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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi guys, Hi coming in hat, hat, Hat, coming in hat.

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Speaker 2: I wondered if you wanted to pull any pins. Kramer, Oh,

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Speaker 2: I just got like nauseous.

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Speaker 1: Did you? I don't know. Your husband, thanks told me

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Speaker 1: to rub a coin on it, a silver coin.

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Speaker 2: I go, could we use sorry silver drops and shit?

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Speaker 2: That feels more sanitary. So Catherine has a you know

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Speaker 2: what it looks like? Remember the girls in high school

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Speaker 2: or dudes that would or actually this happened when I

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Speaker 2: was pregnant, but when you puke pop.

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Speaker 1: The Yeah, I think that's what it is. No, but

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I read after Emmy's friends like

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Speaker 1: discovered it on my eye and he was like, stop

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Speaker 1: doing drugs, mom, you know, being dramatic, But I like, literally, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I looked it up and it could be like a

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Speaker 1: I did have, Like I had like a sneeze attack

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Speaker 1: the other day, and that can happen. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Otherwise I got nothing. I had no idea. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: even bothering me. But now it is a.

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Speaker 2: Little bit Welcome to the forty Sorry, did you put

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Speaker 2: any little drops in?

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Speaker 1: I've done nothing, but I might go try the silver

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Speaker 1: coin that your husband suggested. I mean, I would wash

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Speaker 1: it for that's what she said. I was like, I'm

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Speaker 1: not worried about it, being I could you just use

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Speaker 1: the drops, like the silver drops.

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Speaker 2: I think that's what Maybe we just americanized this strategy.

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Speaker 1: You can send it to me, but I bet his

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Speaker 1: works better, you know, stuff like that always works better.

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Speaker 2: I do think it will just distract you with whatever

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Speaker 2: it gives you next with the dirty money, but that's fine.

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Speaker 1: I mean, okay, just send me the drops. We'll see

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Speaker 1: how they.

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Speaker 2: Okay, go make sure you get a tetanus shot after earth.

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Speaker 2: I was like that was.

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Speaker 1: You're like right away? Was like, or something clean? How

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Speaker 1: are the.

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Speaker 2: Shots going a great? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You feel good? Yeah, I mean I've had moments. I've

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Speaker 1: definitely had some nauseous moments. And every day is a

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Speaker 1: little bit different, more hungry some days not the other.

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Speaker 1: But I'm down like ten pounds, oh my gosh, and

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Speaker 1: like two and a half weeks, right, I mean, I'm

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Speaker 1: sure a lot of it inflammation, you know, I'm sure

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Speaker 1: like water weight and inflammation and stuff that went away.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so I'm sticking to this one. For now.

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Speaker 1: As long as it's working, I won't even up the dosage, right, like,

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Speaker 1: as long as I'm losing weight. So and you feel good, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel great again. There have been some moments where

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I kind of feel nauseous, but nothing terrible.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything that you're surprised? You feel like any

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Speaker 2: fun benefits.

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Speaker 1: It's just to actually feel so like full is actually

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Speaker 1: a very weird. It's been a very weird feeling. I

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Speaker 1: don't know that I've just always maybe stopped myself in

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Speaker 1: time to feel that actual fullness. But like it's kind

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Speaker 1: of bizarre in a way, you know, like it's like

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Speaker 1: I have only eaten half of this now. It's definitely

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Speaker 1: more full than you know, probably a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just like, how am I? Like this is

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Speaker 1: just not like me to actually feel ful right now?

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Speaker 1: But no, it's I mean it's been good. Yeah, there

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Speaker 2: You know, there is like an actual that's a thing

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Speaker 2: in people's bodies to not get full. Yeah, people that

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Speaker 2: are missing I don't know if it's the chemical or

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Speaker 2: the nerve or whatever it is that allows them to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it just really it just last thing was it

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Speaker 1: just really gets you to a point where it's like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm good, I don't want to keep eating because this

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Speaker 1: tastes good, you know, which there's times you're like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: tastes so good, I'm just going to keep eating that

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Speaker 1: somehow goes away. I'm like, yeah, I had a piece

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Speaker 1: of pizza last night and I was like that tastes

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Speaker 2: I'm done.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm done, you know, and so great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's awesome.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, So you guys.

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Speaker 2: I'm just avoiding.

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Speaker 1: I know you are. So we've got to I just feel.

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Speaker 2: Like last week, I well I just took over.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but see, I've been waiting a whole week for

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Speaker 1: you to take over again and tell me. Yeah, we

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Speaker 2: Couple of pins.

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Speaker 3: We do okay, fine, all on pin both of them.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I bet we can talk her into it.

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Speaker 1: If it's a maybe. Usually Cat and I can get

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Speaker 1: you in a day.

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Speaker 3: So one was there was an incident again at the

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Speaker 3: baseball and so and I had to leave because Jolie

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Speaker 3: had a game at the same time. So I and

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Speaker 3: there were different fields. So I stayed for a few

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Speaker 3: minutes of Jase's and then had to go and then

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Speaker 3: and then went to Jolie's, and there was an incident

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Speaker 3: with the same kid, and this time it was Mike

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Speaker 3: who yelled. And what happened was is Jace got hit

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Speaker 3: with the baseball bat inside the cage, which the boys

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Speaker 3: the boys. I'm I'm not gonna call just one out,

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Speaker 3: but like, boys shouldn't be swinging the clubs around or

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Speaker 3: the bats around. And he ended up having a fair

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Speaker 3: little large bruise on his arm. And so because this

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Speaker 3: has happened a few times my and Mike, he's like, hey,

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Speaker 3: I just said, need to tell you what happened, and

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Speaker 3: and uh, I go straight to the ready to fire

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Speaker 3: off a text message and just be like, this is

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Speaker 3: got a bruise to his face a couple weeks ago,

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Speaker 3: that's because the ball hit him. That's fine for bruises

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Speaker 3: to happen out in the field, it shouldn't be happening

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Speaker 3: in the cage by his own teammates. And I obviously

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Speaker 3: drafted a text message send it to both of you guys.

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Speaker 3: You gave me your edits, and then I edited down

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Speaker 3: because I'm like, I'm not going to be on the

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Speaker 3: go I'm not going to.

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Speaker 2: Take our ball and go home, but we are. We're

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Speaker 2: going to get a little self control in the dugout.

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Speaker 2: So I ended up not sending it just at all.

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Speaker 2: I kind of wanted. I'm starting to I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: not be reactive, and what I've done for the last

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Speaker 2: few years is my unsent text messages. I have a

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Speaker 2: lot of unsent text messages in my phone, but they're

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Speaker 2: helpful for me to just write them out. Sure, so

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Speaker 2: I did this with that, and I just didn't know

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Speaker 2: so I knew if I sent something like this, it's

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Speaker 2: going to affect a friendship as well, and so.

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Speaker 3: I ended up not sending it. But she mentioned something

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Speaker 3: to me at the game. She goes, hey, so did

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Speaker 3: you hear what happened? And I was like, I did,

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Speaker 3: and if I'm honest, I'm really I was really disappointed

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Speaker 3: I didn't hear from you, because if that would have happened,

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Speaker 3: like other people reached out to me, and I was

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Speaker 3: surprised not to hear from you, and that's what I

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Speaker 3: And so then we had like a good conversation with it,

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Speaker 3: and she kind of said, she's like, I didn't see it,

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Speaker 3: in that moment, it really made me realize that, you know,

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Speaker 3: I think it's important. I'm glad I didn't send it

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Speaker 3: And that's when it was a really good lesson for

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Speaker 3: me because of my quick reaction to send something she

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Speaker 3: think I still could have sent it and she would

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Speaker 3: have said like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, But

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Speaker 3: I was holding on just making up a story that

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Speaker 3: actually wasn't true. And I think that was just such

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Speaker 3: a good lesson for me, not to realize that we

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Speaker 3: do that a lot, where we'll make up what we

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Speaker 3: more upset when really that's not, like none of those

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Speaker 3: stories end up being true.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm the worst at that. I always make up

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Speaker 1: the time. But that's awesome that you did and that

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Speaker 1: you were able to then talk to her and find

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Speaker 3: And I'm glad I did say it bothered me because

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Speaker 3: I'm like that no matter what, that was the truth,

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Speaker 3: whether you know she did didn't text me or not, like,

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Speaker 3: it was still something that I'm glad I was, I said,

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Speaker 3: because I was holding onto it but then realizing everything

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Speaker 1: Right, And it's okay to be honest and say, yes,

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Speaker 1: this did upset me. Yeah, Like that's what we should

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Speaker 1: do as adults. I think that that's you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: glad it worked out that way. I had a feeling

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Speaker 1: you didn't send it, and I'm proud of you. I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't have been able to do it, so you sent

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Speaker 1: it probably. Yeah, you know me, I'm bad at that

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Speaker 1: stuff really. Oh yeah, I'm reactionary, but that kind of

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Speaker 2: That's the kid thing. I don't know that I could especially, yeah, waited.

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Speaker 2: I don't know that I could have waited, but I

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Speaker 2: will say so. Amy and I have talked about this,

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Speaker 2: the filling in the blanks therapist Amy, because she said

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Speaker 2: creative people and especially interesting with your brain because you're

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Speaker 2: like a producer movie person in your brain. You have

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Speaker 2: a very production oriented mind, which is what I like

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Speaker 2: about you and my lighting today. But she says that

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Speaker 2: creative people can get more creative when they're filling in

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Speaker 2: the blanks, and so sometimes the creativity works against us. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I do this in marriage. Fill in the blanks. Oh

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Speaker 2: uh huh gets really creative. So like if I don't

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Speaker 2: give any example, well like not so much anymore, mostly

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Speaker 2: because I don't even know what day or time it is.

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Speaker 2: But for a while there it was really important for

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Speaker 2: me to hear from him pretty often. It's also connective,

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Speaker 2: but there would be like these three hour four hour gaps,

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Speaker 2: and you know, like we have a saine in our house,

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Speaker 2: like days feel like hours to him and hours feel

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Speaker 2: I would be like it has been four hour, you know,

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Speaker 2: it gets really creative, and that's just not true. Like

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Speaker 1: Like I would want to Kristen, I'll just say that

436
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 1: you would want I would want you absolutely, But I

437
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 1: can't think I would want to.

438
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:45,800
Speaker 2: But I think I would want to Catherine.

439
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 1: Okay, I appreciate that, but we couldn't have two of me.

440
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,560
Speaker 1: So I pick a Christian. So I picked me because

441
00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:52,040
Speaker 1: of default?

442
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:53,080
Speaker 2: Why would you pick Kristin?

443
00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 3: Now? I would?

444
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,879
Speaker 1: I mean I think I feel sweaty. I don't know

445
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,720
Speaker 1: why for asking me and you this question is very

446
00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 1: different than asking someone completely like for me, like you're

447
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:04,159
Speaker 1: always going to want something that you're not.

448
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 2: I feel like a little bit you know, that's interesting.

449
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:11,199
Speaker 2: I think that might be the question for her. I

450
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,080
Speaker 2: think this is why it's coming up for her because

451
00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,240
Speaker 2: she doesn't know if she wants someone that's like her

452
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,200
Speaker 2: or not like her? Is that true? I'm talking about

453
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 2: her like she's not right right?

454
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,720
Speaker 1: Maybe I feel like for me, I would like them

455
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:24,879
Speaker 1: to have like a more Yes. I think me and

456
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 1: you have enough in common that it would be great

457
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:30,280
Speaker 1: because we still have our foundation, we still have like

458
00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:32,879
Speaker 1: our belief system, we still have all that. But you

459
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,520
Speaker 1: might react differently to things, and those are the things

460
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:39,439
Speaker 1: that could help you know them having a different like

461
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 1: viewpoint of that as kids, like not just seeing me

462
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:44,720
Speaker 1: as a mom and how I react to different things,

463
00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 1: but how you react to different things, Like I think

464
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:47,640
Speaker 1: that could be cool.

465
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:52,680
Speaker 2: I would marry you, Kat, you're just a cat. I

466
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,080
Speaker 2: won't want to well, because I just always wonder it's

467
00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 2: like if do you want someone that I mean is

468
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:01,399
Speaker 2: And this isn't like trying to personalities here, but like

469
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 2: you know, you're more touchy and like huggy, and it's

470
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 2: like I don't know if I you know, if I'm

471
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 2: threatened by that, you know what I mean? So true,

472
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,400
Speaker 2: it's like what I feel threatened if the if the

473
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 2: other person was. And again this all goes back to

474
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,159
Speaker 2: I just want the kids to feel loved, right, But

475
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 2: I'm also speaking from it is going to be hard

476
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,919
Speaker 2: to have another woman around my kids because I'm not

477
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 2: used to that. So and that's something where I didn't

478
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 2: I stayed so long. Like now I'm at a place

479
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 2: and you know, Kat, you've been on this journey with

480
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,199
Speaker 2: me longer. But why I want I told you one

481
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 2: of the main reasons when it happened. And she's like,

482
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 2: you're gonna leave right, And I'm like, my daughter is

483
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 2: four months old, like no, like, and I was like

484
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,159
Speaker 2: she is because I'm like, if he was to be

485
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 2: with someone then there she might call them mom, and

486
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: she like it is like this is my daughter, my child.

487
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 2: But now it's like they're going.

488
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 3: To get the emotion, what those emotions and that like

489
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 3: I'm mom. If anything, this person is going to be

490
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 3: just an added awesome bonus of love and fun and whatever.

491
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 3: But I do think there's different personality types that I'm

492
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: just kind of it started to make me think like, huh,

493
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 3: like what would I what would I have wanted or

494
00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 3: what what?

495
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 1: Or what?

496
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 3: You know, what what would be good or what would

497
00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 3: make me feel? I don't know, it's just something interesting.

498
00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 3: You a question, Cramer, go for it.

499
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 2: What is something she would do that would make you

500
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 2: maybe feel insecure? Oh? Nothing, nothing? Okay, if I'm being

501
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,440
Speaker 2: totally honest, Yeah, yeah, Like I know now I think

502
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 2: I might be insecure if someone was way over the

503
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 2: top fun.

504
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I think it would be fun insecure for sure.

505
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 2: Like I would when you said a fun whatever, I

506
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 2: was like, oh, oh well, they better not be having

507
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 2: too much on because.

508
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 3: Because I know now I'm secure enough in my Like

509
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 3: I know I'm secure enough in the mom like I

510
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 3: mom that, Like I would make forward to him having

511
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,639
Speaker 3: someone around the kids because I there's a piece of

512
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 3: me that's like, great, she's going to help cook awesome

513
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 3: meals for them, and great she's going to have help

514
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 3: them you know, maybe not be on the video games

515
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 3: all the time. Like I make up that like having

516
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 3: a woman presence around the kids more at Mike's house

517
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,719
Speaker 3: will help with getting them out more and being more active,

518
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 3: you know. So I like I I welcome and that's

519
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 3: why I told her. I was like, I welcome having

520
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,640
Speaker 3: you know, a female presence around my kids there, you know. Uh,

521
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,359
Speaker 3: and we are so different that I think it works

522
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,120
Speaker 3: where they're going to get things from, you know. Like again,

523
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 3: I'm always mom, so it's sure sure, like well, nobody

524
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 3: can do. I hope she has fun. I hope she's

525
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 3: fun with you know what I mean, Like, I hope

526
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:42,920
Speaker 3: for that that would be great.

527
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 2: But I don't think.

528
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,199
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm I'm older obviously, and you know, so

529
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 3: I'm very secure and are you older than her? Oh yeah,

530
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 3: but like and I'm like not insecure about that, like

531
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 3: I I love being my age and yeah, yeah, the

532
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,880
Speaker 3: steadiness of my age. I think I even sometimes get

533
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 3: this feeling. I don't know if it's maybe it is insecurity,

534
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 3: but I get it in my own marriage because my

535
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 3: husband's the fun one, right because I'm there all the

536
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 3: time and I'm legend will say Mama is the say

537
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:15,119
Speaker 3: your prayers and your thank yous and whatever, and so

538
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 3: I'm like sometimes I do get that feeling, like but

539
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 3: I'm fun too, Like someone has to be the structure,

540
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 3: you know, well, and I think that's the piece where like, yeah,

541
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,719
Speaker 3: because the end of the day, right, if I'm not

542
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 3: on something or filming, it's only seven to eight days there.

543
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: So it's like let them.

544
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 3: Let them, let that be the house where they have

545
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: you know, the fun too, because it's like there is

546
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 3: fun here.

547
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 2: But yeah, they're going to get more of the or

548
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 2: the harder you know, responsibilities and day to day here.

549
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, what would make me so insecure? I already know

550
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:51,120
Speaker 1: would be.

551
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I mean think about like you and Nick

552
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 3: were heading towards divorce, so like what would what kind

553
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 3: of woman?

554
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, what would make me so insecure? Because this

555
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:03,640
Speaker 1: already makes me insecure with some of my kids friends

556
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 1: parents giving like them giving advice because we talk about everything, right,

557
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: we talk about all the things, you know, I give

558
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: them the advice that they ask it. But if they

559
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: were to listen to that other mother stepmother for advice,

560
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: and I didn't agree with it, but they went with

561
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: that advice, that would kill me, That would just destroy me.

562
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,359
Speaker 1: But I said, but why don't you listen to me?

563
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,919
Speaker 1: Like what you know? That would tap into some kind

564
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: of insecurity that I would not Like.

565
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely have these little pieces of me like

566
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 2: even as you're talking and thinking about things that like

567
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 2: are like triggering if you will, where I'm just like.

568
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 1: Well, I would love to do that if I didn't

569
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: have to.

570
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

571
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so easy for her to say it

572
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:49,399
Speaker 1: could be it could be great, could be bad. I

573
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 1: don't know. I know I.

574
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 2: Don't speak too highly often of Michael, but I actually

575
00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 2: feel I do feel excited for him to have this

576
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 2: in his life. Yeah, because I think he'll I think

577
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: it'll be good for him and for your kids. But yeah,

578
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 2: I think it's going to be good.

579
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. And I think at the end of the day,

580
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 3: you know again, I know, having the kids here and

581
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 3: primarily having them and I just any addition, I mean,

582
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 3: just like look what Alan's done. I mean, granted he's

583
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 3: with them more than their dad, but Alan has brought

584
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 3: so much, like he's the way that he is helping

585
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 3: raise Jase to be such a manner's kid. I mean,

586
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: you know, he's teaching him to hold the doors open.

587
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 3: I mean there's there's aspects that you know that so

588
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 3: many beautiful things that Alan has helped helping ingrain in

589
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 3: the kids. And you know they'll and I look forward to,

590
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:54,199
Speaker 3: you know, having again the woman presence over there, you know,

591
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 3: if they continued on and as long as the kids

592
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:01,720
Speaker 3: are happy, that's literally it. I can get along with anyone.

593
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 3: And I want that relationship to be great, you know.

594
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 3: Uh so I do look forward to to, you know,

595
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 3: to having more conversations and stuff like that for the

596
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 3: sake of everybody.

597
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: So, were you like struggling with it, nervous about it

598
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 1: just before meeting her or after?

599
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: It was definitely before, just because again and thats like,

600
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 3: why am I upset? You know, I'm like, I'm married

601
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 3: with a child, Like I shouldn't be upset about this.

602
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:33,959
Speaker 3: I think it's just it's still it's my kids, you know,

603
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 3: And it's yeah, and what if I don't like her

604
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 3: and what if you know, just all the things it's

605
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 3: like to have another woman around. And again, I feel

606
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 3: it sounds so hypocritical of me to say that because

607
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 3: I'm married with.

608
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: Another but you hadn't gone through it yet.

609
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it is to have another woman around your

610
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 3: kids is is a very hard pill to swallow, Like

611
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: she will have memories with my kids at the beach

612
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 3: that I don't to have and that I was stolen

613
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,239
Speaker 3: and that it's that's that's there's a sting of that.

614
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 2: Again.

615
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,239
Speaker 3: I don't want to be on that want the beach

616
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 3: shrip with him, of course, but it's memories that like

617
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: I I have no like I'm not getting and then

618
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 3: she's going to get some. But again I have to

619
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 3: Then I keep going back to my kids and what

620
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 3: is best for the kids. What's best for the kids

621
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 3: is to have a female presence at Mike's house that

622
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 3: will keep a clean house, that will feed them helpful

623
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 3: like nice, good foods, you know, So I welcome that.

624
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, it don't be too hard on yourself, like attaching

625
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 2: a judgment to a feeling either, because it's I think

626
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 2: it's all very fair and normal.

627
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And so did you felt better after you

628
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 1: met with her? Did you seem very like good? Right now?

629
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: So as I'm trying to figure out where the shifts.

630
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 2: I have, there's I have.

631
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 3: Working throughout Again, I am doing my part to make

632
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 3: it be a good relationship. And it's sweet. Mike sees

633
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 3: it too. He text me is like, thank you for

634
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 3: the effort you're putting in, and I just I hope

635
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 3: that is reciprocated. So yeah, well good, yeah, So again,

636
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 3: well you know we'll see about that. And but yeah,

637
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 3: that so that that that band aid's been pulled off

638
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 3: because it's been it's been a couple of years now

639
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: that I mean, I've I've kind of met a girlfriend

640
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 3: through FaceTime, but nothing like this. So but it's just

641
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 3: it's hard, you know. And and but now I'm I'm

642
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 3: good because I I just want what's best for the kids. Yeah,

643
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 3: and I have to think of what the positives are

644
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 3: with that.

645
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: Sure, well good, I'm proud of you.

646
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 3: I'd love any advice though from anybody out there. Ladies,

647
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 3: let's whine about it. Who's got one.

648
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: Kind of thought? Your pins were going to be the

649
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 1: wine about it?

650
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 2: No, I have no wine with meeting girlfriends and bruised arms. No,

651
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 2: it's all less it's all lesson and growth. So that

652
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 2: I actually have one. Oh, there we go, and she goes,

653
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 2: I am going to go thirty thousand feet as not

654
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 2: to throw anyone under the bus. Oh don't we love those?

655
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 2: But people that don't sustain a real relationship but love

656
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 2: to hijack social media.

657
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 3: People that don't sustain a real relationship but love to

658
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 3: hijack social media. So are we talking about a.

659
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 2: I won't get specific. I realize that, but are we

660
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 2: talking about a like a married couple that actually isn't

661
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 2: in love but yet? So what are we talking about

662
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 2: like a friend of yours? Come down to fifteen thousand? Yeah,

663
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 2: I fifteen Friday thousand. I don't understand.

664
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 1: Well, you can make up all these things in our brain.

665
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 2: I am not filling in so many things. Okay, So

666
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 2: I think what's tricky is like we'll say friends, Okay,

667
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 2: we had in a two week number one?

668
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 3: Yes, huge, gosh amazing. I don't know in two weeks congrats.

669
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I just sorry, I've kind of been heading

670
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: so secret.

671
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: This is about you just kidding.

672
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: No, no, no, we have all Like that's the thing, Like

673
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: I just don't take offense to anything because like life

674
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 2: is so crazy and wild for all of us that

675
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, it's great. In our family. We haven't even

676
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: celebrated that. I don't get to see my husband. So

677
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 2: maybe that's why I didn't know. It was because I

678
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 2: didn't see it on your socials. And for me, it's

679
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 2: like I go off of yeah I didn't. I don't

680
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 2: read media base anymore. My days of reading media base

681
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 2: are long gone. Yeah, so we Okay, So I did

682
00:32:53,360 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 2: post a social I means it's not about anyone in

683
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 2: this room. It's not about okay, so this is okay,

684
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 2: So it's a friend right, so I post we are

685
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 2: you guys would also agree. You ladies will agree with

686
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: me that people do come out of the woodwork during

687
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:24,160
Speaker 2: these celebratory times, and rightfully so right like, people are

688
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 2: like this is incredible and I'm so happy for you,

689
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 2: Like it's so great to see people say, yeah.

690
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: I love that.

691
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 2: There's people I don't do well with personality types that

692
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 2: try to hijack things and make it about them. I'm

693
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 2: not even making the number one about me, and I'm

694
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 2: actually on the label this time. I'm just really proud

695
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 2: of my husband. Yeah, but I have really witnessed it.

696
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 2: There's a few different ones and not even just my people,

697
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 2: but I've witnessed how they've tried to tie themselves in

698
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 2: on social media.

699
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: And you're like, we're not friends and not even texting

700
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: to say right, they're just ben on social media, wild

701
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: and very like big.

702
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 2: And grandstandy on social media, and I'm like, where is

703
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 2: this coming from?

704
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 1: Yeah?

705
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,800
Speaker 2: Really not my favorite thing. And I and I also

706
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 2: try really hard to go like, what is it about

707
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 2: that that makes me like what's triggering? You know? Well,

708
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 2: don't you think it's the person's wanting attention? Yeah?

709
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 3: I would say it's like when someone dies and they're

710
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 3: like they were my best friend and I'm like, you

711
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 3: didn't even talk to them in school, you know, right,

712
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,760
Speaker 3: they want that piece of attention. Yeah, Or the people

713
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 3: that like announce the death before the family members even do.

714
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 3: It's like that kind of huh yeah, Like it's not

715
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:42,919
Speaker 3: it's I don't know. I just I will say though,

716
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 3: I grew up with a dad who made a lot

717
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 3: about him all the time, and so I think that

718
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 3: is part of my like allergy to it.

719
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 2: Like give me an EpiPen. This is like disgusting to me,

720
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 2: and I so I have to go like is that me?

721
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 2: Or is that this situation? And I just don't love it?

722
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 2: So that's my whine about it. I just get really annoyed.

723
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 2: I'm like, you haven't even texted me to say the

724
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 2: things that you're now just making such a public declaration

725
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 2: and trying to tie in and like there was this

726
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 2: pretending to know everything about our daily life and I'm like, hello, like.

727
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 1: Like you just want to post like something in return,

728
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:17,879
Speaker 1: so everybody knows, like.

729
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 2: Right that you're associated with this, Okay, we got it.

730
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 2: I think people want to be associated with fame of

731
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 2: things or uh yeah, acknowledge.

732
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 1: That with them, right, you know.

733
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 2: And it's honestly, I mean, it's been like five years

734
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 2: since we've had one, so I'm like, where has everybody

735
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 2: been out?

736
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, let's say I get that. I wouldn't like

737
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 1: that either. Yeah.

738
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 2: It's really quite frustrating and it just feels disingenuous. And

739
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 2: I'm so that is just so like hurts my whole

740
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 2: being that I'm like, and then I'm the one who

741
00:35:56,320 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 2: would normally say something, yeah, did you I didn't. I'm

742
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 2: working on being slow to speak, work on that too.

743
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:09,840
Speaker 2: Sacred pauses as I've heard, Oh I just gowing, do

744
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 2: we need to pause? Just asking for a friend?

745
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,919
Speaker 1: I will say, A lot does sort itself out.

746
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 2: A lot does sort it A lot does yeah, and

747
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 2: also light Cramer. A lot of times I write what

748
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 2: I'd want to write, but there is something like, Okay,

749
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 2: if I did post that, what good does.

750
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: That do well in that situation?

751
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 3: Like?

752
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: But does it y'all have really friends anyway? And it's

753
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: not going to do any good that makes sense, So

754
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:37,360
Speaker 1: I'll make my wine about it. Do y'all watch that

755
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: video that I sent. Y'all, you were probably already podcasting earlier.

756
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 2: Oh, I haven't looked at my text. You're fine. I

757
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 2: came across this video apparently this is Yeah, guys, I'm

758
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: really not offended.

759
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 1: I want you to so you know, we've been dealing

760
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: with like middle school drama, like friend drama or whatever.

761
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: But side note, this video popped up on my thing

762
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: today and I'll just explain it. It basically is this

763
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:02,760
Speaker 1: teacher in this high school classroom and she is losing

764
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: her mind at her students, like literally hitting her hand

765
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:10,720
Speaker 1: against the thing because these students have bullied another kid, okay,

766
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 1: and she is literally yelling at them. She was like,

767
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 1: you know, in their face, like this is what is

768
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: wrong with Like if you do not treat people like this,

769
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: if you do not apologize, get the fuck out of

770
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: my classroom. I mean, losing her mind. The teacher yes,

771
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 1: because croom, because because they bullied this boy. And it's

772
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 1: this big boy too. He has his head down, he's

773
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 1: crying and she is literally no he was already I'm

774
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,439
Speaker 1: assuming he was already just because they were I don't

775
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 1: know exactly what they did. She literally says, she goes,

776
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,359
Speaker 1: there are people out there killing themselves because the thing

777
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,839
Speaker 1: that you just did to him or whatever. At the end,

778
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize this because I saw it two

779
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 1: different places. But at the very end, you realize that

780
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 1: he had had a maga hat on and they were

781
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 1: bullying him for political reasons. I didn't even know that though,

782
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 1: I didn't know that until. My whole point for this

783
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 1: is too, my whole point, My whole point. My whole

784
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:12,760
Speaker 1: point is a lot of things. First of all, bullying

785
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,320
Speaker 1: is very much on my mind. I'm not saying my

786
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: daughter's being bullied, but it's very much on my mind

787
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 1: now age yeah, and which yeah, and it's you know,

788
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: and I got a lot of responses from people I

789
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:25,919
Speaker 1: know who are like, I've gotten my kids out of

790
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: the high school year kids are at because of bullying

791
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: and nobody taking care of it, and so it just

792
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: but my thing is is it's a controversial video. And

793
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask y'all because it's like she was

794
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 1: not sugarcoating it.

795
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 2: Can I ask what grade?

796
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: I mean? They looked like they were probably tenth eleventh.

797
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 2: Grade, then old because I'm sorry for me. I'm just

798
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:53,959
Speaker 2: if this was like an elementary class, okay, oh well yeah,

799
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 2: like dropping even though I'm sure their parents have dropped

800
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 2: an F bomb or time or two. Maybe maybe not,

801
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 2: but in eleventh grade, absolutely, I would say, as long

802
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 2: as any physical stuff, it's absolutely not. But like if

803
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:11,240
Speaker 2: she is saying get the fuck absolutely, if you're bullying,

804
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 2: someone's like, I can so on hundred percent, and you're

805
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 2: in that grade, because I think that's the only way

806
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: those kids may be able to hear it.

807
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. If not, yeah, because one girl, actually you can

808
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: hear from the back says, well, he shouldn't have worn

809
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 1: the hat. And she goes get out of my classroom

810
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,919
Speaker 1: because she had just said, y'all all apologize. I guess

811
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: the whole class did something to this kid, y'all all

812
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 1: apologize right now, or get the f out of my classroom.

813
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: And then this kid from the back was like, well

814
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 1: you shouldn't have worn the hat, and he was like,

815
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:40,439
Speaker 1: she was like, get out of my classroom right now.

816
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,280
Speaker 1: But I mean she is like hitting this, she's ash.

817
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,839
Speaker 1: I mean, she is passionate. You know. It's just been

818
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: very interesting to see a lot of controversy around it,

819
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 1: and a lot of people who were like, absolutely, that's

820
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,919
Speaker 1: what we need. We need people standing up. It does

821
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: not matter what hat he was wearing, does not matter.

822
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: If it was political, it doesn't matter. If it was racial,

823
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,320
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter whatever it was. It was bullying.

824
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: And that's the thing.

825
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 3: If it involves bullying, I think a reaction like that

826
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 3: at that age with those kids is fine. Obviously no

827
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 3: physicality attached to it. Yeah, if there is. If it

828
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 3: wasn't a bullying situation and someone just did you know,

829
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 3: then then I'd be like, no, that's a little.

830
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 1: Too right, right for sure. But and I sent it

831
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:19,840
Speaker 1: to some of my friends.

832
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 2: And I was, what is Yeah, what is everyone saying?

833
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, you know, everyone I've been getting so

834
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: far has just been like yes, absolutely, like we need

835
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:30,879
Speaker 1: more of this, you know. But it just really had

836
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 1: me thinking because I had a very a smaller scale

837
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: situation where I'll just tell the story. There was a

838
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,720
Speaker 1: friend in Emmy's friend group, not one of her great friends,

839
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: but a guy friend in her friend group who I

840
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: had seen on social media, actually through Emmy's phone that

841
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: he had said to another person but on social media,

842
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: basically telling them he needed to go kill himself. He's

843
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: you know, called him gay, called him all these just

844
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: a lot of things, right, And I was like, this

845
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: behavior is absolutely unacceptable. Now it wasn't towards emmy, it

846
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: wasn't you know, whatever. But I told her how I

847
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 1: felt about it and how I didn't want her spending

848
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: time with him, but to see the parents that I know,

849
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:21,399
Speaker 1: well that kid told him to go kill himself. The

850
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:26,760
Speaker 1: way people defend the behavior has my mind blown.

851
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 2: Okay, right, like the hat, like like yeah, like them saying, well,

852
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 2: he wore the hat.

853
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 1: He wore the hat, So at what point do we

854
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 1: just go, Okay, we're gonna let him get away with

855
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: it because that kid told him to do it. First.

856
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 1: Now that kid needs consequences, but so does that kid.

857
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: They all have to be reinforced and as adults as

858
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: a whole. I'm saying, people are making excuses for them.

859
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: I mean, good friends of mine are making excuses for

860
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 1: this kid. And I'm like, I'm my mind is blown,

861
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,320
Speaker 1: Like in what world is that ever? Okay?

862
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,439
Speaker 2: Well I even mentioned and this is not we don't

863
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 2: want to go backwards, but like part of my reaction

864
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 2: to the story that Janna shared earlier about the kid

865
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 2: hitting the other kid, I said, what happens is these

866
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 2: are just all muscles in their learning. So at a

867
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 2: little age, if no one's correcting that and we're tiptoeing

868
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:20,879
Speaker 2: and maybe that's how this person is, yes, then they

869
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 2: are just reinforcing and building muscle or behavior that's not

870
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 2: acceptable and not safe more than anything, and then they

871
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 2: never learn. And if parents aren't going to do that,

872
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 2: like I do, think that's why they say it takes

873
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 2: a village to raise a child, and not that we

874
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: need to be parenting everyone's but like, at some point

875
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,280
Speaker 2: this is not except the behavior.

876
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're raising a society of you know, and like

877
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 1: in my what this mom friend group, it's you know

878
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: that I sent it to. One person was like, kids

879
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 1: can be assholes, but bullying is another thing. And I said, yeah,

880
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: but assholes unchecked become bullies. That's right, And that's my problem.

881
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 2: And so I have gotten flack for this before for

882
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,800
Speaker 2: saying that I'm not a super super into like gentle parenting,

883
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 2: because I feel like we create a society of kids

884
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 2: that are able to talk their way out of things

885
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 2: and their own behaviors. And I'm not saying spank your child.

886
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, like consequences. This isn't like, yeah, okay,

887
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 2: let's have a tea party, because I want to talk

888
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 2: about like at some point that's just unacceptable. Yeah, And

889
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:25,880
Speaker 2: we have a responsibility to raise people for society and

890
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:26,720
Speaker 2: honestly people.

891
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 1: I want that for that kid.

892
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 2: Same.

893
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 1: I want that mom to say you cannot do this

894
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 1: and there is a consequence for it. And I don't

895
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: think that kid wants to be that kid.

896
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 2: I have a really I defend kids in like the

897
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 2: opposite inside outweigh where I'm like, there's something else going

898
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 2: on there, like what is here to talk about? Yeah,

899
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 2: because a kid that wants to say that, there's something

900
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 2: deeper there.

901
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 1: Anyways, Well, and I tried talking to the other kid

902
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 1: that was accused, who it was said to, who was

903
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 1: accused of saying it. First, I actually sat down with

904
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 1: him in my home and I had a conversation with

905
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 1: him and I talked to him. He said he couldn't

906
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: talk to his parents. He couldn't, you know. And I

907
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: tried to give him advice. Well, he's hurting, and he

908
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: took that a lot. He said things that I said

909
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: and twisted and all that and said, I need we

910
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: need to distance ourselves from this situation because I was

911
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 1: trying to help and he kind of twisted it because

912
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 1: there's just you know, drama. But again, it just it

913
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 1: makes me sad for all of them because it's not

914
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: that I'm saying that this kid is a bad kid.

915
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 1: It just the behavior has to be checked or it's

916
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: going to get worse. And then what's going to happen

917
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 1: to this kid when he does it to Because I'll

918
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,280
Speaker 1: tell you what, had he posted that towards my child,

919
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: there wouldn't have been forgiveness, let me be very clear,

920
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: and that that I you know, and he doesn't speak

921
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: to my child anymore, like at all. He doesn't speak

922
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 1: to her. She's afraid that he you know, she's afraid

923
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,399
Speaker 1: to leave the group. She's afraid him and others will

924
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: bully her. But I dare him to post something like

925
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,840
Speaker 1: that to my own kid, because there's no way I

926
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: would not be aware that that was happening, and then

927
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: I would not take do something to take care of it.

928
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: And that's he Eventually he's going to do it to

929
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:00,360
Speaker 1: the wrong person and he is going to have constant quinces,

930
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 1: and it's going to be much bigger than it would

931
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 1: be if somebody would just handle it. Now, I just.

932
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 3: Don't understand how we got here. I mean, think the

933
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 3: same thing. Just think back. I really truly didn't know

934
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 3: what suicide was until I couldn't even tell you. But like,

935
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: and I couldn't imagine telling another human to kill themselves.

936
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 3: And these middle schoolers are telling other kids to do that.

937
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, I just like, I don't think they realize

938
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:31,879
Speaker 3: the words and the weight that they're actually I don't

939
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 3: think they understand it. And the problem is is now

940
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:36,279
Speaker 3: these kids are actually doing it, and like, can you

941
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 3: imagine having that ripple effect on your life that you

942
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 3: were the one to say that to someone, Because again,

943
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 3: like you said, I don't think they mean to say this,

944
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 3: and I don't know if they know the weight that

945
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 3: goes on too.

946
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: That exactly that is what I talked to that boy about.

947
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, you don't understand what you're saying, what that

948
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: does to people, And it's it's I don't I mean,

949
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 1: I think social media is a lot of it, but

950
00:45:58,360 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 1: I don't even know how we got to this point.

951
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 3: It was so interesting, This is like not, this is

952
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 3: on the smallest smallest, smallest, smallest tenius of scales. But

953
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 3: I something we had. I had a a night just

954
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 3: with Jolie, and Mike wanted to do a night just

955
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 3: with Jace, so we like to just kind of trade

956
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 3: off sometimes and like have our own private time or whatever.

957
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 3: And in the morning, yes, it was a lot quieter

958
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 3: because Jace's you know, he's loud or whatever. And when

959
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 3: we were all together back this morning, Jolie is like, Jace,

960
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 3: it was so much quieter when you weren't here, and

961
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 3: I go, hey, babe, Like I was like stop. I

962
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 3: pulled her aside and she's like what it wasn't me

963
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 3: And I go, but what you're telling him, He's now

964
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 3: going to believe that he's loud.

965
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 2: And Jace isn't loud. It's just a fun, loving boy.

966
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: But I think these kids start telling these kids, and

967
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 2: then they start believing what these other kids are and like,

968
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 2: that's okay, that's not you're not the like.

969
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 1: But it's so true. It starts off so small, yeah,

970
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 1: and it's so innocent. It truly is. But again, that's

971
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 1: why I say unchecked behavior.

972
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean an assholes, unchecked become bullies, like what,

973
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 2: yeah a quote from Kat Yeah, and that's that's so true.

974
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:07,919
Speaker 1: It's just so y'all need to go watch that video.

975
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna post it again when this podcast airs, because

976
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: it is like I'm getting so many responsible I mean,

977
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 1: I think she's been I mean, it's it's wonder fire.

978
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 2: I know it's just for the language.

979
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: You so not.

980
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:24,359
Speaker 3: I know, the all female Blue Origin flight is getting

981
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 3: a lot of heat and reaction. Slubs are speaking out

982
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 3: questioning what the point of the flight to space was

983
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 3: and how is this billion dollar spend justified? So Olivia

984
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 3: Wilde slams it. You know who else? I mean, there

985
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: was there was a few people that I saw. Amy

986
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 3: Schumer had said a comment about it, Olivia Munn had

987
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 3: made a comment about how you know, and I don't

988
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 3: know one of one of those three people were basically

989
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 3: or also Emily Redaitowski she also said it. One of

990
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 3: those girls had mentioned too, like you know, people can't

991
00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 3: even buy eggs yet were doing this. I don't I

992
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 3: gotta say, I don't have a real thought to it.

993
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:06,280
Speaker 3: I just know there's no way in hell I hate flying,

994
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 3: so there's no way my ass has ever gone to

995
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 3: space like ever, like, I don't want to see it.

996
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 3: I don't want to sky. I don't want to jump

997
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 3: out of a plane.

998
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 1: I don't.

999
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 2: I don't want to see the world from up there.

1000
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't.

1001
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:18,919
Speaker 3: I don't want to have that feeling. I know we're

1002
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 3: I know we're on a very we're small in such

1003
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 3: a big world. I do that piece I felt when

1004
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 3: I went to Ireland and stood by the cliffs of Moware,

1005
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 3: you know, like I've had those moments and for me,

1006
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 3: like you're not gonna I would never, But I don't

1007
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 3: really have much of a thought. So I'm curious what

1008
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:36,359
Speaker 3: you girls think about it.

1009
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 2: Kabi, I don't when you go to space, Okay, no,

1010
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:44,399
Speaker 2: not going to space.

1011
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:46,319
Speaker 1: My husband would love to go to space. So this

1012
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: is actually.

1013
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 2: I saw this headline and I was like, how do

1014
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:53,720
Speaker 2: I So I'm just going to be honest because there's

1015
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 2: no way for me to frame it that would probably

1016
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 2: be pleasing to everyone. So Preston was all in watching

1017
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 2: this footage, all in. I mean, this is his dream.

1018
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 3: I mean I watched it too because I thought it

1019
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 3: was kind of cool to see the rockets go up.

1020
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 3: I made him shut it off October Skygirl.

1021
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 2: I made him shut it off really yep, talk to me,

1022
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 2: because I said, these are not women that went to

1023
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 2: school for this. These are not people that have degrees

1024
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 2: and have spent their whole lives careers and financial stability

1025
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 2: learning about space. They are just women that are privileged

1026
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 2: enough to go up, tap space and come down. I

1027
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 2: think that's lovely for them that they get to live

1028
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 2: their dream, if that is their dream. I know Gail

1029
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 2: is very passionate about space. It seems this is her dream.

1030
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 2: Oprah was even quoted to say she didn't want to

1031
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 2: hear about Gail not going, and so that's why Gail went.

1032
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 2: Sounds like a quote that we would say that one

1033
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 2: about Yeah, Like I just don't even want to hear

1034
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 2: about it to just go. Yeah. I just struggle with

1035
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 2: how much publicity it gets because there's actual astronauts, women

1036
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 2: astronauts like I struggle, and so I'm trying to be

1037
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 2: not as like feisty about it, but for it just

1038
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 2: rubbed me the wrong way, like I was like, got it?

1039
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I'm trying to like, I don't know.

1040
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: Why I got passionate.

1041
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 2: Very rarely do I get passionate about like a current

1042
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:19,399
Speaker 2: event made him turn it off. I'd made him turn

1043
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 2: I said, I don't want to listen to that anymore.

1044
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 2: Like this is ridiculous. Rich people just went to space

1045
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 2: and tapped them, do you know? Like they were there

1046
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 2: for ten seconds, they floated and they came back down.

1047
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 2: An experience of a lifetime. I'm certain for people that

1048
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 2: that matters to of course, But like all the publicity,

1049
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 2: I don't.

1050
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:37,720
Speaker 1: Even know what was happening. If it tells you anything.

1051
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 2: Do follow the Wendy's account, Wendy's Twitter account. It's really fun.

1052
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 2: Katie Barry went to space and then Wendy said, can

1053
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 2: they keep her?

1054
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,320
Speaker 1: There's been a lot around Katie because.

1055
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 2: I'm curious because I know you go more political on things, so.

1056
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: I don't have a strong I agree with everything you said,

1057
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:58,839
Speaker 1: though I'm like, wait, why are we doing this? I

1058
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: immediately start to think about and I don't know her name.

1059
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: I apologize. I don't really pay attention to a lot

1060
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: of space stuff. Space is not interesting to me. I

1061
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,799
Speaker 1: don't know what I believe. I just I don't really

1062
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: touch a lot of space stuff. I'll be honest. You could, though,

1063
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:14,319
Speaker 1: for the right amount of money, that does bother me.

1064
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: What is the woman's name who was just stuck in

1065
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 1: space for ten months?

1066
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that was a whole thing.

1067
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 1: My mind just goes to her. Yeah, I'm sure this

1068
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 1: woman is like, is this a joke? I just got

1069
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: stuck in space for ten months? And like, but this

1070
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 1: is the publicity off of this, and like, I don't know. Again,

1071
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:35,360
Speaker 1: I don't have a strong opinion.

1072
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:39,280
Speaker 2: I did see the creams Sunita, Sunny Williams.

1073
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 1: Thank you, yes, yes, yes, So my mind kind of

1074
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 1: went to her, like she's probably like, oh man, so

1075
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 1: easy for them to go up and touch it. And

1076
00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 1: I get stuck there for ten months. And I'm an astronaut,

1077
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: you know.

1078
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 3: When I just started a Devil's advocate a little bit, please,

1079
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 3: I think, And again I am. I don't know much

1080
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:59,040
Speaker 3: about space. Nasah what Elon Musk. I think he's involved

1081
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,759
Speaker 3: in some of this. I'm not really sure, but I

1082
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 3: always okay, I obey, okay, Besis one of the rich dudes.

1083
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:07,919
Speaker 1: It all comes to the body.

1084
00:52:08,080 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do believe there's a piece of it that

1085
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 3: might be bringing some kind of awareness because I think

1086
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 3: there should be a presence in space. I want to

1087
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 3: think that that's there's a reason that we should have

1088
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,799
Speaker 3: some seeing what's out there and resources.

1089
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 2: And I don't know, like.

1090
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 3: I think two have like, yes, it seems a little

1091
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 3: wild and out there, and like why and yes to

1092
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 3: your point, this poor sunny woman, So I hear all that,

1093
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 3: But I'm also like, is the is the development of

1094
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 3: doing something like this? Yes, doing the rides up to

1095
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 3: space seems a little bit out there, but maybe there's

1096
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 3: a piece in there that they'll use it for good

1097
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 3: reason and for good purposes, for the use of maybe

1098
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:52,839
Speaker 3: finding other resources out there.

1099
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: So it sounds like I will agree with you. It

1100
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: sounds like whatever the company was or whatever they're trying

1101
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 1: to raise, correct me, I'm wrong, awareness for making Earth

1102
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: a better place and taking our waste to space. Did

1103
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: y'all read this? There's something about that, But I just.

1104
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 3: That's maybe the positive spin on it, right, which is

1105
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 3: why they're needing this money of these rich people to

1106
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 3: go up there to maybe go do something.

1107
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: So I do think that that is some of the intent.

1108
00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: For sure. I think it became, for whatever reason, a

1109
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 1: huge publicity, not stunt, but a huge pr thing that

1110
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 1: just didn't sit well with a lot of people, and

1111
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 1: I think that that's fair. I think both things can

1112
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 1: be fair. Do I think that we need to be

1113
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 1: spending all the money to do like a quick No,

1114
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,479
Speaker 1: but di Bezos pay for all of it. I don't

1115
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: even know, like who paid for it, I don't I

1116
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 1: don't know.

1117
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 3: I want to believe there was a good reason for

1118
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:47,280
Speaker 3: what they're doing and why they're doing things, like, for example,

1119
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 3: people hate on zoos. This is a terrible example, but.

1120
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 2: I get.

1121
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 3: But there's a lot of conservation things. There's a lot

1122
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 3: of rescue people that the certain animals that would have

1123
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 3: been far gone extinct at this moment, but they're you know,

1124
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 3: creating in breeding and all those things to then put

1125
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 3: back out into the wild. So I do think for

1126
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 3: those types of reasons, I always kind of go, Okay,

1127
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,960
Speaker 3: what is the full circle? I'll support this, Yeah, And

1128
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:21,400
Speaker 3: then because there is a full circle, they're not just

1129
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 3: ringling brothers, you know, some elephants. So I just wish

1130
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:28,799
Speaker 3: maybe I was trying to have this moment like although

1131
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 3: I missed the elephants and I went to the Ring

1132
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 3: of the Brothers, I'm just saying, no.

1133
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 2: Way, that's just got I do. And I'm trying to

1134
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 2: be like, I don't know why it fired me up.

1135
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 2: I think I just was like, this doesn't like you know,

1136
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 2: like present was like these women went to space and

1137
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 2: I so we quickly went on like a tur day

1138
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 2: female astronaut at our house, and I was like, these

1139
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 2: are women that have spent like you know, I think

1140
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 2: maybe if they had integrated some of those female astronauts

1141
00:54:57,600 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 2: and like you know, maybe and maybe they did on

1142
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:02,359
Speaker 2: the backs. I don't know. I honestly didn't watch enough

1143
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 2: of it to you can probably speak about it. But

1144
00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 2: I just thought, man, this is it's not showing. It's

1145
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 2: you know, like somebody was like, oh, if we went

1146
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 2: to space and we dream you can go to space,

1147
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:14,359
Speaker 2: you can go to space, and I'm like, well, you

1148
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:17,399
Speaker 2: sure can, but let's use you. We're saying.

1149
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 3: And one of the questions was for the amount of

1150
00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 3: money it costs in the time, like you know, basically,

1151
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 3: how much would you go to space?

1152
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 2: How much would you pay? I wouldn't pay. I would pay.

1153
00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 3: Your would never like if some almost like here's a

1154
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,200
Speaker 3: free trip to space. My anxiety, Oh my god, I

1155
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 3: can't handle.

1156
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 1: After they just got stuck in space.

1157
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:33,399
Speaker 2: Guys, I can't even stand on a chair without getting

1158
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:35,240
Speaker 2: sweaty hands. There's no way I'm going to space.

1159
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 1: I don't I feel white.

1160
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 3: Lotus lou Would Amy lou Would says recent crying photos

1161
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:42,279
Speaker 3: were unrelated to esen all controversy.

1162
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:43,360
Speaker 2: Did you guys see the skit?

1163
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 3: I didn't, Oh, I watched it on me, but I

1164
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:50,480
Speaker 3: will say, you know, they were making fun of it

1165
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 3: was a very political sketch.

1166
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:52,240
Speaker 2: It was hilarious.

1167
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 3: I thought it was so funny, and I agree with

1168
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:58,160
Speaker 3: her up until they made fun of her appearance. The

1169
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 3: one of the actors as it had a fake set

1170
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 3: of teeth and it was obviously showing she's got a

1171
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 3: bit of an overbite and fake teeth. And so what

1172
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 3: she said was I did find the SNL thing mean

1173
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 3: and unfunny. You know, She's like, there must be a clever,

1174
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 3: more nuanced, less cheap way, and I agree with that.

1175
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 3: With that beat, it's like there could have been a

1176
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:22,839
Speaker 3: way that you could They could have done that with

1177
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,440
Speaker 3: so much more class, Like okay, yeah, poke fund at

1178
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:26,280
Speaker 3: a girl's appearance.

1179
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: Real clever guys, Yeah, no, back to bullying. This is RCT,

1180
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:34,239
Speaker 1: that's what this is. Yeah, we are making it too like, yes,

1181
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: people are sensitive now it's like both like we are

1182
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 1: very sensitive to things, but also so not sensitive and

1183
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:44,640
Speaker 1: just attacking people's looks is bullying. That's not nice.

1184
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,719
Speaker 3: Like it's like, you know, I go back to a

1185
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 3: Kardashian episode, but she's like when she got called essentially

1186
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 3: a whoror on the Tom Bradie Race roast, She's like, guys,

1187
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 3: be more creative, Like why are I now just saying like, yeah,

1188
00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 3: I think they're just people are just becoming cheap with

1189
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:04,960
Speaker 3: their yeah low shot, Yeah sure, or like that's not funny,

1190
00:57:05,080 --> 00:57:19,840
Speaker 3: None of that's funny. Hi, I would love if you

1191
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 3: could talk about how you got your pink back after babies?

1192
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 2: Guys, what's your bink? Oh?

1193
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 1: That's something.

1194
00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, let's keep reading it. Unfortunately it took me getting

1195
00:57:31,240 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 2: divorced to do so, and I now have some friends

1196
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 2: going through right now. They have tiny babies and are

1197
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,560
Speaker 2: feeling the mental pressure that comes with it. I want

1198
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 2: them to know they aren't alone, but my example isn't

1199
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 2: very helpful. When did you start feeling like yourself again?

1200
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 2: Did you mourn the old jew? How did you get

1201
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 2: your pink back? That's cute, and I'm really cute. I

1202
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 2: feel like that should be. I was thinking like on

1203
00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 2: my like boobs or something like. I went. I was like,

1204
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 2: why don't know that it turned anything on bank? But

1205
00:57:57,680 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 2: I didn't chicken.

1206
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 1: So what's the question? I think it's O.

1207
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 2: My dearest reader, great question.

1208
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 3: But did you mourn the old? So when did you

1209
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 3: start feeling it yourself again? Did you more in the

1210
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 3: old old you? How did you get your pink back?

1211
00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:18,600
Speaker 3: I would say it took me about a year. It

1212
00:58:18,640 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: took me about a year to get my hormones. I

1213
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 3: feel leveled ish out. I ah, I gos, that's really

1214
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 3: hard because I don't think I'll ever get back what

1215
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 3: I was then.

1216
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 2: Like I'm on year nine.

1217
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:37,720
Speaker 1: I'll let you know when it comes out.

1218
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1219
00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 3: So I'm just kind of embracing the changing of me now.

1220
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:45,080
Speaker 3: So it's like I even look at, you know, my

1221
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:49,080
Speaker 3: non botox face, that's been a year. Uh you know,

1222
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 3: I've looked in the mirror. I'm like, goh, these wrinkles

1223
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 3: and my my smile lines, and I really definitely notice it.

1224
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 3: But I'm really just trying to embrace this. I am

1225
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:02,600
Speaker 3: forty one, and I want to age gracefully, and I

1226
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 3: know my hormones are changing and I am a young

1227
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 3: mom or I'm an older mom. I mean, and I

1228
00:59:08,080 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 3: have got young kids, and I'm doing the best that

1229
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 3: I can with doing my blood work and taking the

1230
00:59:16,080 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 3: supplements and taking care of myself and using the sauna

1231
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,160
Speaker 3: and going for runs and walks and all those things.

1232
00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 3: And I'm just embracing because I don't want the old

1233
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 3: me back. I didn't like old me. I like new

1234
00:59:28,320 --> 00:59:31,200
Speaker 3: me because I'm evolving. So I think if you change

1235
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:34,560
Speaker 3: the mindset to that, it's like I will never get

1236
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:36,760
Speaker 3: her back. I don't know if I'll ever get her

1237
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:39,600
Speaker 3: energy back, but I can try with new things and

1238
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 3: like the saunas and runnings and working, you know, and

1239
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 3: having a positive attitude of mind blah blah. But like,

1240
00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 3: I think it's reframing because I don't think I'm ever

1241
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 3: going to get the old face back. I'm not going

1242
00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 3: to get the old body, and I don't want to

1243
00:59:51,440 --> 00:59:54,760
Speaker 3: chase something that I don't really want back anyways, because

1244
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 3: I like, I'm embracing the newness even though I pick

1245
00:59:58,000 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 3: it sometimes apart, but I'm trying not to.

1246
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 2: Does that make sense you guys? Yeah?

1247
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Okay.

1248
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 2: I also think it's good to maybe know what you

1249
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 2: need as a new mom. Like I think sometimes just

1250
01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:15,920
Speaker 2: getting dressed is so good for us that we forget.

1251
01:00:16,040 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 2: I know I didn't want to do that, but it

1252
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 2: so like there's that overview, which is the best version

1253
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:25,200
Speaker 2: of you is now. It's incredible and deeper and richer

1254
01:00:25,240 --> 01:00:28,040
Speaker 2: than anything you could ever imagine. And it's okay if

1255
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:31,480
Speaker 2: you miss hot food, So maybe whatever you need. Like

1256
01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 2: I know, there was even a time in this postpartum

1257
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,480
Speaker 2: where I thought, I just want dinner. I want hot

1258
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:40,640
Speaker 2: dinner and a server and even just that. And then

1259
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 2: there was other days where I didn't want to go

1260
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,200
Speaker 2: out past six. I wanted to hold them and be

1261
01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:46,080
Speaker 2: with them, and like that's okay too. And so it's

1262
01:00:46,120 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 2: just like kind of going like really asking yourself, maybe

1263
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 2: what you need, because sometimes I need to feel like

1264
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 2: a girlfriend, So getting dressed and going to dinner and

1265
01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 2: having just a minute to not have to share your

1266
01:00:57,280 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 2: food or you know, there's just so much any little

1267
01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 2: daily things too that I think we don't check in

1268
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 2: with on ourselves.

1269
01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:07,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't even think it has to be

1270
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 3: about a new mom. I think it's just as we

1271
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 3: everybody as we age, as we go through different phases

1272
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 3: of maybe PERI metabause or this, that and the other.

1273
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 2: It's just not chasing a version that we should embrace

1274
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:24,440
Speaker 2: the version we are now.

1275
01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well we're always evolving, yeah, or we should be yeah,

1276
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 1: you know, honestly, so, I don't even know if that

1277
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:33,960
Speaker 1: applies to the getting your pink back, you know whatever, pink, But.

1278
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:37,880
Speaker 3: Your pink didn't really leave you. It's just you know,

1279
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 3: changes a little. It just yeah, the colors change. Eat

1280
01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:44,160
Speaker 3: a carrot and you'll turn orange.

1281
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:51,320
Speaker 1: And sorry, we're not helping's you never get it back,

1282
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 1: is what she's read. No, but she's heard throughout it's not.

1283
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 3: It's not that you don't get it back, but do

1284
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,439
Speaker 3: you want, like, get the pieces that you want back.

1285
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 3: So the pieces that you want back maybe is your

1286
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 3: energy or it's some of your time. Prioritize, like you said,

1287
01:02:04,960 --> 01:02:07,520
Speaker 3: those pieces that you want, and then take the new

1288
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:10,440
Speaker 3: and go forward with it, you know. So it's like,

1289
01:02:10,640 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 3: grab the things that you miss, bring it to your

1290
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:16,600
Speaker 3: now pink self, you know, and then and then embrace

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Speaker 3: what is you know, what is new, what is healed,

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Speaker 3: what has evolved?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well and it does say, as I looked it

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Speaker 1: up a little bit more finding your identity. So that

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Speaker 1: is finding what that new identity is. I did struggle,

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Speaker 1: and that can be hard for moms for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I think, like you said, the little things get

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Speaker 1: yourself dressed at first, Yeah, get up and go out

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Speaker 1: figure out this new you and what makes you happy

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Speaker 1: and you know. So, I think that just the baby.

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Speaker 2: Steps up unintended, but yeah, tiny, All right, ladies, See

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Speaker 2: you next week. By