1 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for 2 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: joining us today. We're so excited to be back. Susan. 3 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: How are you doing? 4 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 2: I am so excited. Everything's starting the bloom, my grass 5 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 2: is growing. It looks so fresh outside. And welcome back everybody, 6 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 2: and thank you for tuning in today. And we will 7 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 2: be answering more of your fan questions, so make sure 8 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 2: you keep submitting those. We love it. Just go to 9 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 2: bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and submit away. 10 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: So we want to hear everything from you, your questions, 11 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: your updates, your comments, all that. It's really easy. You 12 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: just have to DM us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. 13 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 1: Please do it. 14 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 2: You got it? Okay, you ready. It's time to get 15 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 2: into the episode. We ready, Kathy, We're always ready with 16 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 2: the question of the day. Today's question of the day. 17 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 2: What does an ideal girls' night out look like for 18 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 2: you now versus when you were younger? 19 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: Okay, Susan, I'm feeling silly today. 20 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 2: What's changed girl? 21 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: Today? I can tell you what's changed when I go 22 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: out with the girls now. Instead of looking sexy at 23 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: the bar and you know, waiting for those guys to 24 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: approach me. I'm pointing, going what do you think of him? 25 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: What do you think of him? Which one who's gonna 26 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: go get him? I mean, seriously, girls not out for 27 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: me now is just getting together with friends, going to 28 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: a bar, a restaurant, to somebody's home, listening to music, 29 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: having wine, chit chatting, talking about clothes, you know, vacations. 30 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 2: The difference for me is now I do a fine restaurant. 31 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 2: Before it was just go right to the bar, let's 32 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 2: go get to rinks. You know what I mean. Okay, 33 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 2: it's about good dining. 34 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: And okay, you know where I'm going with this, Susan, 35 00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: because I've gone out to dinner with you many times. 36 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: When you go out with a bunch of girls and 37 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: you go to a fine restaurant or you go to 38 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: Mickey Dat's, how do you split the bill? 39 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 2: So usually we just split it evenly. There are times, 40 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 2: and there are certain people that I go out with 41 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:24,839 Speaker 2: that I know better and I'll either get to check 42 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 2: at the end before she starts with the espresso martinis. 43 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: So I thought people would drink. 44 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 2: More than others, And I like, when I go out 45 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 2: with you, you don't eat as much as we eat. 46 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: You instead of eat. So that's why we get along. 47 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: You are, but it's true. I mean I find that 48 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: women are more problematic with that's. 49 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 2: A lot of times. Well, I know people that will refrain, 50 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 2: won't want to come because they can't afford it. Or 51 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 2: you guys eat like crazy and you drink so much. 52 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 2: Some people bar billt or I mean, I've been known 53 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 2: to say, keep your tab yourself if you feel like 54 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 2: you can't chip in there, or in light they're only 55 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 2: having one cocktail. I don't have a problem. 56 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: I don't either. I'll tell you I've gone out with 57 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:15,959 Speaker 1: some of my friends. They're few and far between who 58 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: don't drink. But when I go out for drinks, if 59 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: I'm going to have a couple of you know whatever, vodka, sodas, 60 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: whatever I'm going to drink. 61 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 2: You're the te rainwater, dirt water or something ranch water. 62 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: It's a Texas strange. It's tequila, soda and lime dirt water. 63 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: Really that looks dirty. It's clear I'm tasted it. People 64 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: can I tell you good about it? Well? What cause 65 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: that's because you mean, what is that horrible stuff? Ammeretto? 66 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: What is it you drink? Ramagnie? Oh? 67 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: Please? 68 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's torture anyway. I'm just saying women are different 69 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: from men, but girls stand outs. I love it. But 70 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: the other difference is for me, some of my friends 71 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 1: are married or have serious boyfriends or a living together whatever, 72 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: and I'm single. So you know, it feels a little different. 73 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: Right when you're out with them. I'm trying to make 74 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: eyes at the handsome guy down at the bar, and 75 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: you know they're talking about their kids. 76 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 2: Never try, you know, I'm like oblivious to who's there. 77 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:17,599 Speaker 2: But you know what else is different, Kathy. When we 78 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 2: plan a girl's night out, it's usually a trip. It's 79 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:21,720 Speaker 2: like a week night. 80 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,159 Speaker 1: It's a week night out right, weeks. 81 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 2: It's like not one night, no, no, no, that's like 82 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 2: just a dinner. 83 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: Can I just say, though, you bring up another issue? 84 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: You know, we are trying to plan another little get 85 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: together with some of the women on the Golden Bachelor, 86 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: and can I just tell you it's a nightmare. It's 87 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: a nightmare. It would be easier to find the proverbial 88 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: needle in the haystack. In fact, I kind of want 89 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 1: to just go to like a farm stick a needle 90 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: in a haystack and say, hey, ladies, this is what 91 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: it's like. 92 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 2: I have an idea. 93 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 1: Okay, tell me. 94 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 2: I mean this year we got shot in the foot. 95 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 2: We just have to deal with all the chaos. But 96 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 2: for the future. Yeah, as a matter of fact, that 97 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 2: I believe we tried this. And ladies and gentlemen out there, 98 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 2: if you're listening, tell me how you work this. So 99 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 2: you go on a girl's trip, I think one person 100 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 2: finds the place. This is it. Would you like to 101 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 2: join us? This is the amount? These are the dates 102 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 2: when too many people are involved. This one don't want this, 103 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:28,719 Speaker 2: this one don't want that. There's not enough bathrooms, there's 104 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 2: not enough. Well let's try this. Now they're talking a 105 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 2: whole New Island enough, so. 106 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: You know what I'm can I just say, I am 107 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: so on your page is and I am going to 108 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: send out an email. Hey, this is where we're going, 109 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: and you want to come. This is what it's going 110 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 1: to cost you. We should have done that. 111 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:47,919 Speaker 2: We should have and I mean you and I booked 112 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 2: the place and they had a difference, so we had 113 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 2: to cancel it and we lost the place. Although they 114 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 2: are finding some decent places. 115 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: But well, let me just say on Girls Week Out, 116 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: the last thing I'm going to do if none of 117 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,359 Speaker 1: this fail, If all of this fails, I'm going to 118 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 1: book a one bedroom and I'm going by myself, and 119 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 1: you're gonna entertain me. 120 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 2: I hear that. I'll be there, you know that. 121 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: All Right, So, now that we've got Girls' Nights, Girls Weeks, 122 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: Girls Month. 123 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 2: Do you not want to hear from people out there? 124 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 2: I'm sure there are stories. I mean, has it ruined 125 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 2: any relationships of girlfriends trying to plan a trip? I'm 126 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 2: sure there's going to be a ton of stories on 127 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 2: this one. 128 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, let us know again. Just go to Bachelor nation 129 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: dot com, slash Golden Hour, send us your comments, send 130 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: us how you do that. We would love to know. 131 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: Maybe we could learn something here, Susan how to plan 132 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: the best girls trip? Tail? All right, We're going to 133 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: get into our fan questions, and I'm going to get 134 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: started with the first one. We love our fan questions. 135 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: First one's from Kimmy. She writes, Hi, Kathy and Susan, 136 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: I love you too, And my own mom and I 137 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 1: are estranged, so I'm coming to my podcast moms for 138 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: some advice. Okay, that's sad. You We're here, sweety, We're here. 139 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: For you, Kimmy. Okay, hope that's okay, It absolutely is. 140 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: I've been with my boyfriend for five years now, and 141 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: we recently moved in together. I'm about to sound so 142 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: bratty and ungrateful, so please forgive me. But he keeps 143 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: buying me really expensive designer gifts that I don't like 144 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: or want and didn't ask for, Susan, could we get 145 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: Kimmy to send her stuff to us? Can I just 146 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: interrupt there? Can we get her decided to us? Okay again, 147 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: I know that sounds bratty, says Kimmy, but now that 148 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: we are splitting bills and living together, his spending on 149 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: that kind of stuff impacts both of us, and I 150 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 1: really don't need these gifts. So far, I haven't worn 151 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: any of them or use any of them because they're 152 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: not really my style. And he's been so sweet, and 153 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: I've told him I don't need these kind of gifts, 154 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: but he keeps getting them for me. Whenever I open them, 155 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: he asks if I love it, and I never know 156 00:07:56,560 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: what to say. I've tried communicating to him that I 157 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: so will appreciate the gesture, but I just prefer spending 158 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: time with him and would rather spend our money on experiences. 159 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 1: It doesn't seem like the messages are getting across, and 160 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do or how to act 161 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: when he gets me more fancy items. Please help. I 162 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: know this is a quote good problem to have, it 163 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: certainly is. But if we're gonna get married, like we 164 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: talk about, I don't want to create bad spending habits. Now, 165 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: thank you and I love you both, oh boy. 166 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 2: So first and foremost, you've got to be honest. If 167 00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 2: you open and say, oh my god, you are so sweet, 168 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 2: I love you for thinking of me. However, I don't 169 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 2: care for it, and I know you're spending a lot 170 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 2: of money. I don't want you to waste money. You 171 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 2: got to be It's communication, one of our cardinal rules. Yeah, 172 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 2: you've got to be honest. 173 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: Yes you do, my friend. Here's what I would say. 174 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: I agree with most of what you're saying, which is scary. 175 00:08:58,040 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 2: What don't you agree with? 176 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: Don't think she should say she doesn't like them. If 177 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 1: it were me, I would have the trajectory of the 178 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: conversation move towards Hey, we're talking about getting married. Let's 179 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: set a budget and you know, for gifts for each other. 180 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 1: Let's set this amount. So you're not saying I don't 181 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: like it. 182 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 2: You're saying, but we need a budget and that. 183 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 1: But that's them I understand. But that's neither here nor there. 184 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: If he's at this point, if he is spending I'm 185 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: making the number up, Kimmy. If he's spending two thousand 186 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: dollars a month on gifts for you and buys you 187 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:40,439 Speaker 1: a gorgeous handbag that you're not using, okay, that's one thing. 188 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: But if you're talking about getting married, say, hey, boyfriend, 189 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: let's sit and talk about our budget, and I would 190 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 1: like to make a budget for groceries, for food, for entertainment, 191 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: for gift giving, and then set it for a reasonable amount. 192 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,320 Speaker 1: So you know what if if he buys you something 193 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,440 Speaker 1: for two hundred dollars and your budget's four hundred, you 194 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: know what, put in the closet and regift it later. 195 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 1: Don't don't offend him. 196 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 2: But Betsy, what if what if he has plenty of 197 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 2: money and money is not an. 198 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:15,439 Speaker 1: Issue, but that he's just joyed Susan gifting her Susan. 199 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: There is always more month than money. Therefore you always 200 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: have to have a budget. It may look more generous 201 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: to some people than others. But you know, and if 202 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:29,439 Speaker 1: you got that much money, you should be saving and investing. 203 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:32,840 Speaker 1: So that's what I would say, Kimmy, have Susan's right, 204 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: have the honest talk with him. But I wouldn't say 205 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:36,559 Speaker 1: I don't like the gifts. 206 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 2: I would because you're not going to use it, You're 207 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:41,199 Speaker 2: not going to wear it, and he's going to wonder 208 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,280 Speaker 2: why baby, It's just not my style. But you know what, 209 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 2: I would buy me somewhere every once in a while, 210 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 2: take me with you, let me pick it out, and 211 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 2: then I will love it again. 212 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: I think that the I think that's hurting his feelings 213 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: if he buys you an uglily blouse. My husband used 214 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: to buy me things that I didn't like. You know, 215 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,439 Speaker 1: I'd wear it one time, it would go to the 216 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 1: back of the closet events I would get on to 217 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: waste the money. Well, but you know what, it's his 218 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: money to waste and until you get married. And that's 219 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: why I said, have the conversation about a budget. Can 220 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: we let us know and gifts to me, we'll fight 221 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: over them. You know, you want to get rid of room. 222 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:23,840 Speaker 1: We know just where they should go. I want to 223 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:27,079 Speaker 1: know does he Hey, Kimmy, where's his father? And does 224 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: he get good gifts? 225 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for sharing that with us. But 226 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:35,679 Speaker 2: that's a tough problem to have, really, I mean, I mean, yes, 227 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 2: you sound brady Jesus. I mean it is what it is. 228 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 2: Thank goodness, you found a man that wants to spoil you. 229 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 2: You have to look at that side of it as well. 230 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It's it's so many good things there, 231 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: you know, where the gut. 232 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 2: You know, we're going to want to save and get 233 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 2: the best house you want. 234 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: But I bet that Susan how much you want to 235 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,840 Speaker 1: bet they have not had a conversation yet. That's about 236 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:05,719 Speaker 1: about no, no, no, not about her likes and dislikes, about budgeting. 237 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: How much are we going to say, how much are 238 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: we going to invest? How much you're yeah, but that 239 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily include I hate that damn bluse you bought me. 240 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 2: No, that's not how you approach it either, you know, 241 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:19,640 Speaker 2: But yes, I get it, I get it. We wish 242 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 2: you a ton of luck les. 243 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 1: Let us know, and by the way, let us know 244 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: when you get married. I happen to know a very 245 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: good wedding efficient. Her name is Susan. I'm sure she 246 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: would love to come and do your wedding as long 247 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:31,680 Speaker 1: as you invite me as well. 248 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 2: She's my plus one, that's right. The next one is 249 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 2: from Marie. Hello, Golden beauties. Oh that sounds nice. I 250 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 2: am sixty almost sixty one, and I'm a widow of 251 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 2: almost five years, still single. I've not dated anyone in 252 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 2: twenty three years, and let's just say there's been no 253 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 2: intimacy in five years. I felt invisible and undesirable for 254 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 2: a long time now, even though I feel beautiful and 255 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:11,680 Speaker 2: I know I am young at heart and have a 256 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 2: lot of living to do. Well, I'm glad you said that, Marie. Recently, 257 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 2: while on vacation, I met someone who lives in another 258 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 2: country quite far from me. Oh you don't say there 259 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 2: was an immediate and quite intense attraction that was felt 260 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 2: by both of us. I've not felt that in a 261 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 2: long time, all caps. He is nineteen years my junior. 262 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 2: There was no chance to talk really, since I was 263 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:45,719 Speaker 2: leaving the very next day. We are Facebook friends in 264 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 2: chat the odd time. He is also in a band. 265 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 2: They are touring this summer and will be in my city, 266 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 2: and I plan to see them. He knows I'll be there, 267 00:13:56,920 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 2: so lovely is here's my question? Bad if I just 268 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 2: laid it all out and let him know I'm interested 269 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 2: in a little fun if you catch my drift. No ties, 270 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 2: no great love affair, just sex. Women are always looking 271 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 2: women are always looked at as cougars, but men do 272 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 2: it all the time and people don't blink an eye. Yet, 273 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 2: even writing this and asking the question is making me 274 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 2: feel like there is something wrong with me, even though 275 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 2: I know there isn't. I would so much appreciate your wisdom. 276 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your time. Oh my goodness, 277 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 2: that is a no brainer. Girlfriend? 278 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 1: You do you? 279 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 2: Do you? First of all? 280 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 1: I actually think she's a smart woman. 281 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 2: Yes she is. Well, I was a little taken what 282 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 2: they immediately have this attraction and they're Facebook friends and 283 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 2: they're chatting. Why not make it a long distance relationship? 284 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 2: You just want to do one bang and go when 285 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 2: he comes into town? Get it? You could go bang 286 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 2: any time any months you've picked. 287 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 1: I mean, I think there's so much more to unpack 288 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: here than just having sex, as there usually is in anything. 289 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 1: I think. You know, sometimes you meet someone and something 290 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 1: comes of it when you meet them long distance. Sometimes 291 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: it's just, oh my gosh, you're so fun. I had 292 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 1: a great time. You hug and kiss and it's nothing, 293 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: and then you know, you go and see him when 294 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,160 Speaker 1: he's in town or whatever. Sometimes it's more than that. 295 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 1: I think there's nothing wrong in her sa I personally, Uh, Marie, 296 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 1: I would not say you want to have sex, but 297 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 1: that's not the kind of person I am. Just tell 298 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: them you want to see him when you have time. 299 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 1: I would. I would approach it a little more softly. 300 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 1: I would say, hey, when you're in town, would you 301 00:15:56,160 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: have time to maybe go to dinner with me? When 302 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: you said let's have a little band on the road, well, 303 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, on the bus before they're in. 304 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 2: The hotel room, they don't have time to go to dinner. 305 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 1: You know what it is. You're not going to like 306 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: my answer. My answer would be spend some time going Maria, 307 00:16:24,560 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: going on, starting a website, joining some clubs if you 308 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: you know, if you just want to get a hook up, 309 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 1: there's lots of websites out there in your hometown where 310 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: you can do that. 311 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 2: Well, she likes this one. Well she wants to be 312 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 2: okay with getting the hook up. Then why couldn't she 313 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 2: hook up with the guy that she's attracted to? 314 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: She can, but it seems like a lot of work. 315 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 1: You don't work. 316 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:47,400 Speaker 2: She don't have to do anything. She wants. Her question 317 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 2: to us? 318 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 1: Should she lay it all out there? 319 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 2: Should she explain it? Do not? He's in a band, 320 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 2: he gets it. He does this all the time. Use protection, please. 321 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: You and I are very different than you imagine teen 322 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,520 Speaker 1: year younger man. Wait a minute, Oh my god, could 323 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: of course you do? Could you imagine me reaching out 324 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: to any man ever ever and saying I want to 325 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,600 Speaker 1: hook I mean, it's just it's foreign to me. But 326 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:20,439 Speaker 1: did you see the guy to reach out to me? 327 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 2: It's been five years since she had any sex, right, 328 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:26,360 Speaker 2: she started to feel invisible. But she knows she's good. 329 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:30,199 Speaker 2: She knows she's young at heart. She wants to feel alive, 330 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:34,120 Speaker 2: and she realizes that she can't do this long distance thing. 331 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 2: So he's coming. 332 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: Go for it. I say, go for it, but that 333 00:17:40,480 --> 00:17:43,920 Speaker 1: go for when you see him. Less is more. If 334 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 1: let's go out, let a play out, go to the band, 335 00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: say hey, you want to got a drink? I don't 336 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 1: apparently band members you know, come into town, play music? 337 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: How sex and leave according to you, So I don't 338 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,400 Speaker 1: know that's how they you realize you're throwing all band 339 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:00,399 Speaker 1: members not members. 340 00:18:00,400 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 2: I'm not saying, but this is how she's asking me 341 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 2: this question. I don't think you need to write the 342 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 2: rule book out and explain it to him. He's going 343 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 2: to think you're crazy. 344 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, And if it were me, Maria, I would spend 345 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 1: a little more time trying to develop a life where 346 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 1: you are and try to make a relationship a what's 347 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:24,679 Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say, A connection? That was a 348 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:25,960 Speaker 1: tough word for today. 349 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 2: If you're trying to make a connection, traction, that's an 350 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 2: ex But. 351 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, you know, if you want to find 352 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: someone to be attracted to, and you live in Bayone, 353 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 1: New Jersey, check out Bayone, you don't have to go 354 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:38,120 Speaker 1: to Sicily. 355 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:42,120 Speaker 2: She doesn't want any ties. This guy's going to fall 356 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 2: in love with that. But men do it all the time. 357 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: Anybody ever say except for Katy, she does say. 358 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 1: She does say I want a real guy. I don't 359 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 1: want a guy who's got a woman in every port. 360 00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 2: I understand what we're talking about. Marie. Well, I'm not 361 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:01,760 Speaker 2: just wants to feel alive. 362 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:04,119 Speaker 1: But do you think that's all she wants. 363 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:07,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, because she says it right here. I'm interested in 364 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 2: a little fun if you catch my drift, No ties, 365 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 2: no great love affair, just sex. 366 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 1: Then Maria interview in every way imaginable and makes up 367 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 1: for the last five years. 368 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 2: There's nothing like an orgasm. Let me know how good 369 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:33,240 Speaker 2: he was. Oh my god, Simpson, Kathy, it's life. 370 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:36,199 Speaker 1: It is life. But I'm just saying to it. 371 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 2: I don't judge him. 372 00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 1: I'm not judging her to I'm trying to be delicate 373 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: here because I am a lady of culture and good manners. 374 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:47,960 Speaker 1: I am trying to say, you don't have to go 375 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:51,439 Speaker 1: to this much effort to have sex. If that's what 376 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:52,159 Speaker 1: effort is. 377 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 2: And he's come to town, there's no effort. Think about it. 378 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 2: He's coming in. She knows, he knows, he knows she's 379 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:01,680 Speaker 2: going to be They're not interested. 380 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:04,679 Speaker 1: She spend a lot of time on this whole deal. Go, 381 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 1: you know, Okay, there are hook up sites. That's what 382 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 1: I would recommend. Go get get a hold up and 383 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 1: get him tested first. 384 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 2: Honey, make sure he wears protection and enjoy yourself. 385 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well, I love this. 386 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:22,520 Speaker 2: I love this. You are alive. You are not invisible. 387 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:25,879 Speaker 2: You are not dead yet. Let me tell you. Enjoy yourself, 388 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:26,600 Speaker 2: but be careful. 389 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:30,160 Speaker 1: And I hope, and I hope, I hope that she's 390 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 1: not disappointed if he just thought he'd never see her again. 391 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,360 Speaker 1: And it was just a like, hey, sweet babes and nice. 392 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:37,800 Speaker 2: See that's what she's saying. 393 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,200 Speaker 1: I know, I hope, I hope it comes to more 394 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,639 Speaker 1: in that he really does not be nice. Wouldn't it 395 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:47,040 Speaker 1: be nice? I don't know. And you know what, let's 396 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 1: I love it. 397 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:49,639 Speaker 2: She was real, she was honest, and she was a 398 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:51,920 Speaker 2: little embarrassed to ask. But I'm so glad you did. 399 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 2: He's so real. 400 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:54,199 Speaker 1: He's forty. 401 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 2: I get it. He's ford the math. 402 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: Hey listen, well he's about to be. He's forty or 403 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: forty one, forty two. Actually, if he's nineteen years. 404 00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 2: Old, he's prime. 405 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 1: Oh, Susan, can I just say. 406 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:10,840 Speaker 2: I'm just thinking of how good she's gonna feel. 407 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:12,479 Speaker 1: Or maybe not? 408 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:14,120 Speaker 2: I need that too. 409 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 1: Okay, this is an e what is this? We're not 410 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 1: X rated podcast? Here? Jesus, Susan, you want to take 411 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:21,440 Speaker 1: a break? 412 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 2: Here rad it miss very Mary over here, come on, 413 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 2: go do it. Marie and you don't have to tell 414 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 2: anybody nobody else. 415 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 1: Let us tell Marie no, absolutely, And you're right, Marie, 416 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy nineteen years younger. 417 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: I think I think men are way too focused on 418 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 1: always dating the younger women. So good for you. I hope, 419 00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 1: I hope the sex turns into more if you want 420 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:51,360 Speaker 1: it to. Nothing worried nineteen years So what garble is good? 421 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 2: If he could be a dud, Thank you, Harry. I 422 00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 2: love it. 423 00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:00,119 Speaker 1: So Marie, please please reach out to Susan personally and 424 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 1: let her know if this guy was dud, because she's 425 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:04,919 Speaker 1: apparently willing to give him lessons, so you know, we 426 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 1: could make this good for everybody. All Right, we're bringing on. 427 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: We're going to play would you rather Susan? Oh boy, 428 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,720 Speaker 1: we're good, okay, And Susan, would you rather sleep with 429 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 1: a guy nineteen years younger or nineteen years older? Okay? 430 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,919 Speaker 1: I'm that was a joke. I'm going to read the 431 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 1: prompts and then we're going to answer not. 432 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 2: You think years older than I am? Right now, I 433 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 2: don't think he's going to be good along? 434 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:37,120 Speaker 1: Oh lord? Okay, uh, we're going to say what we'd 435 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: rather did what we would rather do. But it's going 436 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 1: to be me saying what I would rather do, you 437 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,199 Speaker 1: saying what you would rather do, not you telling me 438 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 1: what I would rather got it, Susan struggling. Susan on 439 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:48,960 Speaker 1: the struggles with that one. All right, here we go. 440 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 1: The first one is would you rather date someone who 441 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 1: never texts back or someone who never stops texting? 442 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:02,199 Speaker 2: Who never stops texting? Because if he doesn't answer me, 443 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 2: my brain's going to work over time? 444 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: Can I just okay, Kathy? As Kathy's going to give 445 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:14,159 Speaker 1: a little commentary hair Susan date someone in particular, and 446 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: she'll call me and say I haven't heard from him, 447 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: and I'm like, in how long? Twenty minutes? She's freaking out. 448 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know, maybe he's in the bathroom 449 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: just a titch an hour, So you know, for us, yes, 450 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 1: I would rather have a guy text. Actually, I'd rather 451 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: text answers. 452 00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 2: Immediately all the time and then all of a sudden that, Kathy, 453 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:35,400 Speaker 2: you do it yourself. 454 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,679 Speaker 1: If I don't answer, that's because you're my friend and 455 00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 1: I worry about you. 456 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,119 Speaker 2: What would trust me? 457 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 1: Trust me? I don't want to date you good? 458 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 2: What would you rather same. 459 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:51,200 Speaker 1: We agree, We agree, Okay, I'm sorry. I would absolutely. 460 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: I love attention. I love it when a man texts 461 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,800 Speaker 1: me or calls me. I got to say though, just 462 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 1: before we move on texting For me, like often I'll say, 463 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,440 Speaker 1: can I call you? If I'm texting with someone? 464 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 2: Your phone call? Girl? 465 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,120 Speaker 1: Well, because I struggle with you know. 466 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 2: I think between the lines, and there's. 467 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 1: So much that is you can't read the emotion on 468 00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:14,360 Speaker 1: a text. 469 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:16,440 Speaker 2: You just get so easy to text. 470 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 1: Well, I do voice text or use your fingers. 471 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:21,880 Speaker 2: I do voice text. And sometimes they'll call me and say, 472 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 2: do you know what you said? I gotten that in proofread. 473 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:31,359 Speaker 1: But would you rather text or call with your boyfriend? Both? 474 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 2: I do both? 475 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:33,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. 476 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 2: I text is easy. It gets a little stuff out 477 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 2: of the way. When you do a phone call, it's 478 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 2: it's different. 479 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 1: No, But if you're having a conversation about something, well, 480 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 1: I know people who just want to text. I can't. 481 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,919 Speaker 2: I like the morning text and the good night text, 482 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 2: and you have a phone call at some point. But yeah, 483 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 2: I don't mind texting all right, Moving on, Would you 484 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 2: rather catch your partner lying about a small thing every 485 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:03,359 Speaker 2: day or one huge, huge lie one time you know. 486 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:04,439 Speaker 1: This is a tough one for me. 487 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 2: Questions this is tough. 488 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: Well, it's I'll tell you why it's tough for me. 489 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: There's there's two. 490 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 1: Things in a relationship that I can't abide. I really can't. 491 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 1: One is cheating. Well, actually there's three things that I 492 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 1: can't abide. The first one is cheating, the second one 493 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,359 Speaker 1: is cheating, the third one is lying. I just can't 494 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: so a little lie of big lie, I don't know. 495 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:32,479 Speaker 1: My mind would go if these line to me, you know, 496 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,119 Speaker 1: I mean if he says like I like fried eggs 497 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,600 Speaker 1: and he's lying because they want scrambled eggs, Okay, it's 498 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 1: no big deal. But what's a small lie? And to me, 499 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,040 Speaker 1: a small lie sometimes just goes. 500 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 2: Into bad life. He's going to tell a little fib. 501 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 2: I'm not going to trust you as far as I 502 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,679 Speaker 2: could pick you up and throw you, and one huge 503 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 2: one could be the end. 504 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,879 Speaker 1: So that's what I'm saying. Either way, it's not a 505 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 1: good thing. 506 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:55,880 Speaker 2: I don't do liars. 507 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:05,679 Speaker 1: Wait, I'm gonna put you on the spot here. What 508 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 1: are your absolute drop dead I'm done with. 509 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:16,639 Speaker 2: You lie, cheating and stealing or being ignorant to people. 510 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:21,960 Speaker 2: To other people, you mean, rude, disrespectful, disrespect is just. 511 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 1: You know what, here we go down this route. That's 512 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:28,480 Speaker 1: actually a good one too. You know, if I go 513 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:31,600 Speaker 1: out with a guy and he's very rude to the surfs, 514 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,720 Speaker 1: white staff, yeah, that will not be a second day 515 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 1: because that tells me a lot. How I need you know? Yeah, okay, 516 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: all right, here's the next one. Would you rather always 517 00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 1: be the heartbreaker or always be the heartbroken? It's these always, 518 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:52,800 Speaker 1: it's these superlatives always. What about what says for me? 519 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 2: I rarely am the one that gets their heartbroke. I've 520 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,359 Speaker 2: always been the heartbreaker. We've talked about this before. Takes 521 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,879 Speaker 2: me forever. The end the relationships, I always feel bad. 522 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 1: And Susan, you've improved in recent times. You get no 523 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:12,359 Speaker 1: dates such, You've gotten better about breaking those hearts on 524 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 1: a really quickly. 525 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 2: Yeah. 526 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,160 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't like my heart being broken, 527 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,399 Speaker 1: and I don't want to break someone else's heart. I 528 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:21,160 Speaker 1: just wish I had someone's heart. 529 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,439 Speaker 2: Well, if you had to make a choice. 530 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:31,320 Speaker 1: I can't because it's always I don't deal in some protus. 531 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: I can't say that. I just can't. 532 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 2: And she hasn't been out in the world and had 533 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 2: to break hearts because she was married since she was twelve. 534 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 1: No, id, A couple of guys have broken their hearts. 535 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,480 Speaker 2: But okay, I didn't like it, and you're the one 536 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 2: that stopped it. You didn't have your heartbroke, so you 537 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 2: don't know what it feels like to have your heart broke. 538 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: Trust me, when my husband left this world. 539 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:53,639 Speaker 2: My heart please, that's totally different. 540 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,120 Speaker 1: Well, I have had my heart broken. 541 00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,960 Speaker 2: And that's the only time. Like a boyfriend didn't break up. 542 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:02,120 Speaker 1: In high school, I did. But I mean, you know, no, 543 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,160 Speaker 1: not no, not since then? 544 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,719 Speaker 2: Would you rather go on a perfect date with someone 545 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:11,400 Speaker 2: who ghost you or a terrible date with someone obsessed 546 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 2: with you? 547 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 1: Oh? No brain, or I'll take the perfect date? 548 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, asshole? Ghost me? 549 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,800 Speaker 1: I mean, of course I know you, Susan, and I 550 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 1: know me. If I had this perfect romantic date and 551 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,399 Speaker 1: I thought, oh my gosh, I've met the guy and 552 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: I've made the connection with him and we can't wait 553 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,879 Speaker 1: to see each other again, I'd be so excited and 554 00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 1: then he ghosts me. I would start saying it's a heartbreak, 555 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:37,920 Speaker 1: and it would be what did I do? What? You know? 556 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: What I do wrong? So that would not be what happened? 557 00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 1: All right? Oh, here's one for you, Susan. Would you 558 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: rather fall in love on vacation, never see them again, 559 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: or never fall in love but travel with friends forever? 560 00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 2: Never see them again, or never fall in love but 561 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 2: travel with friend I like traveling with my friends forever. 562 00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 2: If I fell in love on vacation, trust and believe me, 563 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 2: I'd see them again. 564 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 1: Oh can I just say? You can put sixteen bibles 565 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 1: in front of me and I can swear to that one. 566 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 1: Trust and believe, Susan, Trust and believer. It's happening. It 567 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 1: happens regularly with this girl. Now, okay, would. 568 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 2: You rather find out your ex is dating? Why? 569 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:31,240 Speaker 1: You're nemesis? 570 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:31,960 Speaker 2: What? 571 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 1: Or your favorite? We're skipping that one. 572 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 2: It's a nemesis, Cathy. 573 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:40,000 Speaker 1: A nemesis is someone that you really don't like, someone 574 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 1: that is against you, someone that doesn't support me. 575 00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 2: You know that. 576 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 1: Yes, A nemesis is someone you know who would like 577 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 1: to bring you down. It's not a good person. A 578 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:51,520 Speaker 1: nemesis is never. 579 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,200 Speaker 2: I gathered that, but I didn't know if you were friends? 580 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 2: Is that what it meant? But okay, what would you 581 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 2: rather find out your ex is dating? Somebody that you 582 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 2: don't care, or or your favorite celebrity. 583 00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, and I'm being deadly serious. I don't 584 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: care who my ex is dating. He's an ex. Do 585 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:15,040 Speaker 1: you care? Would you care? Who cares? Dont knock yourself out? 586 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:16,560 Speaker 1: You know what I would say? 587 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 2: I would like it if he dated the nemesis because 588 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 2: I'd be like, if they deserve each other. 589 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: And I would be like if if he broke up 590 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:29,400 Speaker 1: with me, I would be like, yeah, he deserves that one. 591 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,520 Speaker 1: Go ahead, yeah, go ahead, knock yourself out. You'll have 592 00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:36,920 Speaker 1: a blast. Okay. Would you rather be publicly dumped on 593 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:41,120 Speaker 1: social media or accidentally announce your breakup while thinking you're 594 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: dming a friend? Go for it girl. 595 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:50,360 Speaker 2: For me, it's easy one. 596 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:55,000 Speaker 1: I would. I would. I would announce the breakup to 597 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:59,600 Speaker 1: a friend. Yeah I don't. I can't. I mean, nobody 598 00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 1: wants to be social media. That's just I don't know. 599 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 1: But I don't know. But I don't want to be dumped. 600 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: I don't want to be dump period. Listen right there, 601 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:10,160 Speaker 1: But I certainly don't want to be dumped on social media. 602 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 1: What about you? Which would you take? 603 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:12,680 Speaker 2: Same? 604 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, go ahead? 605 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:18,920 Speaker 2: Would you rather take relationship advice from your drunk best friend? 606 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,680 Speaker 2: Or you're emotionally distant death? 607 00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:24,160 Speaker 1: Can I answer this? 608 00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 2: Sure? 609 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 1: I actually believe when people are drunk. I thought this 610 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,160 Speaker 1: since I was a kid, and they speak of the truth. 611 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:40,320 Speaker 1: So if drunk and tells me something, I'm going to 612 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,800 Speaker 1: I'm going to listen to it because it may be 613 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 1: right or wrong, but it's what they really think. 614 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:49,360 Speaker 2: Anybody that says emotionally distant like forget it. 615 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're emotional who they don't have any good advice 616 00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 1: if they're just words? Okay? Would you rather find the 617 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:03,320 Speaker 1: one but have them hate your best friend? Or never 618 00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 1: beat the one? Or never meet the one but have 619 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:07,800 Speaker 1: perfect friendships forever? 620 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 2: No brainer? 621 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:10,280 Speaker 1: What's you're answer? 622 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,160 Speaker 2: I could find the one and they hate my best friend, 623 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 2: will work around it. It's the one, it's the one, 624 00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:20,200 Speaker 2: and you can still have a relationship with your friend. Yeah, 625 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,240 Speaker 2: just because they don't get along, that's fine. 626 00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:28,000 Speaker 1: That's in your case. Aren't you lucky you have both? Okay? 627 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: Would you rather tell your best friend their partner is 628 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,720 Speaker 1: cheating or stay quiet and risk the friendship? You're not 629 00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,160 Speaker 1: risking the friendship if you If you're risking the friendship 630 00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 1: by staying quiet. It's not a friendship. What do you say? 631 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,240 Speaker 2: It's true, it's a tough one. There's a time and 632 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 2: a place, and it would depend on the situation. But 633 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,080 Speaker 2: I would probably have to tell my best friend. But 634 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,880 Speaker 2: I wouldn't be jumping at the gil when it first happened, 635 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 2: like I would give it some thought. 636 00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:59,080 Speaker 1: Okay, so she's going through I'm not. But if I 637 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 1: were dating, so one would be just let's put it 638 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 1: directly to us. Would you call me and tell. 639 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,240 Speaker 2: Me now I'd have to be in your face. Okay, 640 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:12,120 Speaker 2: that over the phone. 641 00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:16,280 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, would you tell me? Because I think you would, yes, 642 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,600 Speaker 1: and I would tell you, Yes, I would. 643 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,479 Speaker 2: That's what friends do. Would you rather date your best 644 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:26,440 Speaker 2: friend's sibling or have your best friend date your sibling. 645 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a susan he or both. 646 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't matter to each of them. 647 00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 1: Okay. Would you rather find out your bestie doesn't like 648 00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 1: your partner or your partner doesn't like your bestie? 649 00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 2: That's the same as the other one. 650 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:41,440 Speaker 1: Who cares? 651 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,760 Speaker 2: I mean, if you had to pick if would you 652 00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:49,280 Speaker 2: rather find out that your bestie doesn't like your partner 653 00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:54,400 Speaker 2: or your partner does, So if what would be better? 654 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:58,920 Speaker 2: Think about that one? If you didn't like my boyfriend, 655 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 2: or if my boyfriend didn't like you, what's easier to 656 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:03,080 Speaker 2: cope with? 657 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:05,200 Speaker 1: For me? 658 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:15,880 Speaker 2: I would probably say I'd rather have my best be 659 00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 2: not like my so. 660 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,440 Speaker 1: You would like me. You would rather have me not 661 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:21,279 Speaker 1: like your boyfriend. 662 00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:22,359 Speaker 2: Than my boyfriend not like you? 663 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:23,799 Speaker 1: Really? Yeah? 664 00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:24,920 Speaker 2: I think I don't know. 665 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a tough one. Listen. As soon as I 666 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,920 Speaker 1: get a boyfriend, I would ask you that question again. 667 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:31,560 Speaker 1: All right? 668 00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,480 Speaker 2: Would you rather be the friend who always gives advice 669 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:40,879 Speaker 2: but never follows it or the friend who overshares and 670 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 2: disappears when things get bad? 671 00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,200 Speaker 1: What what do you think? 672 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,319 Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, I give a lot of good advice and 673 00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:53,680 Speaker 2: I don't always follow my own advice a men, But 674 00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:57,560 Speaker 2: I never disappeared the world. I stay true. 675 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:01,680 Speaker 1: I love Susan. Susan will give great advice and then 676 00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:04,799 Speaker 1: she'll call me and she's upset about something else. Can 677 00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,080 Speaker 1: you follow my own advice and I'll see remember that 678 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,399 Speaker 1: advice you gave? Like? What what do you think? 679 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,279 Speaker 2: In there listening to? Well, we talked about therpy, right, 680 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,359 Speaker 2: I went to therapy. I'm sure everybody has it one 681 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,880 Speaker 2: time or another. And I realized after about six eight months, 682 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:22,160 Speaker 2: they're not giving me answers. I'm hearing myself talk. I 683 00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 2: know what's wrong. I don't fix it because I don't 684 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 2: listen to myself, or. 685 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:31,440 Speaker 1: Or you don't want to fix it or that whatever, 686 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:35,920 Speaker 1: you know. Moving on here? Would you rather, oh, would 687 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:39,280 Speaker 1: you rather lose your best friend over a dating disaster 688 00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:44,320 Speaker 1: or never be able to date anyone they disapprove of? Okay, 689 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:49,319 Speaker 1: that's brutal. What I don't want to lose my best friend. 690 00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:50,920 Speaker 2: I'm never losing my best friend. I'm not. 691 00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 1: I'm not losing you. 692 00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,680 Speaker 2: Never be able to date anyone? Well, what if they 693 00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 2: didn't like anybody? No, they can't control. 694 00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,480 Speaker 1: That's that's one that we're just you know, if you're 695 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:05,800 Speaker 1: if if, first of all, if you and I didn't 696 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:09,160 Speaker 1: become friend, are lost our friendship because of the dating disaster, 697 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,880 Speaker 1: that's ridiculous. I'd come and wring your neck. That's not happening. 698 00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:18,040 Speaker 2: So never be able to date anyone they disapprove of? Well, 699 00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:22,040 Speaker 2: who I date? It doesn't matter what you think? You 700 00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,719 Speaker 2: know what I mean, it's what it's that's crazy question. 701 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,960 Speaker 1: I agree, I think you know I think a lot 702 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:30,239 Speaker 1: of these questions. In my mind, it has to do 703 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:34,640 Speaker 1: with respecting your friends or your whoever, your best of 704 00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:39,359 Speaker 1: your friend, your sister, your whoever. Their decision, their decisions. 705 00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:43,080 Speaker 1: It is their life to live. It's there you can't control. 706 00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,640 Speaker 1: You can only control your own life, not other people's. 707 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:51,160 Speaker 2: Your best friend is your best friend. A friendship is 708 00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:52,400 Speaker 2: a big word. 709 00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:53,799 Speaker 1: Remember that. 710 00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:57,239 Speaker 2: A lot of meaning it does, it does, and a 711 00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:01,520 Speaker 2: lot of feelings. So yeah, yeah, all right, that was deep. 712 00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:05,120 Speaker 1: That was really deep. I don't know, Susan, let me 713 00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:08,520 Speaker 1: summarize this, uh, spring in the air, No, let me 714 00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:13,200 Speaker 1: summarize this whole fans. There's magic in the air. There 715 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 1: is dating in the air. You can't date anyone that 716 00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:19,080 Speaker 1: don't disapprove of. You've got to find me a guy, 717 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,160 Speaker 1: and apparently you're gonna have sex with him. He lives 718 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,719 Speaker 1: in Israel, and Susan's gonna travel have sex with a 719 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,440 Speaker 1: guy if he's in the band. Oh, and if he's 720 00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,759 Speaker 1: in the band, and by the way, he's not having 721 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,719 Speaker 1: time for dinner. And by the way, it's going to 722 00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:32,319 Speaker 1: be on the bus and the other guys are sitting 723 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:32,839 Speaker 1: there for the bus. 724 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:38,840 Speaker 2: I was never a groupie? Were you? Why did I 725 00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,560 Speaker 2: even ask my husband? My ex husband was a professional athlete, 726 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:46,480 Speaker 2: and the girls, the groupies I guess you'd call them, 727 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,839 Speaker 2: would line up when we go out to the car, 728 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,680 Speaker 2: and I'd be like, holy shit, it was like you 729 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:56,120 Speaker 2: were a rock star. Athletes get tons of these girls, 730 00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:59,799 Speaker 2: and they do. I'm sure they want to be with them, 731 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 2: but they're willing to do the one night stand thing too. 732 00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:03,360 Speaker 2: It's crazy. 733 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,279 Speaker 1: Don't say all of them, Listen. I may not have 734 00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:08,600 Speaker 1: been a groupie. I'm just a old I'm just kind 735 00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,319 Speaker 1: of old fashioned. Like I'm just a nice person that 736 00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:15,160 Speaker 1: you know, wants, wants the real relationship. I don't want 737 00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:19,360 Speaker 1: to I don't want to chase guys down in bars whatever. 738 00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:23,319 Speaker 2: But when it comes to was it Marie's case and 739 00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:26,920 Speaker 2: she's been alone for five years and she really had 740 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:30,759 Speaker 2: a physical attraction to this person and he's coming in 741 00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:31,440 Speaker 2: and leaving? 742 00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:35,120 Speaker 1: Is this the wait, Susan, I got to say something 743 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,799 Speaker 1: I didn't want to say it. Well, I have to 744 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:42,000 Speaker 1: tell something. I've been sleeping with this guy in the band, 745 00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,160 Speaker 1: following him around. 746 00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:51,239 Speaker 2: From very and it's her other eager alter Rea alter you. 747 00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 2: I can't even get it out. 748 00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,680 Speaker 1: All right, this is too much fun. But we want 749 00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:58,880 Speaker 1: to thank all of you listeners today. If you're in 750 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,319 Speaker 1: your whether you're in your search for a boyfriend, a 751 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,560 Speaker 1: quick jolt of sex, whether you let us know what 752 00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,680 Speaker 1: you're thinking. We really enjoy hearing from you. I mean, 753 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,000 Speaker 1: that's just what it is. So thanks. 754 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:14,319 Speaker 2: Nineteen years is nothing, And make sure and keep us 755 00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 2: post it on whatever your thoughts are, and follow us 756 00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,960 Speaker 2: on Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new things coming 757 00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 2: up every single week, and I know you don't want 758 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:24,680 Speaker 2: to miss it. 759 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,640 Speaker 1: I mean, after all, look at us. Yeah. Well, I 760 00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,720 Speaker 1: mean we've been asking, asking, asking, We need updates, folks, Marie, 761 00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,520 Speaker 1: we need to know how it was having sex on. 762 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,040 Speaker 2: The bus, tell me the city I'm coming to the concert. 763 00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:42,000 Speaker 1: All right, well, Marie and all the rest of you, 764 00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,640 Speaker 1: please submit your questions and comments to us. It's really easy. 765 00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:49,719 Speaker 1: Just go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or 766 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,839 Speaker 1: dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. 767 00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,560 Speaker 2: Absolutely never ever feel embarrassed about asking a question. 768 00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,680 Speaker 1: Absolutely there's no dumb questions, no wrong questions. 769 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,360 Speaker 2: Right listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the 770 00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,799 Speaker 2: iHeartRadio app or whereever you listen to your podcast. Thanks 771 00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,640 Speaker 2: for joining us, have a great week.