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Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the Week with morgane Part one.

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Speaker 1: Behind a scene with a member of the show, Happy Saturday.

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Speaker 2: Everybody, Amy is joining this weekend.

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Speaker 1: What's up Amy?

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Speaker 3: Hello? Hi, Happy Saturday.

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Speaker 2: Are you excited to talk about all things fall? Halloween,

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Speaker 2: moving into Thanksgiving, Christmas?

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Speaker 3: Sure? That is where we are, Okay, I know, I'm

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Speaker 3: kind of excited about it. I know when the holidays

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Speaker 3: ended last year, like after Christmas and New Year's I

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Speaker 3: was bummed because I felt like I went by really fast,

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Speaker 3: and here it is again.

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Speaker 1: I know, and ready for it, gonna come and go

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Speaker 1: fast again.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, Ready, we're slowing it down.

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Speaker 1: We're trying to.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna. We're gonna. I don't know how, but we're

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Speaker 3: gonna slow it down.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I do keep Christmas around. I've already started

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Speaker 2: decorating for Christmas. I decorated the day before Halloween.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: And I normally always wait till November first, but I didn't.

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Speaker 2: We didn't really have any big plans for Halloween.

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Speaker 1: I was like, let's just go ahead and.

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Speaker 2: Decorate the house for Christmas as Halloween.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Activity some people in my neighborhood already have their

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Speaker 3: Christmas lights up.

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Speaker 1: See I we're.

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Speaker 2: Just ready and I'll keep them up through like February.

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Speaker 2: I keep Christmas as long as I possibly can. I

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Speaker 2: just love the lights. The lights make me feel so

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Speaker 2: homey and cozy and happy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's my favorite thing.

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Speaker 2: So I am officially by the time you guys are

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Speaker 2: listening to this podcast, decorated for Christmas.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's amazing. We'd probably be November. I'm going to

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Speaker 3: try to do it like the first week of November,

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Speaker 3: so I'm not far behind you first or sec. I

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Speaker 3: guess that's like now, like either this coming week or

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Speaker 3: the week after I'll do it. It's all gonys figure

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Speaker 3: out where my kids are.

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Speaker 2: It's funny too, because the debate always comes up of well,

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Speaker 2: what you're forgetting about Thanksgiving? But have you ever decorated

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Speaker 2: for Thanksgiving?

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Speaker 3: I mean I've done some fall type things, but no,

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Speaker 3: I'm not someone that has like turkeys or but I

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Speaker 3: mean I are like those little you know. I'm talking

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Speaker 3: about the where the food comes to the free as

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Speaker 3: a horn. But it's a oh cornicopia there, yes, cornicopia.

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Speaker 3: I don't have one of those, but there are people

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Speaker 3: they wait till right after Thanksgiving, and I'm okay with that,

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Speaker 3: but it seems a little late for me.

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Speaker 2: I know well, and growing up we always decorated for

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Speaker 2: Christmas before Thanksgiving to my Thanksgiving decorations. In my mind,

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Speaker 2: we're always Christmas decorations because it is true.

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Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Put a bunch of turkeys up?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I'm just honestly ready for the movies. I want,

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Speaker 3: like all the Hallmark like whatever they are, Netflix like,

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Speaker 3: whenever you're putting them out. I know that a lot

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Speaker 3: of the Hallmark type one started this week, but I

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Speaker 3: don't even a November first because I don't have those

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Speaker 3: channels my boyfriend has.

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Speaker 1: Okay, do you have school TV?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 1: Your boyfriend has old school TV.

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Speaker 3: He has everything, He has all the things, but he

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Speaker 3: but he has legit like Comcast or something.

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Speaker 1: Well, then that's where you're watching.

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Speaker 3: I know, but I need to figure it out at

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Speaker 3: my house too, because and luckily he likes them. I

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Speaker 3: this year it's I'm it's going to be different because

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Speaker 3: this time last year I wasn't as close to her

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Speaker 2: So yeah, maybe watch over their activities. Yeah, oh that'll

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Speaker 2: be so much fun. Okay, yes you can't.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 2: You can also watch Hallmark stuff on YouTube TV, at

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Speaker 2: least I've caught it there before. Okay, so if you

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Speaker 1: That I've seen where they have a bunch of different channels.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Netflix always comes out with a bunch. But my favorite, like,

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Speaker 2: what is the Christmas movie that marks Christmas season for you?

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Speaker 3: I love Elf?

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Speaker 1: Elf is the one yes.

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Speaker 3: Elf and h while you were sleeping?

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Speaker 1: While you were sleeping? Why do I not rebell that one?

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Speaker 3: Because it's not it's probably just personal to my family,

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Speaker 3: But my mom loved that movie, and I feel like

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Speaker 3: around Christmas time because it takes place. It sort of

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Speaker 3: like could be the debate like Home Alone, like is

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Speaker 3: place at Christmas time. So I hit it in that category.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like Harry Potter.

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Speaker 2: Harry Potter to me always reminds me of Christmas, but

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Speaker 2: it's not a Christmas movie, but it takes place during

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Speaker 2: Christmas and it feels very Christmas y.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think it fits in that.

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Speaker 3: So for me, I know that's a little bit of

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Speaker 3: a different answer, but that is Christmas for me.

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Speaker 2: Well, it probably brings back memories of your mom and

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Speaker 3: Elf home Alone while you were sleeping. I guess home Alone.

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Speaker 2: It's been a long time since I've watched Home Alone.

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Speaker 2: But I'm also not a Christmas vacation lampoons that kind

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Speaker 2: but the one that always marks it for me, and

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Speaker 2: I always try and find it. It's how they're gonstole

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Speaker 3: Like Jimmy Carey, Yes, his and who Vill That's always

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Speaker 2: You've never seen that one. Have you seen the cartoon?

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Speaker 3: I'm sure? Yeah, a long time ago when I was

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Speaker 2: You've never seen the Jim Carrey stuff. You have to

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'll ask her. Well, I mean she loves the

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Speaker 3: Hallmark type ones. That's very different.

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Speaker 1: Then that's true, it's very different.

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Speaker 2: But I bet because at least for me growing up,

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Speaker 2: Cindy Lou was like my I loved her.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to be Cindy Lou.

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Speaker 3: Yeahn know. I wonder why I missed that. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, for the sake of my Christmas heart, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I need you to watch it at some point this

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Speaker 2: I think I've I think I like I have seen it,

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Speaker 1: And I love Sandra Bullock, so that'll be an easy one. Okay.

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Speaker 1: And fall activities wise, have you done anything even fall

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Speaker 3: We call pumpkins? Okays it that's all you've done with

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Speaker 1: Uh? Yeah, you go to a pumpkin patch to pick them.

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Speaker 3: No, we just went to the store and bought pumpkins

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Speaker 2: That's so funny now that you can go to a target,

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Speaker 3: a pumpkin like a normal just carving pumpkins. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I love those.

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Speaker 2: Yes, something about that we did do carving pumpkins. But

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Speaker 2: something that I brought from my childhood that my boyfriend

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Speaker 2: Oh no, you just threw them away.

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Speaker 2: The best one was in everyday seasoning from World Market.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, I wish I would have thought to do that,

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Speaker 1: I have seen it and pop up.

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Speaker 3: They must be eating pumpkins. And then they're using the bathroom. Oh,

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Speaker 3: I keep finding little piles of like pumpkin seeds and

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Speaker 2: Have they did you set your carving pumpkins out? Have

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Speaker 3: So they're at my boyfriend's house and no, he doesn't

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Speaker 2: You should when they're done, and when you're done with them,

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Speaker 2: you should give them to them. They'll be a good

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Speaker 2: recycled way to get rid of the pump because I've

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Speaker 2: also heard people will recincle their pumpkins and take them

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Speaker 3: Yes, you can do that. You can use them for compost. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: there's a lot of different ways besides just throwing them

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Speaker 3: in the trash can. Yes, okay, so not a lot

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Speaker 1: Besides, we both carved pumpkins. That was it.

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Speaker 1: Halloween parties. I didn't even dress up this year.

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Speaker 1: And I love dressing up. That's always really a fun part.

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Speaker 2: Even theme parties. You didn't like, go all out?

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Speaker 3: I just wonder what it is about me that doesn't

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Speaker 1: I would like to.

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Speaker 3: I would like I feel like, oh, that would be

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Speaker 2: It might just be more of a it's more of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's definitely interesting that that's always been a reoccurring.

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Speaker 3: You're now I haven't made it up with people that

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Speaker 3: take care of it. No, neither one of us. We're

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Speaker 3: I mean, and I was in my workout clothes and

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Speaker 3: And this year we did not dress up. So yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: But at least it makes it more casual for that

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Speaker 2: Thing at least then they had plenty of things to distract.

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Speaker 3: We didn't really hang out other than that, but I

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Speaker 2: And it still, again is easy and casual. There's not

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Speaker 1: You have to connect kind of situation.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I have a follow up question, but I want

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Speaker 2: and I'll ask them. Okay, So I want to know

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Speaker 2: what it was like for you to kind of host

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Speaker 3: No, they haven't liked this, like not, Like she was

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Speaker 3: we haven't hosted a big party like that at my

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Speaker 3: And it was an all outdoor party, so they weren't inside.

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Speaker 3: I mean they could come inside to use the restroom,

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Speaker 3: but that was about it. Like all the food and

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Speaker 1: Was that like?

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Speaker 3: It was fun? I mean we were pretty much inside,

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Speaker 2: it's always funny looking back at that now because my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, we laid the ground rules down with her

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Speaker 3: So and he's pretty serious about it. So he's not

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Speaker 3: But he wants them to not just whine about something

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Speaker 3: And I'm not saying this there would be drinking at

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, and I would say also like the pool

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Speaker 2: It was always when the parties that I went to

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Speaker 3: Yes, she never went to any with parents. Oh man,

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Speaker 2: We had there were some, but like, I still don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, very well versed in how we knew to

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Speaker 3: But I feel like times are changing with that though,

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my parents had no idea'd be on a

443
00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:16,760
Speaker 2: field somewhere exactly.

444
00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:18,520
Speaker 1: Now, sure took me home.

445
00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 3: We know where all the kids are, and I mean, shoot,

446
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:24,560
Speaker 3: we know if they're on foot or driving. Like that's

447
00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:28,400
Speaker 3: how detailed like Live three sixty is. And then if

448
00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,679
Speaker 3: you try to have people to your house and your

449
00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,480
Speaker 3: parents are gone, with all the you know, ring cams

450
00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,080
Speaker 3: and whatnot, it's just not the same.

451
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:35,639
Speaker 1: It isn't.

452
00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:38,359
Speaker 2: And like I think of teeping, like that used to

453
00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:40,000
Speaker 2: be a big thing during homecoming week.

454
00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:41,240
Speaker 1: We'd go and tepee each other.

455
00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:43,639
Speaker 2: Sometimes it got even like there was a lobster in

456
00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:45,600
Speaker 2: our pool at one point that was a whole thing.

457
00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,080
Speaker 3: A real live looks a.

458
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,000
Speaker 2: Bunch of guys, but a lobster in our pool. My

459
00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 2: dad was not very happy. He chased them down the street.

460
00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:54,760
Speaker 2: But like, it was such a big part of our

461
00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:56,640
Speaker 2: high school where we'd go and teepee each other.

462
00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,840
Speaker 1: And now you can't do that. There's ring cameras.

463
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:05,680
Speaker 3: Oh so they still do it. My boyfriend's kids they

464
00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:08,600
Speaker 3: went he his son had a sleepover the other night

465
00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,359
Speaker 3: and the whole point of the sleepover was to go

466
00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 3: toilet paper this one girl's house because the weekend before

467
00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:15,520
Speaker 3: some girls had had a slumber party and toilet papered

468
00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 3: their house. And uh, I guess the camera thing, it

469
00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:22,480
Speaker 3: doesn't really matter. They just kind of do it and

470
00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,200
Speaker 3: then they get they figure out who it is, and

471
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 3: then they retaliate, but in good fun. But they still

472
00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:30,400
Speaker 3: toilet paper. Toilet paper ring is still a thing.

473
00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,280
Speaker 2: Okay, Well that makes me feel better because that was one

474
00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:33,680
Speaker 2: of my favorite parts of high school and.

475
00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:36,159
Speaker 3: Some of the trees are still far out enough to

476
00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:37,679
Speaker 3: wear maybe the ring camel.

477
00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I guess if you were like all black,

478
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 1: maybe because the ring cameras aren't super clear, so you

479
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 1: could get away with it. Maybe. But I just it's

480
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:47,440
Speaker 1: such a bummer.

481
00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:49,960
Speaker 2: Like, in a way, I know it's better now because

482
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:51,879
Speaker 2: more people are safe, we're more aware of things that

483
00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:52,439
Speaker 2: are happening.

484
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 1: But I just all the things that I got away

485
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:55,359
Speaker 1: with are wild.

486
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:59,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. My heart got forked once. And then also some

487
00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 3: of my friends my neighborhood put a porter potty in

488
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 3: my yard once.

489
00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:05,120
Speaker 1: What hmm, are you serious?

490
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, so my guy friends, and I don't know why.

491
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 3: I think they just thought it would be like so funny.

492
00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 3: My mom was not happy, and she was like, you

493
00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:12,480
Speaker 3: need to call them right now. They need to come

494
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 3: pick it up, because like, how in the world are

495
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,360
Speaker 3: supposed to get rid of a porter potty? So they did,

496
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:18,119
Speaker 3: they had to come. I had to call them, and

497
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 3: I was like, if y'all don't come to it, my

498
00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 3: mom's going to call your mom. So and they were

499
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 3: my friends like it wasn't like a an enemy thing.

500
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:25,639
Speaker 3: It was just they were trying to be funny.

501
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, and that's what it was. It was never

502
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:29,359
Speaker 2: like you were doing it to be spiteful.

503
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 3: Well, one time this girl sagged my house in eighth grade.

504
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 1: Okay, well you paintballed my house.

505
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,880
Speaker 3: So yes, that's true, paintballed it. Oh my Oh yeah,

506
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 3: he also drove through my yard. It was a whole

507
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:42,199
Speaker 3: thing as an adult.

508
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, were you in high school?

509
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:45,680
Speaker 3: Okay, I didn't know if this was like your ex

510
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 3: boyfriend from a couple of years ago.

511
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:50,480
Speaker 1: Not for that was much better. But yeah, yeah, I

512
00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:51,520
Speaker 1: was a high school.

513
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 3: Boyfriend and he drove through your yard.

514
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, we I talked. It was funny.

515
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,159
Speaker 2: I talked about that story on the podcast with my

516
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,640
Speaker 2: parents because it was like recalling it because my dad

517
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 2: like ran after him in his whitey tidies and it

518
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 2: was just like we can really laugh about it now,

519
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 2: but when it happened, it was terrifying. It was not

520
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 2: a good moment in the house, and my parents were

521
00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:15,439
Speaker 2: not happy with me. And yeah, so they're some crazy thing.

522
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 2: And my dad took a lot of pride in his yard.

523
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 2: He loves his yard. So when that guy tore up

524
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 2: his grass, he was not happy.

525
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, i'd be mad, but oh, okay.

526
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 2: It's cool to see the perspective now. I wondered what

527
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:28,920
Speaker 2: times we're like now with kids, and.

528
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 3: I mean it's different, Like I know, friends are adult

529
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 3: friends that you know, allow certain things that we're just

530
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 3: not gonna allow. Yeah, but I mean everybody's different.

531
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but still it feels like once upon a time,

532
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 2: at least in the early two thousands or middle two thousands,

533
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 2: we were all kind of living the same life and

534
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 2: we were getting away with a lot of things. Now

535
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:55,919
Speaker 2: it's like the times have changed for sure. Okay, I

536
00:22:55,960 --> 00:23:00,879
Speaker 2: want to get into Also, I am a horrible cat mom.

537
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: I want an update on how Maggie's doing on her diet.

538
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 1: I so Hazel loves.

539
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 2: I put up a screened porch for my deck, so

540
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: she had to start outside.

541
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, and she loves it.

542
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 2: She will come running to that back door like a dog,

543
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 2: Like I say, outside, she's there, she wants to be outside.

544
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 1: Well, she does this sometimes.

545
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:22,159
Speaker 2: And I won't realize when I let Remy out that

546
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 2: she's snuck out there and I didn't see her. And

547
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 2: the other day I just hear scratching at the door,

548
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 2: which normally she scratches on the inside, and I'm like, Hazel,

549
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:31,399
Speaker 2: you're not going out right now.

550
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: Like we'll get We'll get to it in a little bit.

551
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 1: Scratching keeps happening for like an hour.

552
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 2: This is going on, So finally I get up to

553
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 2: go over there and be like, Hazel, girlfriend, let's chill out.

554
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: She was outside in the dark, scratching out of the door.

555
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 3: Take it in?

556
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 2: Can I come back in? And I felt so horrible.

557
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 2: But cats are so sneaky.

558
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, they are, like you.

559
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,199
Speaker 2: Can't hear them, not like sometimes unless she has her

560
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 2: little like kat zoomies, she'll go crazy and I can

561
00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:00,399
Speaker 2: hear her and she sounds like a horse, but beyond

562
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 2: that she is like it is sneaky. You can't hear

563
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 2: a paprint anywhere. And that was one of those moments.

564
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 2: But I felt like a horrible mom because she was

565
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 2: sitting there in the dark on here.

566
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 3: It was cold out, so vulnerable, like I don't want

567
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: to be out here. She can't see super well, so

568
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 3: I felt really bad. Give me an update on Maggie

569
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 3: and how her diet's going. It's not going well. She

570
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 3: doesn't like it at all. She nows all the time,

571
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 3: she's hungry, so I don't really know what we're gonna do.

572
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 3: I don't feel like she's lost anyway. I used to

573
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 3: have a leash that fit her and I would take

574
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 3: her on walks. So I thought the other day, either

575
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 3: I need to figure out if that one will extend,

576
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 3: because she obviously doesn't fit into the leash anymore. It's

577
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 3: like a little harness thing that we had on her

578
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 3: when she was a kitten. I think I need to

579
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 3: get an adult size.

580
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 1: Do you think she'll walk on it now?

581
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 3: Well, she did when she was a kitten, But I

582
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 3: was thinking that's the only way I'm going to get

583
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 3: her to exercise, because I try to do other things

584
00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 3: and she'll, you know, play with stuff for a minute

585
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,199
Speaker 3: and then she just rolls over and she's like I'm

586
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 3: over this. By she's like I'm done, I'm done. And

587
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,479
Speaker 3: I think she needs more activity than that. So if

588
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 3: I take her out on a walk and look, you're

589
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 3: out in the wild, like this is just what you

590
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 3: have to do, I don't think she'll just PLoP down.

591
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 3: We'll cross that bridge when we get there, though, But

592
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 3: I considered getting her another leash is my whole point

593
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 3: to start walking her again, because I don't think she's

594
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 3: lost any weight, and I have cut back on her feeding,

595
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 3: so it may just take a little time, but I

596
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 3: do think that we're gonna need to burn some calories.

597
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 2: So is it now, Because I know a lot of

598
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 2: people with their cats will just leave food out all

599
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: the time because cats are notorious razors, they don't typically

600
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 2: eat full meals.

601
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:42,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, I've had to hide food around her. All

602
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 3: of her stuff, her litter box, and her food is

603
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 3: in the game room. So I've been doing little nooks

604
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 3: and cranies where I hide food, but it has to

605
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 3: be out of site for Kara or out of reach

606
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 3: for Kara, my dog, because otherwise she'll eat it and

607
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 3: I don't know who's eating what. And so it's hard

608
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 3: to find things that are high up that Maggie can

609
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 3: also jump to and have space to hang out on

610
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 3: that car I cannot get to, So it's it's been difficult.

611
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 3: A listener did send me something about getting a like

612
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 3: a feeder, like an automatic feeder that just like drops

613
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 3: out stuff at a certain time. Yeah, and that that's

614
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 3: the only thing that worked for their cats. And I

615
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 3: need to look into that.

616
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have heard good success stories on feeders, but

617
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 2: I will say in general though, just to give you,

618
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 2: like some grace in this situation. Getting a cat to

619
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,880
Speaker 2: lose weight is one of the hardest things. Like you're

620
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: better off trying to make sure they don't gain the way,

621
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,160
Speaker 2: ever than trying to get it off of them. It's

622
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: really difficult because they aren't they don't exercise, they like

623
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 2: to be lazy, they like to hang out. They're notorious grazers,

624
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: so they don't really like eat meals like dogs do.

625
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,360
Speaker 2: It's just a different lifestyle.

626
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:59,160
Speaker 3: The listener said, you need an automatic feeder. Our feeds

627
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 3: the smallest them out four times a day at five am,

628
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 3: ten am, five pm, and ten pm, I guess. And

629
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 3: they said it really helped with the early morning starving mews,

630
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 3: which that's what she's been doing. It'll be like three

631
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 3: in the morning and she's just meyowing, and she wants

632
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 3: pretty much nothing to do with me during the day.

633
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,959
Speaker 3: But then she sleeps with me every night, and I'm like,

634
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 3: what's the deal? Cats are so weird. I love her

635
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 3: so much, but I wish she wanted to cuddle and

636
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,439
Speaker 3: hang out during the day that would be awesome, but

637
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 3: at night she is right next to me. It's so sweet.

638
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 3: But then that doesn't last.

639
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 2: They are cats, have fun personal they're weird, they're so quirky. Well,

640
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 2: I hope maybe he need the automatic feeder and that

641
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 2: starts to help, hopefully for your guys' estake, because I

642
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 2: do know what it's like when your animal very much

643
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 2: wants to stay awake at night.

644
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 3: I know, and I want her to live along a

645
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 3: healthy life, so I've got to kind of get it together.

646
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 3: I do take the vets advice seriously, and you know

647
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 3: I want her to feel good.

648
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, well I love that update.

649
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 2: Hopefully we get some better update next time that she's

650
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,880
Speaker 2: lost like two pounds. Yes, season, that will be great. Yeah,

651
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 2: we'll take that as a win. Okay, one more break,

652
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 2: we'll be right back. Okay, So I want to talk

653
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 2: about your boyfriend. You mentioned the ying and ying thing

654
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 2: and I wanted to come back to it. So how

655
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 2: long have you guys been dating now.

656
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 3: Along, I mean like officially, not a year yet, but

657
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 3: right around officially, but it SEMs like you guys met Yeah,

658
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 3: so I've known him for a year.

659
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, what have you learned.

660
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,160
Speaker 2: I'm so curious about yourself and like the process over

661
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 2: the last year.

662
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 3: I brought this up a little bit on the show

663
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 3: recently and you know, on my podcast, But I've learned

664
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: how defensive I get. I'm really really really working on

665
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 3: that because it's not just with him that he's sort

666
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 3: of brought it to light, but with you know, just

667
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 3: in my own head, like with things or with my kid,

668
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 3: like a friend, like they not mean what I think

669
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 3: they're meaning, Like my filter makes something like, for lack

670
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 3: of a better way to put it, like an attack

671
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 3: on me when it's not like if he's sharing something

672
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 3: with me at times, like and I get defensive right away,

673
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 3: He's like wait what. He gets real confused by it

674
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 3: because it's not where he was coming from at all.

675
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 3: So we are definitely working on that. By week it's

676
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 3: mostly me and then I think I've also learned like

677
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 3: what it feels like to be in a secure, calm,

678
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 3: healthy relationship, and so that's been exciting and like, oh,

679
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 3: you know, at first you kind of feel like it's

680
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: a little boring, but then now that we're through all

681
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 3: of that and then the other feelings, like it just

682
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 3: feels good, and sometimes I even step back and I'm

683
00:29:56,240 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 3: like huh yeah, like, oh, well, this is an interesting feeling,

684
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 3: Like my nervous system is more calm now. I know

685
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 3: I have the defensive thing, and that's not all the time,

686
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 3: but it is something that shows up that I've had

687
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 3: to work on. However, my overall nervous system is in

688
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 3: a different place and how quickly, Like even if there's

689
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 3: a defensive thing, I do move off of it faster

690
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 3: or nothing escalates, it doesn't escalate, And I'm like, what

691
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 3: is this? And I'm like, oh, this is a healthy,

692
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:32,959
Speaker 3: mature relationship.

693
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, So I'm curious too, cause you mentioned that

694
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 2: I feel like very much in my relationship now because

695
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: I did have such tumultuous relationships before that. A lot

696
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 2: of things have started popping up for me now because

697
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 2: I am safe and I feel secure and I feel

698
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 2: like I'm in an environment where it's like my whole

699
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 2: body is finally healing physically, emotionally, mentally. That now, that's

700
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 2: why things are starting to come up, because I'm in

701
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 2: a place where I can address them. Do you feel

702
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 2: like that's what's happening with some of these like the

703
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 2: defensiveness you never quite knew or felt, but now you're realizing.

704
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that could be it. Yeah, and it could be

705
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:18,959
Speaker 3: that someone is in a very loving kind way drawing

706
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 3: attention to it for me because he even noticed it.

707
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 3: I did it to something Ben, my ex husband had said.

708
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: We were all three together and Ben did something. We

709
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 3: walked away. I was like, oh, and I made a

710
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 3: comment about something Ben had said to me, but I

711
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 3: was getting defensive and he looked at me and he goes,

712
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 3: I don't think that's how he meant it. And I

713
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 3: was sort of like, huh, so that was an example

714
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 3: of him just nudging me and encouraging me of like,

715
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 3: you may want to re filter that, let's reevaluate that.

716
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 3: So I mean, it's also just having someone that isn't

717
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 3: scared to say something, but it doesn't do it in

718
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 3: a way that makes it And thankfully it's not like

719
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 3: I then got you know, defensive towards him, like, oh, well,

720
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 3: why are you taking bins side? Well, because there is

721
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 3: a time where maybe I could have snowballed into that.

722
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 3: Who knows. I don't want to show Kota what like,

723
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 3: I have no idea.

724
00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 2: But it's also because he's proven that he's not trying

725
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 2: to do that to you. He's proven that he's a

726
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 2: safe space and he wants the best for you.

727
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, he wants the best for me, He wants the

728
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 3: best for my kids. He will come in with you know,

729
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 3: parenting advice.

730
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: Uh.

731
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 3: And it doesn't feel intrusive or controlling, and it just

732
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 3: feels like love being loving.

733
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 2: Do you feel like because you do just in general,

734
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 2: I mean, you're a mom, you have a career, you

735
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 2: have your dating, you also have your ex husband he's dating, Like,

736
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 2: there's so many kind of things you're balancing all at

737
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 2: the same time.

738
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you're in like this good place now?

739
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 2: How do you like, where are you at right now

740
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 2: in your life with so much having gone on.

741
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm in a really good place. I mean,

742
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 3: I think there's always you know, when you're a parent,

743
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 3: there's always thing with your kids that are happening.

744
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: Uh.

745
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: So there's some of that at the moment that I'm juggling,

746
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 3: but everything else feels like it's in a really good place.

747
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 3: And I think Ben and I being in a good place,

748
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 3: and then us being in good relationships and having you know,

749
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 3: partners that are kind and caring like that helps all

750
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 3: of that. So like, even if there is rocky things

751
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 3: happening in parenting, it feels more manageable.

752
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have this like stable ground, stable foundation that

753
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 2: if something rocky does happen, you're like, oh, okay, we

754
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: can handle this.

755
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. Support. And there was the thing a couple of

756
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 3: weeks ago where that was even so evident to me,

757
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 3: like of the growth that I've had, So it's yeah,

758
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 3: part growth on my end, but also part circumstantial of this. Oh,

759
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 3: this is my foundation now. So not only do I

760
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 3: have the experience and the tools that are allowing me

761
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 3: to make this decision with more confidence and ease, also

762
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 3: I'm being supported by and that includes my ex husband, Like,

763
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 3: we have a good foundation right now. So even if

764
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,360
Speaker 3: I was a little you know, I didn't have the

765
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 3: tools and whatever, I have support. So but it's right now.

766
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 3: It's a good thing because I've got both.

767
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love this. This is a good.

768
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:34,240
Speaker 3: Yeah it feels good. But I think you know, with everybody,

769
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,720
Speaker 3: there's always ups and downs.

770
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: Always such as life.

771
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 2: That's how as soon as everything feels great, something always happens.

772
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 2: But when you do have that foundation, I was so

773
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 2: curious because it does feel like you're in a better

774
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 2: place with your foundation. That makes everything else not so intense. Yes,

775
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,839
Speaker 2: because I've there's certain times in my life where I've

776
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,720
Speaker 2: definitely been in a place where there was no foundation,

777
00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: or the foundation was very rocky, and every feels like

778
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: Mount Everest and it could be a you stub your

779
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: toe and it feels like it is the entire world

780
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 2: that's ending. And so to have a very calm, stable foundation,

781
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 2: it changes the game in a lot of ways. So

782
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 2: I was curious how that was impacting your life now,

783
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 2: just with this new relationship that you've been in, it's.

784
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: Impacting in a positive way for sure.

785
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: Oh that's so good.

786
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 2: Okay, well before we jump out of here, is there

787
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 2: anything else you've wanted to talk about or you want

788
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 2: to bring up?

789
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 1: Or random? It could be so random, it doesn't matter.

790
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 3: What I wanted to talk about. Is so random? Oh well,

791
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 3: I guess I should say something that came up. Was

792
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 3: it earlier this week or last week? Whenever I had

793
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:44,359
Speaker 3: the clip in Bangs? Yeah, So I got a lot

794
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 3: of messages that people wanting me to link the banks,

795
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 3: and I just want to say they're not. I don't

796
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 3: want you wasting your money. Like when I took the

797
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 3: picture that I posted with them, I had my headphones

798
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:58,919
Speaker 3: over them, so it was covering like the awkward part

799
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 3: of how it blends in your hair because I couldn't

800
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 3: figure out a great way to clip them in. So

801
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 3: that is my message of like, I'm not going to

802
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 3: link something unless I really like it or it works.

803
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 3: And this is something that I bought and I would

804
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 3: not link because I don't want to steer y'all wrong, Like,

805
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 3: and it had good reviews and other people seem to

806
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 3: love it, but I spent a lot of time trying

807
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 3: to figure out how to make it clip in and

808
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 3: look seamless, and I could not figure it out. So

809
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 3: I don't want to put you all through that, which

810
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 3: I know you're all adults. You can make your own decision,

811
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 3: But I mean, also, do you just google like bang

812
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 3: clip ins on Amazon and then do your own research

813
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 3: so that feel better about that instead of me linking

814
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:38,959
Speaker 3: something where you spend your money and then.

815
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, these are horrible, well in there, So

816
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 2: that's that The clip and bangs really are one great

817
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 2: if you're you know, have some event coming up and

818
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 2: you're going to your hairstylas and they're going to do

819
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 2: something kind of like if you throw in some extensions

820
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 2: for a specialty event. That's kind of how I see

821
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 2: the clip and bangs or if you're thinking about getting bangs.

822
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 2: I ordered bangs on Amazon before I bought my or

823
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 2: before I cut them, because I was like, I need

824
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 2: to see, even in general, what this looks like.

825
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 3: Well, so that I will say, that's not a waste

826
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 3: of money. So if that's your kid, that's what you want.

827
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 3: And yeah, I haven't put up a link, but you

828
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 3: could google on Amazon and just find any bangs that

829
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 3: sort of remember your color. And you know, the goal

830
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 3: isn't to actually wear the clippins, but if you want

831
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 3: it to just give you an idea of what you're

832
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 3: going to look like with the banks, then spind away

833
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 3: because it it might be like, oh great, now I

834
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 3: like this vibe. I'm going to go cut my banks yep.

835
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 3: And then you have that and so it's an investment,

836
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 3: like you're investing in that decision, so it's not a

837
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 3: waste of money.

838
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 2: Wait, so did you decide I really liked the way

839
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 2: they looked.

840
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 3: I mean, speaking of that, yeah, but I don't know

841
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 3: that if I do it, winter time is going to

842
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,439
Speaker 3: be a good time because it's less humid out because

843
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 3: I have very curly hair. So if I go for it,

844
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 3: then perhaps it will be sometime soon. But I have

845
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 3: a hair appointment in November, like mid to later November.

846
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: I have it.

847
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 3: It's before Thanksgiving, I know, so TBD.

848
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 1: I think you should do it. I think they looked great.

849
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: I loved my bang era.

850
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 2: I mean, granted, it did require more effort from me,

851
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 2: which is the one thing I didn't like about them.

852
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 2: It just required me to style my hair all the time.

853
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 2: But I loved them, like genuinely. I loved having my

854
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 2: banks and it was just fun to do something different

855
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:29,479
Speaker 2: because I don't do a lot different with my hair.

856
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 2: It's always been blonde, it's always been long, besides when

857
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 2: my mom made me get a bolka because I wouldn't

858
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 2: brush it. Beyond that, like, I've literally had the same

859
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 2: kind of hairstyle my whole life. So it's fun to

860
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 2: do something different and add a little spice. Maybe I

861
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 2: vote for bangs, Okay, maybe I will.

862
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

863
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:50,399
Speaker 2: I know it's a big decision because people are so

864
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 2: split on bangs, but it's fun. It's hair it grows back.

865
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: You know that you can always have hear your hair again, right, so.

866
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:01,480
Speaker 1: It'll be fun. Okay, if you don't end up liking me,

867
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 1: you can just side sweep b them.

868
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 3: You're convincing me.

869
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: That's my hot take. Okay, fun bangs.

870
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 2: All right, we're gonna get out of here. Tell the

871
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 2: people where they can hear you and find you.

872
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 3: I'm at Radio Amy on Socials and my podcast is

873
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 3: called Feeling Things with Amy and Kat and you can

874
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,479
Speaker 3: check that out wherever you listen to podcasts, and also

875
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,399
Speaker 3: follow us on Instagram, same handle Feeling Things. Well, it's

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Speaker 3: not Feeling Things the same Me and Kat on Instagram.

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Speaker 3: It's just Feeling Things podcast. Love that all right, and

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Speaker 3: subscribe to the show YouTube page at Bobby Bone Show

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Speaker 3: and you can find us social media Bobby Bone Show everywhere.

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Speaker 1: And that's it for us. Goodbye, everybody. That's the best

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Speaker 1: bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be

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Speaker 1: sure to check out the other two parts this weekend.

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Speaker 1: Go follow the show on all social platform Yes Bobby

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Speaker 3: Bone Show and followed web girl Morgan to submit your

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Speaker 3: listener questions for next week's episode.