Speaker 1: Many of you are mothers. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: have teens.
Speaker 2: Without getting into too much detail, it is a time
Speaker 2: of pressure. It's a time of peer pressure, it's a
Speaker 2: time of acne, emotions, hormones, homework. You go from being
Speaker 2: a baby to a person. I mean, you go from
Speaker 2: sports just being fun to them getting actually competitive and
Speaker 2: realizing you're good or bad at something.
Speaker 1: It's a really hard time.
Speaker 2: And like I said, without getting into too much detail,
Speaker 2: it's been there's been a bit of challenge in my
Speaker 2: house with a certain workload and pressure and stress. And
Speaker 2: you know, we hear that teens are under the most pressure.
Speaker 2: And it's a terrible, terrible time, not just with friends
Speaker 2: and peer groups, but just with personal pressure. And you
Speaker 2: could have a child that either doesn't have motivation, or
Speaker 2: has too much motivation, or puts a tremendous amount of
Speaker 2: pressure on themselves or whatever. And I think that this
Speaker 2: time of year really stresses parents out, and it's also
Speaker 2: a culmination and it stresses children out. And I have
Speaker 2: a trip plant where we're taking off two days of school,
Speaker 2: and i'd been feeling a little bit not guilty about that.
Speaker 2: I play this game where I only want to miss
Speaker 2: a certain amount of school because you can't miss school,
Speaker 2: and it's a life experience. And there's a trip that's
Speaker 2: to Australia in the spring that's also a life experience.
Speaker 2: And I've been feeling this pressure about it where I
Speaker 2: don't want her to miss much school. And then all
Speaker 2: of a sudden, two nights ago, you know, my daughter
Speaker 2: was going through it. Let's just say that she's going
Speaker 2: through it. I was going through it. I've got my
Speaker 2: own stuff going on, and in this house there was
Speaker 2: just a lot of emotion and they were at a
Speaker 2: fever pitch. And yesterday I basically called in an emotional
Speaker 2: like a well day. If there can be a snow
Speaker 2: day where it's snowing outside and it's impossible to get
Speaker 2: to school, there can be a well day where your
Speaker 2: kid or you and your kid, or something's going on
Speaker 2: or your kid has to go in late, or whatever
Speaker 2: it is has to happen. Like pressure can be great.
Speaker 2: And I know that my daughter wanted to get up
Speaker 2: really early to get to school, and we had been
Speaker 2: up late because there was stuff going on, and I
Speaker 2: don't like for her to just set an alarm super
Speaker 2: early because the pressure can be so great with the sports,
Speaker 2: which you guys know, and the school load, the school workload,
Speaker 2: and I basically said, I'm not waking her up. I
Speaker 2: knew she was exhausted and I wasn't waking her up.
Speaker 2: I knew she was like, no, Mom, I can't I
Speaker 2: have to. I can't miss this class. I can't miss
Speaker 2: this thing. I can't that the pressure like it felt
Speaker 2: like me being you know, like I can't miss this
Speaker 2: business trip. There was a business trip I had to
Speaker 2: take that I just took, and I was on the
Speaker 2: phone with her during one of the very important business lunches.
Speaker 2: It was for Forever Young. It was in Texas.
Speaker 1: I apologized to the group.
Speaker 2: We were at this restaurant called Steak Yard and it
Speaker 2: was a whole sales group for Forever Young in Texas.
Speaker 2: And I spent probably a fifth of it on the
Speaker 2: phone in the other room because my daughter was going
Speaker 2: through something and that's my priority and everyone just has
Speaker 2: to know that. And I was coming home flying first
Speaker 2: class as I do for business and ninety nine percent
Speaker 2: of the time, and it's for privacy reasons, and I've
Speaker 2: at this level. I just I feel like I've earned it,
Speaker 2: and I pay for it. And it's worth it. And
Speaker 2: I want to just be able to lay down and
Speaker 2: it's work, travel and et cetera. And I'm lucky to
Speaker 2: be able to do that. And I wanted to get
Speaker 2: home to be with my daughter two hours early. And
Speaker 2: I flew coach, middle seat, and I lost my iPad.
Speaker 2: Many people are middle seat coach. No one's crying for me.
Speaker 2: But I knew that I could fly first class, but
Speaker 2: I wanted to get home to.
Speaker 1: My daughter earlier.
Speaker 2: And the next and she said she couldn't miss the
Speaker 2: first classes. And the next morning, I just said, basta done.
Speaker 2: We're both taking a well day. That's that's what it is.
Speaker 2: And she slept through the alarm and I just said,
Speaker 2: that's it. We're taking the day. And it took her
Speaker 2: a while to like unwine from everything that she was
Speaker 2: going through, and she finally just said, you know what,
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna take the day with you. And we
Speaker 2: tasted cotton candy cakes and she's like, I never get
Speaker 2: to do the food tastings with you because I get
Speaker 2: sent so much stuff now because of this influencer life,
Speaker 2: and so there's fun stuff around. There's a coconut cake,
Speaker 2: and there's a pizza, and there's panatona, and there's and
Speaker 2: there panatoni or whatever you call it, and there's like
Speaker 2: a cotton candy cake, et cetera. And we just did
Speaker 2: that and like made our own lunch and comfort food
Speaker 2: and soup and rice and like hung out. And I'm
Speaker 2: not the parent who needs my kids to get straight
Speaker 2: a's and is like we need to go to MIT.
Speaker 2: I think that parents put so much pressure on kids too.
Speaker 2: And you have to listen to your kids. You have
Speaker 2: to not just verbally what they're saying, but listen to
Speaker 2: their body language, listen to are they breaking out? Are
Speaker 2: they how are they? And you have to check in
Speaker 2: with your kids. And parents push their kids and that's okay.
Speaker 2: There's a level like yoga. Yoga is like you're to
Speaker 2: push yourself a little, to stretch yourself, but not to
Speaker 2: where it's painful. And I think that's a good lesson
Speaker 2: in life for people. You could just stretch yourself pros
Speaker 2: play herd. I say, stretch yourself, but not to where
Speaker 2: it's painful and not to where you're going to break.
Speaker 2: And then I came home and instead of just like
Speaker 2: following the normal life rules of I'm gonna go to bed.
Speaker 2: At ten thirty, we got into bed. She had like
Speaker 2: this like these heat like this like roller device, like
Speaker 2: this piece of cloth or something she like weaves into
Speaker 2: her hair, and she was laying with the babies.
Speaker 1: They were all over her.
Speaker 2: And we watched a Christmas movie until late like and
Speaker 2: then we talked and laughed in bed till like one
Speaker 2: in the morning. And then today I let her sleep
Speaker 2: late again, like made her you know, did not wake
Speaker 2: her up. And we need it, they need it. We
Speaker 2: break down. And it's the time of year right now,
Speaker 2: the holidays. It's a marketed time. The calendar tells us
Speaker 2: this is a time. And then we're gonna have the
Speaker 2: New year, and everything's gonna be better. You know, mondays
Speaker 2: are gonna be diet days in January first that the
Speaker 2: world going to change.
Speaker 1: And it's like very pressure filled.
Speaker 2: Forget that it's like joyous and Mariah Carey and lights
Speaker 2: and trees and all that stuff. It's a fucking pressure
Speaker 2: filled time and everyone's scrambling.
Speaker 1: Like a maniac.
Speaker 2: Did I finish my test, did I get my did
Speaker 2: I pass? Did I get my U? Did I give
Speaker 2: the bonuses out? Did I get my bonus? Did I
Speaker 2: buy the gifts? Did I get the same gifts as
Speaker 2: the other kids? Did I get the right gift?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: Where am I going? Did I pick the right menu?
Speaker 2: Am I catering? Am I cooking? Am I having people over?
Speaker 2: Are we doing your house? Do you have to be
Speaker 2: with your parents? Do you have to be with my parents?
Speaker 2: Are my kids not going to be here? Is that
Speaker 2: going to make me sad? Is my kid away in
Speaker 2: the army at war and I feel lonely? Is my
Speaker 2: husband away at the army and I feel lonely? Like
Speaker 2: you know, it's a shit show, to be honest, And
Speaker 2: I don't want to be like the hater or the
Speaker 2: doom sayer, but it's a shit show. The wheels are
Speaker 2: fucking coming off this time of year for everybody, And
Speaker 2: even if it's not directly affecting, like if a kid
Speaker 2: isn't the one buying the present or giving the bonuses
Speaker 2: or finishing up the end of year work tasks, they're
Speaker 2: feeling our energy. And there's just like a scramble and
Speaker 2: a scramble at school because whatever teachers they have or
Speaker 2: principle they have, it's happening there too. So give yourself
Speaker 2: a fucking break, and many times like, don't go away,
Speaker 2: don't put the pressure on yourself, lay down, relax, be home,
Speaker 2: be in your pajamas, like whatever that means. But if
Speaker 2: you decide you want to live a healthier life, or
Speaker 2: you want to meditate, or you want to breathe, or
Speaker 2: you want to take a day, you don't have to
Speaker 2: wait till January first. You could do it December twenty fifth,
Speaker 2: like it doesn't matter. It gets a little crazy. Paul
Speaker 2: and I talk about this all the time. It's like
Speaker 2: from three weeks ago, Oh my god, what are we doing?
Speaker 2: What are we doing on that day? And are you
Speaker 2: doing that on that day? And a were going to
Speaker 2: be to gather that day? And do we go there?
Speaker 2: Do we go here? Your parents, my parents, his parents,
Speaker 2: their parents, my food, your food, my present, your present,
Speaker 2: my vacation, your vacation, you know, the teachers, the gifts,
Speaker 2: everyone's losing their fucking minds. So I would just say,
Speaker 2: give yourself a goddamn break, whatever that means to you.
Speaker 2: And we watched last night the movie it's called The
Speaker 2: Family Stone, and it's it's an oldie.
Speaker 1: It's a real oldie.
Speaker 2: You can see their television is like from the Flintstones,
Speaker 2: and it's with Diane Keaton and it's with Sarah Jessica Parker,
Speaker 2: Luke Wilson, Claire Danes, Dermott mulrooney. And it's become one
Speaker 2: of our rituals the way that people watch love actually
Speaker 2: or like, you know, any Christmas movie. She Britain loves
Speaker 2: Holiday also, this one is our favorite one. Why because
Speaker 2: it's flawed, like it has an unexpected outcome, and it's
Speaker 2: about like the craziness and a family and they're dealing
Speaker 2: with everything. And Britta's so perceptive because we were watching
Speaker 2: it for the probably fourth time or fifth time in
Speaker 2: our lives, and she said, you know what I love
Speaker 2: about this movie.
Speaker 1: It's not perfect.
Speaker 2: And she said, and all the other holiday movies just
Speaker 2: thrown together, you know, like they're made in some like
Speaker 2: holiday movie factory where they just put together to like
Speaker 2: rom comedy type of people and make it like a different.
Speaker 2: Oh now it's now it's now, it's too lesbians. Now,
Speaker 2: it's too gay man. Now it's a black man and
Speaker 2: a white woman. Now it's a white woman and an
Speaker 2: Asian man. Now it's sisters. Now it's but it's all
Speaker 2: the same plot you know, someone's rushing somewhere, can't get
Speaker 2: there by Christmas, stressing out, falls in love with the
Speaker 2: unexpected person, goes to their house, brings them home for
Speaker 2: the holidays. Like it's all the same movie. This is
Speaker 2: not the same movie. It's an excellent, excellent, excellent watch.
Speaker 2: So I suggest you watch it. It's really great. I
Speaker 2: love it and like we stayed up late watching that,
Speaker 2: so that was amazing. Let's talk about exercising and the
Speaker 2: holidays and the stress and the pressure. And I'm talking
Speaker 2: about this a lot because I really am feeling it.
Speaker 2: So maybe I'm just talking about me, but I'm feeling it.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling at this time of year, and I just
Speaker 2: want to say that you don't let the wheels fully
Speaker 2: come off. If you are a person who's consuming more
Speaker 2: than you usually do and eating more than you usually do.
Speaker 2: Don't do the following, which don't need to do is
Speaker 2: say it's almost like a binge and a purge. Don't
Speaker 2: say like fuck it, it doesn't matter. January first, my
Speaker 2: whole life is gonna change. I'm doing this, like just
Speaker 2: say right now, I'm doing this, meaning you know, I
Speaker 2: was eating all this cake and testing all these products,
Speaker 2: and like it was cake and French fries and grossness,
Speaker 2: and I felt like a garbage can.
Speaker 1: So I just decided to take it.
Speaker 2: Into my own hands now, Like I got some period
Speaker 2: soups this weekend and some juices, and I'm drinking my
Speaker 2: hydration packets and I'm like trying to keep it together
Speaker 2: because the last thing you want to do is just
Speaker 2: be around the holidays drinking too much, eating too much,
Speaker 2: already feeling slovenly, trying to put on que clothes and
Speaker 2: like just not feeling good. Like try to make yourself
Speaker 2: feel good even during the holidays, because nothing's gonna happen
Speaker 2: next year that didn't happen this year. I just don't
Speaker 2: want to make you feel bad. But it's not but
Speaker 2: it could happen today, and it could happen in the
Speaker 2: next moment. I can promise you this. You're not gonna
Speaker 2: like blow yourself up the next couple weeks. And then
Speaker 2: January second, Angel of Perfection is gonna come up and
Speaker 2: show up because something else is gonna come up. Then,
Speaker 2: Oh it's Valentine's Day, It's Martin Luther King Day. Oh,
Speaker 2: it's this, it's that. Let's get into Memorial Day. Let's
Speaker 2: get into fourth of July. It's a bunch of bolt
Speaker 2: Let's get into Easter. It's a bunch of bullshit. So
Speaker 2: just get your shit together now. I don't mean you're
Speaker 2: supposed to be like on a juice fast or at
Speaker 2: a spa. I just mean I'm not a I in
Speaker 2: my twenties and thirties I was. I'll be good tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I would blow myself up today.
Speaker 2: I would eat bags of chips, pints of ice cream,
Speaker 2: andimen cakes, pizzas from Dominoes. Blow myself up, be swollen,
Speaker 2: feel like shit tomorrow. Not eat for two days like
Speaker 2: that is not great. So I'm talking about that being
Speaker 2: what people do this whole holiday season. They just chalk
Speaker 2: this whole fucking thing up to a loss. And it's
Speaker 2: not a loss. It's a time you're at home, you're resting,
Speaker 2: try to be healthy, make meaning out of it. I
Speaker 2: don't really exercise, so I don't know what to tell
Speaker 2: you about that. I think about it. I wish I
Speaker 2: was someone who did it more. I used to do
Speaker 2: it more. I don't know if it's just getting to
Speaker 2: this age. I just value rest so much. The idea
Speaker 2: of waking up and panicking and running to go work out.
Speaker 2: I wake up, it takes me a fucking forty five
Speaker 2: minutes to like get out of my glazed doughnut stage.
Speaker 2: And that's if I've been lucky enough to sleep, and
Speaker 2: lucky enough to sleep means I'm sleeping and then waking
Speaker 2: up and like getting my coffee and then there's stuff
Speaker 2: to do. It's very hard to get into working out,
Speaker 2: so I do it when I can when I travel.
Speaker 2: But my eating is fairly good and healthy and that's
Speaker 2: why and I run around like a maniac. I don't
Speaker 2: just lay on my ass. And that's why I think
Speaker 2: I'm thin. And it's confusing to people because they think
Speaker 2: I work out all the time because I'm thin and
Speaker 2: I'm not working out all the time.
Speaker 1: And I also know that we cover.
Speaker 2: Ourselves up a lot of the time, meaning we're not
Speaker 2: in bathing suits twenty four hours a day. And even
Speaker 2: though I'm thin, I do have a flat butt, and
Speaker 2: I'm sure I probably have some like you know, sagginess,
Speaker 2: and I really just don't care. I value rest the most,
Speaker 2: and I value time with my daughter, and I value rest.
Speaker 2: I value relaxation more than I value exercise, So that's
Speaker 2: just something that I don't think is going to change
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty four. So I don't want to set
Speaker 2: myself up for disaster by making these big, sweeping statements.
Speaker 2: If I were to change that, I would change it
Speaker 2: right now. Focus on maybe not drinking as much, maybe
Speaker 2: not eating everything all day long. If you've got the cake,
Speaker 2: taste the cake, but don't have the alcohol. If you're
Speaker 2: having the bread, have some bread but don't have the cake.
Speaker 2: Like mix things around, try to eat what you want
Speaker 2: in smaller portions. Try to just think about collecting yourself.
Speaker 2: Make yourself a full plate that you know what it is.
Speaker 2: This is what I'm having for this meal, not like
Speaker 2: you're constantly going back to the trough and then you
Speaker 2: don't know what happened. Not just shoving or dirves in
Speaker 2: your mouth off a tray that you're not like quantifying.
Speaker 2: I don't like to say count because you're not gonna count,
Speaker 2: but it just means, okay, I'm gonna have myself a
Speaker 2: few desserts, one glass of wine or two spritzers or
Speaker 2: something that make it last longer, or nurse my drink
Speaker 2: or drink water in between, and then I'll have a
Speaker 2: couple of orders. This is exactly how many. I ate
Speaker 2: some soup or something at my house before I left,
Speaker 2: so I didn't go ravenous to a party grabbing at everything,
Speaker 2: grabbing at a bread basket, bad idea. And then just
Speaker 2: try to like maintain what you're going to do. You
Speaker 2: got you have a plate, you might have a buffet,
Speaker 2: and try to make a plan before you dive in.
Speaker 2: And all the hot chocolate and all the eggnog and
Speaker 2: all the fricking Starbucks lattes and all that stuff it
Speaker 2: adds up. So just try to like keep a hold
Speaker 2: of yourself as you go, not like tomorrow, not in January,
Speaker 2: just like right now. I don't care if you just
Speaker 2: ate three pieces of cake for breakfast, have a nice
Speaker 2: light salad for lunch, and a piece of salmon for dinner,
Speaker 2: and just clean it up. Just don't get obsessive, because
Speaker 2: I just don't believe that that's gonna be good for
Speaker 2: your mental health. And it's depressing right now. The weather.
Speaker 2: It's fucking dark at five o'clock. I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: in a cave. So lean into that, make a nice fire,
Speaker 2: you know, relax at home, meditate, stretch, sleep, but just
Speaker 2: don't lean into four pints of ice cream. And if
Speaker 2: you're faced with those big pop quornantines, take a bowl
Speaker 2: and decide how much of that you're gonna have. If
Speaker 2: you've got some cupcakes and Christmas cookies, have one. Keep
Speaker 2: it moving. You don't have to indulge in everything you
Speaker 2: see because that create more emotional anxiety for you, and
Speaker 2: that will mean that like you're just gonna not be
Speaker 2: as happy and you're just gonna be just it's anxiety
Speaker 2: ridden and producing producing to be talking about like it's fine,
Speaker 2: it's fine when I'm doing now was I'm gonna clean
Speaker 2: it up later and you all know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2: But don't set yourself up for unrealistic once January comes
Speaker 2: either too. I'm joining the gym, I'm buying leg warmers,
Speaker 2: I've got a headband, let's go.
Speaker 1: Like just just just.
Speaker 2: Relax overall, just totally try to relax and be realistic
Speaker 2: and you know, manage it and you can have a
Speaker 2: resolution right now. Whatever you decide to resolve can be
Speaker 2: right now, does not have to be on in January.
Speaker 2: So I just think that all those types of little
Speaker 2: self you know, check help tips are helpful. Have a
Speaker 2: happy holiday. Please don't compare yourself to everybody else. Just
Speaker 2: really make it meaningful for you, make it loving for you.
Speaker 2: Don't feel the pressure of the gifts. Be if there
Speaker 2: are so many affordable gifts out there right now, I've
Speaker 2: done the whole tour of everything from the Dollar Store
Speaker 2: to below five to everything you really can find affordable gifts,
Speaker 2: So don't get yourself crazy.