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Speaker 1: Second date updated. We get a lot of requests for

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Speaker 1: second dates on this show, and to pick which ones

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Speaker 1: to do, we try to look at the emails for

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Speaker 1: something that stands out, Yeah for sure, whether that's a

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Speaker 1: cool date idea or a bad mistake that they know

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Speaker 1: that they made that night those yea, or in today's case,

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Speaker 1: somebody with a unique first name. That's it, which is

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Speaker 1: why we'll be talking to a guy who signed his

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Speaker 1: message car c a R. So, welca, is that your

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Speaker 1: given name is a misspelling?

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Speaker 2: No? Actually, I was born with the name car, but

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Speaker 2: it has two RS.

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Speaker 3: I was thinking it was going to be like short

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Speaker 1: Did you write it wrong in the email with only

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Speaker 2: No? No, No. When I got to my twenties, I

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Speaker 2: just dropped the second R because I just thought it

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Speaker 3: More professional. I mean, who would hire a car with

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Speaker 3: two rs? I read that those people are jokes.

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Speaker 1: They sound very professional right now? Yeah, okay, well we're

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Speaker 1: going to call you by the short car name.

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Speaker 3: I guess I wanted to do.

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Speaker 1: To stick to what he wants. So tell us about

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Speaker 1: the woman that you met. What's her name?

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Speaker 2: Her name is Charlotte. You know I met her online?

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Speaker 3: Charlotte.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, okay, how did you guys?

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Speaker 3: Strike up a conversation?

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Speaker 2: So we connected over the apps. She gave me her

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Speaker 2: phone number and we were texting, and within the first

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Speaker 2: couple of texts, she goes, Hey, no offense, but I

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Speaker 2: do this with every guy to see you know how

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Speaker 2: committed they are. But I'm going to block you, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: You?

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Speaker 2: She says, the only way to reach me after this

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Speaker 2: is through my Venmo.

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Speaker 3: No, why that's kind of smart.

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Speaker 1: I mean that's a red flag to move on.

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Speaker 3: So the only way you can reach her is if

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Speaker 3: you benmo her like a buck and write in the

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Speaker 4: If she's only worth a dollar, Brook, you don't want

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Speaker 3: She's at least twenty dollars.

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Speaker 2: I mean, she's really attractive. She was really cute. And

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Speaker 2: I was like, whatever, okay, fine, you know I'll send

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Speaker 2: her a dollar on venmo just to talk.

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Speaker 4: Oh did you send a dollar? She may find that insulting. Friend.

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Speaker 2: Well, when it was done, it cost me sixty two

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Speaker 2: dollars to get to date.

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Speaker 1: You said, sixty two one dollar messages why.

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Speaker 2: All right, So I venmoed her a dollar with a

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Speaker 2: message that said, hey, it's car and you know that

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Speaker 2: allowed me to reach her. Right, So fast forward sixty

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Speaker 2: one Venmo messages later.

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Speaker 3: Which one was your self esteem? That went with it?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: I mean whatever, it's just fun dude. I thought it

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Speaker 2: was funny. It's a bold movie. And yeah, you got

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Speaker 2: to give her credit to work the system whatever.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't have to cut this second date

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Speaker 1: update short. The only way to reach us now is

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Speaker 3: Well it's cute when she does it, but it's not

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Speaker 3: cute when we do it, hucky.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because I'm flirting with her, this is going

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Speaker 5: Is she commenting on any of these venmo payments or

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Speaker 5: you just keep going one after another?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I know that's that's how we continue to talk.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so did you actually turn this into a real

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Speaker 1: date or are we doing this all through Venmo messages?

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Speaker 2: Obviously? So she agrees to date. So we went to

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Speaker 2: like this college volleyball game. Finally, the game was cheap.

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Speaker 2: You know, I didn't have enough I didn't have enough

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Speaker 3: Right, was she okay, with just a cheap date.

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Speaker 2: I mean it seemed like it's mean, it was pretty fine.

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Speaker 2: We got to talk about her live, you know, after

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Speaker 2: the game, we stopped by like a Costco food court

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Speaker 3: This is her jam, food core, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, Costco food is everybody's jam, I know.

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Speaker 3: But like she's reading as a woman who wants money,

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Speaker 2: I don't really fix so because you have to imagine

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Speaker 2: just figured i'd be different, I'd be the opposite of that.

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Speaker 1: By but you're on the phone with us, car, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, how did that date end or what's happened

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Speaker 2: Well, on the date, she said, this is definitely different

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Speaker 2: I thought it was a good thing, Okay.

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Speaker 3: The way she delivered it was like this is different,

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Speaker 2: I mean that's how I took it.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Okay, anyway, but clearly now she's not responding anymore,

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Speaker 6: not even to my Venmo messages, and I sent her

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Speaker 6: like ten bucks on the last one, the dollar amount.

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Speaker 3: Now, can you see her history? Can you see how

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Speaker 3: many other.

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Speaker 5: Men are private?

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Speaker 2: No? It said I'm private.

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Speaker 3: God, I want to follow her Venmo so bad. I

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Speaker 3: wish you could do that, Brooks.

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Speaker 1: I wonder if she'll even answer the phone when we

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Speaker 1: try and call her here, because she seems really picky

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Speaker 4: We have no money either, So why do you want

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Speaker 4: to why?

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Speaker 3: Why? Why do you want to see her again? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's one of the the answer to every y

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we're so dumb.

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Speaker 3: I think that there's some depth in some men, Jeffrey

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Speaker 3: every once in a while.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, we're gonna try and get Charlene a call here.

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Speaker 1: Luckily we're not blocked.

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Speaker 4: Yet if we want to get blocked. I'm really good

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Speaker 3: I glad.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure by the end of the call we will be.

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Speaker 1: But let's come back. We'll try and get you a

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Speaker 1: second date update with her right after this. Just hold on.

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Speaker 1: Second date update today is a new one for second

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Speaker 1: date is for us because our listener car formerly spelled

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Speaker 3: That part doesn't really matter on the radio, the difference.

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Speaker 1: It does matter for professional reasons. It's much more professional

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Speaker 1: named Charlynne on a dating app, and once he got

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Speaker 1: her number, she said, so, I do this with every guy,

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Speaker 1: but I'm blocking you in the only way to reach

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Speaker 1: me now is through Venmo. Okay, And it worked.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what you get? Car gave her like sixty three

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Speaker 1: Date something like that. Initially I said red flag, but

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Speaker 1: now that I think more about it, maybe this is

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Speaker 3: Oh, because she's such an entrepreneur.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, most guys don't want to date gold diggers. She

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Speaker 1: clearly doesn't need any of his money because she's already

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Speaker 1: very upfront, untilar with her communication about it, saying I

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Speaker 4: Actually she is pretty open and honest.

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Speaker 2: Brook.

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Speaker 1: You seemed amused by this girl's strategy.

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Speaker 3: It just baffles me that men are okay with this,

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Speaker 3: Like all of you are like, Oh, she's hot, that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the bar is very low for us.

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Speaker 3: What happens so logic.

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Speaker 1: Alexis, what do you what do you think about her strategy?

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Speaker 5: Oh? No, it works. I'm just confused why he's wondering

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Speaker 5: why she's not calling him back.

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Speaker 3: I mean it's obvious, right, Yeah, what's obvious? Don't care?

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Speaker 1: Women don't want money out of guys. That's not a thing.

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Speaker 3: He got the sixty three bucks? Why even go on

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Speaker 3: a date with them? Do you mean? Why waste your time?

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Speaker 1: Do you have any ideas on that car? And he

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Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to connecting and seeing what happens, but

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Speaker 2: I really have no idea.

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Speaker 1: The real question, though, is can a good relationship happened

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Speaker 1: when it starts from venmo payments? But can you build

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Speaker 3: I don't think unless it's a business venture.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to go no, We're going to try and

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Speaker 1: hopefully prove that wrong and get her to agree to ye. Sorry, sorry,

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Speaker 1: I just remember that's the goal here, for true love

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Speaker 4: At least we know if they ever proposed, you could

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, we gotta call this We call this girl.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to dial her number right now, hopefully she

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Speaker 1: answers here we go. Hello, Hi, we're looking to speak

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I'm just shocked that she answered the phone, honestly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're all kind of surprised that you answered because

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Speaker 1: we're a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hi, Charlotte, how are you hi?

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Speaker 1: Sorry, you were a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey

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Speaker 1: and we're doing something called a second Date update, trying

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Speaker 1: to help out one of our listeners that you went

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Speaker 1: on a date with recently named Carr.

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Speaker 7: Oh god, oh yeah.

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Speaker 4: You're either really religious or you're really fed up with him.

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Speaker 1: Clearly remember him. We just sorry, We need to ask you,

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Speaker 1: even before why you're not calling him back. We want

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Speaker 7: Oh my god, he told you about that, Yes, of course.

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Speaker 3: He told us. He said he spent sixty three dollars

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Speaker 7: I mean, it's just like I told him, it's like

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Speaker 7: a commitment thing because I have a lot of guys

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Speaker 7: reach out to me and I only want the ones

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Speaker 7: who are serious. And then Mo is like the first hurdle.

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Speaker 3: Then is the first hurdle? Seriously, as a guy is

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Speaker 3: a thousand bucks, I doesn't mean he's serious about.

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Speaker 5: You don't just see more desperate if they're willing to

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Speaker 7: No, it's not about the money. It's just about like

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Speaker 7: the inconvenience of just not being able to like message

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Speaker 7: on an app. You can message anybody on an app.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're trying to see how much effort they're willing

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Speaker 1: to put in just to get on a date with you.

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Speaker 7: Right, it's about the effort, it's not about the money.

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Speaker 3: Why did you wait to sixty three dollars to answer them?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Why didn't you send the money back?

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Speaker 3: I mean no judgment if it's about the money, But

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Speaker 3: it seems like you just need to lean into that part.

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Speaker 1: The women are calling you gold diggers, so you can't

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Speaker 5: I'm not against it, but just own it.

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Speaker 7: Let me tell you about the date that we went on,

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, you did tell us a little bit about

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Speaker 7: Okay, so told you that, Yeah, it was fun, it

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Speaker 1: Wow, I.

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Speaker 4: Apologize.

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Speaker 3: I had her pegged as a hot dog girl too.

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Speaker 3: That is a shocking move in there.

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Speaker 4: I thought you were a chicken.

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Speaker 1: Big lady, You yourself are saying that you had a

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Speaker 1: better time than you thought, the food was better than

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Speaker 1: you thought. Carson really nice, then why aren't you calling

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Speaker 7: Well? I have a thing about etiquette and treating people

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Speaker 7: was just there was something that happened on the date

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Speaker 7: that I just was not okay with. It really rubbed me.

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Speaker 3: The wrong way. That's interesting etiquette. Yeah, so you think

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Speaker 3: it would be important for him to know what it

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Speaker 7: Uh, yeah, I don't know. Just the we were at

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Speaker 7: the Costco food court ordering our food and there was

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Speaker 7: the opportunity to tip, and he just didn't even like

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Speaker 5: There, no, you order, you can order on your own.

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Speaker 5: You don't work with a person.

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Speaker 4: I don't have a membership, guys, I'm sorry, I.

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Speaker 5: Exposed to screen. You don't even work with a person.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's like a there's like an area of screen.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of like a self checkout.

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Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, but people you know, get your pizza from

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean they kind of just like throw it

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Speaker 3: like we're at.

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Speaker 4: A sports stadium and they're like prepping it exactly.

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Speaker 3: Like there's not much eye contactor.

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Speaker 1: Down cell the Costco workers and all the hard.

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Speaker 3: Work that they don't restaurant, I know what it's like.

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Speaker 3: It's like a fast food counter. I mean it's the same.

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Speaker 1: Thing the condemned burger restaurant doesn't hold a candle, so

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Speaker 3: I know that that strongo the cook was amazing.

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Speaker 1: We're getting sidetracked here, So you found it rude that

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Speaker 1: he didn't offer a tip to the person that gave

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I think that you should try to slip up

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Speaker 7: five to any service worker. I just feel like it's

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Speaker 3: I've never seen anyone tip.

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Speaker 1: In Costco, well, not at the rich Costco where you

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Speaker 1: was it, that was like the deal breaker for you.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I went back, I said I was

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Speaker 7: gonna go get more napkins, and I went back and

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Speaker 3: Nice of you.

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Speaker 5: I mean technically it's his money. You used to tipper.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in a way he did tip.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you just made him.

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Speaker 1: There's clearly two sides of this story. We have Charlotte's

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Speaker 1: now we need to get cars because I need to

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Speaker 1: let you know, Charlotte, he's been on the other line

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Speaker 1: listening to this the entire time.

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Speaker 7: Are you sure?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how these work.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Oh no, Yeah, wants to hear it if

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Speaker 3: it's something that's important.

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Speaker 7: To you, Okay, I mean, hi, car.

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Speaker 2: This is actually kind of a joke, right because I

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Speaker 2: this tipping culture is out of control. Like, who's going

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Speaker 2: to ask me for a tip? Next my landlord for

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Speaker 1: That actually is a really good idea.

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Speaker 7: I feel some animosity for me right now and.

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Speaker 2: That yeah, you know what, I feel like you have

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Speaker 2: you don't.

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Speaker 3: Like, Wow, this is getting deep.

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Speaker 2: That's why you're triggered by it a car?

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Speaker 1: You know, we're trying to help.

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Speaker 2: You here to get another Do need help. I'm good,

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Speaker 2: I've heard enough. I'm good.

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Speaker 3: What does this make? You're so angry?

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Speaker 1: They sounds very triggered by it.

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Speaker 2: Because this is a joke. This is a joke, Like

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Speaker 2: she's actually a joke.

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Speaker 7: What are you talking about? Why am I getting this strong?

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Speaker 2: Everyone? I'm out?

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Speaker 1: No? No, okay, Well, we don't want it to get

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Speaker 1: hostile on the phone. We're just trying to set up

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Speaker 7: That's gonna happen.

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Speaker 3: Well, maybe somewhere where there's no tip needed.

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Speaker 1: It's like a Costco food court perhaps.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm kind of like sticking up for him, but.

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Speaker 1: That was I know, you came in really really harsh there.

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Speaker 3: But here's the thing, nobody's gonna hear your point when

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Speaker 3: you just come in yelling like. There's no way that

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Speaker 1: Man, brug I don't even think he's on the phone.

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Speaker 1: Are you still there? Car?

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Speaker 3: I was wanting a tip from him.

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Speaker 1: Okay, no, he's gone none.

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Speaker 2: But we.

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Speaker 1: Just provided the service for him. He says, if you

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Speaker 1: provide a service, then he'll give you a tip. But

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Speaker 1: he dined and dashed on our show. Yay, what the heck, Charlotte,

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Speaker 1: you're you're still there, right, Oh.

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Speaker 7: Charlotte, Yeah, I'm just kind of amazed at how much

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I didn't think I was going to have your

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Speaker 1: back by the end of this, So I love you

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Speaker 1: a bullet. You're pro tipping though, right, Charlotte. You give

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Speaker 1: us tip on this phone.

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Speaker 3: It's free, so if you do zero times thirty, it's still.

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Speaker 1: We can count on you, right, Yeah, I don't trust

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Speaker 1: Brooks math on that. I think it's one hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning. Yikes. Man, I'm still trying to

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Speaker 1: figure that whole situation.

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Speaker 3: Out because he got so mad.

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Speaker 1: He seems so offended about how tipping is getting out

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Speaker 1: of control these days. Although he was basically tipping her

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Speaker 4: Get a date, that was irony there.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, sir, when you're tipping a woman just for conversation,

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Speaker 1: you're the one who's making tipping out of control, not

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Speaker 4: But he would argue, let me be him, Well, she's

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Speaker 4: offering a service. I'm getting a reward every time.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I can't even hear that. I mean,

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Speaker 3: the thing, the anger part was so bizarre to me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like he was ready to snap.

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Speaker 1: He came on hot, So I'm glad that car peeled

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Speaker 1: out on that one. Honestly, I try to stand up

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Speaker 1: for the listeners as much as possible on these segments,

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Speaker 1: even when I look like an idiot for it. He

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Speaker 3: Oh God, but I love you looking like an idiot.

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Speaker 3: So maybe I'm sad that he's.

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Speaker 1: Hang when you did card. But if you want to

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Speaker 1: get a little bit of help with your dating life,

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Speaker 1: you can always email the show. We'll call that person

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Speaker 1: who's not calling you back.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, go free for free.

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Speaker 1: You don't charge anything. How dumb are we?

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Speaker 4: Would you take them?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're willing to. But you can also check

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Speaker 1: out our second date updates on your podcast wherever you

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Speaker 1: get yours at Burke and Jeffrey