1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: This is Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous in Depth 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,879 Speaker 1: and the candles of burning champagne is flowing, And this 3 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: is the very first episode of Almost Famous in Depth. 4 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: It's kind of a quiet class because I feel like 5 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,479 Speaker 1: this is a more intimate, romantic like scene. I feel 6 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,360 Speaker 1: like it's like inside the actor's studio. The Bachelor kind 7 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 1: of is. So if for anybody out there, UM that's 8 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: listening to this, this is a project that actually and 9 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:32,479 Speaker 1: I are really excited about. We have our our first guests, 10 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: which I'll introduce here in a second. Um. We want 11 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: to bring him on first because they're special to us. 12 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: They've been on the Almost Famous podcast multiple times. But 13 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 1: Ashley and I I think I saw a problem, saw 14 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: an issue, and so after the show, a lot of 15 00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: the couples that are together, a lot of the leads 16 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: or maybe higher profile contestants, they just kind of disappear 17 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: and we lose track of where they're aut in life. 18 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: And you you see magazines or or you see random 19 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: articles written about you know, bachelor, where are they now? 20 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: But you don't really get to hear from them and 21 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,400 Speaker 1: hear their voice. And this podcast will be a special 22 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: podcast really just allowing the space for some of our 23 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: favorite people in bassm Nation to speak openly about where 24 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 1: they're at, what they're doing, the pains and the struggles, 25 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 1: and also the joys and the successes that have come 26 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: from being on this franchise. So this hound's gonna work. 27 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk to uh our guests, uh in depth. 28 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: That's what's gonna join in when she has a what 29 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: she calls a burning question, UM that she feels like 30 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: she really wants to highlight and dig into. For the 31 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: most part, I just want our guests to to talk 32 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: about themselves, uh. Following that, we're gonna lighten it up 33 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 1: at the very end with some rapid fire questions that 34 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: Ashley has created to help our contestants spill the beans, 35 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: and then we're gonna say goodbye and let them go. 36 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: But for this Almost Famous in Depth special series, we 37 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: want to get to know the people that we have 38 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: fallen in love with on this franchise all over again. 39 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: And this couple is no exception to a lot of 40 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: people having very strong feelings, very strong emotions, and ultimately 41 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: seeing their love story unfold in front of us. Ari 42 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: and Lauren, Welcome to the Almost Famous and Death Podcast. 43 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 1: Thank Um, you know, it's no secret your love story 44 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: Bachelination got to see a play out, as as every 45 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 1: guest that will have on this podcast. But for you all, 46 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: you now sit here right holding hands, smiling. Um, there's 47 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: a glow about you, guys. The love has not faded. 48 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: Is that true? So I want to start at the beginning, though, 49 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:33,519 Speaker 1: because I know that you know, coming off the show, 50 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 1: and we were going to talk about a little bit 51 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: before we sat down. Uh. You know, people watch this 52 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: story play out on television, they feel like they've seen 53 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: the full story, and maybe they have and maybe they haven't. 54 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 1: But for you guys, your story was controversial. I don't 55 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: think there's any secret to that, but it's led to 56 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: something really, really great. And so I want to hear 57 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: from you all starting back in that controversial time, kind 58 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: of after the show and after we saw a play out. 59 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 1: What was that like for you to well? I mean, 60 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: I think it was really difficult for both of us 61 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: to go through that, but it was easier having each 62 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: other to lean on. Um. We're obviously not used to 63 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: having the public kind of scrutinize us like that, but 64 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: anytime I was having a hard time, I can lean 65 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: on him. And he could do the same with me. 66 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed that time because it was the first 67 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 1: time that we had been together without anybody else around, 68 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: you know, during the happy couple of weekends, and it 69 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 1: was like a really, that's what really was the foundation 70 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: of our relationship, I would say. I would say the show, 71 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: we knew that we loved each other, and we knew 72 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: that there was something special between us, But really the 73 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: foundation of our relationship started during the happy couple of times, 74 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: you know. Are I think back and I remember talking 75 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: to you a little bit about this, But I remember 76 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: when I was the Bachelor and how excited I was 77 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: to find somebody and and really putting a lot of 78 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: trust in the process that I didn't know it was 79 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: going to work or not. And I know for you 80 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: it was you were really ready. I kept hearing that 81 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: as you're filming, is there's one thing already really really 82 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: cares about. Is he really wants to find somebody through 83 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: this process at any moment. And and maybe I'm completely wrong, 84 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 1: but I remember how fragile I felt like a relationship 85 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: was coming right off the show because of the criticisms 86 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: and the story. Did you feel like it was an 87 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: extra level of fragile because of the controversy surrounding you 88 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 1: know how this all worked out or right away did 89 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 1: you both know, No, we're in this together, We're gonna 90 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: keep going. I didn't feel as fragile at all. I 91 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: felt like it, in a way strengthened what we had. 92 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 1: I don't know, I agree. I think once we were together, 93 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: we're like, this is right, this feels right, and that 94 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: was It just gave us so much confidence. We never 95 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: felt the sort of outward pressure of the public opinion 96 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 1: as a weight on our relationship. It almost like pulled 97 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: us closer together because it was us against everybody in 98 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 1: a in a weird mentality. Digging a little bit more 99 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: of that. I mean, Lauren, from your perspective, you're now 100 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: dating a guy who was the Bachelor, who you know 101 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 1: many women were flocking over from one time. You see 102 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: this whole thing come out, and now it's us first 103 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,359 Speaker 1: of them and Tal I mean, how do you switch 104 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 1: that or how do you know that you want to 105 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: back this guy? I mean, the whole time I was 106 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:12,719 Speaker 1: on the show, I knew that there was something different 107 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: about him that was kind of drawing me to him. 108 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: And I had always dated a different type of guys 109 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: in the past. So once I got to know him 110 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 1: and I gave it a chance, I realized that he 111 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: was the kind of person that I needed in my life. 112 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: And knowing that and knowing how strong we are together, 113 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: it it wasn't difficult for me to be confident in 114 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:37,359 Speaker 1: us and just make sure that our relationship was like 115 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: the center of everything at that time, because it did 116 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 1: feel like people were trying to tear us apart. And 117 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 1: when you're in that situation, you can either break and 118 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:48,679 Speaker 1: fall apart or you can get stronger and move forward. 119 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: I remember, like Kelly Rippa, she wrote something on someone's Instagram. 120 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 1: She was like, someone said, I'll give him a hundred 121 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 1: days and nice screenshot at it, and we laughed about 122 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 1: it because like, Okay, well retweet this in a hundred days. 123 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 1: We forgot But it was just like one of those 124 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: things where like people really don't know your relationship, you 125 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: know as well as you do. Obviously, um, we have 126 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: so much confidence in each other, and even at that time, 127 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:18,920 Speaker 1: there was no doubt. So it's just kind of funny 128 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: to think back on it, because obviously watching the show, 129 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 1: I can see where viewers were confused and they were like, oh, 130 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: what is you know, what is their relationship doesn't seem 131 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 1: that solid. I think it's you know, it's hard to 132 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:35,040 Speaker 1: watch that show as a bachelor because you do feel 133 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,840 Speaker 1: like so much is left out. And I know everyone 134 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,919 Speaker 1: says that, but it truly feels that way. When you 135 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: watch it. You feel like, you know, you've read this 136 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: amazing book and every detail and every moment, and then 137 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:52,559 Speaker 1: you watch this you know, TV version of it that's 138 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 1: highlighted the things that didn't jump out to you to 139 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,840 Speaker 1: begin with. It's you know, you're just sort of just 140 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,480 Speaker 1: appointed when you watch it back because you're like, I 141 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 1: wish they were showing that, and you know, that really 142 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: meant a lot to me. I wish that conversation were 143 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: played out, but I understand it's entertainment first, and uh, 144 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: you know, our love story I think was something that 145 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:18,040 Speaker 1: progressed so late that you know, to make it interesting 146 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: for the viewer, they hit a lot of it, um 147 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: so that it was really dramatic at the end, and 148 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: it was a big surprise when really if they showed 149 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: I think an accurate portrayal throughout the season. Um, but 150 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: I I noticed, you know, they edit sort of things. 151 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: They start editing at the end, and I could tell 152 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: when I changed my mind, and you know, I ran 153 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: back to Lauren. Is about episode three in the season. 154 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: I could tell a huge shift in the editing because 155 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: they were like, Okay, now the story is about this, 156 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: and then they were just sort of slowly building towards that. 157 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: You watched the season back, right, Ari, Lauren, You didn't 158 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: watch the season back at all. No, we actually watched 159 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: most of them together. Oh you did watch it together 160 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: first one. We watched all of them besides the very end. Okay, okay, 161 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: the you know, it's it's interesting. I remember back and 162 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: the only truth I have in all this is my relationship, right, 163 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: But I remember how hard it was to be the 164 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: person chosen um because of how the show looks and 165 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: plays out, And I know how hard that was Um 166 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: for the Lauren. I was with Um watching that and 167 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: I got it, and it's there's no there's really nothing 168 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: I could have done to make it feel any better. 169 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: I wonder what you guys did during that season, if 170 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: you if you watched it to make each other feel better. 171 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I really am amazed, and I always have been, 172 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 1: but you guys, I think I told you this in Mexico, 173 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: that you guys bonded and came together so um so 174 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: well during a time that felt like if any couple 175 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:48,559 Speaker 1: was gonna break, it was gonna be you two, because 176 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: you had so much going against you at one point, 177 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 1: but then you held it out and I look at 178 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,319 Speaker 1: you today and it's something to be honored and celebrated, 179 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: and I really want to get to the depth for 180 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: any be about to listening, going, Okay, how do we 181 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: make a really tough time in a relationship work? Very 182 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: few people are going to go through stuff of the 183 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: time than you two did. How do you do that? 184 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: There's a lot of communication involved. So we've always been 185 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:15,319 Speaker 1: extremely open about anything, and you have to be understanding 186 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: in that kind of situation too. Like I knew going 187 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: into it he was going to be dating other girls 188 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: and that's just a fact, so I could I had 189 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: to be okay with it watching it back and realizing 190 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: that he had other relationships at the same time. So 191 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: if I if you don't set a different expectation for yourself, 192 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: I feel like it's okay, um to watch it back 193 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,320 Speaker 1: and not be upset about things that he did, maybe 194 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 1: like when he was talking to other girls or whatever. 195 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: But for us, we just have always come to each 196 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: other and we're super honest. If we're feeling a certain 197 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: way about a situation, we would just tell each other. 198 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: We wouldn't hide it. Um And I think both of 199 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:53,960 Speaker 1: us are really intuitive. We know when like I know, 200 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: and ours thinking about something, or if he needs to 201 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 1: say something, I'll ask him about it and I'll get 202 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: it out of them right away. Yeah. I think that's 203 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: the key, is just to let you know if anything 204 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 1: is on your mind, you might as well just speak 205 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 1: your mind at that moment, because I think a lot 206 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: of couples sort of you know, they think, oh, this 207 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: is probably isn't the right time to bring it up, 208 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: and then it just sort of builds and builds and gets, 209 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: you know, into something that's way bigger than it should 210 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: have been. We're really good at reading each other and 211 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: communicating right away. We actually took this funny little personality 212 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: test when we are so you know how the bachelor 213 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: has a little what's it called? You know, she has 214 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: a psychology major, which she doesn't really she doesn't really highlight, 215 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: but she's very smart. But we um, so I was. 216 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: I took this thing called the Colby A Index years ago. 217 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: We're talking about it during Happy Couple. It basically breaks 218 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 1: down your personality between communication, um. It has four different 219 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 1: pillars cleanliness, financial stuff. It's more like lifestyle personality tests. Yeah, yeah, 220 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: things that get understand yourself in a living environment. Right. 221 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: It's called Takes two. And it's really interesting because it 222 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: actually tells you how to be a better partner and 223 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: tells you the things that you're good at and maybe 224 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,440 Speaker 1: not so good at, and what and what to be 225 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: patient with with your partner. And so we took that 226 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: and it was hilarious because our are Yeah, exactly, it's 227 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: really good. So it's called Takes two. Can you just 228 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: take it online? You take it online? And so it 229 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: was really funny because our personalities are really similar, but 230 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:33,839 Speaker 1: there are things that are different between us. She if 231 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: she's having um, if something's on her mind, she needs 232 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: to talk about it, she needs to talk through it, 233 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: and and that helps her. You know, I'm more calculated. 234 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 1: I basically we'll think about it, and when I say something, 235 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 1: it's usually exactly what I mean or what I'm struggling with. 236 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:52,719 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is so me and Jerry, I'm 237 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: so much like Lauren, and he uses every single word 238 00:11:56,520 --> 00:12:00,679 Speaker 1: to describe like he carefully selects each word. Are just 239 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 1: summed up men and women literally. So now that we 240 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: know that about each other, it better helped us. So 241 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 1: and that was like right away when we first started. Yes, 242 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: we always remember those results we got and we keep 243 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: that in mind when we have issues. So I mean, 244 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 1: now if we're going to fast forward a little bit, 245 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,720 Speaker 1: right because you know, you've talked about the struggles, You've 246 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 1: talked about the issues for a while now, and most 247 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 1: of your interviews coming off the show, it was like, 248 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:28,559 Speaker 1: how are you going to make this and all the 249 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: stuff and that that I'll build up You've pushed that 250 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:33,680 Speaker 1: now behind you? Right? Has it at all felt like 251 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 1: a whirlwind? Knowing that I mean very soon you're gonna 252 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 1: be getting married. I mean, and and no matter what 253 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: you met on a show like this doesn't happen very often. 254 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: Are bachelor's don't make this thing work? Other before you? 255 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: I mean, has this felt real? Now? Does it feel 256 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 1: like real life? Are you slowing down? Um? Catch everybody 257 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: up with kind of emotions now surrounding this whole thing? Yeah? 258 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,640 Speaker 1: I mean, now that we've been home for a little bit. 259 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: I think we've been home for four weeks straight. Um, 260 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: when we're at our house, we're hanging out with our 261 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: dogs and just running around, going to the grocery store. 262 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 1: It feels very normal. It's like kind of like we 263 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: forget that we met on a TV show, so it's just, yeah, 264 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 1: there's nothing odd about it to us anymore, and we're 265 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: just excited about getting married. I wish it was like tomorrow. Yeah, 266 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 1: it's really cool. We the planning part was stressful at first, 267 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: but now we're getting down to like the small details 268 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: and it's really cool. It's like we're getting um, you know, 269 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: our families together, and we'll obviously have like really cool 270 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: plans that no one knows about during the whole week 271 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: when we're in Maui, and it's actually fun. I think 272 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,320 Speaker 1: as opposed to doing it on TV and having a 273 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: plan for you, there's something in the planning that makes 274 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: it both hers and mine, you know. And I think 275 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 1: that's what really does make it cool too, because there's 276 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 1: a lot of love that's being put into the planning, 277 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:56,840 Speaker 1: and I think that's also something that can bring two 278 00:13:56,840 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: couples together. Yeah, I agree. The one thing I've artists 279 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 1: and as I've been reading a lot, and then watch 280 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 1: him and around you what you both do really well. 281 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: I feel like as a couple, and a lot of 282 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:08,000 Speaker 1: couples don't, including you know myself, in relationships, is you 283 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: do a lot of understanding and you compromise often. You 284 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 1: did it with your house, and I want to talk 285 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:15,120 Speaker 1: about your house and kind of how you've made it 286 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 1: your own for both of you, and the wedding and 287 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: all of that for a second, but leading up to that, 288 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: I really want to ask you, Lauren, because of the 289 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:25,800 Speaker 1: compromise and understanding, We're always coming from what is it 290 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: about Ari now and this season of life that you 291 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 1: most appreciate about him? Like, what is it about Ari 292 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: that makes you go, this is my husband and I'm 293 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 1: excited to move on the life with him. Well, there's 294 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,760 Speaker 1: so many things and ask the hard questions. I know. 295 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, if I can only take my heart 296 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: and put it on this microphone, well, I just I 297 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: really do love the way that we interact with each 298 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: other and the way like I know that I can 299 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: be a handful sometimes and I can get stressed out, 300 00:14:57,320 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: and you know, probably I'm not the most fun person 301 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:03,520 Speaker 1: to hang out with. All the time. But when I 302 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: get like that, he knows how to handle me the 303 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 1: best way over anyone ever has. And I also I 304 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 1: just kind of have to laugh at it because he's 305 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 1: so good at it. So if I'm stressed and he 306 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 1: comes to me and he's like, hey, you know, just 307 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: do this one thing, you'll be okay, and I just 308 00:15:18,160 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, he's so right, Like I feel like 309 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: he kind of knows me better than I know myself sometimes. 310 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: So it's just, yeah, I'm just really happy that I 311 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 1: found him. I'm going to get emotional. You guys like 312 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: that make me cry too, So feel free, I mean, Lauren, 313 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 1: I mean, I think I'm listening to it. A lot 314 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 1: of people out there want that they desire to find 315 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: that person that when you're at your worst, they make 316 00:15:40,560 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 1: sure you get to your best. And I think that's 317 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: exactly what when I see you two why it's so 318 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 1: exciting for me because I really do think and that's 319 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 1: why when we started the podcast, how I wanted to 320 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: kind of approach this was, hey, how do the world 321 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: do you make it work? And a season of life 322 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: where it feels like right away the world is coming 323 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: down on you, you know, and a lot of people 324 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 1: have felt that with a thousand different reasons, but you 325 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 1: two have kind of rised above. You've been the phoenix 326 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 1: right and you see here today you're saying, this guy 327 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 1: right here has gotten to me better than anybody else, 328 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: and are just to fall up before I ask you 329 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 1: the same thing. How have you intentionally gotten to know Lauren? 330 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 1: And does that have has that just came naturally or 331 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 1: what is it about her that makes you want to 332 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 1: get to know her better? I think we always say 333 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: this in their views. I think we say that we're 334 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 1: really similar, and I think that's something that has helped 335 00:16:28,640 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: us get to know each other so quickly, because it 336 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 1: doesn't feel like there's a push and pull in our relationship. 337 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 1: It feels like everything is just right on the same page. 338 00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: And that's the thing that's really made it so easy. 339 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: Like she's my best friend. I love hanging out with her. 340 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 1: I hang out with her every minute of every day, 341 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: and I never get bored of her. And it's just 342 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 1: so fun because every day is just something that I 343 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:54,480 Speaker 1: can look forward to. I never feel like we need 344 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: a break, we need some time. In part I need 345 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:57,920 Speaker 1: to go hang out with my buddies. You know, I 346 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 1: want to include her and everything because we just feel 347 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:05,640 Speaker 1: like we're so similar. I uh, it was this weekend, 348 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: and this whole thing is never supposed to be about me, 349 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 1: but I have to explain the staffs next question. I 350 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 1: went on my first date this weekend for the first 351 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:17,960 Speaker 1: time in a really, really long time, and and it 352 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:23,879 Speaker 1: didn't go well. We'll talk about it, but um I 353 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: went to my buddies after it didn't go well, and 354 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 1: I said, and all right, and are if if you've 355 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: never been in the season of life, please just say no, 356 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:34,159 Speaker 1: I can't relate with you, Ben, But I was so 357 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: excited for this weekend. I was anxious and excited for 358 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: the first time in a long time. So that was 359 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:41,920 Speaker 1: super let down and super bummed out when it didn't 360 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,120 Speaker 1: go well. And my buddy looked at me and he goes, 361 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm only twenty nine years old, you know, 362 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: so I think I still have time are at least 363 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:56,200 Speaker 1: eight years. But um my buddy looked at me and said, been, 364 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: you know, maybe what you should be looking at is 365 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 1: not how bummed you are, but the fact that you you 366 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,000 Speaker 1: could actually feel excited to in And all right, I 367 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 1: don't know for you. But I know for me, coming 368 00:18:03,040 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 1: off of an engagement and then having a couple of, 369 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:08,480 Speaker 1: you know, years in between, I have this is the 370 00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:10,920 Speaker 1: first time i've you know, one of two times I 371 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 1: felt really excited to hang out with the girl again. 372 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 1: And so for you to sit here and say, yeah, 373 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 1: I want to hang out with Lauren, like I'm excited 374 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:19,320 Speaker 1: to be around here? Is it was that a new feeling? 375 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: Was that a common feeling as life continue to progress 376 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:24,439 Speaker 1: for you or which did she just kind of like 377 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 1: rock your world in that way? Yeah? I think anytime 378 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, you're like, ah, this is so good, 379 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 1: and then and you have kind of a feeling like, 380 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,920 Speaker 1: but there's a few things that sort of bother me. 381 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 1: Let me compromise, you know, and you kind of go, 382 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,400 Speaker 1: but that sort of weighs on you and it becomes 383 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:44,480 Speaker 1: an issue. And I think with her, I've never I've 384 00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:47,399 Speaker 1: never had to compromise on my feelings towards her. You know, 385 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 1: there's nothing about her that I would change, you know, 386 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: she's she is literally the person for me. And so 387 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 1: I think that's something that when you find someone like that, 388 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:00,439 Speaker 1: things are just easy, Like it's just easy between us. 389 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 1: I mean, we have our moments, you know, obviously everyone has, 390 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: you know, our arguments. Like she loves she takes her 391 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:10,720 Speaker 1: time to get ready. I am. I'm very on time everywhere, 392 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: you know, if I'm five minutes later, freaking. But I 393 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,880 Speaker 1: know that about myself and I know that she takes 394 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: her time on things, you know. So it's just adapting 395 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,120 Speaker 1: a little bit. But it's it's nothing that will rock 396 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:23,399 Speaker 1: the boat, you know. So it's funny you say that 397 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 1: about your first you know, you were obviously engaged, You're 398 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,040 Speaker 1: on the You're on the Bachelor. And I was telling 399 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: her about this the other day. Is that, you know, 400 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 1: right after enimly this season, I was a runner up obviously, 401 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: and I think at that time I felt like I 402 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:39,560 Speaker 1: wanted to be the Bachelor. I felt like I was 403 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 1: right for the Bachelor, and I obviously wasn't chosen. But 404 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: I think if I was a Bachelor back then, we 405 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:49,240 Speaker 1: obviously wouldn't be sitting here. But I think that it 406 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 1: was not meant to be for me at that time. 407 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: I think I had to give myself a few years, 408 00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 1: removed myself from the franchise, and kind of come back 409 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 1: with a different perspective. And I think that's you know, 410 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 1: I think that's helped because you know, I'm thirty seven now, 411 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,639 Speaker 1: you know, I think things are different when you're a 412 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,879 Speaker 1: little older. Your perspective is a little different and you 413 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:15,119 Speaker 1: can kind of see things a little bit more clearly too, 414 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,640 Speaker 1: you know, And I think that's what has helped our relationship. 415 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 1: How awesome is that you weren't the bachelor back then? 416 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:25,040 Speaker 1: Because it's really crazy, like back then, it's frustrating, is 417 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: probably weird, and you're probably I put all this effort 418 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:29,760 Speaker 1: in the time and heartbreak into something, and why can 419 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 1: at least see some type of fruit from it, which 420 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 1: you know, we all ask ourselves all the time, and 421 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 1: then not knowing that, how many years later you come 422 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: back and it would be the perfect time. All I 423 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,680 Speaker 1: have to ask you the same question, you know, now, 424 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:42,439 Speaker 1: what is it about Lauren that you look at you? 425 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,040 Speaker 1: This is gonna be my wife, This is the person 426 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 1: I want to stand beside forever. It just never, It 427 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: just never. It was a question for me, you know, 428 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 1: I think that when we got back together, you know, 429 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 1: there was this immense feeling of of loss when we 430 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 1: broke up, and it was something that I knew just 431 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: wasn't normal, you know, And I knew that it was 432 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,640 Speaker 1: going to take a lot to get back to her. 433 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:09,959 Speaker 1: I knew that it was going to take a lot 434 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 1: of criticism, which it did. Um and I think that 435 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,840 Speaker 1: is something that was sort of the initial feeling. 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Your home has been featured all over 479 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,000 Speaker 1: magazines and in and I've seen inside and outside your 480 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 1: home not only on Instagram, um, but also I think 481 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:10,400 Speaker 1: US Weekly did the feature this house is beautiful and 482 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 1: uh and again, you know, as we mentioned earlier, you 483 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 1: know you've compromised and I think in the article even 484 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 1: says that you've made this place home for the both 485 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: of you. How have you gone about doing that? What 486 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 1: were those conversations? Like? Well, I mean in the beginning 487 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,919 Speaker 1: stages of planning the design for the house, we we 488 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: kind of had the same vision in mind. I think 489 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:34,119 Speaker 1: we kind of like the modern farmhouse look like I 490 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:38,359 Speaker 1: like tons of throw pillows. That was one thing I had, 491 00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 1: Like you like it starts to the headboard and it's 492 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 1: like ends up all the way at the foot of 493 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:49,440 Speaker 1: the bed. There's Jared and my reoccurring fight is about 494 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: how to make the bad Oh we've had that before. 495 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,440 Speaker 1: But yeah, we we definitely compromise on the little things, 496 00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:01,920 Speaker 1: but overall the design that we both wanted is very similar. Yeah, 497 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:03,719 Speaker 1: it was cool. It was I mean, I'm in real 498 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 1: state in Arizona. So we looked at a ton of 499 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 1: places and this is the place where we walked and 500 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,400 Speaker 1: we're like, wow, this is nice. And then we had 501 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:12,479 Speaker 1: to hit a few boxes. That had to have a 502 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: big closet for all of her shoes, had to have 503 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,159 Speaker 1: bedrooms for future babies, you know, it had to have 504 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: a big living space. And it was in. It's in 505 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: this cool little neighborhood where we can walk and bike 506 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: to a bunch of restaurants, and so it really is cool. 507 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: It's like she's used to moving all time. I lived 508 00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: in the same place you saw it on the show. 509 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,360 Speaker 1: It's it was tiny, but I lived there for ten 510 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: years because I'm I get attached to That was actually 511 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,639 Speaker 1: really funny in itself, trying to move Aria out of 512 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 1: his condo. I would literally go to the empty condo 513 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 1: and just sit there and be like I would miss it, 514 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 1: like I had to go work on something, and then 515 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,120 Speaker 1: you see sitting there drinking coffee and that's empty room. 516 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,320 Speaker 1: I get it. That's like my car, it's eleven years old, 517 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: is dying and I'm like, I've gone everywhere with my car. 518 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 1: How could I ever let it go? She moves like 519 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 1: she's a you know, she's a military brat, so she 520 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,280 Speaker 1: has moved around everywhere. So she's not like things that 521 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,439 Speaker 1: I had everything I owned in my car when we 522 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 1: moved from her. I was at in Virginia at the 523 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:21,239 Speaker 1: time and we drove to Phoenix. Yeah, how long has 524 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:24,639 Speaker 1: it been now since you moved in? We move? Did 525 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: we move April? We closed just in the beginning of June, 526 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:29,960 Speaker 1: but she moved while that was on the new house. 527 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:33,199 Speaker 1: But he moved, yeah, in April. In the pool, the 528 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:38,959 Speaker 1: pools all over Instagram, and the pools became Instagram just 529 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 1: like you know, it's like the window to your life. 530 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,639 Speaker 1: It was shocked by how excited people were about the pool. 531 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:47,119 Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, but I'm into it. I check it. 532 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:50,199 Speaker 1: I've checked Ari's Instagram as much as possible. See how 533 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 1: your pool. Um, So life is beginning for you guys, 534 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 1: weddings coming up. I know today you have to leave 535 00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:02,440 Speaker 1: here very very they do. Um, yeah, because you've got 536 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: a big day ahead of you. What are you up to. 537 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,440 Speaker 1: We're going to pick out our rings with Neil Lane. 538 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,960 Speaker 1: Oh my good right, I know, our wedding bands. And 539 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 1: then I'm trying my dress on for the first time 540 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,480 Speaker 1: with Haley Page right after that, Oh my god, the 541 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,360 Speaker 1: one that's fitted for you, like after all the alterations. 542 00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,440 Speaker 1: I mean, I know that we'll get into that later. 543 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 1: We'll get into it later. I don't get it. The 544 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:27,080 Speaker 1: custom designed dress by Haley Page. So they kind of 545 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,240 Speaker 1: came up with it together. Yeah. She's definitely one of 546 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 1: the leading wedding dress designers. She's really cool mat her, 547 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,960 Speaker 1: that's all about it. So cute. I love her. Yeah, 548 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 1: and so you're going today to pick out wedding bands 549 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:41,679 Speaker 1: with Neil Lane obviously from the show. Um, how does 550 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,200 Speaker 1: that work that the show help set that up? Or 551 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: is that just kind of on your own. No. We 552 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,239 Speaker 1: ran into him when we were in the Maldives and 553 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,160 Speaker 1: he was like, Oh, I'm so excited to see you too, 554 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,320 Speaker 1: Let's get in touch. When you first he was really shocked. 555 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,320 Speaker 1: Why we're why are you guys in the days? I 556 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:59,080 Speaker 1: think everybody was and we still don't know why. I 557 00:27:56,240 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 1: know you don't want to talk. We saw Neil and 558 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,119 Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, well i'll make you some bands 559 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 1: and we're like, okay, amazing. So yeah, we're really stoked 560 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,000 Speaker 1: about that. Because the wedding ring you have, can we 561 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 1: see it real quick? It's gorgeous. Look at all those 562 00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,159 Speaker 1: little all around diamonds. Thank you guys. This makes me 563 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,920 Speaker 1: feel a little left out art. Let me see here. 564 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,919 Speaker 1: It's gonna be weird to have a ring on my 565 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: finger though, I mean for a guy, it's it's obviously 566 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 1: a big change is that today? So today you're picking 567 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: out the guy and the girls and that's how that works. Um. 568 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 1: Moving into the wedding, then I know people are jacked 569 00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: and it has been kind of kept secret. The show 570 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:42,120 Speaker 1: is not doing it. Um who you know what is 571 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 1: kind of the set up, the format, the field, the vibe, 572 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,120 Speaker 1: um of this wedding that's coming up. Oh I've been 573 00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,240 Speaker 1: asked that so many times and I always just say 574 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 1: I wanted to have a fairy tale vibe. So it's 575 00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 1: going to be a sunset wedding. We're doing it. In 576 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: this venue called Haiku Mill and it's a historic sugar 577 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 1: mill and maui um and we're just gonna have tons 578 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 1: of twinkle lights, hanging vines, candles everywhere, lots of greenery, 579 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:11,280 Speaker 1: kind of like the Twilight wedding. But I was just 580 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: going to say, it sounds like she's like I wanted 581 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:23,120 Speaker 1: to look like the Twilight. I haven't seen that we're 582 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 1: describing it, and in my head, I was like, this 583 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 1: sounds exactly all I can Really. It's a big wedding. 584 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,800 Speaker 1: It's like really beautiful and standing. Will your dress look 585 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 1: like that? Or will it be a little bit more 586 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: princess fairy tale? M hmm. It was a couple of 587 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: hits on that I would say, it's kind of like 588 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:45,440 Speaker 1: a modern princess, like like I'm a vegan Markle. No, okay, no, 589 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: right now, I'm not allowed to know if it's okay, 590 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: So this is a complete secret. Yeah. I'm just I'm 591 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: listening right now. I'm not saying too much. Yeah, so 592 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: I am the designers awesome though I met here a 593 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,640 Speaker 1: couple of times, so I'm kind of picturing what she's 594 00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 1: done before, I mean, walking down the I can't I'm 595 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 1: just I'm thrilled for you too, because we've spent some 596 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 1: time together coming off the show, and we sit here 597 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 1: today and I know this whole thing is, this whole 598 00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,680 Speaker 1: show no matter what, is crazy, uh, And I'm thrilled 599 00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,480 Speaker 1: for you to even talking about a wedding and getting 600 00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 1: excited about it. You know, one of the weird parts 601 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 1: about the Bachelor franchise right now is we have a 602 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 1: lot of couples and unfortunately we lost one couple this 603 00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:27,120 Speaker 1: last week that we kind of stopped hearing from. Right. 604 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 1: The excitement over the next step is oftentimes something we 605 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 1: haven't been able to celebrate with people. And people fall 606 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: in love with you too. They fall in love with 607 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:35,760 Speaker 1: your love story that you can fancy you. They cheer 608 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,720 Speaker 1: for you, their hearts invested into you. And on this podcast, 609 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,480 Speaker 1: it sounds like you're both are leaping in this wedding, 610 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,400 Speaker 1: not as this next step or this burden. It's like, 611 00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,200 Speaker 1: I want to get it done. I'm excited about this step. 612 00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,520 Speaker 1: Am I wrong? No, You're not wrong at all. We've 613 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: always been excited about it. But you know, weddings take 614 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,400 Speaker 1: time to plan, especially a destination wedding. Yeah, we were 615 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 1: gonna try to do it in the same year. But um, 616 00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,000 Speaker 1: but it was. It's a lot to plan. I mean 617 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 1: I had no idea. As a guy, You're just like, oh, 618 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 1: it's easy, I'll just show up like that at all? 619 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,920 Speaker 1: We do? We do? Yeah, so we have We have 620 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 1: two people actually, um our buddy Clint, who's doing a 621 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 1: lot of it, and then Kim and Co who works 622 00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: with the venue and her. Yeah, her team is really cool. 623 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,719 Speaker 1: It's interesting though, it's like they'll call you and be like, 624 00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 1: what do you what do you want? You know, do 625 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:24,640 Speaker 1: you want a three tier cake? Do you want flowers 626 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 1: on it? You want fake flowers on it? Do you want? 627 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:30,920 Speaker 1: And like a million questions? And I think so. I 628 00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:34,280 Speaker 1: think the longer you have to plan something like, the 629 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:36,280 Speaker 1: more complicated it gets. If you had to do a 630 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 1: wedding next week, you could probably do it. It would 631 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,720 Speaker 1: probably be great. But like when you have some time, 632 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 1: it's like, oh man, it's a devil in the details. 633 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,640 Speaker 1: You're like, what do you think it is? Then I 634 00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,480 Speaker 1: want to hear your opinion, because you guys are gonna 635 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,960 Speaker 1: make it. You're gonna do You're gonna make this thing happen. 636 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:54,000 Speaker 1: What is it about couples coming off the show, including 637 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:55,800 Speaker 1: my own and you can speak to me here too. 638 00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 1: That people get excited where when they come off, and 639 00:31:58,200 --> 00:31:59,480 Speaker 1: a lot of the interviews they say, I want to 640 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,440 Speaker 1: get married, you know, I'm excited for that next step. 641 00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 1: We're excited for kids or whatever that looks like. And 642 00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 1: then that fades. Why is that? What is that? And 643 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,040 Speaker 1: how can we start changing that? I don't know for 644 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,920 Speaker 1: the right people to ask about that. I think maybe 645 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: you would be the right person ask why doesn't it work? 646 00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 1: I don't know, Well, okay, maybe the better question is 647 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,440 Speaker 1: how do you make it work? I don't think it 648 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,600 Speaker 1: was ever a question for us. We just kind of 649 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 1: we got engaged and we're like, okay, cool, when can 650 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,960 Speaker 1: we get married? Like as soon as possible for us? 651 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:32,400 Speaker 1: But we just and it was never something we wanted 652 00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 1: to wait for. So I'm not sure why there's a 653 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 1: level of confidence there that like it doesn't always happen. 654 00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,360 Speaker 1: You feel like you have the right thing, you trust, 655 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,640 Speaker 1: you're the right thing, you're engaged in your confident, you're engagement. 656 00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,000 Speaker 1: I don't I still don't believe anybody gets down on 657 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:48,920 Speaker 1: one knee or I don't think if this has happened 658 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:50,880 Speaker 1: anytime in my recent memory, got down one knee just 659 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 1: for the sake of getting down on one knee, Like 660 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 1: I don't. I think every time there's an intention behind 661 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: it saying I think this is right, um. And so 662 00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: for you too, like there was a confidence that far 663 00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 1: outweighed any doubts you had, and you you kept that going. 664 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I think for me, I've had enough of 665 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,160 Speaker 1: the wrong thing to know what the right thing is. 666 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:14,640 Speaker 1: So I just knew deep down that he was the one. 667 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:19,080 Speaker 1: I never questioned it, and that's why I have so 668 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 1: much confidence in it, I guess, and we've just continued 669 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 1: to prove that over and over again. That's awesome. I 670 00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,480 Speaker 1: think as the bachelor it's so hard, you know, you're 671 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 1: I remember being a contestant and being so much more 672 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:39,200 Speaker 1: invested in my feelings because, like during the filming of 673 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,000 Speaker 1: the show, just because you have one person to concentrate on. 674 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 1: I think as a bachelor, it's in their nature to 675 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:50,600 Speaker 1: make you waiver because it's good for entertainment. And then 676 00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,280 Speaker 1: when you sort of the smoke clears, and then for me, 677 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:58,800 Speaker 1: I saw so clearly what mistake I had made. You know, 678 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,800 Speaker 1: I think that in itself there's such a pressure with 679 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 1: that show as the lead. You know, your the easy 680 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:13,160 Speaker 1: way would be too continue your path. But I knew 681 00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: with her, I had to do what I had to 682 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:20,120 Speaker 1: do to be with her because I knew that she 683 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:22,680 Speaker 1: wouldn't just wait around for me for a year or 684 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:24,840 Speaker 1: two years or whatever. You know. I think it was 685 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:28,120 Speaker 1: just one of those things where I think you for 686 00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:32,240 Speaker 1: me because I made that decision. I was so confident 687 00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,560 Speaker 1: already because I said, Okay, I know what backlash is coming, 688 00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:37,319 Speaker 1: Like this is going to be really bad for me. 689 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:39,719 Speaker 1: Chris Harrison said it. I mean everyone said it to 690 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,839 Speaker 1: me that the advice was going the opposite way, because 691 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,920 Speaker 1: they're like, you know, you could you could do you know, 692 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,120 Speaker 1: you could make some you know, a lot of money 693 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,080 Speaker 1: on Instagram if you just keep you know, keep your path, 694 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,839 Speaker 1: or you could do you know, the advice was all 695 00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 1: the point in the other direction. But I knew my 696 00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,319 Speaker 1: heart was with her, and I said, I don't really 697 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,239 Speaker 1: care about that kind of off you know. And I 698 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 1: think that that's why I had so much confidence in it, 699 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,799 Speaker 1: because I thought about it so much before I had 700 00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,960 Speaker 1: made that decision. Can we take a few minutes here, 701 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:14,600 Speaker 1: if we'll say say as much as you want. What 702 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:18,120 Speaker 1: were those nights like leading up to that? I mean, 703 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,040 Speaker 1: to go back to that season when millions of people 704 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:23,960 Speaker 1: are watching this on TV. This is right in the 705 00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:25,839 Speaker 1: heart while people are you know, well right before people 706 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,120 Speaker 1: are watching this on TV, you know that America is 707 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:31,799 Speaker 1: already putting it on the cover of magazines. You're laying 708 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:38,040 Speaker 1: in bed at night alone and thinking about what. Well, 709 00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,839 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's it's it's hard to really 710 00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 1: go back to that time because we're in such a 711 00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,359 Speaker 1: different place and we weren't even going to talk about 712 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,759 Speaker 1: it because we what's been really nice is okay. So 713 00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:52,480 Speaker 1: now we had our season, all very dramatic ending. Then 714 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:55,560 Speaker 1: we had becka season which we obviously you know, we 715 00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,000 Speaker 1: got tacked on a million things. We had to see 716 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,279 Speaker 1: her face all over social media. It is hard for us. 717 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,200 Speaker 1: I mean, it really was actually hard to like, it 718 00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 1: was way harder for her obviously, And then now that 719 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 1: sort of died down there in a great place, but 720 00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:10,000 Speaker 1: it's not like it's in our face as much. So 721 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 1: it's actually been really nice to sort of remove ourselves 722 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,879 Speaker 1: from that time. But if I had to go back there, 723 00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:19,040 Speaker 1: I think there's a little bit of trauma where I 724 00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:22,120 Speaker 1: do remember everything, But I think the biggest thing that 725 00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:25,240 Speaker 1: I take away from it is my feelings towards Lauren 726 00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:28,359 Speaker 1: and how I needed to be with her and how 727 00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:29,920 Speaker 1: I needed to run to her. And I think that's 728 00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,319 Speaker 1: sort of the overwhelming thing that I think about when 729 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,719 Speaker 1: I think about that time running to her. That's I mean, 730 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,360 Speaker 1: and I want to again. I don't mean just continue 731 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,439 Speaker 1: to pat you on the back, but the way you've 732 00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:42,160 Speaker 1: handled this coming off that that's a really lonely season, 733 00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 1: no matter like of life, no matter who you are, 734 00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 1: how happy you are, what you're trying to process. You 735 00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,200 Speaker 1: have millions of people watching you while you lay in 736 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,520 Speaker 1: bed at night, going I don't know how to handle this. 737 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:53,440 Speaker 1: It was more it was harder to do all the 738 00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:57,279 Speaker 1: media stuff because we were back together, but everyone was 739 00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,680 Speaker 1: still kind of taught. Everyone was still sort of you know, 740 00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,120 Speaker 1: month back as far as the timeline of the show. 741 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,959 Speaker 1: So I was like, oh man, just wait, just wait, 742 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,800 Speaker 1: does that cause any trauma? Mean does that really cause trauma? 743 00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 1: You think I wondered for myself sometimes it does. I 744 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,840 Speaker 1: think it does. If that like kind of blocking and 745 00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,879 Speaker 1: compartmentalizing why you're in love, why you're answering questions about 746 00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,160 Speaker 1: other women who you had feelings for at some point, 747 00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:20,400 Speaker 1: but you're you're in love and committed to one person 748 00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,120 Speaker 1: and you're hiding it for five, six, seven months, and 749 00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,680 Speaker 1: I'm terrible at that. Yeah, it caused a little trauma, 750 00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:27,960 Speaker 1: I think, right and I wrong here. It does. You 751 00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,239 Speaker 1: have to be a little deceptive and and that's not me. 752 00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:33,120 Speaker 1: And I think that that was really hard during the 753 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,160 Speaker 1: show too, too, you know, to keep people on for 754 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:37,960 Speaker 1: weeks that you didn't want to keep on that you 755 00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:41,480 Speaker 1: were like, I mean not natural, No old thing is 756 00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:45,560 Speaker 1: not natural. Yeah. I think I'm still recovering and you 757 00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 1: just did. Um well, you know, thank you so much 758 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:52,560 Speaker 1: for being open about that, because I do think that's 759 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 1: the answers a lot of the questions that people are 760 00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:55,600 Speaker 1: wondering too. And they don't get to see that side. 761 00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:57,560 Speaker 1: They get to see the TV part and they get 762 00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,680 Speaker 1: to see they get to get angry and go, oh, 763 00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:01,279 Speaker 1: how could you do this? But they don't see the 764 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,120 Speaker 1: nights of laying in bed at night like going I 765 00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,080 Speaker 1: need Lauren, like I need to run to her, and 766 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:06,759 Speaker 1: how am I going to do this? And everybody's telling 767 00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 1: me not to because it's going to cause so much conflict, 768 00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:10,799 Speaker 1: but you still chose to do it today. You stand 769 00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:14,080 Speaker 1: here strong, um, leading into life today, Lauren, You've got 770 00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:17,319 Speaker 1: a lot going on. You're designing a swimwear line. Tell 771 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,960 Speaker 1: us about it. So this is something I started doing 772 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,080 Speaker 1: when I was in middle school. I grew up in 773 00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:27,799 Speaker 1: Virginia Beach from I'm from northern Virginia, really know that. Yeah, So, UM, 774 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,440 Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time there at the ocean, 775 00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:31,799 Speaker 1: and I'd always bring my sketch pad just to be 776 00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:35,160 Speaker 1: alone and be creative. Um. So I've had I've had 777 00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,840 Speaker 1: this book of bathing suits for years, UM, and I 778 00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:40,799 Speaker 1: kind of felt like now is the right time since 779 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,400 Speaker 1: i just moved somewhere new and I'm starting this new 780 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:47,080 Speaker 1: journey with Ari um to go ahead and actually bring 781 00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,920 Speaker 1: that to life. So I'm planning on launching it next spring. 782 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,000 Speaker 1: That's awesome. You were going to go into real estate 783 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:55,120 Speaker 1: with him, so you guys have your own business together, 784 00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:57,640 Speaker 1: and that didn't work out well. I went to real 785 00:38:57,719 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 1: estate school for a little bit and I was just like, 786 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:06,000 Speaker 1: oh man, this is born. Yeah I know, yeah, I 787 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,040 Speaker 1: don't think this is for me, So I'll let that 788 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:09,880 Speaker 1: be your things. What do you want to do? What 789 00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,280 Speaker 1: are you passionate about? You do what you're passionate about. 790 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,160 Speaker 1: She's like swimwear, and I was like, let's do it. Cool? 791 00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,359 Speaker 1: So this, I mean you're full You're full in right, 792 00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:21,120 Speaker 1: I mean you started designing. What is that process looking like? Well, 793 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,160 Speaker 1: lots of hours meeting with actual designers because I didn't 794 00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:26,560 Speaker 1: go to school for that. So um, I've met with 795 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,719 Speaker 1: some local designers who actually produced when we're in Arizona, 796 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:31,680 Speaker 1: sat down with them and they kind of walked me 797 00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:33,840 Speaker 1: through what it would be like to start a business 798 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,320 Speaker 1: in that and like what I need to do with shows, 799 00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 1: I need to go to, who I need to hire 800 00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,600 Speaker 1: to help me. So it's just it's been a lot 801 00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,480 Speaker 1: of learning for me. It's kind of like I'm back 802 00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:46,279 Speaker 1: at school for something entirely new. But yeah, it's been 803 00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:48,359 Speaker 1: a lot of fun. You just gotta follow what your 804 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:50,480 Speaker 1: what your love is, you know your passion in life. 805 00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,920 Speaker 1: It doesn't feel like work. Then. I do actually love 806 00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:56,920 Speaker 1: selling house. It is boring, but I love Yeah, it's 807 00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,160 Speaker 1: funny that. Yeah, it's good. It's funny that you know 808 00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:00,680 Speaker 1: how many months ago you I'm gonna go back to 809 00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 1: silly house and You're like, no, this isn't for me. 810 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,040 Speaker 1: And look at you. Now, this is awesome that you're 811 00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,200 Speaker 1: You're passionate. You got a wedding, You've got a lot 812 00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,359 Speaker 1: going on. I'm imagining are he's not doing a lot 813 00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,839 Speaker 1: of the detailed planning of the wedding. No. I get 814 00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:15,640 Speaker 1: on the call and I'm like, what's the butte you? 815 00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:18,840 Speaker 1: It's like what, well? That sounds good? It's like what 816 00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,919 Speaker 1: is it? Call? It's so funny because we're on these 817 00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,760 Speaker 1: calls together and he's always like price, what's the price? 818 00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:29,480 Speaker 1: And I'm in the background going, I have this question 819 00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:33,560 Speaker 1: in my list for later. The fun stuff, Sorry, what 820 00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,839 Speaker 1: are you up to? Um? Just real estate stuff? Now, 821 00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:40,720 Speaker 1: winter for me is all about selling houses. Summer is racing, 822 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,319 Speaker 1: so the race season is pretty much done and so 823 00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:46,120 Speaker 1: it was a fun year once some races, got to 824 00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,320 Speaker 1: travel a lot went to Australia when all over the 825 00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:51,440 Speaker 1: world actually so it was really cool. But the summertime 826 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:55,680 Speaker 1: is predominantly racing, which there's real estate. I uh, forge 827 00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,560 Speaker 1: about the listening. I get to see Ari in action 828 00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:02,080 Speaker 1: at UM. I got the chance. I was lucky enough 829 00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:06,080 Speaker 1: to ride in one of the uh the sprint cars 830 00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:08,400 Speaker 1: there's two seater sprint cars indie cars at the beginning 831 00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,920 Speaker 1: of the race, and I thought I was gonna get Ari. 832 00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:13,600 Speaker 1: I thought for sure I was gonna be Mari as 833 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:19,920 Speaker 1: he dried, but no, I had somebody I didn't know. 834 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,279 Speaker 1: But I was pumped because I had never met. We 835 00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,520 Speaker 1: had never met before that, um, and so I was like, 836 00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,720 Speaker 1: the first TIMEE to meet Ari is gonna be sitting 837 00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:30,480 Speaker 1: behind him watching his head bobble as dry. But now 838 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,239 Speaker 1: he's legit and uh again. We got the time to 839 00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:36,360 Speaker 1: swing together in Mexico filming a little commercial spot for 840 00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,440 Speaker 1: Bachelor Paradise that actually I think ended up fantastic. I 841 00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 1: thought it was great, mixed reviews from the from the 842 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,640 Speaker 1: you know, Bachelor Nation. I thought it was great. Your 843 00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,759 Speaker 1: your portion wasn't freaking amazing. I'll go down saying that's 844 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,239 Speaker 1: one of my favorite things I've ever done. Um, is 845 00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,640 Speaker 1: there anything else you'd like to share with anybody out 846 00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,760 Speaker 1: there listening. I mean, I think a couple of takeaways 847 00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:00,200 Speaker 1: that I'm taking from this conversation is you as have 848 00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,880 Speaker 1: found strengthen each other. Your relationship has defied you know, 849 00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,799 Speaker 1: a lot of criticism, and I think now has turned 850 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,279 Speaker 1: the corner to rising way above and people being you know, 851 00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,960 Speaker 1: celebrating you for being in love and starting this whole 852 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,640 Speaker 1: new journey together and you will be a couple from 853 00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,560 Speaker 1: Batchelor Nation that we'll talk about for years to come 854 00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,640 Speaker 1: because you have been successful. Um those are my takeaways. 855 00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,000 Speaker 1: And I also just again I want to um, thank 856 00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,920 Speaker 1: you both for being uh just having really good character 857 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,439 Speaker 1: in a season of life that could easily have turned 858 00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:28,360 Speaker 1: a different direction. Um, you could have lashed out, you 859 00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:30,279 Speaker 1: could have been harsh, you could have said no, you know, 860 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,000 Speaker 1: you could have stand and said a thousand different things 861 00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,000 Speaker 1: and said you took it for a long time and 862 00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,719 Speaker 1: just let your love prove what was right. So I 863 00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,400 Speaker 1: think I admire that, and that's why I'm so excited 864 00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:42,400 Speaker 1: to have you guys on this first episode. But anything else, um, 865 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:44,760 Speaker 1: outside of those takeaways that you'd like to share everybody listening, 866 00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:48,359 Speaker 1: what do you want? What do you want to say? 867 00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,200 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that was a pretty good summer. 868 00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:53,440 Speaker 1: Thank you, Yeah, thank you. Yeah, we've been having a blast, 869 00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,880 Speaker 1: so it's good to be here. I know that we 870 00:42:55,920 --> 00:43:00,479 Speaker 1: follow your podcast, so we're avid listeners. It's really yeah, 871 00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,360 Speaker 1: we are actually listened to it before I went on 872 00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,239 Speaker 1: the show to kind of get an idea of what 873 00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:09,520 Speaker 1: I was intern. That's how long we've been on you 874 00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:13,160 Speaker 1: know what. You know, it's crazy. Maybe Colton's next partner 875 00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,000 Speaker 1: will have done the same thing and they've gotten there 876 00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:18,120 Speaker 1: because you know what I did. I read Sean Lowe's 877 00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,520 Speaker 1: book before I was the Bachelor, or before I wanted 878 00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,360 Speaker 1: the bachelorrette to get some insight into the show itself, 879 00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,879 Speaker 1: and it helped me tremendously because I felt so much 880 00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:28,959 Speaker 1: more comfortable entering into that world. Yeah. Actually, I read 881 00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,360 Speaker 1: Courtney's book going into the audition process, and then I 882 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: read Sewan's book right before my season aired. That's funny, 883 00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:38,480 Speaker 1: So I felt like I was pretty prepared through both 884 00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:40,520 Speaker 1: of those. Anybody out there listening, if you're excited about 885 00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:43,880 Speaker 1: being on the Bachelor, just listen to the podcast Almost 886 00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,440 Speaker 1: Famous is here for you. Hey, that's my segment. I 887 00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:47,920 Speaker 1: just want to talk to you all. I want to 888 00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,200 Speaker 1: catch up. I appreciate the both of you. I'm gonna 889 00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:51,960 Speaker 1: pass it over to Ashley here because she has a 890 00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,279 Speaker 1: fun little game that she's best out lighting up the 891 00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:58,360 Speaker 1: whole room with some super intense questions. With that, R 892 00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:01,759 Speaker 1: and Lauren, You're the best. Thank you. Actually take it away, 893 00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,719 Speaker 1: all right, you guys. This is called the rapid fire 894 00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,359 Speaker 1: question segment, but honestly, it's not really rapid fire because 895 00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:07,960 Speaker 1: I'd like you to go a little more in depth 896 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:11,360 Speaker 1: than just being like one sentence answers. I've always just 897 00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:14,000 Speaker 1: been like the person who loves random fun questions. Like 898 00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:18,240 Speaker 1: when I was younger, I whenever I meet a new friend, 899 00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:20,960 Speaker 1: I'd ask them like a set of questions like who's 900 00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:22,959 Speaker 1: your favorite late night host? Are you Mac or PC? 901 00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,200 Speaker 1: What's your food restaurant? What do you order from there? 902 00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,120 Speaker 1: So for some reason, I feel like all those little 903 00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:30,920 Speaker 1: details about somebody kind of adds up and you get 904 00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:33,080 Speaker 1: to really know them. So I have a whole bunch 905 00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:36,640 Speaker 1: of questions like that, just silly fun things. But while 906 00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:38,919 Speaker 1: we're on kind of the topic of the wedding, let's 907 00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:42,719 Speaker 1: go through these questions. Why did you pick Hawaii? Why 908 00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:50,919 Speaker 1: destination um twofold warm and doesn't have Zeka? Okay? Good? 909 00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:54,880 Speaker 1: Because Carly's wedding um Jade had to be worried about 910 00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,400 Speaker 1: Zica because she was still pregnant, and of course, between 911 00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,680 Speaker 1: she and Carly, they both also wanted to get pregnant 912 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:03,840 Speaker 1: soon after. You know, we have tons of friends that 913 00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,239 Speaker 1: are expecting, and my best friend from Virginia, she was 914 00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,120 Speaker 1: actually going to be one of my bridesmaids, or she's 915 00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:12,840 Speaker 1: an an honorary bridesmaid, but she's having a baby in December, 916 00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:14,560 Speaker 1: so I wanted to make sure that we picked a 917 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,920 Speaker 1: place that she could go to nice. Currently, our dilemma 918 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,120 Speaker 1: right now is Jade and Tanner are trying to get pregnant, 919 00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,239 Speaker 1: but Tanner is officiating the wedding, so they kind of 920 00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,640 Speaker 1: have to skip trying in the month of December, which 921 00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:34,759 Speaker 1: is kind of really sad. Think what you're asking, I 922 00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:38,880 Speaker 1: feel guilty. That's what Tanner spent saying. Okay, Um, speaking 923 00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:43,680 Speaker 1: of bachelorette bat Beth, speaking of your bridal party, you're 924 00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:48,319 Speaker 1: leaning towards white your bridesmaid dresses. Have you selected yet? Um? Yeah, 925 00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:51,920 Speaker 1: actually we have and they're gonna be ivory like a 926 00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:54,840 Speaker 1: white Yeah. Interesting. So you don't need all the attention 927 00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:57,279 Speaker 1: on your offite. I've never really been the kind of 928 00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:00,279 Speaker 1: girl that he's the center of attention. So and you 929 00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,640 Speaker 1: have a bachelor at a lum and your bridal party, 930 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:06,840 Speaker 1: I want to tell everybody who that is Yeah, Michel 931 00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,400 Speaker 1: Cooper is one of my bridesmaids and one of my 932 00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:12,640 Speaker 1: best friends. That's so nice. And then you also so 933 00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:16,239 Speaker 1: that Tia and Cnn are invited to the wedding. Ari. 934 00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:19,160 Speaker 1: That's obviously not weird for you. We we know as 935 00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:22,680 Speaker 1: Bachelor alums, how not weird it is to have your 936 00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:26,360 Speaker 1: fiance be friends close friends with girls that you also 937 00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:31,920 Speaker 1: kissed in data. We've seen most of them since then too, 938 00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,960 Speaker 1: So it's just you know, water under the bridget right, 939 00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,240 Speaker 1: it's fine, right? And how many guests are you having? 940 00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:42,880 Speaker 1: We're having just under. Oh that's pretty small for these days, okay, awesome. 941 00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:44,319 Speaker 1: And how many people are going to be in each 942 00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:49,680 Speaker 1: bridal party? There's well, I have one honorary, so technically 943 00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:52,000 Speaker 1: there's eight, but seven will be there for each of us. 944 00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:55,239 Speaker 1: Oh man, what's the honorary. She's my friend Taylor that's 945 00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:58,480 Speaker 1: having a baby, so she's going to make it. Okay, Okay, 946 00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:01,680 Speaker 1: that's sad. Her little there's one of my men. I 947 00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:03,719 Speaker 1: can't wait to see him in like a tiny little suit. 948 00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:10,160 Speaker 1: Oh he's nine. Nice, that's a horrible I remember him 949 00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:13,280 Speaker 1: from the Hometown episode. And then both of my grandmothers 950 00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:19,040 Speaker 1: are going to be our flower girls. That is that 951 00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:25,200 Speaker 1: is the cutest thing I've ever We don't have any 952 00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:29,040 Speaker 1: like little girls in our family. Little girls are unreliable 953 00:47:29,120 --> 00:47:32,520 Speaker 1: and flower girl I think about how like specially your 954 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,840 Speaker 1: your grandma's feel Yeah, I know, I cannot wait to 955 00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:41,760 Speaker 1: have a minute beautiful that's a headline. Thank you guys. 956 00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:46,840 Speaker 1: Um you're inviting Bachelor producers, But in your g Q 957 00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:51,440 Speaker 1: article you said that you felt betrayed by them, So 958 00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:55,759 Speaker 1: why invite them? It's a love hate it is. I mean, 959 00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,000 Speaker 1: I don't know if they have magical powers. I tell 960 00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:01,760 Speaker 1: you I've known some of the producers like a Lawns, 961 00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:05,279 Speaker 1: you know, for what seven years now. I mean I 962 00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:08,520 Speaker 1: understand they have a job to do, you know, and 963 00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:11,719 Speaker 1: they all kind of blame the editing room, so I 964 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,120 Speaker 1: don't know, but they tell the other thing where what 965 00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,759 Speaker 1: to do. But you know, ultimately, if it weren't for them, 966 00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:21,319 Speaker 1: we wouldn't be together, right, So there's just you know, 967 00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:24,640 Speaker 1: however it played out for the viewers to see, they 968 00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:26,680 Speaker 1: still put me in a position to be the happiest 969 00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,600 Speaker 1: I've ever been. Got invite him. I have to tell 970 00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:33,320 Speaker 1: you that when Jared and my engagement was airing a 971 00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:36,360 Speaker 1: couple of days beforehand, and we got got to see 972 00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:39,720 Speaker 1: the footage about twelve hours beforehand, and we kept sending 973 00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:42,520 Speaker 1: a long a joke list. We were like guests, a 974 00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,680 Speaker 1: wedding guest list, and it was like Alan was on it, 975 00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:46,920 Speaker 1: then would send him a version where he was crossed 976 00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:48,560 Speaker 1: off off of it, and then he was back on it, 977 00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:49,880 Speaker 1: and then he was crossed off on it, and it 978 00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,080 Speaker 1: was just when you kept joking about that. But yeah, 979 00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:58,360 Speaker 1: oddly very love hate relationship, but mostly love most bizarro. Okay, 980 00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:03,239 Speaker 1: let's move away from the right now. And what is 981 00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:05,759 Speaker 1: your reoccurring fight, because, like I mentioned, Jared and my 982 00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:08,480 Speaker 1: reoccurring fight, they're silly. It's like he doesn't make the 983 00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:11,040 Speaker 1: bed tight enough or he has to put his chapstick 984 00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:14,440 Speaker 1: on the dresser. I'm like, the dresser is for aesthetically 985 00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:19,200 Speaker 1: pleasing purposes, only not your yellow bird's bees, So like, 986 00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:23,880 Speaker 1: what are good? He makes the bed and then he 987 00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:26,239 Speaker 1: gets mad because like the two days a week that 988 00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:29,680 Speaker 1: I want to make the bed, He's like, I don't 989 00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:31,920 Speaker 1: get it. You don't make the bed five out of 990 00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,080 Speaker 1: seven days, But then when you do, you want it 991 00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,640 Speaker 1: super tight, and when I do, you complain that it's 992 00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:41,120 Speaker 1: not tighten up. I know it's silly, but like, those 993 00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:45,839 Speaker 1: are our problems, so we're very fortunate for that. I'm like, 994 00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:49,160 Speaker 1: like I said before, I think I'm just obsessed with time, 995 00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:54,480 Speaker 1: always on timewhere. No, I want to add one detail 996 00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:59,840 Speaker 1: to this. It was only three minutes late today. Very nice, 997 00:50:00,239 --> 00:50:07,440 Speaker 1: I think. Um, honestly, I think I'm a little more 998 00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:09,759 Speaker 1: laid back than Aria. So mostly it's things I do 999 00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:13,040 Speaker 1: that annoy him, which is fine because whatever. But like 1000 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:15,440 Speaker 1: the throw pillows thing. I put a ton of them 1001 00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,480 Speaker 1: all over the couch and whenever he goes to sit down, 1002 00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:19,640 Speaker 1: he'll just take them and drop him on the ground, 1003 00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:28,480 Speaker 1: Like the bed needs throw pillars, or doesn't look like 1004 00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:32,239 Speaker 1: a room, like a beautiful room. You know it's not true, 1005 00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:36,200 Speaker 1: don't don't. It's absolutely dixous, so waste of my time. 1006 00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:39,160 Speaker 1: When I'm tired of throw pillars, terrible. I don't know. 1007 00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:42,279 Speaker 1: I mean, what else you don't have any for me? 1008 00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,200 Speaker 1: I just did an entire podcast of things I don't 1009 00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,640 Speaker 1: get about. Jared. You have to have come on now, 1010 00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:59,000 Speaker 1: m m man. I'm good. I'm just very chill, perfect. 1011 00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:02,399 Speaker 1: You can't find one thing. It's Okay, we'll think of something. 1012 00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,799 Speaker 1: I'm sure she'll think of something as soon as you 1013 00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,720 Speaker 1: walk out the door. So I can't stand when you blink. 1014 00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:11,959 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you always go blank when you're actually asked 1015 00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:14,000 Speaker 1: the question, and then later you find the best answers. 1016 00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:15,880 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna keep thinking. This is kind of like 1017 00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:18,080 Speaker 1: in line with the same thing. Is there something in 1018 00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:19,840 Speaker 1: life that you'll never see the eye to eye on 1019 00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:25,600 Speaker 1: and you've kind of just accepted it. I don't think so. 1020 00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:30,879 Speaker 1: I think there is no. Yeah, guys, we're just we're 1021 00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:35,600 Speaker 1: the same person because you both of it had already 1022 00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,640 Speaker 1: said publicly that you want kids fairly quickly, right, Yeah, 1023 00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:40,960 Speaker 1: that you're totally un worth that you've got the house. Now, 1024 00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,360 Speaker 1: you've got a pool, you've got dogs, I mean, finances 1025 00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,040 Speaker 1: are getting in order, you have a job, he has. Yeah, actley, 1026 00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:53,839 Speaker 1: I'm learning. I think the biggest I mean, I think 1027 00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:56,480 Speaker 1: for all the men out there, just support whatever you're 1028 00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:59,520 Speaker 1: significant other wants to do. Yeah. I think no. I 1029 00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,280 Speaker 1: think that it's gonna make her so happy to launch 1030 00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:04,799 Speaker 1: a swimwear line. I can't wait. Now we're gonna do 1031 00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:06,759 Speaker 1: a bunch of stuff around it. Well she is. I'm 1032 00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,399 Speaker 1: just gonna be hanging out. We just we just really 1033 00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:13,520 Speaker 1: want each other to be happy. So whatever that takes, 1034 00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:18,440 Speaker 1: we're willing to compromise to make that happen. Okay. Um, 1035 00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:21,080 Speaker 1: that kind of leads me to my next question. I 1036 00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:23,200 Speaker 1: feel like you guys are in the position right now 1037 00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:28,360 Speaker 1: where you can do entrepreneurial moves like your swimsuit company, 1038 00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:31,960 Speaker 1: because you have the opportunity, you have the audience. But 1039 00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:35,160 Speaker 1: in like a couple of years, maybe you'll just have 1040 00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,560 Speaker 1: one income and it'll just be coming from Ari. How 1041 00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:42,520 Speaker 1: do you talk about money as an engaged couple, because 1042 00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,200 Speaker 1: this is something that Jared and I find to be 1043 00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:48,160 Speaker 1: interesting all the time, because like, like we know in 1044 00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,280 Speaker 1: six months that this is going to be a joint 1045 00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:53,239 Speaker 1: bank account and that whoever pays for this dinner, it's 1046 00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:55,279 Speaker 1: like the exact same, Like we're kind of sharing a 1047 00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:57,920 Speaker 1: bank account right now, but we're also not. So how 1048 00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:00,880 Speaker 1: do you guys split that up? It? We've been talking 1049 00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:04,319 Speaker 1: about who pays the rent, who pays the electricity, pays 1050 00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:06,719 Speaker 1: all the utility Okay, yeah, I pay like all of 1051 00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:12,719 Speaker 1: the extra bills, He pays the mortgage, pay the pool. Okay, 1052 00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:14,879 Speaker 1: So this is kind of what we do too. If 1053 00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,480 Speaker 1: you can choose, you'll take us out to dinner one night, 1054 00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,279 Speaker 1: I'll take us out to dinner the next night. Yeah. 1055 00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:21,440 Speaker 1: We just kind of try and not put too much 1056 00:53:21,480 --> 00:53:23,319 Speaker 1: stress on either one of us, even though we know 1057 00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:26,200 Speaker 1: our money is kind of in a pool. Right, Okay, 1058 00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:29,480 Speaker 1: so you guys we have big goals to like, we 1059 00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:31,840 Speaker 1: want to buy a beach house at some point. You 1060 00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:37,839 Speaker 1: guys watch HDTV and dream like we do. Yeah. So 1061 00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:39,640 Speaker 1: I have a couple of investment properties that we might 1062 00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,359 Speaker 1: sell to make that happen. So we're just like we're 1063 00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:44,560 Speaker 1: making moves. Yeah, I want to have somewhere we can 1064 00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:47,080 Speaker 1: go that's closer to my family. To say that the 1065 00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:49,400 Speaker 1: money is a hard one, I think like my buddy 1066 00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,400 Speaker 1: just got married and he said, I switched to a 1067 00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:54,759 Speaker 1: joint bank account, and he's like changed everything because now 1068 00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:59,680 Speaker 1: she knows how much is left, so crazy, so she 1069 00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:02,960 Speaker 1: change spend or spend or because she's you're looking at 1070 00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,279 Speaker 1: the same number. You know, you know what you can 1071 00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:07,040 Speaker 1: do and what you can't do, you know. So I 1072 00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,840 Speaker 1: think that's hard. Finances are hard. That's part of that 1073 00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:13,480 Speaker 1: takes two things. Yeah, is like that's a big one. 1074 00:54:13,520 --> 00:54:16,680 Speaker 1: Finances is a big one. Communications is a big one. Yeah, 1075 00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:19,600 Speaker 1: it's it's so awkward to talk about initially, but then 1076 00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:21,680 Speaker 1: when you start rolling with it, you're like, okay, well 1077 00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:25,240 Speaker 1: we really are together now we know that it's joined. 1078 00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:29,400 Speaker 1: But some weird reason, you know, because we're not technically married, 1079 00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:32,400 Speaker 1: we we have to kind of Yeah, like my house, 1080 00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:35,000 Speaker 1: I put it on my name because we're not married yet, 1081 00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:36,959 Speaker 1: but as soon as we're married, than the house doesn't. 1082 00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:39,719 Speaker 1: It's just kind of it's funny. Everyone was like, oh, 1083 00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:41,840 Speaker 1: the house is only in his name, it's a sign. 1084 00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:47,239 Speaker 1: Oh come on. But Arizona everything community property, so when 1085 00:54:47,239 --> 00:54:52,400 Speaker 1: you're married, literally it's everything. You guys have an eleven 1086 00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:56,959 Speaker 1: year age gap. Do you ever feel it? It's only ten? Okay? 1087 00:54:57,000 --> 00:55:00,480 Speaker 1: I wasn't sure. I mean there's a small planned the 1088 00:55:00,520 --> 00:55:03,799 Speaker 1: year where eleven. Yeah, do you ever feel it or not? No? 1089 00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:07,840 Speaker 1: I feel like we're on the same page maturity wise, 1090 00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:13,880 Speaker 1: which is great. Gosh, are super immagi. No, I'm just 1091 00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:17,120 Speaker 1: very I think there's some things like movies, you know, 1092 00:55:17,120 --> 00:55:22,880 Speaker 1: I'll be like remember that movie. Yeah, music sometimes music, 1093 00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:25,000 Speaker 1: but actually music wise, we're like the same. We like 1094 00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:29,520 Speaker 1: the same, like trap crazy, really cool. Would have ever 1095 00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:31,520 Speaker 1: thought I read a story about you guys going to 1096 00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:34,920 Speaker 1: one of those concerts though, just having a blast. You 1097 00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,359 Speaker 1: guys are like the whitest people and yet and yeah 1098 00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:42,960 Speaker 1: like trap music. We like I love Cardi being Nicki Minaj, Yeah, 1099 00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:45,799 Speaker 1: obsessed with she goes to karaoke bar bar and she'll 1100 00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,439 Speaker 1: like rock Cardi be throw it down on it, yeah 1101 00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:51,960 Speaker 1: Minaj nice. She gets really embarrassed so that you get 1102 00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:57,960 Speaker 1: to catch her on like kind of situation and that's awesome. 1103 00:55:58,719 --> 00:56:03,760 Speaker 1: You guys, actually before the show, and there's photographic evidence 1104 00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:06,600 Speaker 1: about it. You talked about it when you first met 1105 00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:09,120 Speaker 1: out of the limo, but it was never aired. You 1106 00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:12,200 Speaker 1: met Ari how long before you went on this season? 1107 00:56:12,680 --> 00:56:15,600 Speaker 1: So I met and explained the whole story. Okay, So 1108 00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:18,560 Speaker 1: I met him in June in Dallas before we went 1109 00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:23,480 Speaker 1: on this season, which so it was like three months 1110 00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,760 Speaker 1: months later. So you were already in the casting process, 1111 00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:29,480 Speaker 1: where you not? That's why I wasn't. So I wasn't 1112 00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:32,279 Speaker 1: in the casting process until July, and I wasn't even 1113 00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:34,239 Speaker 1: thinking about going on the show. And you probably would 1114 00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,280 Speaker 1: have never thought Ari he was going to be the bachelor, 1115 00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,759 Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, I know that A couple 1116 00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:44,080 Speaker 1: months ago. Yeah. So I had never been to a 1117 00:56:44,160 --> 00:56:47,720 Speaker 1: race track ever in my life, and my friends were like, Oh, 1118 00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,160 Speaker 1: let's go, we have tickets. So I was kind of 1119 00:56:50,200 --> 00:56:52,920 Speaker 1: dragged there by my friends. And I recognized him because 1120 00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:56,319 Speaker 1: I saw him on Emily season. So I fan rolled 1121 00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,280 Speaker 1: over him and met him. I was like, Oh, my gosh, 1122 00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:03,240 Speaker 1: you're the Bachelor American flag shorts. Yeah, so I just remember. 1123 00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:06,480 Speaker 1: Do you remember her? Was there a cosmic connection? Did 1124 00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:09,719 Speaker 1: you feel sparks electricity? I was dating somebody and she 1125 00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:11,440 Speaker 1: was like ten ft behind me and I was like, 1126 00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:14,759 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get away from So you did feel like 1127 00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:20,880 Speaker 1: you're like honey? And then Lauren, you framed the picture 1128 00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:23,320 Speaker 1: gave it to him when you came out of the limo. 1129 00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:26,320 Speaker 1: It was never shown, but that is so weird. It 1130 00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:29,080 Speaker 1: was like God was really trying to put you guys together. Yeah. 1131 00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:33,240 Speaker 1: I always looked at it that way. Too cool Destiny, 1132 00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:38,600 Speaker 1: For sure. You guys did go to the Maldives for 1133 00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:42,840 Speaker 1: to tape a segment for Rebecca's season finale. It never aired, 1134 00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,560 Speaker 1: and it was odd because it was TEA, so fans 1135 00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:48,640 Speaker 1: were looking forward to it. Can you give us like 1136 00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:51,560 Speaker 1: a little brief? No? No, always like, no, no, it's fine, 1137 00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:53,640 Speaker 1: we can talk about it. You can. But it took her. 1138 00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:57,200 Speaker 1: I have to commend her because that's why I wrote 1139 00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,600 Speaker 1: that social media post, because it took you know, it 1140 00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:02,960 Speaker 1: was very I think it was a hard time for 1141 00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:04,760 Speaker 1: I did not want to go. She did not want 1142 00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:06,840 Speaker 1: to go. We were already on that side of the world. 1143 00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:10,160 Speaker 1: We were racing in Perth, so we were on the 1144 00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,320 Speaker 1: western side of Australia. So they called and they said, hey, 1145 00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:16,040 Speaker 1: we'd love to do this little segment. I was like, 1146 00:58:16,080 --> 00:58:20,760 Speaker 1: absolutely not. But then Becca called with the producer and said, hey, 1147 00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:24,240 Speaker 1: this is more for me and Lauren is on speaker phone. 1148 00:58:24,440 --> 00:58:26,360 Speaker 1: We all talked about it and she would be like 1149 00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:28,360 Speaker 1: she was like, this would be a good closure for me. 1150 00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:30,840 Speaker 1: We've talked a lot about you this season. It's been hard. 1151 00:58:31,080 --> 00:58:32,920 Speaker 1: We want to move on. We all want to move on. 1152 00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,560 Speaker 1: Can we just sit down and have a conversation. Well, 1153 00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:39,320 Speaker 1: my fear kind of stemmed from the breakup scene, the 1154 00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:43,120 Speaker 1: way they showed everything there on his season, so I 1155 00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:44,840 Speaker 1: was kind of scared that they were going to call 1156 00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:47,120 Speaker 1: him in there. Becca was going to act surprised and 1157 00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:48,800 Speaker 1: be like, what are you doing here? And it was 1158 00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:50,840 Speaker 1: gonna was going to be a weird be teased that 1159 00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:53,760 Speaker 1: he came back for her lord, So I was mad. 1160 00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:55,840 Speaker 1: I was like, no, we're not doing that. That's crazy. 1161 00:58:56,320 --> 00:59:00,000 Speaker 1: So what I was like, Becca needs to ask him 1162 00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:05,280 Speaker 1: on the phone if we're coming, so she's aware, Okay, okay. 1163 00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,240 Speaker 1: You know, after that, I was like, all right, I 1164 00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:09,600 Speaker 1: don't like it still, but I'll go. I'll hang out 1165 00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:19,160 Speaker 1: by cool you didn't out by the pool. So it 1166 00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:21,560 Speaker 1: was in this scene that we will never see. It 1167 00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:24,680 Speaker 1: was just Ari and Becca talking. Yeah, and I'm sure 1168 00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:27,720 Speaker 1: it was just like more of a closure conversation. Yeah, 1169 00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:30,800 Speaker 1: it was like it was actually really good. She wanted 1170 00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:33,680 Speaker 1: some more insight. I'm like where my head was at, 1171 00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:36,200 Speaker 1: and then like she related to you more in that 1172 00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:38,680 Speaker 1: moment than she had before. That's for sure. I remember 1173 00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,640 Speaker 1: her coming off the show and being like I kind 1174 00:59:41,680 --> 00:59:44,960 Speaker 1: of get it now. Yeah, and that was what that 1175 00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:48,840 Speaker 1: That segment was a little bit you know, closure for her. 1176 00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:51,959 Speaker 1: Not closure really there was closure a long time ago, 1177 00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,919 Speaker 1: but it was more just to kind of figure out 1178 00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:57,680 Speaker 1: sort of, you know, what where my head was at, 1179 00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,440 Speaker 1: because she was like, I can relate to you now 1180 01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:03,920 Speaker 1: and I just want you to know that I forgive you, 1181 01:00:04,120 --> 01:00:05,800 Speaker 1: and I feel like, you know, you're in a really 1182 01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:08,240 Speaker 1: good place with Lauren, and I can see where you 1183 01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:11,160 Speaker 1: were coming from now that I'm in this situation. And 1184 01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,440 Speaker 1: it was actually a really constructive, good conversation, and I 1185 01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:16,520 Speaker 1: wish they would have shown it because it would have 1186 01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:18,920 Speaker 1: sort of given people more of an inside of what happened. 1187 01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:22,200 Speaker 1: But it was I think maybe they thought wrong time. 1188 01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:25,720 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, let's celebrate her relationship and not 1189 01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:28,040 Speaker 1: make it about the past. I totally get that. So 1190 01:00:28,160 --> 01:00:30,600 Speaker 1: that's why we were kind of confused of why they 1191 01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:34,680 Speaker 1: wanted it. Um, but you were in person. You didn't 1192 01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:42,760 Speaker 1: have to fly halfway across the pool. Very nice, Thank you. 1193 01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:45,320 Speaker 1: I'm sorry for saying closure. Yeah, I should have known. 1194 01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:48,240 Speaker 1: It was obviously not a closure conversation she had had that, 1195 01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:50,200 Speaker 1: but yes, it was like it was like and I 1196 01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:54,840 Speaker 1: get you now, like I'm in your position almost Okay. 1197 01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:58,040 Speaker 1: So my final question is something kind of fun to 1198 01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:02,720 Speaker 1: really and this James lipped and ask interview if you 1199 01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:05,600 Speaker 1: had a crystal ball, what would you want to know? 1200 01:01:06,240 --> 01:01:10,600 Speaker 1: Both of you? Ah, I would want to know what 1201 01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,520 Speaker 1: our future kids look like, what we're going to look 1202 01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:16,760 Speaker 1: like when we're old. And gray. Those are the good ones. 1203 01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,800 Speaker 1: I would really ask you want to You're fine, but 1204 01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:25,760 Speaker 1: it's fine. Yeah, I want to know. Yeah, I want 1205 01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:28,160 Speaker 1: to know those things too. How many kids, because you 1206 01:01:28,200 --> 01:01:31,640 Speaker 1: guys say almost four, I want to know how many 1207 01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:35,240 Speaker 1: kids actually come to me? Yeah, I mean I have 1208 01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:37,720 Speaker 1: a ton of friends that have kids now, and they're 1209 01:01:37,760 --> 01:01:40,080 Speaker 1: scaring me a little bit. So you might reel it 1210 01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:44,240 Speaker 1: in a little bit. Maybe not for maybe two start 1211 01:01:44,280 --> 01:01:47,680 Speaker 1: with to figure out three. Ye all right, Ari and Lauren, 1212 01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:51,560 Speaker 1: thank you so much for being This has been the 1213 01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:54,960 Speaker 1: almost famous in depth podcast. This is a special series 1214 01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:57,280 Speaker 1: that we were doing some Abatchination's favorites. We started Ri 1215 01:01:57,360 --> 01:02:02,200 Speaker 1: and Lauren, Um. This podcast is meant to highlight where 1216 01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:04,400 Speaker 1: couples are today, some of the favorite characters in the 1217 01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,720 Speaker 1: past catching up, helping us all fall in love with 1218 01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:10,160 Speaker 1: them all over again. With that, Lauren, you're just gonna 1219 01:02:10,160 --> 01:02:12,960 Speaker 1: have to fall our leader. Right, I've been been, I've been, Nashley, 1220 01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:16,240 Speaker 1: I've been. Leak to you soon they really do listen 1221 01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:21,760 Speaker 1: to the podcast, okay, guys. So funny enough, two days 1222 01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:26,040 Speaker 1: after we recorded that podcast, Ari and Lauren announced that 1223 01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:29,360 Speaker 1: they were pregnant, so obviously we had to get them 1224 01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:32,880 Speaker 1: back on the line and to tell us all about 1225 01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,480 Speaker 1: how they found out that they are bringing a little 1226 01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:41,640 Speaker 1: lion Dyke into this world. Ari, Lauren, Hello, you guys, 1227 01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:45,120 Speaker 1: you really held out on us. I know, so sorry. 1228 01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:49,280 Speaker 1: We had to of course, yeah, we had to wait. 1229 01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:50,960 Speaker 1: We had to wait for a last check up, and 1230 01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:53,520 Speaker 1: then we also had to you know, we had to 1231 01:02:53,800 --> 01:02:57,080 Speaker 1: let everybody know at the same time. So we totally 1232 01:02:57,120 --> 01:03:01,280 Speaker 1: totally understand. Um, it was on you because a day 1233 01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:04,919 Speaker 1: after the interview, I posted an instant story showing off 1234 01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:08,960 Speaker 1: the champagne that we were drinking, and a couple of 1235 01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:13,080 Speaker 1: followers noticed that Lauren wasn't drinking, and I'm like, whatever, 1236 01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:16,920 Speaker 1: it was thirty am. That doesn't say anything to me. 1237 01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,919 Speaker 1: And then lo and behold. I woke up the next 1238 01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:22,439 Speaker 1: day and it was announced that you guys are having 1239 01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:24,840 Speaker 1: a baby. So Ben is also on the line, but 1240 01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:30,520 Speaker 1: he is not exactly having the best reception right now. So, uh, Ben, 1241 01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:33,840 Speaker 1: if you do hook up, well interject, but right now 1242 01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:38,240 Speaker 1: the questions are on me. So you guys, how how 1243 01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:42,080 Speaker 1: you found out? Obviously just from a pregnancy test? I 1244 01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:49,640 Speaker 1: read right, yea, And okay, I mean I guess this 1245 01:03:49,720 --> 01:03:51,680 Speaker 1: is a little bit of a crude question, but it's 1246 01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:56,440 Speaker 1: one that everybody is probably asking themselves. Um, did you 1247 01:03:56,480 --> 01:04:04,680 Speaker 1: guys pull the goalie? Was this? There? Never loves a goalie? Okay, there, 1248 01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:08,880 Speaker 1: that's all we needed to know. Yeah. I think were 1249 01:04:08,960 --> 01:04:12,360 Speaker 1: kind of like, if it happens, it happens. Yeah, I 1250 01:04:12,400 --> 01:04:14,240 Speaker 1: mean we just we didn't really think that it would 1251 01:04:14,240 --> 01:04:17,720 Speaker 1: happen that quickly, but we weren't trying to prevent it. Yeah. 1252 01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:20,840 Speaker 1: I think a lot of our friends struggle with infertility, 1253 01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:25,080 Speaker 1: so we thought, Okay, you know, we're not going to 1254 01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:28,200 Speaker 1: not try, and we're not going to try, but well, 1255 01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:31,680 Speaker 1: let's just, you know, continue on and and if it happens, 1256 01:04:31,680 --> 01:04:34,640 Speaker 1: it happens, then then that's grade, you know. All right? 1257 01:04:34,800 --> 01:04:36,760 Speaker 1: So you guys, you guys kind of in a way, 1258 01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:41,840 Speaker 1: we're trying ever since you got together. I don't know 1259 01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:45,800 Speaker 1: if I would say that, but not not not trying. Yeah, 1260 01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:48,680 Speaker 1: we're definitely more careful. I think now that we had 1261 01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:52,160 Speaker 1: the wedding planning kind of done and we was on 1262 01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:55,240 Speaker 1: the horizon, we felt a little bit more relaxed about it. 1263 01:04:56,280 --> 01:04:59,240 Speaker 1: So what about the wedding and the dress and how 1264 01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:05,200 Speaker 1: you have now had to alter it to a baby bump. Well, 1265 01:05:05,240 --> 01:05:07,320 Speaker 1: I mean, it's my first one, so I'm hoping I 1266 01:05:07,360 --> 01:05:11,680 Speaker 1: won't be showing that much. But the dress, um, and 1267 01:05:11,680 --> 01:05:13,440 Speaker 1: I want to say too much because Ori is on 1268 01:05:13,480 --> 01:05:15,000 Speaker 1: the lend of me right now. But it's not going 1269 01:05:15,040 --> 01:05:17,560 Speaker 1: to be an issue. Okay. So it's kind of like 1270 01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:20,840 Speaker 1: tie at the top and no clue what that means, 1271 01:05:20,840 --> 01:05:24,640 Speaker 1: but I do and I think our female listeners out 1272 01:05:24,680 --> 01:05:28,120 Speaker 1: there we'll get it too. Um. All right, so walk 1273 01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:31,640 Speaker 1: us through the day that you found out, Lauren and 1274 01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:37,240 Speaker 1: how you told Ari. Well, actually, weirdly enough already told me. 1275 01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:41,439 Speaker 1: He told you. What's no way teching more? So yeah, 1276 01:05:41,480 --> 01:05:43,880 Speaker 1: I'll just start from the beginning. So the week before 1277 01:05:43,880 --> 01:05:47,600 Speaker 1: we found out, I was very emotional and I was 1278 01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:51,120 Speaker 1: craving meatballs, which is totally not something that I normally 1279 01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:55,880 Speaker 1: would crave. Need iron. Yeah, I'm like very all about 1280 01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:58,840 Speaker 1: salads and sushi and everything's fresh all the time. So 1281 01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:01,240 Speaker 1: Ari was picking up on these signs and he was like, 1282 01:06:01,400 --> 01:06:04,920 Speaker 1: you are super emotional. You're craving meat balls, that's just 1283 01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:07,120 Speaker 1: not like you. So I think you're pregnant. And he 1284 01:06:07,200 --> 01:06:08,920 Speaker 1: kept telling me that all week and I'm like, no, 1285 01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:11,680 Speaker 1: I'm not. I was in denial the whole time. So 1286 01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:14,760 Speaker 1: one of my friends who has been trying, orders like 1287 01:06:14,800 --> 01:06:18,160 Speaker 1: a hundred tests on Amazon and over that night that 1288 01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:20,520 Speaker 1: I found out he was one of the tests, and 1289 01:06:20,560 --> 01:06:22,280 Speaker 1: she's like, here, just take this. I have so many 1290 01:06:22,320 --> 01:06:25,080 Speaker 1: extras um and I didn't want to take it ease. 1291 01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:28,040 Speaker 1: I really want to know either way because I want 1292 01:06:28,080 --> 01:06:30,520 Speaker 1: to have kids soon or I wanted to anyways. So 1293 01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:33,080 Speaker 1: I felt like if I wasn't, I would have been 1294 01:06:33,120 --> 01:06:35,200 Speaker 1: a little bit let down. And I didn't think I was. 1295 01:06:35,680 --> 01:06:38,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just like a weird mental space. 1296 01:06:38,240 --> 01:06:40,640 Speaker 1: But Ari was all excited about it. He made me 1297 01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:45,960 Speaker 1: take it, and there's how do we explain that? So 1298 01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:48,560 Speaker 1: she was leaving for New York the next day, and 1299 01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:51,280 Speaker 1: so we have a pregnancy test. It's just like no, 1300 01:06:51,320 --> 01:06:52,680 Speaker 1: I'll just take them in the morning, and I'm like, no, 1301 01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:55,400 Speaker 1: let's take it to night because just in case we 1302 01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:57,880 Speaker 1: are pregnant, then we have the night together to sort 1303 01:06:57,880 --> 01:07:00,480 Speaker 1: of celebrate because she was leaving for New York. He 1304 01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:04,120 Speaker 1: was convinced it I was pregnant. Yeah, So okay, this 1305 01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:05,800 Speaker 1: is the where it gets kind of funny because it's 1306 01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,120 Speaker 1: kind of an old school test or like a cheaper 1307 01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:13,080 Speaker 1: pregnancy test where because it bulked. Yeah, yeah, it was 1308 01:07:13,120 --> 01:07:16,560 Speaker 1: our friends. It was our friends test. But basically put 1309 01:07:16,560 --> 01:07:19,080 Speaker 1: a sample in a cup and then you take a 1310 01:07:19,080 --> 01:07:21,880 Speaker 1: little dropper and then you drop it in the window. 1311 01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:26,600 Speaker 1: If that makes me sense. I was like, oh, cool 1312 01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,040 Speaker 1: science experiment. I want to do it. So I wanted 1313 01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:33,480 Speaker 1: to do that. So I just like when about my business, 1314 01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:36,320 Speaker 1: when like in the kitchen to clean something up or something, 1315 01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:39,120 Speaker 1: and Al came out with the test in his hands, 1316 01:07:39,200 --> 01:07:41,960 Speaker 1: like I don't know, it was the cutest thing. I'm 1317 01:07:42,000 --> 01:07:45,480 Speaker 1: like staking even talking about it. So but he's like 1318 01:07:45,560 --> 01:07:47,520 Speaker 1: holding it up in the edge, tears in his eyes 1319 01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:51,080 Speaker 1: and he's like, you're pregnant, and I do like I 1320 01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:54,400 Speaker 1: was just like no, I'm like no, I'm not. There's 1321 01:07:54,440 --> 01:08:02,080 Speaker 1: no way. He was in like complete denial and shock mute. Oh, 1322 01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:04,240 Speaker 1: I know. It was a really a special moment. It 1323 01:08:04,320 --> 01:08:08,040 Speaker 1: was like there's nothing that compares, like I just have 1324 01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:11,520 Speaker 1: this test in my hand, and as soon as a 1325 01:08:11,600 --> 01:08:15,200 Speaker 1: turn positive, I just, I don't know, like emotion kind 1326 01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:17,160 Speaker 1: of got the best of me and I was really excited, 1327 01:08:18,400 --> 01:08:20,880 Speaker 1: and I think I don't think there's I've always wanted 1328 01:08:20,920 --> 01:08:22,800 Speaker 1: to be a dad and I think there's like this 1329 01:08:23,000 --> 01:08:27,880 Speaker 1: big sort of wave of emotion and almost like relief 1330 01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:29,720 Speaker 1: because you don't you just don't know. You know, you 1331 01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:33,200 Speaker 1: don't know you can be parents and have your own baby. 1332 01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:35,000 Speaker 1: You know, there's so many people out there that can't. 1333 01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:39,120 Speaker 1: So it was just a really cool moment. That's awesome. 1334 01:08:39,600 --> 01:08:44,840 Speaker 1: How did you guys tell your parents? Um, we told 1335 01:08:44,960 --> 01:08:49,480 Speaker 1: our experience his best friend's wedding, and they're super excited. 1336 01:08:49,680 --> 01:08:52,479 Speaker 1: I mean, they're both chearful that they were also just 1337 01:08:52,960 --> 01:08:55,839 Speaker 1: ecstatic about the news. Yeah, my mom has been pushing 1338 01:08:56,040 --> 01:09:01,960 Speaker 1: grandkids like since day one. And then we FaceTime Lauren's parents, 1339 01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:04,639 Speaker 1: so we tried to get them to come out because 1340 01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:06,679 Speaker 1: we're like, you should need to check out the new place, 1341 01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:09,200 Speaker 1: so beautiful out, like the weather is so great here 1342 01:09:09,800 --> 01:09:11,639 Speaker 1: and we're trying to drop all these pints. But they 1343 01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:14,200 Speaker 1: were just too busy because the holidays and everything. So 1344 01:09:14,560 --> 01:09:16,640 Speaker 1: they're like, no, with the wedding coming up, we'll just 1345 01:09:16,640 --> 01:09:18,519 Speaker 1: see you at the wedding. And then so we had 1346 01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:24,160 Speaker 1: to face time. Then we even green shot at their 1347 01:09:24,280 --> 01:09:28,320 Speaker 1: face because they were also like Lauren in shock for 1348 01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:32,360 Speaker 1: a few minutes. Oh, it's so sweet. Do you guys 1349 01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:36,880 Speaker 1: have any names picked out so far, we have quite 1350 01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:40,000 Speaker 1: a list of names. Yeah, okay, do you want to 1351 01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:44,960 Speaker 1: share some that probably won't make the IT list? No? 1352 01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:49,080 Speaker 1: I don't know sharing There's so there's this app you 1353 01:09:49,080 --> 01:09:52,439 Speaker 1: can swipe left or right a lot like Tinder and 1354 01:09:52,600 --> 01:09:54,680 Speaker 1: Lauren's like up to how many swipes? Now? Are you 1355 01:09:54,720 --> 01:09:59,439 Speaker 1: at have? Like almost six? Guys? That is such a 1356 01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:02,640 Speaker 1: cool app. Yeah, it's awesome. You need to use it 1357 01:10:02,640 --> 01:10:06,080 Speaker 1: when you get to that stage two. Um, whether there 1358 01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:08,519 Speaker 1: is there any chance that aries on the list since 1359 01:10:08,600 --> 01:10:13,280 Speaker 1: you are junior yourself? Ari, Yeah, that's not gonna happen. No, No, 1360 01:10:13,439 --> 01:10:19,320 Speaker 1: Ari third, No it's the boy, No junior junior and 1361 01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:25,559 Speaker 1: no Ari l Ari l Ari is Are you guys 1362 01:10:25,560 --> 01:10:27,559 Speaker 1: gonna find out what it is a girl or a 1363 01:10:27,560 --> 01:10:29,640 Speaker 1: boy beforehand? Are you gonna make it a surprise on 1364 01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:35,120 Speaker 1: the birthday? We actually know? Oh you do know? Yeah? Um, 1365 01:10:35,120 --> 01:10:38,800 Speaker 1: are you willing to reveal? Come on right here an 1366 01:10:38,840 --> 01:10:46,479 Speaker 1: exclusive at Ashley almost this podcast? No? Actually, well here's 1367 01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:48,679 Speaker 1: the thing. So we filmed a little something with Bachelor 1368 01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:55,640 Speaker 1: for the premiere. If it makes the edit it on there? 1369 01:10:56,080 --> 01:11:01,360 Speaker 1: Okay yea, yeah, that's so great. Thank you guys for 1370 01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:03,960 Speaker 1: giving us that little exclusive tidbit. And I have one 1371 01:11:04,040 --> 01:11:07,479 Speaker 1: last question before I let you go, Lauren. I read 1372 01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:09,920 Speaker 1: that you're having a pretty You had a pretty rough 1373 01:11:10,360 --> 01:11:14,360 Speaker 1: first trimester as far as the sickness goes. How did 1374 01:11:14,360 --> 01:11:19,599 Speaker 1: you get through? What made you trigger? Oh? Gus, there 1375 01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:22,720 Speaker 1: were so many things that triggered me, anything like any 1376 01:11:22,800 --> 01:11:29,679 Speaker 1: kind of smells, like if he's wearing, if I drink 1377 01:11:29,680 --> 01:11:31,280 Speaker 1: a glass of wine, she's like, oh my god, you 1378 01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:38,200 Speaker 1: smell discussing. Oh no, but yeah, I was pretty much 1379 01:11:38,600 --> 01:11:41,160 Speaker 1: like confined to the house for at least a month. 1380 01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:44,120 Speaker 1: I don't really want to go anywhere or do anything. 1381 01:11:45,840 --> 01:11:48,920 Speaker 1: But luckily I'm feeling better now. Did you have any 1382 01:11:49,040 --> 01:11:53,920 Speaker 1: bachelor fans have an inkling of this, because I'll admit 1383 01:11:54,479 --> 01:11:58,000 Speaker 1: I read some stuff and it seems like people were 1384 01:11:58,080 --> 01:12:00,519 Speaker 1: onto you. And I don't know how how hard you 1385 01:12:00,520 --> 01:12:02,760 Speaker 1: have to stalk your social media to be onto you, 1386 01:12:03,520 --> 01:12:05,479 Speaker 1: but it seemed like there was some rumors that you 1387 01:12:05,640 --> 01:12:08,280 Speaker 1: there was a baby in there for a while. I 1388 01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:13,000 Speaker 1: think that someone maybe at our doctor's office, tipped someone on. 1389 01:12:13,520 --> 01:12:17,720 Speaker 1: You got a call from cand um So and there 1390 01:12:17,760 --> 01:12:21,200 Speaker 1: were some rumors out there after that. Wow, all right, 1391 01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:24,479 Speaker 1: Well that's what I mean I think it's one thing 1392 01:12:24,520 --> 01:12:26,240 Speaker 1: if you go to an O, B G Y N. 1393 01:12:26,240 --> 01:12:28,720 Speaker 1: But if it's another thing, if you're beyont, it goes 1394 01:12:28,800 --> 01:12:35,400 Speaker 1: with you. Yeah, that's a telltale sign. Yeah, we've been 1395 01:12:35,439 --> 01:12:38,000 Speaker 1: going to the doctor a few times, and you know, 1396 01:12:38,040 --> 01:12:39,680 Speaker 1: when you're in the waiting room and stuff, it's just 1397 01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:42,160 Speaker 1: it's gonna happen. People are gonna notice you there. It 1398 01:12:42,320 --> 01:12:44,519 Speaker 1: was probably somebody in the waiting room, not necessarily, and 1399 01:12:44,800 --> 01:12:46,960 Speaker 1: you know that works at the office. But you're feeling 1400 01:12:47,000 --> 01:12:50,360 Speaker 1: better now, Lauren. Yeah, Yeah, I'm no more sick, no 1401 01:12:50,439 --> 01:12:54,400 Speaker 1: more morning sickness, not really. I haven't. Occasionally, like when 1402 01:12:54,439 --> 01:12:56,559 Speaker 1: we're driving around in the car. I have to drive 1403 01:12:56,840 --> 01:12:58,400 Speaker 1: us around a lot of this time, so we'll get 1404 01:12:58,439 --> 01:13:01,400 Speaker 1: car sickness. But other than I'm good. There's a funny 1405 01:13:01,439 --> 01:13:03,880 Speaker 1: few things that we that we talked about. You know. 1406 01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:06,840 Speaker 1: The one thing is she has bread next to her bed, 1407 01:13:07,479 --> 01:13:10,160 Speaker 1: so she gets hungry in the middle of the night 1408 01:13:10,640 --> 01:13:13,519 Speaker 1: to grab that loaf of bread. I think that's kind 1409 01:13:13,520 --> 01:13:16,200 Speaker 1: of the funniest thing. That's awesome that happens on a 1410 01:13:16,240 --> 01:13:19,200 Speaker 1: regular basis. I used to I used to give her 1411 01:13:19,520 --> 01:13:21,760 Speaker 1: like we used to just bring water to bed. Now 1412 01:13:21,840 --> 01:13:25,040 Speaker 1: she literally has. It's probably like the size of a 1413 01:13:25,040 --> 01:13:27,679 Speaker 1: big gulp. It's like get the ounce of the water. 1414 01:13:29,360 --> 01:13:35,080 Speaker 1: Oh that's anywhere cravings um yeah all the time it 1415 01:13:35,240 --> 01:13:40,200 Speaker 1: changes like no more meatballs? Oh, no more meatballs now. Yeah. 1416 01:13:40,320 --> 01:13:45,839 Speaker 1: The whole beginning, I was craving meatballs, like beef jerky anything. 1417 01:13:45,880 --> 01:13:47,880 Speaker 1: It was like red meat, and I don't really eat 1418 01:13:47,920 --> 01:13:51,439 Speaker 1: red meat, so for me that was out of the ordinary. Um. 1419 01:13:51,479 --> 01:13:59,720 Speaker 1: And anything like lemonade. I really like lemonade. Anything else 1420 01:14:00,040 --> 01:14:02,160 Speaker 1: like you had like a pickle, like during the road 1421 01:14:02,160 --> 01:14:09,439 Speaker 1: trip to Vegas. That was funny. All right, guys as well, 1422 01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:15,960 Speaker 1: thank you so much for giving us this interview, especially 1423 01:14:16,000 --> 01:14:18,880 Speaker 1: after you sat down with us for an hour last 1424 01:14:18,920 --> 01:14:22,040 Speaker 1: two weeks ago. We're so appreciative and we are so 1425 01:14:22,040 --> 01:14:25,280 Speaker 1: so happy for you. It's so cool and hearing you know, 1426 01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:29,519 Speaker 1: it's it's different hearing you guys tell the story to 1427 01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:32,880 Speaker 1: us through the radio basically than it is to read 1428 01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:35,400 Speaker 1: the articles. So thank you so much for being here 1429 01:14:35,439 --> 01:14:38,320 Speaker 1: and telling the story. Yeah, of course, yeah, of course, 1430 01:14:38,360 --> 01:14:40,240 Speaker 1: thank you guys for having us. All right, we can't 1431 01:14:40,240 --> 01:14:43,200 Speaker 1: wait to find out what the gender is. Come the sexes, 1432 01:14:43,360 --> 01:14:48,559 Speaker 1: come the reveal on Colton's premier hopefully talk to you later. 1433 01:14:48,680 --> 01:14:49,600 Speaker 1: Lauren Denari