Speaker 1: A lot of people come to me for just the physical,
Speaker 1: but we go through the whole thing. We start with
Speaker 1: mindset and we delve into that because if the mind
Speaker 1: ain't right, the body ain't list Okay, okay, say that again.
Speaker 1: If the wine ain't right, the body ain't list yet,
Speaker 1: and you may be able to do it and push
Speaker 1: it and suffer with it. And that's what I call
Speaker 1: it suffering, because that's what people are feeling when they're
Speaker 1: trying to push something that they haven't developed. What's up, everybody,
Speaker 1: I'm Gammy and this is positively gam In this episode,
Speaker 1: we're going to be discussing how to live fit and fabulous,
Speaker 1: and fitness is something that I get really really excited about,
Speaker 1: so I'm so glad that we have joining me on
Speaker 1: this podcast Wendy Ida. Wendy is an author, a life
Speaker 1: transformation coach, and fitness expert. She is an eight time
Speaker 1: award winning national fitness Champion and let me tell you,
Speaker 1: if you could see her, you would understand. At sixty
Speaker 1: eight years old, she is truly living her fabulousness and
Speaker 1: here today to tell us how we all can be
Speaker 1: fabulous as well. Welcome Wendy. Thanks garing me I am here.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I am excited to have you because,
Speaker 1: like I was telling you before we actually got started,
Speaker 1: I love working out, but I'm getting ready to turn
Speaker 1: sixty seven and I am really struggling. I am struggling
Speaker 1: with my workout. I'm having a lot of health issues
Speaker 1: or injuries, I should say. So. I'm just really glad
Speaker 1: to talk to you today, Wendy. But let's back up
Speaker 1: for a little bit. How did you come up with
Speaker 1: the phrase take back your Fabulousness? Well, I came up
Speaker 1: with it first because it was too in capsule. Everything
Speaker 1: a woman is wants to be, should be, and and
Speaker 1: everything that they deserve. And take back your fabulous is
Speaker 1: really about developing courage. It's an inside out approach. So
Speaker 1: I start with courage, confidence, a purpose, and a swagger
Speaker 1: that nobody can shake up or shake out of you.
Speaker 1: That will also help you fought life's possibilities without fear
Speaker 1: of judgment and helps you'se kind of sachet through life
Speaker 1: and through life's challenges. And that's kind of how I
Speaker 1: put it together. Because some people think it's just about
Speaker 1: the external, is not. It starts from inside out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is so true, Wendy, so true. And I am
Speaker 1: someone who has suffered and still suffers a lot from
Speaker 1: low self esteem. So working for me was really really
Speaker 1: important in my journey as well. What in your own
Speaker 1: personal journey has made you want to get into fitness
Speaker 1: and wellness, because I think our stories are a little similar.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I knew nothing about fitness until the age
Speaker 1: of I started getting into it about forty three years old.
Speaker 1: But I started out with the old attitude of until
Speaker 1: that time that the way you were born and how
Speaker 1: your parents were and all that is how you're going
Speaker 1: to be, as if I had no control. But part
Speaker 1: of my thinking in that also is I got married
Speaker 1: early in my twenties, actually nineteen twenties something like that,
Speaker 1: and I married into an abusive relationship and I was
Speaker 1: actually being abused before the marriage and felt forced, but
Speaker 1: didn't think I had any options. So I did what
Speaker 1: I thought I had to do with force, and that
Speaker 1: my marriage lasted for thirteen years. It was abusive mentally, physically, emotionally,
Speaker 1: and sexually. I many times didn't believe I was going
Speaker 1: to reach past the age of forty three, and many
Speaker 1: times I thought I was not going to make it.
Speaker 1: But it was a really really tough time in my life.
Speaker 1: I gained weight, I had two babies. I was emotionally
Speaker 1: out of control, and I felt very trapped. And then
Speaker 1: one day I had the nerve. I felt like I
Speaker 1: had to go, really go for the third time. I
Speaker 1: left twice. On the third time, I saw my children
Speaker 1: being affected. And the straw that broke the camp was back.
Speaker 1: Was the day we were on our way to church,
Speaker 1: my husband, im my two kids. He was smoking dope,
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol, and my babies were crying as they normally did,
Speaker 1: and they cried out, you know, mommy help, and and
Speaker 1: I'm there and and I couldn't help. Uh so I
Speaker 1: felt helpless. It was. It was awful. But the straw
Speaker 1: that really broke back, because that was a continual thing
Speaker 1: that happened, hit the critical going to church. But on
Speaker 1: this day, the babies cried louder, and I got the
Speaker 1: nerve to say, please, please stop for the sake of
Speaker 1: the children. And he looked at me and called me
Speaker 1: all kinds of names and said I couldn't do anything
Speaker 1: about it. And I realized I couldn't really at that time.
Speaker 1: But then he said, I am going to teach my
Speaker 1: kids everything. I know, smoke, drink everything, and you can't
Speaker 1: do anything about it. And at that moment, he handed
Speaker 1: my five year old son a swing of his beer,
Speaker 1: and my heart sank and my life went up and smoked.
Speaker 1: And more importantly, I got this vision gamming, and this
Speaker 1: vision showed me by children's future, and it showed that
Speaker 1: their life was worse than mine. And and the biggest
Speaker 1: thing about it, I can get goose bumps right now. This.
Speaker 1: I never get over this even when I talked about it.
Speaker 1: But the biggest thing in that vision was my children's
Speaker 1: lives were worse than mine. But most importantly in that vision,
Speaker 1: it showed me I felt the pain of me being
Speaker 1: responsible for that. And I also felt the pain of
Speaker 1: I couldn't live with that, and that by my ended
Speaker 1: because of the guilt, and with that, I was on
Speaker 1: my way to planning to get out of there. Did
Speaker 1: anybody know that you were going through this? Did anybody
Speaker 1: know that you and your children were suffering? Any of
Speaker 1: your family members are friends, and you shared any of
Speaker 1: this with anyone? It's funny you should ask that or
Speaker 1: his family. Let's not forget about his family. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a big thing, because you know, people don't realize.
Speaker 1: People don't realize what makes people stay. I was young
Speaker 1: and impressionable and wanted to be a good wife, but
Speaker 1: most importantly my mom. She passed away early around the
Speaker 1: same time. I didn't feel like I had anybody I
Speaker 1: could go to. His family. However, I did know about
Speaker 1: it very well. They didn't know about it. And the
Speaker 1: worst thing about all of it is his mother. And
Speaker 1: this was a lot of my resentment for many years.
Speaker 1: But his mother told me that I had to stick
Speaker 1: with it. That was the only adult impression I had
Speaker 1: at the moment. He and his family, everybody knew and
Speaker 1: his mom. Mom sat me down and said, it's up
Speaker 1: to the woman two be able to keep this together.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter what the man does, it's your thing. I
Speaker 1: wonder if she had suffered abuse herself, so you mayby
Speaker 1: right on track, because that's what I was going to
Speaker 1: follow up with. So, yes, that's what was in their family,
Speaker 1: liner rational curses what I call it. It was in
Speaker 1: my family too. So my dad wasn't home a lot.
Speaker 1: He was a musician, so he was always on the road,
Speaker 1: and I would see some fighting between mom and dad,
Speaker 1: but mostly I just didn't have him there. I was
Speaker 1: that daddy's girl, always waiting in the window for him
Speaker 1: and him not showing up. So I lived with that
Speaker 1: for a lot of years. But I was trying to
Speaker 1: be better than that and thought I was getting good
Speaker 1: advice from his family. So I persevered and I stayed
Speaker 1: with it and fraud and I almost got choked out
Speaker 1: sometimes it was and the worst thing about he was
Speaker 1: a police officer, so that's why I felt trapped in
Speaker 1: in a small town where his friends would come to
Speaker 1: bail him out, not me. So what about that day?
Speaker 1: What when that day when you had that vision? You
Speaker 1: made a decision and you made a plan, and how
Speaker 1: were you able to execute? We get out? Wow? So
Speaker 1: that was that was God sent that vision. I stayed
Speaker 1: low because I was watched. So I actually had to escape.
Speaker 1: I had ten minutes to get out, but I planned.
Speaker 1: I bought a plane ticket for the three of us
Speaker 1: for two days away. On the day that I escaped,
Speaker 1: I had ten minutes and I just throw what I
Speaker 1: had in the car. We went with just the clothes
Speaker 1: on our backs. My kids were in disarray, they didn't
Speaker 1: know what was happening, so it was very frantic. I
Speaker 1: jumped in the car. We were riding away. Most times
Speaker 1: I was kept there because he would hold onto one
Speaker 1: of the kids. I knew I wouldn't go anywhere. So
Speaker 1: on this day he almost took my son, but I said,
Speaker 1: I'm right behind you. Off the church. We got away,
Speaker 1: but my kids were crying so bad. I was trying
Speaker 1: to get them some comfort. Gave my daughter her doll.
Speaker 1: My son wanted the dog that was his comfort. That
Speaker 1: couldn't happen. So two blocks away, I ran back to
Speaker 1: get his drum, one of his drums, just trying to
Speaker 1: do everything, be everything, but they were coming back for
Speaker 1: me already. So here I am in a movie. I
Speaker 1: felt like in a getaway car, dodging each corner, each light,
Speaker 1: and everything getting away. I was just about to get
Speaker 1: out of the car to get his drunk and I
Speaker 1: had to jump, I had to take off. So it
Speaker 1: was crazy because it's happened so many times that he
Speaker 1: chased me in his car just to drag me away
Speaker 1: from whatever I wanted to do. So this was another
Speaker 1: one of those times. And somehow, Gammy, somehow, I got away. Yeah.
Speaker 1: God went to a hotel, stay for two days and
Speaker 1: got a plane to California on that that Tuesday, and
Speaker 1: only when I was up in the air did I exhale. Yeah,
Speaker 1: otherwise I've been caught before and dragged back, So I
Speaker 1: wasn't safe until I was up in the air. And
Speaker 1: five years following that, I was still a victim in
Speaker 1: my own mind because I was also threatened. That's why
Speaker 1: I had to go that far from New Jersey to California,
Speaker 1: because I was threatened that he was gonna come and
Speaker 1: get me and take me back, and I believed it
Speaker 1: because it's been done. How did you break out of
Speaker 1: that thinking, out of that victimhood to get to your fabulousness?
Speaker 1: What made you do it through? Because it sounds like
Speaker 1: you got to physical fitness, yes, you know, fit by fit,
Speaker 1: my fit spirit, yes, yes, the kind of they all
Speaker 1: kind of go together. And it's it's the reason why
Speaker 1: I say that our our our journeys are similar because
Speaker 1: I also married very young. I was in high school,
Speaker 1: I had Jada, and my husband was abusive and he
Speaker 1: was an addict. Wow, my story certainly is not as
Speaker 1: filled with trauma as yours was, and not at all.
Speaker 1: But from that I then had my own journey with addiction,
Speaker 1: many years of addiction, all of Jada's childhood. And I
Speaker 1: didn't get clean really probably until I was like about
Speaker 1: thirty seven or so, I think when I first came
Speaker 1: into the fellowship. I can't even remember, you go girl. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I was about in my forties to my mid
Speaker 1: forties when I when I started working out, and I
Speaker 1: remember I used to keep a picture of Hanna Jackson
Speaker 1: on my refrigerator because my ab were to die for remember. Yes. So,
Speaker 1: as I was cleaning myself up as part of my
Speaker 1: journey and recovery, I decided that I wanted to really
Speaker 1: get physically fit as well. And it was also a
Speaker 1: way for me too because it almost it didn't become
Speaker 1: an addiction, but I was pretty obsessed with working out.
Speaker 1: I really became a gym rat. But it was a combination.
Speaker 1: I stop smoking and I stop musing at the same time,
Speaker 1: you know. So it was a spiritual and mind, body
Speaker 1: and spiritual journey for me to get clean and just
Speaker 1: get myself together and create a new life for myself.
Speaker 1: Was there someone who led you to the church to
Speaker 1: get you well, we're headed app No. I went into
Speaker 1: a twelve step program. Oh, but I have to say
Speaker 1: that through the twelve step program that actually led me
Speaker 1: or helped me find a god of my understanding, which
Speaker 1: I did not have before. Yeah. Yeah, So for me,
Speaker 1: in terms of getting away from the victim mentality, at first,
Speaker 1: I would just walk close to buildings. I was a
Speaker 1: scared little rat because I knew a van was going
Speaker 1: to come up any day swoop me in to take
Speaker 1: me back, and I felt that that was my last
Speaker 1: chance to get away. Probably after about five years, I
Speaker 1: started lightning up a little bit. But I also had
Speaker 1: a little therapy. Can't do it yourself. I mean, I
Speaker 1: was having nightmares every single night for so very long.
Speaker 1: Every now and again I get them, but it's so
Speaker 1: much less and it might just take a little thing
Speaker 1: to set it off. But and going and realizing that
Speaker 1: it was not my fault. And I also realized that
Speaker 1: his mother, who gave me the advice, I didn't know
Speaker 1: any darn better. Oh absolutely absolutely, she was away give
Speaker 1: me what you Yeah, so I had to get through that,
Speaker 1: you know that, that was a real thing that I
Speaker 1: had to get through, growing through the therapy, Realizing that
Speaker 1: people are people and they don't know any better. Realizing
Speaker 1: I had to come to terms with my mom's death
Speaker 1: because I didn't feel like I was there for her
Speaker 1: and didn't get all through that until after about twenty
Speaker 1: years growing like that. Meeting this gentleman in the gym,
Speaker 1: I was just going and thought, okay, I had to
Speaker 1: live with I lost because I lost eighty pounds. So
Speaker 1: at the time, so any minute, I want to stop
Speaker 1: you right there? You lost eighty pounds. Was that weight
Speaker 1: loss just due to like a depression or you went
Speaker 1: on a diet? Like where did the weight loss come from? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So at age forty three, when I really was turning around,
Speaker 1: that was my turning point, and ironically that's when my
Speaker 1: whole life, that's when I really started to live at
Speaker 1: age ironically, that was the age where I didn't think
Speaker 1: I was going to live to see So what was
Speaker 1: the impetus for that? What that you said your life
Speaker 1: changed at forty three? Yeah, So first with the therapy
Speaker 1: meeting this gentleman, I had already gained this weight, and
Speaker 1: the weight was partly from my two pregnancies. I had
Speaker 1: pregnancies back to back. My kids will even months apart.
Speaker 1: I was eating to make myself. I didn't have any
Speaker 1: other way to gain to lose. At first, I thought
Speaker 1: I had to live with it because my mom was overweight,
Speaker 1: my auntie was. And I met this gentleman who said,
Speaker 1: when do you could be better? It's just a friend,
Speaker 1: and I started working with him and stuff starting to
Speaker 1: change on my body that hadn't done anything before. So
Speaker 1: he was a fitness person. He was Yeah, he was
Speaker 1: a fitness professional, okay, And you met him and he
Speaker 1: got him him he yeah, got it. He got me
Speaker 1: into the gym and I was working at Fox at
Speaker 1: this time. I was an accountant for twenty years. After
Speaker 1: meeting him, and my body started doing things that I thought,
Speaker 1: there's some secret to this stuff, you know, So right
Speaker 1: away I started studying and seeing, hey, what's this magic?
Speaker 1: What's going on? You know? My personality started changing. In short,
Speaker 1: I changed to the real meat. When I went into
Speaker 1: the office. I was conservative and that's not me. But
Speaker 1: I did what I had to do to get the
Speaker 1: promotions I had to get and do what I had
Speaker 1: to do. So I patterned everything after this guy. I
Speaker 1: went found out about everything about keeping your body fit
Speaker 1: because it was something going on. And I just started
Speaker 1: doing commercials because that's what he was doing. And I
Speaker 1: was still working at Fox. But when I switched. I
Speaker 1: felt myself come alive inside, and then I switched back
Speaker 1: when I went to the office. So that was kind
Speaker 1: of the turning point. But most of all, dammy, my
Speaker 1: mind was clearing the clutter, being less afraid, more confident.
Speaker 1: I was feeling good and I knew most of all
Speaker 1: that I am in control. I knew that, and that
Speaker 1: was empowering. Yeah, that was a real awakening for you.
Speaker 1: I can hear it. That was a real awakening for you.
Speaker 1: I remember feeling not quite as intense about it, but
Speaker 1: I do remember it because, like I said, I just
Speaker 1: really suffer from low self esteem and I wouldn't do
Speaker 1: anything anything by myself, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: always wanted to do something with somebody, but this was
Speaker 1: something that I just that I wanted to do. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to wait to find anybody. Is there a
Speaker 1: girlfriend that wants to work out with me? None of that.
Speaker 1: Like I knew, I needed to do this for myself,
Speaker 1: and I just went in. I joined. I'll never forgetting
Speaker 1: I joined Bally's Gym or Root forty, went in there.
Speaker 1: I ended up getting myself a trainer, and I just
Speaker 1: went for it. I just went for it and I've
Speaker 1: been working out in some form ever since, so my
Speaker 1: journey has been long. You just had this epiphany that
Speaker 1: let me do this because this is going well. It was, Yes,
Speaker 1: it was really part of my recovery process. M you know,
Speaker 1: and so the change we know starts from inside, so
Speaker 1: it's an inside out job. So I was working on
Speaker 1: my inside ready, but then I just felt like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I need to do some work on the outside too,
Speaker 1: because it was something that I had always wanted to do,
Speaker 1: but I didn't have time because I was too busy
Speaker 1: getting I Okay, it's something you always wanted. I was
Speaker 1: always interested and being fit. I always liked the way
Speaker 1: a fit body looked. I felt very toned and strong.
Speaker 1: I always like that. I just never had time for it.
Speaker 1: But you had something special because there's a lot of
Speaker 1: people today that like the tone fit body, but they
Speaker 1: can't exactly get there, so it's a difference and really
Speaker 1: going for it. I was different. It didn't even occur
Speaker 1: to me. I was so wrapped up in my life
Speaker 1: that I didn't even think about it. I didn't even
Speaker 1: think it was possible until I went through these changes
Speaker 1: of meeting these people and started feeling and it just
Speaker 1: kind of grew on it, so I left completely my
Speaker 1: twenty year corporate accounting career. That was that around forty three.
Speaker 1: Then at fifty seven I entered my first bodybuilding competition.
Speaker 1: Eight time national champion. Then at sixty, I went from
Speaker 1: McGuinness more a record because that was one of the
Speaker 1: things on my bucket list that so it's amazing that
Speaker 1: was when I turned sixty and I'm still champ. Some
Speaker 1: people sometimes people when they were not since COVID, but
Speaker 1: they would try to go for a record and they
Speaker 1: see the record. Yeah, birpies, Oh so yeah, you're kidding.
Speaker 1: Everybody says that right for the audience that doesn't know,
Speaker 1: a burpee is sort of a squat thrust back into
Speaker 1: push up position, jumping back up and jumping in the
Speaker 1: air and just had it up and down and up,
Speaker 1: you know. So it's pretty cool. I had to do
Speaker 1: to set the record, I had to do at least
Speaker 1: thirty in a minute, and when I looked it up,
Speaker 1: the regular athlete that's what they told me. So the
Speaker 1: regular athlete does about fifteen in thirty seconds, So it
Speaker 1: made sense when they said they kind of doubled it.
Speaker 1: You gotta do thirty in a minute, and you did
Speaker 1: that at sixty sixty. Oh, I did thirty seven. Girl.
Speaker 1: You wanted to make sure. Yeah, I was on a
Speaker 1: roll when I could go and I'm focused and I'm
Speaker 1: going out for the win. I'm not playing around. And
Speaker 1: and the thing about it is you couldn't cheat because
Speaker 1: you had to measure. They made sure to tell you
Speaker 1: had to come back when you squat, thrust it back,
Speaker 1: and to push your position you had to do a
Speaker 1: little jump, a funny jump you had jumped all the
Speaker 1: way back. Wow. So it was a certain amount of
Speaker 1: measurement I had to do to make sure I jumped
Speaker 1: back past the line. And if I didn't go past
Speaker 1: the line, it didn't count. So I made every darn
Speaker 1: one count. I sucked up everything that wasn't the easier.
Speaker 1: Enterprised that you could have broke the record in their birthies.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I wanted to do well the other one.
Speaker 1: But yeah, and so I still do that. And I
Speaker 1: was at sixty So I'm working on other things on
Speaker 1: my bucket list. But that's what kissed me, going, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I keep it moving. Ever since that day, I promised
Speaker 1: myself that I was gonna keep challenging. I didn't. Actually,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was even a promise. It
Speaker 1: was it was like every time I pushed the limit,
Speaker 1: I could push the limit more and it worked. So
Speaker 1: that told me that these human bodies are amazing and
Speaker 1: I love the challenge of them. And so you should
Speaker 1: have been. You mentioned in terms of you know, self
Speaker 1: esteem and all that I had been. Let's see this yesterday.
Speaker 1: I give it class every Thursday, and this week, ironically
Speaker 1: you said it this week. It's an eight week program,
Speaker 1: but this week we were talking about deserve level. Oh
Speaker 1: it's so good. It's wait a minute. You know women
Speaker 1: need that you've been bringing up. Raising your deserve level
Speaker 1: is what it was about. So that leads us into
Speaker 1: how you incorporate the inside work, the inside change. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and so training, how do you do that with your
Speaker 1: clients because most of your clients are forty and over, right,
Speaker 1: that's your specialty. Yes, yes, women over forty. Well, I'm
Speaker 1: talking about my baby bull girls. You know, we need
Speaker 1: cheer leaders to support them and to show us. And
Speaker 1: this isn't part of what I ap preached to them,
Speaker 1: but this is what it's about in terms of bringing
Speaker 1: yourself together. A lot of people come to me for
Speaker 1: just the physical, but we go through the whole thing.
Speaker 1: We start with mindset and we delve into that because
Speaker 1: if the mind ain't right, the body ain't list Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: let's say that again. If the mind ain't right, the
Speaker 1: body ain't listed, and you may be able to do
Speaker 1: it and push it and suffer with it. And that's
Speaker 1: what I call it suffering because that's what people are
Speaker 1: feeling when they're trying to push something that they haven't
Speaker 1: developed the habit in the right way to stick with it.
Speaker 1: They're pushing it for a short time and then they're
Speaker 1: gonna go back to what they always were doing. So
Speaker 1: it's really essential to get the mind in tune with
Speaker 1: the body and prepare it. And that's what we do.
Speaker 1: We start off with the mind. Then we do goal
Speaker 1: setting planning to see how that goes. We start to
Speaker 1: work into core work. Why because once again, core is
Speaker 1: the center of you're being. You can't hit a baseball,
Speaker 1: play golf, any you can't do anything, and those are
Speaker 1: just the arms or the legs. But we have a
Speaker 1: strong core. It gives you more power. And I've proven
Speaker 1: it over and over again. These guys that I've worked
Speaker 1: with in the gym O MG. You know a lot
Speaker 1: of times you see the guys going right and there
Speaker 1: there whole body right. Okay. So I love guys like
Speaker 1: that because I get a handle on them and I
Speaker 1: start to test their core and they're all over the place.
Speaker 1: Once I get their core up to snuff, oh my goodness,
Speaker 1: that you can lift more, you can hit more. I've
Speaker 1: worked with doctors. Remember the six year old sixties something
Speaker 1: year old, and he was upset why his golf game
Speaker 1: was off. And I tested him and did an assessment
Speaker 1: and I said, your core is off. And when I
Speaker 1: work with him, he was so used to being old
Speaker 1: school like. He didn't want to do the core work.
Speaker 1: He thought he had to go back to the old
Speaker 1: school with and I would have to give him a
Speaker 1: little bit of what he wanted. But then I give
Speaker 1: him what he needed and all of a sudden, the
Speaker 1: core in the stability start. He was amazed. Then he
Speaker 1: got a ward with me. He understood, sometimes that's what
Speaker 1: you gotta do to bang me Bomas. You know, we
Speaker 1: want to stick to those old ways, but each time
Speaker 1: everything else you do is so much better and it's
Speaker 1: healthier and you go through the ages much better. Meaning
Speaker 1: when you're getting all up in age and you're not
Speaker 1: testing new core, you're gonna be bad posture, everything is
Speaker 1: going to go down. So it's my pleasure to be
Speaker 1: able to put a new light in their head to
Speaker 1: make them understand and be better. But after that we
Speaker 1: get to working and talking about eating and then the deserve. Yeah, wait,
Speaker 1: before we get into eating, what happens to the body
Speaker 1: as you start to age, what's happening inside, what's happening
Speaker 1: to our muscles and our joints and yeah, so so
Speaker 1: you can be better, but you just gotta do it
Speaker 1: differently because our bodies are changing and it goes through cycles, Gammy,
Speaker 1: and people don't realize that we're stuck in our heads
Speaker 1: of what I used to do when I was twenty
Speaker 1: and in our minds where there our bodies are saying.
Speaker 1: I think that's what's happening with me right now. One
Speaker 1: day my mind is still back when I was, you know, fifty,
Speaker 1: but I'm getting ready to turn sixty seven and and
Speaker 1: it's just not working anymore. So continue yeah. So, so
Speaker 1: so you go through these cycles. One of the things
Speaker 1: that happens is are the fluids, the hormonal fluids and
Speaker 1: everything that we get. That's changing. Some we're getting more of,
Speaker 1: some we're getting less of. Inflammation is a part of aging,
Speaker 1: so as we age, we definitely have to zero into
Speaker 1: that much more. Some of the foods we have are
Speaker 1: contributory to inflammation. And we have inflammation, you're gonna have pain,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna be these little other things. I have
Speaker 1: a five step list of things that you can do
Speaker 1: to stay young, but people ask me that all the
Speaker 1: time on social media. On my YouTube channel, they've gone
Speaker 1: crazy because I put so many more videos out. But
Speaker 1: in terms of keeping your youth up, One, you gotta
Speaker 1: ban the sugar. Okay, go yes, ban the sugar. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you, it ages you faster than anything. I've
Speaker 1: seen people get gray hair, quicker and all that. Number Two,
Speaker 1: you've got to reduce the stress. Again. The stress is
Speaker 1: going to age you. It's gonna put gray hair in you,
Speaker 1: it's gonna cause your heartbeat to race and everything. I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I've had this happened to people, and some of them
Speaker 1: to myself when I was going through a thing. All right,
Speaker 1: So my clients, they've all experienced this, and we had
Speaker 1: to change it. The other thing is you got to
Speaker 1: increase the strength. You know why, because your muscles are
Speaker 1: going to atrophy and when you're getting older, that's why
Speaker 1: some people fall, or they're knocking the stuff and you're
Speaker 1: breaking their bones. All kinds of stuff is happening, and
Speaker 1: it's not a good look just because you don't have
Speaker 1: to be overweight, but just because you think you are small,
Speaker 1: that you're better you are. I've had so many people
Speaker 1: whisper in my ears saying, what about us, the skinny
Speaker 1: fat you know. I had a lady called me from
Speaker 1: Malaysia because some of my clients are in other countries.
Speaker 1: So this lady called me from Malaysia and she wanted
Speaker 1: to do a whole thing for the Malaysian women because
Speaker 1: she said, what's in their mindset there is that they're
Speaker 1: all small, but they just know to eat less, but
Speaker 1: they don't know anything about weights, so just eating less
Speaker 1: is not doing the trick. And and and she said
Speaker 1: they are sick and those are skinny fat people, so
Speaker 1: she wanted them to be well. I was in this
Speaker 1: none little thing I did. I was in this competition.
Speaker 1: You you had to be sixty two be in it.
Speaker 1: It was a Muty competition, so everybody was over sixty, sixty,
Speaker 1: seventy eighties in there. Even so, it was really fun
Speaker 1: and really great to see these women and do a talent.
Speaker 1: The talent is still alive and women over sixty, it's amazing.
Speaker 1: The thing I want to mention though, these women had
Speaker 1: their gowns on and they some of them were small
Speaker 1: and thin, but they look sick. And the one woman
Speaker 1: I talked to, she had this gown on showing her
Speaker 1: shoulders and they were like bones sticking up at him.
Speaker 1: And I saw it and I know what was happening
Speaker 1: that she wasn't doing any weight training and it looks sickly.
Speaker 1: And she brought it up, maybe because of her observation
Speaker 1: and comparing to me or or whatever caused her to
Speaker 1: bring conversation up. And she said, you know, my doctor said,
Speaker 1: you have no muscle in your shoulders. You need to
Speaker 1: do weights. You need muscle. Then that's a sign of aging, Gammy,
Speaker 1: when you see skin dropping and bones perking. On the contrary,
Speaker 1: when you got muscle, manness sex. So the number four
Speaker 1: was ad supplements. Why because I'm writing us down when
Speaker 1: he just said, you know, add supplements why. It's because
Speaker 1: of what I said before of when we're aging, we're
Speaker 1: getting less, and in fact, women and men the testosterone
Speaker 1: and the estrogen changes. Men start to get more estrogen,
Speaker 1: women start to bid uh yeah, yeah exactly, and women
Speaker 1: some women get a little bit more testosterone, not always,
Speaker 1: but women definitely get less. You know, that's just one thing,
Speaker 1: and then there's so many other fluids and different things
Speaker 1: that change. And let me just mention a lot of
Speaker 1: times when people age, they start to drink less water.
Speaker 1: And I haven't gotten behind the primary or looked at statistics,
Speaker 1: which I really mean to do, of why that happens.
Speaker 1: It doesn't. Would it have anything to do with just
Speaker 1: um being concerned about having to go to the bathroom
Speaker 1: all the time because that gets on my nerves. I
Speaker 1: have to admit that has been an issue for me.
Speaker 1: I know that I'm not drinking the amount of water
Speaker 1: that I used to drink, but because I'm constantly having
Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom and it's annoying, I got
Speaker 1: stuff to do. I can't be running to the bathroom
Speaker 1: every five minutes. No, but we need to drink more
Speaker 1: water because when you don't drink enough water, you start
Speaker 1: to get all these other ailments going on that you
Speaker 1: don't think it's related, but it is all right. So
Speaker 1: the last one, the last one is just fine. Purpose
Speaker 1: people lose the will to live, and not only just
Speaker 1: to live, but to thrive in living. I don't mean
Speaker 1: just to get by in living. But if you have
Speaker 1: a purpose, you're gonna live life with venom right because
Speaker 1: a lot of people are going through changes around that age.
Speaker 1: They may be uh, empty nesting or whatever, empty nesting.
Speaker 1: Other their friends are maybe passing away. You've got medical
Speaker 1: things that you haven't had before. You still emotionally upset
Speaker 1: of what happened when you're thirty. That's piling up on everything,
Speaker 1: and everything has come home to right. And again that's
Speaker 1: the reason why you have to incorporate your your spiritual
Speaker 1: well being as well as if physical, absolutely and you
Speaker 1: and your mental well being. Spiritual spiritual is a basic
Speaker 1: for me and that was one of the first things
Speaker 1: I had to find when I came to California. I
Speaker 1: felt so lost as a soul and I didn't know
Speaker 1: what to do with myself. And without that, there's no
Speaker 1: grounding for about it. Got it, and it's hard to
Speaker 1: work with somebody who has no grounding at all. I've
Speaker 1: worked with two people in my career. It's been about
Speaker 1: twenty five years, and I worked with two people that
Speaker 1: we're agnostic or atheists or something, and they had no grounding.
Speaker 1: And this person that I'm thinking about had just she
Speaker 1: was in a mental institution at one time. She knew
Speaker 1: how to work out. She did that well, but people
Speaker 1: don't just come to me for the workout part. It
Speaker 1: was an emotional coaching thing with her and I got
Speaker 1: it and and that's what you needed. So I had
Speaker 1: to actually get her in the gym for her to
Speaker 1: pay attention and do some of the things that she
Speaker 1: needed to do. So the gym was sort of her grounding.
Speaker 1: But that was a creative thing I had to come
Speaker 1: up with. But everybody is different, but I had to
Speaker 1: find per thing. So talk to us a little bit
Speaker 1: about metabolism. I know that your metabolism slows down as
Speaker 1: you get older. Yes, so metabolism does slow down, and
Speaker 1: partly because your body is changing. You are less active
Speaker 1: a lot of times, and that alone, when you have
Speaker 1: less muscle and more body fat, is going to slow
Speaker 1: your metabolism down. So that's why I'm such a proponent
Speaker 1: of weight training no matter what your age one, because
Speaker 1: it's going to speed up your metabolism, it's going to
Speaker 1: burn body fat while you sleep, and it's gonna help
Speaker 1: you feel energetic and stronger. And when you don't have
Speaker 1: that now you feel it you don't have energy. And
Speaker 1: I get a lot of complaints from people about not
Speaker 1: having energy. How do I get energy, Wendy, Well, one
Speaker 1: of the ways is, first, you gotta find a purpose,
Speaker 1: find a goal, find the reason why you want to live.
Speaker 1: So you're talking about strength training, but how important is cardio.
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't do as much cardio as
Speaker 1: I used to. But I also know that this weight
Speaker 1: that I've gained lately has a lot to do with COVID.
Speaker 1: But I know that I'm not doing as much cardio.
Speaker 1: Like if I didn't do anything else, I would do
Speaker 1: cardio every day, every single day, and I'm not doing
Speaker 1: that anymore. I stopped that about probably about four years ago,
Speaker 1: maybe even longer. So Gammy, everything is balance, and we've
Speaker 1: got to find our own little personal balance right now.
Speaker 1: What I'm telling everyone in COVID times especially, you gotta
Speaker 1: get a structure to your day, and in that day,
Speaker 1: find something that gives you some joy. We gotta definitely
Speaker 1: find that besides reaching out to pe folk we know
Speaker 1: and love. But in terms of the balance, yes, cardio
Speaker 1: is very important. Why because even it's not necessarily to
Speaker 1: lose weight, but it's to keep you heart fit. So
Speaker 1: in order to do that, how much cardio do you
Speaker 1: think that someone over fifty um should be doing? Like
Speaker 1: everyone you're working, If you're going cardio every day or
Speaker 1: every other day, how long? For how long? Thirty minutes,
Speaker 1: sixty minutes? Okay, so let me just preface this with
Speaker 1: when anyone is getting started on all of this, besides
Speaker 1: checking their doctor is the first, right, but the other
Speaker 1: thing is after that, it's what is your goal? Is
Speaker 1: it to lose weight, is it to stay healthy or
Speaker 1: is it just partfit. That being said, the norm if
Speaker 1: you're just getting started, do whatever you can to get started,
Speaker 1: start with ted fifteen minutes or whatever you can, and
Speaker 1: then at least try to do thirty minutes. Thirty minutes
Speaker 1: is a good measure to go by, and if you
Speaker 1: want to again, it broils back down to your goal.
Speaker 1: If you want to get your heart more fit, or
Speaker 1: if you can do it now within that thirty minutes.
Speaker 1: You might want to put a little intensity into it.
Speaker 1: It just is up to you. I put my stretching
Speaker 1: in with my meditation, I combined. I might wake up
Speaker 1: in the morning and I do just a little light
Speaker 1: stress just to wake my body up. So I mix
Speaker 1: it up, and sometimes I'll go right into my meditation.
Speaker 1: Other times I just do a little stress because sometimes
Speaker 1: I get up and I'm feeling still. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: like right, So I just gotta just wake something up,
Speaker 1: and I might do some cardio for earth because that
Speaker 1: opens my oxygen up and I gets my blood breathing,
Speaker 1: and then I feel like I'm really open to the spirit, uh,
Speaker 1: to listen and find the silence within me, to find
Speaker 1: the answers that I need for that day, for that week,
Speaker 1: or that whatever I'm working on. And then the stretching
Speaker 1: comes within that. I just mix it up within that,
Speaker 1: and it seems to open up my body and open
Speaker 1: up my spirit in a different way. Okay, So that's
Speaker 1: on my list. That's on my list of things that
Speaker 1: I gotta work for my meditating and my my stretching,
Speaker 1: and to go back forth with it a lot, particularly medical. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was getting better with it, but then I find
Speaker 1: myself falling off again. So it's just one of the things.
Speaker 1: It's just one of my struggles. Yeah, everybody's got a
Speaker 1: different struggle. Here's the thing to make it easier on you,
Speaker 1: to make it feel like it's a part of your life,
Speaker 1: not something I gotta suffering, I gotta go do. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to feel that way. But if you say,
Speaker 1: give it a certain part of the day, like a
Speaker 1: certain time that fits with how your day is structured.
Speaker 1: For example, I have found out that first thing in
Speaker 1: the morning does not work for me for meditating. It
Speaker 1: just doesn't work. Because I wake up and I'm ready
Speaker 1: to go. I cannot sit still. My mind is racing
Speaker 1: thinking about all that I have to do today or
Speaker 1: all that I want to do today, even if it's nothing,
Speaker 1: all the nothing that I'm gonna do today. Whatever. Your
Speaker 1: first thing in the morning is not the time for
Speaker 1: me to meditate. I do better. I do better later
Speaker 1: on in the evening. Okay, some people doing midday evening
Speaker 1: morning doesn't matter, doesn't matter. That's all you. That's your pattern,
Speaker 1: that's unique to your lifestyle. Make it a regular thing.
Speaker 1: In other words, I just told you thirty minutes, right, cardio.
Speaker 1: Some days you can't do that. So the important thing
Speaker 1: you remember, don't skip him. Maybe you got twenty minutes,
Speaker 1: maybe you got ten, maybe you got five. Do a
Speaker 1: little something. And the reason why I say that is
Speaker 1: the it goes back to the mental tracking, the mental
Speaker 1: habits to keep you consistent. And if you can do
Speaker 1: a little something to stay in the game, you're still
Speaker 1: in that rhythm. Got it? So what what are some
Speaker 1: of the aid's to find tips that we can all
Speaker 1: benefit from while we're at home? You have some interesting ones.
Speaker 1: And then I'm gonna and then I'm gonna jump into
Speaker 1: what what your actual routine is? Your actual daily routine is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's something about ice. Oh I huh. So first of all,
Speaker 1: I gave you my five steps. Yea, so those are
Speaker 1: my five basics. You look up, you look amazing you.
Speaker 1: There's no way in the world that you look like sixty.
Speaker 1: You know, no, I I gotta say that because people
Speaker 1: always try to make a fuss about me, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not the only older woman out here that looks good.
Speaker 1: I mean, let's come on now, just stop trying to
Speaker 1: make a feel like I'm a unicorn. I am not.
Speaker 1: We are aging well. I think there's plenty of us
Speaker 1: that you know, are are taking time and want to
Speaker 1: be healthy and fit. Yeah, then there's not enough of us.
Speaker 1: And that's why I do the work that I do
Speaker 1: to lift people up, because we gotta sit together on
Speaker 1: this m hm. So let's talk a little bit about
Speaker 1: diet too, because you said that thirty of your diet
Speaker 1: is protein. Talk to us a little bit about how
Speaker 1: important nutrition is, because I really still feel, particularly as
Speaker 1: I've gotten older, I really really feel like what you're
Speaker 1: putting inside of your body really is almost I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's more important than the exercising, but it
Speaker 1: certainly is as important as exercise you have, and and
Speaker 1: for people who want to lose weight, it's at least
Speaker 1: of the of the results. Now, have you ever worked
Speaker 1: with anybody who is vegetarian? For the most part, I
Speaker 1: eat plant based that clients who are vegan or pscytarian
Speaker 1: or yeah, vegetarian, you know, all that doesn't matter, but
Speaker 1: for me personally, and I just want to touch on
Speaker 1: what you eat also has everything to do with your skin.
Speaker 1: That's true. Where are you getting most of your protein from?
Speaker 1: As a person, who is mostly plant based because so um,
Speaker 1: I know people want to give me a lot of beans,
Speaker 1: but bleep beans, I don't digest. I have a I'm
Speaker 1: somebody who has an extremely sensitive stomach. Every time I
Speaker 1: turn around, my stomach is upset from something. So you're
Speaker 1: not doing beans. What are you doing fish? Okay? That's
Speaker 1: most of my proteins come from fish and vegetables. Okay,
Speaker 1: some grains are high in protein as well. You can
Speaker 1: mix it up. What is your daily routine for exercise? So, man,
Speaker 1: I got this peloton fite? Oh birl, Oh, now you
Speaker 1: know what my husband and I were thinking about getting
Speaker 1: the peloton. You it. You have no idea how much
Speaker 1: I love it. It is the bomb. Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: It is the best thing. Who know, we were gonna
Speaker 1: be in COVID and it has saved my ass. I'm
Speaker 1: telling you. Okay, let me just give you a quick rundown.
Speaker 1: So and I get almost a lot of times, I'll
Speaker 1: get on it before I even have my first client,
Speaker 1: you know. And I have them five six in the
Speaker 1: morning or whatever. But I ride that for whatever minutes.
Speaker 1: I make the time work for me. But you either
Speaker 1: take the classes everybody and anybody your taste and riding
Speaker 1: the peloton where you can take a class in all
Speaker 1: different kinds of classes or and this has been my
Speaker 1: special treat because I love to travel and I haven't
Speaker 1: been able to and I don't know when it was
Speaker 1: rattled in, but since COVID, I have been traveling on
Speaker 1: my bike. So in other words, you can take a class,
Speaker 1: or it has different scenes where you can ride in
Speaker 1: Italy and wherever, or you can just ride. But it
Speaker 1: has really been a lifesaver. Okay, so back to your question.
Speaker 1: So I am doing my bite for my heart's sake,
Speaker 1: I do my workout. I have a structure where I'm
Speaker 1: doing the weight training. Gotta do that lot, a lot
Speaker 1: more core training I'm doing now for myself, and then
Speaker 1: in flexibility, I do that at night. I might do
Speaker 1: it a little right after my workout, especially my cardio.
Speaker 1: For sure, I'm stretching out my legs. But then I
Speaker 1: like to do a little nice stretch routine before bed.
Speaker 1: I have my phone roller. When I do my stretching
Speaker 1: at night, I sleep better. Uh huh. I thought this
Speaker 1: this foot massage thing. Yeah, I got you, I got got.
Speaker 1: But I'm doing upper and lower given my body of
Speaker 1: rest in the meantime, in the time, because I still
Speaker 1: am really busy even during this time. So I really
Speaker 1: have to structure it. Just like I said to you,
Speaker 1: put it in part of your day where it's you time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's me time. Let me ask you this, Wendy, let
Speaker 1: me ask you some advice for myself personally. Like I
Speaker 1: said in the beginning of the show, that I am
Speaker 1: struggling a little bit. I have an issue with my hip.
Speaker 1: I've been told that it's arthritis, but I also think
Speaker 1: that there's an injury in there somewhere right And because
Speaker 1: of COVID, I have not, you know, been able to
Speaker 1: really get out and really really get attention to it,
Speaker 1: because you know, the doctors don't really want to see
Speaker 1: you in the offices unless it's like urgent, and it's not.
Speaker 1: I've been living with this for quite some time now,
Speaker 1: but it is affecting my ability to work out and
Speaker 1: what I can do. We are quarantined together, my daughter
Speaker 1: and my and daughter, and we work out together, but
Speaker 1: I swear they're killing me. I cannot. I can't keep
Speaker 1: up with them anymore. And it's disheartening for me because
Speaker 1: I'm used to killing you how trying to keep up
Speaker 1: with trying to keep up with their routine. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I just realized that I can't do it anymore. And
Speaker 1: it's made me a little sad because it is coming
Speaker 1: to accept my age. And my husband said it to
Speaker 1: me the other day because I worked out with someone
Speaker 1: just the other day and I was in so much
Speaker 1: physical pain, not while I was doing it, but within
Speaker 1: a half an hour of completing the workout. And that
Speaker 1: was even me paying attention and saying, okay, I've had
Speaker 1: enough of that. I can't do that exercise. It's not
Speaker 1: working for me. Even being trying to be very aware
Speaker 1: of that, it was still I still ended up being
Speaker 1: in a lot of physical pain from this hip And
Speaker 1: it's disheartening like that. You hear it all the time,
Speaker 1: kidding old is not for the week. It is not.
Speaker 1: And I've got to figure out a routine where I
Speaker 1: can stay fit but stay healthy. And it's not my
Speaker 1: upper body, it's my lower body. I've always disliked lower
Speaker 1: body worth because the results don't show up as quickly,
Speaker 1: So as a result, my upper body looks much better
Speaker 1: than my lower body. And now when I'm trying to
Speaker 1: really focus on that because I really really see the difference.
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I'm not even sure what really
Speaker 1: to do. Should I just be using fans? Should I
Speaker 1: just be using lower weights with more reps? Like I'm
Speaker 1: kind of in a state of confusion, so or should
Speaker 1: I just be doing something like yoga? Should I just
Speaker 1: let go of the weight training? What you're experiencing is
Speaker 1: open ended one because you haven't been able to get
Speaker 1: to a doctor to locate what the problem is. Definitely
Speaker 1: have arthritis in my left hip, so I do know
Speaker 1: that I definitely have arthritis in my left hip. What
Speaker 1: irritated definitely squats and sometimes even walking, Oh you know,
Speaker 1: like if I get on the treadmill, like I typically
Speaker 1: don't run because my knees aren't all that great. Okay, now,
Speaker 1: so I'm typically walking. But sometimes do you have a BikeE?
Speaker 1: I don't. I haven't. I have an elliptical? Does that
Speaker 1: irritate you? So that doesn't? Maybe the bike is okay
Speaker 1: for you as well? You guys need to get to peloton.
Speaker 1: It's so fun. It just gives you more of a
Speaker 1: chance lenge and more things to do, more variety as
Speaker 1: opposed to just a regular bike that might be something
Speaker 1: that it keeps you going for a longer period of
Speaker 1: time and interested for a longer period of time, So
Speaker 1: it's liptical and bike might be the thing for you.
Speaker 1: In terms of cardio, you could also do some weight
Speaker 1: training on the bike and liptical by raising up and
Speaker 1: down the resistance on that. Okay. Other than that, you
Speaker 1: don't have to do squads. And for someone who is
Speaker 1: experiencing like me or hip even back isometric exercises is
Speaker 1: great for you because they do isometric exercises right out
Speaker 1: of surgery. That's what they pretty much start with. But
Speaker 1: there it's pretty safe and painless. And the other thing
Speaker 1: is in terms of working your quads, you can do
Speaker 1: leg extensions and extensions are gonna help that part of it.
Speaker 1: You can do donkey kicks that with weights with an
Speaker 1: ankle with yeah, yeah, that's gonna work on your book. Okay,
Speaker 1: So those are and then of course the hamstrings you
Speaker 1: can do some strength training with resistance fans or with
Speaker 1: free weights with that as well, dead lifts for your
Speaker 1: hand string and go into fit leg dead list. With
Speaker 1: the leg extensions and some calf raises you can get
Speaker 1: with the donkey you can get all of your lower
Speaker 1: body without bothering your hit got it, got it, and
Speaker 1: the free train side, and then the cardio side with
Speaker 1: the bikes and shout out to Peloton and Peloton is listening.
Speaker 1: I need a bike, all right. That's really really good advice, Wendy.
Speaker 1: Moving on, because we're coming to a close. I want
Speaker 1: to move on a little bit to mental health because
Speaker 1: in this time, during the pandemic, it is so difficult
Speaker 1: for me and for a lot of people, I'm sure
Speaker 1: to stay motivated. Just so much going on in the
Speaker 1: world that is heavy. We're in such a state of
Speaker 1: discord in our nation right now. So how does one
Speaker 1: stay positive while trying to process all of this? And
Speaker 1: I guess it goes back to what you've been talking
Speaker 1: about all along, and that is your own trying to
Speaker 1: stay true to your own personal journey and your own
Speaker 1: personal purpose. Absolutely to stay same in this climate we
Speaker 1: are in the world today. One of the first things
Speaker 1: you have to do is find some structure in your household,
Speaker 1: get a rhythm, get a sit stuff, because everything is
Speaker 1: in disarray. Ever since COVID had had a system, And
Speaker 1: these are things that I actively do that definitely work
Speaker 1: for me because right now, it's just me. I don't
Speaker 1: I don't even have somebody I'm living with right now.
Speaker 1: A lot of people are in that situation where they're alone,
Speaker 1: right so that alone can drive you crazy. And then
Speaker 1: I talked to my son, and my son I got
Speaker 1: five grandkids, and he's going, look like you know that here,
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, me and you are in opposite ends
Speaker 1: of this phonicle. But nevertheless, it's all challenging for everyone.
Speaker 1: And that's why you got to recreate some structure in
Speaker 1: your household. How you eat, how you work, I take
Speaker 1: my breaks. I have some recess time that I have
Speaker 1: set my little time er here where it'll go off,
Speaker 1: where I set a certain amount of time for me
Speaker 1: to work, because I can get stuck in this chair.
Speaker 1: The second thing is reach out to someone that you
Speaker 1: like talking with. You gotta be in contact with people,
Speaker 1: not necessarily the family members like for you. If you're
Speaker 1: living with everybody like my son, you know you've got
Speaker 1: all that going on. Maybe you already have that interaction.
Speaker 1: Maybe you've got a little other personal time you want
Speaker 1: to dedicate to yourself for reading and something like that.
Speaker 1: So it's surely is going into the structure the other thing,
Speaker 1: and the real important thing is shut the darn TV all.
Speaker 1: Yet the facts and disappears. Yet the facts and disappear.
Speaker 1: And then each day find something that sparks joy with you,
Speaker 1: something that makes you happy, something that will make you laugh.
Speaker 1: And I regularly do this, Gammy. I will go to
Speaker 1: YouTube and kids and animals, all of you, right, Richie
Speaker 1: Pryor from old school, right, But there's so much stuff,
Speaker 1: and it's so at our fingertips, and that is some
Speaker 1: of the I lacked. All the time I talk to myself,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, you gave me gonna answer, girl. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm crazy like that. So it lifts me up when
Speaker 1: the people you talk to make it positive people because
Speaker 1: some people, so you got to choose your people. Some
Speaker 1: people you're talking, they always talking downward right right. The
Speaker 1: person in my family might do that. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: enough of that. Can we talk about exactly? And you
Speaker 1: know what? You know what works for me too? And
Speaker 1: I think about it because I realized how much of
Speaker 1: my life and I don't know if people really think
Speaker 1: about that, but the pandemic really really highlighted how social
Speaker 1: we are as beings. Right, all of my activities that
Speaker 1: I enjoy so much involved network dancing, you know, my stepping, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I am as a Chicago stepper, yes, and roller skating.
Speaker 1: I was learning how to roller skate. I've always wanted
Speaker 1: to learn how to roll escape and I was just
Speaker 1: really getting into my groove and then the pandemic hit.
Speaker 1: Like I was going roller skating like three times a week.
Speaker 1: That's a cool thing to do. And that's the other
Speaker 1: thing in terms of staying young. So you're onto something there.
Speaker 1: Darn me not to get old and send your ways
Speaker 1: learn no stuff. Even with this technology, it keeps you
Speaker 1: young and youthful and learning and thinking. But you were
Speaker 1: talking about watching stuff on YouTube that brings you joy.
Speaker 1: So that's I can't dance right now. So I'm on
Speaker 1: YouTube all the time watching people stepping. I did it before, anyway,
Speaker 1: but I watched people stepping. I danced with the door. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's me joy right now. I'm listening to the music
Speaker 1: and like you said, I definitely stay off of the
Speaker 1: TV as far as news is concerned anyway, And I'm
Speaker 1: doing a lot of reading and a lot of self
Speaker 1: help work right now. I'm taking this time of the
Speaker 1: pandemic to do a lot of soul searching and work
Speaker 1: on me that I need to do. Yeah, Wendy, one
Speaker 1: thing I forgot to ask you what everybody wants to know.
Speaker 1: Do you have a cheat day and what is your
Speaker 1: favorite cheat? Yeah? Okay, people tell me, oh, you just
Speaker 1: want you so strict. I'm a normal person and I
Speaker 1: have really what I want, So gimme. I use the
Speaker 1: eight rule. I eat good most of the time and
Speaker 1: the other twenty I do my thing. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: got to share with you. My thing got right downstairs
Speaker 1: wild boys waiting for me for this weekend, because that's
Speaker 1: how I celebrate is um an apple cinnamon vegan muffin. Okay,
Speaker 1: I did it from hopeful Wow, some chocolate cake or
Speaker 1: my thing is that chocolate cake that has the fund
Speaker 1: on the inside with a scoop of vanilla ice cream? Girl?
Speaker 1: Please whatever as you're talking about a buffer, that's your cheek. Alright, right, girl,
Speaker 1: grow back, that's okay, alright, Wendy, God bless you, God
Speaker 1: bless you, because I have to agrieve your friends. You
Speaker 1: are extremely and highly disciplined. Yes, and that's why you
Speaker 1: what you do. Listen, Yeah, I wish you could see
Speaker 1: my face you. That's all I can say. You could
Speaker 1: see my face. We're gonna wind down. We're gonna run
Speaker 1: down and roll on out of here with our rapid
Speaker 1: fire questions for you. Tell me what book you're currently reading. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I'm reading Choo books. One of them is called
Speaker 1: stick Ability by Greg Reid. Uh huh. It's about the
Speaker 1: power of perseverory. Okay, yeah, okay. One thing you want
Speaker 1: to get off your chest? Okay, So one thing I'd
Speaker 1: like to get on my chest is the phrase that
Speaker 1: I've heard plenty of times on social media, black don't
Speaker 1: crack ah Okay. And the reason why I say that
Speaker 1: is sometimes when you say that, you discount all the
Speaker 1: hard work and all the other good things that I'm
Speaker 1: really doing. So I'm never find out it that way. Okay,
Speaker 1: yeah it is. That's the way I take it Personally.
Speaker 1: I'm like, say, black don't hey, wait a minute after
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff. And the thing that I follow
Speaker 1: up with that is, yes, melanin, darker melanin protects us
Speaker 1: from a lot more than lighter melanin. So that is
Speaker 1: a true fact. But I have people in the family
Speaker 1: that I can take two people side by side, one
Speaker 1: who has led a clean lifestyle and the other one.
Speaker 1: They both got the same genetics. They both black, don't crack,
Speaker 1: but the other one has led a tough life, different,
Speaker 1: completely different. So black don't crack, don't cut it. It
Speaker 1: is true in a sense, but don't discount the other
Speaker 1: hard work that is very necessary to the vibrant and
Speaker 1: thrive and life. That makes total sense. I get that,
Speaker 1: totally get that. Last, but not least, what's a model
Speaker 1: you live by? I truly live by this. I always
Speaker 1: say it doesn't matter what your ages, where you come from,
Speaker 1: or what you've been through. What matters is that you
Speaker 1: don't give up, because it's never too late to take
Speaker 1: back your life. There you go, never too late to
Speaker 1: take back your fabulousness. Yes, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining us, Wendy. We appreciate you. And now please tell
Speaker 1: the audience any events or things that you have coming
Speaker 1: up and where they can find you on social media. Well,
Speaker 1: you can always find me on YouTube. I'm doing plenty
Speaker 1: of videos on their self help videos and I love
Speaker 1: to dance, so you can always kind of dance your video. Absolutely, yes,
Speaker 1: and that's on YouTube when you eat a fitness and
Speaker 1: on Instagram Facebook and LinkedIn. Wendy, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: We appreciate you. I appreciate you, and you are You
Speaker 1: are fabulous. You are fabulous. Thank you so much. So
Speaker 1: here are my takeaways from this episode with Wendy Eta.
Speaker 1: What you put in your body is as important as
Speaker 1: what you do with your body. Cut out the sugar, guys,
Speaker 1: let it go and that means me to Let me
Speaker 1: tell you, the struggle is real. Find the cardio that
Speaker 1: works best for you, and consistency is paramount. It's tough
Speaker 1: times out here. Find something that brings you joy. Don't
Speaker 1: be afraid to try something new or learn a new skill.
Speaker 1: Along with a good support system, find your why and
Speaker 1: use that to help keep you motivated. Positively gam is
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