WEBVTT - Positively Gam: Wendy Ida - Mind, Body, and Soul 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.840 A lot of people come to me for just the physical, 0:00:03.760 --> 0:00:06.120 but we go through the whole thing. We start with 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:11.080 mindset and we delve into that because if the mind 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:15.280 ain't right, the body ain't list Okay, okay, say that again. 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:20.320 If the wine ain't right, the body ain't list yet, 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:24.400 and you may be able to do it and push 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:26.720 it and suffer with it. And that's what I call 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:29.720 it suffering, because that's what people are feeling when they're 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:37.200 trying to push something that they haven't developed. What's up, everybody, 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:41.680 I'm Gammy and this is positively gam In this episode, 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:45.239 we're going to be discussing how to live fit and fabulous, 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:49.600 and fitness is something that I get really really excited about, 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:53.080 so I'm so glad that we have joining me on 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:58.480 this podcast Wendy Ida. Wendy is an author, a life 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:02.960 transformation coach, and fitness expert. She is an eight time 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:06.560 award winning national fitness Champion and let me tell you, 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:10.600 if you could see her, you would understand. At sixty 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:14.280 eight years old, she is truly living her fabulousness and 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:17.040 here today to tell us how we all can be 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:22.440 fabulous as well. Welcome Wendy. Thanks garing me I am here. 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:26.080 I'm telling you, I am excited to have you because, 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.119 like I was telling you before we actually got started, 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:33.360 I love working out, but I'm getting ready to turn 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:38.120 sixty seven and I am really struggling. I am struggling 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:41.679 with my workout. I'm having a lot of health issues 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:44.440 or injuries, I should say. So. I'm just really glad 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.600 to talk to you today, Wendy. But let's back up 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.400 for a little bit. How did you come up with 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:54.600 the phrase take back your Fabulousness? Well, I came up 0:01:54.640 --> 0:02:00.600 with it first because it was too in capsule. Everything 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:06.200 a woman is wants to be, should be, and and 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:10.400 everything that they deserve. And take back your fabulous is 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:15.680 really about developing courage. It's an inside out approach. So 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:20.680 I start with courage, confidence, a purpose, and a swagger 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:25.360 that nobody can shake up or shake out of you. 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:31.040 That will also help you fought life's possibilities without fear 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:35.560 of judgment and helps you'se kind of sachet through life 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:40.000 and through life's challenges. And that's kind of how I 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:44.280 put it together. Because some people think it's just about 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:48.960 the external, is not. It starts from inside out. Yeah, 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:51.600 that is so true, Wendy, so true. And I am 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:56.800 someone who has suffered and still suffers a lot from 0:02:57.040 --> 0:03:02.760 low self esteem. So working for me was really really 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:06.280 important in my journey as well. What in your own 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.720 personal journey has made you want to get into fitness 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:13.519 and wellness, because I think our stories are a little similar. 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:19.880 So yeah, I knew nothing about fitness until the age 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:23.079 of I started getting into it about forty three years old. 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:30.240 But I started out with the old attitude of until 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.919 that time that the way you were born and how 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.360 your parents were and all that is how you're going 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:40.960 to be, as if I had no control. But part 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:44.800 of my thinking in that also is I got married 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:49.400 early in my twenties, actually nineteen twenties something like that, 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:53.880 and I married into an abusive relationship and I was 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:57.960 actually being abused before the marriage and felt forced, but 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:03.120 didn't think I had any options. So I did what 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:07.080 I thought I had to do with force, and that 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:13.280 my marriage lasted for thirteen years. It was abusive mentally, physically, emotionally, 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:18.960 and sexually. I many times didn't believe I was going 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:24.320 to reach past the age of forty three, and many 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:27.000 times I thought I was not going to make it. 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:32.119 But it was a really really tough time in my life. 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:37.839 I gained weight, I had two babies. I was emotionally 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:42.240 out of control, and I felt very trapped. And then 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:47.600 one day I had the nerve. I felt like I 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:51.160 had to go, really go for the third time. I 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:54.840 left twice. On the third time, I saw my children 0:04:55.520 --> 0:05:00.520 being affected. And the straw that broke the camp was back. 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:03.880 Was the day we were on our way to church, 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:09.440 my husband, im my two kids. He was smoking dope, 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:14.719 drinking alcohol, and my babies were crying as they normally did, 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:19.279 and they cried out, you know, mommy help, and and 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.480 I'm there and and I couldn't help. Uh so I 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:27.920 felt helpless. It was. It was awful. But the straw 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:31.839 that really broke back, because that was a continual thing 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:36.680 that happened, hit the critical going to church. But on 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:40.920 this day, the babies cried louder, and I got the 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:44.560 nerve to say, please, please stop for the sake of 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:49.640 the children. And he looked at me and called me 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.080 all kinds of names and said I couldn't do anything 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:55.320 about it. And I realized I couldn't really at that time. 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.640 But then he said, I am going to teach my 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:07.120 kids everything. I know, smoke, drink everything, and you can't 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.760 do anything about it. And at that moment, he handed 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:11.960 my five year old son a swing of his beer, 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:19.640 and my heart sank and my life went up and smoked. 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:25.159 And more importantly, I got this vision gamming, and this 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:29.839 vision showed me by children's future, and it showed that 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:34.279 their life was worse than mine. And and the biggest 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:36.960 thing about it, I can get goose bumps right now. This. 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.000 I never get over this even when I talked about it. 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.440 But the biggest thing in that vision was my children's 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:48.520 lives were worse than mine. But most importantly in that vision, 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:52.520 it showed me I felt the pain of me being 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:55.599 responsible for that. And I also felt the pain of 0:06:56.680 --> 0:07:00.440 I couldn't live with that, and that by my ended 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:05.560 because of the guilt, and with that, I was on 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:08.560 my way to planning to get out of there. Did 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:11.880 anybody know that you were going through this? Did anybody 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:15.200 know that you and your children were suffering? Any of 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:18.240 your family members are friends, and you shared any of 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:22.640 this with anyone? It's funny you should ask that or 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:26.720 his family. Let's not forget about his family. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:31.720 that's a big thing, because you know, people don't realize. 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:40.160 People don't realize what makes people stay. I was young 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:48.480 and impressionable and wanted to be a good wife, but 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:53.280 most importantly my mom. She passed away early around the 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:58.240 same time. I didn't feel like I had anybody I 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:02.600 could go to. His family. However, I did know about 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.320 it very well. They didn't know about it. And the 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:12.240 worst thing about all of it is his mother. And 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.960 this was a lot of my resentment for many years. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:18.960 But his mother told me that I had to stick 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:23.360 with it. That was the only adult impression I had 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:27.080 at the moment. He and his family, everybody knew and 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.160 his mom. Mom sat me down and said, it's up 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:35.880 to the woman two be able to keep this together. 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:39.840 Doesn't matter what the man does, it's your thing. I 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:45.320 wonder if she had suffered abuse herself, so you mayby 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:48.199 right on track, because that's what I was going to 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:53.640 follow up with. So, yes, that's what was in their family, 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:57.559 liner rational curses what I call it. It was in 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:03.360 my family too. So my dad wasn't home a lot. 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.640 He was a musician, so he was always on the road, 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:11.120 and I would see some fighting between mom and dad, 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.240 but mostly I just didn't have him there. I was 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:18.040 that daddy's girl, always waiting in the window for him 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:22.160 and him not showing up. So I lived with that 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:25.000 for a lot of years. But I was trying to 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.199 be better than that and thought I was getting good 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:31.880 advice from his family. So I persevered and I stayed 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:35.960 with it and fraud and I almost got choked out 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:39.040 sometimes it was and the worst thing about he was 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:43.200 a police officer, so that's why I felt trapped in 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:47.480 in a small town where his friends would come to 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:51.600 bail him out, not me. So what about that day? 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:55.360 What when that day when you had that vision? You 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:59.080 made a decision and you made a plan, and how 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:03.520 were you able to execute? We get out? Wow? So 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:09.559 that was that was God sent that vision. I stayed 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:14.560 low because I was watched. So I actually had to escape. 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:17.640 I had ten minutes to get out, but I planned. 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:20.520 I bought a plane ticket for the three of us 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:24.080 for two days away. On the day that I escaped, 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:28.560 I had ten minutes and I just throw what I 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:30.439 had in the car. We went with just the clothes 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:33.560 on our backs. My kids were in disarray, they didn't 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.840 know what was happening, so it was very frantic. I 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:40.400 jumped in the car. We were riding away. Most times 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:43.880 I was kept there because he would hold onto one 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:47.120 of the kids. I knew I wouldn't go anywhere. So 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:52.120 on this day he almost took my son, but I said, 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.680 I'm right behind you. Off the church. We got away, 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:59.720 but my kids were crying so bad. I was trying 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:01.880 to get them some comfort. Gave my daughter her doll. 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:05.800 My son wanted the dog that was his comfort. That 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:10.200 couldn't happen. So two blocks away, I ran back to 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:13.240 get his drum, one of his drums, just trying to 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:18.200 do everything, be everything, but they were coming back for 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:21.480 me already. So here I am in a movie. I 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:26.960 felt like in a getaway car, dodging each corner, each light, 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:29.520 and everything getting away. I was just about to get 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:31.920 out of the car to get his drunk and I 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.199 had to jump, I had to take off. So it 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:37.160 was crazy because it's happened so many times that he 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:40.280 chased me in his car just to drag me away 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:43.000 from whatever I wanted to do. So this was another 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:50.160 one of those times. And somehow, Gammy, somehow, I got away. Yeah. 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:54.960 God went to a hotel, stay for two days and 0:11:55.000 --> 0:12:00.680 got a plane to California on that that Tuesday, and 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:06.640 only when I was up in the air did I exhale. Yeah, 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:13.559 otherwise I've been caught before and dragged back, So I 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:17.080 wasn't safe until I was up in the air. And 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:21.560 five years following that, I was still a victim in 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:24.800 my own mind because I was also threatened. That's why 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:29.160 I had to go that far from New Jersey to California, 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.600 because I was threatened that he was gonna come and 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.520 get me and take me back, and I believed it 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.400 because it's been done. How did you break out of 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:43.120 that thinking, out of that victimhood to get to your fabulousness? 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:46.120 What made you do it through? Because it sounds like 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:52.360 you got to physical fitness, yes, you know, fit by fit, 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:55.960 my fit spirit, yes, yes, the kind of they all 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:59.679 kind of go together. And it's it's the reason why 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:03.440 I say that our our our journeys are similar because 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:07.360 I also married very young. I was in high school, 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:13.559 I had Jada, and my husband was abusive and he 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:18.319 was an addict. Wow, my story certainly is not as 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.000 filled with trauma as yours was, and not at all. 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:28.000 But from that I then had my own journey with addiction, 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:32.800 many years of addiction, all of Jada's childhood. And I 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:36.560 didn't get clean really probably until I was like about 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.920 thirty seven or so, I think when I first came 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:42.600 into the fellowship. I can't even remember, you go girl. Yeah, 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:46.160 So I was about in my forties to my mid 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:48.720 forties when I when I started working out, and I 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.600 remember I used to keep a picture of Hanna Jackson 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:57.920 on my refrigerator because my ab were to die for remember. Yes. So, 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:02.560 as I was cleaning myself up as part of my 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:07.840 journey and recovery, I decided that I wanted to really 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:11.760 get physically fit as well. And it was also a 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:15.280 way for me too because it almost it didn't become 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:19.920 an addiction, but I was pretty obsessed with working out. 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:23.720 I really became a gym rat. But it was a combination. 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:28.120 I stop smoking and I stop musing at the same time, 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:32.480 you know. So it was a spiritual and mind, body 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:37.240 and spiritual journey for me to get clean and just 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.320 get myself together and create a new life for myself. 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.480 Was there someone who led you to the church to 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.960 get you well, we're headed app No. I went into 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:51.640 a twelve step program. Oh, but I have to say 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.720 that through the twelve step program that actually led me 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:59.200 or helped me find a god of my understanding, which 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:06.040 I did not have before. Yeah. Yeah, So for me, 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:13.080 in terms of getting away from the victim mentality, at first, 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:14.880 I would just walk close to buildings. I was a 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:17.000 scared little rat because I knew a van was going 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:20.120 to come up any day swoop me in to take 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:22.240 me back, and I felt that that was my last 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:27.760 chance to get away. Probably after about five years, I 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:32.400 started lightning up a little bit. But I also had 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:37.240 a little therapy. Can't do it yourself. I mean, I 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.920 was having nightmares every single night for so very long. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.000 Every now and again I get them, but it's so 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:46.000 much less and it might just take a little thing 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:52.320 to set it off. But and going and realizing that 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.960 it was not my fault. And I also realized that 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:00.720 his mother, who gave me the advice, I didn't know 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:04.640 any darn better. Oh absolutely absolutely, she was away give 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:08.240 me what you Yeah, so I had to get through that, 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:11.040 you know that, that was a real thing that I 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:16.160 had to get through, growing through the therapy, Realizing that 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:21.040 people are people and they don't know any better. Realizing 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.160 I had to come to terms with my mom's death 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:26.960 because I didn't feel like I was there for her 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.480 and didn't get all through that until after about twenty 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:36.160 years growing like that. Meeting this gentleman in the gym, 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:38.680 I was just going and thought, okay, I had to 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:43.040 live with I lost because I lost eighty pounds. So 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:46.160 at the time, so any minute, I want to stop 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:50.720 you right there? You lost eighty pounds. Was that weight 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.360 loss just due to like a depression or you went 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:57.600 on a diet? Like where did the weight loss come from? Yeah? 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:03.520 So at age forty three, when I really was turning around, 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:08.639 that was my turning point, and ironically that's when my 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:12.359 whole life, that's when I really started to live at 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:15.840 age ironically, that was the age where I didn't think 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:19.840 I was going to live to see So what was 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:23.280 the impetus for that? What that you said your life 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:28.200 changed at forty three? Yeah, So first with the therapy 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:33.560 meeting this gentleman, I had already gained this weight, and 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:36.720 the weight was partly from my two pregnancies. I had 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.600 pregnancies back to back. My kids will even months apart. 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:43.520 I was eating to make myself. I didn't have any 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:48.280 other way to gain to lose. At first, I thought 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:50.520 I had to live with it because my mom was overweight, 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:54.360 my auntie was. And I met this gentleman who said, 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.600 when do you could be better? It's just a friend, 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:03.320 and I started working with him and stuff starting to 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:06.760 change on my body that hadn't done anything before. So 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.720 he was a fitness person. He was Yeah, he was 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:13.600 a fitness professional, okay, And you met him and he 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:17.919 got him him he yeah, got it. He got me 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:20.880 into the gym and I was working at Fox at 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:24.760 this time. I was an accountant for twenty years. After 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:28.879 meeting him, and my body started doing things that I thought, 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:33.120 there's some secret to this stuff, you know, So right 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:38.639 away I started studying and seeing, hey, what's this magic? 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:44.760 What's going on? You know? My personality started changing. In short, 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:49.720 I changed to the real meat. When I went into 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:53.800 the office. I was conservative and that's not me. But 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:55.680 I did what I had to do to get the 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:57.639 promotions I had to get and do what I had 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:02.159 to do. So I patterned everything after this guy. I 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:05.720 went found out about everything about keeping your body fit 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:09.720 because it was something going on. And I just started 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:12.840 doing commercials because that's what he was doing. And I 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:15.800 was still working at Fox. But when I switched. I 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:21.080 felt myself come alive inside, and then I switched back 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.280 when I went to the office. So that was kind 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:27.120 of the turning point. But most of all, dammy, my 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:34.120 mind was clearing the clutter, being less afraid, more confident. 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:38.800 I was feeling good and I knew most of all 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:45.240 that I am in control. I knew that, and that 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:49.159 was empowering. Yeah, that was a real awakening for you. 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:51.520 I can hear it. That was a real awakening for you. 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:54.920 I remember feeling not quite as intense about it, but 0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:57.479 I do remember it because, like I said, I just 0:19:57.600 --> 0:20:01.159 really suffer from low self esteem and I wouldn't do 0:20:01.240 --> 0:20:05.719 anything anything by myself, you know what I mean. I 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:08.800 always wanted to do something with somebody, but this was 0:20:08.880 --> 0:20:11.679 something that I just that I wanted to do. I 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:14.760 didn't want to wait to find anybody. Is there a 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:17.400 girlfriend that wants to work out with me? None of that. 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:20.919 Like I knew, I needed to do this for myself, 0:20:21.400 --> 0:20:24.479 and I just went in. I joined. I'll never forgetting 0:20:24.480 --> 0:20:28.480 I joined Bally's Gym or Root forty, went in there. 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:31.679 I ended up getting myself a trainer, and I just 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:33.880 went for it. I just went for it and I've 0:20:33.920 --> 0:20:37.280 been working out in some form ever since, so my 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:41.399 journey has been long. You just had this epiphany that 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.760 let me do this because this is going well. It was, Yes, 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:50.399 it was really part of my recovery process. M you know, 0:20:51.119 --> 0:20:55.359 and so the change we know starts from inside, so 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:59.120 it's an inside out job. So I was working on 0:20:59.160 --> 0:21:01.880 my inside ready, but then I just felt like, Okay, 0:21:01.920 --> 0:21:04.679 I need to do some work on the outside too, 0:21:04.760 --> 0:21:07.440 because it was something that I had always wanted to do, 0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:09.560 but I didn't have time because I was too busy 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:14.080 getting I Okay, it's something you always wanted. I was 0:21:14.160 --> 0:21:17.879 always interested and being fit. I always liked the way 0:21:18.040 --> 0:21:22.440 a fit body looked. I felt very toned and strong. 0:21:22.680 --> 0:21:26.520 I always like that. I just never had time for it. 0:21:26.600 --> 0:21:30.719 But you had something special because there's a lot of 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:35.600 people today that like the tone fit body, but they 0:21:35.640 --> 0:21:40.640 can't exactly get there, so it's a difference and really 0:21:40.840 --> 0:21:43.399 going for it. I was different. It didn't even occur 0:21:43.520 --> 0:21:45.600 to me. I was so wrapped up in my life 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:48.320 that I didn't even think about it. I didn't even 0:21:48.359 --> 0:21:52.240 think it was possible until I went through these changes 0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:56.119 of meeting these people and started feeling and it just 0:21:56.240 --> 0:21:59.840 kind of grew on it, so I left completely my 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:04.800 twenty year corporate accounting career. That was that around forty three. 0:22:05.280 --> 0:22:08.800 Then at fifty seven I entered my first bodybuilding competition. 0:22:09.960 --> 0:22:13.959 Eight time national champion. Then at sixty, I went from 0:22:14.040 --> 0:22:17.280 McGuinness more a record because that was one of the 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:22.439 things on my bucket list that so it's amazing that 0:22:22.560 --> 0:22:27.080 was when I turned sixty and I'm still champ. Some 0:22:27.200 --> 0:22:30.239 people sometimes people when they were not since COVID, but 0:22:30.680 --> 0:22:32.719 they would try to go for a record and they 0:22:32.840 --> 0:22:42.159 see the record. Yeah, birpies, Oh so yeah, you're kidding. 0:22:44.560 --> 0:22:47.600 Everybody says that right for the audience that doesn't know, 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:54.000 a burpee is sort of a squat thrust back into 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:58.440 push up position, jumping back up and jumping in the 0:22:58.480 --> 0:23:01.960 air and just had it up and down and up, 0:23:02.200 --> 0:23:05.119 you know. So it's pretty cool. I had to do 0:23:05.320 --> 0:23:08.600 to set the record, I had to do at least 0:23:09.080 --> 0:23:12.080 thirty in a minute, and when I looked it up, 0:23:12.200 --> 0:23:14.960 the regular athlete that's what they told me. So the 0:23:15.000 --> 0:23:20.480 regular athlete does about fifteen in thirty seconds, So it 0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:23.199 made sense when they said they kind of doubled it. 0:23:23.320 --> 0:23:25.480 You gotta do thirty in a minute, and you did 0:23:25.520 --> 0:23:30.399 that at sixty sixty. Oh, I did thirty seven. Girl. 0:23:31.600 --> 0:23:34.960 You wanted to make sure. Yeah, I was on a 0:23:35.080 --> 0:23:38.359 roll when I could go and I'm focused and I'm 0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:42.080 going out for the win. I'm not playing around. And 0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:44.800 and the thing about it is you couldn't cheat because 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:47.320 you had to measure. They made sure to tell you 0:23:47.359 --> 0:23:49.600 had to come back when you squat, thrust it back, 0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:51.919 and to push your position you had to do a 0:23:51.960 --> 0:23:55.520 little jump, a funny jump you had jumped all the 0:23:55.520 --> 0:23:58.800 way back. Wow. So it was a certain amount of 0:23:58.920 --> 0:24:01.439 measurement I had to do to make sure I jumped 0:24:01.440 --> 0:24:03.520 back past the line. And if I didn't go past 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:06.280 the line, it didn't count. So I made every darn 0:24:06.359 --> 0:24:10.680 one count. I sucked up everything that wasn't the easier. 0:24:11.359 --> 0:24:14.120 Enterprised that you could have broke the record in their birthies. 0:24:15.440 --> 0:24:21.919 Oh my god, I wanted to do well the other one. 0:24:22.640 --> 0:24:25.800 But yeah, and so I still do that. And I 0:24:25.920 --> 0:24:28.840 was at sixty So I'm working on other things on 0:24:29.080 --> 0:24:33.679 my bucket list. But that's what kissed me, going, Yeah, 0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:39.600 I keep it moving. Ever since that day, I promised 0:24:39.600 --> 0:24:43.840 myself that I was gonna keep challenging. I didn't. Actually, 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:45.720 I don't know if it was even a promise. It 0:24:45.800 --> 0:24:49.160 was it was like every time I pushed the limit, 0:24:49.240 --> 0:24:52.600 I could push the limit more and it worked. So 0:24:52.920 --> 0:24:57.000 that told me that these human bodies are amazing and 0:24:57.160 --> 0:25:00.359 I love the challenge of them. And so you should 0:25:00.359 --> 0:25:03.040 have been. You mentioned in terms of you know, self 0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:07.560 esteem and all that I had been. Let's see this yesterday. 0:25:07.800 --> 0:25:12.800 I give it class every Thursday, and this week, ironically 0:25:13.040 --> 0:25:16.280 you said it this week. It's an eight week program, 0:25:16.440 --> 0:25:20.719 but this week we were talking about deserve level. Oh 0:25:21.480 --> 0:25:24.480 it's so good. It's wait a minute. You know women 0:25:24.720 --> 0:25:28.520 need that you've been bringing up. Raising your deserve level 0:25:28.760 --> 0:25:37.240 is what it was about. So that leads us into 0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:45.560 how you incorporate the inside work, the inside change. Yeah, yeah, 0:25:45.760 --> 0:25:48.680 and so training, how do you do that with your 0:25:48.720 --> 0:25:52.560 clients because most of your clients are forty and over, right, 0:25:52.640 --> 0:25:56.679 that's your specialty. Yes, yes, women over forty. Well, I'm 0:25:56.720 --> 0:25:59.560 talking about my baby bull girls. You know, we need 0:25:59.720 --> 0:26:03.119 cheer leaders to support them and to show us. And 0:26:03.160 --> 0:26:06.160 this isn't part of what I ap preached to them, 0:26:06.720 --> 0:26:13.520 but this is what it's about in terms of bringing 0:26:14.080 --> 0:26:17.480 yourself together. A lot of people come to me for 0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:21.120 just the physical, but we go through the whole thing. 0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:26.639 We start with mindset and we delve into that because 0:26:26.680 --> 0:26:30.639 if the mind ain't right, the body ain't list Okay, okay, 0:26:30.720 --> 0:26:35.560 let's say that again. If the mind ain't right, the 0:26:35.600 --> 0:26:40.800 body ain't listed, and you may be able to do 0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:43.520 it and push it and suffer with it. And that's 0:26:43.520 --> 0:26:45.840 what I call it suffering because that's what people are 0:26:45.840 --> 0:26:49.960 feeling when they're trying to push something that they haven't 0:26:50.000 --> 0:26:53.640 developed the habit in the right way to stick with it. 0:26:54.280 --> 0:26:56.320 They're pushing it for a short time and then they're 0:26:56.320 --> 0:26:59.280 gonna go back to what they always were doing. So 0:26:59.320 --> 0:27:03.720 it's really essential to get the mind in tune with 0:27:03.800 --> 0:27:07.760 the body and prepare it. And that's what we do. 0:27:07.880 --> 0:27:10.320 We start off with the mind. Then we do goal 0:27:10.440 --> 0:27:15.000