1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,279 Speaker 1: It's bs. Like nice guys we always have this arrogance 2 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: about us, this air of superiority. You know, we'll be like, Okay, 3 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: I didn't get the girl, but it's just because I'm 4 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: doing it the right way, you know, Like we're always bitter, 5 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: which if you think about it, that's total bs, because 6 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: like like we're trying to get the same things that 7 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:18,200 Speaker 1: the dicks are getting. We're just willing to wait longer 8 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: to get it. You know, Like a nice guy is 9 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 1: just a that isn't in a hurry. That's all I am. Like, 10 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 1: you know, like if you think about it, like we 11 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: do the same. What does it dick say to get 12 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:29,479 Speaker 1: a girl. He'll be like, hey, let me let me 13 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 1: compliment those breasts, let me lose his weight, let me 14 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: buy you a drink so I can get that. 15 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 2: You know. 16 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: It's like a creepy thing to say, nice guy. It's different, 17 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: but it's really the same. 18 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 2: You know. 19 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: It's like, hey, let me compliment your mind because I 20 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: love the way you think, and I love the way 21 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: you challenge my beliefs and my core. 22 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 3: And and then you get nothing that conversation. It's true, 23 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 3: nice guys usually don't get the girl and nobody really 24 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 3: knows why, even the girl who wants to dbag as 25 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 3: rector trust in her bathroom because protein who doesn't understand 26 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 3: why she doesn't go for the nice guy. But now, 27 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 3: thanks to a leading relationship expert, we might finally have 28 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:14,680 Speaker 3: the answers as to why nice guys normally don't get 29 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:16,959 Speaker 3: the girl. They just released a study that they did 30 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 3: on the reasons women don't choose the nice guy, and 31 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 3: we'll go over it right now and answer one of 32 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 3: life's biggest questions. Here are the reasons that women don't 33 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:29,040 Speaker 3: choose the nice guy. Number One, they're not intriguing enough. Yeah, 34 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 3: it says women like men who listen and respond to them, 35 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 3: but they become more intrigued when a man ignores them. 36 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 3: Is that the truth? You know? 37 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 2: I feel like this is an age thing. I really 38 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 2: do because I think up until a few years ago, 39 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 2: I might have been all about no nice guys. But 40 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 2: now I'm very open to it. I'm very into being 41 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 2: obsessed with me, Like it's okay, obsessed with you. Yeah, 42 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 2: Like if you're a nice guy that's obsessed with me, 43 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 2: I'm into it. Before I used to be like ignore me, 44 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:56,639 Speaker 2: Ooh this is fun. This is a chase. I'm gonna 45 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 2: earn it. You know what that did made me insane? 46 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 2: It made me absolutely insane. So all this right now 47 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 2: is super triggering because I do. Don't you think so? 48 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:09,639 Speaker 2: Maybe or nobody else can. I think you. 49 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 3: Recently dated a Jim bro who was in a band, 50 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 3: so I'm not sure you know yourself. 51 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,440 Speaker 1: I knew that was temporary, but you went for the 52 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: guy that you knew was temporary because he was intriguing. 53 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, but then he got super annoying when he 54 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 2: decided to not respond to my dirty text. 55 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 3: He took it too far. A new study that a 56 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 3: Relationship Exspread has done on the reasons why women don't 57 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 3: choose the nice guy says they see niceness as inappropriate 58 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 3: and manipulative. 59 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: It's hard to trust it right. 60 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 3: Women see niceness as men just trying to obtain favor, 61 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 3: favors are they're eager to please or desperate? 62 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 4: Well, I feel like it's half time when you're at 63 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 4: the bar. If someone gets you a drink, they expect 64 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 4: something after and I'm like, homie, it was just a drink. 65 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 4: Like next time, I'll buy my own, Like don't I 66 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,519 Speaker 4: don't wanna like I want to go home with my friends. 67 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna go home with you. It was almost 68 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 4: like they expect it. 69 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: I just wonder if you wonder if it's gonna stay 70 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:08,919 Speaker 2: right if you're nice, Like, are you going to keep 71 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 2: being this way? Or is this part of that whole 72 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 2: three month window when you're pretending to be somebody that 73 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 2: you're not. 74 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 3: Are you just trying to do it to get something 75 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 3: and then once you get it, you're out. 76 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. One of my favorite things on Instagram as soon 77 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: as you turn a nice guy down the dms. 78 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 3: They get so mad, like there is a whole. 79 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: Account that's dedicated to them, going, you're ugly anyway, you're stupid. 80 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 3: I would never go for you. Well, you just tried 81 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 3: for like six months. Yeah, so that doesn't make much sense. 82 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 3: There's another reason why they say women don't choose the 83 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 3: nice guy. They're confusing their needs and their wants. It says, 84 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 3: at the beginning of a relationship, the openness and generosity 85 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 3: of a nice guy can feel needy, suffocating, and like 86 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 3: they're trying too hard. I have heard that a lot, 87 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 3: like you try too hard and things like that, and 88 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 3: it's like, no, I just dig you and I'm not 89 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 3: scared to say it, right, but you do get penalized 90 00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 3: for that. 91 00:03:58,080 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 4: Well, I think the needy thing is the thing that's 92 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 4: like they are trying to be nice and I do 93 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 4: like it, But Homie, we gotta find a schedule because like, 94 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 4: if you're going to call me in the middle of 95 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 4: the day just because you want to talk to me, 96 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 4: sounds very sweet. But I'm not like, no, I like that, 97 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 4: you do? 98 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 3: I do? I always like that. No, but I do. Now. 99 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 3: Isn't that a little bit on you though, because like 100 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 3: he's just sharing how he feels. You don't have to 101 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 3: respond have the answer what It also doesn't have to 102 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 3: be a bad thing if he likes you. Yeah, But 103 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 3: also I've been in that same situation, Like as a guy, 104 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,919 Speaker 3: I've dated people where I'm like, come on, calm down, 105 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 3: have you met me? I'm not that great. It's much 106 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 3: nicer to be with somebody who likes you. 107 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 2: Trust me. 108 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 3: I can tell you from experience, a lot of experience. 109 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 3: It is really cool. Just like, have a relationship with 110 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 3: someone who's into you and then you don't have to 111 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 3: question it. 112 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: You know how much time you spend an energy wondering 113 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 2: do they like me? Do they not? 114 00:04:58,880 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 3: What does this mean? 115 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 2: They're calling you in the middle of the day. You 116 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 2: don't have to have a question that you know they do. 117 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 2: Oh it's so comforting. Well, just give me the good 118 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 2: morning text and I'm like, exactly, if you don't like it, 119 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 2: you don't like him. 120 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: Oh yeah. 121 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:15,359 Speaker 3: Here's another reason that they say women will not choose 122 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 3: the nice guy is the nice guy comes off comes 123 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 3: off as vulnerable and less dominant all the bros out there, 124 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 3: with all the gimbers out there, like yeop, see. 125 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 1: Beta do it? 126 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 3: Says women say a guy comes off as this when 127 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:33,280 Speaker 3: they're paying attention to them and being respectful. Sadly, these 128 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:36,159 Speaker 3: two traits don't bode well with a lot of women, 129 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 3: even though they secretly want that. But once they get 130 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 3: a guy who's vulnerable and not that dominant, they're like beta. 131 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 3: Even in their own heads. 132 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 2: There's only one tweak you need to that be that 133 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: and then turn around and be like, come on, I'm 134 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 2: taking you. We're gonna go get French fries, like make 135 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 2: the decision where are we eating? Like be dominant in 136 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 2: those moments like that's it. 137 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that's probably the smallest thing that men 138 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 3: can do. That will really turning on. Yeah, make a 139 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 3: decision about food. 140 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 2: Or a date or anything. 141 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 3: What are we doing today? 142 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 2: Take me somewhere. 143 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 3: The only problem with that is as a guy is 144 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 3: you're like, you make a decision, You're like, Okay, cool, 145 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 3: olive garden. No, I don't want breadsticks. Okay, Red Robin Nope, 146 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 3: not in the mood for that either. Okay, where do 147 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:23,839 Speaker 3: you want to go? I wish you would make a decision. 148 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 3: I've just made four fun I wish you would like food.