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Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks in this episode, Candy, your relationship

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Speaker 1: survived the immigration test. Welcome to this episode of Amy

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Speaker 1: and TJ. When we're talking about here robes. It's something

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Speaker 1: that got our attention because we are huge ninety Day

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Speaker 1: Fiance fans, and a lot of people should know what

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Speaker 1: that means. That show's everywhere and it's been spawned how many,

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Speaker 1: like twenty spinoffs.

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Speaker 2: We still have been discovering new spinoffs that we didn't

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Speaker 2: know existed, Like there's one in Paradise, there's one in

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Speaker 2: the Caribbean. Yeah, we've been watching the one in the Caribbean.

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Speaker 1: There's ninety day the other way, there's ninety day UK,

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Speaker 1: there's ninety day before the ninety day, there's ninety day.

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Speaker 2: After ever after where this question mark, there was another one?

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Speaker 1: Okay anyway on. The show has been wildly successful, but

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Speaker 1: it all stemmed from originally the original one was about, Yes,

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Speaker 1: Americans find people they want to marry in other lands,

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Speaker 1: in other countries, and then they bring them here to

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Speaker 1: the US and you have this K one visa that

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Speaker 1: gives you ninety days. Once they get here, you have

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Speaker 1: ninety days to get married. Part of the process. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: you have to get this K one visa, and you

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Speaker 1: have to pass a test to prove that your relationship

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Speaker 1: is real. Could you pass the tests right?

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Speaker 2: And so we were watching actually just this week, and

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Speaker 2: couple we googled and found out they actually are expecting

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Speaker 2: at one point she said, Okay, what high school did

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Speaker 2: What high school did you go to? So they're trying

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Speaker 1: If you had to go in there answer questions about

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Speaker 1: to take this test. We have not seen the questions,

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Speaker 1: The only part I'm nervous about in answering is that

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Speaker 1: it is behavioral versus your resume, Like I don't know

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Speaker 2: The thing that worries me is we've known each other

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Speaker 2: now for ten years. We've been in a relationship for

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Speaker 2: Agree, yes, right, yes, And Andy has taken this job

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Speaker 2: All right, Andy, the floor is yours saying the first one?

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Speaker 3: All right, Amy, What is something small but meaningful your

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Speaker 1: This is what we're gonna go. This is our problem.

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Speaker 3: The relationships feels real. You know the times you're waking up.

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Speaker 1: You know what that I bet? The immigration officer said, yeah,

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Speaker 1: y'all are good. Y'all, y'all are bickering and bitching over

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Speaker 3: All right, TEJ? Who is more of a morning person?

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Speaker 2: TJ's first job was at Red Lobster. He was a host.

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Speaker 1: Professional setting Red Lobster.

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Speaker 1: Enthusiastic?

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Speaker 2: TJ is the better dancer?

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Speaker 2: Yes he can. He can dance on the threes and

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Speaker 1: You hear that threes and fives, there's there's only ones, twos,

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Speaker 2: I just proved my own point that TJ has better

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Speaker 1: This is fun fun We okay, we don't need to

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Speaker 1: the twos and fours. It's just the snare that's the key.

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Speaker 1: What's the I wish We can't play any music right now?

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Speaker 1: Right we can't. We don't have the rights much money.

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Speaker 1: But it's so funny to hear that you were keeping

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Speaker 3: Okay, so it's been decided. You're definitely the better dance. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 3: What are some of the things you have in common

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Speaker 1: We both love horror movies, we both love skinny Margarita's,

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Speaker 1: How am I doing?

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Speaker 2: Okay, we both have daughters. Wow, well this is your question,

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Speaker 3: Yes, Yes, two daughters thing, that's what the horror movies,

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Speaker 3: the skinny Margaritas. I didn't know you both like skinny margarita.

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Speaker 3: That's fun. What's your favorite place to go get them?

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Speaker 3: That's not one of the questions, but you know, I

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're gonna say one of two places, Cali. Okay,

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Speaker 1: We nailed it.

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Speaker 3: We're again, Please leave the office. Amy, What is the

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Speaker 3: longest time you've been apart and how did you handle it?

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Speaker 2: This is hilarious. Since we've been together, the longest we've

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Speaker 2: only been four nights and I missed him every second.

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Speaker 1: That's probably right, four or five. I'm trying to think

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Speaker 1: that's the most.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, Tej. What's a funny story you both

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Speaker 3: like to tell about your relationship.

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Speaker 1: Oh, most of our stories are very serious. Have you

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Speaker 1: You said, funny story? Okay, we need.

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Speaker 2: Some more funny stories we have.

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Speaker 2: A funny story.

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Speaker 1: That's a great story.

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Speaker 2: It was jet lagged from Mexico.

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Speaker 1: Do they need us to tell it? So we have

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Speaker 2: Sure? Maybe not fully?

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Speaker 1: Okay, then never mind find the story.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of there's a stuff out of Las Vegas,

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Speaker 2: How about how people fall around us? Okay, there's a

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's a weird thing that we have. I think

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Speaker 2: I think you have the superpower. I think you have

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Speaker 1: There's a radius around me, and if people getting a

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Speaker 1: hilarious America's funniest home video type falls you have ever seen, men, women, children,

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Speaker 2: But I am somebody. I have fully admitted this. I'm

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Speaker 1: Nobody's ever gonna believe, but it's hard to explain people

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Speaker 2: we were in France and one man took down his wife, Yes,

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Speaker 1: It seem like we've referred We should clear this up.

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Speaker 1: It seems like we referred to a couple of babies

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Speaker 1: And it's not majority babies.

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Speaker 2: Majority people like runners when you're out running, like just bite.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So how about when we were in Las Vegas. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Weekly, Yeah, it's once a week weekly, real fall. Okay, So,

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Speaker 1: mister immigration officer, obviously we've spent time together, No for sure.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to be around in triple full in

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Speaker 2: Wat we will laugh as long as you're okay.

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Speaker 3: Amy, where was your first date?

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Speaker 1: Okay? I have that answer, and I assume it's going

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Speaker 2: Our first date. I am struggling with this, our first date.

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Speaker 1: It's almost a trick question.

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Speaker 2: I mean, would it be o'donna use our first date?

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Speaker 2: I I don't know what it was because we were

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Speaker 1: And that is the answer. Mister officers. We have no

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Speaker 1: go have lunch, go do We have been doing that

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Speaker 1: and it was just such an organic thing. Yes, we

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Speaker 2: Dictum, we don't even have an anniversary.

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Speaker 1: I know, say it ain't it.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 2: We've talked about it, like what day should we celebrate us?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. We could just pick one, pick them all, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, TJ. This is the question number ten. If you

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Speaker 1: There's a practical answer to this, and there is a

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Speaker 1: Now you throw that out. I think possibly saw you

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Speaker 2: I actually last night said this to TJ. Why do

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Speaker 2: literally said that last night. So you nailed it.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that was how we only got one wrong? I

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Speaker 2: Your first job, right, Yeah, but that was just.

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Speaker 1: A brain fart on your bar. You knew the story,

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Speaker 2: Did work at Red Lobster. It just wasn't your first job.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, those shirts with the I don't know what

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Speaker 2: Somehow you probably made it look cool.

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Speaker 1: I did well annoying you staying with us here, folks,

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Speaker 1: we got ten more questions to go.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back everyone. We are halfway through our immigration test

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Speaker 2: to see if our relationship in fact is real, is legit,

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Speaker 2: and we were curious not to see just how well

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Speaker 2: Hopefully some of you are playing along with us with

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Speaker 2: We'll find out we've done so well. I missed the

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Speaker 2: first job. Let's see how we do in these last

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Speaker 2: ten questions. Andy take it away.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Amy, what is TJ's favorite hobby.

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Speaker 2: TJ's favorite hobby is riding his motorcycle or taking care

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Speaker 2: of his motorcycle. Just something about tinkering with his motorcycle.

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Speaker 2: But it involves his motorcycle.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's that's fair. The other one I was going

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's an obvious one, and I was weighing that

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Speaker 1: I love that bike.

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Speaker 2: The bike is a hobby.

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Speaker 3: TJ with Amy's favorite hobby, hobby.

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Speaker 1: Hobby she likes. She likes hiking. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: Wow. Right, So would you like me to tell you

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Speaker 2: I have two that I haven't been able to do

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Speaker 2: would say two of them are interior decorating and gardening. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: of But yes, so you haven't. In fairness to you,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of it. There was something else

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Speaker 2: Yes, I love I love doing anything for like interior design. Yes,

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Speaker 1: So that qualifies is a myss for me? Then?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, now we're even awesome.

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Speaker 3: It's not a competition, baby, TJ. Do you have any

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Speaker 3: shared future goals or dreams.

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Speaker 1: Do the two of us? Yes? Uh? Shared future goals

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Speaker 1: or dreams? Yes we do. Uh, future goals running this

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Speaker 1: We'll skip all the wedding stuff.

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Speaker 3: I'm the immigration officer, so I would actually like to

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Speaker 1: You know, I just want to talk to my mom

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Speaker 2: Absolutely.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, Amy, what's one thing your partner does that

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 2: One thing my partner does that I never expected. Oh

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Speaker 1: I do love some outlet shopping. I don't know what

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Speaker 2: And most guys especially don't like to outlet shop because

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Speaker 2: That's been my experience. You love the whole process.

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Speaker 1: Well, what is it? It's not? Don't guys often not

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Speaker 2: The racks sometimes not just for yourself, but for us

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Speaker 1: That's true, especially outlet shopping.

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, Andy seems surprised by the way he was,

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Speaker 1: What's the one out there.

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Speaker 1: because I had something I bought at the outlet Christmas

442
00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 1: time and I loved it so much, and then I

443
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 1: can't find it anywhere online. So I called the outlet store.

444
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: I just was two weeks ago, isn't it? I called

445
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 1: a story Woodburg Commons. Please tell me you got it?

446
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:56,920
Speaker 1: They didn't, By the way, it's that deep, uh TJ.

447
00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:00,439
Speaker 3: What's the best advice Amy has ever? Give you?

448
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 1: The best? I'm trying to think of so many of

449
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 1: the h because you gave me a lot of what

450
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 1: Eckhart totally titles. Uh Michael Singer titles. I think, man,

451
00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: I'm plucking it from Michael Singer's book. But I want

452
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:26,919
Speaker 1: to say it came from you for some reason, This

453
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 1: idea of not continuing to trip over things you've already

454
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 1: gotten passed. It's in one of Michael Singer's books. The

455
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 1: way it was put was that just you, you passed

456
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: by a small child and a stroller on the street,

457
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,159
Speaker 1: and you go, oh, child's cute, and then the child is

458
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 1: gone and you move on by to day and don't

459
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 1: think about that kid again. Well, why don't you treat

460
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 1: all your troubles that way? Why don't you treat people right,

461
00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:50,080
Speaker 1: people that get in your way that way? Why why

462
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 1: we have such a I think what I'm trying to

463
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 1: say here is that the advice I got that I

464
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,720
Speaker 1: picked up on this was before we started dating, and

465
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,920
Speaker 1: when I needed it at the time, was to not

466
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,880
Speaker 1: get hung up on things you've already passed or gone

467
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:08,359
Speaker 1: by a way of just settling your mind to a

468
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 1: certain degree. But that came from and I was in

469
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 1: a very difficult and dark place at that time.

470
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we started a lot of our deep

471
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,959
Speaker 2: conversations happened purely as friends early on. So yes, and

472
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:22,920
Speaker 2: I would not take any credit for any of the

473
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 2: device but it was only yes things that I gleaned

474
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 2: from Michael Singer and Ecartoli. I think one of my

475
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 2: favorite things he says is relax and release, which is

476
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,919
Speaker 2: maybe similar to what you're saying. So you relax, you

477
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 2: relax yourself, you acknowledge that you're feeling stressed, you're acknowledged

478
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 2: that you're having a problem. You relax, and then you

479
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 2: feel it and then you release it and you let

480
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 2: it go, and you don't let it build up inside

481
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 2: you and create what he calls thorns. So that now

482
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:49,439
Speaker 2: anytime anyone else does something that reminds you of that

483
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,719
Speaker 2: or brings that feeling back up, because you haven't let

484
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 2: it go, You've stored it. He calls it a thorn.

485
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: And so then you go about your life trying to

486
00:23:56,760 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: make sure people don't touch your thorns instead of acknowledging

487
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,679
Speaker 2: the thorn and releasing it. And so, yes, that is

488
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 2: something I constantly have to remind myself of. My best

489
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 2: friend Nikki put that on her arm, Relax and release.

490
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 1: She tattooed it, and I have surrender tattooed on my arm. Actually,

491
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: but I'm trying to think of some advice you give

492
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 1: me now, as in a relationship as a mate, advice

493
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 1: you give me, can't think.

494
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 2: Of any lovely.

495
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm trying to, like on a daily baside, to do

496
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: this or make sure you remember this, or don't forget this,

497
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: or I can't think of any right now. I'm sorry.

498
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: I'm just under the pressure of the interview right now,

499
00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: and I can't relax my mind. That's my problem right now,

500
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 1: got it. I'm nervous about this, Okay. I just want

501
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:40,479
Speaker 1: to do a good job, and I feel like I'm

502
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 1: blowing it.

503
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 3: Amy, do you remember the first time you met TJ's kids.

504
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 2: I don't remember the first time because Sabine, I know

505
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,879
Speaker 2: that she would have been won and she was always

506
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 2: running around the Good Morning America studios. So I do

507
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 2: remember that I met her when she was couldn't speak,

508
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: and that she was the cutest little damn thing ever

509
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 2: in like just the cutest little outfit and shy is all,

510
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:12,400
Speaker 2: and just probably hugging TJ's leg and me saying hi, Sabine,

511
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 2: and her maybe putting her face in his leg. But

512
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 2: that I don't have the exact date, but I have

513
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 2: like an idea of it, and I remember how little

514
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 2: she was.

515
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: Now she's twelve and annoying as hell.

516
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 2: I think she's still sweet.

517
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 1: She is a she is a great kid. She really

518
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:27,199
Speaker 1: really is a good kid. And you have had so

519
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: much of an impact in her world or like over

520
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: the past two years. Look, she's dealt with some upheaval,

521
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: but you've been a very settling part of that. And

522
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 1: she spends seems like all of her wake time with us.

523
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,640
Speaker 1: But no, no, she is she man, She's a good kid. Yeah,

524
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: but I'm trying even And Elise, I met them, who knows.

525
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 2: You met them when they were much much younger as well.

526
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 2: It's one of those things where when we because it

527
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,679
Speaker 2: started out as just a friendship for so long, we

528
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: can't remember when we first met. We cannot remember the

529
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 2: moment we first laid eyes on each other. No memory.

530
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: All right, well he's burned in my memory. You had

531
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,120
Speaker 1: a glow behind you, almost like a y. It was angelic.

532
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, sign from the beginning teaching.

533
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 3: Yes, sir, what high school did Amy go to?

534
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: This is so funny.

535
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 1: She went to a high school in uh in Snellville, Georgia.

536
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 2: M Brentwood very close.

537
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: Wood is at the end.

538
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 2: Yes, And.

539
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 1: What I say, Brentwood, you said Brentwood. There's gotta be

540
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 1: a brent A Brock.

541
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:50,439
Speaker 2: Uh M, fuck, let's just Brookwood High School, Brookwood, Brookwood, Brentwood.

542
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: Okay, So if I just said to the immigration officer,

543
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: she went to Ringo High School, and that would have

544
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: been I would have heard it.

545
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 2: But you did get Snellville, Georgia. Right, it's hard to

546
00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 2: forget because as it's.

547
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 1: Your folks are still there.

548
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's well, they're not still in Snowville anymore.

549
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 1: What's the town they're in? Okay't give it away. I

550
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: would have just given it away if they were still

551
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:10,360
Speaker 1: in Snowville.

552
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 2: But yes, sorry, oh my goodness, wait now I'm forgetting

553
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: the town they just now it's completely escaped me. Kim

554
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 2: Basinger used to own it, used to own what the

555
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 2: town that my parents live in? Brazilton, Brazzleton, Georgia.

556
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna give it away.

557
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: It's a fun fact.

558
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: Would you want to include the address?

559
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 2: Sure?

560
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: A stop? Is it twenty? Is it really?

561
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 3: No? It's okay, all right, we only have four questions left. Amy,

562
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 3: what was the last gift you got from teaching?

563
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 2: Oh that's so easy, I am wearing I'm actually i

564
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,879
Speaker 2: have both of them with me right now. I have

565
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 2: the purse he gave me and a pair of you

566
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 2: gave me. Are these black diamonds in white gold?

567
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:56,160
Speaker 1: Yes?

568
00:27:56,280 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 2: Yes, hoops. So I actually have them on right now

569
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,400
Speaker 2: and I can prove it to you, Officer. Here they are.

570
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 3: I love evidence.

571
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: Thank you. Wow, check that one off.

572
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, TJ. How did your family react

573
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 3: when you told them about your relationship?

574
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: I didn't get a chance to Okay, there it is. Yes,

575
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 1: this is a legit question that somebody be asked. But yes,

576
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: that was that's crazy. We didn't get a chance to

577
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: do what we wanted to do. We were building up

578
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 1: to that moment of announcing all this stuff and it

579
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: was taken from us. So that sucks. I hated it

580
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: for our families, our parents especially, But yeah, we didn't

581
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: we didn't get that moment. Well, we got moments to

582
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: mister officer. See, she did meet she's met my parents

583
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 1: on a couple of occasions, sat and had a great

584
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: old Italian dinner with my folks on a lovely night

585
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: here in New York. And we are going, oh my god,

586
00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: she's making the first trip home to make this coming

587
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 1: up the first time she's ever been to my hometown

588
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: and this is happening in a matter of weeks.

589
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 2: Oh wow, very exciting. I've never been to Memphis, so

590
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 2: super excited. I'm hoping he takes me to Graceland.

591
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: Mister officer, would you like to see our flight itinerary?

592
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: It's books.

593
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 3: I will ask for that binder that comes in the

594
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 3: document review portion.

595
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Amy, So the last one for you?

596
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 2: Maybe? All right?

597
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 3: What is the most important thing you both value in

598
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 3: this relationship?

599
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:39,479
Speaker 2: The most important thing we both value? I think that

600
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 2: the most important thing in any relationship is trust. I'm

601
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:48,960
Speaker 2: not talking about like trust that we are going to

602
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 2: stay true to each other, but trust that we're both

603
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 2: in it for keeps in it for each other's best interests.

604
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 2: Trusting that even when we have tough times or bad times,

605
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 2: that the goal is the same, that we love each

606
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 2: other and we want to spend our lives with each other.

607
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: So I think that's the most important aspect shared value

608
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 2: that we have. Would you agree or disagree? Hey, this

609
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 2: was your question, Well, I was supposed to be.

610
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 3: I had an answer from you.

611
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 1: I had different interview questions smissed the officer.

612
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 3: I thought this was Now I'm just a nosy interview the.

613
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: My mom. That's a matter of well, what was again

614
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 1: the most important.

615
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 3: The most important thing you both value in your relationship.

616
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: I would go with friendship, but it was that was

617
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 1: always the foundation. As long as that's there, I think

618
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 1: we're going to be okay. But a lot we hear

619
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: it all the time. People will get married and I say, no,

620
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: she's my best friend and all list. You don't hear

621
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: as often that someone actually marries their best friend, like

622
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: we were best friends first and then the relationship happens.

623
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: So to have that foundation, it's critical. I said before

624
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: I've said here, we talked about it. Hey, before we

625
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: even start our relationship, and say hey, if this is

626
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: going to sacrifice or hurt our friendship, I cannot lose

627
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 1: you as a friend. I would sacrifice a relationship with you,

628
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: but I have to keep a friendship with you. So that,

629
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 1: mister officer sers is what I would say.

630
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: All right, and Tej, yeah, because you still have your

631
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 2: last question, questions taking liberties now with this, I just.

632
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 3: Don't want to ask it, you know, TJ, what is

633
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 3: your favorite thing about living together?

634
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 1: Favorite that it's tough because there's a lot. If I

635
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 1: start saying it out loud, maybe I'll go, oh, yeah,

636
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: of course, that's it. I love the routine of it.

637
00:31:56,520 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 1: I love the not having to make I don't like.

638
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: I love not having to say, well, where we're going

639
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 1: to be here or there, or where are you're going

640
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: to be? We know we're going to be together. I

641
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:10,959
Speaker 1: love that. I love the evenings of cooking together. I

642
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: love being being in the house and in the mix

643
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 1: and in one home with us. I love all of that.

644
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: So the favorite thing about it, I don't know. I

645
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 1: think it's the certainty of just how it feels. We

646
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: had so much back and forth and we finally got

647
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: to settle down and to calm down and to be together,

648
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: and I think, yeah, there's some piece that comes with

649
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: that certainty. And I know it's not just one thing,

650
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: but it's it's that is the thing. I guess that's

651
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 1: that's the most comforting I guess about where we are now.

652
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 3: Okay, And as you know a K one visa it

653
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 3: says that the purpose is to get married within the

654
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 3: ninety days. This question goes for both of you.

655
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 2: Guys.

656
00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 3: Have you talked about marriage and what kind of wedding you'd.

657
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 1: Like, yes and yes, and thank you mister officer for

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Speaker 1: your time today. It's really you've been great through this process, sir,

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Speaker 1: and we look forward to the results. Do we get

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Speaker 1: them now or should we wait to find out later?

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Speaker 3: Let's see. Yep, you pass.

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Speaker 1: So the clock is ticking. We got ninety days to

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Speaker 1: get this done. Oh yeah, to answer that, that's fair.

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Speaker 1: Of course. We talk about our we talk all the time. Yes,

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if people will know ahead of time.

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Speaker 1: There's not going to be some magazine spread with all

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Speaker 1: of our pictures and inviting people to some wedding of

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Speaker 1: our Yeah, just pop up one day and we're married

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Speaker 1: and say, yeah, we just had our four year anniversary.

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Speaker 1: Everybody going with, what the hell? Yeah, that's gonna be us.

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Speaker 2: That's probably how we're gonna roll, just because I think, yeah,

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Speaker 2: when you get to this point in your life, and

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Speaker 2: I love a wedding, I love going to weddings, but

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Speaker 2: for us, it's not about the wedding. It's about the marriage.

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Speaker 2: So it's just a different, a completely different focus after

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Speaker 2: having already truly been there, done that, gotcha all right?

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Speaker 1: Well, folks, really, I'm curious to know if people if well,

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Speaker 1: agin I'm majority female listeners here. Thanks, Yeah, okay. I

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Speaker 1: wonder if going through it in their minds, if they

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Speaker 1: could answer and think their significant other could answer most

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Speaker 1: of these questions.

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Speaker 2: I think, hopefully the answer is probably yes. They're not

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Speaker 2: tricky questions necessarily, but they are thought provoking questions, and

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Speaker 2: I think it's always fun to have a reason to

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Speaker 2: dive a little deeper with your partner to see how

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Speaker 2: well you know them. So we thought this would be

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Speaker 2: fun and we hope you all enjoyed it, and we'll

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Speaker 2: take it back to your favorite person who you're considering

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Speaker 2: marrying perhaps or are already married too, but we appreciate

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Speaker 2: you listening to us. Thank you. We hope you enjoyed

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Speaker 2: this episode of Amy and TJ. You know where to

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Speaker 2: find us on Instagram, and of course we're always there.

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Speaker 2: A being Monday Friday six thirty am for the morning run.

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Speaker 2: Check it out. I