WEBVTT - Part One: The History of American Masculinity Grifters 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:08.920 Also media What Mendez My Brothers. I'm Robert Evans, the 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.399 host of Behind the Bastards, a podcast where every week 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:14.760 I sit down with Miles Gray and go sitting Mendez 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:15.680 brother show. 0:00:15.800 --> 0:00:16.440 How are we feeling? 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:18.800 A one? That one all hot for each other one, 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:21.240 the one where Javier Bardem is their dad. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:22.520 Yeah, I love that. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:25.960 I know there's a lot of reasons to have issue 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:29.000 with that. I know the brothers have have taken issue 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:31.520 with that show's depiction. I will say I think it 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:36.920 fundamentally shows the killing as justified. Because if I walked 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.680 into a house, any house I just rewatched No Country 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:43.360 for Old Men and saw Javier Bardem there, I'm opening fire, 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:45.840 you know. Yeah, Like it's not even about the other stuff. 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:49.279 It's just about like that, Like he's terrifying. 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:54.040 Exactly if I would, I could go to a fucking 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:58.080 like fundraise charity fundraiser for orphaned children, and if he 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:02.360 was hosting, I'd be like, dude, lighting him up. I'm sorry, 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:05.319 I cannot sheathe my blade until it has spilled. 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:09.440 He could have a cattle boat gun anywhere anywhere, and 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:11.440 even if you handcuffed that son of a bit, he 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:12.360 could get you. 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:16.080 No he's freaky. He's freaky, he's terrifying. He's a terrifying man. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.600 He was in that movie Vicky Christina Barcelona, and he's supposed. 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.640 To say he that he was. He was charming in 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.319 that movie by a pedophile. 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:24.480 Supposed to be. 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:28.520 But I was like, no. 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:36.560 No, no, no, it's a deticted by Woody Allen. Yeah, yeah, no, 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:38.440 stumbling blocks detected. 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:38.520 No. 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:41.040 Uh. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:41.360 You know. 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.360 You know who's not terrifying or who is terrifying but 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:48.400 terrifyingly talented is Miles Gray, who already introduced I don't 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.840 know why I'm doing. How are you doing today, Miles? 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:52.440 I'm great, Robert, how are you doing? 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.280 I'm doing good? Miles, you're a maafy. 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:58.160 I got to ask you the Lakers, are you feeling good? 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:00.400 Based on what JJ Reddick the same? 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:04.600 I mean, I really appreciate that he's feeling so confident, 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:08.480 but I'm not. I'm not I'm not feeling I'm not 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:09.720 feeling discouraged. 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:11.359 That's what we do. That's what we do is like 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:15.440 your fans. Okay, sorry I had to just interject that famously. 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:16.200 All men. 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:20.239 You know, Miles, you're a man, a man, manly a man. 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:21.360 Yeah. 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:23.600 So there. A lot of us are men, and I 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:26.520 think if you're a man whose brain is not putting, 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:29.160 you've probably had the feeling often in the last like 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:32.320 five or six years where you'll like see something about 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.120 young people and like what influencers your popular today, like 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:36.200 Andrew Tate, and go like. 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:38.919 What the fuck's happening with dudes? Right? What's going on? 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:40.760 Something awry? 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:46.400 And this this feeling is kind of uh exacerbated by 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.079 the fact that I feel like every year or so, 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:52.359 each of the big publications The Atlantic, the Washington Post, 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:53.960 you know, the New York Times and New York Times 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:57.440 magazine will do like a masculinity and crisis article right 0:02:57.480 --> 0:02:59.360 where they're they're trying to talk about, like why are 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:00.720 men getting more conservative? 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:01.880 What's wrong with young men? 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:02.200 You know. 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:06.160 I wanted to look into that, and specifically I wanted 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:08.639 to look into like the history of moral panics over 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.160 masculinity in the United States, because this is a spoiler, 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:15.280 about every thirty years, all of the columnists in the 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:18.480 country get convinced that masculinity is in crisis. And this 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.400 has been happening for roughly one hundred and twenty years. 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.840 Oh so it's the same as like nobody wants to 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:25.639 work these Yes, yes. 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.680 This is exactly that kind of thing. There's some slight 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:31.400 changes in how it gets expressed based on the time, 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:33.720 but what hasn't changed is that every time there's a 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:37.520 crisis of masculinity, a crop of grifters rises up to 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:39.680 make a bunch of money off of the fact that 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:43.920 men don't feel good about being men anymore. So we're 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.800 going to talk about that this week. This is a 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:50.000 week where we talk about the man fluencers, a word 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:51.800 I'm going to use a lot, even though no one 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:55.400 likes it. Nobody feels good about the term manfluencer. We 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:58.520 all kind of yeah, how do you feel about manfluencers? 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:00.960 I don't care the episode started. 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.760 Yeah, I mean fine. I look, I don't know what 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:06.040 we're going to talk about every time I agree to 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.880 be on the show. So I'm just glad it's something 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.240 that I've personally invested a lot of my own money, 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:12.440 and so I feel like maybe I can bring a 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:15.200 little bit of balance to this conversation, just like you, Robert, 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.000 just tear down the whole fucking movement. Bro. 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:19.920 Now that you've admitted you never read our emails about 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.640 the subject, I'm excited to have you on For our 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:25.640 new episode, Miles reads a series of actionable threats that 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:26.880 elected officials. 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:32.400 Dear Senator Schumer, whoa, what's this one about? 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:36.720 Wow, Miles, you came with his address. I didn't even 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:37.560 have that in a script. 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:40.480 I don't know that. Somebody's just asked me to look 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:40.880 up a name. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:47.679 We all love Chuck Schumer. I assume or love you anyway. Cold, open, done, 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:57.000 We're back, We're hot now open has begun. 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:02.400 Oh yeah, I say top, I'm concerned about men, like. 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.599 Concerned about men. We're all concerned about men. 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.400 Just to say, because men are concerning. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:12.800 We are. Yeah, they are my sister. Yeah, I do. 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:14.839 Feel Miles, you and I are you? 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:18.400 When were you born? Oh? Wow? You never ask You 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.240 never ask a bro his age, dude, first rule of 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:21.760 man food. 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.719 Well, Miles, your face doesn't show it, you know. 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:29.320 Yeah, the day, the exact same birthday. It's Harry. Okay, 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:33.320 I just turned forty years old. Oh really, I wouldn't guess. 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:37.520 I literally remember that you are his birthday twin every time, 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:37.960 every time. 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:38.360 Everything. 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:41.920 That's because a lot. I really think. 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:44.240 I because I graduated in two thousand and six from 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:47.159 high school, and I think I was in a sweet 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:50.280 spot that like only lasted for a couple of years 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:54.360 where we I think very briefly really just for the 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:57.440 last two years of high school, things kind of were 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:01.040 very healthy with young men compare compared to how they 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:04.000 were before and after. There was a switchover that happened 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.880 between junior high and senior high for me, where when 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:09.000 I was in middle school. In junior high, like I 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.320 would get bullied a bunch for being the kid who 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.440 had like D and D books or whatever, or you know, 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:15.279 I played Warhammer and shit, like I got. 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:19.800 Hating Warhamer Warhammer figure fifteen fifteen. 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:22.960 But yeah, like that didn't go well for me. And 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:25.280 then when I was in my junior year, World of 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.760 Warcraft came out and suddenly all of that stopped. And 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:30.719 it was right at the same time that like people 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.599 started getting a little less shitty and then suddenly a 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:35.840 lot less shitty towards like queer kids in school. There 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:39.040 was this like brief period where all of the trends 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:40.880 for and I think I was I was kind of 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:42.640 right on the cusp of it because I just noticed 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:45.520 that all of the weird kids stopped getting as much shit. 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.479 When I was about sixteen years old. It doesn't seem 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.119 like that lasted very long. 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:52.840 But yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I mean, I remember 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:54.400 in high school we used to we used to give 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.240 swirlies to the D and D kids. 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.200 I got, I've got some swirlies until I until I 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.800 had a growth spur at around age fourteen, and then 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.080 suddenly like I was too big for swearing. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:06.320 But yeah, I got a lot of terrible eye infections 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:10.320 as a result of those rough days day in my 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:12.960 early years. But I think I know you mean because too, 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:15.560 like there was also like for my age, it was 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:18.880 like Eminem was also like the guy who was rapping 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:21.240 and you were just hurling the f for it around 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:22.480 like with abandoned. 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.320 We let him and m get away with a lot 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.360 a lot folks. I threw me a couple of his 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:28.600 songs the other day and I was. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:33.240 Like, Jesus Christy, what wow, this man was out of pocket. 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:35.560 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but that was the thing you 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.200 get like, you know, but if you're like a black 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.880 guy doing that, then they'll be like, we need to 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:44.640 talk about censoring music. But then you're not liked. Eminem, Mom, 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:49.840 lovem mom, Eminem Yo. My mom didn't But my mom 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:51.400 also didn't. I don't. I don't think my mom knew 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.400 who Eminem was probably until eight mile and she's like 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:55.960 the white guy from the rapping movie. Yeah. 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.440 Anyway, so Miles, a few days before I sat down 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:01.080 to write these episodes of videos sarted going viral. And 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.160 this is not the first time I've seen this video 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.840 go viral. It's happened at least once more like a 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:08.720 year or so earlier. But it shows a you may 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:10.800 have seen it. It shows a group of soggy men 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.360 in their late twenties to early thirties standing by the 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:17.400 ocean holding sledgehammers awkwardly like, while a dude who appears 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:20.720 to be about twenty percent trendblone acetate and creatine by 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:23.600 body weight curls abuse at them, And I'm gonna I'm 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.960 going to show you a segment of that clip, and 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:27.680 before I do, you should know that each of the 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:31.400 wet dudes getting yelled at paid twelve thousand dollars for 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:35.200 a three day course. So everyone's standing there getting screamed 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:38.679 at has settled out twelve grand for the experience. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:42.280 You don't fucking deserve to be here, fucking quick, you 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:45.200 piece of shit. I want to be a better man. 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:47.400 I want to be a better husband, I want to 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.360 be a better father. I want to be a better 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:54.560 You fucking whiney piece of shit. None of you deserve 0:08:54.640 --> 0:09:02.679 to be here by move with a purpose belly. 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:08.040 Ah. 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.600 But that's embarrassing. 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:17.040 That's that's just embarrassing. That's just embarrassing. These guys can't 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:19.679 even like lift the sledgehammers and they're just no, please 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:20.439 abuse me. 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:22.679 No, Sophie, I do think you should click the first 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:24.640 link that I gave you and show that video too, 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:26.720 now that now that we've seen the first one, because 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:27.480 these are all fun. 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:29.640 So for the first one that I had kep the 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:30.520 first time, Yeah. 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:33.240 Yeah, yeah, I just I just love watching then pay 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.600 money to get screamed at and know that like every 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.280 dom that I know would charge a lot less and 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:41.360 then you'd be with the pretty lady exactly. It's just 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:42.520 a much better deal. 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:46.040 And someone who smells good and takes seriously right. 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.320 Enjoy this, and like, if you know, if you know 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.480 any of these guys, please tell them to see their dermatologists, 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:52.160 because I see a lot of. 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:08.360 One man. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:13.160 Not incredible way to spend twelve thousand dollars the way that. 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:17.320 They understood when he was like, belly, Yeah. 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:20.480 Yeah, you can buy if you're this kind of guy. 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.480 For one thing, the very nicest firearms that exist in 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:25.520 the country, you can all buy for less than twelve 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:29.400 thousand dollars. Truly, you can buy a pretty good Toyota 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.679 Prius for twelve thousand dollars. You can just have twelve 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.839 thousand dollars and not get screamed at for twelve thousand dollars. 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:37.880 There's so much you can do with twelve thousand dollars. 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.480 Put that in a high yield savings account, right, exactly. 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.560 Put it under your bed, any anything, but spend it 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:45.800 to get screamed at. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:50.120 Yeah, by some guy who's fucking dad failed him. So yeah, 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:54.640 let's just repeat the cycle together, guys. Yeah. 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:58.440 Now, this is a video from the Modern Day Night Project, 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:02.040 which exists take upper middle classmen who have money but 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:05.199 no sense of self worth and put them through an intense, unpleasant, 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.240 but also short and manageable experience so they feel like 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:12.240 real men. Their website even includes a very depressing banner 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.440 ad right at the top that says attention, The Modern 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:20.920 Day Night Project is only for entrepreneurs, executives, and leaders. Wow, 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:24.319 your family deserves the best version of you as a leader, 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:28.720 husband and father. Your family also deserves twelve thousand dollars. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:30.120 Yeah, right, exactly. 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.679 Now, this is all This whole course is based on 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:38.439 a kind of the public understanding of something called Hell 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:41.040 Week that the Navy Seals do, which basically, if you're 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.360 going to become a Navy Seal, there's a part of 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:45.640 the training that's a week where you spend all of 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:49.360 your time doing very miserable, tortuous exercises generally in and 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:53.600 around the ocean and like not really sleeping, and it sucks. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.000 But it's also part of like job training, right, Like 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.480 you are training to do a job that you will 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:02.319 be paid four as opposed to paying twelve thousand dollars. 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.640 And it's also I think there's a lot you could 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:08.040 one can debate is Hell Week really necessary for training 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.520 Navy Seals. What you can't debate is that, like Navy 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:13.920 Seals go on to do a thing as a result 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:17.760 of this experience, as opposed to nothing at all. 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.320 Right, Yeah, you get to fight in America's imperial fighting forces. 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:26.000 This one you just go and just fucking scream at 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:26.800 your partner. 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.840 Yeah, and there's this there's this misunderstanding too, and it's 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:32.760 this is we get the same thing with like boot camp, 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:35.240 right where people focus on like shit they saw in 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:38.559 Full Metal Jacket, you know, the drill sergeant screaming these 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:41.800 creative insults at you, all the like mental and physical abuse, 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.760 and they're like, wow, that's what makes soldiers and ignore 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:46.840 the fact that, like both for Navy Seals and for 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:50.080 regular soldiers, the getting yelled at is a small part 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.000 of like months and admit, in the case of the 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.439 Navy Seals, like literally years of like learning technical stuff 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.480 like how to use explosives, how to use firearms in 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:00.520 different ways, how to do all of the weird boat 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:01.760 shit that you have to do as. 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.559 A name you me, and the like. 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:06.880 There's a bunch of actual technical training that is a 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:10.480 much bigger part of the whole experience than getting screened at. 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:13.800 And then when you finish getting trained, you get to 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.360 go do that job instead of going back to selling 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:20.680 used cars and encino. Now, I don't think there's a 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:24.360 big point in me critiquing these places on like merit though, 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.800 because the Modern Day Night Project and so many other 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:30.240 boot camp style programs for adult men are part of 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:33.520 a network of what you can call manfluencer programs, all 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.560 of which capitalize on the feelings of inadequacy and weakness, 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.440 but seem to be endemic among mostly white dudes who 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.360 have more money than self confidence. When you look at 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:45.280 the marketing materials around all of the products in this category, 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:48.040 you see a couple of things over and over again. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.640 Modern society has made it nearly impossible to be masculine, 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:54.160 and this is literally killing men. That's how this is 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:57.479 all framed. And here's a clip from their big advertisement 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.960 video on their website that honestly looks like it was 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:02.199 coded in two thousand and eight. It looks like the 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:02.960 Dredge Report. 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:08.080 It's like administering chemotherapy to a cancerous area of the body, 0:14:09.040 --> 0:14:12.360 and it's going to unearth and expose who you are. 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:15.720 The physical challenging that you go through is purpose driven. 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:19.560 Every single evolution is purpose driven. Every single evolution creates 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:23.720 opportunity for four things to lead, to show emotional discipline, 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:25.160 to communicate, and. 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:25.880 To problem solve. 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:29.160 So the project is here for a purpose to help 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:32.560 you become the man you know in your deepest heart 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:34.720 that you're meant to be. And all we're going to do, 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.479 is instructors over the next seventy five hours, is administer 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:40.840 the project no different than a doctor would administer chemotherapy 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:42.080 to a cancerous body part. 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:44.160 This is so fucking stupid, dude. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:46.560 Yeah the music though. 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:48.000 I casu. 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:52.320 Yeah, my parents both died due to complications from chemo. 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:55.560 So for one thing, Like, I don't know, bro, Chemo's 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:58.400 not really like, are these guys in such a Are 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.600 these guys admitting that by doing this, they're in such 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:02.880 a desperate strait that they will literally die if a 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.280 man doesn't scream at them on a beach. Because I 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.480 don't think that's their issue. I think their issue is 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.840 they didn't do a job that led to them shooting people. 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:14.280 And because our media entirely almost because like a lot 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.520 of media, particularly the media guys like this consume, entirely 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.760 focuses on violets as like a way to prove your masculinity, 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:22.600 they have no way to feel like they're men. 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.560 Right. Violence is a love language. Actually is what we 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.720 want to give the men who are in dire need 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:28.280 of chemo? 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:33.520 Yeah, or as I say, fo, yeah, amazing stuff. You 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:35.560 could you would do a much better job by just 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.920 giving them chemo. Right, that's a real near death experience. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.400 Seriously, and even like the irony too of like chemo 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:45.120 like decades ago, where they're like, this might this radiation 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:48.520 might come boomerang back around in a few decades and 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:53.360 cause like serious illness again, other ganzer, this could be Also, yeah, 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.360 it's like, yeah, it might help now, or maybe you're 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:58.200 going to raise somebody who's going to turn to a 0:15:58.200 --> 0:15:59.040 mass murder. I don't know what. 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.840 Yeah, non zero number of these guys took their sons 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:03.640 out to the beach the next week and made them 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:07.480 hold a sledgehammer while they screamed down right right, here's 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:09.120 another segment from that video. 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:16.600 The blood, so people spilled together who go through adversity together, 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:20.480 is thicker, creates a bigger bond, a deeper bond than 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:22.760 the water of the womb, meaning people who have shared 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.960 the same womb. The blood of the covenant is thicker 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:26.920 than the water of the womb. 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.920 Cool. Now, what what the fuck? 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:31.960 Man? What a cool? 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:32.480 Yeah? 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:37.080 This is a covenant? Right? Do any of these men 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:41.200 even understand the gestational process either? They're like, there's it's 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:44.040 water womb? Was that? What was that part? Again? 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:48.280 This is we're calling this a covenant because everyone paid 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:50.440 twelve grand to get yelled at on the beach together. 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:51.520 That's a fucking covenant. 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:54.800 Honestly, you better god for twelve grand. They better be 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:56.720 calling it a fucking covenant. Yeah, if it's just like 0:16:56.760 --> 0:16:59.560 a bunch of cool guys and hanging out getting pissed 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:02.000 on and then and then it ain't. It doesn't sound 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:03.760 as good. It's funny. 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.840 I mean, obviously what they're playing with here is something 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:10.000 very real, which is that, like, when you experience actual 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:12.520 trauma and adversity with a group of people, it can 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:15.439 in fact bond you to them, right, the idea of 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.920 having and there's it's very attractive to a lot of 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:20.320 them in this idea that like I can go through 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.760 this very manageable version of the experience. That it is 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.879 not so like actually joining the military and fighting is 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:29.760 not a manageable experience, which is why so many people 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:32.200 who do it wind up killing themselves later, right. 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.840 Sure, or coming back and being like, do not do that. 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:36.040 Don't do that? 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:38.280 Yeah, don't not man it, Like whatever you want to 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:38.960 call it, it's not. 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.880 War, and it's not fucking worth it. 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:46.640 It is a chaotic and dangerous thing to do, right, 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:49.640 as opposed to this, which is not really all that dangerous. 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:51.520 And then the danger of a guy who is taking 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:54.320 like black market fucking gear having his heart explode as 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:56.000 he does fucking sledgehammer push. 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:56.480 Ups or whatever. 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:59.760 Right, but this idea that like, you can do this 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:02.440 very manageable thing that really just costs money and takes 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:05.560 three days. And then there's this large, you hope, influential 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:08.400 group of men that you share an intense bond with, right, 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.800 that is attractive to a kind of guy, a fairly 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.080 normal kind of guy today, because it's very normal for 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:17.280 men today to be overwhelmingly lonely. A study by the 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:19.880 Survey Center on American Life in twenty twenty one found 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.879 that one in five single American men report having no 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:26.520 close friends. And that's a catastrophe that really is like 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:30.680 an existential threat because when you have young men who 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:33.240 are miserable, it's very easy to convince those young men 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:35.159 to do terrible things. This has been a problem for 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:36.160 all of human history. 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:39.119 See the cycle happen a lot of time. Yeah, like 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:42.080 you got bored young men or people who have taken 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:44.240 up arms previously and have nothing to do, and like Hey, 0:18:44.240 --> 0:18:46.120 what do you guys, What are you guys up to? Yeah? 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:49.000 Nothing, miserable and alone paying twelve grand to get screamed 0:18:49.000 --> 0:18:49.639 at on the beach? 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:56.280 A yeah, twelve four So what my math? Three four 0:18:56.359 --> 0:18:58.640 grand a day four granted to day something like yell 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:00.879 dad on the beach and you I think you're entering 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:04.920 some fucking covenant, yeah, with other people who have the 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:08.120 same terrible problem solving skills you do, or you thought 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:10.400 this was the way out of whatever your problems were, 0:19:10.600 --> 0:19:12.879 and then you think you're gonna be able to open 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:14.800 up to the guy who said you're a piece of 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:17.320