1 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: Many of you are mothers. I don't know if you 2 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: have teens. 3 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 2: Without getting into too much detail, it is a time 4 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:20,239 Speaker 2: of pressure. It's a time of peer pressure, it's a 5 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 2: time of acne, emotions, hormones, homework. You go from being 6 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 2: a baby to a person. I mean, you go from 7 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 2: sports just being fun to them getting actually competitive and 8 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 2: realizing you're good or bad at something. 9 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: It's a really hard time. 10 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 2: And like I said, without getting into too much detail, 11 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 2: it's been there's been a bit of challenge in my 12 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 2: house with a certain workload and pressure and stress. And 13 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 2: you know, we hear that teens are under the most pressure. 14 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 2: And it's a terrible, terrible time, not just with friends 15 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 2: and peer groups, but just with personal pressure. And you 16 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 2: could have a child that either doesn't have motivation, or 17 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 2: has too much motivation, or puts a tremendous amount of 18 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 2: pressure on themselves or whatever. And I think that this 19 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 2: time of year really stresses parents out, and it's also 20 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 2: a culmination and it stresses children out. And I have 21 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 2: a trip plant where we're taking off two days of school, 22 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 2: and i'd been feeling a little bit not guilty about that. 23 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 2: I play this game where I only want to miss 24 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 2: a certain amount of school because you can't miss school, 25 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 2: and it's a life experience. And there's a trip that's 26 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 2: to Australia in the spring that's also a life experience. 27 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 2: And I've been feeling this pressure about it where I 28 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 2: don't want her to miss much school. And then all 29 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,479 Speaker 2: of a sudden, two nights ago, you know, my daughter 30 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 2: was going through it. Let's just say that she's going 31 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 2: through it. I was going through it. I've got my 32 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 2: own stuff going on, and in this house there was 33 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: just a lot of emotion and they were at a 34 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 2: fever pitch. And yesterday I basically called in an emotional 35 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 2: like a well day. If there can be a snow 36 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: day where it's snowing outside and it's impossible to get 37 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 2: to school, there can be a well day where your 38 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 2: kid or you and your kid, or something's going on 39 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 2: or your kid has to go in late, or whatever 40 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 2: it is has to happen. Like pressure can be great. 41 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 2: And I know that my daughter wanted to get up 42 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 2: really early to get to school, and we had been 43 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:25,519 Speaker 2: up late because there was stuff going on, and I 44 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 2: don't like for her to just set an alarm super 45 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 2: early because the pressure can be so great with the sports, 46 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 2: which you guys know, and the school load, the school workload, 47 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:40,239 Speaker 2: and I basically said, I'm not waking her up. I 48 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 2: knew she was exhausted and I wasn't waking her up. 49 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: I knew she was like, no, Mom, I can't I 50 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 2: have to. I can't miss this class. I can't miss 51 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 2: this thing. I can't that the pressure like it felt 52 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 2: like me being you know, like I can't miss this 53 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 2: business trip. There was a business trip I had to 54 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 2: take that I just took, and I was on the 55 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 2: phone with her during one of the very important business lunches. 56 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 2: It was for Forever Young. It was in Texas. 57 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: I apologized to the group. 58 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 2: We were at this restaurant called Steak Yard and it 59 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 2: was a whole sales group for Forever Young in Texas. 60 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 2: And I spent probably a fifth of it on the 61 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 2: phone in the other room because my daughter was going 62 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 2: through something and that's my priority and everyone just has 63 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 2: to know that. And I was coming home flying first 64 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 2: class as I do for business and ninety nine percent 65 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 2: of the time, and it's for privacy reasons, and I've 66 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 2: at this level. I just I feel like I've earned it, 67 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 2: and I pay for it. And it's worth it. And 68 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:28,679 Speaker 2: I want to just be able to lay down and 69 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 2: it's work, travel and et cetera. And I'm lucky to 70 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 2: be able to do that. And I wanted to get 71 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 2: home to be with my daughter two hours early. And 72 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 2: I flew coach, middle seat, and I lost my iPad. 73 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 2: Many people are middle seat coach. No one's crying for me. 74 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: But I knew that I could fly first class, but 75 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 2: I wanted to get home to. 76 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: My daughter earlier. 77 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 2: And the next and she said she couldn't miss the 78 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 2: first classes. And the next morning, I just said, basta done. 79 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 2: We're both taking a well day. That's that's what it is. 80 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 2: And she slept through the alarm and I just said, 81 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 2: that's it. We're taking the day. And it took her 82 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 2: a while to like unwine from everything that she was 83 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,360 Speaker 2: going through, and she finally just said, you know what, 84 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 2: I'm just gonna take the day with you. And we 85 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 2: tasted cotton candy cakes and she's like, I never get 86 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:17,280 Speaker 2: to do the food tastings with you because I get 87 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 2: sent so much stuff now because of this influencer life, 88 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 2: and so there's fun stuff around. There's a coconut cake, 89 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 2: and there's a pizza, and there's panatona, and there's and 90 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: there panatoni or whatever you call it, and there's like 91 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 2: a cotton candy cake, et cetera. And we just did 92 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 2: that and like made our own lunch and comfort food 93 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 2: and soup and rice and like hung out. And I'm 94 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 2: not the parent who needs my kids to get straight 95 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 2: a's and is like we need to go to MIT. 96 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 2: I think that parents put so much pressure on kids too. 97 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 2: And you have to listen to your kids. You have 98 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 2: to not just verbally what they're saying, but listen to 99 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 2: their body language, listen to are they breaking out? Are 100 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 2: they how are they? And you have to check in 101 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 2: with your kids. And parents push their kids and that's okay. 102 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:03,599 Speaker 2: There's a level like yoga. Yoga is like you're to 103 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 2: push yourself a little, to stretch yourself, but not to 104 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 2: where it's painful. And I think that's a good lesson 105 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 2: in life for people. You could just stretch yourself pros 106 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:15,239 Speaker 2: play herd. I say, stretch yourself, but not to where 107 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 2: it's painful and not to where you're going to break. 108 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 2: And then I came home and instead of just like 109 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 2: following the normal life rules of I'm gonna go to bed. 110 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,159 Speaker 2: At ten thirty, we got into bed. She had like 111 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:28,279 Speaker 2: this like these heat like this like roller device, like 112 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 2: this piece of cloth or something she like weaves into 113 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,359 Speaker 2: her hair, and she was laying with the babies. 114 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: They were all over her. 115 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 2: And we watched a Christmas movie until late like and 116 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 2: then we talked and laughed in bed till like one 117 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 2: in the morning. And then today I let her sleep 118 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 2: late again, like made her you know, did not wake 119 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 2: her up. And we need it, they need it. We 120 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 2: break down. And it's the time of year right now, 121 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 2: the holidays. It's a marketed time. The calendar tells us 122 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: this is a time. And then we're gonna have the 123 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 2: New year, and everything's gonna be better. You know, mondays 124 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 2: are gonna be diet days in January first that the 125 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 2: world going to change. 126 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: And it's like very pressure filled. 127 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 2: Forget that it's like joyous and Mariah Carey and lights 128 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 2: and trees and all that stuff. It's a fucking pressure 129 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 2: filled time and everyone's scrambling. 130 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: Like a maniac. 131 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 2: Did I finish my test, did I get my did 132 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 2: I pass? Did I get my U? Did I give 133 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 2: the bonuses out? Did I get my bonus? Did I 134 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 2: buy the gifts? Did I get the same gifts as 135 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 2: the other kids? Did I get the right gift? 136 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: You know? 137 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 2: Where am I going? Did I pick the right menu? 138 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 2: Am I catering? Am I cooking? Am I having people over? 139 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 2: Are we doing your house? Do you have to be 140 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,559 Speaker 2: with your parents? Do you have to be with my parents? 141 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 2: Are my kids not going to be here? Is that 142 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 2: going to make me sad? Is my kid away in 143 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 2: the army at war and I feel lonely? Is my 144 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 2: husband away at the army and I feel lonely? Like 145 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 2: you know, it's a shit show, to be honest, And 146 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 2: I don't want to be like the hater or the 147 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 2: doom sayer, but it's a shit show. The wheels are 148 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 2: fucking coming off this time of year for everybody, And 149 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 2: even if it's not directly affecting, like if a kid 150 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 2: isn't the one buying the present or giving the bonuses 151 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 2: or finishing up the end of year work tasks, they're 152 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 2: feeling our energy. And there's just like a scramble and 153 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 2: a scramble at school because whatever teachers they have or 154 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 2: principle they have, it's happening there too. So give yourself 155 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 2: a fucking break, and many times like, don't go away, 156 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 2: don't put the pressure on yourself, lay down, relax, be home, 157 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 2: be in your pajamas, like whatever that means. But if 158 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 2: you decide you want to live a healthier life, or 159 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 2: you want to meditate, or you want to breathe, or 160 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 2: you want to take a day, you don't have to 161 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 2: wait till January first. You could do it December twenty fifth, 162 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 2: like it doesn't matter. It gets a little crazy. Paul 163 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 2: and I talk about this all the time. It's like 164 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 2: from three weeks ago, Oh my god, what are we doing? 165 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 2: What are we doing on that day? And are you 166 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:34,760 Speaker 2: doing that on that day? And a were going to 167 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 2: be to gather that day? And do we go there? 168 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 2: Do we go here? Your parents, my parents, his parents, 169 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 2: their parents, my food, your food, my present, your present, 170 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 2: my vacation, your vacation, you know, the teachers, the gifts, 171 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 2: everyone's losing their fucking minds. So I would just say, 172 00:07:49,400 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: give yourself a goddamn break, whatever that means to you. 173 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 2: And we watched last night the movie it's called The 174 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 2: Family Stone, and it's it's an oldie. 175 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: It's a real oldie. 176 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 2: You can see their television is like from the Flintstones, 177 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 2: and it's with Diane Keaton and it's with Sarah Jessica Parker, 178 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 2: Luke Wilson, Claire Danes, Dermott mulrooney. And it's become one 179 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 2: of our rituals the way that people watch love actually 180 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 2: or like, you know, any Christmas movie. She Britain loves 181 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 2: Holiday also, this one is our favorite one. Why because 182 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 2: it's flawed, like it has an unexpected outcome, and it's 183 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 2: about like the craziness and a family and they're dealing 184 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 2: with everything. And Britta's so perceptive because we were watching 185 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 2: it for the probably fourth time or fifth time in 186 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 2: our lives, and she said, you know what I love 187 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 2: about this movie. 188 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 1: It's not perfect. 189 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 2: And she said, and all the other holiday movies just 190 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 2: thrown together, you know, like they're made in some like 191 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 2: holiday movie factory where they just put together to like 192 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 2: rom comedy type of people and make it like a different. 193 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 2: Oh now it's now it's now, it's too lesbians. Now, 194 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 2: it's too gay man. Now it's a black man and 195 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 2: a white woman. Now it's a white woman and an 196 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 2: Asian man. Now it's sisters. Now it's but it's all 197 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 2: the same plot you know, someone's rushing somewhere, can't get 198 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 2: there by Christmas, stressing out, falls in love with the 199 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 2: unexpected person, goes to their house, brings them home for 200 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 2: the holidays. Like it's all the same movie. This is 201 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 2: not the same movie. It's an excellent, excellent, excellent watch. 202 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 2: So I suggest you watch it. It's really great. I 203 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 2: love it and like we stayed up late watching that, 204 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 2: so that was amazing. Let's talk about exercising and the 205 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 2: holidays and the stress and the pressure. And I'm talking 206 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 2: about this a lot because I really am feeling it. 207 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 2: So maybe I'm just talking about me, but I'm feeling it. 208 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 2: I'm feeling at this time of year, and I just 209 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 2: want to say that you don't let the wheels fully 210 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 2: come off. If you are a person who's consuming more 211 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:59,439 Speaker 2: than you usually do and eating more than you usually do. 212 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 2: Don't do the following, which don't need to do is 213 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 2: say it's almost like a binge and a purge. Don't 214 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,079 Speaker 2: say like fuck it, it doesn't matter. January first, my 215 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 2: whole life is gonna change. I'm doing this, like just 216 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 2: say right now, I'm doing this, meaning you know, I 217 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 2: was eating all this cake and testing all these products, 218 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,559 Speaker 2: and like it was cake and French fries and grossness, 219 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 2: and I felt like a garbage can. 220 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: So I just decided to take it. 221 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 2: Into my own hands now, Like I got some period 222 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 2: soups this weekend and some juices, and I'm drinking my 223 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 2: hydration packets and I'm like trying to keep it together 224 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 2: because the last thing you want to do is just 225 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 2: be around the holidays drinking too much, eating too much, 226 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 2: already feeling slovenly, trying to put on que clothes and 227 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 2: like just not feeling good. Like try to make yourself 228 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 2: feel good even during the holidays, because nothing's gonna happen 229 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 2: next year that didn't happen this year. I just don't 230 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 2: want to make you feel bad. But it's not but 231 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 2: it could happen today, and it could happen in the 232 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 2: next moment. I can promise you this. You're not gonna 233 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 2: like blow yourself up the next couple weeks. And then 234 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 2: January second, Angel of Perfection is gonna come up and 235 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:03,480 Speaker 2: show up because something else is gonna come up. Then, 236 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 2: Oh it's Valentine's Day, It's Martin Luther King Day. Oh, 237 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 2: it's this, it's that. Let's get into Memorial Day. Let's 238 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 2: get into fourth of July. It's a bunch of bolt 239 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 2: Let's get into Easter. It's a bunch of bullshit. So 240 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 2: just get your shit together now. I don't mean you're 241 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 2: supposed to be like on a juice fast or at 242 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 2: a spa. I just mean I'm not a I in 243 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 2: my twenties and thirties I was. I'll be good tomorrow. 244 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: I would blow myself up today. 245 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 2: I would eat bags of chips, pints of ice cream, 246 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 2: andimen cakes, pizzas from Dominoes. Blow myself up, be swollen, 247 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 2: feel like shit tomorrow. Not eat for two days like 248 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:35,040 Speaker 2: that is not great. So I'm talking about that being 249 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 2: what people do this whole holiday season. They just chalk 250 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 2: this whole fucking thing up to a loss. And it's 251 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 2: not a loss. It's a time you're at home, you're resting, 252 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 2: try to be healthy, make meaning out of it. I 253 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 2: don't really exercise, so I don't know what to tell 254 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 2: you about that. I think about it. I wish I 255 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 2: was someone who did it more. I used to do 256 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 2: it more. I don't know if it's just getting to 257 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 2: this age. I just value rest so much. The idea 258 00:11:57,360 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 2: of waking up and panicking and running to go work out. 259 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 2: I wake up, it takes me a fucking forty five 260 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 2: minutes to like get out of my glazed doughnut stage. 261 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,080 Speaker 2: And that's if I've been lucky enough to sleep, and 262 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 2: lucky enough to sleep means I'm sleeping and then waking 263 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: up and like getting my coffee and then there's stuff 264 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 2: to do. It's very hard to get into working out, 265 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 2: so I do it when I can when I travel. 266 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 2: But my eating is fairly good and healthy and that's 267 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 2: why and I run around like a maniac. I don't 268 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 2: just lay on my ass. And that's why I think 269 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 2: I'm thin. And it's confusing to people because they think 270 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 2: I work out all the time because I'm thin and 271 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 2: I'm not working out all the time. 272 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 1: And I also know that we cover. 273 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 2: Ourselves up a lot of the time, meaning we're not 274 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 2: in bathing suits twenty four hours a day. And even 275 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 2: though I'm thin, I do have a flat butt, and 276 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 2: I'm sure I probably have some like you know, sagginess, 277 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 2: and I really just don't care. I value rest the most, 278 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:50,079 Speaker 2: and I value time with my daughter, and I value rest. 279 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 2: I value relaxation more than I value exercise, So that's 280 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 2: just something that I don't think is going to change 281 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: in twenty twenty four. So I don't want to set 282 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 2: myself up for disaster by making these big, sweeping statements. 283 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 2: If I were to change that, I would change it 284 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 2: right now. Focus on maybe not drinking as much, maybe 285 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 2: not eating everything all day long. If you've got the cake, 286 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 2: taste the cake, but don't have the alcohol. If you're 287 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 2: having the bread, have some bread but don't have the cake. 288 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 2: Like mix things around, try to eat what you want 289 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:22,840 Speaker 2: in smaller portions. Try to just think about collecting yourself. 290 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 2: Make yourself a full plate that you know what it is. 291 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 2: This is what I'm having for this meal, not like 292 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:29,679 Speaker 2: you're constantly going back to the trough and then you 293 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 2: don't know what happened. Not just shoving or dirves in 294 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 2: your mouth off a tray that you're not like quantifying. 295 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 2: I don't like to say count because you're not gonna count, 296 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,040 Speaker 2: but it just means, okay, I'm gonna have myself a 297 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 2: few desserts, one glass of wine or two spritzers or 298 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 2: something that make it last longer, or nurse my drink 299 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 2: or drink water in between, and then I'll have a 300 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 2: couple of orders. This is exactly how many. I ate 301 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 2: some soup or something at my house before I left, 302 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 2: so I didn't go ravenous to a party grabbing at everything, 303 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 2: grabbing at a bread basket, bad idea. And then just 304 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 2: try to like maintain what you're going to do. You 305 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:06,199 Speaker 2: got you have a plate, you might have a buffet, 306 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,320 Speaker 2: and try to make a plan before you dive in. 307 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: And all the hot chocolate and all the eggnog and 308 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 2: all the fricking Starbucks lattes and all that stuff it 309 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 2: adds up. So just try to like keep a hold 310 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 2: of yourself as you go, not like tomorrow, not in January, 311 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 2: just like right now. I don't care if you just 312 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 2: ate three pieces of cake for breakfast, have a nice 313 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 2: light salad for lunch, and a piece of salmon for dinner, 314 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 2: and just clean it up. Just don't get obsessive, because 315 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:33,200 Speaker 2: I just don't believe that that's gonna be good for 316 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:35,840 Speaker 2: your mental health. And it's depressing right now. The weather. 317 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,560 Speaker 2: It's fucking dark at five o'clock. I feel like I'm 318 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 2: in a cave. So lean into that, make a nice fire, 319 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 2: you know, relax at home, meditate, stretch, sleep, but just 320 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 2: don't lean into four pints of ice cream. And if 321 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 2: you're faced with those big pop quornantines, take a bowl 322 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 2: and decide how much of that you're gonna have. If 323 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 2: you've got some cupcakes and Christmas cookies, have one. Keep 324 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: it moving. You don't have to indulge in everything you 325 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 2: see because that create more emotional anxiety for you, and 326 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:05,040 Speaker 2: that will mean that like you're just gonna not be 327 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: as happy and you're just gonna be just it's anxiety 328 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 2: ridden and producing producing to be talking about like it's fine, 329 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:15,040 Speaker 2: it's fine when I'm doing now was I'm gonna clean 330 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 2: it up later and you all know what I'm talking about. 331 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 2: But don't set yourself up for unrealistic once January comes 332 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 2: either too. I'm joining the gym, I'm buying leg warmers, 333 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 2: I've got a headband, let's go. 334 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: Like just just just. 335 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 2: Relax overall, just totally try to relax and be realistic 336 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:32,640 Speaker 2: and you know, manage it and you can have a 337 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 2: resolution right now. Whatever you decide to resolve can be 338 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 2: right now, does not have to be on in January. 339 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 2: So I just think that all those types of little 340 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 2: self you know, check help tips are helpful. Have a 341 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 2: happy holiday. Please don't compare yourself to everybody else. Just 342 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:56,840 Speaker 2: really make it meaningful for you, make it loving for you. 343 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 2: Don't feel the pressure of the gifts. Be if there 344 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 2: are so many affordable gifts out there right now, I've 345 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 2: done the whole tour of everything from the Dollar Store 346 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 2: to below five to everything you really can find affordable gifts, 347 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 2: So don't get yourself crazy.