1 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: Parenting is definitely like a sport. And I say that 2 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 1: because you know when you're doing a decent job. You 3 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: know when you feel like you're failing a little bit. 4 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: You know when you're sort of like staining the couch 5 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,160 Speaker 1: and it's never gonna come out. And what I mean 6 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:31,159 Speaker 1: is like, you're like, wait, whatever that argument was with 7 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: my kid, or whatever I said, or whatever I did, 8 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: or however I handled that, is that going to leave 9 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: a mark. 10 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 2: Now. 11 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 1: They're not wrapped in bubble wrap. You're not supposed to 12 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: have everything be perfect for them. They're supposed to experience adversity, 13 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: as I certainly have. But parenting and doing a good job, 14 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 1: in my opinion, is like riding a horse, like a 15 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: racehorse it's a strong animal, or a race car. Navigating 16 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: and handling a race car. You can't just say like, 17 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: I know how to do it, and I did one 18 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: thing right, so therefore I could just be on autopilot. 19 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 2: Like you have to be on the case at all times. 20 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: And I think that many people, understandably because they may 21 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: have many jobs and stresses and other things going on, 22 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: take the path at least resistance, meaning okay, fine, let 23 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: them let them do it. I can't even deal with it. 24 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: Buy it, feed them it, let them watch the TV, 25 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: let them do it, because you get exhausted. You just 26 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:26,960 Speaker 1: don't know how to deal with it. Sometimes, like I 27 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: know what the right thing to do to handle it is, 28 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: but it's like you have to manage it. For example, 29 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 1: I had a party this weekend, to go to a 30 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 1: really good fun party, like a big party, and it 31 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 1: was in New York and I'm in Florida. Now I 32 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: could have someone stay overnight with Brinn. She's a very 33 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: good girl and I trust her. But we're at that 34 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: age where it's the kids and the parties and the 35 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: driving and the things like that, and I'm on the 36 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: case because I've seen things go sideways. And so it's 37 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: not that I never will go away. I will sometimes, 38 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: especially when we get a rhythm in a new environment 39 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: and a new school. But like every time I have 40 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: something I could do, especially if it's not work and 41 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: it's not like something I really should do, I don't 42 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: do it because I it's not just that you have 43 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: to like know what to do it so that you 44 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 1: have to be there to execute. You have to kind 45 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: of be in there by and let your kids know 46 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: that you're asking the questions and you want the parent's 47 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: phone number, and that sometimes sometimes my daughter will be 48 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: sleeping over someone's house and I didn't even get the 49 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: phone number of the parent. Now something terrible happened, it 50 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 1: would be like, wait, how did she not know that 51 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: she was somewhere else? Because there's so many plans they're 52 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 1: running in so many different directions that it's hard to 53 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: keep up. So I remind myself, like this weekend and 54 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: Brinn didn't get back to me, she forgot not because 55 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: she wouldn't give it to me. She usually does, but 56 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: she slept at someone's house and I didn't get the 57 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 1: name and the number of the parent, but I did 58 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 1: see that she had gotten home or left where she 59 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: was at eleven thirty. I'm just saying, like, it takes 60 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: a lot, and that's one kid. If you have four 61 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: kids and you're trying to figure out where everybody is, Like, 62 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: that is a full time job. Okay, it is a 63 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,359 Speaker 1: full time job. That's not lip service, that's not bullshit. 64 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: That's not me trying to even it out and be like, 65 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: oh yeah, mom's work too, Like a mom who has 66 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: several kids is a full time job. If you're doing 67 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: it with any version of a decent job, because it's 68 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: honestly staying on the case because you're at certain ages, 69 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: you're in the witching hour. 70 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 2: When they're little, like they're little mummies. 71 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: Like they just you tell them where to go, they go, 72 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: You tell them, yes, you have to watch it. They 73 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: don't eat glass, and that's a different, exhausting, physically exhausting, 74 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: full time job to make sure they're not just swallowing legos. 75 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: But as they get into the teen years through the 76 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: college years, I presume that's the witching hour. That's because 77 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: they're still young but they think they're adults. That's a 78 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: dangerous thing. That's like someone who is stupid and thinks 79 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: they're smart. It's a bad combination. So they're still young, 80 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: but they think they are adults and they have all 81 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: the freedom until they get jammed up with something. So 82 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: you're trying to explain, yeah, no, you're not an expert 83 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 1: on driving because you have a permit, and you don't 84 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: push back on me when I say something because I've 85 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: been driving for forty years or not forty years, almost 86 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: forty years. Like they think they know everything, and it's like, 87 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: just do the math. Get your calculator out. You've been 88 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: doing this four weeks. I've been doing this forty years, 89 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: So listen because I know more about this than you do. 90 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 1: So this is the witching hour, is what I'm saying. 91 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 1: And it's not to be on the case. And it's yes, safety, 92 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: like I'll text my daughter and this has nothing to 93 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: do with drugs in particular or drinking in particular. It's 94 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: called you put your drink down and to have molly 95 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: put in it. Like, it doesn't happen most of the time, 96 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 1: neither salmonella new a toxic shock syndrome. 97 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 2: But it exists. It exists. 98 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: Most things don't happen, But do you want to be 99 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,239 Speaker 1: the exception? So like I find myself trying to navigate 100 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: not being annoying in a weirdo that she thinks is 101 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: just like a fatal catastrophe and be like, just like 102 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 1: reminding you don't put your drink down. Crazy things happen. 103 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: And something did happen with someone that she knows that 104 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: wasn't fatal or bad, but it was like an alarm, 105 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: like a near miss. And I was glad because it 106 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,799 Speaker 1: was a lesson. I wasn't glad because that was traumatic, 107 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: but like they don't know until they see something firsthand, 108 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 1: and then they forget. Everybody, myself included, thinks they're invincible. 109 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: I forget my EpiPen a lot of the time. It's 110 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: happened once in my entire life that I've almost died, 111 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 1: that I was hospitalized and literally was almost dead. But 112 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: it happened once. So I should never forget my EpiPen, 113 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: but I do because we all think it's not gonna 114 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: happen to us. And so parenting is just like a 115 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: real thing. You have to keep just keep on it, 116 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: keep on it. And I don't know how somebody has 117 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 1: a full time job in four kids. That's got to 118 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: be very hard. You need a good life partner. And 119 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 1: if you're a single mom or dad, power to you, 120 00:05:48,640 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 1: and good Lord, you need a swift, strong cocktail. There 121 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: is nothing that will make me say no more than 122 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: my child saying. 123 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,839 Speaker 2: But they get to but they are allowed to. 124 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: Like there's nothing more frustrating to a parent than your 125 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: kids saying that, because it would be like there's no 126 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: control group, like if the two of you were if 127 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: the two if your child and all their peers were 128 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: absolute like manufactured robots where everybody started with exactly the 129 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: same hardware and same environment. You could then compare, but like, 130 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: let's say that you are Italian and you take your 131 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: kids to Italy for the summer, or you have only 132 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: an only child so they get to travel around the 133 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: world with you, or have more toys or have a 134 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 1: bigger room, or you have enough money to send them 135 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: to college, or you don't have enough money to send 136 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: them to college. But every summery or on the Jersey 137 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,720 Speaker 1: shore and clamming, Like, everybody has a different life, and 138 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: so your kid coming to you to talk about one aspect. 139 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: It could be what the other kids are allowed to buy, 140 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: where the other kids are allowed to go, how late 141 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: they're allowed to stay up, how many classes they have 142 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: to take, if they have to study, if they get 143 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 1: to do sport, whatever they get to go to camp, 144 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: whatever it is. You can't compare because everybody's life is different. 145 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: So let's say that, like I'm really indulgent with experiences. 146 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: Let's say we go to Europe, my daughter's been to Australia, 147 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: but like more strict about possessions, or my kid had 148 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: less screen time or more toys, like you have your 149 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: own puzzle that you've created with your child and your parenting. 150 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: So it is completely infuriating when your kid wants to 151 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: come and isolate one incident and say that person gets 152 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: to do that or get that, and you're like, are 153 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: you out of your mind? 154 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 2: Does that person get to do this? Does that person 155 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 2: get to do that? 156 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: Like what if you're a twenty five year old mom 157 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: and you can like hang out with your daughter or 158 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: like your dad and you can like toss the football 159 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: and you're like not working or you're stay at home, 160 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: you get to be with your kid all the time, 161 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: like you could never ever compare. 162 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 2: So the minute that I hear that, I. 163 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: Completely shut down and it goes from being able to 164 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: get whatever that thing was possibly or in moderation. 165 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 2: Two stores closed. 166 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: I'm done, period, the end doesn't matter. Don't ever bring 167 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: that up, Like are you strict? I am strict. I'm 168 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 1: like strict slash slightly scary, meaning I'm like, I don't 169 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 1: tolerate any disrespect. I hear the way children speak to 170 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: their parents, I actually can't believe it, Like I tolerate none. 171 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 1: I don't tolerate like that little okay, Like when you 172 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: say something like you can't do it, okay, or like 173 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: when your kids like, you're like no and you're not 174 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 1: allowed to do that okay, like a sarcastic I wish 175 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: you could say my fae like I'm like no, I 176 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: be absolutely not. Don't answer me back, don't speak in 177 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 1: that tone like I snapped the leash the minute there's 178 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: any version of disrespect like and I mean it too. 179 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: I do not play game. I do not suffer fools. 180 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: I have always been like that. You must be on 181 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: the case. You can't do it once, They're not do 182 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,320 Speaker 1: it for three months. It's like your closet. It's not 183 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 1: going to say the way it was the day you 184 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,440 Speaker 1: moved in the way it was organized unless you maintain it. 185 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: Same with the inside of your car, same with everything. 186 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 1: So I am on the maintenance program. I am indulgent, 187 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: but I am very strict. Like I do not tolerate disrespect. 188 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 1: I don't tolerate spoiled rude. 189 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 2: I don't. 190 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 1: And I can see how the path of least resistance 191 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 1: is easy because people have multiple kids, they have schedule constraints, 192 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 1: they're exhausted. You know, sometimes you punish your kid and 193 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: it's exhausting for you because you've got to be home 194 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: and deal with them. You know, sometimes you feel like, 195 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:44,800 Speaker 1: how am I going to do this? You just want 196 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: to give in. It just is easier to just give in. 197 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: But the truth is you got to try to stay 198 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: on it. And like I've said before, sometimes I forget. 199 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm like, wait, I didn't get the parents' information. 200 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: I didn't say you could do that, Like I didn't 201 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: make this rule. Like it can be really exhausting, especially 202 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:01,680 Speaker 1: with other things, but you've got to find your way 203 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:10,199 Speaker 1: to stay on the case. So someone asked me in 204 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: an interview at OnlyFans, and I thought of it yesterday 205 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: when I was taking a walk and I saw someone 206 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: that my inner, unedited, unfiltered mind thought to myself, should 207 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: they be wearing a bikini? And the answer is yes, 208 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: they should because it's their body and their bikini. Like, 209 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: who the fuck am I? I can't put myself in 210 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 1: the thought control police, but like, of course I would 211 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: never say anything out louder to a friend or anything, 212 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 1: but like, who the fuck am I to have a 213 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: thought like that? Even, like who's anybody to have a 214 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 1: thought about what somebody else does with their body and 215 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 1: their appearance. And it's not just that we shouldn't say it. 216 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: It's that we have to change the construct of thinking it. 217 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: Like why isn't anybody allowed to do what they want, 218 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: wear what they want? Yes, you can't say anything you 219 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: want for certain legal reasons and humane and cruel reasons. 220 00:10:56,400 --> 00:11:00,080 Speaker 2: But like OnlyFans, for example, only. 221 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 1: Is a community of people that I presume subscribe, people 222 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: that pay to post or maybe don't get paid, like 223 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: their members too. They want to post pictures of themselves. 224 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: I don't know if they're all nude. I've never been 225 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 1: on there. I don't know what it is, okay, but 226 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: it's like not every store is for you. Not every 227 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 1: store is for you. I'm not going into a cigar 228 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: and pipe store. What does that mean that they're not 229 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: allowed to smoke cigars and pipes? Like, right, if I'm 230 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:25,959 Speaker 1: related to one, would I worry about cancer? 231 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: Yes? 232 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: But like if you're not harming anyone else, and if 233 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,320 Speaker 1: you're not really doing anything that's like extremely harmful to yourself, 234 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:35,839 Speaker 1: Like how is it my business what someone else does 235 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: with their body, with their life, with their clothing, anything. 236 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 1: And I think we've just always been like this, We've 237 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: always been so judgmental. And I just open the camera 238 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: and video myself looking like a wreck. Some people probably think, 239 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: what is she doing? Like some people that I know 240 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: don't go anywhere without makeup. People that work with me 241 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: every single day are on zooms and they put makeup 242 00:11:56,559 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: on every day. They want to present the best, They 243 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: want to look the prettiest. That's their choice. I post 244 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: my life in pajamas. Like some people are probably like, 245 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:09,240 Speaker 1: is she okay? She'd been like captured and put into 246 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: a mental institution? Is she is she like a prisoner? Like, 247 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 1: it's what I want. I want clear skin, I don't 248 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:18,199 Speaker 1: want burnt hair. I don't want to perform every day 249 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,959 Speaker 1: for other people. When I go somewhere, then I decide 250 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: I want to look good. But like it's my body, 251 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: my choice. People criticize other people's recipes. What you're choosing 252 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 1: to eat? Oh that looks disgusting. Okay, well you don't 253 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: have to fucking eat it. You don't have to listen, 254 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: you don't have to watch. The good news is you 255 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: don't have to do anything you don't want to do 256 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 1: unless it's your job and it's at your work. I 257 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: think it's just as I get older, I'm just getting 258 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: more unapologetic and allowing other people to be more unapologetic. 259 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: They don't have to apologize, they don't have to explain, 260 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: they don't have to do anything. I don't know why 261 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about when your pets 262 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: stay in your house or even if they have like 263 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: smell that's like not from pee but from life. So 264 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,720 Speaker 1: I the other day, I love a good home steamer. 265 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: Never use the solution that they give to you, because 266 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,920 Speaker 1: it will ruin everything, and it'll stain and kill your carpet. 267 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 2: It's usually supposed to use just like soapy water, and. 268 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: There's some trusted stain removal, but you have to know 269 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 1: which ones they are. They aren't gonna bleach your carpet 270 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,079 Speaker 1: and like fan it all out and your furniture whatever. 271 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: But once you've done that and you think it's clean, 272 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: it looks clean, it's not clean until you suck out 273 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: whatever's in there. And yesterday I got a steamer, a 274 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 1: strong one. Don't get one of the bullshit ones. And 275 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 1: I think you could probably do with the vacuum too, 276 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: but to be able to see the water being sucked 277 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: out in an actual like reverse steamer, like I'm actually 278 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 1: saying steamer. But sometimes the steamer. Steams makes your things 279 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 1: smell good or de wrinkles it. I'm talking about like 280 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 1: the sucker. The sucker pulls the crap out. And yesterday 281 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 1: I could see in the clear basin like the yellow 282 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: water from the pea that was soaked into my furniture. 283 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: I posted that it was better than I would rather 284 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 1: do that and see that than go to Arimez. And 285 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 1: that is not even I did not start it. You 286 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:09,679 Speaker 1: could offer me a ten thousand dollars bag at Aarmez. 287 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:12,160 Speaker 1: I would rather sit there and see the satisfaction of 288 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: yellow urine coming out of my furniture and carpets like 289 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: I am one. Once I know it's there, I want 290 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: it out. I do not feel clean until it's out. 291 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: I never used to feel clean until my daughter's body 292 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 1: would be clean, like until she was clean, until my 293 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: dogs are clean, until my house is clean. Many of 294 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 1: you are like this, many of you are not. But 295 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 1: the ones who get it get it.