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Speaker 1: different sort of back Could you imagine what else? Like

426
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 1: he'd probably be like, I mean, you've been watching that

427
00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 1: channel for the time. You're gonna have to pay for

428
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: more of the cable bill, you know. It's like, so

429
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: funk yourself, guy, Like you're gonna say you're gonna die

430
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 1: of virgin if you keep doing that. Ship. I gotta

431
00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 1: say this, Like my boyfriend still to this day, he

432
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:39,680
Speaker 1: does not like like at this point, I'm like, Babe,

433
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 1: I'm paying for a dinner, you know, Like I feel

434
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,439
Speaker 1: bad making him pay for everything. But it's like just

435
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 1: in his wiring because I don't know if it's like

436
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 1: he's a little bit older or whatever it is, but

437
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 1: he does not like me to pay for stuff, like

438
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,640
Speaker 1: I have to force him to let me do it. Yeah,

439
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I think I think it is something

440
00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,520
Speaker 1: that is a bit ingrained and yeah, but I'm also

441
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: like if if a girl on a date, it's like

442
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 1: absolutely not I was the one that suggests that we

443
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 1: got I'm paying. Yeah, I think a guy can gracefully

444
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 1: be like you you argue it back and forth until

445
00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 1: someone wins. Well, I think you go. I think it's

446
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 1: weird to be like, well, these on this right, Like

447
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 1: that's so awkward, Like well, it's just like I mean,

448
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: are you trying to have sex with her at some point,

449
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 1: because like that's killing the back And it's like, don't date.

450
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: If you can't afford to date, then don't do it.

451
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:32,720
Speaker 1: Or go to a place that you can afford to

452
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,639
Speaker 1: date at. Go have a coffee, have call to start

453
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 1: for the first day, have a picnic in the park.

454
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 1: There's so many cheap ways to go on dates that

455
00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 1: you can actually impress somebody by putting some thought into

456
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 1: a cheap date, right, Like, it doesn't have to be

457
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 1: this huge extravagant thing. I guarantee you. She didn't say,

458
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: let's go to some steakhouse, right, you know, she got

459
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 1: a salad, so I hope not right. But he was

460
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 1: like steak in Manhattan's. He was trying trying to, like

461
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: an old fashion the same thing. Basically, they are you

462
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 1: sure he's trying to st he's like a little They're

463
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,119
Speaker 1: kind of the same thing. But there are they the

464
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 1: same thing or not not exactly. But they're both bourbon drinks.

465
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,199
Speaker 1: You know, they're both very like steakhal email us if

466
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 1: you have any info on that. I prefer Manhattan over

467
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 1: and I forget what the difference is. I can't say

468
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 1: I stay away from Bourbon does not do good things

469
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 1: for me. Nobody wants to see me on bourbon looking

470
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: for a fight. I mean, that's the right. I'm just

471
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 1: telling you that. You know I'm feisty. It's the cage

472
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: and it comes out you ever like Ben in a

473
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 1: physical fight like the clip, I mean, besides the one

474
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: I saw you almost, I mean that's probably like there's

475
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 1: probably been other scenarios like that. If I had to

476
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 1: get my ties back in l a shoe days when

477
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,639
Speaker 1: we did used to drink whiskey, I mean that was

478
00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 1: like my drink. Actually that I didn't drink cheap vodka.

479
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: I either was like an Arbor miss girl, or I'm

480
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: getting judged just so hard like cheap vodka, like with

481
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 1: a roll of the eyes. And then I literally the

482
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:16,960
Speaker 1: very first time I ever, like got super drunk, drank

483
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: an entire bottle of Arbor missed by myself because there's

484
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: literally no out. It's like straight shot. I was probably

485
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,159
Speaker 1: just like sugar. I didn't even I wasn't even drunk,

486
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,440
Speaker 1: but you weren't hungover. You just like at the case

487
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,919
Speaker 1: of the Sugars the next morning. Um. Yeah, but like

488
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 1: that was that was just what we would do. I

489
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 1: don't know why it's so gross. We did. We were

490
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: like Boone's farm and ship like that. We well, I

491
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 1: graduated to Boone's farm and then like I remember going

492
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,400
Speaker 1: to this is Thunderbird. I don't even know what that is. Yeah,

493
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: probably okay, so we should probably not know. Um. I

494
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 1: in college there was this bar called Bogeys at L

495
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: s U and it was like my stomping grounds. I

496
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 1: would go this is like two of my best friends

497
00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 1: and I would go and we would always dance and

498
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: we thought were so hot. You know this is like

499
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,239
Speaker 1: when Britney Spears was so big, so we had all

500
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: these like sexy dance news and I would literally go

501
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,480
Speaker 1: to the bar and I would order a whites in.

502
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: It's so mortified for me to admit that it's they

503
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:14,199
Speaker 1: put it in a stemmed the glass or do you

504
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 1: like plastic? I mean these bars and Louisiana are not fancy,

505
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: like this is like college town. Do you imagine how

506
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 1: shitty that whitesn was? And I was not a box

507
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: it was fronsy. I would drink four over the course,

508
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 1: Like I remember, my boyfriend would always know. My boyfriend

509
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: would always come meet us and he would be like,

510
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 1: how many white sins are you in? Because if I

511
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 1: was like two in, it was fine. If I was

512
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: like four deep, he was like, oh god, no, no fights,

513
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 1: that's the whiskey. But yeah, the worst time was probably

514
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: at Whiskey Row, which fortunately was not then. I wasn't guys,

515
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: she was starting to fight like some drunkings. Whoa, whoa, whoa.

516
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: That bit started the fight with me just like sat

517
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 1: on our line of the seat. No, this is not true.

518
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: You're telling you're making me look so stupid as you're

519
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: like the reality was and this is gonna make me

520
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: so what had happened was I was dancing on a platform, yes,

521
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: and my thirties stopped the judgment, were acting casual and um,

522
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: this girl showed up after I had been there like

523
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 1: an hour, marked my territory, easy pete all over it.

524
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 1: We had a whole crew on it. And that bitch

525
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: was like, just come. They had so much space, but

526
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 1: she just did not want me to cross a certain line.

527
00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: What did she say, like is this your purse or

528
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 1: something like yeah, she picked up my stuff that was

529
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: where she really live. And then so then I like cut.

530
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 1: I was like no, no, no, no no, no no, did

531
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 1: you just touch my ship? Like? It got escalated and

532
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 1: called security actually was called, which is let's remember who

533
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 1: got kicked out and who didn't. Hey, it wasn't me,

534
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 1: if you guys want to know. Anyway, she wasn't the wrong.

535
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: A friend of mine got involved, I think poured a

536
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 1: drink on someone's head, Like this is so bad, I

537
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:13,199
Speaker 1: cannot My mom is literally gonna call me tomorrow and

538
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: be like I am so we were so we were

539
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: kind of entitled that night, but I was an asshole

540
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 1: and I will always admit when I'm an asshole. I'd

541
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: had too much tequila. Was that the night that um

542
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 1: your skirt ripped? That was a different night at Whiskey Row.

543
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: This ship always goes down at Whiskey Row. Got a

544
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 1: miss Whiskey Row. Except now when I go, I look

545
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 1: around and I'm like, why are we so old? Right? Anyway,

546
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 1: let's move on. Let's talk about aquatic set. Let's talk

547
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 1: about this one comes from Camden. She said, So I

548
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: think Camden is a girl. Right, It's okay, k A

549
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: M D y N. It's your guests. Let's read. Oh no,

550
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: she's definitely a girl. I don't know why I even

551
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: said it. I shouldn't know that by this email. Okay,

552
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 1: here we go. So I have come to accept that

553
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 1: it is and this is my life. I want to

554
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: despise things up during quarantine. So I set up this

555
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: romantic bath for me and my boyfriend straight to the point.

556
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: We tried to funk, but we couldn't work out the

557
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 1: positions without someone slipping and sliding and risking a broken dick,

558
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: which he has also had before. And they sound freaky, Okay,

559
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: so we decided to go into the shower. I wanted

560
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 1: to keep the lights off because I like the candlelit

561
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: vibe and I hate my cellulite. Well, here comes the greatness.

562
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 1: We tried to funk again, but between me not being

563
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: able to see with water getting into my eyes and contacts,

564
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: I know that struggle. It was such a struggle. They

565
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,479
Speaker 1: feel like they're dry, but it's like when water hit

566
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 1: something they actually start to feel dry. Um and him

567
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 1: getting cold if not under the showerhead. I mean, these

568
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: are all real, these are real issues. And him trying

569
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 1: to take me from behind and me being five a

570
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 1: and him five nine. It was a logistical fucking nightmare

571
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: that ended with me slamming my face into the glass,

572
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 1: getting a black guy and a bruised lip. Oh my god,

573
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: me too. We should probably call her like brittany um. Oh,

574
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: and we had a bunch of his branch with his

575
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: family the next day. I said, this was fun to explain,

576
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 1: so literally, what the logistical fuck? And please s O

577
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: S because I just want to learn how to have

578
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 1: aquatic sex and fifty shades up a bit help a

579
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: girl out. Well, mm, she sounds fun, she sounds supers

580
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: really fun. We should definitely zoom her. I want to

581
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: chat with her. The fact that her boyfriend has already

582
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: had a broken back. She broke it like if she

583
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: was involved in the break edge or if it was

584
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: like what an awkward story? How to have to tell

585
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 1: you I can't again? Yeah, he's like, sorry, it's already

586
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: been broken, Like it didn't heal properly. Um. Aquatic sex. Um, Well,

587
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever had it, but I

588
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 1: think I think a regular old bathtub is probably a

589
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: really hard place to try because it's just not there's

590
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: just not enough scuore footage in it. And a jacuzzi

591
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: or a swimming pool or something like that, like chip

592
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: stomping ground. You do anything in a hot especially if

593
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: you're on a jet ski. You can dride a jet skid. Okay,

594
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: I have some things to say about aquatic sex. It

595
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 1: always sounds so much better than it actually ends up being.

596
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: Like what she described is exactly what happens. It's like

597
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: you see it in the movies. They like slam each

598
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 1: other against the wall. It's like, oh wet, it's so hot,

599
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: and they're like rubbing up against each other and you

600
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: just go, oh my god, that looks so fun, right,

601
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: and you like to switch it up. We talk proactively

602
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: about like you got to switch it up. So like

603
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,239
Speaker 1: to me, it always seems like a good idea, and

604
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: it never is a good idea. You can't. It's like

605
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: you're trying to like go down on somebody. You're getting

606
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 1: a mouthful of water. Like that's tricky, right, There's there's

607
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: really not Like even in the shower, you're standing there

608
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: and you try to get a good angle. That doesn't

609
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: really work. It's really not that water actually probably works

610
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 1: with like lubrication, it's like oddly drives things out. Yeah,

611
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: I mean, look when when you rout out the aquatic

612
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 1: sex thing, Like the first thing that popped into my

613
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: mind was the iconic sex scene from the film show Girls.

614
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: The fact that you're going to use strip tease but

615
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: show Girl, the fact that you use the word iconic

616
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: and show Girls and it is one of the most

617
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 1: iconic bad films of all time, icon bad. I implore

618
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: anyone who has not seen shows the story I'm going

619
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: to get more on. Okay, will you help me something too? Okay,

620
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 1: So if you have not seen show Girls, I implore

621
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: you to watch it like it's it stars um Elizabeth

622
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 1: Berkeley who was on by the Bell and um it's

623
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: so bad good it's and there is a sex scene.

624
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: So if you haven't seen it, I'm gonna just sum

625
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: it up really quickly for you. She's like a girl

626
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 1: who's like, I'm moving into Vegas and she becomes a stripper,

627
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 1: basically like she thinks she's gonna be a dancer. She

628
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: ends up ends up a stripper. Her name is no Me,

629
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: No Me Malone, and um, I found this article on

630
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: garage dot com that, um, it's like a study of

631
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 1: show girls, and it says in the first five minutes

632
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 1: of show Girls, it came out No Me Malone played

633
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 1: by Elizabeth Elizabeth Berkeley, hitchhikes to Vegas, pulls a switchblade,

634
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: wins big on the slots, loses all her money, is solicited,

635
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 1: gets a bounce through, fired, loses her suitcase, gets in

636
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: a fight, vomits, and bonds with a hot seamstress who's trailer.

637
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: She immediately moves into that she like. She hitchhikes to

638
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 1: Vegas and the guy like steals her ship. Um so,

639
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: but there is a sexy so she's dancing at this

640
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 1: place called the Starlight, and she falls for the entertainment

641
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: director who's played by Kyle McLaughlin and Um, there is

642
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: a sex scene, and I'm gonna read you this paragraph.

643
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: It says, nausea is a bit of an exaggerated reaction

644
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: considering how ridiculously funny the nudity and sex is in

645
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 1: all its unsex nous, the epitome of the famous underwater

646
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: sex scene in between with um Nomy and Zach foreshadow

647
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: by lap dance that she's given him earlier in the film.

648
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 1: Noomy goes back to Zack's mansion. She strips totally naked,

649
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 1: giggling and dips into the pool crested with dolphins spouting water.

650
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: There's like dolphin um like this, it says. It starts

651
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: with an underwater blowjob, some shots lingering on the an

652
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: infinity waterfall. She's like sucking his dick under an infinity waterfall.

653
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: And Thennomy shows us her skills gliding atop of Zack

654
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: to put put on a real show, bumping, grinding, bending

655
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: all the way backwards. I mean it is so acrobatic

656
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: that I think they form like a tidal wave in

657
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 1: the pool. It is the most ridiculous. She's she's riding

658
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: him and swinging almost in a circle. It is fucking

659
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: hysterical and to think that like anyone looked at the

660
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 1: playback of that film and said, let's move on to

661
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: the next scene, like nailed debt, Like it is so

662
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 1: fucking bad. It's like one of those things that it's

663
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 1: like you see that and you're like, I'm never going

664
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: to film myself having sex because if that's what it

665
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:21,720
Speaker 1: looks like, I'm never gonna have sex again. I'm dying.

666
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 1: I have so many thoughts. First of all, an underwater

667
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:28,839
Speaker 1: blowjob sounds almost I mean it's it sounds impossible to me,

668
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:32,320
Speaker 1: like not almost, it sounds actually like drowning and choking

669
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: at the sounds like the hell are you breathing? Like

670
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 1: how do you move up and down? How are you

671
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 1: not absorbing so much water into every single hole in

672
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: your body? It also probably doesn't even feel like a

673
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 1: blowjob to the guy. How does the guy even feel it?

674
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: How can she even get a good grip? You know, baby,

675
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 1: this is the wine talking to me. Okay, sorry, mom,

676
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: I think I think the moral of the story is

677
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: is that aquatic sex is not nearly as sexy as

678
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,760
Speaker 1: it is, So here's my tip with that. Also, Okay,

679
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 1: I did look up. There's an article in self dot

680
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: com because I was like, let me google some aquatic

681
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 1: sex tips because I actually don't know. And all they

682
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 1: said would be very careful about the actual body of

683
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: water you're in because if you're in like a lake

684
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: like that has a lot of that brain brain brain,

685
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 1: they get to you, Yes, you can get an amiba

686
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: in your vagina. Are you talking about your vagina? Seems like,

687
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 1: I mean, they didn't actually talk about brain eating amba's,

688
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: but I would assume that they would say, be very

689
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: careful about that. But they did, don't go underwater to

690
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,359
Speaker 1: give a blow job because you'll definitely get the brain.

691
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: They also just be careful of the bacteria. Then they

692
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 1: said if you're in the chlorine, that can also be dangerous.

693
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 1: Also if you're a female, if you're in the water

694
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: too long, you're definitely getting a used infection something. Too

695
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 1: many things. So here's my tip. This is what I've

696
00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:00,320
Speaker 1: decided works for me because I actually love the idea

697
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 1: of it, and like, I'm a huge bath person. I

698
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 1: think I've talked about that before. I'm a cancer, I'm

699
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 1: an impath. We need water, you gotta chill out, So

700
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:09,839
Speaker 1: I like I take a bath like every night, My

701
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 1: favorite thing ever is if my boyfriend gets in with

702
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: me and it's a big tub, but like, yes it

703
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: can be hot, but like I cannot actually fully have

704
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: the rest of sex in the bath, you know, like

705
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: to me, that's where the four play happens, right, we

706
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: talked so much about four play. The like the lead up, Yeah,

707
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: you like make out, you feel around a little bit,

708
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: and then you're like and then you like slowly go, hey,

709
00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 1: let's relocate. That's gonna sound so bad. She's got headphones

710
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: and so she gets got the really creepy whisper right

711
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 1: in my ear. Slip into a place a little more casual.

712
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: I'm chills, ain't I think? My faces looking right at

713
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 1: Chip as he whispers, let's slip do a little more casual.

714
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 1: I mean, isn't it comfortable? But I was like casual

715
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 1: for the fact because we wanted were acting casual. We're

716
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 1: acting too casual today. Maybe I hope the people love

717
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: this alright, so anyway that that's our yeah cames in.

718
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: I hope he helped you. You gotta quit trying to

719
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,399
Speaker 1: go the full way in the shower. In the bath,

720
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 1: you get it started there, you're clean, so it just

721
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 1: gives you freedom once you get somewhere else. Yeah, I

722
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 1: think I think the showers is safer place to do it.

723
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: You can get a little frisky unless you have a

724
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,719
Speaker 1: big tub that's meant for more than one person. So

725
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: that's what I'm telling you. It's still too slippery standard,

726
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: but the standard tub ain't nothing happening. And now that's

727
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: really awkward. Yeah alright. The next one is, uh, listen,

728
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,760
Speaker 1: this is from Ainslie and like, this is not actually

729
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,359
Speaker 1: about sex, but it could be about sex as well,

730
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 1: so we can talk about it in a couple of

731
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 1: different ways. And Chip, I don't actually know what you're

732
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 1: going to contribute to this conversation. I almost feel like

733
00:37:57,560 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 1: I might be about to solo podcast which I told

734
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: you earlier, or I hate how did that go for you?

735
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: By the way, telling the Show Girls story by yourself?

736
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: Did you see what I was talking about? Because you

737
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: don't get any reaction, right, And so then you're just

738
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 1: like it's like I need a laugh track or something

739
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 1: like how can we insert laugh track? Could you imagine

740
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: I start solo podcasting all the time with a laugh track?

741
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: Like how pathetic is that? Oh? My god? I for myself,

742
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: I did a podcast last week, um or actually it

743
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 1: was this week and it was on my friend Amy Brown's.

744
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: She has a four Things podcast and then she does

745
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: a fifth thing, which is like she does these emails

746
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: kind of like what we do here on a casual

747
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: except way more read. She literally text me before and

748
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: she goes, Hey, I love you so much, but I

749
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: just want to remind you I don't cuss on my podcast.

750
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, fuck yourself, go fund yourself, bitch, And

751
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. Could you imagine I love her so much,

752
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:57,720
Speaker 1: I would never ever not here today? No, So anyway,

753
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 1: I totally respect her audience is different than mine, and

754
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:02,919
Speaker 1: so I tried to keep it a little more PG,

755
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: a lot more PG than we do. Um, but a

756
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: solo podcasted, and I feel like it was terrible. I

757
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: literally was like, oh my god, I never want to

758
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 1: do that again. That was the worst thing I've ever experienced.

759
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: You did you the beauty and solo podcasting? Those you

760
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: can edit? Well. I didn't have the time. Literally, it

761
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 1: was like a night before things. She was like, hey,

762
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 1: do you mind hopping on and answering some questions, which

763
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: typically I would be like yeah, because like you and

764
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 1: I do that ship so easy, but like it was

765
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: just different. It was so because I'm just talking to

766
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: myself and then I'm like, I don't know if you've

767
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 1: talked too much or not enough. Well, it's like, you

768
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 1: know how you and I can have the silence and

769
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: then I'll call you out for that. I was just

770
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: like silent, like damn it, and no one would like,

771
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 1: no one would laugh bright and maybe that laugh Jack

772
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: like oh right, ha ha. I'm podcasting anyway, if you

773
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 1: guys want to go check it out. Terrible it is.

774
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 1: It's on the Amy Brown or it's a four Things

775
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: podcast with Amy Brown. She's amazing. Um okay, anyway, let's

776
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 1: back to Ainslie. Kelly and Chip love to talk about

777
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 1: sex and relationships, but here's a topic to switch it up,

778
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 1: normalizing the period. I'm tired of periods and everything related

779
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 1: being a taboo topic. People openly talk about being sore

780
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 1: from the gym, Such an interesting comparison to me. Why

781
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: do I have to hide that I am cramping from

782
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: my period? People openly grab their cigarettes to go for

783
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,280
Speaker 1: a smoke. Why do I have to stealth grab my tampon?

784
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 1: I mean, it's not it's not wrong. Please disregard food stains.

785
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: People disregard food stains on people's shirts. Why do I

786
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: have to check my butt for leaks every bop second?

787
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: It's a lot. I'm not promoting people talking about periods

788
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,439
Speaker 1: when for seven and bleeding all over the place. I'm

789
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:05,280
Speaker 1: just talking about acting casual because it is a normal

790
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:08,959
Speaker 1: human function. And quite frankly, I call bs on having

791
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 1: to suck it up because it feels like your insides

792
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: are being ripped apart. Yeah, the last place you want

793
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 1: to be is at work or wherever you feel bloated

794
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 1: like a whale. The last thing you want to be

795
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 1: wearing is a body con dress for a date night.

796
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,839
Speaker 1: These are very valid points. And lastly, I am all

797
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 1: for petitioning for women to have one period day a month.

798
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 1: Use it or lose it. It's up to you. And

799
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:33,319
Speaker 1: do not even come at me with gender discrimination because

800
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 1: in this case you can take it up with mother

801
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:38,320
Speaker 1: nature anyway. Love you all to the stars and back. Thanks.

802
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,919
Speaker 1: I love her, Love her too. You guys are so fun.

803
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: Thanks for writing in Look. I mean, obviously don't have

804
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: a period, so it's hard for me to relate, but

805
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 1: I also um, it's it's interesting because I feel like

806
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 1: when you're young, the first time that, like a lot

807
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 1: of girls or guys experience someone having a period, there

808
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 1: is like this like it grows like a period or

809
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: like I can remember like Wayne fingered Laurie the movies

810
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: when we were in fifth grade or something, and like

811
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 1: she was on her period, so it was like it

812
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: was like a gross thing, you know, like everyone's like, oh, gross.

813
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: And so I think there's something that's like very early

814
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: on when you start to learn about it, that it's

815
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 1: just like taboo thing, just like pooping, Like yeah, a

816
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 1: little bit. I wouldn't think twice about like being like,

817
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 1: oh I gotta pay. I would never be at this

818
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: table and be like be right back down to poop,

819
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: but like why why we all do it? I do

820
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: feel like you would say that to me. I don't know,

821
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 1: I'd probably lie and Sam was going to be really

822
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 1: and I'd be like, what were you doing in there? Yeah,

823
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 1: I'd be like I be really long, I'd really been

824
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: holding get in. Um. Yeah, it's so hard because actually

825
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: she makes really great points. I feel and like the

826
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:53,399
Speaker 1: truth is for us. I mean, you feel like ship,

827
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: especially those first days, I'm like, how is this possible?

828
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 1: That I feel like I have the flu and I

829
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 1: have to go to work, and like, if a dude

830
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 1: felt like this, like it does turn me into this

831
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 1: like gender person, because I'm like, if a dude felt

832
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 1: like this, there's no fucking chance he would live his

833
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: life normally. Because the guy has a cold, they stay home,

834
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: you know, and we deal with this every month, Like

835
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:15,760
Speaker 1: do you guys think it's fun for us to bleed

836
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: out of our body for seven days straight? And like

837
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 1: it's not fun. You feel terrible. There's a Michelle Wolf

838
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: who's one of my favorite comedians, has a bit about periods.

839
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 1: Periods and like basically it's like she says, like women

840
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: should be able to like have time off of work

841
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 1: for and she she basically I'm gonna sort of butcher

842
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 1: her joke, but she's like she's like, women, we we

843
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 1: gotta stop being so cute about our periods. Like that point,

844
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: she's like, you can't be like aunt flows in town,

845
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 1: Like it's got to be like I am bleeding through

846
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 1: a gash in my body. Like if if there were

847
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 1: any other gash that you were bleeding out of, your

848
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: boss would be like, don't go go home. You're like,

849
00:43:57,760 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 1: I'm bleeding out of this gash. I'm gonna shove a

850
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:02,839
Speaker 1: elastic thing that's going to shove a cotton thing up

851
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,919
Speaker 1: there to absorb it. While I sit here feeling like ship.

852
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: My back is aching, my stomach is aching, I have

853
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 1: a headache, my whole body is aching. I'm emotional, like

854
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: a cry at the drop of a hat. But hey,

855
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: how's your day? What can we talk about? Like when

856
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: can we go over that report that was due today?

857
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, let me help you some more. Yeah, I know,

858
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 1: I think it's a really interesting point, and I do

859
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: think it should be normalized because it's it is nature. Well,

860
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 1: she says, the gift of life comes from that. I mean,

861
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 1: well that's the truth. It's also like a lot of

862
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 1: people would be like, that's Eve's curse right there, if

863
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: you believe in the Bible or whatever, But it is.

864
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: It's our bodies. Our bodies are amazing, like women's bodies

865
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: specifically with creating a whole human Like that's insane. And

866
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: so the period is a part of that, and it's

867
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: unfortunate for us. But I do feel like we are

868
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: forced to kind of suck it up a lot, and

869
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, get the funk over it. Here's my tampon. Okay,

870
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: Like I'm walking to the bathroom because I'm oh my

871
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 1: goddamn period. All right, Yeah, I do feel like that.

872
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: I will say she said it doesn't have to do

873
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: with sex and relationships, but like period sex is a thing.

874
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: Did you know about that? People into it? I think

875
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:13,439
Speaker 1: people can be and I mean, like, my I've never

876
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 1: had a guy like this is this is actually true

877
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 1: for all my boyfriends, as gonna say my boyfriend now,

878
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: but like I think this is true. There's not been

879
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 1: a thing of like, uh no, no sex for a

880
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 1: week because you're on your period. Like it's just like

881
00:45:25,200 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: different for me personally. It's not as enjoyable, is it,

882
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: because like you feel like you're staying in the sheets

883
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 1: and stuff or I get really because like it could

884
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: be messy at the beginning of your period, like by

885
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 1: the end you don't care. But there's a couple of things.

886
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: First of all, like you're like a nothing going in

887
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: there put a tampon. Well, unfortunately that's just not true.

888
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 1: But I don't know what that says about me. But

889
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: it's just like a massacre. You're like get out the

890
00:45:56,000 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 1: plastic sheets on it. We're talking about normalizing. Let me

891
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 1: tell you about some things. But yeah, like it's just

892
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 1: the truth. I'm always like a towel, Like you've got

893
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: to lay a towel down, and then it's always it's

894
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 1: often like I end up on top in those scenarios,

895
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: but I can't fully relax or get into because I

896
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,839
Speaker 1: look down and I'm like, oh my god, I mean

897
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:22,600
Speaker 1: everywhere the I mean, but think about it, Like straight

898
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,879
Speaker 1: sex during period time is a finite amount of time

899
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,399
Speaker 1: drawing them up. Gay sex always involves a button. That's

900
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, it's yeah, technically that's pretty

901
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: that's a pretty gross thing to get involved, especially if

902
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: somebody's not Yeah, someone's not prepared for that. So it's

903
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: like there's often towels involved in that you're used to

904
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 1: so yeah, you can actually, Yeah, it's funny to think that,

905
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 1: Like people would be like gross, you're bleeding. Well a

906
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,920
Speaker 1: lot of dudes because like they're not used to it,

907
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: or like I've noticed my boyfriends that have had all

908
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: brothers are more kind of like they get over it

909
00:46:57,760 --> 00:46:59,320
Speaker 1: because they're like, well, I'm not don't want to not

910
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: have sex or seven days. You know, for me, it's

911
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,280
Speaker 1: not as enjoyable one because I'm paranoid about getting shipped everywhere,

912
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:08,279
Speaker 1: and that's what I started thinking about. And then you go, oh, god,

913
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:09,919
Speaker 1: is he going to get grossed out when he looks

914
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: down and he sees all this massacre um? And then

915
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: also like the thing that about murdered that literally um yeah.

916
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: But like and then the other thing is is, like

917
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 1: we talked about the four play, there's not a lot

918
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: of that that can happen when you're on your period

919
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: because ain't no chance an you guys going down on

920
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: you when you are on your period, unless our vampire

921
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: when what's you're dating Rob Pattons And then you have

922
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: other concerns. Um. Yeah. So I'm with Ainsley, like, let's

923
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,839
Speaker 1: normalize it a little bit. Help the girls out. Man,

924
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: this is once a month we have to deal with

925
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,880
Speaker 1: this ship. Honestly, it's like you should kind of be

926
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: put on a pedestal. I appreciate you saying that. Show

927
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:57,839
Speaker 1: it's true, like you know, there's there's plenty of things

928
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:01,800
Speaker 1: that like if if I were like I'm going to

929
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 1: be like a straight dude for a minute, Like if

930
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: I was like out fucking playing football with my bros

931
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: And like broke my wrist. I would be able to

932
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:12,439
Speaker 1: call into work and be like, I broke my wrist.

933
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 1: I'm not coming in today, and no one would be like, well,

934
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 1: how did you break your wrist? Oh, that was a choice.

935
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,120
Speaker 1: You need to come into work today or you're fired.

936
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 1: They'd be like, no, stay home. You broke your fucking wrist.

937
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 1: And that was all because of something that I chose

938
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 1: to do, right, you know, flag football as an adult.

939
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 1: I'm I'm here by granting every woman in America? Did

940
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: you just declar period period week period week to get

941
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:40,399
Speaker 1: your job done from home? I mean, god, I love

942
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 1: Maybe COVID will open us up to make that more acceptable.

943
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,359
Speaker 1: And now that you've officially said it on the at

944
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: Casual podcast, as I say the at Casual podcast, I

945
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:52,800
Speaker 1: feel like we have a better chance. Yeah, is this

946
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 1: the next thing we're protesting for? I mean, you guys,

947
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: let's start a change dot org. God, what do we

948
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 1: call this hash? Period? No, it's called at casual dot top.

949
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 1: I got my period at casual guys free, the period free,

950
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 1: the period free, you know, like the free, Like what

951
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:14,760
Speaker 1: was that whole thing when like people wanted to be topless,

952
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:19,320
Speaker 1: like free to tepies, free the titties something like that.

953
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 1: This is like free the period for the period team.

954
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: I'm calling it right here, it's meopause all we're at

955
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: it because then it's like then you gotta work longer.

956
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 1: We should be giving you raises when you get menopause,

957
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 1: because then you're working seven more days a month. Did

958
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: you just hear yourself? With all the physical things that

959
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: we have to deal with, we have, so you have

960
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: a period every month, probably from the age of like

961
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: I mean I got mine at twelve, which is actually

962
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: kind of late, but like from the age of twelve,

963
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:51,439
Speaker 1: I've been dealing this for every fucking month of my life. Then,

964
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I haven't had this issue. But like if

965
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 1: you birth of child, you have to go through nine

966
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:58,800
Speaker 1: to ten months of being pregnant. Then it's not like

967
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 1: your body just like bounce back. Then the second you

968
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:04,760
Speaker 1: get out of that ship, you go to menopause. About

969
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 1: the cost of tampons and pads, no ship, it's expensive

970
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:11,400
Speaker 1: to be a girl. I'll say that. You know, like

971
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: you can go to a clinic and get free condoms.

972
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: Can you go somewhere? It should be insurance should cover tampons.

973
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:23,919
Speaker 1: That's another thing. You know what we're about to We're yeah,

974
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: I think it's like, I mean, because what are your options?

975
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 1: What is the free option for a pad or a tampon?

976
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: You gotta figure out how to pay for that. Ship.

977
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 1: The free option would be take some toilet paper and

978
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,799
Speaker 1: wadded up in your underwear, which every girl has had

979
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 1: to do at some point when you're out and you

980
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: get your period randomly, and you're like, and you happen

981
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:44,439
Speaker 1: to be wearing white pants that day, of course, because

982
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: you never wear white pants, but you're always wearing what

983
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,320
Speaker 1: do I just gotta go home? Yeah, you gotta go,

984
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: You better go. I have a friend who was at

985
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: a she was a little wedding with no underwear on,

986
00:50:57,640 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: and got her period, happened to the chair she was

987
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:07,920
Speaker 1: in a church pew her leg and I've had the

988
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 1: legs that wedding. Like the pamphlet that you got. You're

989
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 1: not talking to the mic, the people, whatever, we're just

990
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 1: doing a podcast. The pamphlet that you get, the bulletin

991
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 1: that's at church. She took what did she do that

992
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 1: scraped it back up her legs? My god? Did she leave? Yeah?

993
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:31,839
Speaker 1: She didn't. She went. That's the moment when you find

994
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:33,919
Speaker 1: a best friend in the bathroom with the girl you've

995
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,839
Speaker 1: never met and you're like literally mid ceremony. Well, when

996
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: you're at a bar if you get your period and

997
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,359
Speaker 1: you yell out, does anyone have a tampon? That girl

998
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: that gives you that tampon and saves your life, like

999
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: your night is your new best best friend. I've made

1000
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: many friends that way. I'm telling you it's we need

1001
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 1: to start like a free tampon situation. I'm saying, what

1002
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 1: if I called my interest Tomort and I was like, listen,

1003
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about this, and I really am. Do

1004
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: you guys offer any sort of like kickback or like

1005
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 1: you know, when you get prescriptions, you get a discounted rate,

1006
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,719
Speaker 1: you can get disco rates to the gym. Yeah? Yeah,

1007
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: they should do that for tampons. And if they don't,

1008
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 1: they should go out of business. You should change insurance. Yeah,

1009
00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: I mean they should be boycotted by women. This is like,

1010
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: this is a new movement. Maybe we need to start

1011
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 1: a women's only insurance company. Oh my god, we're like

1012
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:36,400
Speaker 1: really creative right now. What's that? It's some of the

1013
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: liberty mutual, liberty casual, Oh my God, liberty, liberty, liberty.

1014
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:43,959
Speaker 1: What does liberty have to do with the liberty mutual?

1015
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 1: Is the period period casual? I don't know, female, we'll

1016
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:53,479
Speaker 1: get away free tampons. Let us know the company would

1017
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 1: totally give away free tampons to any woman who needs them,

1018
00:52:56,960 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: do M I'm curious, like at companies like all these

1019
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,840
Speaker 1: tech companies that you see where they have like Cereal

1020
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:07,840
Speaker 1: and all that ship, do they have tampons? Free tampons?

1021
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 1: I want Cereal? Well, you know, like Twitter like this,

1022
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 1: they have like well, I'll tell you fancy places do yes,

1023
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 1: I'm sure in those tech companies, yes, places with money,

1024
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:25,960
Speaker 1: you know. Like I was about to sound too bougy.

1025
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 1: I'll stop like I was going to say, like, actually,

1026
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:30,400
Speaker 1: I bet we have them at red Light. Yeah. I

1027
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 1: was gonna say nice companies like that, or if you

1028
00:53:32,440 --> 00:53:35,120
Speaker 1: go to like a nice airport, you know, like things

1029
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 1: like that. There's always a situation. That's why I stopped myself,

1030
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: like I'm not paying for the planes. People not paying

1031
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: for the planes. Um, That's why I didn't know how

1032
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 1: to back out of it. Yeah, because I've been to

1033
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:59,360
Speaker 1: some nice airports. Everywhere they called me out. Damn it

1034
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:04,799
Speaker 1: really backed myself into a corner. If I was paying

1035
00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 1: for the plane, I don't even know period. Okay, we

1036
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 1: got to move on to our last email. This is

1037
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 1: getting way too long. The people are like, damn, and

1038
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 1: I've been sitting at my work parking lot. Now you

1039
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: feel like I didn't have I just finished my period

1040
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:23,680
Speaker 1: at the beginning of the episode, and I've started it

1041
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 1: again by the end because it's been so long. Okay, Actually,

1042
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 1: this one is even better than the rest of them

1043
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 1: because I opened our inbox after I had prepped for

1044
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 1: this episode and we had a new email, and I

1045
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 1: was like, this is the best week ever. Literally, you

1046
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:43,879
Speaker 1: guys came in through, came in through so solid, came

1047
00:54:43,920 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 1: in hot with emails. So this one comes from Billy

1048
00:54:47,840 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 1: Billy with an ie, which makes me believe that Billy

1049
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: is a girl. Oh yes she is actually because already

1050
00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: by this emament, this is a tough one. I'm not

1051
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: gonna lie. Are you ready for it? I'm ready. I

1052
00:54:57,080 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: need your full attention, Hey Kelly of listening to your

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Speaker 1: podcast for a while now, and I need some advice.

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Speaker 1: Where do I even start? Ten years ago, I got

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Speaker 1: a divorce after twenty one years of marriage. I imagine

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Speaker 1: that was very difficult. Soon after, I met a man

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Speaker 1: that was everything I never knew I wanted. I'll call

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Speaker 1: him Tony. I came from a marriage where we hadn't

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Speaker 1: had sex and years, and Tony oozed sexuality. I was

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Speaker 1: the person who took care of everything in our marriage, kids, house,

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Speaker 1: splat tires, mowing the lawn, and in the last year,

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Speaker 1: I was the one who provided for our family a

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Speaker 1: five Wow, A lot of pressure. Sounds like that same

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Speaker 1: guy that went on the date and asked to split

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Speaker 1: the check. He's on the proligance. If a guy ever

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Speaker 1: asked you to pay on the first date, you're going

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Speaker 1: the law. Okay, Tony was a man's man. He ran

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Speaker 1: a business. He was everything a husband wasn't. He introduced

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Speaker 1: me to things sexually I knew about I never knew about,

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Speaker 1: and then suddenly felt familiar. I felt like he was

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Speaker 1: someone I was supposed to know my whole life in

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Speaker 1: another life. The problem is he's married. I know, she says,

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Speaker 1: I know exclamation point it's shitty and I am a

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Speaker 1: trash human. But I literally cannot help how I feel

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Speaker 1: with him, how he makes me feel. Ten years of

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Speaker 1: waiting on this man, and I cannot make myself give

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Speaker 1: up the thought that when the time is right, we

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Speaker 1: will be together. We even tried to end it at

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Speaker 1: one point his wife found out about us. I told

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Speaker 1: him to try and work on his marriage, but we

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Speaker 1: always end up gravitating back to each other, and even

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Speaker 1: now we don't really have a sexual relationship. It's the conversations.

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Speaker 1: Once a week morning coffee is dropped off to him

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Speaker 1: at work. I'm not bad about him not leaving his family.

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Speaker 1: Yes he has a child at home, but it is

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Speaker 1: also hard because I love him so much more than

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Speaker 1: I ever have known was possible. What do I do?

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Speaker 1: Do you believe that people are meant to be together

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Speaker 1: despite circumstances. Please help me. Billy interesting? I like that

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Speaker 1: her name is Billy. Do you you know like when

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Speaker 1: this is such a sangent. When we used to go

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Speaker 1: out when I was younger, my roommate at the time,

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Speaker 1: but also when my best friend from high school we

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Speaker 1: moved up to Nashville together and we would go out

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Speaker 1: and like we used to use fake names. No she

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Speaker 1: was Billy. I was like, I would try to be

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Speaker 1: all cute and the guys that it would be guys

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Speaker 1: that we didn't want to talk to and be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: what's your name? And I'd be like Sophie because I

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Speaker 1: thought it's like really cool. And she would come in

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Speaker 1: and she'd be like maybe like what's your name? And

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Speaker 1: she go, Billy, is this one? B I L L

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Speaker 1: I E yes? It is? So anyway, That's all I

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Speaker 1: could think when I was literally like, am I being punked?

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Speaker 1: Is this Caitlin? Actually yeah? Um? Well everything was going

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Speaker 1: great until she said he was married. Um, but she's

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Speaker 1: not having sex with him now. I mean she has

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Speaker 1: for ten years. But it's an emotional thing. Didn't we

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Speaker 1: have a similar what was the one that we were like,

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Speaker 1: you gotta stop, You just got to stop. I mean, look,

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Speaker 1: technically he's the one that needs to stop, but you

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Speaker 1: can't control other people, right, So I mean she, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she is the other woman in this situation, but she's

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Speaker 1: not cheating on anybody. Right. Well, it's look, I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's that's up for you know, that's something that she

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Speaker 1: has to deal with. Um. But the only one who's

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Speaker 1: truly doing something wrong here is Bill is not really

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Speaker 1: whatever his name is. You don't think that she's like

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Speaker 1: he should calls him Tony? But the thing is she

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Speaker 1: knows he has kids and and he's also not leaving.

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Speaker 1: And this always for me goes back to the like, hey,

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Speaker 1: where is your self respecting? That we have to have

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Speaker 1: respect enough for ourselves to know we deserve more than

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Speaker 1: to be the other woman. Right, But um, she might

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Speaker 1: be getting more of this then she was getting out

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Speaker 1: of her own marriage through an emotional connection, you know,

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Speaker 1: And it sounds like that was pretty lacking in her marriage.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a tough one because why is

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Speaker 1: he not leaving though? I mean, kids complicate a lot

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Speaker 1: of stuff. Oh listen, I kids and divorce makes me

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Speaker 1: so sad. Breaking up a family is really, honestly one

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Speaker 1: of the hardest things I can imagine, and we've witnessed

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Speaker 1: now a couple of our friends go through it, and

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Speaker 1: it's never easy and it doesn't really get easier because

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Speaker 1: even even once the divorce is over, it's like there's

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Speaker 1: so many logistics that are difficult. I am dating a

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Speaker 1: man who was married before, and it's super complicated. I

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Speaker 1: mean it, it is completely a lot, and I actually

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Speaker 1: don't recommend it. I mean it's hard. I think it's

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Speaker 1: like it's not ideal for anyone. It's not like anyone

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Speaker 1: gets married thinking they're going to get divorced either. So

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Speaker 1: it's like, I don't think they would recommend it, you know,

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Speaker 1: but it just is what it is, and you deal

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Speaker 1: the cards you're dealt. But I don't know. When I'm

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Speaker 1: reading this, I just think about Billy and I just think,

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Speaker 1: like I get it where you're like, oh, I have

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Speaker 1: this connection with this person. I have all of these

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Speaker 1: things in common, we have this. It just sounds like

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Speaker 1: they have a lot of chemistry. I just can't wrap

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Speaker 1: my mind around Tony Bean. The only person that she

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Speaker 1: could have that chemistry with the world is huge. Like,

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Speaker 1: I think, I think you're right. I think she needs

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Speaker 1: to look at this as an example of there are

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Speaker 1: better situations than what she had in her marriage. This

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Speaker 1: is a step in the right direction. Well, she saw

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Speaker 1: that she can feel certain feel she needs to find

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Speaker 1: an available man that can make her feel this way, right,

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Speaker 1: I have this mentor and she's off. When you have

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Speaker 1: a guy who's making you feel the way you want

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Speaker 1: to feel, of course, and it's so hard to let

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Speaker 1: go of what's comfortable, you know. And so it sounds

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Speaker 1: like they've been doing this for a long time. An

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Speaker 1: ultimatum might make him actually make up his mind. Well,

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Speaker 1: I think she's torn between you don't want to break

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Speaker 1: up a family. That's a tough spot to be in.

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Speaker 1: Well that's yeah. I can't imagine because well I agree

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Speaker 1: with that, But I also can't imagine walking into a

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Speaker 1: situation where there's kids involved and you're were the other

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Speaker 1: woman and then all of a sudden, you're like dating

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Speaker 1: their dad with that dynamic. Would be like, it's already

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Speaker 1: hard enough to navigate their relationship with the kids without

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Speaker 1: that dynamic, So to know that you were responsible for like,

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Speaker 1: oh god, that would just be tough. But yeah, I

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Speaker 1: just think, like I maybe they hit their mom. I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: when you took this dark you're acting to casual. Um No.

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Speaker 1: I Like, I have this mentor who says to me, um,

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Speaker 1: Like in situations where maybe I have been in a

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Speaker 1: relationship where I'm like, but I love this and this

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Speaker 1: about him, and she's like, but you also say you

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Speaker 1: hate this and this and this and this, and like

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Speaker 1: there's a bad for you and they're bringing out the

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Speaker 1: worst sides of you. And so she always encouraged me

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Speaker 1: to write down the positive attributes that I loved so

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Speaker 1: much that I was having such a hard time um

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Speaker 1: letting go of and know, like you start manifesting that

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Speaker 1: and know that there is someone out there who has

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Speaker 1: the same qualities that maybe isn't married or doesn't have

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Speaker 1: all the baggage that sounds like Tony whatever we're calling

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Speaker 1: him has. Does that make sense? Yeah? No, I mean

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Speaker 1: I think it was like this relationship with Tony is

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Speaker 1: it's an example of what is possible. There you go,

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Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, So Billy, take take this relationship and

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Speaker 1: maybe look at it as a positive in your life

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Speaker 1: in the fact that it shows you what you want

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Speaker 1: in a man, except that you probably just don't want

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Speaker 1: that man to be married. Well, look if if you

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Speaker 1: make the call and you walk away, and later in

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Speaker 1: life he decides that he cannot live without you and

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Speaker 1: that he blows his marriage up and comes for you

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Speaker 1: and you're single, then maybe it works out. And I

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Speaker 1: think that sort of absolves you a little bit of

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Speaker 1: like there is a break, you know, the the concept

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Speaker 1: of like being the other woman and then suddenly you're

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Speaker 1: dating the kid's dad. Um, after you know, a split,

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Speaker 1: Maybe that makes that a little bit better. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's all, it's all messy, super messy. But what's that

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Speaker 1: quote where it's like, if it's meant for you, will

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Speaker 1: always come back. Do you know what I'm talking about?

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Speaker 1: Where it's like, like the things that are meant for

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Speaker 1: you and your life if you let them go and

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Speaker 1: then they come back like they were actually meant for you, right,

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Speaker 1: But if you let them go and they don't, there's

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Speaker 1: a better plan. But I mean, we're sitting here, this

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Speaker 1: is easy for us to go, oh, Billy, like stop,

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Speaker 1: Like I completely get when you're in this situation, it's

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Speaker 1: always so much more difficult and there's so many layers

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Speaker 1: that we don't experience on the daily like she does.

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Speaker 1: And so it's definitely a grieving process and super hard.

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Speaker 1: But but I also just think it's uh, and I

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Speaker 1: guess I'm flipping positions a little bit, Like it's probably

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Speaker 1: important for her to remember there was probably a time

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Speaker 1: in her life when she thought that she couldn't live

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Speaker 1: without the husband that she left. Yeah. Absolutely, And now

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Speaker 1: she's looking back and now she's like, that's like that thing,

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Speaker 1: And so I think you have to take the steps

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Speaker 1: to to find your full happiness. Yeah, I think my

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Speaker 1: biggest thing I always want so all women and all

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Speaker 1: men is just to be like, you deserve the things

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Speaker 1: that make you happy, and you deserve the things. Um

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Speaker 1: just like know you're worth kind of deal and so

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Speaker 1: like I feel like, Billy, I don't even know you,

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Speaker 1: but you probably deserve a man who can be completely

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Speaker 1: available to you. It sounds like an awesome person like

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Speaker 1: that absolutely So yeah, anyway, Billy got space. It's super complicated.

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Speaker 1: Keep us posted on what you do. Um, thank you

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Speaker 1: guys again so much for these emails this week. I've

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Speaker 1: really loved it, so keep them coming. It's at casual

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Speaker 1: spell that for the peeps? Its h I P d

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Speaker 1: O R S c H. How do you get sexual

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Speaker 1: when you say well? Because people may say f H, Well,

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Speaker 1: your first name is h I P. My first name

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Speaker 1: is Frank. I loved helloved when we got our COVID

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Speaker 1: test and they're like Frank when they called you back, like,

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Speaker 1: of course they did tell my last name wrong, but

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Speaker 1: that was red spot. I think we'll throw somebody under

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Speaker 1: the bus so I don't. Just sorry, Ruth, all right,

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening. Chip. I cannot wait to

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Speaker 1: celebrate you this weekend.