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Speaker 1: Ge On Steve Harvey, FM Wrights.

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Speaker 2: I'm twenty three and just finish school with a tech degree,

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Speaker 2: but landing a job has been harder than I expected.

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Speaker 1: Right now, I've got.

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Speaker 2: A temporary job that pays the bills, but I just

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Speaker 2: got a full time offer with great pay, double what

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Speaker 2: I'm making now. The problem is is that it's four

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Speaker 2: hours away from my girlfriend. We've been together since high

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Speaker 2: school and I really do see a future with her,

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Speaker 2: But she can't move right now because she's helping her

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Speaker 2: parents out, especially since her dad's been sick.

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Speaker 1: If I stay, I might miss my shot.

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Speaker 2: If I go, I don't know if our relationship will

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Speaker 2: make it. Do I hold out for something closer or

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Speaker 2: take the job and risk losing the person that a lot?

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Speaker 3: You better go get this dog on job. Boy, it's

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Speaker 3: man up time right here.

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Speaker 4: You can't buy houses and provide for families with just love.

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Speaker 4: You have a part of your life as a man.

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Speaker 4: Provision is a huge part of it. M Now, you

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Speaker 4: stay in town to hold hands all you want, but

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Speaker 4: that's gonna get going to the movies. But if you

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Speaker 4: don't start progressing the train up the track, brother, it's

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Speaker 4: gonna be hard. So at one point in time, you're gonna,

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Speaker 4: she's gonna. A woman will marry you for security.

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Speaker 1: So you're telling him, go get it, go get.

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Speaker 3: It, get the job, right, yeah, man, Yeah, you know

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Speaker 3: many times I have to move for work.

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Speaker 1: We all have ye move with you. Yes, we're going,

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Speaker 1: we're going. We're going.

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Speaker 3: We live in New York, we live in Atlanta.

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Speaker 2: Right, you gotta do what you gotta do. Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: that's good advice. All right, Steve, here we go. We

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Speaker 2: got time for one more. Steve and nephew. Marva on

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Speaker 2: Steve Harvey FM rights. I've been married, Yah, Marva, all right,

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Speaker 2: Marvra on Steve HARVEYFM rights. I've been married just under

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Speaker 2: two years to someone I once thought was my person.

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Speaker 1: At first, everything was perfect.

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Speaker 2: We had the same goals, the same sense of humor,

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Speaker 2: the same dreams. But lately I feel like I'm vanishing

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Speaker 2: inside the relationship. I'm not working right now, and my

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Speaker 2: husband was okay with that, but now he's grown distant,

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Speaker 2: even passive, aggressive when I ask.

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Speaker 1: For money for the bills. When I think about.

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Speaker 2: Leaving, I hesitate because he's kind to others, says the

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Speaker 2: right things in front of friends, and I wonder if

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Speaker 2: I'm just being ungrateful. I've started emotionally pulling back, but

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that means it's time to go

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Speaker 2: or am I giving up too early? How do you

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Speaker 2: know when your heart is tired for a reason or not.

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Speaker 1: Not just overwhelmed. So there's a lot in that.

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Speaker 5: What do you think? Yeah, that's a lot in that.

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Speaker 5: You know, Look, I don't.

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Speaker 4: M's there's so much information we don't have to help

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Speaker 4: you deal with that. You know, men are going to

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Speaker 4: stress about the finances. They're gonna stress about the finances

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Speaker 4: because that's how he equates.

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Speaker 5: That's how he measures his his manhood, his value. We

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Speaker 5: measure it by our.

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Speaker 4: Work and what we bring to the table and contribute

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Speaker 4: to the to the UH, to the relationship.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm still guilty of that myself after all these years.

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Speaker 4: So he's not going to stop m HM wanting to.

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Speaker 5: Have a say so in it.

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Speaker 4: I think what has to happen is he has to

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Speaker 4: be convinced that you're not going to sink the ship

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Speaker 4: with your decisions. I think you all got to have

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Speaker 4: monthly meetings financially to discuss us moving forward what you're doing,

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Speaker 4: because if you don't. After two years of not discussing it,

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Speaker 4: all of a sudden you're saying stuff like he's grown

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Speaker 4: distance and he's checking me. Now, Well, y'all should be

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Speaker 4: having monthly meetings, and some of this could have been avoided.

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Speaker 5: Didn't lose a.

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Speaker 2: Job, you know, I don't know if she quit because

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Speaker 2: you said it was okay with it.

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Speaker 1: If you got fired, you have no choice.

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Speaker 3: When he said okay, it wasn't okay though when he

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Speaker 3: said it, it would clearly really but I chick forla

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Speaker 3: or something they got.

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Speaker 5: She got to get the job they had down there.

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Speaker 1: Chick for late now to say my pleasure. More of

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Speaker 1: today's trigger stories.

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Speaker 2: At twenty minutes after the hour, you're listening to the

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Speaker 2: Steve Harvey Morning Show