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Speaker 2: our friend. Oh that's not yeah, not good at all.

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Speaker 1: This is hard.

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Speaker 2: We've been together for nearly eight years. We built a

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Speaker 2: life together. So there's so much to this. But basically,

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Speaker 2: I twenty seven mail did that thing that everyone in

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Speaker 2: a relationship should be wary of. I looked through my

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Speaker 2: girlfriend's twenty five female phone and I found messages upon

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Speaker 2: messages from a mutual friend who lived out of state,

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Speaker 2: now that were concerning. Initially, I was gonna leave right

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Speaker 2: then and there, but I wanted to.

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Speaker 1: Try to talk to her. You know, when you see

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Speaker 1: messages that you just don't want to see on the phone.

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Speaker 3: Yea.

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Speaker 2: Of cheating, got a yeah, it's a it's a it's

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Speaker 2: a knife to the heart. I gave her almost three

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Speaker 2: chances to own up to it. By the way, this

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Speaker 2: still brought it so the first time I was really

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Speaker 2: vague and just asked if there was someone else, She

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Speaker 2: flat out denied it. I thought I was prepared for

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Speaker 2: other times I got more and more pointed. Finally she

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Speaker 2: admitted that the guy had messaged her and flirted with her.

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Speaker 2: But we knew he was that way, and while she

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: I didn't see any messages from her at the beginning

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Speaker 2: that showed she was exactly complicit in it. So while

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Speaker 2: I didn't believe her, I tried to give her a chance,

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Speaker 2: try to tell her, you know, tell me what's the truth.

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Speaker 3: Tell me the truth, Tell me the truth. No p

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Speaker 3: gives her too many chances. He's like, I'll give you

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Speaker 1: She lies and lies.

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Speaker 2: I know it's stupid, but we've been together for so

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Speaker 2: long and we built the life together. But then I

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Speaker 2: dug again, no man is a little gopher. And there

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Speaker 2: it was, all of it, and worse, he took the

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Speaker 2: time to insult me. To him that is sucky. That's rough,

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Speaker 3: Talk about you behind your back, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That's also a high. Ali, I love you, I miss you.

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Speaker 2: That hurts so affing much.

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Speaker 1: That hurts.

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Speaker 2: I know my faults, and I know that I could

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Speaker 2: have worked on this relationship, but I really tried.

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Speaker 1: Every day.

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Speaker 2: I tried, But for her to tell someone else things

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Speaker 2: So right now I'm waiting for her to wake up

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Speaker 2: I spent eight years on this relationship and I'm going

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Speaker 2: to say. I mold over what to say, NonStop, what satisfyingly.

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Speaker 1: He's gonna make sure she knows.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she can never forget this betrayal.

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Speaker 1: I'm scared.

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Speaker 2: I'm lost and so much, so I don't want to

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Speaker 2: We got an edit one, we got an edit two,

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Speaker 3: Edit Yeah, I mean, there's no coming back from this.

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Speaker 2: Getting a lot of pushback on the letter when she leaves.

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Speaker 2: It felt nice to at least draft it out on

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Speaker 2: He wrote the letter, hasn't, hasn't yet, like actually said

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Speaker 3: Yeah, now write the letter seven years ago you cheated

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Speaker 2: I'm going to shower and truthfully let out a nice cry,

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Speaker 2: then pack my stuff. Lots of people are saying just

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's a bad letter.

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Speaker 1: It's okay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that if the second best thing, if

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think I think you can do a

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Speaker 3: Sure, I think that's true. I think I think that's

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Speaker 3: I want to have this conversation. I cannot be staying here,

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Speaker 3: with you to actually talk about all of this. Doesn't

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Speaker 3: mean we're getting back together, but I can't be here

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Speaker 2: Also, I'm reading everyone's comments. If I didn't reply, I'm

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Speaker 2: all of this helps y'all as well. Edit four nine

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Speaker 3: Like Morty's mom.

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Speaker 1: Yes, like Morty's mom, and I love being there.

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Speaker 2: So once I start going back in a few days,

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Speaker 2: it'll be a really good distraction.

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Speaker 3: It's great you can be with the horses instead of

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Speaker 2: Also, my friend reminded me she's going out of town

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Speaker 1: While she's gone, So there's that. I know.

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Speaker 2: I have a lot of figuring out to do, but

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Speaker 2: I literally just left. Oh, and someone else mentioned they

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Speaker 2: hope I find things to do to make myself happy.

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Speaker 2: I had plans before all of this to go to

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Speaker 2: going on and that I need space. But thinking about

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Speaker 2: it more, it actually sounds like the perfect distraction and at.

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Speaker 3: Six really specific times.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're where we are. We are getting the minute

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Speaker 2: Just read that sentence, got food bond me, I love

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Speaker 2: and my thigh if anyone was serious, So good, good, Wait,

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Speaker 3: Like the sandwiches. Yeah yeah, it's like, oh, oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: I love them on me.

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Speaker 2: And talk to a couple of friends. So I'm sorry

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Speaker 2: I haven't been replying. It's going to take a while

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Speaker 3: You found the proof that you needed.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, going through your partner's phone, you know it damages

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Speaker 2: I think this relationship is is over. I think op

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Speaker 1: The internet, what do we do?

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Speaker 3: What to do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like not stop.

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Speaker 3: Given her multiple chances to tell the truth, and she

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Speaker 1: She told me that none of this had to do

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Speaker 2: It was all her, her mistake, her ef up. She

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Speaker 2: that she still said those things, that she can't take

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Speaker 3: Mess It wasn't anything to do with you. It was

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Speaker 1: I'll only have me to worry about. That's something that'll

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Speaker 2: I'm going to welcome the challenge and spend as much

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Speaker 2: bottom of my heart, sincerely, thank you everyone that took

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Speaker 2: This has been and will continue to be one of

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Speaker 2: silly little website. By the way, there's another relevant update

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Speaker 2: and update too. Pooh boy, But how do you feel

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Speaker 2: I feel like honestly mature response from both of them.

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Speaker 2: Frak the Pug trut out Frank the Pug haven't seen

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Speaker 3: That's just because you haven't misen That's true.

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Speaker 2: That's just because I haven't been there. But it's nice

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Speaker 2: to see you. She's such a bad liar. If you're

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Speaker 3: I completely agree, completely agree.

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Speaker 3: I'm literally only like I don't care about it, Like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like, like if.

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Speaker 2: It did feel like I was transported into her body

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Speaker 1: I would say what she said.

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Speaker 2: No, she's not absolved, all right. Update two? First things First,

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Speaker 2: I'm sick. Oh no, going to the doctor Monday. I

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Speaker 2: probably from all the stress.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, probably so.

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Speaker 2: I've been dealing with that, but as far as everything else.

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Speaker 2: but we're being civil. There's nothing really for us to

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Speaker 2: talk about anymore. So it's been like once a week

443
00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,560
Speaker 2: something random. We had lunch a couple of weeks ago

444
00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:04,040
Speaker 2: and she opened up a lot. She has a lot

445
00:19:04,040 --> 00:19:05,880
Speaker 2: of growing to do. I do, of course as well,

446
00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:07,960
Speaker 2: and she's not doing anything.

447
00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:08,120
Speaker 1: With that guy.

448
00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:11,320
Speaker 2: Just wants to focus on herself and bettering herself. Until

449
00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:13,480
Speaker 2: this past week. Being too sick to go out, I've

450
00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:14,960
Speaker 2: been hanging out with friends and goofing.

451
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Speaker 1: Off.

452
00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:17,480
Speaker 2: Tried to brave a small concert the other day but

453
00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:19,840
Speaker 2: almost threw up while I was there. I've been meaning

454
00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:22,200
Speaker 2: to make an update, and I'm sorry I haven't folks,

455
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:24,720
Speaker 2: things are all right. I've got things going for me.

456
00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:27,720
Speaker 2: I've been basically focusing on that budgeting, making various a

457
00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:30,199
Speaker 2: list of things I need and things I want to do.

458
00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:34,040
Speaker 2: I'm getting two paid vacations this year and just generally

459
00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:35,560
Speaker 2: figuring out my life.

460
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Speaker 1: And that is where the story.

461
00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,480
Speaker 3: Here you go, and I watched to figure out your life,

462
00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:44,320
Speaker 3: and I'm I'm glad for you. Yeah, and I'm happy

463
00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 3: you're doing it. Good luck to you. But folks, that

464
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:48,720
Speaker 3: was the end of that story.

465
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:52,760
Speaker 2: I feel like, honestly, both people, after being like she

466
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,840
Speaker 2: was terrible, I feel like both of them grew a

467
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Speaker 2: little bit from this.

468
00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 3: I agree.

469
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Speaker 1: Yeah, which is which is what you want to see?

470
00:19:58,640 --> 00:19:59,480
Speaker 1: What you want to want to see.

471
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Speaker 3: We're in a bad situation.

472
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,600
Speaker 2: It was, and it was a bad situation. Elena says,

473
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:06,639
Speaker 2: Sam was so precious as a boyfriend.

474
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Speaker 1: Oem G.

475
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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam, your ogi host here, bring you back

476
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Speaker 2: to the stories. But here's three minutes bads from our sponsor.

477
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Speaker 3: My boyfriend hated that I live with my brother. What okay,

478
00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:23,080
Speaker 3: hey there, I'm wondering what you all think about this situation. Well,

479
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:26,040
Speaker 3: I could probably offer you some good advice.

480
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 1: Sophie and I live together and we are brothers.

481
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:33,480
Speaker 3: Sister and I used to have a boyfriend. Some backstory.

482
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:37,240
Speaker 3: Growing up, my brother twenty male and I twenty three female,

483
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,200
Speaker 3: would fight a lot. Oh, these are nothing like us,

484
00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,960
Speaker 3: tell on each other all the time, a little bit

485
00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 3: like us, et cetera. This changed when I went away

486
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 3: to college thirty minutes away, though I lived there. I

487
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,199
Speaker 3: guess being apart from each other, plus him being in

488
00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,840
Speaker 3: high school and growing up and as a result having

489
00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 3: more things in common with me, made us be friendlier

490
00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 3: during the time we did get to spend together. He

491
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Speaker 3: then came to the same college, was a freshman while

492
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,400
Speaker 3: I was a senior, but we were in school together

493
00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 3: a little longer since I stayed in extra semester. During

494
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,120
Speaker 3: this time, he became one of my closer college friends,

495
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:11,680
Speaker 3: as we'd hang out a lot, both had people over

496
00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:15,160
Speaker 3: to my apartment for parties, gained some of each other's friends,

497
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,639
Speaker 3: so we ended up with a lot of mutual friends.

498
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:19,439
Speaker 3: This sounds just like you guys.

499
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got a lot of mutual friends.

500
00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 3: They just did in college. By the way, this comes

501
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:25,920
Speaker 3: from want to be awake and if you want to

502
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Speaker 3: submit your own stories go to the r slash Okay,

503
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 3: storytime subured it. Oh. For my senior year of college,

504
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 3: I got an apartment with my then boyfriend. He moved

505
00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:38,120
Speaker 3: out last August, so my brother moved in last May,

506
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,800
Speaker 3: so there was a bit of overlap. I'm so concerned

507
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 3: about the amount of people that are spamming in the chat.

508
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:45,800
Speaker 3: We're going to break the chot. This worked out well

509
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 3: because it took some of the financial burden off of

510
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,160
Speaker 3: my ex, who I was still dating at the time.

511
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 3: He just moved for a new job, and my brother,

512
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:56,200
Speaker 3: who was very concerned about costs and picking the cheaper option,

513
00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 3: would be paying less living off campus than on campus.

514
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,679
Speaker 3: Flash forward to the end of summer. I ended up

515
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 3: with a new boyfriend twenty one mail and he ends

516
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:08,880
Speaker 3: up moving in his house. Wasn't an ideal living situation.

517
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 3: My brother and boyfriend got along at first, but they

518
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 3: ended up hating living with each other. They'rey different personalities.

519
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 1: I wonder what whatever.

520
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,959
Speaker 3: My brother is getting a new apartment in May so

521
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 3: it won't be an issue anymore. My main issue now

522
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 3: All along, my boyfriend has commented on how weird it

523
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 3: is that I live with my brother.

524
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 1: Shut your mouth shut your mouth. You can live with

525
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 1: with your sister and it's fine.

526
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 3: You can live with your shiplin forever.

527
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: Forever and ever forever.

528
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 2: Get a compound with your shipland.

529
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: Play together, different houses.

530
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 3: But all connected by the shame patio.

531
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Speaker 1: Shut your mouth.

532
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 3: It blew me away that he thought this. I mean,

533
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 3: I lived with him for eighteen years.

534
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: That's a while.

535
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but this was living with him alone. Now. My

536
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 3: parents obviously thought it was great that their children could

537
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 3: live together and look out for each other. Other people

538
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 3: I talked to told me it was cool that I

539
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 3: got to live with him at college. My boyfriend insists

540
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 3: that they were just saying that, because what else are

541
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 3: they gonna say. They're not going to call it weird

542
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 3: to your face. I dare anyone. I dare anyone to

543
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 3: call it weird to my face. Bite you, I dare

544
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,879
Speaker 3: you one quote? Was I mean, you even share a

545
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: bathroom with him. I'm dairy to call it weird to

546
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 3: my face.

547
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: Sophia and I do share a bathroom, and it's the

548
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 1: most wholesome thing ever, except when she takes a ten

549
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:38,639
Speaker 1: hour oat bath.

550
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 3: I had to take an old meal bath. I had hide.

551
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:42,880
Speaker 1: They do this to each other.

552
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:44,960
Speaker 3: Hey, I need to get in there right now. I

553
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 3: gotta go.

554
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 1: I'm planning to leave. Hey, I gotta get in there

555
00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 1: right now.

556
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 3: I got plans Right now, I gotta go.

557
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: You're always in there whenever I need to go.

558
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 3: You're always in there when I need to go.

559
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: That's true.

560
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 3: Well, yes, as did I at home when we both

561
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 3: live with my parents. That's also true for us. We

562
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 3: had a Jack and Jel bathrooms. Jack and Jill bathroom

563
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 3: is when we have two, that's true. But I'm pretty

564
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 3: sure it's when you have connected.

565
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: Well it's not connected.

566
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I really don't get why this is strange. He

567
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 3: also says that he mentioned to other people that I

568
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 3: live with my brother and supposedly they thought that was

569
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 3: really weird. And it isn't like, oh, that's weird, but

570
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 3: whatever he thinks it's really weird. I feel like my

571
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 3: opinion that it's completely not weird is totally crazy because

572
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,719
Speaker 3: he is so passionate about his side and I'm just like,

573
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 3: what are you serious, dude?

574
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: Get off what you say about my brother.

575
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: Brother.

576
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 2: If you put your paws on my brother, those are

577
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 2: the laws.

578
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Speaker 1: But that I say say so.

579
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,959
Speaker 3: Anyway, So I want other people's opinions.

580
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 1: At it, she says before before we go to the edit.

581
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:07,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's your what's your opinion? Shut his mouth?

582
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 2: That boyfriend should shut his dumb mouth. Not weird to

583
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 2: live with your sister. I want to swear someone who

584
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 2: lives with their sister and they're so cool.

585
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 3: Bleep me right now, ready, kids, close your ears, give

586
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 3: you a moment you can shy your bout. I think

587
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 3: I got it, dude, this guy's crazy. This guy's crazy.

588
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 3: What do you mean it's weird? Why is it weird?

589
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 3: Why does he think it's weird? Give me one reason

590
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 3: that's not like, that's not going to make you sound

591
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:43,679
Speaker 3: like a creep. Give me one good reason why I

592
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 3: shouldn't clock you.

593
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, clock and sakya pick you up and drop you.

594
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 3: There's an edit, he says. Everyone you talk to he

595
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,400
Speaker 3: says it's weird. I say redd, it doesn't. He refuses

596
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 3: to tell me who says it's weird, because it's just him?

597
00:25:58,400 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 1: Why why tell me?

598
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 3: Why tell me?

599
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:00,600
Speaker 2: Wan?

600
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: I never want to hear you say I don't want

601
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 1: you to live with your brother that way.

602
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 3: Which is my main problem with this? Right now resolved?

603
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 2: Oh, I've never seen a resolve.

604
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 1: Resolved, resolved, we have we have done it. Okay, we

605
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 1: got to read it, Coop.

606
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 3: The unfortunate thing is that things eat me up until

607
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:29,880
Speaker 3: I address them. So I was texting him about all

608
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 3: of this, but we both got home from work disgusted.

609
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 3: A lot of things were said, but we've resolved this

610
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 3: issue and are moving on. He even told me everyone

611
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 3: who agreed with him, except for one person who apparently

612
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 3: asked that he didn't tell me. So that's not an

613
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:46,360
Speaker 3: issue anymore either. Thanks for your input. This is not over,

614
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 3: This is not resolved, and there are relevanconmics. We're not

615
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 3: even halfway today.

616
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 1: There is a brother boyfriend rivalry. There's an Alman blood

617
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 1: over love.

618
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 3: Dude, if my if I had a partner, who ever

619
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 3: said who was like, it's kind of weird that you

620
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 3: live with your brother, I I would I'd break up

621
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: with him on the spot.

622
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: And then and then I'd set my brother on him.

623
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I said get him, Sam.

624
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 1: Get him, and I'd wear my face mask too.

625
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

626
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:09,680
Speaker 1: So they couldn't.

627
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 3: They couldn't put you in the nose. They ain't gonna get.

628
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 2: You, change gonna get me. I'll just yeat him with

629
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 2: my little face mask.

630
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,439
Speaker 3: Skin the Sun says. I think he's making up that

631
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 3: other people think it's weird. Hope. He says, he said,

632
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 3: like six people said it's weird. Oh my gosh, six people.

633
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 1: How many people think it's weird in this chat?

634
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 3: Yeah? None, yeah, yeah, yeah, better be none.

635
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll throw you out, We will ban you.

636
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,919
Speaker 3: From from the chat. Babe. I held a survey and

637
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 3: like a million people think it's weird. What well, we

638
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 3: just saw a poll about Sam's mustache. But I really

639
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 3: think he's making it up. I think it's a little

640
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 3: weird that he thinks it's weird. Hope, he says. He's

641
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: saying there are people I know, so he doesn't want

642
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,200
Speaker 3: to tell me who. I asked if it's to protect

643
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 3: me or them, and he said them. I told him

644
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 3: about this post, and he said, people who browse Reddit

645
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 3: are also like weirdos and not like normal people in society.

646
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: Get out of here, fight me.

647
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 3: This will be Sam right here. Yeah.

648
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: If you try to fight him, yeah, Like.

649
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 3: You have to have a few screws missing to be

650
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 3: a redditor and like the content and maintain his position.

651
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 3: You're about to have a few screws missing. Buddy, Dizzy

652
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 3: Moose is your boyfriend.

653
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 2: He's jealous of your brother right now? Yeah, you're messing

654
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: with my click.

655
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 3: You're messing with the You want the bear, you get the.

656
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 1: The bear pause.

657
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 2: If you want the If you want the whole bear,

658
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 2: you get that bear and more. Yeah, you get mama

659
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 2: bear and baby bear bears.

660
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: You get all. You get all.

661
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: You can't bear that many bears, you get on when

662
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: the bear bears. Three bears is a crowd, and that

663
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 2: crowd doesn't like you.

664
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Speaker 3: Zizzey Moose says, your boyfriend is jealous of your brother.

665
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 3: Did you hear me? Your boyfriend is jealous of your brother.

666
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 3: He doesn't see your brother as well your brother. He

667
00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 3: sees your brother as a man a rival. Is why

668
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 3: he's making up people out of thin air who supposedly

669
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: insist this is weird. That is why you don't know

670
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 3: anyone else who thinks it's weird. That is why he's

671
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: even got an excuse for why people are supposedly lying

672
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 3: to you about it not being weird, because he's jealous,

673
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 3: because he's suspicious of your.

674
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: Brother, your brother weirdo.

675
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 3: Mentally healthy people do not see a partner's siblings as rivals.

676
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: But your boyfriend does. That should tell you something. It

677
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 3: should tell you that it's time to find a new boyfriend,

678
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 3: one who isn't imagining some sordid, terrible relationship between you

679
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 3: and your brother. Opie says, well, here's the thing he did.

680
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 3: Used to be jealous and thought that our relationship itself

681
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 3: was weird. My brother can be physical, but all non

682
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 3: spicily playful, pushing sort of things, not really caring about

683
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 3: grabbing my arm, hand on shoulder, stuff like that. And

684
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 3: what's wrong with that?

685
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 1: What? What's the brother and sister can't hug?

686
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: He says, you, kiaja, what is the world coming to?

687
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 3: This is literally our relationship. It makes me angry that

688
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 3: he's commenting on it. It makes me angry.

689
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: We're throwing this boy out.

690
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 3: Out out of here. My boyfriend thought that was really

691
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: a thing weird. Well he still does. Did no one

692
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 3: hung you? Were you not hugged? Not? Boohoo? Go cry

693
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: in a hole? I said cry to be clear, and

694
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 3: really thought there was a spicy related element to it.

695
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 3: There isn't.

696
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: That's crazy. You're I'm so watching too much Game of Thrones.

697
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 3: Also, I also want to say, like if he thought

698
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 3: that you and your brother had anything spicy going on

699
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 3: at all.

700
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: I still wanted to.

701
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 3: Date, still wanted to date you.

702
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: That's weird.

703
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: It's weird. That's weird.

704
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 1: That's weird. If that truly was what he thought, boyfriend's

705
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: a weirdo crazy hinta.

706
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 3: You can watch these days, man. He would get angry

707
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 3: jealous if I even talked to my brother laughed at

708
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 3: his jokes anything. Oh my god, this had been better.

709
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 3: But I think it's more just that he isn't vocalizing

710
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 3: it as much, which I really appreciate.

711
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: What do you mean, dude, this is a red flag.

712
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: You should this giant red flag. Oh my god. But

713
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 3: like recently, he was somewhere, so my brother and I

714
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 3: were just home and I got a chance to really

715
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 3: have a conversation with my brother for a change. My

716
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 3: boyfriend came home and asked if we talked. I told

717
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 3: him we did, and he said he was glad to

718
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 3: hear that we had a chance to. But then later

719
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 3: that night we ended up drinking a bit and he said,

720
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 3: oh good, I have to admit I really want to

721
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 3: know what you two were talking about. You swears it's

722
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: just an objective living with your brother is a weird

723
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 3: thing now though, and that it doesn't have anything to

724
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 3: do with his jealousy. I'm not breaking up with him.

725
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 3: Why not. It's honestly not a huge issue. Yes, it is.

726
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 1: Is he's trying to control you.

727
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 3: Thinks you're having spicy stuff with your brother. With your brother,

728
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 3: that's disgusting.

729
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: He's a weirdo.

730
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 3: He's a freaking a weirdo.

731
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's a freaky weirdo. Let's you cry in a hole?

732
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 3: Yes, more of something that I wanted to get other's

733
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 3: opinions on because we have such drastically different views and

734
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 3: are both so firm in them. We hadn't been arguing

735
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 3: about this or anything. I literally just recently thought posting

736
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 3: on Reddit would be a good idea to get an

737
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 3: unbiased view. He's great in most other ways, and the

738
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: good outweighs any disagreements we have. By far. I think

739
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 3: he's certainly mentally healthy. He's just got a strange view

740
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 3: on this.

741
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 1: Specifically, this is weird.

742
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 3: This is so weird, And in fact, he puts up

743
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 3: with a lot of crap on my end too, So

744
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 3: I give him that. Stop giving him things. What crap

745
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 3: does he put up? Oh? You forgot to put the

746
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: dishes in the dishwasher.

747
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 1: He puts up with the crap, you know, like live

748
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 1: with my brother.

749
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, oh, and he puts up with me,

750
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 3: like living with my brothers though you know he's an angel.

751
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: This is weird. This is weird. I feel like this

752
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: is a red flag. I feel flag.

753
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: Him getting trying to distance you from someone here you're

754
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 2: really close with is maybe just the tip of the

755
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: iceberg of the kind of isolation that he's trying to

756
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 2: get you to.

757
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 3: And like the thing is like, if this was just

758
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: your friend that you were living with, probably would do

759
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 3: the same thing, but could go even further, could convince

760
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 3: you that this is not okay. But because it's your brother,

761
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 3: that's enough of of like obviously.

762
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 2: And like he's not gonna let you have any male friendships.

763
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 2: If he's this it's crazy about your brother. Imagine what

764
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 2: he would be like if you had any kind of

765
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 2: male friend or like he leads your parents.

766
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: He's like, dude, your dad, Yeah, you're doing that's so weird. Disgusting, yeah,

767
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: kind of gross.

768
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 3: So yeah, and also your daddy, you know, like when

769
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,239
Speaker 3: he has a kid, Like, like I feel like there

770
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 3: are sometimes like really weird dads, where like I can't

771
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 3: I can't take care of my bait, like my female baby.

772
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 3: That's like weird, Like that's like a thing. The thing,

773
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 3: it's a thing, and I feel like that's his energy.

774
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I I I feel like op is downplaying

775
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 2: a I think this is a small manifestation of a

776
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 2: large problem.

777
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 3: I think it's a glaring problem.

778
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 2: But like it's it's kind of like you have a

779
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 2: building that's like like like.

780
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: Laying a little bit to the side.

781
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like a tiny little bit, doesn't look that bad,

782
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 2: but the foundation is rotten and it's about to fall.

783
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,400
Speaker 2: Like that's what it is. It's like it's like a

784
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 2: small thing on the surface. It's like, oh, he just

785
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,479
Speaker 2: doesn't like my boyfriend a little jealous. But I think

786
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 2: that is again tip of the iceberg, and there's so

787
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 2: much just weirdness below the surface. I think if you

788
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 2: don't have like conversations without it, or if you don't

789
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: just get past it, it's got to be difficult that

790
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 2: to have this guy Yea in your life and have

791
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 2: any kind of male relationship.

792
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 3: I agree. And also, but the thing is like I

793
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 3: also think that she keeps saying, yeah, we had conversations

794
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:38,919
Speaker 3: and he's agreed to like, you know, you just stop

795
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 3: mentioning blah blah blah. He's still thinking it, and I

796
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 3: think the fact that he's still thinking it is disgusting.

797
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, this is this is wild. This is wild. Sam.

798
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 2: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories, but here's

799
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:50,560
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800
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Speaker 3: Five years later, pretty much, I made that post about

801
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 3: my boyfriend thinking it was very whoa five years later,

802
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,399
Speaker 3: years later, Oh, oh my.

803
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 1: God, we might Yeah, what would you think? Broken up

804
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: or not?

805
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 3: I hope they're broken up.

806
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: I think they should be broken up.

807
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 3: Pretty much. I made that post about my boyfriend thinking

808
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 3: it was very weird that I live with my brother

809
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 3: at a point where my boyfriend and I have been

810
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 3: dating for a few months shy of a year. If

811
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 3: that was after a few months, I'd be like, get up.

812
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 3: One month after I made that post, my brother ended

813
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,760
Speaker 3: up moving out anyway, and my boyfriend and I moved

814
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 3: to another apartment, all planned and just a matter of

815
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 3: the lease ending. So the situation has mostly resolved itself. However,

816
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 3: let me tell you only crap. I wish I would

817
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,720
Speaker 3: have taken the advice given to me in this post.

818
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god.

819
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 3: And I cringe reading through this five year old post

820
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 3: because a lot of the comments were so true and

821
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 3: I should have just left. I put up with this

822
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 3: crap for a total of four years before he broke

823
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 3: up with me for good. We actually broke up about

824
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 3: ten to twelve different times that lasted anywhere from a

825
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 3: few hours to a couple of weeks.

826
00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: Ten to twelve times. I thought I was bad. Ugh,

827
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 1: what breaking out with someone twice?

828
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 3: Oh, that's true, you did. Yeah. I think it was

829
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 3: more than twice, because I remember it was. It was

830
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 3: at a point this is Sam's ex. It was at

831
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 3: a point where Mom would call me and say, can

832
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:15,799
Speaker 3: you like call Sam, you know, he's really upset about

833
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 3: the breakup, And I was like, they're back together.

834
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 1: I think it was twice.

835
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 3: I didn't. I couldn't even keep up.

836
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 2: It was three it was three times? It well, it

837
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 2: was it was three times, but it was yeah, but

838
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:25,959
Speaker 2: it was one final time.

839
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 3: The entire time, he was definitely jealous of my brother

840
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,800
Speaker 3: pretty much. He ended up admitting that my brother was

841
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 3: a guy who commanded a room. People always looking to

842
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: him like he's sort of a leader in his friend

843
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 3: group and making people laugh. Wait wait wait, wait uh,

844
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,320
Speaker 3: who do they call the group leader and the friend

845
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 3: groups group leader yet to ask the group leader for

846
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 3: permission to go to the bathroom. Oh yeah, wait, what

847
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 3: was the dark humor?

848
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: I think it was it was Okay.

849
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 3: That was the type of person my now ex boyfriend

850
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:01,439
Speaker 3: wanted to be, so he hated that my brother was that.

851
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:04,800
Speaker 3: In fits of rage, even in a completely unrelated argument,

852
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 3: he would randomly be like, oh but you fed your

853
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 3: brother so much crap coming from him. But I think

854
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 3: that the combination of he and I in a relationship

855
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 3: together was just incredibly toxic. It made it so hard

856
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:17,800
Speaker 3: for me to be able to think about things rationally.

857
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 3: If anyone said that to me, they're gone, They're gone. Disgusting.

858
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 3: That's literally disgusting. If someone ever.

859
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 2: Said stayed with him for so long after getting all this,

860
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 2: after hearing that, I mean, I'm glad, I'm glad that

861
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 2: she's finally out of it, but man, like, well, I

862
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 2: think we saw this.

863
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: We saw this in the first post.

864
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 3: For she was like, oh no, no, no, you guys

865
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: don't get it. We talked, he agreed, blah blah blah.

866
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 3: He never he never dropped that line of thinking. You know,

867
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 3: there was a comment in my original post about someone

868
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: wishing I could see the situation from the outside, and

869
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 3: looking back at the post, I feel like I finally

870
00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 3: am and it's just cringeworthy. Someone had a messaged me

871
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 3: a list of signs of a harmful relationship, and looking back,

872
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 3: he definitely checks off most of those. I had said

873
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 3: that he rarely lies to me, but in retrospect, our

874
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 3: relationship was full of lies, some major ones that I

875
00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 3: recall from before I made that post, So I'm not

876
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 3: sure if I was lying to myself then or what.

877
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

878
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 3: Do you have any final thoughts?

879
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I think we called it in the beginning.

880
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:29,360
Speaker 2: I'm glad that ope the end of this relationship, but geez, Louise, Yeah.

881
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 3: I'm sorry if anyone's if anyone thinks that you ever

882
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Speaker 3: your relationship with your sibling is weird, unless it is weird,

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Speaker 3: some people have weird relationship with those Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, some people have weird relationship. This isn't normal.

885
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Speaker 2: Affection is weird, like giving people hugs and living with

886
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 2: their sibling is not weird.

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Speaker 1: It's actually super sick.

888
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 3: It's actually so cool.

889
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 1: It's so cool.

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Speaker 3: And they're jealous.

891
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're jealous. Sophie and I watched Rick and Mortar

892
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Speaker 1: the other day. It was awesome.

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Speaker 3: But I think at the end of the day, I'm

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Speaker 3: glad you got either in a be aware of those signs.

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Speaker 3: I'm in a much better place now and have a

896
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Speaker 3: new boyfriend for about two years. Does he like your brother?

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Speaker 3: I think the takeaway here and why I wanted to

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Speaker 3: post an update is for people perhaps in a similar situation,

899
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Speaker 3: regardless of what it might be about, to consider if

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Speaker 3: your esso is absolutely ridiculous when it comes to something,

901
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 3: don't expect it to be okay just because you can

902
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 3: maybe avoid that topic in the future. It's possible that

903
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 3: it will still come up. And it's very likely that

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Speaker 3: this isn't a red flag to ignore just because it's

905
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Speaker 3: easy to ignore. It's still a raging red flag and

906
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Speaker 3: adds a lot of implications for your relationship in the future.

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Speaker 3: Relevant comments Vital to Life says, hope your ex didn't

908
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 3: do anything to damage your relationship with your brother. It

909
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:44,919
Speaker 3: sounds like you're both people who care immensely about each other,

910
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,720
Speaker 3: and I hope you're still close. Hope, he says, nope,

911
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 3: but probably because my brother was understanding and realized how

912
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Speaker 3: manipulative he was. At one point, my ex forced me

913
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Speaker 3: to ask him to move out in a it's either

914
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Speaker 3: him or me type of move, and I did, but

915
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 3: my brother didn't exactly have anywhere to go mid semester.

916
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Speaker 3: I think this is Monday. That was that whole situation.

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Speaker 3: I apologize to my brother about that later and explained

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Speaker 3: to him, and he said it was all good. What

919
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Speaker 3: bothered him the most was that we never hung out anymore.

920
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Speaker 3: Now is the brother doing. He's good as well. Was

921
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Speaker 3: very forgiving of the situation and pretty much saw through

922
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Speaker 3: everything and always knew how crappy the guy was, so

923
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Speaker 3: he was honestly relieve when we broke up. Yeah. Yeah,

924
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Speaker 3: but folks, that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: Before we wrap up the episode, I wanted to lead

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Speaker 2: some comments from a previous episode. So on the video

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Speaker 2: my wife is obsessed with her friend and I want

928
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Speaker 2: a divorce. It was posted on July twenty third. Most

929
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Speaker 2: of the comments are related to the first story, so

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Speaker 2: here's a short TLDR. A man's wife harassed her former

931
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Speaker 2: best friend Laura for a year, using fake LinkedIn profiles,

932
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Speaker 2: sending diffamatory messages to Laura's coworkers and husband, claiming she

933
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Speaker 2: was a substance user and cheater. Yeah, I remember this story, Dan,

934
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Speaker 2: she was. Yeah, it was crazy. She was like ridiculously

935
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Speaker 2: obsessed with this person. She even crashed Laura's baby shower.

936
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Speaker 2: Laura successfully sued, forcing the couple to empty their savings

937
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Speaker 2: money that will take four to five years to re build.

938
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Speaker 2: And also, the husband was completely blameless in this story.

939
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Speaker 2: The harassment stemmed from jealousy after seeing Laura had lost

940
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Speaker 2: weight and appeared successful. The husband considers divorce as his

941
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Speaker 2: wife shows no genuine remorse and resists therapy. If you're

942
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Speaker 2: curious you know the full story, you should go watch

943
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Speaker 2: the full video. But let's read some comments from y'all.

944
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Speaker 2: From Rosetta Allan, being a horrid bully is not a

945
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 2: mental illness. Using mental illness as a term for these

946
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 2: things honestly just hurts people suffering mental illness. She chose

947
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Speaker 2: her actions, It's because she had postpartum and so like

948
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Speaker 2: some of it was blamed on it. I do think

949
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Speaker 2: still like there still might have been a little seed

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Speaker 2: of her actions that was from mental illness, and she

951
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 2: needs help, But I do not think that is a

952
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Speaker 2: full reason for her actions. Nine Tailed Fox seventy nine

953
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Speaker 2: says Opie definitely needs a divorce, but he needs to

954
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Speaker 2: be careful. If his wife could try to destroy someone's

955
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Speaker 2: life for a year just because she was being a

956
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 2: petty wench, what will she do to the man who

957
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 2: divorced her. OPI needs to go to a lawyer and

958
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Speaker 2: make sure everyone knows what she did so she can't

959
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 2: do it to him either before he divorces. Maybe get

960
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 2: a restraining order. Also, he needs therapy to understand how

961
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Speaker 2: he missed all of the red flags. Yeah, no, I

962
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Speaker 2: completely I completely agree with this. I think something Sophie

963
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 2: and I often say is like be forthright when you're

964
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 2: ending a relationship unless you're in danger. And I feel like, honestly,

965
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Speaker 2: OPI could have been in danger. Wenda lov One said

966
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Speaker 2: I had a friendship like this. She was beyond toxic,

967
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 2: so I had to talk and ended the friendship. That's

968
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Speaker 2: when the harassment started, CPS calls, in letters to my

969
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 2: parents and in laws, accusing me and my husband of

970
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Speaker 2: being addicts, and neglectful and even starving our kids.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, we read a story like that too.

972
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Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, I had to go through the entire thing

973
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Speaker 2: of clearing her names, tests, doctor visits, and visits from

974
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Speaker 2: CPS to prove our innocence. It was very traumatic. She

975
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Speaker 2: had the nerve to admit it and said I should

976
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Speaker 2: have been more mature than cut off the friendship, me

977
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Speaker 2: being immature. One roll, okay, Jane. I told her not

978
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Speaker 2: to forget what I knew about her over our friendship

979
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Speaker 2: and to stoop before I match your energy, but instead

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00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 2: with the truth, basically saying like I can use all

981
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Speaker 2: this against you, all this this BS that you put

982
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Speaker 2: me through. It went quiet after that, thankful it did,

983
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Speaker 2: But I always did consider how more she would have

984
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Speaker 2: escalated it if she didn't have so many skeletons in

985
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Speaker 2: her closet. People like this are very scary because there's

986
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Speaker 2: no line they won't cross. Jess Smith says, petty revenge

987
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: my mom and I do against her sisters, my aunts.

988
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 2: Every summer we find a tomato that looks like a

989
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 2: butt and go doorbell ditch it on their doorsteps. My

990
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 2: one aunt started it, so we decided the next year

991
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Speaker 2: to go get revenge. This is the time type of

992
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Speaker 2: revenge level we need. Nobody gets hurt. It is cheap

993
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 2: and everyone laughs and sp zix Mey says OMG Dakota

994
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 2: pulling out the baby picks for a little feeling reset

995
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 2: love it no need to over trigger ourselves. And that

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Speaker 2: is where the comments and love when you guys submit

997
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Speaker 2: comments and your own stories on the show, and that

998
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Speaker 2: is where this episode ends.

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Speaker 1: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow.