WEBVTT - Creativity is Not Optional

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Time Out. I'm Eve Rodsky, author of the

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<v Speaker 1>New York Times bestseller fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space,

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<v Speaker 1>activists on the gender division of labor, attorney and family mediator.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm doctor Addi Narukar, a physician and medical correspondent

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<v Speaker 1>with an expertise in the science of stress, resilience, mental health,

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<v Speaker 1>and burnout. We're here to peel back to layers around

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<v Speaker 1>why it's so easy for society to guard men's time

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<v Speaker 1>as if it's diamonds, and to treat women's time as

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<v Speaker 1>if it's infinite like sands. And whether you are partnered

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<v Speaker 1>with or without children, or in a career where you

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<v Speaker 1>want more boundaries, this is the place for you for

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<v Speaker 1>all family structures. We're here to take a time out

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<v Speaker 1>to learn, get inspired, and most importantly, reclaim our time.

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<v Speaker 1>So add I've been thinking a lot about unicorn space,

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<v Speaker 1>this idea that, like the mythical eq wine, finding space

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<v Speaker 1>and time uninterrupted attention for things that we love is

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<v Speaker 1>often difficult because in our society we're often defined by

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<v Speaker 1>our roles. We're often taught to give our most valuable

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<v Speaker 1>currency away, our time and service of others. And I

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<v Speaker 1>remember Anne Marie Slaughter said something to me that I

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<v Speaker 1>thought was really powerful. She said that she feels in

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<v Speaker 1>community with all women across the globe because at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>every single one of us will be defined by our roles.

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<v Speaker 1>And so that gets me to something I want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you about a keynote that I started to write

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<v Speaker 1>for a women's college that asked me to speak to them,

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<v Speaker 1>and the speech I delivered was probably a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>different than the one they thought I was going to deliver. Typically,

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<v Speaker 1>right command been speeches, or these speeches that we give

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<v Speaker 1>to the next generation are all about you can do

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<v Speaker 1>anything and you can be anything. But my speech was

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<v Speaker 1>called you only have ten years left to live. It

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<v Speaker 1>was inspired by Heidi Shriks what the Constitution means to me.

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<v Speaker 1>What I loved was that she embodied her younger self,

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<v Speaker 1>and so as I started the speech, I embodied the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty one year old Eve and a d D. I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be president and senator, right because like

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<v Speaker 1>who stopped legislating around four o'clock? Like, you have so

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<v Speaker 1>much more time. Right, you can legislate during the day,

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<v Speaker 1>and obviously you can pass all of your executive orders

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<v Speaker 1>at night. But I'm not going to give up my

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<v Speaker 1>dream of being a nick City dancer, because why would

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<v Speaker 1>I could just fly Air Force one into New York

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<v Speaker 1>because it's such a short jaunt from d C, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll do the twelve thirty shows. I start this way

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<v Speaker 1>because I want to remind our listeners of who you were,

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<v Speaker 1>say at or that time in your life when you

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<v Speaker 1>had that much potential, that much power, that much fire,

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<v Speaker 1>and what happens to it? Why did I call it

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<v Speaker 1>I only had ten years left to live, because by

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<v Speaker 1>the time I was thirty one, my fire had gone out.

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<v Speaker 1>It had been extinguished by my roles, by what society

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<v Speaker 1>expected of me, of the unpaid labor, that discipline and

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<v Speaker 1>screen time and the bathing and grooming of kids, and

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<v Speaker 1>on and on. So what happens to us where we

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<v Speaker 1>go from being told the lie that we could be

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<v Speaker 1>and do anything to the point where society rears its

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<v Speaker 1>ugly head. And how do we prevent that? For women especially?

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<v Speaker 1>There will always be rain, There will always be the

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<v Speaker 1>other backpack to unpack, or the extracurricular sports you have

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<v Speaker 1>to take your kids to. But as my favorite Vivian

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<v Speaker 1>Green quote, which can come off cheesy, but I still

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<v Speaker 1>think it's very important, right we don't wait for the

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<v Speaker 1>storm to pass. We have to learn to dance in

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<v Speaker 1>the rain. And this idea of unicorn space, which is

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<v Speaker 1>something different than self care and friendships, which are also important.

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<v Speaker 1>This space to reclaim who we were at our most vibrant,

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<v Speaker 1>are most powerful, our most passionate version of who we

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<v Speaker 1>were can always be there and can be reclaimed if

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<v Speaker 1>we've lost it. It's just about being intentional and thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about how we can do this within the current structures

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<v Speaker 1>of how we live in America today. We have to

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<v Speaker 1>understand the hurdles that our society is put in front

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<v Speaker 1>of us, the hurdles to that sustained attention to things

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<v Speaker 1>that we love. And one of those hurdles is the

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<v Speaker 1>permission to be interested in our own lives and interesting

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<v Speaker 1>to ourselves. That permission to be unavailable from our roles,

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<v Speaker 1>that idea that we are defined as individuals as opposed

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<v Speaker 1>to in relation to others. In fact, even in the

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<v Speaker 1>daily act of wearing our kids initials on our neck,

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<v Speaker 1>wearing mom on our neck, I have to say a

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<v Speaker 1>d D. I said to my kids, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>need unavailability from my roles. I need unavailability to reclaim

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<v Speaker 1>what makes me me, And so I'm going to start

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<v Speaker 1>with actually wearing my own initial around my neck. And

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<v Speaker 1>my kids are so proud of me. They're like, my

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<v Speaker 1>mommy doesn't wear our initials, she wears her own. And

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<v Speaker 1>they know my name is E V. And my name

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<v Speaker 1>is powerful and I'm reclaiming it. Second is this idea

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<v Speaker 1>about guilt and shame. And the third is our ability

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<v Speaker 1>to use our voice, which we're talking about throughout this

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<v Speaker 1>whole season, that we get a chance to vocalize what

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<v Speaker 1>we need. Why are those things the idea that being unavailable,

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<v Speaker 1>a lack of guilt and shame, and using my voice

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<v Speaker 1>a deity? Why are those so hard to exercise in

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<v Speaker 1>everyday life. All of those things that you mentioned their

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<v Speaker 1>societal constructs that are put up on us and as women,

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<v Speaker 1>especially in multitasking is something that we do and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a real sense of a badge of honor to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to do everything so well, all at once, without

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<v Speaker 1>even breaking a sweat. But in fact, multitasking is bad

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<v Speaker 1>for the brain, and we don't talk about that enough.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, when you look at the biology of the

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<v Speaker 1>brain and you look at how multitasking works, it is

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<v Speaker 1>divided attention. And if we want better brain health, better

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<v Speaker 1>mental health, a sense of resiliency, and a lack of burnout,

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<v Speaker 1>then we can't divide our attention in a million different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to have that focused, sustained attention, which is

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<v Speaker 1>what the unicorn spaces. It has lots of brain benefits.

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<v Speaker 1>This idea of creativity not as a luxury or a

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<v Speaker 1>nice to have, but a necessity. And when we carve

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<v Speaker 1>out that unicorn space and live within our unicorn space,

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<v Speaker 1>we are giving our body and our mind a chance

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<v Speaker 1>to really be optimized. When we are fully inhabiting that

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<v Speaker 1>unicorn space, it improves our resilience, It decreases our stress,

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<v Speaker 1>it decreases our burnout. It also has lots of other

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<v Speaker 1>benefits the growth, mindset, innovation, problem solving, creating a sense

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<v Speaker 1>of meaning and purpose, imagination, creativity. They are actually very

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<v Speaker 1>important hard metrics that impact the bottom line when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to our health, our mental health and physical health.

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<v Speaker 1>Creativity has been shown to improve anxiety and depression. It

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<v Speaker 1>changes the brain, It decreases our cortisol level, which is

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<v Speaker 1>a stress hormone, and it has a huge biological boost.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder if I can interject with just the definition

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<v Speaker 1>of the flow state. Before we get into the secret

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<v Speaker 1>formula of creativity, I want to give props a d

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<v Speaker 1>D to me Hi. Chicks sent me Hi a hard

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<v Speaker 1>name to pronounce, but he is the founder, an originator

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<v Speaker 1>of the concept of the flow state. And what's so

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful about his work is he identified something that we've

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<v Speaker 1>all felt, wonder, the wonder of what it feels like

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<v Speaker 1>when you lose yourself in an activity. Now, children and

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<v Speaker 1>society are the conspirers against flow. They come in to

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<v Speaker 1>cut up our time into little bits. And actually the

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<v Speaker 1>idea that women that we deserve sustained attention for our

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<v Speaker 1>flow state, for things that we love to me is

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<v Speaker 1>how we redefine happiness, because what we found lately is

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<v Speaker 1>that and this is what the research shows, if you

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<v Speaker 1>focus on how to be happy, the pursuit of happiness

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<v Speaker 1>for happiness sake actually makes you more sad. And indeed,

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<v Speaker 1>you could talk more about that from a scientific perspective,

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<v Speaker 1>but what I will say is that happiness is a

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<v Speaker 1>clue that you found your unicorn space and whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>going back to your childhood, but if you had trauma

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<v Speaker 1>in your childhood, maybe it's looking forward to who you

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<v Speaker 1>want to be. However you get there, and we will

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<v Speaker 1>be talking about this a lot over the season. It

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<v Speaker 1>is not easy to inhabit your unicorn space. If it was,

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<v Speaker 1>we'd all be living to two hundred, frolicking in a

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<v Speaker 1>field of lavender. And I think it's also important to

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<v Speaker 1>recognize that any amount of time, even if it's five

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<v Speaker 1>minutes in that flow state, can have ripple effects for

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<v Speaker 1>our whole day, and actually biological effects. You may not

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<v Speaker 1>know when you're in getting into the flow state, but

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<v Speaker 1>you certainly know when you've gotten out. It's that sense

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<v Speaker 1>of timelessness in the present moment. We lose track of time,

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<v Speaker 1>we lose track of where we are, and there's many

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<v Speaker 1>ways to get there. It's not the same for everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably one of my favorite benefits of getting into the

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<v Speaker 1>unicorn space is strengthening our sense of autonomy, which when

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<v Speaker 1>we're married, with children and in many roles that can

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<v Speaker 1>be weakened, and we as human beings are meaning seeking,

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<v Speaker 1>purpose driven creatures. When we cultivate a unicorn space, get

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<v Speaker 1>into that sense of flow, we find our sense of

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<v Speaker 1>purpose and mastery within our cells, which in turn gives

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<v Speaker 1>us mastery in all of the other roles Eve that

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<v Speaker 1>you've already talked about. I think that's so beautiful because

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<v Speaker 1>some people say it's you know, simmering my signature sauce,

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<v Speaker 1>but without the expectation and the interruption of children and

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<v Speaker 1>a partner. I think the beauty is understanding what it

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<v Speaker 1>is for you, and it can change and it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>always have to be the same, and it's not always

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<v Speaker 1>going to be easy, which we're going to be talking

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<v Speaker 1>about with our guests today, creativity expert Natalie Nixon. I

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<v Speaker 1>think the most beautiful thing that Natalie Nixon talks about

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<v Speaker 1>is the fact that creativity, the flow state, is not

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<v Speaker 1>just wonder. It also requires rigor. And that rigor is

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<v Speaker 1>what's hard because to find rigor and an activity to

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<v Speaker 1>learn to climb that mountain, to learn that signature sauce,

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<v Speaker 1>to learn about the gender division of labor, which was

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<v Speaker 1>my unicorn space for so long, does require this sustained attention.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't shake this idea that when we think about

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<v Speaker 1>the word creativity, we think of youth, but in fact,

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<v Speaker 1>creativity as we age becomes even more important. There was

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<v Speaker 1>a study done of older adults which found that when

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<v Speaker 1>older adults are engaged in creative pursuits, there is a

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<v Speaker 1>greater sense of connectivity in the brain, but also within

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<v Speaker 1>their selves. There's better cognitive functioning, and there's a greater

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<v Speaker 1>sense of well being. Now, this is not just nice

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<v Speaker 1>to have stuff. This is essential, critical stuff that we need.

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<v Speaker 1>That is to me the reason why I had to

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<v Speaker 1>write a whole second book on this topic because it

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<v Speaker 1>should be essential to your life. It is not optional.

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<v Speaker 1>But often we've dismissed this part of our life as

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<v Speaker 1>a nice to have with words I want to retire,

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<v Speaker 1>like hobby or vanity project or leisure or distractions. And

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<v Speaker 1>I will say that you said something very important about loneliness.

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<v Speaker 1>People ask me when I asked this question now two thousands,

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<v Speaker 1>this idea of what makes you you and what and

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<v Speaker 1>how do you share it with the world. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people ask me, well, what's the second question important for?

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<v Speaker 1>Why can't it just be what makes me me? Why

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<v Speaker 1>do you have to ask how do you share it

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<v Speaker 1>with the world? And the reason why is because there

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<v Speaker 1>is a distinction between self care, which is important, but

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<v Speaker 1>I often likened it to a more passive pursuit. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean it can be active like a spinning class, or

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<v Speaker 1>taking a walk with your dog, But it doesn't have

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<v Speaker 1>the same benefits as that connection, the sharing with your world.

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<v Speaker 1>That active pursuit is something different. That's what we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about here. Those are baseline things that we should all have.

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<v Speaker 1>The next iteration and elevation up is this idea of

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<v Speaker 1>the active pursuit of creative self expression that makes you you.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether it be my friend who started as a baker

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<v Speaker 1>and now she's leveling up to making robotic cakes that

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<v Speaker 1>literally move, that's her unicorn space. The idea is the

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<v Speaker 1>sharing with the world, whether it's your neighbor, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>becoming in a marathon group, whether it's getting ukulele recital

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<v Speaker 1>for five best friends. That flow state often comes in

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<v Speaker 1>the process of the connection of sharing, and that flow

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<v Speaker 1>stage is contagious. The unicorn space is contagious. When you

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<v Speaker 1>see your friends embodying that creativity or in that sense

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<v Speaker 1>of flow and they're really lit up, it makes you

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<v Speaker 1>want that too. So we're gonna be talking to Natalie

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<v Speaker 1>Nixon after the break about all of these things. I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot wait for you to hear what she has to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited to welcome today's guest, Natalie Nixon not only

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<v Speaker 1>a friend, she is a creativity strategist, global keynote speaker

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<v Speaker 1>and author of the award winning the Creativity Leap Unleashed Curiosity,

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<v Speaker 1>Improvisation and Intuition at Work. Hi Natalie, Hi Eve, It's

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<v Speaker 1>so good to see you and to be here. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for having me so before you came on, we were

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<v Speaker 1>talking a little bit about the hurdles to creativity, all

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<v Speaker 1>of those permissions we have to give ourselves to be unavailable,

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<v Speaker 1>to literally burn guilt and shame for spending sustained attention

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<v Speaker 1>on things that we love, and to use our voice.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I want to go into our shared passion,

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<v Speaker 1>which is creativity frameworks. Your wonder Rigor framework. We mentioned

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<v Speaker 1>it earlier as well as some of the findings around

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<v Speaker 1>how important not just curiosity is, but connection sharing your

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<v Speaker 1>creativity with others, whether it be chat chat on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>like I got to see you last night during your

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful ballroom chance, or sending your crochet Harry Potter doll

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<v Speaker 1>to your aunt as my other friend just did. She

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<v Speaker 1>just completed her money and the last secret formula see

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<v Speaker 1>that I like to talk about, besides curiosity and connection

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<v Speaker 1>is the idea of completion, what it looks like to

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<v Speaker 1>actually complete something, as opposed to living in a graveyard

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<v Speaker 1>of unfulfilled dreams, as my friend once called it. So

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<v Speaker 1>to to go through the journey from curiosity to connection

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<v Speaker 1>a completion. I would love for you to tell a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit about how you help people to aim for

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<v Speaker 1>Curiosity is not a nice to have, but it must

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<v Speaker 1>have in their business and social and intimate lives. Sure. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Eve, I've a really loopy background in cultural

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<v Speaker 1>anthropology and fashion. I was a professor for sixteen years

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<v Speaker 1>and loved what I did until I didn't anymore. I

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<v Speaker 1>actually started falling in love with my side hustle, which

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<v Speaker 1>at the time that that was figure eight thinking, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was getting invited into companies to help them design

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<v Speaker 1>and build cultures of innovation. That was really an outgrowth

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<v Speaker 1>after I gave a ted Ex Philadelphia talk which was

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<v Speaker 1>essentially my PhD dissertation and plain English, I basically proclaimed

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<v Speaker 1>that the future of work is jazz and here's why

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<v Speaker 1>and here's how, and that talk really catapulted me into

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<v Speaker 1>getting invited into companies to help them become more improvisational,

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<v Speaker 1>which essentially me it is helping them to become more adaptive,

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<v Speaker 1>more experimental, more self organizing. This was probably about eight

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<v Speaker 1>years ago now, and everyone was chasing the eye word.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone was trying to innovate, innovate, innovate, and well, that's

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<v Speaker 1>cool and that's fine. I was seeing that there's no

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<v Speaker 1>lingua franca for what we meant by innovation. We were

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like kept missing each other. And we, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean the collective corporate America. I know that I can't

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<v Speaker 1>critique a system without offering an alternative, another way to

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<v Speaker 1>be thinking about this. And so what my hunch was

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<v Speaker 1>telling me is that we were starting in the wrong place,

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<v Speaker 1>and we actually should be starting with creativity. However, as

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<v Speaker 1>you well know, Eve and add that if you lead

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<v Speaker 1>with creativity and the how old halls of corporate America,

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<v Speaker 1>let look at you like you have three hits. So

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<v Speaker 1>that began my journey of figuring out what might be

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<v Speaker 1>a simple and accessible way that I could help other

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<v Speaker 1>people who don't necessarily think that they're creative to think

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<v Speaker 1>about creativity in their work, to amplify it and the

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<v Speaker 1>ways that they do their work so that they can

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<v Speaker 1>ultimately innovate. And through a few years of really tinkering

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<v Speaker 1>with these ideas, I landed on this definition that creativity

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<v Speaker 1>is our ability to toggle between wonder and rigor to

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<v Speaker 1>solve problems and produce novel value. Along the way, I

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<v Speaker 1>came up with the definition that I like for innovation,

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<v Speaker 1>which is that innovation is an invention converted into scalable value.

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<v Speaker 1>And that value could be cultural value, social value, financial value.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's that conversion agent what helps us go from

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<v Speaker 1>an invention to an innovation? It's creativity. I love that

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<v Speaker 1>toggling between wonder and rigor, tow words and frameworks that

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<v Speaker 1>you would never put next to each other, and yet

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<v Speaker 1>both are so essential for creativity. You know, you say,

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<v Speaker 1>I know it may feel more important to dig in

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<v Speaker 1>your heels in times of crisis and only focus on

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<v Speaker 1>practical survival mode stuff, And you're right. Creativity is incredibly

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<v Speaker 1>practical and it is crucial to survival. I laughed when

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<v Speaker 1>I read that, because we never think of creativity as

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<v Speaker 1>something that is practical or something that's necessarily a survival skill.

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<v Speaker 1>Creativity isn't nice to have, It's a luxury. It's something

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<v Speaker 1>to do when all of your to do list is

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<v Speaker 1>done and all those boxes have been checked off, but

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<v Speaker 1>you really turn that notion on its head. And I

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<v Speaker 1>would love for you to tell us a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more about why you think creativity is a survival skill,

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<v Speaker 1>especially for the audience that is listening, that is very

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<v Speaker 1>much in survival mode right now. So I launched the

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<v Speaker 1>Creativity Lead in the middle of the beginning phases of

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<v Speaker 1>the COVID nineteen pandemic in June, and I have to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you that there were many days I would wake up,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, right before I go to and I was thinking, Gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>when people are dying, when people are losing their jobs,

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<v Speaker 1>when people are going through so much ambiguity and uncertainty,

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<v Speaker 1>is creativity a luxury? Am I offering up a mental

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<v Speaker 1>model that will be additive and helpful to the ways

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<v Speaker 1>we will be able to navigate this time and going forward.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, as you said, it's not a luxury. It

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<v Speaker 1>is actually more essential than ever to hone your creativity

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<v Speaker 1>capacity or your c Q your creativity quotient as I

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<v Speaker 1>like to call it. It's important more than ever to

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<v Speaker 1>develop that capacity and to hone it because creativity is

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<v Speaker 1>a competency. It's something that we can exercise and get

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<v Speaker 1>better at. It's something that when we look at our

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<v Speaker 1>own children, and we think about our own childhoods. We

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<v Speaker 1>have so many great examples of our ability to toggle

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<v Speaker 1>between wonder and rigor to solve problems. What has happened

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<v Speaker 1>is that through traditional mainstream ways of being educated, we

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<v Speaker 1>get the signals that we should air on the side

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<v Speaker 1>of solutions versus process. Creativity is also not a luxury

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<v Speaker 1>because when I think about some of the more underprivileged,

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<v Speaker 1>marginalized groups in our society, oh my gosh, it's full

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<v Speaker 1>of create creative moments and output. Because, as it turns out,

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<v Speaker 1>creativity loves constraints. Creativity loves constraints on our time, it

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<v Speaker 1>loves constraints on money, it loves constraints on people resources.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually just as we know that our greatest learning

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<v Speaker 1>happens when we fail, when we mess up big time,

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<v Speaker 1>it's when we have those strengths as in a pandemic,

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<v Speaker 1>that creativity really flourishes. Wow, I'm sort of freaking out

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<v Speaker 1>on that right, this idea that creativity love constraints because

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<v Speaker 1>you sort of think you have to be completely free

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<v Speaker 1>before you can live a creative life. But the idea

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<v Speaker 1>that similar to what Natalie is saying, is that in

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<v Speaker 1>my research, this idea that creativity can only come for

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<v Speaker 1>the privileged or unicorn space is really only for the

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<v Speaker 1>top echelon. It was almost the opposite. It was the

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<v Speaker 1>freed to calos of the world, and this idea that

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<v Speaker 1>through oppression and and trauma, as we know that some

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<v Speaker 1>of the most creative acts have been done and it

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<v Speaker 1>is subversive and we have to push through to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only is it not reserved for the top echelon

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<v Speaker 1>of privilege, but we can't let its stay there. No,

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<v Speaker 1>we cannot. I love how you just reference the word

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<v Speaker 1>subversive because and some of my kino what I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about improvisation, I meet people where they are by first

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledging that most of us are terrified to improvise. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's in part because when we think about improvisation, we

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<v Speaker 1>think about about really impressive jazz musicians who do like

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<v Speaker 1>phenomenal in the moment, in in flow, majestic innovation and

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<v Speaker 1>output of sound. Or we think about the great comedic

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<v Speaker 1>artists of Saturday Live and what they're able to do

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<v Speaker 1>in the moment. It's a been intimidating, but I remind

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<v Speaker 1>people that you hack your way through every day like

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<v Speaker 1>probably between breakfast and lunchtime, you have had to hack

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<v Speaker 1>your way through supporting a spouse, a child, a colleague,

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<v Speaker 1>a client. And then if you look even further back,

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<v Speaker 1>we were really great improvisers as kids. There's an image

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<v Speaker 1>I show of a basketball hoop in the form of

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<v Speaker 1>a milk crate, of a punched out bottom, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>hanging under a side that says no ball playing here.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love that photograph because that's such a great

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<v Speaker 1>example of creativity loving constraints. Because in a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>our cities, in poorer communities, where there's no grassy playground

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<v Speaker 1>and and net hoops to play ball or light at night,

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<v Speaker 1>do you see that all the time? That's incredible hacking

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<v Speaker 1>and creativity. I talked about how back in the late

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<v Speaker 1>seventies early eighties we saw the greatest divestment of funding

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<v Speaker 1>for for arts education or public schools. And what did

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<v Speaker 1>African American male teams do. They turned a turntable into

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<v Speaker 1>a percussion instrument, and scratching is now one of the

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<v Speaker 1>most iconic sounds in hip hop, which is the largest

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<v Speaker 1>music genre in the world right now. It's just all

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<v Speaker 1>these examples of how in these pressure cooker moments, we

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<v Speaker 1>can be quite subversive in some really extraordinary ways. You

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<v Speaker 1>talk a lot about this idea of creativity being hardwired,

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<v Speaker 1>that we as human beings are hardwired for a creativity,

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<v Speaker 1>and yet it's so difficult for some of us to

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<v Speaker 1>cultivate because it seems like if we're hardwired for creativity,

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<v Speaker 1>then it should just bubble up like it does for kids.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, so we see that that hardwiredness. And I'll

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<v Speaker 1>just go back to kind of breaking down how I

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<v Speaker 1>define creativity to explain why I say we're hardwired to

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<v Speaker 1>be creative, if you accept or just kind of hold

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<v Speaker 1>for a moment, that creativity is our ability to toggle

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<v Speaker 1>between wonder and rigor to solve problems. Well, well, let's

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<v Speaker 1>break down what each of those dimensions are. Wonder is

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<v Speaker 1>about awe and audacity and deep curiosity and asking these

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<v Speaker 1>big blue sky what if questions. Wonder is also about

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<v Speaker 1>pause ing, because what I remind people is that you

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<v Speaker 1>can't wonder going eighty miles. You just can't, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>will burn out. You've got to sit your behind down

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<v Speaker 1>and pause and space out for a bit. Right. So,

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<v Speaker 1>if you think about the attributes of wonder being about

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<v Speaker 1>that curiosity, that expansive thinking. That is something that really

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<v Speaker 1>is innate to us when we're left alone, when we

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<v Speaker 1>get off the carousel of of career chasing or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>your particular carousel is, and we definitely see it evident

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<v Speaker 1>in our own children and when we reflect back on

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<v Speaker 1>our own childhoods. The rigor piece, you know, Rigor is discipline.

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<v Speaker 1>It's focus, it's mastery of fundamentals. It's time on task,

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<v Speaker 1>it's constraints. It's not particularly sexy, and it is essential.

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<v Speaker 1>It's also very solitary work. When we tend to think

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<v Speaker 1>about creative we only think about the wonder dimension. We

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<v Speaker 1>we forget that the rigor dimension is also part of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now does the rigor dimension come naturally to us? Not always,

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, if you're so fortunate blessed

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<v Speaker 1>to have a parent who can read to you as

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<v Speaker 1>as a little toddler, you don't go from that to

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<v Speaker 1>like in my case, devouring Nancy Drew Mysteries um overnight.

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<v Speaker 1>It's through the rigor of the repetition of being focused

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<v Speaker 1>on that, and the seed of that is this desire

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<v Speaker 1>to get to that next level. So if we dig

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<v Speaker 1>a little more deeply into those those dimensions of wonder

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<v Speaker 1>and rigor, I think we begin to see how we're

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<v Speaker 1>heart wired. The other thing I just want to add

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<v Speaker 1>to that is I have another framework that I like

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<v Speaker 1>to share about creativity, which just the three eyes, which

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<v Speaker 1>is to say that the way we can consistently toggle

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<v Speaker 1>between wonder and rigular solve problems is through improvisation, inquiry,

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<v Speaker 1>and intuition. We've talked about inquiry or curiosity. We've talked

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<v Speaker 1>a bit about improvisation. The intuition peace is what I

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<v Speaker 1>call pattern recognition, and as it turns out, we are

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<v Speaker 1>hardwired to into it because we have in our bodies

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<v Speaker 1>something called the vegas nerve. It's the second longest nerve

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<v Speaker 1>in our body. The first longest nerve is the spinal cord,

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<v Speaker 1>and the vegas nerve extends from my cranium down through

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<v Speaker 1>our hearts into our gut. And so we literally have

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<v Speaker 1>this interior human antenna that lights up before the rationality

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<v Speaker 1>can even set in that helps us sense make and

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<v Speaker 1>say we should go left, not right. I should work

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<v Speaker 1>with her and not him. I should be with this person,

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<v Speaker 1>not with that person. Right. So, so the cool thing

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<v Speaker 1>about intuition is that it never leaves us. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>a radar sonar. A muscle has to be exercised. We

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<v Speaker 1>have to use it. The more we use it, the

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<v Speaker 1>louder and clearer it gets. The less we use it,

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<v Speaker 1>the flabb ear and dimmer it gets. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>come along with me and my my definite should of

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<v Speaker 1>creativity and also incorporate those three eyes, that intuition piece,

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<v Speaker 1>which is this way of exercising it is another example

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<v Speaker 1>of that hardwiredness of creativity within us. That was actually

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<v Speaker 1>my question of you know, if it's hardwired, and yet

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<v Speaker 1>if it's difficult to cultivate, how do we actually cultivate it?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's through the three eyes, Through the three eyes yes,

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<v Speaker 1>by consistently committing to learning how to ask new different questions,

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<v Speaker 1>actively listening self inquiry as well as asking others, which

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<v Speaker 1>can be pretty hard if we're not used to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Improvisation which is about being experimental, adaptive, and the intuition

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<v Speaker 1>and I think the a way to do it, not

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<v Speaker 1>the only way, but I have found is a technique

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<v Speaker 1>I like to share. People be a clumsy student of

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<v Speaker 1>something anything. I'm a clumsy student of social ballroom dance

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<v Speaker 1>and I love it. Because I literally practice the three

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<v Speaker 1>eyes all the time, I have to into it more

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm dancing with a dance partner. If I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>getting something, I've got to how to reframe the question.

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<v Speaker 1>It helpful when I have a range of teachers. I

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<v Speaker 1>observe how my peers who are better than me, how

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<v Speaker 1>they do things, and I improvised quite a bit and

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<v Speaker 1>that transfer. Those are activating neural synapses in my brain

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<v Speaker 1>which transfer over to my daily work to help me

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<v Speaker 1>be more humble about exercising the three eyes in my

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<v Speaker 1>daily work. What's your favorite ballroom type dance to do

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<v Speaker 1>right now? Is the chacha? Because my Bombom dance to

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<v Speaker 1>do that. They do something called a showcase, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was my first showcase I participated in, and I thought

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<v Speaker 1>the chasha was going to be easy. But the shasha

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<v Speaker 1>is so precise, it's quick, there's a fluidity to it.

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<v Speaker 1>But the beauty of it comes in the syncopation of

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<v Speaker 1>how you decide to linger on a certain movement and

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<v Speaker 1>then followed up with rapid succession with other movements. I

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<v Speaker 1>love Latin, but I also love foxtrot, which is an

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<v Speaker 1>example of a smooth a dance. It's it's beautiful as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I just love to dance. I love the lynday and

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<v Speaker 1>the tango. So one day maybe we can we can

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<v Speaker 1>dance together. I would love that. And the tango is hard,

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<v Speaker 1>so hard, it's so beautiful. Yes, I was trained as

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<v Speaker 1>an Indian classical dancer and did ballet for decades. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, we should all three dance together because I

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<v Speaker 1>love this communal unicorn space. This is the metaphor that

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<v Speaker 1>we began this episode with, which was we can't wait

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<v Speaker 1>for the storm to pass. We have to learn to

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<v Speaker 1>dance in the rain. And I will say, Natalie, your

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<v Speaker 1>work to give us permission to be creative in many

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<v Speaker 1>different forms in a wondrous and rigorous way is why

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<v Speaker 1>I've always been drawn to your work and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to thank you for sharing your insights. Thank you both

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<v Speaker 1>so much for having me. This has been a real pleasure.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved it. Natalie. Where can people find you? People

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<v Speaker 1>can learn more about my speaking and advisory work at

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<v Speaker 1>Figure eight thinking dot com. That's the word figure the

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<v Speaker 1>number eight thinking. Hi, it's me Eve, and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you about my latest book, Find Your Unicorn Space.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're playing fair and have established equity in your home.

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<v Speaker 1>But now what it's time to find your Unicorn Space.

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<v Speaker 1>My new book will help you set personal goals, rediscover

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<v Speaker 1>your interests, and reclaim the creative expression of self that

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<v Speaker 1>makes you uniquely you. Find your Unicorn Space is a

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<v Speaker 1>mix of research space, how to advice, and big picture

0:33:48.440 --> 0:33:51.280
<v Speaker 1>inspirational thinking. I hope it can show you a clear

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<v Speaker 1>path to reclaim your permission to be unavailable and manifest

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<v Speaker 1>your own unicorn space. Find your Unicorn Space is available

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<v Speaker 1>now wherever books are sold. So every episode of this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast will be ending with an action atem for you

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<v Speaker 1>are listeners that we call a time out. This is

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<v Speaker 1>really a time for you to focus on yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>reflect on what you're hearing today. And we're starting the

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<v Speaker 1>conversation first with ourselves and then ultimately with our partners

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<v Speaker 1>and others. So a d D I'll say that one

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<v Speaker 1>of my unicorn spaces is this podcast with you, because,

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<v Speaker 1>as we discussed with Natalie, creativity does not have to

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<v Speaker 1>be browsing Blick for paint and and art brushes. It

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<v Speaker 1>really is a combination of these amazing three things of curiosity,

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<v Speaker 1>where we are curious about issues around what happens to

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<v Speaker 1>women when we're defined by our roles, where we can

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<v Speaker 1>come here together and connect as spiritual friends and share

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves with the world. And then the most important thing

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<v Speaker 1>is the completion, the fact that we actually did this.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been talking about this for a while, but that

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<v Speaker 1>we are completing this. It may not be perfect, we're

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<v Speaker 1>new at this, but we're uploading it for listeners. Were

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<v Speaker 1>completing something. And that's, as my friend Amanda says, the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite of a graveyard of unfulfilled dreams. What else for

0:35:23.440 --> 0:35:26.600
<v Speaker 1>you feels like unicorn space? Besides this podcast, I'm hoping

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<v Speaker 1>I'm putting the words in your mouth that this is

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<v Speaker 1>one of your unicorn spaces. So I totally agree. I

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<v Speaker 1>think this podcast and the conversations that we have with

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<v Speaker 1>each other and these amazing guests make me really deeply

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<v Speaker 1>reflect on my life and bring a new sense of

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<v Speaker 1>energy and joy to all of those areas, which I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so grateful for. You know, when you first asked me

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<v Speaker 1>the question a TD, what is your unicorn space? You

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<v Speaker 1>think of these self care activities that you've done forever,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe things that you've done as a kid, and you

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<v Speaker 1>go right into that. It's a reflex, right because we

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<v Speaker 1>often think of creating space for ourselves as self care,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's what society has taught us. But what I

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<v Speaker 1>love about really crafting this concept of unicorn space is

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<v Speaker 1>this idea that you're creating a space for yourself, but

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<v Speaker 1>then you are giving it out to the world to

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<v Speaker 1>help better yourself, but equally better the world. And so

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<v Speaker 1>when I reflected a little bit more deeply on what

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<v Speaker 1>my unicorn spaces, my favorite part of being a doctor

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<v Speaker 1>is my ability to communicate with patients and really patient education.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing greater for me. I went into medicine for

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<v Speaker 1>the human story and the power of the human story.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's no greater joy for me than when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking to a patient and I'm explaining something complex or difficult,

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<v Speaker 1>like a really new on scientific principle, and then that

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<v Speaker 1>aha moment for them when the light really goes off

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<v Speaker 1>in their eyes, like they get it. But what I

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<v Speaker 1>hear from you saying is that you're living at a

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<v Speaker 1>really sweet spot between me and happiness. My wish for

0:37:03.480 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 1>our listeners, and what I hope are prompt will be

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<v Speaker 1>this week, is that they can start understanding with us

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<v Speaker 1>how powerful it is to sit at that intersection of

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<v Speaker 1>meaning and happiness. So this week's time out exercise is

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<v Speaker 1>a fantasy for those of us who have been journaling

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<v Speaker 1>alongside these exercises. Pull out your pen and paper when

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<v Speaker 1>you can if you're not driving, and answer this question.

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<v Speaker 1>If you were given a year on a deserted island,

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<v Speaker 1>thank survivor, but with every privilege in the world, all

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<v Speaker 1>the internet you needed, all the food you needed, your

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<v Speaker 1>kids are completely fine when you get home a year later.

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<v Speaker 1>The fantasy. Just go with it. What would you do

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<v Speaker 1>with that year? And the reason why I asked that

0:37:50.680 --> 0:37:53.680
<v Speaker 1>is because I asked this to many people in my

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<v Speaker 1>Unicorn space research. And while I heard cool things like

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<v Speaker 1>I would cross pollinate a mango and a pineapple and

0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:04.399
<v Speaker 1>call it a mang apple, what I didn't hear was

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<v Speaker 1>get botox, get a manicure, drive an expensive car, make

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<v Speaker 1>more money, work more m HM. And I think that

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<v Speaker 1>reflection of understanding what intrinsically motivates us can give us

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<v Speaker 1>the tools to bring it back to real life. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's the time out first, the big dream of what

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<v Speaker 1>you do in that year, and really dive deep into

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<v Speaker 1>that fantasy and what would you do with all of

0:38:32.560 --> 0:38:36.960
<v Speaker 1>that time? And energy and life force, and then think

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<v Speaker 1>about how you can incorporate all of that goodness into

0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 1>your day to day life. And in our next episode,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to start looking at the practical tips, tricks

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:53.640
<v Speaker 1>solutions to actually bring you some found time by redistributing

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<v Speaker 1>domestic responsibilities and adding fairness to your home. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to Time Out, a production of I Heart

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<v Speaker 1>Podcasts and Hello Sunshine. I'm Eve Rodsky, author of the

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<v Speaker 1>New York Times bestseller fair Play and Find your Unicorn Space.

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0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:26.520
<v Speaker 1>and stress resilience, burnout, and mental health. Follow me on

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