WEBVTT - Do it or be done with it

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to stop rolling things over from one

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<v Speaker 1>week to the next. Either do it or be done

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<v Speaker 1>with it for good. I know a lot of Before

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<v Speaker 1>Breakfast listeners make weekly priority lists. This is smart, but

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<v Speaker 1>many people soon notice something. As one listener recently wrote in,

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<v Speaker 1>I find that I am transferring some of the same

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<v Speaker 1>priorities over week to week and never doing them, even

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<v Speaker 1>though I feel very busy. This listener wondered if perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>this was her indirect way of telling herself that these

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<v Speaker 1>things weren't her real priorities. I think she's made a

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<v Speaker 1>good insight here. Plenty of things sound smart in theory.

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<v Speaker 1>If we had infinite time and infinite energy, sure we'd

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<v Speaker 1>tackle them. We'd also probably get to them if something

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly made them rise up the priority list. If someone

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<v Speaker 1>said she'd give you a hundred thousand dollars as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as you finished that book proposal, well I am guessing

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<v Speaker 1>that you'd get to it. Absent that. When we keep

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<v Speaker 1>rolling stuff over week to week, the most likely explanation

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<v Speaker 1>is that we don't really want to do them. And

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<v Speaker 1>if it isn't something like say your taxes that do

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<v Speaker 1>in fact have to happen, that's fine. Expectations are infinite.

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<v Speaker 1>Time is finite. We are always choosing, so all we

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<v Speaker 1>can really do is choose. Well. Now, if that gets

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<v Speaker 1>your hackles up, no, I really do want to paint

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<v Speaker 1>my bathroom, even though I've rolled it over for ten weeks. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>then give yourself an ultimatum. Either it happens this week

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<v Speaker 1>or it doesn't happen now. I am sure that this

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<v Speaker 1>week is busy, but come on, life is always busy.

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<v Speaker 1>There will never be a perfect week where all the

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<v Speaker 1>stars aligned and you will gleefully paint your bathroom without

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<v Speaker 1>a care in the world so absent that you can

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<v Speaker 1>decide to do it now or decide not to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>And if you choose the latter, well great, there is

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<v Speaker 1>great peace to be achieved. And simply acknowledging that you

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<v Speaker 1>will not be doing something. You aren't going to return

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<v Speaker 1>that email because it truly isn't worth your time. You

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<v Speaker 1>aren't going to reach out to that person your friends

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<v Speaker 1>suggested because you just don't have the capacity to manage

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<v Speaker 1>that new potential relationship. You are not going to research

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<v Speaker 1>archery classes for your kids because they don't really care enough,

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<v Speaker 1>and neither do you. Wise people will have pointed out

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<v Speaker 1>that our calendars really are our priorities. You can say

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<v Speaker 1>something is a priority, but if there is no time

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<v Speaker 1>devoted to it, and then it probably isn't. You can

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<v Speaker 1>do various exercises to find your true priorities, but time

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<v Speaker 1>tracking is probably the best way. When stuff rolls over

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<v Speaker 1>week to week, it most likely just isn't making the cut,

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<v Speaker 1>so it goes Do it now or don't do it

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<v Speaker 1>that way you'll know for sure. In the meantime, This

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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