best for me this year.

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Speaker 2: At least maybe next year we can do that whole

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Speaker 2: song and dance, But this year, I'm okay with staying

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Speaker 2: back and I'll just hang with I have friends that

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Speaker 2: be doing stuff at their parents' house and I've been invited,

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Speaker 2: so amazing. I still feel like a family thing, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was gonna say, I'm gonna make some kind

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Speaker 1: Or like a Christmas pop up bar.

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Speaker 2: I don't know yet. I haven't really had time to

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Speaker 2: think about it. But that's gonna be the beauty of

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Speaker 2: I think I can still have, you know, a meaningful,

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Speaker 2: It'll be some processing for sure, because I think everything

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Speaker 2: just feels a little bit weird Uh, but yeah, that's mine.

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Speaker 2: Now what are you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'll be headed back home. I'm going to be home

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it'll be the first time that I'm bringing Hazel,

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Speaker 1: But she hasn't, like, spent a whole lot of time

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Speaker 3: So and there's gonna be three dogs there, so it's

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Speaker 3: I'm excited to go back to what John and see

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Speaker 3: the family. But I am excited for you. I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: I think it's it'll be a good Christmas for you.

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Speaker 2: I'll definitely try some things. I have a few dinner

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Speaker 2: planned with friends, but they're not at new places. Actually,

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Speaker 2: I think I have two meetups, both meetups at Bartaco.

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Speaker 2: I need to expand, but I do let me some Bartaco.

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Speaker 3: Jennifer from Indiana really wants to know when you decided,

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Speaker 3: and you can answer this however you need to when

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Speaker 3: I know, just when I decided like when you decided,

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Speaker 2: Ben and I were very thoughtful about how, and not

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Speaker 3: And there was probably some uncomfortability, I imagine, because you've

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Speaker 3: Very brave of you guys to do what you did,

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Speaker 3: because not only that, you will be showing that happiness

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so maybe it would have been impacted either way.

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Speaker 1: But like it's it's you guys found a way to

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Speaker 2: Which we wouldn't have been like we it's taken work.

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Speaker 1: And you were both willing, And that's willing. That's a

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Speaker 3: Michelle from Oklahoma needs some advice for considering adoption.

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Speaker 1: I've really come into just understanding that I can't win

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Speaker 2: It's like the mel Robins. They let them thing, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I think I'm in the process of that happening. So

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Speaker 2: Yeah, some of it can look native. Some of my

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And looking back, I mean, I knew at the

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Speaker 2: but I still did it. Yeah, Like I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: Hintight is always twenty twenty right, always? Okay, thanks actually

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Speaker 2: And then really a fun question for people listening, like

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Speaker 2: maybe think about especially I feel a good thing that's

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Speaker 2: a good exercise to do, maybe journal through what do

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Speaker 2: I want to leave behind in twenty three. What do

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Speaker 2: I want to step into in twenty twenty four?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, especially that, because it's always easy to see what

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Speaker 3: we leave behind after the fact, right. I think I'm

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Speaker 3: excited to figure out what am I carrying with me

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Speaker 3: in twenty twenty four.

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Speaker 1: What's going to be like the the platform of my

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Speaker 1: next year that I can't answer yet, But leaving behind

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Speaker 1: I can. I can leave again a lot of things

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Speaker 1: that I can figure out pretty easily.

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Speaker 2: Well, you're some kind of go together. Your platform can

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Speaker 2: be that like now you stand firm and who you are,

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Speaker 2: and I can be dictated by what other people think.

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Speaker 2: That's true. You're leaving behind that, you are.

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Speaker 3: Leaving behind control and you're going to own in tears. Yes,

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Speaker 3: We're just gonna believe.

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Speaker 1: I'm brazy.

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Speaker 3: I'm breezy, easy, breezy, All right, Andy, tell people really

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Speaker 3: find you, hear you?

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Speaker 1: All that good stuff at radio.

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Speaker 2: Amy on Socials and podcast is four Things with Amy

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Speaker 2: Brown Yay and I.

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Speaker 1: Am at Webb Girl Morgan on All the Things.

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Speaker 3: Of course, please go check out the show Socials at

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Speaker 3: Bobby Bone Show. All the performances from Saint Jude Radiothon

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Speaker 3: are up there. Especially on our YouTube page. Just a

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Speaker 3: lot of content on Bobby bones dot com too, so

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Speaker 3: we'll see y'all later.

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Speaker 1: Have a great weekend.

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Speaker 2: Bye Bobby