Speaker 1: You can't fail if you don't quit. I say, if
Speaker 1: you fall down seven times, get up eight and if
Speaker 1: you can look up, you can get up. It amazes
Speaker 1: me in times in life how we're afraid to move,
Speaker 1: how oftentimes we get stuck and fear and apprehension, feeling
Speaker 1: though as though we can't make it through the next day,
Speaker 1: or perhaps we're playing back yesterday. But you have to
Speaker 1: realize is that you have survived one hundred percent of
Speaker 1: the worst days of your life. So why would now
Speaker 1: be any different? Listen, I'm just asking the question because
Speaker 1: the fact of the matter is if you didn't make it,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't know, right, So what do you have to fear?
Speaker 1: It makes me think of that old track from Destiny's
Speaker 1: Child and for the Youngins. Yes, there was a time
Speaker 1: that Beyonce was once in a musical group and they
Speaker 1: had a song entitled Survivor. It says, I'm a survivor.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna give up, I'm not gonna stop, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna work harder. I'm a survivor. I'm gonna make it.
Speaker 1: I will survive, keep on surviving. I'm here to tell
Speaker 1: you you're a survivor. I'm here to remind you your
Speaker 1: location is not your destination. I'm here to remind you
Speaker 1: that if you fall down seven times, get up eight.
Speaker 1: We got a lot to talk about, especially when we
Speaker 1: talk about geeing grade. So sit back, relax. I got
Speaker 1: some special treats for you. You know what time it is.
Speaker 1: It's that damn dawn, like the break of day. Good morning,
Speaker 1: good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned in to the
Speaker 1: Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am your host,
Speaker 1: Dawn Day, here to get you excited about your life
Speaker 1: so that you can live life on purpose and for
Speaker 1: a purpose. If this is your first time tuning in
Speaker 1: vocal Vitamin T, it's a pun of my name. My
Speaker 1: name is Dawn and you get invite themIn D from
Speaker 1: the sun. So I'm here shed light into your life.
Speaker 1: And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with
Speaker 1: celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if
Speaker 1: you want to be better and you want to do better,
Speaker 1: then you're going to have to be able to see better.
Speaker 1: So join me on this journey of living our best
Speaker 1: lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest
Speaker 1: ass at get.
Speaker 2: Your invite in Indy right with me and get excited
Speaker 2: about your life.
Speaker 1: I say, why be good when you're supposed to be great.
Speaker 1: You woke up today, you found another reason to live
Speaker 1: life on purpose and for a purpose. Now listen, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now, I need you to pull up.
Speaker 1: Go ahead and share the live with somebody else. Tell
Speaker 1: them that the damn dawing like the Breaka Day is
Speaker 1: live and full effect. I have some exciting news. One
Speaker 1: first and foremost, we're live on Facebook and YouTube. We're
Speaker 1: also live on tak tak and Instagram. This is the
Speaker 1: first ever. These are the things that I've been talking about.
Speaker 1: You can't fail if you don't quit. And we have
Speaker 1: some very special guests. I have some appetizing stories and
Speaker 1: advice letters, and we're gonna dive into an important conversation.
Speaker 1: As we know, October is Breast cancer Awareness month. I've
Speaker 1: shared with this on previous episodes of my podcast that
Speaker 1: my mother transitioned from stage four breast cancer. Well guess what,
Speaker 1: I got a survivor in the house, a three time
Speaker 1: cancer survivor. So don't tell me that if you look up,
Speaker 1: you can't get up. Don't tell me that you fail
Speaker 1: down seven times, and you're not gonna get up aged
Speaker 1: because I got somebody right now, right here backstage to
Speaker 1: tell you that the time is now to live your life.
Speaker 1: My special guests are Jan Austen as well as Chandra Fitzpatrick. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's all I'm gonna give you. So let's talk about
Speaker 1: some things that's going on. I'm so glad. Let me
Speaker 1: just say this that the dock workers strike was only
Speaker 1: for a few days, and that you know that they
Speaker 1: all came to a partial agreement so that the workers
Speaker 1: could go back to work. Now, I was just watching
Speaker 1: a lot of people out there were just panic buying,
Speaker 1: you know, running around like light bulbs hadn't been invented yet.
Speaker 1: People were just grabbing all the toilet paper off the shelves. Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: like toilet paper is going to put out a firefighter's
Speaker 1: jacket and save you all.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: And first of all, toilet paper is made here in America.
Speaker 1: We don't get our toilet paper shipped. And those containers
Speaker 1: that were sitting at the docks, and toilet paper isn't bulletproof,
Speaker 1: and there isn't and it isn't fireproof, and toilet paper
Speaker 1: is just playing useless when it gets wet from water
Speaker 1: and stuff. You know what I'm talking about. But people
Speaker 1: were acting like toilet paper is somehow going to magically
Speaker 1: save them. Don't get me started. And we were even
Speaker 1: to go way back during the beginning of the pandemic.
Speaker 1: For the life of me, I still can't understand why
Speaker 1: no one could find toilet paper on the show. I mean,
Speaker 1: folks were acting like the toilet paper was some secret
Speaker 1: agent that they can save the world. There's an idea
Speaker 1: for a show. Okay, picture it. A government manager and
Speaker 1: a spy agency talking to the toilet paper secret agent.
Speaker 1: He say something like, secret agent, toilet paper, can you
Speaker 1: break into these Chinese embassies and get these secrets off
Speaker 1: to save the world. And then the toilet paper would
Speaker 1: say something like this, can I get those secrets? Can
Speaker 1: can Mariah Carey make xmus money? Of course I can
Speaker 1: get those secrets from the embassy. Here, hold my beer.
Speaker 1: And while everybody is panic buying toilet paper, the toilet
Speaker 1: paper companies are all making a ton of money off
Speaker 1: of this, so they're not gonna tell you to stop
Speaker 1: panic buying. I mean, who does that inside their companies?
Speaker 1: It's raining millions of dollars and the fear. Hm, that's
Speaker 1: just food for thought. Oh I'm I'm so glad that
Speaker 1: Hurricane Milton wasn't as bad as they said it was
Speaker 1: going to be. Thank God. You know, I was sitting
Speaker 1: and I was praying, and I was thinking about all
Speaker 1: of you in the hurricanes path, and again so glad
Speaker 1: that the hurricane lost power like it did. And a
Speaker 1: huge special shout out to everyone that's been affected by
Speaker 1: these awful back to back storms. And huge vitamin D
Speaker 1: hug to all of those who are volunteering and helping
Speaker 1: those in need. Okay, thank you so very much. I
Speaker 1: want to let you know that you are appreciated. American
Speaker 1: citizens helping each other out, Americans coming to the rescue
Speaker 1: of their fellow Americans, driving truckloads of supplies to Florida
Speaker 1: and North Carolina. I mean people using their boats to
Speaker 1: deliver supplies, food and medicines. Volunteer workers from all of
Speaker 1: their country and beyond coming together and clearing the roads
Speaker 1: and helping to remove storm debris. Now, that was very
Speaker 1: cool and wonderful to see you all are truly amazing,
Speaker 1: and thank you all the gazillion times over for everybody
Speaker 1: being so incredibly awesome and supportive. And the strangest times
Speaker 1: is this. You know, we are our brothers and sisters,
Speaker 1: keeper each one, teach one, each one, keep one, or
Speaker 1: reach one. And speaking of a time, I just want
Speaker 1: to say that I had a fun time yesterday. You
Speaker 1: may have heard me on the last episode on Thursday,
Speaker 1: how I mentioned I would be hosting a Q and
Speaker 1: A for a new film. It's entitled Photo Booth. It's
Speaker 1: a thriller. It was over off of Sunset here and
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles, yes, at the Harmony Gold Theater. It
Speaker 1: was studying. Shout out to Isaac Taylor who put this
Speaker 1: whole thing together and made it work. Truly proud of
Speaker 1: your efforts. And then also remember I told you I
Speaker 1: had Coach La and she was promoting her event, empower
Speaker 1: her Radiant Women's Wellness Day. Well, guess what I got
Speaker 1: A whole bunch of goodies. Can I just share if
Speaker 1: you don't mind, I want to give a shout out
Speaker 1: to Coach La. I want to give a shout out
Speaker 1: to pass it forward for this great goodie band. We
Speaker 1: had tons of amazing panel speakers. We had medical professionals.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about the Chief of breast cancer surgery over
Speaker 1: at UCLA. In fact, the guests that I have today
Speaker 1: are here. So I got an awesome shirt. It's an elephant,
Speaker 1: and you know, it's just so fitting because my mom
Speaker 1: her favorite animal was the elephant. So I got the
Speaker 1: Health is Wealth t shirt. They also gave away these
Speaker 1: awesome fanny packs. I know a journal I mean, the
Speaker 1: group can keep on going. And I don't know anybody
Speaker 1: that has an organization and perhaps I met this awesome
Speaker 1: gentleman named JJ and he's with Everest. He is actually
Speaker 1: the one responsible for creating these fanny packs. You see,
Speaker 1: it's a real deal. This is on my waist and
Speaker 1: then check out this big backpag anyway, So that's what's
Speaker 1: going on. And because like I said at the beginning
Speaker 1: of the show, it is Breast cancer Awareness Month, I
Speaker 1: want to briefly share with you. Coming up, I'll have
Speaker 1: jan Austen. She's from LA and she works at the
Speaker 1: hell as a healthcare patient navigator in oncology at UCLA.
Speaker 1: She's worked in the healthcare industry for over thirty five
Speaker 1: plus years. I also have a survivor, Sandra Fitzpatrick from Nashville, Tennessee.
Speaker 1: But then moved to Los Angeles at the age of ten.
Speaker 1: She is a three time breast cancer survivor and has
Speaker 1: survived with it for over or approximately forty years. M h,
Speaker 1: are you ready to get inspired? Plus child? I got
Speaker 1: a Vitamin D advice letter. In fact, that's what delayed
Speaker 1: me because I realized I hadn't printed it out. Can
Speaker 1: I give you the subject subject the double life wife. Hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't make it up. All I'm doing is I'm
Speaker 1: just reporting. That's all I'm doing. Okay, but it's I'm
Speaker 1: telling you you are definitely in for a special treat.
Speaker 1: So now, without further ado, it's to hear from her
Speaker 1: crazy and silly friends from over at under the News dusk,
Speaker 1: where they hilariously report from their comedic take on the news,
Speaker 1: literally from under the desk, because as the world spins
Speaker 1: more and more out of control, that's where they feel
Speaker 1: the safest. I'm telling you, they're stupid. You all ready?
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. You know, I need to
Speaker 1: make sure I get a sounds effect for this next time.
Speaker 1: From high above the only freeway sign without gaging graffiti
Speaker 1: on it. This is from under the Newsdesk, broadcasting live
Speaker 1: from our Eviction Proof news Room. Keanu Reeves from the
Speaker 1: movie Speed is no speed Racer acter keanunew Reeves recently
Speaker 1: made his racing debut at the Indianapolis Speedway. Unfortunately, it
Speaker 1: got really scary for the Matrix Star. Halfway through the race,
Speaker 1: Reeves avoided hitting two cars and a tight turn that
Speaker 1: made his racing car spin out. Reeve's car slid twenty
Speaker 1: nine feet and onto the track's grass fields, where small
Speaker 1: fresh buds of marijuana grow wild. Ironically, this all took
Speaker 1: place right under the huge forty foot Cheeto's banner I'm
Speaker 1: not done yet. It took a few minutes, but Reeves
Speaker 1: roared back into the Indianapolis Speedway and he came in
Speaker 1: thirty first place out of thirty six cars. Speedway officials
Speaker 1: said that Keanu Reeves could have finished at fifth or
Speaker 1: sixth in the race, but after leaving the grass fields,
Speaker 1: Keanu Reeves wasted about nine minutes of valuable raising time
Speaker 1: by driving around slowly and asking all the racing fans
Speaker 1: this question. Hey you got a paper and a lighter?
Speaker 1: Hey you got a paper and a lighter. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: maney Jins, do you have any paper and a lighter?
Speaker 1: Out of line. I know, I'm not. I'm just here
Speaker 1: to report it. Also, Disney raises the rent and then
Speaker 1: wonders why the fans don't want didn't win, and then
Speaker 1: more Walt Disney news. Oh come on now, don't don't
Speaker 1: woo yet, save your booze. Wait for it, trust us,
Speaker 1: it's so comic. Disney will once again, for the third
Speaker 1: time this year, raised the price of admissions to its
Speaker 1: theme park by more than six percent. But wait, that's
Speaker 1: not all. Disney will also super dramatically raise the price
Speaker 1: of all food and drinks inside the parks as well.
Speaker 1: So now a hamburger at Disney will cost you about
Speaker 1: thirty two dollars. Yes, we know thirty two dollars. Now,
Speaker 1: when we ask the Walt Disney Company and it's spokesperson
Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse, this, where where on earth do you get
Speaker 1: a thirty two dollars hamburger from? Well, Mickey Mouse response
Speaker 1: from from a two dollars cow? Okay, okay, now you
Speaker 1: guys can boo. Batman's a star and the Joker goes
Speaker 1: way too far. Fan favorite superhero Batman recently got his
Speaker 1: own star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Yes, with
Speaker 1: the bat signal behind him. The Dark Knight detective accepted
Speaker 1: his award to the cheers of millions of fans around
Speaker 1: the world. Now, Batman thanked Commissioner Gordon Robin and all
Speaker 1: of the Payroll and Royalties Department employees over at Warner
Speaker 1: Brothers and DC Comics that were keeping them big fat
Speaker 1: royalty checks coming in real nice for Batman. Okay, next up. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: at the Hall of Justice, Pfizer Pharmaceutical Companies has just
Speaker 1: now named Batman's arch enemy, the Joker, as the new
Speaker 1: CEO of Pfizer. Yes, that's right, the Joker. Pfiser spokesperson
Speaker 1: Tisha Campbell had this to say, The Joker is an
Speaker 1: amazing CEO. Why he's into seeming into seeing millions of
Speaker 1: people being experimental drugs and then hiding behind a walla
Speaker 1: lawyer more than we are. When asked how the Joker's
Speaker 1: first week as the new CEO of Pfizer is going,
Speaker 1: Campbell had this to say, approvingly, Oh, the Joker is
Speaker 1: a real go getter. He went right to work. He
Speaker 1: locked himself on the main plan and now he's making
Speaker 1: thousands of krymptonite bullets. But we don't know why Finally,
Speaker 1: we asked Tiacha Campbell, how did Pfizer come to this
Speaker 1: final decision for the Joker to be the new CEO.
Speaker 1: Campbell said this, well, we were really down to just
Speaker 1: two candidates to take over as the new head of Pfizer.
Speaker 1: It was really between the Joker and p Diddy, so
Speaker 1: we went with the lesser two evils. I'm not making
Speaker 1: it up. It's on the paper. The crime cartels don't
Speaker 1: want to be in no celly cells. The new Mexican
Speaker 1: mayor of Guerrero of Mexico, Alejandro Argos, was assassinated just
Speaker 1: six days after taking office. Crime investigators in Mexico are
Speaker 1: putting the ca of the new mayor's death together and
Speaker 1: have just found out three very big clues. The first clue,
Speaker 1: on the day of the assassination, nobody in that town
Speaker 1: went to work child, not even the sidewalk showed up.
Speaker 1: The second clue, the mayor's bulletproof vest went missing from
Speaker 1: the dry cleaners the night before. And the third and
Speaker 1: final clue, two days after he won the election, a
Speaker 1: crying janitor was scraping off Alejandro's Argo's name off the
Speaker 1: glass door to his office just as Alejandro was walking
Speaker 1: in heroically Argo's bravely Argos bravely ran on the campaign,
Speaker 1: promised to rid the city of crying cartels and to
Speaker 1: stop all the endless bullets. Well, we don't know about
Speaker 1: stopping all the endless bullets, but we sure do know
Speaker 1: that he stopped at least about four or five of them.
Speaker 1: And with that, Alejandro gets the Civil Rights Hero of
Speaker 1: the Week award. And also we definitely want to send
Speaker 1: our prayers and condolences. Again, this is all from under
Speaker 1: the news desk. And another former child star was caught
Speaker 1: with drugs in the car. This just then a breaking
Speaker 1: news story at one am, another beloved child star was
Speaker 1: just arrested by LAPD. Officers took the former television star
Speaker 1: into custody on one hundred and twenty fifth Street and
Speaker 1: kool Aid Avenue. The former child star was in one
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty thousand dollars car with the expired iHeart
Speaker 1: Legos license plate and he had several guns and eight
Speaker 1: huge bricks of cocaine in the back seat. The cocaine
Speaker 1: bricks had the words P. Diddy's Yard Cell written on
Speaker 1: them in a red crayon. But the former child star
Speaker 1: was dressed in a red form, red from head to toe,
Speaker 1: and had this to say in his defense, Alma was
Speaker 1: nowhere near the crack house. Some people called alml mama.
Speaker 1: WHOA Okay, And we'll tell you and we'll try to
Speaker 1: stay with this breaking news until we run out of
Speaker 1: baking soda and glass pipes and muppet alibis, whichever one
Speaker 1: comes first. Dante back to you. This is crazy. This
Speaker 1: is under the news desk. And because this has been
Speaker 1: under the news desk, the food goes in, but it's
Speaker 1: always news that comes out. This has been a fear
Speaker 1: best presentation. All right, that's from my writers. That's from
Speaker 1: under the newsdesk. Now, I told you guys that I
Speaker 1: have some special guests in the studio. Well right after
Speaker 1: this advice letter, in just a few minutes, we are
Speaker 1: going to be talking about breast cancer awareness. We're going
Speaker 1: to be talking to a survivor, and we will also
Speaker 1: be speaking with an expert with over thirty five plus
Speaker 1: years experience when it comes to the healthcare industry. Now, Buckalop,
Speaker 1: it's time for the Vitamin D Advice Letter. Now, let
Speaker 1: me just be clear with you. Vitamin D is all
Speaker 1: about shed the light on the good and the bad,
Speaker 1: Because what do I say? If you want to be
Speaker 1: better and you want to do better, that means you're
Speaker 1: going to have to say better. Now, out take everything
Speaker 1: I say as a grain of salt. Okay, you're gonna
Speaker 1: have to eat the meat and spin out the bones.
Speaker 1: But one thing's for show. I'm gonna keep it real,
Speaker 1: so you know the deal. Are y all you ready?
Speaker 1: All right? Subject the Double Life wife. Dear Dawn, love
Speaker 1: the show, but I'm writing to you because I feel
Speaker 1: so guilty and torn. I love my husband. We've been
Speaker 1: married for five years. He's my everything, Dawn. He's an
Speaker 1: amazing person. He doesn't beat on me or cheat on me.
Speaker 1: That should be a normal thing, right. Let me go
Speaker 1: back to the letter my bad. He's really a good
Speaker 1: man and a hard worker. But Dawn, I'm sleeping with
Speaker 1: my boss too. Now this is where I enter the
Speaker 1: dramatic don't don't don't all girl? Bye? Okay, let me finish.
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping with my boss to Plus, I'm six months
Speaker 1: pregnant with my first child, and I'm hoping that the
Speaker 1: baby is my husband's. Are y'a chirping as bad as
Speaker 1: I am? Okay, I'm not done because my husband is
Speaker 1: black and my boss isn't, Dawn. It all started a
Speaker 1: few months ago with working late with my boss. We
Speaker 1: hit it off really well, obviously, and then late night
Speaker 1: meetings turned into late night dinners and drinks, then to flirting,
Speaker 1: then to hugs, and then to yeah, well, you know,
Speaker 1: my boss is fun and interesting. I like the attention
Speaker 1: and the expensive dates that I get from him, and
Speaker 1: he's really wonderful and bad. I care deeply about him.
Speaker 1: He is in great shape and I'm very attracted him,
Speaker 1: but I'm not in love with him. I'm afraid if
Speaker 1: my husband finds out that he's going to kick me
Speaker 1: out and divorce me. I don't want to lose him.
Speaker 1: He's so excited about the baby, Dawn. He's building cribs,
Speaker 1: buying baby furniture and toys, painting the baby's room. I
Speaker 1: feel so guilty, but I can't tell anyone, Dawn. I'm
Speaker 1: so scared. This isn't the mean that I want to be.
Speaker 1: You won't saying that last night. You wasn't saying that
Speaker 1: when you went out to eat. You weren't saying that
Speaker 1: when when your legs was embraced over his body. But
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be nice, Signed the Double Life Wife. Now
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you. I don't even know
Speaker 1: where to begin. Okay, Okay, First, I'm hoping that this
Speaker 1: child inside of you and your husband's health is okay,
Speaker 1: yours as well. If you don't know who the father is,
Speaker 1: then that means that you're not using protection, and that
Speaker 1: means with your boss too. Now, baby girl, I'm saying
Speaker 1: this not to frighten you, but compassionately reminds you that
Speaker 1: there are so many diseases out there there regardless of
Speaker 1: the fact if they got appeal that's preventing HIV. You
Speaker 1: have so many sti's and STDs and you don't want
Speaker 1: your child, or your husband or you to have anything.
Speaker 1: So if your husband was messing around on you and
Speaker 1: medically brought you home with something, you would be livid.
Speaker 1: Right And if you're not in a serious, committed monogamous relationship,
Speaker 1: anything can happen. Maybe your boss is sleeping with someone
Speaker 1: else and not telling you, so at this point everybody
Speaker 1: needs to get checked out. Okay, And I'm sorry, but
Speaker 1: you do have to tell your husband everything. And if
Speaker 1: this is really an amazing person in your life, then
Speaker 1: why would you even do this in the first class?
Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to be hard on you because
Speaker 1: it's no secret. As the saying go, Papa was a
Speaker 1: rolling stone. But we gotta do better, right, Okay, So
Speaker 1: one thing after the checkouts, get all that handled, and
Speaker 1: I want to say this, I'm so sorry, but even
Speaker 1: if you tell him you split up, he still deserves
Speaker 1: the right to know. Okay. He has the right to
Speaker 1: know if his wife is cheating on him and if
Speaker 1: the baby inside of her is really his or not.
Speaker 1: And he deserves honesty, and so do you. That's only fair.
Speaker 1: And I know that you're afraid of losing out on
Speaker 1: a really good man because they I can imagine as
Speaker 1: I live in LA They are very hard to find.
Speaker 1: But affairs don't always end marriages. Some marriages do survive affairs,
Speaker 1: and people do find each other again. But this one's
Speaker 1: going to be an uphill battle for sure. If the
Speaker 1: child inside of you is not his and it's your boss's,
Speaker 1: most men won't raise a child born out of adultery.
Speaker 1: I know I'm not making it up. I'm just reporting
Speaker 1: it what it is. But you gotta be honest. There's
Speaker 1: just no way around it. And the truth always comes
Speaker 1: out eventually, as we know. Next, if you really want
Speaker 1: to save your marriage, you will have to end things
Speaker 1: with your boss and quit your job. Trust me, I
Speaker 1: know men, especially good ones. Your husband is not going
Speaker 1: to be okay with you seeing your affair partner day
Speaker 1: in and day out, spending time with him every day.
Speaker 1: And when you do end things with your boss romantically,
Speaker 1: you do not need to keep in touch with him
Speaker 1: for any reason, okay, unless the child inside of you
Speaker 1: is his. And affair is for a lot of married
Speaker 1: women seem like a lot of fun or something exciting,
Speaker 1: but in the end, it doesn't help marriages, far from it.
Speaker 1: I really want you and your husband and the baby
Speaker 1: to be okay. Stress and fear isn't good for you
Speaker 1: or the little one that's growing inside of you. So
Speaker 1: please take care of yourself and write me back. Write
Speaker 1: me back and let me know what happened, and that
Speaker 1: especially if you are okay. All right, If you would
Speaker 1: like to submit your advice letter, I want to encourage
Speaker 1: you to send me an email. Vitamin d at dawn
Speaker 1: Dai speaks dot com. Me's vitamin d at dawn Dai
Speaker 1: speaks dot com. All right, I want to get off
Speaker 1: a few community news and information before we lead onto
Speaker 1: our special guests that are here to speak with us
Speaker 1: about breast cancer awareness. Now, I sometimes get information from
Speaker 1: all of you, and I want to say thank you
Speaker 1: to each and every person that goes ahead and they
Speaker 1: send information. So here we are starting up. This is
Speaker 1: very near dearer to my heart. Black Men's Wellness Day.
Speaker 1: It's happening November two right here in Los Angeles, California.
Speaker 1: This event is for black men and for each person
Speaker 1: that loves them. You're gonna get your free health screenings.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about knowing your numbers. I'm talking about being
Speaker 1: able to talk to black professionals who have your best
Speaker 1: interests at heart. You know, I really think about it.
Speaker 1: I told you my dad transitioned when I was three
Speaker 1: months old. Who would have known or what could have
Speaker 1: benefited if he simply knew his numbers, because they say
Speaker 1: and when you know better, you can do better. And
Speaker 1: speaking of the African American Male Wellness Agency, there's a
Speaker 1: fit happening this Thursday from six to eight pm. This
Speaker 1: is over at Crenshaw Mall at the Museum of African
Speaker 1: American The African American Museum inside Crenshaw Mall. This is
Speaker 1: a conversation amongst black men that only black men are
Speaker 1: invited to and you get to talk about what's going
Speaker 1: on upstairs. Because there shouldn't be a reason why twenty
Speaker 1: percent of our black men are struggling with things that
Speaker 1: they can't confide in or share with anyone else because
Speaker 1: they simply don't have a safe space. So make sure
Speaker 1: you pull up and check out the African American Male
Speaker 1: Wellness Agency for this amazing event, and be sure to
Speaker 1: send me a note and I can give you some
Speaker 1: more information about this. Also, I want to give a
Speaker 1: shout out to Miss Felicia. She's out here at Howard.
Speaker 1: She sent me these photos. She said, Dawn, I'm here
Speaker 1: to show up and show out. Miss Felicia also joined
Speaker 1: me at the empower Her event that took place this
Speaker 1: past Saturday, and she sent me this picture with her
Speaker 1: and Missus Howard and I said, a'hu. You know. Also
Speaker 1: this morning I had a chance to meet with his
Speaker 1: Jacke One. She's on the live in the chat right now.
Speaker 1: We met up for some coffee. She flew in town
Speaker 1: from Texas and in fact, if you look at the
Speaker 1: chest she's in here saying hello. We caught up on things,
Speaker 1: talked about radio. She talked about she said, Dawn gear
Speaker 1: enough to get some sponsorship. So that's a reminder for
Speaker 1: all of you out there, okay. And then also I
Speaker 1: want to let you all know that there's a food
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Speaker 1: This is located off of South Vermont. The address is
Speaker 1: ten eight zero seven South Vermont Avenue. This is in
Speaker 1: Los Angeles. Now, if you know someone that can benefit
Speaker 1: from a food drive, I want you to tell them
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Speaker 1: anyone looking for rental assistance. I want to let you
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Speaker 1: saw her recently as well at the Bold Black LA event.
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Speaker 1: share with you a housing experience for those who are
Speaker 1: in transitional living. I want to let you know that
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Speaker 1: you know Toya on the Move. Yes, our girl, Toya
Speaker 1: on the Move is doing something so amazing and so phenomenal.
Speaker 1: Toy on the Move has her ninth annual costume giveaway.
Speaker 1: It's first come, first serve, right if you're off of
Speaker 1: Manchester twenty one oh seven Manchester Boulevard, Sweet number one
Speaker 1: oh five. Now this they're providing free Halloween costume candy
Speaker 1: boxes of photo booth cotton candy and popcorn. Children must
Speaker 1: be present to receive a costume and must be a
Speaker 1: companied by an adult. This is taking place on October
Speaker 1: twenty seventh, from twelve pm to four pm until supplies last.
Speaker 1: How about that? How does that sound? So? Each one,
Speaker 1: teach one, each one, reach one. Now okay, we're ready,
Speaker 1: I guess Miss Jen and Misshonda said, Dawn, is it
Speaker 1: time for us yet? It is? Look I'm looking at
Speaker 1: them backstage. Wait, Mama's Jan She up here, sitting up,
Speaker 1: She got her hair, she fixed her hair together. Misshonda
Speaker 1: just sitting there looking pretty and pink. Okay, So here's
Speaker 1: the deal. I told you This past Saturday, I went
Speaker 1: to an event entitled empower Her Radiant Women's Wellness Day.
Speaker 1: I may have missed construed that, but it was all
Speaker 1: about breast caaracer awareness and women coming together taking care
Speaker 1: of themselves. They had food, they had yoga, they gave
Speaker 1: out massages. I mean the drinks were amazing. If you're
Speaker 1: following me on social media at Dawn Dai Speaks, you
Speaker 1: perhaps saw it in the stories and on ig line
Speaker 1: on Vitamin D Dawn Dai. Check it out. So in
Speaker 1: the meantime, I'm up there sending and talking. Wait should
Speaker 1: I tell the story?
Speaker 4: Now?
Speaker 1: Our way to our pull them on. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you about my guest. My special guest that I am
Speaker 1: bringing to the stage right here with me is miss
Speaker 1: Jan Austin Way for us and she's from Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: She has the working title as a healthcare Patient Navigator
Speaker 1: in oncology. She's worked in the healthcare industry for thirty
Speaker 1: five plus years, twenty five years in surgical oncology for
Speaker 1: a major research medical center right here in Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: Her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer twenty plus years ago.
Speaker 1: After her mother recovered from surgery and treatment, she decided
Speaker 1: that she wanted to do something to give back to
Speaker 1: other women who followed in the same path as her
Speaker 1: mother had. Love that and the next we have Miss
Speaker 1: Chandra Fitzpatrick. Originally from Nashville, Tennessee, and moved to Los
Speaker 1: Angeles at ten years old. She currently works for a
Speaker 1: major airline line and customer service, which she has been
Speaker 1: doing for thirty eight years. She is also a three
Speaker 1: time breast cancer survivor. She has been in remission for
Speaker 1: the past forty years. And she said her mother nor
Speaker 1: her grandmother had breast cancer, So then one wonders, well,
Speaker 1: how did this happen. She has a degree in micro
Speaker 1: biology nutritional and says nutritional knowledge is necessary. So family,
Speaker 1: without further ado, please send your digital waves, your podcast
Speaker 1: waves to our special guest, Miss Jan and Miss Chandra.
Speaker 4: Hello, I am hello.
Speaker 1: There, Bhi. Thank you all for joining me. I'm so
Speaker 1: excited for this conversation.
Speaker 4: Excited by your enthusiasm.
Speaker 1: Well, we're talking about something, any advice and information that
Speaker 1: you all can provide that may actually help save someone's life.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're talking about an expert that you've probably
Speaker 1: talked to so many people from so many walks of life,
Speaker 1: who probably don't know where they're going, not sure and
Speaker 1: where to turn. And then you mess Chandra are a
Speaker 1: beacon of life to say, Hey, I survive, so so
Speaker 1: can you? Right, And this conversation is so important because,
Speaker 1: like I stated, my mother transition of stage for a
Speaker 1: breast cancer, and I do think it is a change
Speaker 1: of lifestyle. I think stress has something to do with it.
Speaker 1: And I also think it's all about the willpower. And
Speaker 1: that's why today's episode was entitled I'm a Survivor because,
Speaker 1: whether you believe it or not, every person that is watching,
Speaker 1: that is listening is a survivor. Why because you have
Speaker 1: survived one hundred percent of the worst days of your life.
Speaker 1: You want to know how?
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 1: Because you can hear I'm here. Hey, what you say
Speaker 1: catch a baby because it's coming in hot Look y'all,
Speaker 1: I say, we're here for a good time. Not a
Speaker 1: long time, So come on and talk to me, talk
Speaker 1: to me about Well, let's start with you, miss Jane.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about your experience when it comes to breast
Speaker 1: cancer and any information that individuals should know. You can
Speaker 1: start with just telling about talking about yourself.
Speaker 5: Okay, Hi, good evening. Thank you so much for this opportunity.
Speaker 5: It was wonderful meeting you and person on Saturday and
Speaker 5: just being here to talk about life experiences.
Speaker 4: So is there.
Speaker 1: Something in your background playing, like a TV or something.
Speaker 4: Yes, let's get that turned our going to turn that off. Okay,
Speaker 4: that's that that background noise. So yeah, So my mom
Speaker 4: was diagnosed.
Speaker 5: In nineteen ninety eight and I worked at UCLA at
Speaker 5: that time, but not in surgical oncology.
Speaker 4: I worked at another practice.
Speaker 5: And you know, just going through the whole scare because
Speaker 5: when you hear the word cancer, the diagnoses cancer, first
Speaker 5: thing your mind.
Speaker 4: Is it's a death sentence.
Speaker 5: You don't think about know anything about staging, You know
Speaker 5: nothing about you know, family history or any of that.
Speaker 4: So the first thing, the first thought comes to mind.
Speaker 5: Is if my affairs are not in order, I need
Speaker 5: to get my affairs in order. And for my mom,
Speaker 5: her diagnoses was at stage one, right before yeah, stage one,
Speaker 5: and so for her it was the shock of course,
Speaker 5: and then after that being proactive with surgery, and then
Speaker 5: followed by radiation therapy and chemo therapy and just the
Speaker 5: whole family dynamic and everything changing from there. She had
Speaker 5: an incredible medical on colleges because at one point I
Speaker 5: had younger brothers and sisters who didn't really understand the
Speaker 5: dynamics of my mom's diagnoses, and at the time, I
Speaker 5: was up and out of the house, so I would
Speaker 5: just go back and forth to visit and accompanying her
Speaker 5: to her doctor's appointments.
Speaker 4: And that kind of thing.
Speaker 5: But the day to day, you know, the day to
Speaker 5: day routines at home, I was not there because I
Speaker 5: had grown up and grown out, so you know, the
Speaker 5: washing of the dishes and the cleaning of the house,
Speaker 5: my younger brothers and.
Speaker 4: Sisters were there.
Speaker 5: And it had become so overwhelming that her medical and
Speaker 5: colleges called a family meeting and gave instructions and directions
Speaker 5: to each one of my.
Speaker 6: Brothers and sisters who was still at of what they
Speaker 6: needed to do.
Speaker 4: To make sure that my mom was not stressed.
Speaker 5: Out, and also gave the directions to my dad, my
Speaker 5: bonus dad as well, So that's something that's not done anymore.
Speaker 5: And so she went through the surgery, the treatment, and
Speaker 5: her post top appointments for five years and she is
Speaker 5: free and clear of cancer. There's some other things that
Speaker 5: have happened as it related to the treatment, but she's
Speaker 5: still here.
Speaker 4: With us almost thirty years later.
Speaker 5: And the way that I got to meet this one
Speaker 5: is one of my besties right now was basically cancer
Speaker 5: brought us together, which is strange, and I'll tell you why.
Speaker 4: It's because she and I went to the same church,
Speaker 4: but she wasn't a member.
Speaker 5: Her cousin brought her to the church because of the castor.
Speaker 5: They had a relationship her cousin and our pastor, and
Speaker 5: I worked volunteer at the church, worked very closely with
Speaker 5: the pastor at the time. She knew that I worked
Speaker 5: in ecology, and so when anyone was diagnosed with any
Speaker 5: type of hope concern issue, or whatever the case may be,
Speaker 5: she would call upon me and another.
Speaker 4: Friend of mine who's a physician.
Speaker 5: Reason being is because we were part of the health
Speaker 5: and filling ministry in our church, and she and I
Speaker 5: cool partner as co directors of that ministry.
Speaker 4: So Schandra went up after church.
Speaker 6: To the poolpit to talk to the pastor and just
Speaker 6: let the pastor know that she was scheduled for surgery.
Speaker 5: I think the next day of the day, a couple
Speaker 5: of days after, two days after. So it was at
Speaker 5: the end of service. People were, you know, still fellowshipping
Speaker 5: after being addiction.
Speaker 4: Some people had.
Speaker 5: Left, and all of a certain, all of a sudden,
Speaker 5: from the poolpit, I heard my name, jam is Jan
Speaker 5: Austen is Jam Here is Jan still here?
Speaker 4: It's Jan still in the congregation. Go find Jam. Well.
Speaker 5: I was still in the congregation, closer getting ready about,
Speaker 5: you know, leave out of the door.
Speaker 4: And so, you know, with.
Speaker 5: Urgency, I'd go up quickly to the poolpit, and the
Speaker 5: pastor said, Jan, this is Shandra, Jondra Fish Patrick Jan, Chandra,
Speaker 5: this is Jam.
Speaker 4: I want you to.
Speaker 5: Connect with her. I want I'm assigning you Jan to her.
Speaker 5: I need you to follow her, get her phone number.
Speaker 5: She's going to be having surgery soon. At the time,
Speaker 5: Chandra was Mary, and I can remember her.
Speaker 7: Asking the pastor asking Shadra's ex hussan now if he
Speaker 7: was going to walk with her through the process, and
Speaker 7: he said, yeah, she goes.
Speaker 6: Are you sure, because this is a heck of a
Speaker 6: process that you're getting ready to walk through.
Speaker 5: If you're not ready and prepared to walk through this
Speaker 5: process with her, you step aside.
Speaker 4: We got her, We got her. We need to keep
Speaker 4: her covered, we need to keep her lifted. And if
Speaker 4: you can't do that, you step aside. We got her.
Speaker 6: So we introduced to We were introduced to each other
Speaker 6: at the pool pit and I asked her her name.
Speaker 4: She gave me her name. I asked her her last name.
Speaker 4: She gave me her last name. I already knew.
Speaker 5: I said, who's your surgeon? She told me who her
Speaker 5: surgeon was. I looked at her, I looked at the pastor.
Speaker 5: I said, I didn't know you in person, but I
Speaker 5: know who you are because I scheduled your surgery. Wow,
Speaker 5: and that's how we met. Yeah, that's how I've been
Speaker 5: fast friends like sisters since that Sunday. And that was
Speaker 5: when she was diagnosed at that particular time, that was
Speaker 5: her second diagnoses.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she was diagnosed again. Afterwards. I knew about it.
Speaker 4: I called the pastor to let her know.
Speaker 5: I called her cousin, who introduced her to the church
Speaker 5: and to the pastor to let her know.
Speaker 4: I also called one of the social workers.
Speaker 5: Who she knew very well at UCLA and let her know.
Speaker 4: Everybody knew.
Speaker 5: Everybody was in position because we knew what we had
Speaker 5: to do to diagnoses and information to her. Not over
Speaker 5: the phone, it was in person, and I was there,
Speaker 5: and I was the one to love on her and
Speaker 5: bring her the third diagnoses information pastors the time, and
Speaker 5: pastor was on the phone at the time.
Speaker 4: Her cousin was on the phone at the time. Another
Speaker 4: cousin was on the phone at the time.
Speaker 5: Carolin, and I was there in person, and a social
Speaker 5: worker was standing nearby, and she's waiting to go in
Speaker 5: to have the surgeon let her know, and the clastic
Speaker 5: surgeon to let her know this was her third diagnosis
Speaker 5: in what was going to have to happen from then again,
Speaker 5: that same conversation with her ex husband was head by
Speaker 5: her cousin by the pastor. Look, we getting ready to
Speaker 5: go into war, and if you are not armored and
Speaker 5: you don't have your full breastplate pay, you can just
Speaker 5: walk now because we got her and we've had her
Speaker 5: every since he gone. He's moved out, he moved out,
Speaker 5: not because he wanted to, because he had to.
Speaker 4: And that's that's our connection. And we have her fast
Speaker 4: friends ever since. Sometimes she can't stand her.
Speaker 5: Me, and.
Speaker 1: But that's the way it goes with your family. You know,
Speaker 1: I was sitting up here. I don't know why it
Speaker 1: struck a chord with me because I guess, you know,
Speaker 1: the first time my mother had breast cans, she had
Speaker 1: to be around thirty seven thirty eight, So I'm kind
Speaker 1: of like in the years that I recognized that was
Speaker 1: probably like two and a half and or three. And
Speaker 1: it's amazing, like when you don't really understand as a child,
Speaker 1: but my mother, like Nondra, how your hair is down
Speaker 1: to your breast, my mother could have her hair in
Speaker 1: a ponytail, and how thick her ponytail would be. It
Speaker 1: was to a bit off her back. And I remember
Speaker 1: as a child, I sit in the hallway looking at her.
Speaker 1: She was standing in the bathroom and cutting the last
Speaker 1: peeples of her hair to hold onto. And then after that,
Speaker 1: I just you know, when you think about being diagnosed,
Speaker 1: there's so many there's so many things. I feel as
Speaker 1: though can play a factor. You got one. You're fighting
Speaker 1: for your life, and as superficial as a vanity would sound,
Speaker 1: it's also the notion of that you're losing a piece
Speaker 1: of you, of your identity. We got a call and
Speaker 1: do you mind taking it?
Speaker 4: Lo?
Speaker 1: What's taking it? Hello? Talk to me?
Speaker 5: He's hey, Kesha.
Speaker 1: Wait Keisha, my cousin from Michigan.
Speaker 8: No, yeah, yeah, yeah?
Speaker 1: How are you talk to me? What you got going on?
Speaker 8: I'm good. I'm going to a football game, a flag
Speaker 8: football game. It's all girls.
Speaker 1: Oh hold on, Keisha, did you have any comments you
Speaker 1: wanted to say. We're in the middle of an interview
Speaker 1: for breast cancer awareness.
Speaker 8: Oh, my grandma had breast cancer, so I e salute
Speaker 8: all the survivoris.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, is your grandmother still with us?
Speaker 8: No, she passed away a couple of years ago. But
Speaker 8: it wasn't be because of breast cancer.
Speaker 4: He partied.
Speaker 8: He beat it in one Mmmm.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you for sharing. And I'm sure have you
Speaker 1: gotten your mammograms? Have you been tested?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 8: I did last year. So yeah, I had a scare,
Speaker 8: but it wasn't bread cancer.
Speaker 1: Okay, is in the wrong place. Your lymph node is
Speaker 1: in the wrong place and that arose in alarm? Oh wow, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's something we can we can talk about jan'shmton. What
Speaker 1: does that mean? Miss Jan?
Speaker 5: When your lymph nodes are swollen, that's an indication of
Speaker 5: some sort of affection, and that might not necessarily be cancer.
Speaker 5: But when you have a lymph note the lymph node
Speaker 5: is what cures your blood from one part of your
Speaker 5: body and organ to the other. So that's like the
Speaker 5: freeway for your blood flow. So if you have that
Speaker 5: normal enlarged lymph node, don't overlook it. Always seek attention,
Speaker 5: medical attention regardless, because it could be from a cold,
Speaker 5: or it could be from the flu, or it could
Speaker 5: be from an affection, or it could be from some disase,
Speaker 5: but you won't.
Speaker 4: Know that until you go and have it checked out.
Speaker 5: And the thing is that you have to always remember
Speaker 5: you can't do anything about anything until you step out of.
Speaker 4: Fear, a step into faith. Come on, faith over fear.
Speaker 8: That's true, faith over truth.
Speaker 5: Because the thing is, you can't do something about anything
Speaker 5: until you know what you're what you're fighting against, or
Speaker 5: what you're standing up against.
Speaker 1: You got to face a head on, gotta.
Speaker 5: Face it marless to however it looks or however you
Speaker 5: feel about it.
Speaker 4: You got to be a warrior.
Speaker 1: Keisha, what were you going to say?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 8: I would saying that's true, because like I was pidded
Speaker 8: if they were all like my it was like lower
Speaker 8: and higher than it usually is. And that's where they
Speaker 8: found like they thought it was a mask.
Speaker 1: M Oh wow, that was here. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for sharing that. I appreciate. You're welcome and thank you
Speaker 1: for calling in.
Speaker 8: You're welcome.
Speaker 1: You pulled up on me.
Speaker 4: Yes, thank you.
Speaker 1: Oh wow. You know I remember my mother Because you
Speaker 1: have lip nose under your arms, right, you have enough.
Speaker 4: Notes throughout your whole body, your neck.
Speaker 1: Because that can be swollen.
Speaker 5: Yes, there in here in your chest, clammical area in
Speaker 5: your arm pits your arms up and down.
Speaker 4: So it's your left nose.
Speaker 5: It's like the freeway that takes your blood flow from
Speaker 5: one area and one organ to another. So they're throughout
Speaker 5: your whole body, starting at the top of your head,
Speaker 5: all the way.
Speaker 4: To your feet or where your loft notes are located.
Speaker 1: Talk to me, Hi, I'm Brenda Brenda. Hello, hello there.
Speaker 5: Yes, I'm just put in late, but I suffered with
Speaker 5: cluster headaches, migrain, and vertigo, and.
Speaker 4: I've tried oxygen I tried to medication.
Speaker 8: I tried everything it is. Do you have any suggestion
Speaker 8: or any type of medication.
Speaker 4: I'll be going to neurologies in the morning. At are
Speaker 4: you dehydrated?
Speaker 8: Oh no, I drink clear water?
Speaker 9: You do?
Speaker 4: And what about your oxygen intake? Are you me on oxygen?
Speaker 5: I take oxygen at the own set of a headache?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Is there any type of pill or any type of
Speaker 8: medication or something that's going to kind of control?
Speaker 4: Do you a vertigo?
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 10: Uh uh?
Speaker 4: Decrease the pain?
Speaker 5: When you feel an oncoming, It's probably better to go
Speaker 5: into a dark area, Okay, Cluster headaches that kind of
Speaker 5: starts like a migraine.
Speaker 8: Question the head with migraine and very good?
Speaker 4: Yeah, pain stress, And sometimes it could be your intake,
Speaker 4: something that you're eating that you don't even know you're
Speaker 4: allerging to. I'm gonna telling about that.
Speaker 1: I have to pull me in the morning.
Speaker 8: I bring it up.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for calling on Brenda. I just learned,
Speaker 1: see it all right, show you right, sure right, Love you,
Speaker 1: God blessed, love you too. What we kind of left
Speaker 1: off that I wanted to peek back up on is
Speaker 1: the moment that you found out you had your third
Speaker 1: diagnosis with breast cancer. What stage were you in, how
Speaker 1: old are you and how old were you and what
Speaker 1: was going through your mind?
Speaker 5: Okay, the first time that they diagnosed me with breast cancer,
Speaker 5: I was approximately twenty nine, thirty years old, and they said,
Speaker 5: due to the size of the mass, I had had
Speaker 5: that tumor for at least five years. What they said,
Speaker 5: you you've had this since you were twenty five and
Speaker 5: I was like.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: So they had some pathologists come in and take samples,
Speaker 5: like a needle biopsy to see if it was malignant.
Speaker 4: Of course it was.
Speaker 1: And can you just for those who may be unfamiliar,
Speaker 1: we know we have two types of tumors. We have
Speaker 1: benign and malignant. Can you just just share what they
Speaker 1: are the difference?
Speaker 5: It was malignant, it was and I and that's interesting
Speaker 5: that you say that too, because I when they called
Speaker 5: me to give me the results, they said, you have
Speaker 5: abnormal cells, and I said, what.
Speaker 1: Do you mean?
Speaker 4: They said they're malignant. I said, what do you mean?
Speaker 4: I needed to hear you.
Speaker 5: Have breast cancer so that I could identify with it.
Speaker 5: So but I did not let the prognosis be my
Speaker 5: death sentence. I said, no, I can't do it anyways,
Speaker 5: So they scheduled me for I had a lumpectomy. They
Speaker 5: took the lump out, they did surgery, then radiation, and
Speaker 5: then chemo.
Speaker 4: Got twenty nine.
Speaker 5: So that was an experience above and beyond I had
Speaker 5: about I was scheduled for twelve treatments of chemo.
Speaker 4: I made it to eleven because I.
Speaker 5: Had gotten so sick from the nausea of the chemo.
Speaker 4: Then approximately ten years later.
Speaker 5: I went in, well, of course I was going for
Speaker 5: my checkups and the cancer.
Speaker 4: The cancer came back, so.
Speaker 5: I said, Okay, here we go again. So the same
Speaker 5: thing was kind of was done when we met each
Speaker 5: other in the.
Speaker 4: Second Yeah, the second time, and it was It's so.
Speaker 5: Funny because as jan was talking about it, I was
Speaker 5: remembering how we met in church when the pastor introduced us,
Speaker 5: and Janet asked me my last name, and she said,
Speaker 5: I scheduled my boss is doing your surgery.
Speaker 4: I scheduled your surgery. I'm like wow.
Speaker 5: And it was interesting because the the DeLillo, the classic
Speaker 5: surglastic surgeon, when I went to see him on Tuesday day,
Speaker 5: the day before you No, so let's two days later,
Speaker 5: after the meeting at church. Right, okay, he said, how
Speaker 5: long have you been knowing Jan?
Speaker 4: I said, about two days. I've been going up earth.
Speaker 4: He said. She came up here and prayed with me
Speaker 4: and for me and you like she'd been knowing you
Speaker 4: for twenty years. I'm like, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 5: I prayed over every physician, every clinician, every hospital attendant,
Speaker 5: every housekeeper, every food service person, every nurse, every intake administrator,
Speaker 5: everybody who had anything to do with her, in addition to.
Speaker 4: Before her surgery. I went into the O R room and.
Speaker 1: Prayed over I.
Speaker 4: I love the instruments that you pend souls. Everything.
Speaker 5: Jan is very thorough, very very thorough. So we went
Speaker 5: through I went through that. What was it about a
Speaker 5: year later?
Speaker 4: Yeah, like that, about a year later, and.
Speaker 5: I was that's when she was telling me that they
Speaker 5: all knew before I did the third diagnoses. And it
Speaker 5: was so so weird because when I was sitting in
Speaker 5: the doctor's office and I could hear a voice saying,
Speaker 5: do you trust me? And I said, why would you
Speaker 5: ask me that? And there was no one else in
Speaker 5: the in the waiting room. So the lady came and said, okay,
Speaker 5: the doctor will see you. And while I was can
Speaker 5: we go back to how you got there to the
Speaker 5: third time, because you noticed that there's this little mall,
Speaker 5: a little pimple in between you and your cleavage, and
Speaker 5: she thought it was just a pimple. She was thinking
Speaker 5: of a spacious cyst. She was thinking it was a mall.
Speaker 5: She thought it was just a little like a flea
Speaker 5: bite or a mosquito bite.
Speaker 4: That's what she thought it was.
Speaker 5: But it was very painful when I would hug people,
Speaker 5: because I'm a.
Speaker 1: Hugger, when you would chest on them, or when you
Speaker 1: would when I.
Speaker 5: Would embrace them, when I would hunt them, that bump
Speaker 5: would hurt so mad.
Speaker 4: So that's how I was like, I don't know about
Speaker 4: this right here.
Speaker 5: So when doctor DeLillo took a sample without telling me anyways,
Speaker 5: took a sample, it was cancer. It was breast cancer.
Speaker 5: So I had to go through things for the third time.
Speaker 5: That was I was like, it was it was a
Speaker 5: lot because this time the third time, it was not
Speaker 5: surgery first, right, it was chemo first, right, since you
Speaker 5: are yeah, yeah, so it was they said that it
Speaker 5: was the reverse, yeah, since it was a third time,
Speaker 5: and she had already had radiation on both sides. They
Speaker 5: couldn't have radiate the breast anymore because once a breast
Speaker 5: or an area has had radiation, they cannot go back
Speaker 5: to the same spot.
Speaker 1: Not that you know. I remember when my mom had radiation,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure the methods have improved as the years
Speaker 1: have gone on. Yes, And I guess I was so young,
Speaker 1: so I didn't really get it, but it hurts me
Speaker 1: so much now because I'm just thinking, like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: what was this Where underneath her arm was actually raw?
Speaker 1: And when you talked about the the chemo, I can
Speaker 1: remember my mother and I didn't know, And you know,
Speaker 1: I think it's amazing, Like how you say you gotta
Speaker 1: fight and you gotta push. My mom pushed so much.
Speaker 1: I didn't even know cancer was a big deal. She
Speaker 1: would drop us off at our sports activities during the summer,
Speaker 1: stop at a light, open a car, open the door,
Speaker 1: and throw up. I remember looking at her hands. They
Speaker 1: were jet black and literally things were burskin is peeling away.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, all of that. All of that.
Speaker 5: I remember I was looking in the mirror one day
Speaker 5: to put some makeup on, and you know how you
Speaker 5: open your mouth while you're putting makeup on it.
Speaker 4: I'm like, my tongue was black.
Speaker 1: I was like, what.
Speaker 5: And my hands were dark, my bottom of my feet
Speaker 5: were dark.
Speaker 4: I'm like the most.
Speaker 5: Challenging thing for me was to stay alive in my mind,
Speaker 5: because once you've accepted death in your mind, that'll take
Speaker 5: you a whole nother different way, different direction. So I
Speaker 5: had to keep when I was told, when you go
Speaker 5: in the restroom and you use the restroom, flush twice
Speaker 5: because what comes out of you is very toxic. I'm
Speaker 5: not a chemo treatment. I'm like, so, what was it doing.
Speaker 4: To my insults?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 4: What's going on there?
Speaker 5: So I had to because I was already eating right
Speaker 5: and doing doing you know, organic and so forth and
Speaker 5: so one raw all of that, and I when I
Speaker 5: got it the third time, I'm like, Lord, I got it.
Speaker 4: I hear you.
Speaker 5: I'm let's let's just do this. Let's get through this.
Speaker 5: But the most, the most important thing for me was
Speaker 5: not accepting the prognosis.
Speaker 4: And the second thing is, and I share this with so.
Speaker 5: Many people because people can come and talk to me.
Speaker 5: I said, when I helped someone, I said, don't come
Speaker 5: back and thank me. You reach and get the hand
Speaker 5: of another soldier on the battlefield, and you pull them through.
Speaker 5: That's how you tell me thank you. That is so
Speaker 5: important because we all are going that journey.
Speaker 4: That journey is like no journey you've ever been through.
Speaker 5: Help somebody, Listen to somebody, do whatever you can. I
Speaker 5: will go with you to the doctor and we will
Speaker 5: talk to them at the same time, so I can
Speaker 5: help you make out an informed decision.
Speaker 4: But I'm going to tell you.
Speaker 5: It gets you out of yourself when you're helping others.
Speaker 5: So what was really funny but not funny? But I'm
Speaker 5: on vacation and I was tired. I'm tired, so and
Speaker 5: I worked with a major airline. I'm not even flying anywhere.
Speaker 5: I'm just like, I just wanted to do a staycation.
Speaker 5: So yesterday one of the girls that asked me, could
Speaker 5: I take you to lunch?
Speaker 4: And I said, okay, all right.
Speaker 5: So I left home, went to the post office, had
Speaker 5: a challenge there, left there trying to get to lunch.
Speaker 4: Well, actually it's dinner at this time.
Speaker 5: I went to a gas station, had a challenge there,
Speaker 5: went to another gas station, had another challenge.
Speaker 4: I said, what is going on? So by this time,
Speaker 4: I'm like kind of not dealing with it.
Speaker 8: So well.
Speaker 4: Jam calls and I said, Jensen, how you doing? I said, fine,
Speaker 4: but I'm going through some things right now. What's going on?
Speaker 4: She said? Hey? You know I went to this.
Speaker 6: Affair, she said, She said, would you be interested in?
Speaker 4: But what? What wrongs? Because I had, I did, I
Speaker 4: took no. I had to stay in the bed all day.
Speaker 4: I'm just connecting. I'm not answering my phone. I'm not
Speaker 4: answering my door said don't call me.
Speaker 5: So I had to take a minute and kill before
Speaker 5: I I said no.
Speaker 4: And then I remembered when I was having prayer that morning.
Speaker 5: Instead of me saying and asking the Lord for this,
Speaker 5: can you?
Speaker 4: Can you do this? And can I? I said, Lord,
Speaker 4: what can I do for you today?
Speaker 1: Hey?
Speaker 4: I said what can I do for you? And before
Speaker 4: I told jan no, it came right back up. I
Speaker 4: said come. I said, yeah, I'll do it because at
Speaker 4: first I could.
Speaker 6: Tell and I knew I had to dread lightly because
Speaker 6: I knew she was tired.
Speaker 5: She had already given me the disclosure when we spoke
Speaker 5: on Saturday and Sunday. And here I am with this
Speaker 5: request when I already know she said, but I had
Speaker 5: had such a day right before she called.
Speaker 4: It was right in the middle. I said, this is
Speaker 4: the way it happens, and she answer said what I
Speaker 4: already knew she was God Won.
Speaker 5: Yeah, on my phone has their own ring tongue, so
Speaker 5: I already know who it was.
Speaker 4: But yeah, so.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you said.
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm glad. I'm glad.
Speaker 5: Look, I'm I'm not gonna ever not be there for
Speaker 5: someone because you never know when you're gonna say something
Speaker 5: that I helped that person get through their trial, and
Speaker 5: I want to always.
Speaker 4: Be there for that.
Speaker 1: But I gotta ask you this, Okay, why did you
Speaker 1: keep on fighting? Why didn't you get tired? What made
Speaker 1: you hold on? Who did you hold on for?
Speaker 5: You know, I just refuse to accept the fact that.
Speaker 4: I just I'm a fighter.
Speaker 5: When they said, okay, you've got cancer, I said, I
Speaker 5: cried for like forty five minutes.
Speaker 4: I said, cancer messed with the wrong one.
Speaker 5: Hey, we're not doing this, I said, Lord got to
Speaker 5: help me.
Speaker 4: I'm not accepting that.
Speaker 5: And I that day, I'm went to start getting vegetables
Speaker 5: and I got active in my own.
Speaker 1: H Yeah, Now there was something that you guys had shared,
Speaker 1: especially when you met at the church, about how you
Speaker 1: don't want to be stressed out. How does stress play
Speaker 1: a factor when the count of dealing with cancer.
Speaker 4: It's huge. Yeah, I'm cuge, you get huge.
Speaker 1: Someone once told me. I shared this. I'm one of
Speaker 1: those individuals you know, you go to the game shows.
Speaker 1: Oftentimes I get picked to go on there and then
Speaker 1: just happened to win games at times. So we were
Speaker 1: traveling back to the headquarters of WHETHER studio on the
Speaker 1: studio lot at the main office, and I was sitting
Speaker 1: next to a nurse and for some reason, and we
Speaker 1: got on a discussion about health and the main calls
Speaker 1: why people are dying. And the first thing I said
Speaker 1: to her, I said, well, cancer, I'm just thinking about
Speaker 1: how so many, so many people pop up with cancer.
Speaker 1: My mom transition for cancer. You hear cancer, cancer, cancer,
Speaker 1: And she said, no, the number one killer stress.
Speaker 5: Yeah, stressed. And then second behind that is environment. Because
Speaker 5: if you're an environment that's toxic, that brings about stress.
Speaker 5: What you read, if you're in an environment that is uh,
Speaker 5: if you are in a food.
Speaker 4: Desert, the desert, that brings about stress.
Speaker 5: If you are a half a paycheck away from paying
Speaker 5: your bills and your kids need whatever.
Speaker 4: That brings about stress. If you're in a.
Speaker 5: Job or career that you hate but you're stuck in
Speaker 5: it because you got to pay the bills and your
Speaker 5: family's depended on you, that brings about stress.
Speaker 4: Getting on the slow five every morning, ako.
Speaker 5: But one oh one, it brings about stress. You know,
Speaker 5: everything brings about stress. So whatever you can do. And
Speaker 5: a lot of times we go about life thinking we
Speaker 5: got it, we can handle it, we got it, pile
Speaker 5: it on, we got it, we got it, until we don't,
Speaker 5: until we are stopped in our tracks.
Speaker 4: And can't move left, right, forward or backwards. We just stuck.
Speaker 5: And then also exercise has a lot to do with it,
Speaker 5: the lack thereof and what you put in you get out.
Speaker 4: Shit in shut out.
Speaker 5: You mean you talk about the Doritos and the Ketos,
Speaker 5: color guys and the Coca Colas and all of that.
Speaker 4: What you put in you get out. If you think
Speaker 4: about it, next time.
Speaker 5: You go to a convenience store seven eleven or a Circle.
Speaker 4: K or one of those.
Speaker 5: I don't know if you've ever taken time to look
Speaker 5: at you know how, like when you go and you
Speaker 5: want to get something to drink, and you make a
Speaker 5: decision that if you want a soft drink, or if
Speaker 5: you want a bottle of water or coconut water or
Speaker 5: whatever the case may be, nine times out of ten
Speaker 5: that coconut water, that coconut water, regular water, or kombushta
Speaker 5: is going to cost almost double what a Coca cola
Speaker 5: or a seven nut would cost you. You can get
Speaker 5: a big leader of seven up on sale for ninety
Speaker 5: nine cent, but try to get a gallon of water
Speaker 5: and see what the price difference is is.
Speaker 4: Because that water is what's going to help you to
Speaker 4: get all the toxic town. It's going to help to
Speaker 4: open up.
Speaker 5: Your your otteries and your ligments and your vessels and
Speaker 5: all that.
Speaker 4: The only thing that.
Speaker 5: Coke has gotta do is clog things up. So it's
Speaker 5: all in the choices that we make. And let me
Speaker 5: say this not to cut you off.
Speaker 4: When I used to hear.
Speaker 5: Survivors say cancer was one of the best things that.
Speaker 4: Happened to me, and I was looking away, what yeah,
Speaker 4: they said?
Speaker 5: What cancer was one of the best things that happened
Speaker 5: to me? And I didn't understand it. I'm like, what
Speaker 5: are they talking about?
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 5: For me was that I changed everything in my life.
Speaker 4: I changed my jam was talking about nutrition.
Speaker 5: I changed christian I change how I dealt with stressful issues.
Speaker 4: And especially hydration.
Speaker 5: That I have a book that says, you're not sick,
Speaker 5: you're thirsty, and.
Speaker 4: You'd be surprised what water, just water will do for you.
Speaker 5: And I didn't drink it. I didn't drink water. And
Speaker 5: I did things for me that gave me peace. And
Speaker 5: I do that now. I have a little list here
Speaker 5: and I have it in the bathroom. It says life rules,
Speaker 5: trust God, spiritual time, exercise, healthy food, clean water, fresh air,
Speaker 5: and rest. That's what I wrote up when I was
Speaker 5: going through And that was another thing too. I was
Speaker 5: at the airport and this was I think this was
Speaker 5: a third No, this was the second time.
Speaker 4: I forget which.
Speaker 5: Time I was going through it, but anyways, it was
Speaker 5: the second or third. And this man needed help and
Speaker 5: he didn't speak English.
Speaker 4: And I ran around and I found someone. I said,
Speaker 4: bla blast fai. So I got someone.
Speaker 5: I said, tell him to sit right here, and I'm
Speaker 5: going to take care of him. But he's got to
Speaker 5: stay there and wait for me. So they told him
Speaker 5: and I had to go do something else. I came back,
Speaker 5: got him and took him on the plane, but.
Speaker 4: I was still I was.
Speaker 5: Crying because the next day I was going for surgery
Speaker 5: for the cancer. So I remember I was angry and crying.
Speaker 4: And I heard a voice.
Speaker 5: Say, I want you to help others as you go through.
Speaker 5: And it didn't hit me until about two or three
Speaker 5: days later.
Speaker 4: I said, oh, I'm not going to die. I'm going
Speaker 4: to go soon. I'm going soon.
Speaker 5: And I would take my chemo poll and go and
Speaker 5: talk to other people that were having chemo. The one lady,
Speaker 5: older lady, she said, you ladies are so loud.
Speaker 4: Are you laughing? I love the laughter, but you're so loud.
Speaker 5: I had everyone just crawled around with their chemo polls
Speaker 5: and we would be telling our experience. H h.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I always say we're here for a good time, not
Speaker 1: a long time. So you got to make a count,
Speaker 1: and you make it count by living your life one
Speaker 1: purpose and for a purpose. And when you say, hey
Speaker 1: doing I realized I'm going to get through. You decided
Speaker 1: to lift while you crying. And I think oftentimes we
Speaker 1: get so focused on self, but like you said, you
Speaker 1: found a moment where you were thinking about others because
Speaker 1: we can go fast alone, but we know that we
Speaker 1: can go further together. Absolutely, because it's somebody that's looking
Speaker 1: for the answers that you got. Somebody is going through
Speaker 1: the experience that you had experienced. Yes, why wouldn't I
Speaker 1: give you the blueprint? Why wouldn't I give you the information?
Speaker 1: If I know how unhappy, how much pain I am in,
Speaker 1: why would I even want that for someone else?
Speaker 4: Exactly?
Speaker 1: But oftentimes I feel like what the problem is or
Speaker 1: what becomes the issue, is that oftentimes we don't have
Speaker 1: the resources, or perhaps we don't know what or where
Speaker 1: the resources exist. Now, one thing that I think about
Speaker 1: too is that, And maybe I can get your insight
Speaker 1: on this. My mother was very secretive well about everything,
Speaker 1: but especially going through this process. Now it's like on
Speaker 1: one end, well, Mama, why are you not hide and
Speaker 1: why aren't you telling somebody so somebody can help? But
Speaker 1: then you hear another notion is that everybody doesn't wish
Speaker 1: the best for you or you don't want to seem
Speaker 1: like you're always going through something? What was that like
Speaker 1: for you? Miss Chandra?
Speaker 5: That's from while you're while you're talking, I'm just remembering
Speaker 5: what I'm going what I went through when I was
Speaker 5: going through and that's true. People don't always want the
Speaker 5: best for you, but for me.
Speaker 4: Like I said, I know that if I share my.
Speaker 5: Story with you, it may not even be I'm talking
Speaker 5: about cancer, but there may be something in my story
Speaker 5: that will help you with stress, that will help you
Speaker 5: with nutrition, that will help you with hydration, that will
Speaker 5: help you with resting, or even just talking, even helping
Speaker 5: timbody else get out of yourself.
Speaker 4: So I'm going to talk about it. I'm gonna talk
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 11: I want to.
Speaker 5: I want to share that because I don't know what
Speaker 5: part of my journey is for you.
Speaker 1: And they say the journey is the experience, and the
Speaker 1: experience is the journey. Life is the greatest teacher because
Speaker 1: first you take the test and then you learn the lesson.
Speaker 4: I remember I was so angry.
Speaker 5: I was like, Lord, I'm eating pretty decent. I said,
Speaker 5: who is going to listen to me when I talk
Speaker 5: about cancer? I said, They're not going to listen to me.
Speaker 5: It was just the opposite when I go into store,
Speaker 5: because if I'm in some store and I'm like, where's
Speaker 5: the rejuwal act, you know, which is a minute it's
Speaker 5: for a minute, very.
Speaker 4: Liquid.
Speaker 5: That's really really good for you. And they're like, well
Speaker 5: we we we don't have that. I said, I'm a
Speaker 5: three time cancer survivor. That's that's really good for you.
Speaker 5: They turn around and next week I go back.
Speaker 4: They got it? What Yeah?
Speaker 5: And then what you'll see people saying did she say
Speaker 5: she was three times?
Speaker 4: Well? Can I speak to her?
Speaker 5: So it turned all the way around from me saying
Speaker 5: nobody's gonna listen to me after being there three times.
Speaker 12: To everyone tell her about your experience on Saturday, which
Speaker 12: it was it Saturday or Sunday, which when they called
Speaker 12: to you and had you come.
Speaker 5: To oh yeah again because I'm on vacation. One of
Speaker 5: the girls that were called and I looked at the phone.
Speaker 5: I was like, so, I said, hey, what's going on?
Speaker 5: She said not too much with Shaun'd you busy? I said, now,
Speaker 5: how you doing?
Speaker 1: She said?
Speaker 4: Funny?
Speaker 5: She said, would you be our guest at the Sofi Stadium?
Speaker 5: We want in the VIP box. We want to do
Speaker 5: an interview with survivors. And I was like, okay, that's
Speaker 5: that's when I get quiet, get peaceful for a minute.
Speaker 4: I said, yeah, okay, I'll do that.
Speaker 5: I haven't even been I could walk to Sofi, I
Speaker 5: haven't been there.
Speaker 4: So anyways, I go over there and what an experience.
Speaker 5: I get there and they not only is it the
Speaker 5: VIP suite is the owner's box, but it was really
Speaker 5: nice even at halftime, so it was an actual football game.
Speaker 5: It was an actual football game. And I was like,
Speaker 5: everything looks so clear. They said, because you're not that
Speaker 5: far away. I was like, okay, So, and they're like,
Speaker 5: whatever you want to eat, we've got it. Whatever you
Speaker 5: want to drink, We've got everything you want is here.
Speaker 5: And here's a here's a bag for you coming with
Speaker 5: all your breast cancer inside. It was really nice, really
Speaker 5: really nice. All I had planned to do was to
Speaker 5: lay in bed and watch TV or read the book. Anyways,
Speaker 5: but and then have them. And then halftime they said,
Speaker 5: can we get the acknowledge survivors?
Speaker 4: They had them on the field.
Speaker 5: They said, can we get all the survivors in here
Speaker 5: to stand up? Well, they had one an actor and
Speaker 5: his wife was there. She was celebrating right in front
Speaker 5: of me, celebrating three years of.
Speaker 4: Surviving cancer.
Speaker 5: And they had told them to come and say something
Speaker 5: to me.
Speaker 4: I'm like I should be saying something to them.
Speaker 5: So anyways, that was she and I had an emotional
Speaker 5: moment because of the journey.
Speaker 4: Because of journey, and the friend that invited me said.
Speaker 5: She needed to see you because if in fact it
Speaker 5: comes back, she needs to know that's not a death sentence.
Speaker 5: She needed to see You've been through there three times
Speaker 5: and you standing up here clapping with the best stuff.
Speaker 1: Come on, come on, I'm just saying hier changes things.
Speaker 5: It was such an emotional It became such an emotional event.
Speaker 4: I was glad that I went.
Speaker 5: I even text him yesterday and said, I got to
Speaker 5: thank you again for inviting me. I said, because I
Speaker 5: needed that. I needed that, and other people that were
Speaker 5: there they needed youth.
Speaker 1: Yes, And it's just a reminder of how we need
Speaker 1: each other. We're I'm meant to do these things alone.
Speaker 4: He's like, she's a three time survivor what so.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And what's so interesting to me is I remember in.
Speaker 4: September, first part of September.
Speaker 5: Last part of August, they were doing things for her
Speaker 5: airline and doing huge, big things over the summer.
Speaker 4: And all, and she was not a part of that mix.
Speaker 5: And she's like, you know, I've been working for this
Speaker 5: company for you know.
Speaker 4: Thirty plus years. I'm a three time breast cancer survivor.
Speaker 4: When they had the.
Speaker 5: Big thing with the you know, this comic strip major
Speaker 5: a lister thing, and they had my image, my face
Speaker 5: on the side of the plane. And do you think
Speaker 5: I got a dollar or two or anything? And you know,
Speaker 5: I sold myself and my stuff, my likeness, and I
Speaker 5: didn't even get any kind of, you know, financial reimbursement
Speaker 5: for my time and my effort.
Speaker 4: And I reminded her.
Speaker 10: Of what the Lord told her years ago, years ago,
Speaker 10: the Lord and I had to put it to take
Speaker 10: her back to her and Memoris, as she does often
Speaker 10: with me as well, I said, do you remember what
Speaker 10: the Lord told you?
Speaker 4: I said, don't be angry, and I know.
Speaker 5: That you are because it feels like you've been taking
Speaker 5: advantage of and abuse. But the Lord told you you
Speaker 5: will never lack, you will never go without.
Speaker 4: Money, you will never be hungry.
Speaker 5: So there's a reason and the purpose for you doing
Speaker 5: this without pay, because he's already paid a hello. And
Speaker 5: I also realized to that when it was shared with
Speaker 5: me that through all I was on like in thirty
Speaker 5: magazines on the side of the plane in Turns Square,
Speaker 5: all of that New York.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that.
Speaker 5: I was doing it as public service announcement to get
Speaker 5: research money, to get money for research.
Speaker 4: So I was doing it for that reason.
Speaker 5: I didn't want to put my hand in the same
Speaker 5: pond that I was trying to get the money raised for.
Speaker 4: And I was told that was one of the.
Speaker 5: Most successful campaigns that they had had, and so I
Speaker 5: felt good about.
Speaker 1: That, as you should. Yeah, thank you for that. Now,
Speaker 1: that was something that you were mentioning and I've heard.
Speaker 1: I mean, in fact, that's how miss Jane and I
Speaker 1: we were talking about. It started over food. Everybody know
Speaker 1: how much I love to eat. Yes, I was looking
Speaker 1: at the buffet long we were at and empower her
Speaker 1: grabbing my vest was out of the possum and Jed
Speaker 1: was excited because it was gluten free. Oh yeah, may
Speaker 1: It didn't matter to me. I was just trying to eat.
Speaker 1: But it is important. Just like you said, what you
Speaker 1: put in is what you get out. Now, that was
Speaker 1: something that you had made mention how you were going
Speaker 1: to the store and I think I don't know if
Speaker 1: it was a berry or something like that. Can you
Speaker 1: just give us a list of some items that are
Speaker 1: good to eat if somebody is fighting cancer, that perhaps
Speaker 1: even helped you. Now, one thing that I've seen people
Speaker 1: talk about a lot is soursop clothes are really good for,
Speaker 1: you know, pulling out mucus and inflammation. What else do
Speaker 1: you recommend?
Speaker 5: I have so much stuff in my kitchen you'd be like,
Speaker 5: you have got to be kidding me, because I made
Speaker 5: smoothies and I put from Marenga to Ashwa Gonda to
Speaker 5: I mean, I have a lot of herbs, flat seed.
Speaker 5: I mean, I make up so many different types of teas.
Speaker 4: I mean it's a lot.
Speaker 5: I was even writing down Vitamin D K two Vitamin
Speaker 5: C crystals.
Speaker 1: Are number one Vitamin C or vitamin D vitamin C.
Speaker 5: The crystals, not the child because cristal the granuapns lyric
Speaker 5: sprouts and I actually had so many people at work
Speaker 5: on it because it gives your body such oxygen.
Speaker 4: Cancer doesn't like oxygen.
Speaker 5: When we were talking to your aunt about oxygen about
Speaker 5: the cluster headaches, Yeah, because I have a girlfriend now
Speaker 5: that she might have five good days out of the
Speaker 5: month behind cluster headache. And she said, Chandra, have you
Speaker 5: ever gotten an icy and you sucked it too fast
Speaker 5: and you get that freeze, I said, God, I said, yeah,
Speaker 5: I can feel it right now.
Speaker 4: She said, that's what a cluster headache feels like.
Speaker 1: That is awful, she said.
Speaker 5: And I went and got the book because I wanted
Speaker 5: to know more about it, and deep dives with it
Speaker 5: with her, and she said, they call it suicide headache
Speaker 5: because more people commit suicide on that with that.
Speaker 4: Headache, she said, because they can't that pain.
Speaker 5: That pain is so intense, it's like a freeze head pain.
Speaker 5: I said, well, what what has a direct effect on it?
Speaker 4: She said oxygen.
Speaker 5: I said, well, then we need to find foods that
Speaker 5: have the highest yield of oxygen in it.
Speaker 4: Vitamin C has a high yield.
Speaker 5: The granules, yeah, the crystals, the crystal, not the tabs,
Speaker 5: not the capsules. It looks like white power, and a
Speaker 5: lot of people just kind of confuse.
Speaker 4: That for a narcotic, but it's not.
Speaker 5: Yes, Sprouts and Whole Foods and even Amazon you can
Speaker 5: get it Mother Mothers as well, and Arilhana of course, right, yeah,
Speaker 5: yeah that it simply howesome has it carries it as well?
Speaker 5: Simply whosome as well.
Speaker 4: So but yeah, I.
Speaker 5: Do do a lot. Also fast at the beginning of
Speaker 5: the year. I do a fast, a three week fast.
Speaker 1: Great, you don't eat for three weeks.
Speaker 5: I juice. I juice in the morning, apples and ginger.
Speaker 5: I juice in the evening with all the vegetables. I
Speaker 5: do my fruits in the morning because that has sugar
Speaker 5: in it, natural sugars.
Speaker 4: And that gives me energy.
Speaker 5: And then in the afternoon evening, which I'm usually sleep
Speaker 5: by five every day anyways, but I do the kale,
Speaker 5: the spinach, the celery, the ginger, garlic, all of that,
Speaker 5: beat beets and the beat leaves. That's very important. And
Speaker 5: I juice that in the evenings. And that's what I do.
Speaker 4: Plenty of water.
Speaker 5: And she's on line for the twenty one days, no
Speaker 5: social media and no phone calls, no chip chatters.
Speaker 1: No nothing, nothing but prayer and asking.
Speaker 4: It's working and sleeping.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And she tries to make sure she takes off
Speaker 5: and as much as she can the first week or
Speaker 5: two into her fast, because understandably, you know, you have
Speaker 5: to change everything, and people have a tendency to be
Speaker 5: an irritant of course during that time, because you.
Speaker 1: Are already on nerves edge. You're want a middle. But
Speaker 1: I can't happen the first week.
Speaker 5: The first week, i'd stay home, I stay in the house.
Speaker 5: But it restores, revives and get you ready for the
Speaker 5: new year, and I need to get centered.
Speaker 1: I've heard that of how people, you know, you'd be
Speaker 1: surprised that fast thing will help eliminate kind of diseases
Speaker 1: because now your body is focused on what is this
Speaker 1: more an object than when you think about all this
Speaker 1: food and stuff that we're eating. It's trying to figure
Speaker 1: out a combat that rather than combat it was naturally
Speaker 1: in the body. Now kind of.
Speaker 4: You're absolutely right.
Speaker 5: During that time, it's been said that during fascinating, your
Speaker 5: body will actually cleanse itself of diseases.
Speaker 4: During that time it restores us.
Speaker 5: And then two with cancer, what we didn't talk about
Speaker 5: is the number.
Speaker 4: One thing that it craves. It's sugar.
Speaker 5: And I don't want to get into the chemistry of
Speaker 5: it all, but the chemical composition of vitamin C is
Speaker 5: similar to that of glucose, except for it has an
Speaker 5: oxygen on the rink. So and when they would do
Speaker 5: tests with me and inject me with these radio isotopes
Speaker 5: the liquid so that they could see when the cancer
Speaker 5: was in the system if it's.
Speaker 4: There at all.
Speaker 5: They also would cod it with a certain kind of
Speaker 5: sugar because cancer loves sugar, and when it gobbles that
Speaker 5: radio isotope, they know exactly where it is because it's
Speaker 5: going to go for the sugar like a path many.
Speaker 1: You know, I guess that just hit me on so
Speaker 1: many levels because you know, growing up, I wasn't a
Speaker 1: child that was into sweets, but I got my sugars
Speaker 1: from cars and that still follows me until this day.
Speaker 1: And you know, I just think, because you know, it
Speaker 1: doesn't show up overnight, it's you know, we already And
Speaker 1: that's another thing that we didn't discuss. How we're all
Speaker 1: born where we all have cancer cells. It's just a
Speaker 1: matter of when they come ignited or the switch cuts
Speaker 1: on that everything starts to go, you know, in a array.
Speaker 1: But also further, because pun intended you mentioned vitamin D,
Speaker 1: we know that as a people, African Americans, we especially women,
Speaker 1: our decision in vitamin D. Why is vitamin D important?
Speaker 5: It actually helps you to absorb calcium to give your
Speaker 5: bone strength.
Speaker 4: And to help your immune system.
Speaker 5: And it should be taken combined right, and currently we
Speaker 5: have the vitamin D three with the calcium because it
Speaker 5: works together. It synergistically works together. It one activates the
Speaker 5: other one.
Speaker 1: Now, what's the difference between vitamin D and vitamin D three?
Speaker 4: It is the active, more active form of vitamin D.
Speaker 5: And then K two you take with you can, Yeah,
Speaker 5: usually they tell you to take that with calcium to
Speaker 5: take combined.
Speaker 9: That it's.
Speaker 5: Most times with any kind of vitamins and supplements of mirrors,
Speaker 5: they should be taken conjointly with something else because it
Speaker 5: works as a powerhouse as opposed to singularly, like viamin
Speaker 5: bat should be combined with something else because it gives
Speaker 5: it more power and more strength.
Speaker 1: Oh now this may sound very face surface, but oftentimes
Speaker 1: it's similar. Well, whatever reminded me of just even if
Speaker 1: you are on medication, how you have to eat with
Speaker 1: certain medication. I didn't realize that if you don't eat,
Speaker 1: the medication can't do what it needs.
Speaker 5: To do, and it's going to eat, and most times
Speaker 5: it's going to eat the blinding of yourself and that's
Speaker 5: how you get sick afterwards, because it needs to eat.
Speaker 5: So if it doesn't have a food, it's going to
Speaker 5: go to a source which is in your gut and
Speaker 5: it's going to eat your gut and then you feel
Speaker 5: nauseous and we want to throw up because it's medication
Speaker 5: because you didn't have food on it.
Speaker 4: To eat on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't realize that I've done that with vitamins. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've experienced that too. There's this gentleman, his name is
Speaker 1: mister Lee. I like to call him like something. I
Speaker 1: want to make sure I up level the conversation when
Speaker 1: it comes down to fibroids. But he had had taken
Speaker 1: so many herbs. So when you said, ash Gwanda mull
Speaker 1: and leaf, how important tumork is the vitamin D three,
Speaker 1: taking the iron so much caratone or something like that,
Speaker 1: I realized that when I just had a smoothie and
Speaker 1: I'm taking all of these vitamins and herbs, I got nauseous.
Speaker 1: I got sick, but didn't realize the dawn is eating
Speaker 1: in the line and of your stomach. But guess what,
Speaker 1: the more you know, the more you're able to grow.
Speaker 1: And that's what I want people to do when they're
Speaker 1: listening to this conversation now, as we're talking about nutrition
Speaker 1: and what we're putting in our body, what is other
Speaker 1: than sugar. We identify that what other kind of foods
Speaker 1: are just like a no. As a people, we need
Speaker 1: to step back from fried no French fries, no chips, your.
Speaker 4: Teas aside and those.
Speaker 3: Inflammation builders, chills, bread, bread chips, anything white, really the
Speaker 3: white flower, the white potato, anything white, the white rice,
Speaker 3: because there's no nutritional value.
Speaker 4: It fills you up, but it's just like coffee.
Speaker 5: It takes you up and then slams you down and
Speaker 5: it doesn't hold unlike you know, there are other.
Speaker 4: Choices with potatoes.
Speaker 5: There's yams, and there's sweet potatoes, and there's Japanese potatoes.
Speaker 5: Some of those potatoes, even like the purple potatoes, are
Speaker 5: so sweet like dessert you don't.
Speaker 4: Need to have very actual and they're very very good
Speaker 4: for you. They're very feeling.
Speaker 5: They have a lot of fiber and a lot of
Speaker 5: vitamins and minerals and that sugar taste, that sugar rush
Speaker 5: you get at three o'clock if you have just a
Speaker 5: half or fourth of that purple Japanese potato and you
Speaker 5: don't have to put no butter or nothing.
Speaker 4: On it, just scoop it out and eat it.
Speaker 5: And that sugar rush that you're trying to fulfill will
Speaker 5: be cured. In addition to the other vitamins and supplements
Speaker 5: and fiber that come along from.
Speaker 4: Eating the Japanese potato, you'll get it. So it's choices, yeah.
Speaker 1: And speaking of choices, what are the choices that individuals
Speaker 1: need to make when it comes to finding a doctor
Speaker 1: and who to ask questions? Who? Where do you start?
Speaker 1: Is it important? Did you guys feel it's important to
Speaker 1: have a black doctor going through your process? Or you
Speaker 1: know that you've worked with What kind of quoe do
Speaker 1: you ask the questions to? Is the doctor the part
Speaker 1: for your person? And I want to open that up
Speaker 1: to anybody that's watching. This is your moment now to
Speaker 1: call in with any questions in regards to dealing with
Speaker 1: breast cancer or those who have been afflicted by it.
Speaker 1: What about finding the doctors?
Speaker 4: Well, the first thing, it depends on what first and foremost.
Speaker 1: And somebody says it is wheat flour good, that's gluten.
Speaker 4: For me, it's it's like a life sentence for me.
Speaker 4: I can't do gluten at.
Speaker 5: All, no type of gluten, and gluten is wheat flour,
Speaker 5: wheat rye, barley and smelt, spelt s P e l
Speaker 5: T is gluten and for me, it works as.
Speaker 4: Like a bullet to my system.
Speaker 1: Doctors, yes, before we.
Speaker 5: Finding the right doctors. First of all, it really depends
Speaker 5: on your insurance.
Speaker 4: That's number one. You have to start with your insurance.
Speaker 1: But what if you don't have insurance.
Speaker 4: Then you have to have insurance. In the state of California.
Speaker 4: By law, you're supposed to have.
Speaker 5: Obamacare at least, so Obamacare was here trying to name
Speaker 5: something else or whatever.
Speaker 4: If you don't have insurance, you're penalized.
Speaker 6: First of all, So that's the first is insurance. To
Speaker 6: have the proper medical insurance because you cannot pay.
Speaker 5: For these business out of pocket. It's a specialized specialty appointment.
Speaker 5: You know, medical care is not general. It's not done
Speaker 5: by your general practitioner. It's a specialist. And when you
Speaker 5: get to a specialized area, anything be it finance, be
Speaker 5: it food, be it whatever, if you're going to a specialist,
Speaker 5: that's going to cost you more because that's their focus.
Speaker 4: That's all they.
Speaker 5: Operate in, is that one particular modality medical modality, financial modality,
Speaker 5: food modality. That is their food for focus, and that
Speaker 5: is what they look at.
Speaker 4: And so number one is insurance.
Speaker 5: Then once you have your insurance, be it a PPO
Speaker 5: where you can go wherever you want to go or
Speaker 5: an HMO where you have to get an authorization to.
Speaker 4: Go wherever you want to go and it.
Speaker 5: Has to be approved, and you have to then be
Speaker 5: an advocate. Regardless if it's a PPO insurance or EGO insurance,
Speaker 5: you got to make sure that you're an advocate for
Speaker 5: yourself and that you partner with somebody who can be
Speaker 5: an advocate for you. So again, it's like those people
Speaker 5: that talk about in the grocery store, I'm a three
Speaker 5: time breast cancer survivor, and you're listening and you've just
Speaker 5: been diagnosed with cancer or your sister or your mother whatever.
Speaker 5: That's when you lean in and say, hey, my sister
Speaker 5: was diagnosed with cancer.
Speaker 4: I don't know what to do, she doesn't know what
Speaker 4: to do. What do we do? What can you tell us?
Speaker 4: So that you're an advocate somebody.
Speaker 13: Who's been you walk through the trenches, who's walked through
Speaker 13: the path, because you can talk to a doctor, you
Speaker 13: can talk to a nutritionist or whatever, but they don't
Speaker 13: have that personal experience.
Speaker 5: They're treating, they're diagnosing, they're doing surgery, so it becomes
Speaker 5: sort of like a robotic kind of thing, just like
Speaker 5: any job you do.
Speaker 4: You as a.
Speaker 6: With your podcast, I wouldn't know the first thing to do,
Speaker 6: just like you tried to help us get on.
Speaker 4: Even called in that was you know, because we're not checking.
Speaker 4: We are looked like we looked like, you know. So
Speaker 4: it depends on where your strengths are. That's not our strength,
Speaker 4: that's where you are.
Speaker 6: So if we were to start a podcast right now,
Speaker 6: we have to go to.
Speaker 4: Do what I can't hear you what's the paper?
Speaker 6: So you know it's it's all of that, you know
Speaker 6: what I mean, you go to the source of somebody
Speaker 6: who's been through, who's walked through the trenches.
Speaker 4: Because I know you didn't mean to call it cut
Speaker 4: you off, but I did.
Speaker 6: When you first started with your podcast, I'm sure that
Speaker 6: microphone and all of that.
Speaker 1: You didn't know what you Michael, I was in the
Speaker 1: bed underneath a comforter with the USB MI just so
Speaker 1: I get yes, yeah, and look.
Speaker 4: At you now.
Speaker 6: You know you got to step and repeat behind you say,
Speaker 6: a desk and a mask and a phone and a subflower,
Speaker 6: the little ring you got, the bells, you know, you
Speaker 6: got all that, and I even see your bun's.
Speaker 4: Eye tree behind you. But yeah, you do, you do.
Speaker 5: You will seek out those who have been through or
Speaker 5: speaking on the subject, because if you.
Speaker 4: Came to me and you said, hey, I just got diagnosed.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna go with you. I'm gonna say when's your
Speaker 5: next appointment or who you seeing? Let me take you
Speaker 5: to my doctor. As a matter of fact, I've done
Speaker 5: that with several people. I'll bring them right on up
Speaker 5: in to the hospital, say hey, it's such a such
Speaker 5: your in town, or what is their schedule?
Speaker 4: Look like, Look, I got.
Speaker 5: Somebody I'm walking with and I'm gonna bring her and
Speaker 5: I need you to connect us and I need to.
Speaker 4: Make that happen. So we do that all the time.
Speaker 5: Where if I somebody that I know who is frail
Speaker 5: and fragile, somebody that I have embraced as an association
Speaker 5: and even sometimes as a patient, they'll come in and
Speaker 5: they're frightened within their lives and they're shaking in the
Speaker 5: whole nine yards and you know they don't know what
Speaker 5: to do.
Speaker 4: It's a life sentence for them.
Speaker 5: And I'll say to you, you know, I have a
Speaker 5: really good friend who has walked through this walk. You know,
Speaker 5: I met her under this circumstances.
Speaker 4: If you want to speak.
Speaker 5: With her, I know that she'd be willing to speak
Speaker 5: with you.
Speaker 4: You just let me know.
Speaker 5: I'll do a phone call, you know, a conference call
Speaker 5: between the two of you, and then you guys, you know,
Speaker 5: you go from there. And so that's usually how we've
Speaker 5: worked it out over the years. And it doesn't matter,
Speaker 5: you know, if it's two, three o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 5: she's up sleep, because I say.
Speaker 4: Sleeps at five o'clock every day.
Speaker 5: But my girlfriend had said to me, because I went
Speaker 5: with someone with every chemo treatment, I was sitting there
Speaker 5: with my arm next to their arm, and she said,
Speaker 5: she said, why do you give so much of yourself?
Speaker 4: I said, because I don't see it as that.
Speaker 5: So and another thing I wanted to say is a
Speaker 5: lot of times there are those those mistruths and stewelies
Speaker 5: that go out there. Somebody's been diagnosed with breast cancer,
Speaker 5: somebody who has not been through themselves and have not
Speaker 5: locked the path.
Speaker 4: They'll say, oh, my cousin, I remember when she was
Speaker 4: diagnosed with breast cancer.
Speaker 6: As soon as they opened her up under the mile
Speaker 6: it's reread anywhere, so don't happen to you.
Speaker 4: Well, you've not watched that walk.
Speaker 6: This is something you heard somebody from down the way
Speaker 6: twenty five thirty years ago who played the telephone game
Speaker 6: and got the message all twisted. Because that's not that
Speaker 6: was not the conversation. That was just the pieces that
Speaker 6: you picked up.
Speaker 4: And you have no idea how that will turn somebody
Speaker 4: into fear into isolation. They may be stage zero.
Speaker 5: Or stage one diagnoses, but then when they come around
Speaker 5: and get the courage because somebody's mama for twenty years
Speaker 5: ago had breast cancer and somebody opened them up, and
Speaker 5: it's spread everywhere, which is not the truth. It's probably
Speaker 5: already everywhere before they have surgery. So then now you know,
Speaker 5: five six years later, here they are. Now it's metestasized
Speaker 5: to every organ and every part of their body because
Speaker 5: they've been told by their friend that twenty years ago,
Speaker 5: when their cousin mama's sister was opened up, it went everywhere.
Speaker 5: And so now you're here nine months later and the
Speaker 5: cancer is all around your lymph nose.
Speaker 4: And you.
Speaker 1: In your bone.
Speaker 6: And your laments, your bones, your your nerves, and it's
Speaker 6: just wrapped around it, and now nine months later.
Speaker 5: Surgically there's nothing that can be done, and radiation there's
Speaker 5: nothing that can be done. They can offer you chemo, but.
Speaker 4: That's just.
Speaker 1: Shooting it off.
Speaker 5: They extend your life for maybe another month or so
Speaker 5: until they get to the point of where they said,
Speaker 5: we've done everything we can do.
Speaker 4: So now it's quality of life. Quality of life is
Speaker 4: hospitals care.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you this. Now, you talked about
Speaker 1: the whole notion of the telephone game. I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's a thing with an older generation, and I'm
Speaker 1: just speaking from my experience with my family not to
Speaker 1: call my out genie out like that, but call around.
Speaker 1: It's because we gotta keep it real. What is this
Speaker 1: notion of not being transparent with the doctor, feeling as
Speaker 1: though if I share the information with the doctor, oh,
Speaker 1: they just gonna tell me some because they're trying to
Speaker 1: make the money. How do you feel about transparency when
Speaker 1: when it comes to dealing with your doctor, should you
Speaker 1: tell them everything? Should you hold it back and wait
Speaker 1: for them to discover? What do you do well?
Speaker 4: The only way that.
Speaker 5: They can give you a diagnosis is based on their resource,
Speaker 5: based on the information that you share.
Speaker 4: That's just like with anything. If I came to you
Speaker 4: and said, don I want to start a.
Speaker 5: Podcast and you say, okay, do you have an LFC?
Speaker 4: No? Do you have a microphone at least? Well, yeah,
Speaker 4: I have a.
Speaker 5: Microphone from what type of microphone isn't And then you
Speaker 5: tell me I asked or whatever, Well, there's no way
Speaker 5: we can start, like you said, with your covers and
Speaker 5: you had your microphone. If you didn't have your blanket
Speaker 5: and your comforter and your microphone, you wouldn't be able
Speaker 5: to get to where you.
Speaker 4: Are right now. So it is.
Speaker 5: The more you share with your healthcare professional position that
Speaker 5: you feel confident with, because there are a lot out
Speaker 5: there that you may not feel confident with because you
Speaker 5: become a number or you become you know that fifteen
Speaker 5: minutes is a billable You know.
Speaker 4: It's a billable charge.
Speaker 5: So if you're now going into the twenty minute mark,
Speaker 5: then not become something different.
Speaker 4: So you know, you've got to be an advocate for yourself.
Speaker 4: You've got to find an advocate.
Speaker 5: You've got to be transparent, You've got to be a
Speaker 5: great historian your own personal history and then whatever history
Speaker 5: you know from other family members, because genetics makes the difference.
Speaker 4: Genetics, your pedigree, your chart.
Speaker 5: Grandma was diagnosed in you know, nineteen six, and then
Speaker 5: grand Mama wasn't.
Speaker 4: But here I am so eskipped the generation.
Speaker 5: The more that the physician knows that your family history,
Speaker 5: the better your chances are are the better resources that
Speaker 5: physician has in order to get to where you need
Speaker 5: to be with the medications and your treatments and all
Speaker 5: the more. Whatever you hold back, they can't give you
Speaker 5: any information or any type of medication if you're holding
Speaker 5: back information, Just like the clusters you're on.
Speaker 4: You go in, she said, they say, well, how long
Speaker 4: have you had the headache?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: Just a month?
Speaker 6: But she's been suffering for five years. Yeah, why are
Speaker 6: you holding on to what you've experienced five years ago?
Speaker 4: And you're telling her a month?
Speaker 5: So now they're going to treat you as this is
Speaker 5: a new diagnosis, not that this is a long standing
Speaker 5: diagnoses that you've been dealing with for five years. Okay,
Speaker 5: So with that five years, there have been some other
Speaker 5: things that have taken place in your.
Speaker 4: Body because you've been dealing with us for five years.
Speaker 1: Not one month, gotcha? And I know we've been talking
Speaker 1: for a bit, but this stuff is just so important
Speaker 1: as I realized information or resources that I didn't know.
Speaker 1: If you are having an issue with your doctor, I've
Speaker 1: been in situations where I'm asking the doctor questions and
Speaker 1: it's almost like you taking a defense that I care
Speaker 1: about my body. I'm not saying that you're wrong. I'm
Speaker 1: asking because I need to understand.
Speaker 5: This is this is this is just what I was
Speaker 5: about to hear on I watched.
Speaker 4: The interaction between the patient and the doctor.
Speaker 5: Older lady and he's talking here medically like he's talking
Speaker 5: to his friends, his coworkers, and she's like, yes, yes, sir,
Speaker 5: uh huh, okay, thank you. So I watched him walk
Speaker 5: out of the room.
Speaker 11: I said, do you know what he said? And she
Speaker 11: just kind of smiled. I said, do you know what's wrong?
Speaker 11: She just smiled. I said, you have an ulcer?
Speaker 5: She said, why didn't he say, aw, sir, Well, he's
Speaker 5: used to talking to doctor X y Z.
Speaker 4: So they're talking, they targe.
Speaker 5: Nurse or nurse, and I say, because it's my thing,
Speaker 5: I'll listen to them.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, sir, with all due respect, they know
Speaker 4: me now.
Speaker 5: They're like Chandra, if you say it with all due respect,
Speaker 5: everything's about to hit the fan. But I'm like, I
Speaker 5: can follow with you, but when I can't, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: need you to break that down.
Speaker 1: Oh wow.
Speaker 5: When I had cancer the first time I was, there
Speaker 5: are certain markers on estrogen receptor site positive extragen receptor
Speaker 5: site negative.
Speaker 4: I don't want to go into all of that, but.
Speaker 5: When I first got diagnosed, I believe I was extragen
Speaker 5: receptor site negative. When the cancer came back, the doctor said,
Speaker 5: all right, Fitzpatrick, you know what time it is. You
Speaker 5: know we're gonna do this. I said, okay. He said,
Speaker 5: s your receptor sy positive? I said hum. He said
Speaker 5: why did you say that? I said, because the first
Speaker 5: cancer was negative. He said, are you sure? I said,
Speaker 5: go check it. You gotta be diligent too, You gotta
Speaker 5: this is your body. You gotta listen to what's going on.
Speaker 5: So he came back and he said, good.
Speaker 4: Find that was good. He's a wonderful doctor. He's a
Speaker 4: wonderful doctor, and I know he's got a thousand patients.
Speaker 4: He said, you're absolutely right. Do you know what that means?
Speaker 5: I said, yeah, I got a new primary in the
Speaker 5: same breast, so it's not like it's metastasized, so they
Speaker 5: don't have to go so radical with me. You've got
Speaker 5: two different cancers in the same breast, so there are
Speaker 5: two primaries.
Speaker 4: We can treat them and say both new.
Speaker 5: But what that means we have to remove that breast
Speaker 5: because now you've got two primaries different types of cancer breast,
Speaker 5: but different types of cancer.
Speaker 4: So now we cannot treat.
Speaker 5: That breath and it's different types of cancer, two different locations.
Speaker 4: We have to eradicate it.
Speaker 1: So I wonder if that happened with my mom because
Speaker 1: she had looked ucto me. Did I say that right?
Speaker 1: And then I don't What is the myomectomy? Why is
Speaker 1: that term? Is?
Speaker 5: That's what my mectamy is to reduce the size of
Speaker 5: your breast, So that is that's something you choose to
Speaker 5: do because if you have big breast and they're too
Speaker 5: heavy or whatever, myomectamy small and okay.
Speaker 4: To do with cancer is aesthetics.
Speaker 1: Is aesthetics okay? And so she has a lumped me
Speaker 1: my mother.
Speaker 5: Had that based on cancer or family history of cancer.
Speaker 4: Masectic maseectomy means to.
Speaker 1: Remove to a take out the breast issue.
Speaker 4: The breast tissue.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, and sometimes that's done in order to lessen
Speaker 1: your chances of it coming back. Right. I believe Angelina
Speaker 1: Jolie did that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have found that Angelina Joe Lee was high risk.
Speaker 4: She didn't have.
Speaker 1: Cancer right right, But I'm as a prevention.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so it was prevention. But it doesn't mean that it.
Speaker 5: It doesn't mean that she can't be diagnosed with breast
Speaker 5: cancer because she took away the breast tissue.
Speaker 1: She could still get breast.
Speaker 5: So a lot of these celebrities, because they have family history,
Speaker 5: they don't themselves have breast cancer.
Speaker 4: They come around this time.
Speaker 5: Of year or whatever the big hot I had a
Speaker 5: masectomy because I was at his high risk, or I was.
Speaker 4: I was high risk, or there was a question.
Speaker 5: So I just had a complete masectomy and I had,
Speaker 5: you know, tissue from my abdomen or from my buttocks
Speaker 5: or implants place to let's in my wrisk. Well with
Speaker 5: the implants, cancer can hide behind there.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you got a chest wall, just like
Speaker 1: how do you think men are diagnosed with breast cancer.
Speaker 4: They don't have breasts, they have chest.
Speaker 5: And it's at the chest wall, so it doesn't have
Speaker 5: to be what's protruding out from your chest wall, your breast.
Speaker 4: It could be your actual trust itself. Just like Chauldren.
Speaker 4: The second time, it was in between her breast, that's
Speaker 4: all my I'm so to believe it.
Speaker 5: The third time what they had to do. But I
Speaker 5: have found that women have started prophylactically getting double mistectomies
Speaker 5: because they don't even want to be bothered. They said,
Speaker 5: I've had my children, I'm married, I've had my children.
Speaker 5: I don't need these, and if my mom and sister
Speaker 5: had it, I don't want to take a chance.
Speaker 4: Just take the breast.
Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, but that doesn't eradicate anything.
Speaker 1: This is my sister's. My mother had a mass sectomy.
Speaker 5: Yes sect They did a circular cut, opened it up,
Speaker 5: took out the bad tissue, closed it back up. Made
Speaker 5: these two match and took some there's some shallow ye
Speaker 5: tell me? Yeah, n breast developed from her. I'm trying
Speaker 5: to think as a tram flat tram flat, yeah, wow.
Speaker 5: So they took they took fat off my stomach, and
Speaker 5: so I had a flat stomach and two perky breasts
Speaker 5: when they.
Speaker 1: Got through, and you got your life and I got.
Speaker 4: My life and the nipples. Yeah, it's come a long way.
Speaker 5: It's come a long way from what they used to
Speaker 5: do because in insurance wise, they make a.
Speaker 4: Match whereas they used to just take the breast off
Speaker 4: and you would be kind of.
Speaker 5: Locked or that you would have to have an implant
Speaker 5: prosthetic breast where they put this insert just like you
Speaker 5: know the T shirt bras that we wear and they
Speaker 5: have the little inserts to kind.
Speaker 4: Of make you eating or whatever. Well, they have one
Speaker 4: that's uh that's made of uh sellup. What do you
Speaker 4: call it? Not sello fane? What is it called nostyl
Speaker 4: from uh silicon? Silicon? There you go, a silicon.
Speaker 5: They have the silicones that they place inside the gummies
Speaker 5: or the ones that fit into your bra. Well, the
Speaker 5: ones that they fit into your bra they could be
Speaker 5: two to five pounds, depends on what cut side you were,
Speaker 5: so that could be very heavy slubbing.
Speaker 4: This thing around. So some people say, look forget it.
Speaker 4: I don't want anything. I came in with nothing.
Speaker 5: I don't want nothing other people body image or whatever
Speaker 5: the case may be. Yes, go ahead, give me the
Speaker 5: gum beers which ones letting men, that's another thing you
Speaker 5: got to research which ones have been recalled from a company,
Speaker 5: you know, because at one time Johnson and Johnson, their
Speaker 5: breast implants were leaky. So then you've had the solution
Speaker 5: from the sailine that's leaking into your body, that's absorbed
Speaker 5: into your blood stream, and that brings a whole another problem.
Speaker 4: So anyway, for yourself, you got to know what you're doing.
Speaker 5: You got up lock in with somebody who's been through
Speaker 5: so that they can walk with you and tell you
Speaker 5: what their experience was.
Speaker 4: It doesn't mean that her experience is going.
Speaker 5: To be my experience, but at least I know she's
Speaker 5: walked through three times as opposed to come on to
Speaker 5: a friend whose mama's grandmother.
Speaker 4: Back in the day when they opened them up, it
Speaker 4: went everywhere and they had to close them up.
Speaker 6: As soon as they close them up, they died on
Speaker 6: the beer. And so those you've got to eat what's.
Speaker 1: Your plenty in because what you get out get out
Speaker 1: come on. I think that's the word. I mean, we
Speaker 1: we so much. We could have gotten too, but I
Speaker 1: know that we have been on for a bed and
Speaker 1: I want to thank you for your time, especially because
Speaker 1: I know Misscheanda you said that you go to bed
Speaker 1: at five o'clock. We all had.
Speaker 4: I was looking, I'm like, oh, I'm.
Speaker 5: Two hours was a bed at five because she's up
Speaker 5: at one?
Speaker 1: Like it's oh my god. When I was hosting the
Speaker 1: FM dow front page, a lot of my listeners will
Speaker 1: be up in perky at two o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 1: I said, what are you doing? Wing? What is going on?
Speaker 4: I at early?
Speaker 5: So I'm always I'm always up, my eyes open about one.
Speaker 4: Thirty two o'clock, closed around five in the afternoon.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, so thank you so much. You know,
Speaker 1: what I got from this conversation is one you gotta
Speaker 1: have faith, and that's simple, having faith in which you
Speaker 1: cannot see. What do you believe over yourself? Being cognizant
Speaker 1: of what you speak over yourself and also what you
Speaker 1: put over yourself? What are you allowing in yourself and
Speaker 1: what to surround yourself with. I never really thought about
Speaker 1: what you meant when you said the environment. But that
Speaker 1: includes people as well, food as.
Speaker 9: Well, information, that box you know, that television, that social media,
Speaker 9: all that stuff.
Speaker 5: That's like guardiage. Yeah, you know, so you gotta be careful.
Speaker 5: Good stuff in, good stuff out.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm telling you that well, I said, from this conversation,
Speaker 1: I definitely feel as though I got some good stuff in.
Speaker 1: And I know for certain just that we got in
Speaker 1: the comments that we've gotten some good stuff out and
Speaker 1: it couldn't come forward unless you all had taken a
Speaker 1: chance to step up, to show up and show out
Speaker 1: and shed light pun intended, because this is vitamin D
Speaker 1: on what really matters to the heart. And that's what
Speaker 1: I said and each other. Before you get out of here,
Speaker 1: is there any just even if someone is just now
Speaker 1: stepping in, is there a resource or information that you
Speaker 1: can provide whether somebody needs some financial assistance. Because my
Speaker 1: mom I didn't think about it, luckily, I guess the
Speaker 1: insurance or whatever she had set up. There was a
Speaker 1: time that my mother couldn't be in our own home,
Speaker 1: whether it was because the dog was there, if there
Speaker 1: was some sports, just stuff, and it's just like fortunately
Speaker 1: we were able to stay in a hotel. I know
Speaker 1: there's organizations that actually help families, whether it's a mother
Speaker 1: or I guess in some case a father that may
Speaker 1: have breast cancer that helps with funding. Any information that
Speaker 1: you can provide before we head out of here.
Speaker 4: So there's so many different organizations that are available to you.
Speaker 4: There are a lot of.
Speaker 5: Different hospitals that operate on a sliding scale, so you
Speaker 5: just have to ask. Not all of them, but there
Speaker 5: are some that have funding that have been offered to them,
Speaker 5: you know as a perpetual gift or you know, a donation.
Speaker 4: Of some sort. So you just have to ask.
Speaker 5: Secondly, Secondly, you have to make sure you're insured. There's
Speaker 5: no reason why anybody should not be insured. Nobody, even
Speaker 5: someone who is you know, houseless right now, because there's
Speaker 5: all kinds of plans out.
Speaker 4: There is you know, you go through your social service department.
Speaker 5: I will say what I have to say offline dong
Speaker 5: and you can share later on if you choose to.
Speaker 5: There are facilities that you can go to and tell
Speaker 5: them what's going on, and they cannot refuse your medical care.
Speaker 1: They cannot pull up family get ready because you know,
Speaker 1: I'm sharing it. My sister just posted there was an
Speaker 1: organization that she used to work for, entitle, the Pink Fund,
Speaker 1: and a national organization that will help with funding, help
Speaker 1: with resources and all that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, like any major medical facility that has a breast
Speaker 5: cancer facility or connection to there are resources.
Speaker 4: You just have to ask.
Speaker 1: Closed mouths don't get fans, so have.
Speaker 5: They also have social workers that will get you connected
Speaker 5: with medical care, be it you know, some of the
Speaker 5: HMOs that are signed to a certain area or whatever case.
Speaker 4: There are resources out there.
Speaker 5: You just have to ask for it and not be
Speaker 5: prideful in asking for it. The thing is is that
Speaker 5: there's somebody to help you in every industry and everywhere.
Speaker 5: Come on, you just have to ask, and you know
Speaker 5: you might get a you know, two no's or whatever,
Speaker 5: but that one yes is the yes that you know
Speaker 5: you need to get you to the next step. Environment
Speaker 5: stain hydrated, stain hydrated, stay hydrated, and then also making
Speaker 5: sure that you as much as you can within your
Speaker 5: own power to keep your stress level as low as
Speaker 5: you possibly can. Now, some people are trying on drama
Speaker 5: and that's how they operate.
Speaker 1: If it doesn't any other way, that's.
Speaker 4: How they operate. They function and trauma and drama. That's
Speaker 4: not my case, that's not my story. But what I
Speaker 4: can to you.
Speaker 5: Is trauma drama as on to the dis ease in
Speaker 5: your body.
Speaker 1: The disease, because if it doesn't serve you, it doesn't
Speaker 1: deserve you catch it. Catch it well, catch this ladies.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I don't know. We didn't talk
Speaker 1: about it. So if you just don't say nothing, that's
Speaker 1: fine too. I don't know if you open if people
Speaker 1: can check you out on any social media, or if
Speaker 1: there's any way if somebody has a question that they
Speaker 1: can follow up. Is there any information you would like
Speaker 1: to share an email? I don't know. I'm just putting
Speaker 1: it out there.
Speaker 4: Okay, we can do that.
Speaker 1: You want to say it now?
Speaker 4: Or oh can I say it?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I'm gonn write it?
Speaker 4: Not yeah, okay? In frank D, isn't David? Isn't that Edward?
Speaker 4: And isn't Nancy? Isn't Apple? Isn't Edward? At gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Three time cancer survivor Chandra Fitzpatrick has said, if you
Speaker 1: have any concerns, if you have any questions, if you
Speaker 1: need any resources, to pull up on me. Her email
Speaker 1: is fis in Frank D isn' day? He is an elephant,
Speaker 1: and is in Nancy A is an apple? He is
Speaker 1: an elephant at gmail dot com. Closemouths, don't get fed,
Speaker 1: Just pull up and choose your life. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Is there anything else.
Speaker 5: If you contact her and she needs to be there
Speaker 5: to be an advocate for you, she knows exactly how
Speaker 5: to get to me. Because I work for a major
Speaker 5: medical facility. Without getting their permission first, I cannot put
Speaker 5: out that information.
Speaker 4: But if you pull up on Chandra, she'll pull up
Speaker 4: on Hey.
Speaker 1: You better catch it. Because each one reach one, because
Speaker 1: each one don't teach one, all right.
Speaker 4: I believe that right, each one help one. Thank you
Speaker 4: if you were going to get all this content and
Speaker 4: information when.
Speaker 1: We met on Saturday, and I did not, all I
Speaker 1: knew was I was hongry, and somebody said they didn't
Speaker 1: need gluten free and I was like, well, where's the
Speaker 1: next thing for me? We are getting so many thank
Speaker 1: yous ms. Maya said thank you, Latasha said thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for making room for showing up.
Speaker 1: And you know, little Dawn inside right now is smiling
Speaker 1: because you know that there's certain people that's gonna look
Speaker 1: out for the little Dawns and the little Charlotte's and
Speaker 1: the little Chandra's as well as the little chance who
Speaker 1: have all been affected by cancer some way somehow. So
Speaker 1: I say thank you, and I applaud you, Thank.
Speaker 5: You, Lord, you thank you for this opportunity, thank you
Speaker 5: for being here, thank you for the choice encounter. And
Speaker 5: I think all of your listeners, the ones that are
Speaker 5: here now, the ones that will come absolutely.
Speaker 1: And listen later.
Speaker 5: Yes, and just one thing we have to say to you,
Speaker 5: miss Daal, when you reach the pinnacle and you break
Speaker 5: that glass, don't forget about.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I hope.
Speaker 1: No. Thank you so much, ladies, have a great night.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 1: I hope you were inspired by this conversation like I was.
Speaker 1: I hope you realize that you are. You have survived
Speaker 1: one of the worst days of your life. I hope
Speaker 1: you realize that you can't fail if you don't quit,
Speaker 1: and if you can look up, you can get up.
Speaker 1: Believe in yourself, protect yourself, don't stress yourself out because
Speaker 1: if it doesn't serve you, and then it doesn't deserve you.
Speaker 1: If you need any more information or resources, I want
Speaker 1: to open up my email address once again for you
Speaker 1: to send an email to me and contact me Vitamin
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Speaker 1: I'm in the business of making dreams come true and
Speaker 1: I damn show ain't gonna forget about mine. So until
Speaker 1: next time, family, I'll see you on Thursday. Remember you
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