1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: It's ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 1: Fred Show. Hey Tory, good morning, Welcome to the show. 3 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 2: How are you. 4 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 3: I'm good, Thank you for having me. 5 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 4: How about you? 6 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: I'm doing okay? What's going on with this guy? Is 7 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:19,080 Speaker 1: very polite of YouTube, very pleasant persons. 8 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 2: What's going on with this guy? Ben? 9 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:22,280 Speaker 1: Tell us about how you guys are mad about any 10 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: dates that you've been on and all of that. 11 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, So I met Ben on Hinge. We had like 12 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 3: a really good report. We only spent like maybe a 13 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 3: week tops on the app before we decided to exchange numbers, 14 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 3: and that was going very well. And he was the 15 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 3: one who invited me to go out for drinks. He 16 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 3: said it was like one of his favorite places to 17 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 3: go to. So I thought that was really cool that 18 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 3: he wanted to take me there. And we decided to 19 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 3: go out. 20 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 2: And everything went great. 21 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 5: You know. 22 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 3: I thought we had like a really good back and 23 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 3: forth and he was really sweet and friendly and then 24 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 3: kind of like closer towards the end, he started to 25 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,319 Speaker 3: get like a little bit shorter with me, but it 26 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 3: didn't seem like such a big deal. He still said 27 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 3: he wanted to see me again. At some point and 28 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 3: then you know, we went our separate ways afterwards, and 29 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 3: then I haven't heard from him at all. He's just 30 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 3: not responded to a single text. 31 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So yeah, you feel like you're being ghosted. 32 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,559 Speaker 1: It does seem that way, and that's frustrating. So let's 33 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 1: play a song come back. We'll call this Kuye Ben. 34 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: We'll ask these questions for you. At some point. You're 35 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: welcome to jump in on the call after we get 36 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: some info for you. And the hope is that we 37 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:36,839 Speaker 1: get straighten this out and set you up on another 38 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: date that we paid for. 39 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 3: Sound good, Okay, that sounds great. Thank you. 40 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: You've got to hear what happens next. 41 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: Part two of waiting out the phone after Rema back 42 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: in two minutes on the French show. 43 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 2: Say here, Rema is. 44 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: On the frend Show commercial free for the next forty minutes. 45 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: You don't have to go anywhere. Good morning, Hey toy, welcome. 46 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 2: Back, Hi, thank you, thanks again. 47 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: Yes, of course, let's call this Kuye Boll. Don't thank 48 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: us here, whatever, let's call this guy Ben. You guys 49 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: made on hands and went out and had a great time. 50 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: You admit that you were a little bit nervous, or 51 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: maybe that that he was a little bit nervous, but 52 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: nonetheless you thought it was a good connection and you 53 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: were hoping to see him again and. 54 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 2: He's ghosted you. 55 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. 56 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: Okay, let's call him and see what happens. Good luck, Toy? 57 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 4: All right? Hello? 58 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 2: Hi? Is this Ben? Yes, it is hey Ben. Good morning. 59 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 2: My name is Fred. I'm calling the Fred's Show. 60 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: It's the morning radio show, and I have to tell 61 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: you the whole crew is here, and I do have 62 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: to tell you that we are on the radio right now, 63 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: and I would need your permission to continue with the call. 64 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: Can we chat for a couple of minutes on the show? 65 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 1: He can hang up if you want anytime. Yeah, okay, okay, Well, 66 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: thank you so much for calling on. Behalf of a 67 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: woman I guess you guys met on the dating app Hinge. 68 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 2: Her name is Tory. Do you remember Toy? 69 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? 70 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 4: I remember Toy. 71 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 2: Okay. 72 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: It doesn't sound promising, but we're experts. I can I 73 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: can tell by the tone of your voice that this 74 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: may not be going to a good place. But what 75 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: happened with this with this woman Tory? Because she reached 76 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: out to us and she said she liked you and 77 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: was hoping to hear from you again after the date. Uh, 78 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,200 Speaker 1: and says that you are not responding, So what's the problem. 79 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 4: Well, I just there was not really a problem for 80 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:12,079 Speaker 4: most of the date. 81 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 5: Uh. 82 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 4: It was the end of the date that I kind 83 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 4: of went on sideways. 84 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 2: Okay, she was yeah, she was too cool. 85 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 6: Things were going well, we were flirting, we were talking, 86 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 6: we're we're getting dessert. And then she said that she 87 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 6: had somebody that she wanted. 88 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 4: Me to meet. Uh. And she pulled out and earned 89 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 4: out of her out of her bag. 90 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 1: And like an eurn, like with ashes in it, like 91 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: a dead. 92 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 6: Person, like like like an earned buddy, like a full 93 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 6: blown urn. Just a just a whole just a whole 94 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 6: situation there that I was not prepared for. 95 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: Who who did you get to meet? That's very interesting? 96 00:03:54,080 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: First aman her brother Josh, No, No, you met her 97 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: brother on the first date and he's in an urn. 98 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 2: He's unfortunate for that. For just that's who she wanted 99 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 2: me to meet. You know, boy, it just can't. 100 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 4: Say you know how so that's that's. 101 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: Been there. 102 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 2: You're saying. 103 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,239 Speaker 4: That, or matter how I was going to meet him. 104 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 2: Or she was carrying him around. 105 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, how and why both very big questions of 106 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 4: the day. 107 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 1: Was there an actual like dialogue, I guess it was. 108 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: It was more of a monologue, but I mean, yeah, 109 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: what happened? 110 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,280 Speaker 4: There was an explanation after afterwards, because there was definitely 111 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:39,719 Speaker 4: a question. 112 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 6: But she said that this was her brother and that 113 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 6: she you know, was really close with them, and that 114 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 6: she thought that it. 115 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 4: Was important that would meet because they're best friends growing up. 116 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 2: Which is totally cool, just sad, you know, a little. 117 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 6: Weird because of the fact that it was not told 118 00:04:57,640 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 6: to me at all that that's that was going to 119 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 6: happen on the first but like that is his work. 120 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: Like does she pull it out and set it on 121 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: the table and then is there like, hi, this is Josh, 122 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: Like did she did she speak for him? Were we 123 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: doing a little role play here, like or did she 124 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: just kind of set it down and say, like, you know, 125 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: in spirit, I want you to I want I want 126 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: him to be present with us on a first date 127 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 1: with a stranger. 128 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 4: She said, So she basically did a blend of both 129 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,719 Speaker 4: of those things. And you know, I had this entire 130 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 4: explanation of the fact that he just wanted to make 131 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 4: sure that I was a good guy and that I 132 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 4: take care of her. 133 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 6: And then I step up to the plate and it 134 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:35,480 Speaker 6: was a lot of pressure from from somebody that's dead. 135 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 1: Pressure from somebody that's dead. Let me bring Toy in. Man, 136 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 1: I forgot to mention that Toy is here. I'm so forgetful. Yeah, 137 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 1: my bad, dude, Toy. Look, I'm so sorry for your loss. Genuinely. 138 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: Is that a standard operating procedure for you? We bring 139 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: him out in a bag or something, and we prop 140 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: him up or whatever we're doing, set him on the 141 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: table and have a fake conversation. 142 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 2: Is that Is that normal? 143 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 3: No? 144 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:03,559 Speaker 4: No, I'm I'm sorry. 145 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 3: I'm a little bit shocked to hear him going on 146 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 3: and on about this, especially since how sensitive the subject 147 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 3: matter is for me. No, I don't bring I don't 148 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:20,839 Speaker 3: bring him along to just any date. Honestly, I thought 149 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 3: that you were special, Ben, and that was the only 150 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 3: reason why I decided to Bright Handlers, because I thought 151 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:26,719 Speaker 3: we had a real connection. 152 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 2: Well, I'm trying to interrupt you. 153 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 1: I have to say, I think it's very sweet, and 154 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: I understand the sentiment, and I understand that you know 155 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: a lot of people, myself included, believe that you know, 156 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: people pass away and they stay with us in spirit. 157 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,599 Speaker 1: But you also have to understand that death is a 158 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 1: is a controversial topic for a lot of people, and 159 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: they handle it differently. Some people think it's creepy, some 160 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: people think, you know, a lot of different stuff, it 161 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: brings back for more trauma. So yeah, I would be 162 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: a little shocked. I'd have to admit if if I'm 163 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 1: on a date and I'm I'm I'm having a conversation 164 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 1: with an urn, I mean, I think that's it's fair 165 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 1: to say that a lot for somebody. 166 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I am, I am like as understanding 167 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 3: of that side of the argument as I can be. 168 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 3: I mean, I think that we also should be very 169 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 3: more vocal and open about that, in my opinion, But 170 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 3: I understand that maybe at the beginning it was a 171 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 3: little bit a little bit of a shock. But then 172 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 3: I guess my opinion is is why not just you know, 173 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 3: say something about it instead of just coasting me. I mean, 174 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 3: it kind of just makes the entire situation like worse 175 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 3: for me, you know, and it kind of just makes 176 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 3: me not ever want to like try and introduce, you know, 177 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 3: in any capacity, someone to my brother who was who 178 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 3: is like still the most important person to. 179 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: Me, to you, you know, I can't possibly clode on 180 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: you for this, except to say that it would be jarring. 181 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 2: You got to look on your face. Question. 182 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 5: Now it's I've lost the siblings, so I relate to 183 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 5: everything that she's saying. 184 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 2: We were very close. 185 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 5: I just don't know if I would surprise someone with 186 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 5: that on a date. Like I feel like there is 187 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 5: a time and place where you can share that type 188 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 5: of relationship and you know, you can invite him to 189 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 5: maybe your home and tell him about your brother. But 190 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 5: to spring that on this man on the date, I 191 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 5: just see it just seems very like just not okay. 192 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a lot for some people. Man, Look, 193 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: she had the right intention. I think we all understand 194 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: what she was trying to do. Obviously we can't. We're 195 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: not laughing at her. And she went through a trauma 196 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:23,679 Speaker 1: and this is a very important person in her life. 197 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: Would you consider giving her another chance? 198 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 2: Maybe we leave? Was it Josh? That was his name? Tory? Yeh? 199 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 1: All right, Peter, Maybe maybe Josh hangs back, you know, 200 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: for the next date, and we we go on supervised. 201 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 2: What do we think about that? Ben we'll pay for it. 202 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I don't think I'm gonna keep doing this. 203 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 4: They're gonna be surprised. 204 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 6: Chaperones, okay, just interested. 205 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: Huh okay, all right, well, look, Tory, I'm sorry for 206 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: your loss, and I'm sorry it's not gonna work out. 207 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm sure that in the future somebody will appreciate what 208 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: you're trying to do, maybe on a second date or 209 00:08:58,280 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: maybe on third date. 210 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 2: Right, but you know, hey, it's all good. 211 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 3: Thank you. I guess I appreciate you know this exchange. 212 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 2: Ben, Good luck to you out there. Thanks for your 213 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 2: time as well. 214 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 1: You do a good one.