1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: and the Black Effect. And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:23,159 Speaker 1: on the head. Welcome back to yet another episode of 4 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless. What's Your Girl? Just hilarious? Now listen. I 5 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: had the pleasure the honor of going to sit down 6 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: with Gilly and Willottle crazy asses, them niggas from Philly. 7 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: They got a podcast. It's called Million Dollars Worth of Game. Now. 8 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 1: I love these niggas. They cool, And before I went 9 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: up there, I had already knew to braced myself right now, Look, 10 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: that's kind of what the topic is about the day. 11 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: It's story time about my own self, all right, So 12 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 1: grab your t grab your holes, because these niggas had 13 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: me fucked up, all right. So look, one of the 14 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: topics was being single. Now neither one of them niggas 15 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: are single, but they want to ask if I'm single 16 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: or not. And they know, God damn well that I am. 17 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,839 Speaker 1: Everybody knows that I am. All right, So Gilly asked 18 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,479 Speaker 1: me he just had to be the one, Jess, You're single. 19 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: I say yeah, he said, okay, okay, I thought that 20 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: was gonna be it. Willow straight cut him off. Willow said, Okay, damn, 21 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: what what niggas need to do to get a shot 22 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: at you look at the camera right now and telling 23 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 1: how they can how they can have a shot with 24 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:24,560 Speaker 1: jest hilarious. I say, Yo, you just gotta be real. 25 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:26,320 Speaker 1: You gotta understand that I'm ahole bit. You gotta be 26 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: able to have your own money. You gotta be able 27 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 1: to match my ship. If you don't make more than me, 28 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: you still gotta make something up that statue. You know, 29 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 1: you gotta be up there. You know what I'm saying 30 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: that you know what up there means if you're up there. 31 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: If you're not, then you know you're not you know 32 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: what I mean. So Willow cut me off and he goes, 33 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: you know, you know, Wilo get to talk and he 34 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: can't stop this. Nigga says, so you mean to tell 35 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: me that you you can't date a cash it at 36 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: walmut or a piece of delivery boy, or or you know, 37 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: like a driver or no. I said, very calmly, I'm like, no, 38 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: gilly Quaid, how dumb standing sitting there and looking like okay, cool? 39 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: She said, No, Let's move to the next question. No, 40 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: Wiler is trying to force me to be with these 41 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: types of niggas. He's like, nah, So you mean, like, 42 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: what if he a manager at Target? Like you know, 43 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: because you know you've been in shopping for towels and 44 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: soap and all of that stuff. You know, y'all girls 45 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: go there to get your lip glosses and ship. Like, 46 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: what if you see him in the owls? I'm like, nah, 47 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: I'm never gonna see a manager in the house because 48 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: managers don't roam the oles. You know what I'm saying. 49 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: I noticed because I've been a manager. We stay in 50 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: the office, not doing ship, watching the cameras, you know 51 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. He's like, no, no, no, no, But 52 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: what if it was? And then Gilly cut him off, 53 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 1: like yo, she said no, nigga, no. Now fast forward 54 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 1: to when they posted about this ship. I got a 55 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:40,079 Speaker 1: lot of backlash from the men. They did the same 56 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: thing to me that they were doing to be somemone. Now, listen, 57 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: it's a preference. It's a fucking preference. My preference is 58 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: not to deal with a guy who has, you know, 59 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 1: a job of that stature. No, you can't be a 60 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: cash fucking with me. No, you can't be a piece 61 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: of delivery boy, fucking with me. No, you can't be 62 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:02,239 Speaker 1: a manager at Target working with me. Now, listen, I'm 63 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: not saying nobody would have nine to five. That's not 64 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: what I said. That's what b Simone said. You can't 65 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: have no nine to five. And she gave up a 66 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: good reason because nine to five. Niggas don't understand what 67 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 1: she do. You know what I mean, whether that was 68 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: her real reason or not. All right, she gave a reason, 69 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: but still everybody jumped on her asks because that was 70 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: her preference. I don't understand why to this date that 71 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: A lot of guys got mad at her for that, 72 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: A lot of females got mad at her for that. 73 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: My preference is, you just gotta have a certain type 74 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: of job. You can have a job because, believe it 75 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: or not, I don't want to date a celebrity. No 76 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: I do not. I do not want to date an athlete. 77 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to date an actor. I don't want 78 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: to date a rapper. I don't want to date another 79 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: comedian again in my life. No, I do not. I'd 80 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: rather have a working man. Now, you do have to 81 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 1: have a certain type of job, like, okay, you can 82 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: be a principal. You know you can be a professor, 83 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: you can be a therapist. You know you can be 84 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: a doctor, work at the hospital. You know what I'm saying, 85 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: Like all types of ship on your own business, something 86 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: like that. Work your way up. Okay, cool, I didn't say. No, 87 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: nine of five is just a certain type of nine 88 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:06,839 Speaker 1: of five. What the funk is wrong with that? Yes, 89 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: I used to be a cash ship. Even when I 90 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: was a cash I didn't date another cashi, you know 91 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yes, I used to work for FedEx. Yes, 92 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: did I want another package handler to be my boyfriend? 93 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 1: No the funk I didn't. I'm not making fun of anybody. No, man, 94 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: if you have a job, that's good, that's bettering yourself. 95 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:28,039 Speaker 1: Having a job is something that's very, very hard, especially 96 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: for black men, for certain black men, you understand what 97 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying. But then you got your black men who 98 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:36,119 Speaker 1: don't want to work, but they don't want to do ship. 99 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to work for the white man. You're 100 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: not trying to work for your damn self. So you 101 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 1: know you got those types of guys. Now, I've had 102 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: my share of every type, all right. I have fucked 103 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: with a broke nigga before. I have funked with a 104 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: guy who worked with the UPS before, like Chris Mike's boyfriend. 105 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: He worked at UPS okay, and after a few months 106 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: he quit, and then he came to work for me, 107 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 1: and then he was supposed to build his own business. 108 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: Offer the money he was making off of me and 109 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: off of the the y'all say cloud, I call it 110 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: the platform that he had built off of me, my coattail. 111 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 1: I don't give a funk. Y'all feel offended. I'm gonna 112 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: tell her like it is. You know what I'm saying. 113 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: He built his k off of my m and what 114 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: did he do with that? Not a goddamn thing. I 115 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 1: have put men in positions to make something of themselves, 116 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: to be entrepreneurial. I've done that. It didn't work. It 117 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: can only happen with a certain type of guy. You 118 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: can't have a childish as mentality. You can't have a 119 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,920 Speaker 1: broke ass mentality. You have to have some type of ambition. 120 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: I can't raise a man. You're not supposed to raise 121 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 1: a man that you're supposed to be with. You're not 122 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: supposed to raise him. That was his parents job. They 123 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:44,840 Speaker 1: failed him. I didn't know what the fun was going 124 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 1: on at the White the wild nigga started stealing from me, 125 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: but she was already making money. All you had to 126 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: do was nigga. What So when I say I have 127 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: upped the anti within my standards of men, yes I 128 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: do deserve a motherfucker with some money, Yes I do, 129 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 1: because I didn't had too many of them without. So 130 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 1: why the fun don't I get to say what my 131 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 1: standard is? Why the fuck can't I have a preference 132 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 1: now because my preference back then was bullshit as I 133 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: can see. But it's always something about a woman wanting 134 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 1: to help a man, no matter where he came from. 135 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I don't sucked with jailbirds. 136 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying that a lie to me 137 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 1: told me what it was gonna be when he got home. 138 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: I hadn't held the nigga, damn. Put money on his books, 139 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 1: may show his family was good. And I'm checking up 140 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: on your kids and and and making sure your baby 141 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 1: mother good and all that. Ship you come home and 142 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: you ain't with me or her. You felt a whole 143 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: another bit like all of that. You know, you put 144 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: a lot of your hope and a lot of your trust, 145 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: then a lot of your money into niggas to get 146 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: a slap in the face. That hap that has happened 147 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: to me four times, there will not be a fifth. 148 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: So no, Now my preference is a nigga who got 149 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: some money I'm not talking about so you can take 150 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,479 Speaker 1: me on shopp and s Freeze and and all that 151 00:06:55,520 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 1: ship and blow your money, you know, frivolously on me. No, 152 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that ship. That's not what I'm 153 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: talking about. This so we can buy some properties together, 154 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: so we can do something together. You gotta match my ship. 155 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: What if I say, baby, let's open up a restaurant. 156 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: What if I say, let's go buy some land, build 157 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: some houses, and you know, create our own community so 158 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: motherfucker's can move into a black owned community. What if 159 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: I want to say that I'm not gonna do that 160 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: ship or my own and then bring you in. No, 161 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: we gotta do that ship together. That's what the funk 162 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: I want. I want somebody who can match me. Like 163 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: I said, you don't even gotta be having as much 164 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: money as I do, but you gotta have something and 165 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: then you gotta be working to get there. Now, let's 166 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: kick it over to a brief break. Everybody can be 167 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: better at something like even me. Am I happy where 168 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 1: I am? Yes, but I'm not gonna get comfortable here. No, 169 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: everybody can be better than they are, even people like Beyonce. 170 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: You think she okay, well where she Yet we look 171 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: at her and she's the most perfect woman in the world, 172 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: richest woman in the world. It can't get no better. 173 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: But in her mind, that's her mentality. That's why she 174 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: is where she is, because she always believes she can 175 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: do better. You understand, you're not supposed to stop anywhere. 176 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 1: That's the type of man that I'm looking for. That's 177 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: the type of man that I'm in search of. That 178 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: is the type of man that I want. You know 179 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, some ambition, some commitment to something. Not 180 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: not commitment as in relationship. Okay, No, I'm talking about 181 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: commit to making something better of yourself. You know what 182 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: I'm saying. If you work at ups, work up to 183 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: be the manager. A matter of fact, while you're working there, 184 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: create your own transportation company, just like Amazon did, just 185 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: like DHL. It's not easy, but if your work and 186 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: work and work and keep working, you will get there. 187 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:38,199 Speaker 1: Like it's this boxer I was talking to you, right. 188 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 1: He's from Baltimore City. He wanted to own a bunch 189 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: of like a chain of readers. He wanted to buy 190 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: a chain of readers, the Italian night Ship. He wanted 191 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 1: to buy a bunch of Dunkin Donuts, a bunch of subways. 192 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 1: He wanted to buy like he wanted to have like 193 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: fifteen franchises. I remember him telling me at dinner one time. 194 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: I said, okay, cool, you know that's how it works. 195 00:08:58,360 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: He said, I know. And they're not gonna give it 196 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: to me off the rip. I'm not gonna get it 197 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: easy as a white man would, but I'm gonna do 198 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: that ship. This was two years ago. We lost contact 199 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: whatever whatever, ba bah bah. He never stopped boxing, boxing 200 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: this week get his money money from But now that 201 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: nigga got five readers, he got five ducking done us 202 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,679 Speaker 1: to go and five subways to buy, he gonna do it. 203 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:20,959 Speaker 1: He sat in my face two years ago and told 204 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 1: me he was gonna do it. Had to ex leave 205 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: him because she didn't believe he was gonna do it. 206 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: She that's not only why she loved him. She loved 207 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:30,680 Speaker 1: him because he was basically using up all the money 208 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 1: to do this ship, but she didn't see the bigger picture. 209 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: You feel me, She got fed up and she left, 210 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:37,199 Speaker 1: just like the movie uh acrimony or some ship? What 211 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 1: was it with with Taragi Piens and whatever? She didn't 212 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,439 Speaker 1: believe in the guy's dream. Long enough, fast forward. Now 213 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: he's in the process of doing exactly what he set 214 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: across from me and told me he was gonna do. 215 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: That's the type of nigga that I'm after. That's the 216 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:52,640 Speaker 1: type of guy that get my pussy weight. That's the 217 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: type of guy that I I see myself with, not 218 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: just fucking I see myself with. He did Tom and Jail. 219 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: He's still got a little hood with him, but he's 220 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: very class. He cleaned up nice, sexy hisself. And if 221 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: he's listening, dumping my d m BO because I'm assuring. 222 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's that's the ship I'm talking about right there. 223 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 1: You set out to conquer a plan, to conquer a 224 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: task so big that nobody, nobody believes in you when 225 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: you're telling them this ship. Because a lot of people 226 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: can talk a good game. So understand when I say 227 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: my preference is a guy who has a certain a 228 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: certain nine of five. It has to be something near 229 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: my stature of money. That's just what it is. It 230 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: was such a relief when I dated Country Wane. After 231 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 1: dating somebody like Chris, I was so programmed to paying 232 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:46,960 Speaker 1: the tab every time we went out to eat too. 233 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: You know when men Wayne would be out somewhere and 234 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: he tried to get me to taste that na is 235 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: vegan food, shout out to him. I love my ex 236 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: to death. But no, baby, I was you know, I 237 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: wasn'ta be no goddamn vegan. I would find myself reaching 238 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: in my purse or he'd be like what you're thinking 239 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: about to pay for what? All? Right? Like this ain't that. 240 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: I'll do this. You know we'll be out. He would 241 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 1: just think of me, buy me ship. You know what 242 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: I'm saying Like that, And that's not what I required. 243 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: That's not a requirement for you to to splurge and 244 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,680 Speaker 1: buy me bags and buy me I can do that 245 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:20,079 Speaker 1: ship myself, you know what I'm saying, Like, I can 246 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: do that myself. I don't need I gotta take me 247 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 1: shop and every day to prove his love. No, no, 248 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 1: but when that nigga Dwayne Coley a k A. Country 249 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: Wayne said to me, do you want to go to 250 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: Puerto Rico? Let's get away? And I said, what, all right, 251 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: we're splitting it down a half. He said, why would 252 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 1: I split a trip. I'm telling you I want to 253 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: take you on. Stop playing with me. He couldn't believe. 254 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:45,199 Speaker 1: I couldn't believe how conditioned I was by my previous relationship. 255 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: Always was paying for everything. After a while, like and 256 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: then yo, Chris had money coming in. He just got lazy, 257 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: got comfortable and started being a bomb. Slowly but surely 258 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That's what happens. That wasn't 259 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 1: the only time I was in a relationship with that happened. 260 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: And no, haven't always been up. But even when I 261 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: was broke, I didn't prefer a man who worked any 262 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: nine of five. I didn't. Yeah, I had standards. Yeah 263 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: I was broke. I'm talking about lights out everything. I've 264 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: shared this with y'all before. If y'all are ADVID listeners, 265 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: y'all know I never let my son stuff. I would 266 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:17,760 Speaker 1: go to being hungry, but I would be working with 267 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: niggas and not even tell them. Or are you dropping 268 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: me off to a powerless house, buddy? You dropped. I 269 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 1: just wouldn't let you come in. No, that's it. No, 270 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: you don't need to come in period. That's how strong 271 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: I was, That's how my pride was. So nobody can 272 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: never call me a gold digger because I would have 273 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 1: been a gold digger from the fucking jump. I dug 274 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: my own goal, got my own ship. But it feels 275 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:37,960 Speaker 1: good to have a motherfucker to match you. Feels good 276 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,440 Speaker 1: after not having that for so long. That was why 277 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: it was such a relief, and that's why me and 278 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 1: Wayne are friends today. We shared more than just a relationship. 279 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:48,199 Speaker 1: We actually got to know each other after getting together. 280 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: He showed me more than just what all of y'all saying. 281 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 1: He's a really, really good dude. That is what my 282 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 1: preference is. A guy that can match me, or you 283 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: can hand more money or have just a little bit 284 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:02,120 Speaker 1: less to me, but you got to have something because 285 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,719 Speaker 1: I'm done with building niggas, and that's just what it is, 286 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:08,319 Speaker 1: and that's vice versa. Just like I got a preference, y'all, 287 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: niggas got preference. Maybe y'all don't prefer to deal with 288 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:13,920 Speaker 1: a bitch like me, y'all don't prefer to deal with 289 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: a female like me. Why my voice deep? Why I've 290 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: seen the comments. Oh it's a lot of testosterone up 291 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 1: and shorty, Oh my god, the masculinity is on ten. 292 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: Oh she had to be born a nigga. And I'm 293 00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:26,199 Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now. I'm gonna tell you right now, 294 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: I will have your weak ass and love. You don't know. 295 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 1: You only see that side that y'all see you on. 296 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: I g you only see that side. You're judging me 297 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:35,479 Speaker 1: because of my voice of how much of a Baltomore 298 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 1: bitch I am. That's what you're judging. But you don't 299 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: know to know me, and to know me like that 300 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,319 Speaker 1: is to love me. Nigga, you will another leave. I'm 301 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:45,440 Speaker 1: talking about going all the way back to even my 302 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 1: baby father. I know how to treat a man and 303 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: I've never ever ever lost one that wouldn't come back. 304 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: You understand what I'm saying. Period. This is before Jess Hilarius, 305 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: when I was just regular dirty jests from round away period. 306 00:13:58,160 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 1: Always knew how to treat a man. I got that 307 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:02,839 Speaker 1: from mother. Y'all got mad at Ari Fletcher money bag 308 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: Yo's girlfriend months ago for saying, why y'all mad at me? 309 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: Because I don't like the funk with broke niggas. That's 310 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 1: her fucking preference. That's what she prefers. Apparently before Gie Herbo, 311 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 1: she's been fucking with niggas with money. That's just who 312 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: are is, That's who she's been. I understood that period. Like, 313 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: if that's our preference, and she's getting these niggas, what 314 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: the funk y'all mad for? What y'all mad for? Now? 315 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 1: Porsha Williams gold Diggers, that's what that's given to me. 316 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:31,960 Speaker 1: The only guy, like I swear to god, I feel 317 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 1: like she really really fucking loved and he broke her 318 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 1: heart was Cordell. That was the first guy that I've 319 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: seen that we actually seen her with when she first 320 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 1: got on the show and ship. You know what I'm saying. Cordell, 321 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 1: he sucked over real bad. So did the baby Father nigga. 322 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: But that's some gold diggers ship y'all talking about me, bitch, 323 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: that's gold digger ship with porshagot going on. Don't don't 324 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 1: confuse me with that. That's not what I do. I 325 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: tried to help these niggas. I'm telling you, some of 326 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: them are just unhelpable, and like I said as vice versa, 327 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 1: even with the guy. You think men want to date 328 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 1: a broke bitch. You think that you've got celebrities that 329 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 1: say it in their music all the time. You know 330 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And I love Chris Brown to death. 331 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: I love him to goddamn death. But he he even 332 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: said in the song Loyal, I can make a broke 333 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: bitch rich, but I don't funk with broke bitches. And listen, 334 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 1: do you know why that man said that. I ain't 335 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 1: even gotta call him up and ask him, And yes, 336 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 1: how you got his number and know you're not getting in, 337 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: But yes, I do not even have to call him up. 338 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:26,120 Speaker 1: He don't want to broke bitch because all they're gonna 339 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 1: do is leach. If you're a breadwinner and you're running 340 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 1: into a broke bitch, she see to come up, it's 341 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 1: destined for her to leach off you. That's broke bitches 342 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 1: were broke mentalities. Now it's broke people out here that 343 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: really want to get it for themselves, that really make 344 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: the best out of situations and end up coming up 345 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:44,760 Speaker 1: because they know what to do with the money. Like 346 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: Pleasure p. He was another one on his page The 347 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: other day this ship hit the blogs, shout out the 348 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:52,800 Speaker 1: neighborhood Talk Pleasure P posted, you want me to fly 349 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:55,400 Speaker 1: you out so you can lay up under me, reap 350 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: all the money and all that type of ship to 351 00:15:57,360 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 1: fly you back home and all that, instead of having 352 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,760 Speaker 1: me put you at a position to get your own 353 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: business so you can be making money just like me. 354 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 1: Y'all are weird. Y'all women are weird. These new women 355 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:11,040 Speaker 1: are weird. And I went through them comments and y'all 356 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 1: would not believe not one woman agreed with him. Yo, 357 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 1: bitches was in the comments like I'm talking about comment 358 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: after comments, if you broke, just say that? What? Like? 359 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:23,240 Speaker 1: What the funk? Hold up? Hold up? I know the 360 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: ship getting good, but listen to just a couple of 361 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 362 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 1: People's minds aren't even wired right anymore with common sense 363 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 1: like are you what? Are you stupid? It's the same 364 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,920 Speaker 1: with men, like we don't want broke broke niggas. Men 365 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 1: don't want broke women. You understand that and especially your 366 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: mentality behind it. Now. I know women who ain't gotta 367 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 1: pop the fucking pissing, But talking about oh no, my 368 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: nigga in the head. This isn't need the head isn't 369 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: even know You're not sucking if we if you ain't 370 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: got this and you've got, you ain't got. You ain't 371 00:16:56,960 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: got not a piece of ambition in the fucking world. 372 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: You ain't got no thing going for yourself, not a 373 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: piece of longevity, and no type of business, not not 374 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 1: one ounce of business mind do you have and you're 375 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:11,320 Speaker 1: talking about all you got a whole list of fucking 376 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 1: a one standards for a nigger. No, I don't agree 377 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:17,520 Speaker 1: with that, but that's a different story. That's who the 378 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 1: ones y'all need to be attacking. In the comments, it 379 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 1: was so many mad men under that comment, like that's 380 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 1: why she's gonna be single forever. And even if I am, 381 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be I'm gonna be paid, and I'm gonna 382 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:31,400 Speaker 1: be able to love myself. Y'all niggas don't love yourself. See, 383 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: y'all wouldn't have been offended if y'all were working on yourself. 384 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about. If you work on yourself, 385 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: you wouldn't get offended. If you're working and you're striving 386 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,080 Speaker 1: to be something greater than you already are. If you 387 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,679 Speaker 1: wasn't moving so stagnant ly in your life, if you 388 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 1: wasn't comfortable where you at. You know what I'm saying, 389 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:50,639 Speaker 1: If you didn't get comfortable where you at, which is 390 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: almost no fucking where, then you wouldn't be offended. Being 391 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: offended is easier than doing something about it. Being offended 392 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:01,360 Speaker 1: is the new trend. I say that wholeheartedly and proudly 393 00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: because it is. I ain never seen so many weak 394 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 1: ass men in my life. And the reason why I 395 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: say you weak is because you're you're a punk nigga. 396 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: You let what I say, You let that ship like 397 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:13,919 Speaker 1: really make you curse me out, really like make you 398 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: point out what you feel are my flaws. Man. Everybody 399 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:20,119 Speaker 1: want her ball head, trash talking red ass. Anyway, the 400 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: the you're the same nigga selling weed, waking up the 401 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:27,879 Speaker 1: sell weed. Go buy a fucking dispensary. Nigga, Go do 402 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: that because there's money in cannabis. You know, money on 403 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:34,600 Speaker 1: these streets. As you're goofy, stop playing build. If you 404 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: sell weed, grab a bunch of your own boys, y'all 405 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:40,640 Speaker 1: go into business together, open up a dispensary. Do that. 406 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: You gotta want more for yourself, so again, don't get 407 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 1: upset because a woman has a preference. And just like that, 408 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 1: that's my time. Look, I love y'all because y'all love me. 409 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 1: There was no just fix my mess today because I 410 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,720 Speaker 1: ain't focusing on y'a. Y'all got me fucked up. So 411 00:18:55,800 --> 00:18:59,439 Speaker 1: y'all fix yourselves, sir, so you can be something. If 412 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: you don't got no to do, Gonna find you something 413 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,159 Speaker 1: to do and keep practicing so you can be the 414 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 1: best at it. Do you hear me? Go work on 415 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:10,200 Speaker 1: yourself so you won't be offended by a woman's preference. Alright, alright, 416 00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: and just like that, I'm gonna end it on that note. 417 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 1: Tune in every week because y'all love me, and I 418 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:16,679 Speaker 1: love y'all back. Y'all already know what it is. And 419 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:37,199 Speaker 1: then my deepest teststeronial voice. Nigga Carefully Reckless is a 420 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio and The Black Effect. 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