Speaker 1: Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of
Speaker 1: My Heart Radio and The Black Effect. Hello, Hello, welcome
Speaker 1: to another episode of Checking In. It's your girl, it's
Speaker 1: your auntie, it's your sister, it is your cousin, it
Speaker 1: is your friend, it's your home girl, it's it's whatever
Speaker 1: you call me that it's positive. It's Michelle Williams, and
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you are checking in with me today. Um.
Speaker 1: I've done two Q and A episodes and they were
Speaker 1: a hit. So this is part three because tons of
Speaker 1: questions have come in. I got about nine responses to
Speaker 1: my text number, which is again y'all must text me
Speaker 1: at four zero four seven three seven zero eight one two.
Speaker 1: And UM, I do answer back as much as I
Speaker 1: possibly can. You guys already know that as it relates
Speaker 1: to social media my Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook, I engage
Speaker 1: as much as I can. Some of y'all get upset
Speaker 1: when I don't respond, which upsets me because some of
Speaker 1: y'all be doing the most. So sometimes I can't respond
Speaker 1: to every message, but just know that I look at
Speaker 1: as many as I can and respond to as many
Speaker 1: as I can. UM. I respond to all types, whether
Speaker 1: it's somebody saying my book has helped them, or you know,
Speaker 1: just or if I feel like somebody is probably in
Speaker 1: need of some love, they're going through something. I try
Speaker 1: to make sure that i'm i'm I'm there for people,
Speaker 1: that I'm checking in um, and that I am putting
Speaker 1: my money where my mouth is as it relates to
Speaker 1: checking in with myself, checking in with others, and checking
Speaker 1: in with God. And I thank you guys for deciding
Speaker 1: to check in with me. There's a part in my
Speaker 1: book that says, if you're going to be checking in
Speaker 1: with others, you have to know who those others are
Speaker 1: and what they stand for. And I hope that you
Speaker 1: always know what I stand for. I stand for hope,
Speaker 1: I stand for your will being. I stand for love.
Speaker 1: I I stand for mental health. I stand for the
Speaker 1: health of your mental your physical um, your spiritual um.
Speaker 1: That's that's what I stand for. So I want to
Speaker 1: go ahead and just answer some questions again, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for your support of checking in almost five
Speaker 1: hundred thousand downloads. I could not do it without y'all.
Speaker 1: I I don't take you guys for granted. Twenty two
Speaker 1: years in this game of entertainment, inspiration, music, acting. Um,
Speaker 1: you guys have been through it with me, and I
Speaker 1: appreciate your love and your kindness. So there were some
Speaker 1: q and as that was sent to my number again. Actually,
Speaker 1: I don't want to miss this question, so once again
Speaker 1: you have to text me at four zero four seven
Speaker 1: three seven zero eight one two and I will answer
Speaker 1: your questions. So at a very interesting question, um, and
Speaker 1: they were asking me what do I do to elevate
Speaker 1: my mood? I think that is a really good question.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I'm going through nine hundred of these questions. Oh,
Speaker 1: or somebody saying what exactly do you look for in
Speaker 1: a man? Oh gosh, what's the other question? Um? Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, are you in Chad gonna get back together?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Lord Jesus, these are amazing questions. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So let me get to this question. Michelle, what do
Speaker 1: you do to elevate your mood when you feel depressed
Speaker 1: for no reason? How do you regain peace and inner bliss?
Speaker 1: That was from Joshua Vance. Michelle, what do you do
Speaker 1: to elevate your mood when you feel depressed for no reason?
Speaker 1: To elevate your mood? Because some it just because, like
Speaker 1: I said, staying in a state of sadness of the
Speaker 1: holiday blues. There's some people get depressed um only in
Speaker 1: the fall and winter. UM. And I think once you
Speaker 1: become emotionally aware, to me, it's quicker for me to
Speaker 1: elevate my mood. Um, whether it's me just listening to music.
Speaker 1: Sometimes fresh air, because lots of times you'll find yourself
Speaker 1: wanting to just stay at home in your bed. Your
Speaker 1: air conditioners just circulated, circulate, circulating, but you don't get
Speaker 1: outside and get fresh air. There's sometimes I've just gotten
Speaker 1: fresh air and I'm like, what have I been missing? Oxygen?
Speaker 1: So the role that oxygen plays in your mood, and
Speaker 1: this is gonna be crazy y By the way, I
Speaker 1: find that the hyper barrack chamber, it's pressurized, it helps
Speaker 1: with mood. So go to a place where you can
Speaker 1: get hyper barrack therapy or cryotherapy. Where you are cryotherapy,
Speaker 1: let me look it up. It is where it is
Speaker 1: free zing for reason. Let me see what the temperature is.
Speaker 1: Creo therapy. I'm looking it up as we speak. It's
Speaker 1: known as cold therapy. It's used to treat um so
Speaker 1: many things. It's used. It could be used to treat
Speaker 1: um cancers, prostates, cervical and liver cancer. But it's people
Speaker 1: use it to um lose weight. It is really cold.
Speaker 1: It involves dry, hyper cooled air flowing over the skin surface,
Speaker 1: so the process never frees the skin. Tissues, muscles are
Speaker 1: in oregans. The result is only a feeling of being cold. Okay,
Speaker 1: nobody likes to be cold. But I'm telling you it
Speaker 1: helps with depression, it helps with anxiety. UM, let's see
Speaker 1: cryotherapy and depression. My cousin used to take me to
Speaker 1: get cryotherapy sessions and so UM what happens is cryotherapy
Speaker 1: does work for depression. It helps to treat mood disorders. UM.
Speaker 1: This includes the release of adrenaline, norara agen aline and endorphins.
Speaker 1: This can have a positive effect on those experiencing depression
Speaker 1: and anxiety. It's a great way when I tell you,
Speaker 1: you ain't gonna be thinking about depression or more when
Speaker 1: you go into that really really cold chamber. And as
Speaker 1: it relates to a hyperbaric chamber, I've taken naps in
Speaker 1: a hyperbaric chamber. I have finished product projects UM in
Speaker 1: a hyperbaric chamber. I have had my phone or but
Speaker 1: the most majority of the time I'm resting. UM. Hyperbarick chamber,
Speaker 1: Google hyperbarick chamber for depression. Those things help. Um. Yes,
Speaker 1: it is a safe and effective treatment for traumatic brain injury,
Speaker 1: p PTSD and depression. Okay, so you wanted to know
Speaker 1: some of the things that I do. That's what I do.
Speaker 1: I also do things like I'm not supposed to have dairy,
Speaker 1: but I treat myself to ice cream, you know, or
Speaker 1: a popsicle. Um, something that took me had a great
Speaker 1: memory in childhood, you know what I mean? Or like
Speaker 1: I said, music, That's what I do. So I know
Speaker 1: that I gave you guys some technical information. But hyperbaric
Speaker 1: chamber try it. And cryo therapy it is spelled cee
Speaker 1: r y old therapy. Okay, it's it's it's it's incredible.
Speaker 1: Daniel Williams has asked me, will you write another checking
Speaker 1: in book to follow up with your readers. Absolutely. January twenty,
Speaker 1: my journal called The Daily check In will be available
Speaker 1: to you. It is a journal that supplements checking in. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you want to get it. It's called The Day
Speaker 1: We Check In. I've also done the audio version UM
Speaker 1: of the journal. UM it's very very very very interesting.
Speaker 1: So yes, I'm actually, as you guys see, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: type that into him because I believe you can get
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Speaker 1: So www dot checking in book dot com to pre
Speaker 1: order the Daily check In, which comes out January tw
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two. Thanks Daniel, great question. I'm excited about
Speaker 1: the journal. I'm excited about the journal. It's a sixty
Speaker 1: day journal. Um, I have something cool that I'm going
Speaker 1: to be doing for those sixty days. All right, brilliant, Okay,
Speaker 1: Curtis Anderson. How do you build up your self esteem?
Speaker 1: How do you build up your self esteem? That it's
Speaker 1: in the question. You have to have the how. It
Speaker 1: starts with you. It starts with what you say to yourself.
Speaker 1: Not only would you say to yourself, what you say
Speaker 1: about yourself. I had a habit of saying something funny,
Speaker 1: even though it's all jokes. I'd be in conversation and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, girl, because you know, my dumb self
Speaker 1: said and it took a few people to be like,
Speaker 1: You're not dumb. But I would just be saying and joking,
Speaker 1: especially if I did something that could be considered dumb, goofy, clumsy.
Speaker 1: But it's what you say about yourself, so re remember um,
Speaker 1: words have energy. UM. So it starts with what you
Speaker 1: say to yourself and what you say about yourself. Okay,
Speaker 1: that is the foundation of building your self esteem. The
Speaker 1: other portion is not care ring what someone thinks of you.
Speaker 1: I know it's hard, but to not care now. Just
Speaker 1: you know, you want approval of your parents, your partner,
Speaker 1: your loved when, your best friend. UM. But sometimes people
Speaker 1: don't understand your journey and where you're going in your life.
Speaker 1: And sometimes their lack of understanding UM can be kind
Speaker 1: of tough, and so it can take a toll on
Speaker 1: your self esteem because you were like, well, you don't
Speaker 1: like me as a person, you don't support me as
Speaker 1: a person. It's not that they don't it's not that
Speaker 1: they don't like your support you. Some of it is
Speaker 1: like some of it is that, but it's sometimes they
Speaker 1: just don't understand you. They just don't understand your purpose
Speaker 1: or calling do it any way, Curtis, that was a
Speaker 1: beautiful question. Um. Sherolyn Wag says, have you ever dealt
Speaker 1: with people constantly trying to define you by your mistakes?
Speaker 1: I cannot say I personally have dealt with that because
Speaker 1: I own my mistakes, I own the unwise decisions. I've
Speaker 1: owned the state of my mental health. And once you
Speaker 1: own it, then no one can define you by your
Speaker 1: mistakes because they can see. All they can say is, man,
Speaker 1: she owned it, and she built from it, all right,
Speaker 1: So I would just say, UM, built from your pain,
Speaker 1: built from your mistakes, and then they'll begin to define
Speaker 1: you as a builder, as someone who moved on, as
Speaker 1: someone who learned from their mistakes, all right. I know
Speaker 1: it's tough, Sherlyn. I know it's tough, but you guys,
Speaker 1: some of my answers are gonna be the tough ones,
Speaker 1: the tough love that people UM gave me, tough love.
Speaker 1: It's still loved. But sometimes the answers are gonna be
Speaker 1: stuff that we do not want to hear. As then
Speaker 1: in another podcast, well how do you build strength? You
Speaker 1: can only build strength by putting the work in to
Speaker 1: get stronger. I cannot say I want biceps and I
Speaker 1: don't do push ups and I don't go to the gym.
Speaker 1: I cannot say I want a six pack, but I
Speaker 1: don't do crunches and planks. That's how you build muscles,
Speaker 1: build straight. I remember I couldn't do like the real
Speaker 1: push ups. I went from doing one to five, from
Speaker 1: five to ten, from ten to twelve, twelve to fifteen
Speaker 1: twenty three. You know. So it just the more you
Speaker 1: do something, the stronger you become. So where are you
Speaker 1: putting your energy to be strong? In? Are you putting
Speaker 1: your energy and in to get stronger? In pettiness? And
Speaker 1: the more you surround yourself with people you take on
Speaker 1: their manner sums you should be inspiring them, not the
Speaker 1: other way around. Child y'all, I'm preaching, Brittany Turner, this
Speaker 1: is a um serious question. How do you get past
Speaker 1: feelings of not wanting to be alive? My good friend
Speaker 1: rich Tobert has a song that says, I'm alive because
Speaker 1: there's more. There's got to be more to life than this.
Speaker 1: And when I tell you there is, Britney, I've been there.
Speaker 1: I've been hopeless. I've been to the point where I
Speaker 1: thought about suicide. I planned my funeral. I actually had
Speaker 1: it written in my phone. I typed it all out
Speaker 1: in my phone. Now I'm gonna be honest with you.
Speaker 1: There are certain things that I still want. I still
Speaker 1: want orchids. I want all white orchids. That's gonna be
Speaker 1: eighty years from now. Okay, I plan on living a long, long,
Speaker 1: long time, and if something does happen to me, it
Speaker 1: would be not at my hands. I right, but I
Speaker 1: still want white orchids. How do you get past the
Speaker 1: feelings of not wanting to be alive? The love of
Speaker 1: God and getting help? How do you get past the
Speaker 1: feelings of not wanting to be alive? Getting help? Getting help?
Speaker 1: And if there's someone that is struggling with thoughts of suicide,
Speaker 1: I urge you to call one hundred to seven three
Speaker 1: eight to five five, Suicide Prevention Lifeline dot Org to
Speaker 1: seven three eight to five five. Um, you're gonna make it, Brittany.
Speaker 1: You're gonna make it. Everyone that's listening, you are going
Speaker 1: to make it. I had a friend, UM, when I
Speaker 1: talked about my thoughts of suicide. He said something to me.
Speaker 1: He said, Michelle, the world would not be the same
Speaker 1: without you. He said, my world would not be the
Speaker 1: same without you all, and that broke me. So I
Speaker 1: want you, guys to know the world would not be
Speaker 1: the same without you. Without you, build from your pain,
Speaker 1: persevere through your pain, and I guarantee you it's going
Speaker 1: to help somebody. It's like a domino effect. One person
Speaker 1: can help one person. One person and help one person.
Speaker 1: One person can help one person. Persevere. You are going
Speaker 1: to make it. Mm hmm. I know somehow, I know
Speaker 1: some way. You're gonna make it. No matter what the test,
Speaker 1: whenever comes your way, you're gonna make it. You're gonna
Speaker 1: make it. You're gonna make it. Alicia Glenn says, thanks
Speaker 1: to you, I'm putting myself first and not letting people
Speaker 1: take advantage of me. How do I handle people who
Speaker 1: don't take no for an answer and feel like they
Speaker 1: can still persuade me to do what they want? How
Speaker 1: do I handle people who don't take no for an answer?
Speaker 1: You don't have to deal with them, you don't. How
Speaker 1: do you handle people You don't handle them, You just
Speaker 1: don't deal with them. They will eventually adjust to your boundaries.
Speaker 1: A safe person honors your boundaries. There's a book by
Speaker 1: Dr Henry Cloud and dot to John Townsend called Safe People,
Speaker 1: I recommended all the time, and it also checks you
Speaker 1: to see if you're a safe person as well. So
Speaker 1: let's make sure that we are abiding by each other's boundaries. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm putting myself first, and you're not letting people take
Speaker 1: advantage of me. One of the craziest things that I
Speaker 1: had to do was to say no, say no to
Speaker 1: people close to me. And when I tell you, it's
Speaker 1: amazing because the people you say no to, they will
Speaker 1: eventually find a way. I was just the easy call
Speaker 1: because I'm I normally always answer, I always come through.
Speaker 1: And then I started kind of seeing a pattern and
Speaker 1: I was like, no, I'm saying no, They'll be all right.
Speaker 1: So how do you handle people people who don't take
Speaker 1: no for an answer. It's easy. You don't handle them.
Speaker 1: You don't call me kallis, call me rude. I'm not.
Speaker 1: But they will adjust to your temperature. They will adjust
Speaker 1: to your boundaries. They will then appreciate you for having boundaries,
Speaker 1: and before you know what, you would have taught them
Speaker 1: to also have boundaries in their life as well. All right,
Speaker 1: at Licia, I pray that works for you. I pray
Speaker 1: that works for you. Brianna Gatto Hey, um, someone says,
Speaker 1: could you give advice to someone juggling in both music
Speaker 1: ministry locally in church and being able to seek a
Speaker 1: music career outside as well. She says, I love you
Speaker 1: by the way, Brian, love you back. You are awesome, awesome, awesome,
Speaker 1: awesome who juggling both music ministry locally in church and
Speaker 1: being able to also seek a music career outside as well.
Speaker 1: So when I got the call to meet with Beyond St.
Speaker 1: Kelly for Destiny's Child, I was in my local church.
Speaker 1: I served well. And I think if you serve well
Speaker 1: and leave with honor, serve well, leave with honor, because
Speaker 1: it's a possibility that your gift will take you outside
Speaker 1: of your church, the four walls of the church. It
Speaker 1: might take you into the community, locally, district, region, state, nationwide, worldwide.
Speaker 1: But serve well. I got my start in the church.
Speaker 1: I got my start in the church. I sang in schools,
Speaker 1: I sang in communities, I sang in nursing homes. I'm
Speaker 1: seeing a generation today that does not want to do that.
Speaker 1: See I didn't we didn't have social media, so I
Speaker 1: couldn't compare my progress to someone else where. I would
Speaker 1: feel we're back in the day. If you have social media,
Speaker 1: you would be ashamed to post that you're saying Christmas
Speaker 1: carols in a nursing home. That's where we gotta start.
Speaker 1: That's exactly where we gotta sorry, singing in churches that
Speaker 1: had horrible sound systems. So serve well where you are
Speaker 1: and leave with honor. Let them know your desires. Don't
Speaker 1: necessarily ask for permission, leave with honor, and that always
Speaker 1: keeps the door open for when you wanna ever come back.
Speaker 1: All right, okay, okay? Which goes? Someone is asking how
Speaker 1: do you maintain a balanced relationship with God while being
Speaker 1: a legendary global musician. It was not an option. Miss
Speaker 1: Tina made sure that we were studying our Bibles. We
Speaker 1: were reading power of a praying woman on the road.
Speaker 1: And that's what my mother appreciate it. She said, I
Speaker 1: know you're gonna be okay because Miss Tina and gonna
Speaker 1: let you all forget God. It was. It just wasn't
Speaker 1: an option, and our personal relationships with God began to
Speaker 1: be formed out of that. I think my relationship with
Speaker 1: God got strengthened outside of church. You know, I had
Speaker 1: to know God for myself. I had to know God
Speaker 1: for myself. Thank you Dr Roe Schmidt for that question.
Speaker 1: And you've asked what are your favorite things to do
Speaker 1: when you're relaxing at home? Oh, my gosh, Um, I
Speaker 1: have I've had to catch up on Netflix. I sleep, Um,
Speaker 1: I'm jet lagged as we speak, Guys, I definitely have
Speaker 1: to catch up on my rest. Um Judge Judy has
Speaker 1: been my ultimate favorite. Y'all already know that. UM catching
Speaker 1: up on series on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon, there are so
Speaker 1: many things UM podcasts on the Black Effect Podcast Network.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Charlotte may Ena and Dolly of the
Speaker 1: Black Effect Podcast Network. I'm grateful to the producers Angela, Samantha, Holly,
Speaker 1: Um Nicole, I'm Dwayne. Thank you guys so much, UM
Speaker 1: for all that you do for my podcast. Relaxing at Home.
Speaker 1: I love essential oils, I love just lighting my candles.
Speaker 1: I love just I'm just relaxing. You know when you
Speaker 1: pour out so much energy that that's not what I
Speaker 1: want to do at home. I just want to relax
Speaker 1: and chill. Okay, good day. What is your favorite holiday food? Oh,
Speaker 1: my gosh, my favorite holiday food were my grandmother's cream
Speaker 1: cheese brownies. Then when I came to Atlanta, I discovered
Speaker 1: Kelly Rowland has a cousin named Nikki Roland, who does
Speaker 1: the amazing cream cheese brownies. They're brilliant. So that is
Speaker 1: my favorite holiday food. They are brilliant? Who someone says?
Speaker 1: Kendrew asks, how do you get over beating yourself up
Speaker 1: for overreacting to something you had every right to be
Speaker 1: upset about, but you push the person away due to
Speaker 1: not appearing emotionally stable? Wow? How do you get over
Speaker 1: beating yourself by learning from it? Um? Kendrew Eyes suggest
Speaker 1: you get into some counseling and before it will help
Speaker 1: you see areas where you're triggered, and it holds you
Speaker 1: accountable of responses, and then that helps you become emotionally aware. Okay,
Speaker 1: like you said, you had every right to be upset.
Speaker 1: Right when somebody betrays you, lies to you, is deceptive,
Speaker 1: you know you have every right to be upset. Those
Speaker 1: are the main things in relationship. When you say you
Speaker 1: push the person away due to not being appearing you
Speaker 1: know emotionally stable. They light stole something, they just weren't
Speaker 1: completely honest. Or you had expectations you had you had
Speaker 1: unspoken expectations. They didn't read your mind. You got upset.
Speaker 1: You never knew it could be many many things. Apologize
Speaker 1: to the person a sincere apology and let them know
Speaker 1: you are going to work on it. You are going
Speaker 1: to work on it. Okay, a matter of fact, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let you know. Um, I'm gonna let everybody know
Speaker 1: that I've answered their questions. Um. Yeah, apologize to that
Speaker 1: person now. If they don't respond right away to your apology,
Speaker 1: don't get upset. Give that person time because now you're
Speaker 1: gonna They're gonna want to see change behavior beyond the apology.
Speaker 1: We ain't looking for apologies, We're looking for change behavior.
Speaker 1: Sorry is nice, but change behavior needs to accompany the apology.
Speaker 1: If not, it was just an empty apology. If not,
Speaker 1: you were just blowing smoke, blowing air. Change behavior, Kendrew,
Speaker 1: go to that person with humility, and when you say sorry,
Speaker 1: don't say but I had every right to be upset.
Speaker 1: Just say I am so sorry. I realized I've lost
Speaker 1: you as a friend due to my response, and I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: How can I make this right? It takes humility and
Speaker 1: change behavior. If you so desire this person to be
Speaker 1: in your life anymore, even if you don't want them
Speaker 1: in your life anymore, and they decide to walk away
Speaker 1: from the relationship, which is their right to do, um,
Speaker 1: you always want them to be like, but I appreciate
Speaker 1: them apologizing to me and wanting to make it right.
Speaker 1: That's all you can do, my mom. There's all you
Speaker 1: can do. It's all you can do, all right, Okay,
Speaker 1: oh some of my favorites. Yes, Michelle, have you considered
Speaker 1: tapping into politics at all to advocate for mental health
Speaker 1: policies and adequate funding for resources? Going into politics? I
Speaker 1: can't say that I have, but if I was ever
Speaker 1: asked to campaign or go to Congress, um, I would go. UM.
Speaker 1: I don't know, however, if I want to politically run
Speaker 1: for any type of office, but you guys know that
Speaker 1: I am twenty four seven or one said advocate for
Speaker 1: mental health and proper resources. Okay, Michelle, how did you
Speaker 1: overcome depression and what advice do you have for those
Speaker 1: who are battling it, especially during the holidays? Antoinette, that
Speaker 1: is your question. Um. First of all, thank you for
Speaker 1: the question. UM. And if it's you or someone that
Speaker 1: you love that is going through depression during the holidays,
Speaker 1: it is common. I advise you to listen to my
Speaker 1: podcast with the episode with Dr Aquila bow tank Um.
Speaker 1: We talked about it in great detail, setting boundaries and
Speaker 1: um sometimes being around community during the holiday helps. But
Speaker 1: if you find that it's draining your energy, excuse yourself
Speaker 1: and go home or breast. Um, but try to be
Speaker 1: around good energy, good food, watch some Christmas movies. But
Speaker 1: I also suggest you getting to the root of depression,
Speaker 1: which could be found in therapy. Make sure your therapist
Speaker 1: is doing a genieogram, which studies the behavior, years and
Speaker 1: responses of your parents and their parents. Okay, um, so
Speaker 1: it can be done. It can be done. By doing
Speaker 1: the work. You'll find yourself getting stronger and stronger and
Speaker 1: stronger because of the work that I've been doing. I
Speaker 1: have no desire to put myself in crowds or with
Speaker 1: people that are going to jeopardize by peace. Mm hmm. No,
Speaker 1: I'd rather sit at home and eat a crawfish boil,
Speaker 1: which I'm about to do tonight. I can't wait. You
Speaker 1: hear me so um Antoinette, I'm sending love to you.
Speaker 1: Thank you for your question. I'm sending love your way. Um.
Speaker 1: And don't be hard on yourself as it relates to
Speaker 1: the holidays. Don't be hard on yourself. Okay. Natasha Johnson,
Speaker 1: what is your favorite color and are you in a
Speaker 1: relationship with anyone. I am in a relationship with myself,
Speaker 1: God and you eyes. My favorite color, as you can see,
Speaker 1: is pink. Lately. Um, they say, if your favorite color
Speaker 1: is pink, it is because you are ready to nest.
Speaker 1: I just gotta find someone to nest with. I got
Speaker 1: to find somebody that shoot the club up. I know
Speaker 1: y'all were not expecting Michelle Williams to say that. Um,
Speaker 1: but we'll see um as far as um relationships. Um
Speaker 1: um yeah, mm hmmm mm hmmm. Dan Lewis says when
Speaker 1: and how did you figure out your purpose in life
Speaker 1: through pain? When I discovered that I was helping people
Speaker 1: through my pain, I was like, God, I don't want
Speaker 1: to go through this again. But when people can see
Speaker 1: you overcome and it and you're building from it, and
Speaker 1: that you didn't let it, Um, you didn't succumb to it,
Speaker 1: and they can see that you've moved on and you're
Speaker 1: doing well. Um, I knew that I had to keep going.
Speaker 1: I had to keep going. Rickisha Reeves, how do you
Speaker 1: cope with grief and depression during the holidays creating new memories?
Speaker 1: How do you cope with grief? My father? Um, this
Speaker 1: would be our second Christmas about. He passed away December
Speaker 1: twentie UM twenty, so that was five days before Christmas,
Speaker 1: so it was officially like our first Christmas without our dad,
Speaker 1: and it was just kind of like what in the
Speaker 1: world do we do? Um? You know? And so Rikisha,
Speaker 1: just like I told someone else, setting boundaries, not mean
Speaker 1: and harsh boundaries, but just know when it's time for
Speaker 1: you to get up from the table and take a walk.
Speaker 1: Know when it's time for you to get up from
Speaker 1: the table and meditate. No, when it's time for you
Speaker 1: get up from the table, put your earbuds in and
Speaker 1: listen to a song right quick. Um, That's how you
Speaker 1: can cope and get through the holidays. Don't put too
Speaker 1: much pressure on yourself. Don't overthink anything during the holidays.
Speaker 1: Do not overthink anything during the holidays. Don't go down
Speaker 1: the rabbit hole during the holidays. That's not the time
Speaker 1: to process anything. Get through the holidays and then begin
Speaker 1: to process with UM a therapist. Okay um. There is
Speaker 1: a website UM d r K Beauty where they are
Speaker 1: go to. This is d r K Beauty dot com
Speaker 1: and they are providing free therapy UM to women of color.
Speaker 1: Okay um, I want you guys to to get into that.
Speaker 1: All right, you all have been awesome. I pray you've
Speaker 1: had an amazing holiday. Um, you get through this. You're
Speaker 1: getting through your pain, or some of y'all don't have pain.
Speaker 1: That's a blessing and a testimony in itself. You are thriving.
Speaker 1: You've got joy. You've got joy, You've got joy. One question,
Speaker 1: how do you find strength to build momentum when everything
Speaker 1: around you was falling apart? Is that falling apart or
Speaker 1: falling together? You have to look at it from that perspective.
Speaker 1: Falling apart only for pieces to fall together. You gather
Speaker 1: up the pieces that you need, gather up the pieces,
Speaker 1: and then ask God for the new pieces to build
Speaker 1: all right, Um. And sometimes the entire foundation is shaken
Speaker 1: and cracked so that it can be fixed, so that
Speaker 1: things can come back together. Tia Moore, thank you so much,
Speaker 1: UM for that question. Pain is not all ways. It's
Speaker 1: not always gonna be like this. Um. The song says,
Speaker 1: ill will not always be like this. Um. It does
Speaker 1: not last. It lasts if you wanted to last. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be hard on y'all as far as your
Speaker 1: thoughts and what you say concerning your circumstances. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be hard. I'm going to be hard because I had
Speaker 1: to get up one day and be like, Okay, you're tripping.
Speaker 1: You're tripping. You've got to get up. You've got to
Speaker 1: get through this. I know that. I love you, And
Speaker 1: um Holiday, thank you guys so much for your support,
Speaker 1: your love. We got through season one of Checking In
Speaker 1: with Michelle Williams. I I just I'm in awe UM
Speaker 1: of the love and the support. I cannot wait for
Speaker 1: season two. And UM, you guys are amazing. They say,
Speaker 1: I'm close to five thousand downloads of my podcast. I
Speaker 1: am really thankful. Thank you for the support of my
Speaker 1: book Checking In. UM we do have the journal that's
Speaker 1: coming out called The Daily check In UM January twenty
Speaker 1: five and UM, that's that again. You can get through this.
Speaker 1: You can get through anything. And my book says God
Speaker 1: has shown me time and time again that my failure
Speaker 1: to check in with myself always leads to some sort
Speaker 1: of emotional outburst that damages for end relationships. You gotta
Speaker 1: check in. You've got to check in with your off,
Speaker 1: you got to check in with others, and you've got
Speaker 1: to check in with God. Thank you for trusting me
Speaker 1: and considering me a safe place for you to check
Speaker 1: in with. Until next time, we'll see you again. Checking
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