1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: What are the cases I want to hear from you. 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 2: Hello Cheekies. 13 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 3: I'm a huge fan of yours and I'm just going 14 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 3: to say thank you for this opportunity to ask you questions. 15 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 3: I love this segment of your podcast, and I just 16 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,320 Speaker 3: wanted to know. I've heard you say in the past 17 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 3: that we have to live with intention, and I've also 18 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,760 Speaker 3: heard Jackie say it too, and I was just wondering 19 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 3: what that meant to you, and how do you practice 20 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 3: that on the daily. 21 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: Thank you, Alejandra, I love this question. Thank you so much. 22 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: I always use it use that word. I use the 23 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 1: word intention being intentional, And I also use living with intent, 24 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:32,480 Speaker 1: which means to me, always do things with good intention 25 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: for instance, Okay, it could it could mean Like for me, 26 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: I use it every single day, like I wake up 27 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 1: and I have intention, the intention of having a great day, 28 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: of getting things done, of working out. It's not just okay, 29 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 1: I'm just going to see what happens, you know what 30 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: I mean. You can have bad intention or you can 31 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: have good intention. So to me, it's important that every 32 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: day I'm intentional intentional to send my siblings a message 33 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: because I love them randomly, or a friend just to 34 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: check up on her. It's just being intentional, is all 35 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: it really is. But it's very powerful, and it's something 36 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: that I feel people don't do enough or aren't intentional about. 37 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I always say this, You 38 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 1: can live your life and you can wish people well 39 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: or you can wish them bad. So why not be 40 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 1: intentional in sending them good wishes, good things, good vibes, 41 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: good energy. You feel me? So, thank you so much 42 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: for asking me that question, because I do say it 43 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: a lot, and I feel like I repeat myself a 44 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: lot on the podcast, But those are things when I 45 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: repeat myself. It's because I'm very passionate about that's certain something. 46 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 1: So this just put a freaking smile on my face 47 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: and it's a beautiful way to start this episode. So Alejandra, 48 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: thank you so much. I appreciate that. The next question 49 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: we have comes from Jacqueline talking about my sister Jackie. 50 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 4: Hey Cheeky's. First off, I want to say thank you 51 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 4: for all that you do and for being such an inspiration. 52 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 4: I'm so proud of you. You're killing it. My question 53 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:00,360 Speaker 4: for you is how do you do it with like 54 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 4: the haters that comment or come at you about like 55 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 4: your body or how you look. I've been dealing with 56 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 4: bullying for a while, people talking about how my body looks, 57 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 4: saying that I need to lose weight, that I'm ugly, 58 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 4: and that I need to be like I need to 59 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 4: lose weight to look pretty, and it should have been 60 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 4: taking such a toll on my mental health that I'm 61 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 4: kind of at a point where she's like, I don't 62 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 4: know what to do, and I was wondering if you 63 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 4: just had any advice on that topic. 64 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: Girl, Jacqueline, I feel you. I feel you. What I 65 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: tell haters now is they can go suck a big one, 66 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: a big fat toe, a big fat dirty toe. It's 67 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: a lot easier said than done, because unfortunately, there are days, 68 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: especially as women, in our hormones and you know, our pms, 69 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: like there are times for me it affects me more 70 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: on certain days than others. So I get you, especially 71 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: when it comes to our physique, when it comes to 72 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: our parents. We live in a society that that's like 73 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: the most important thing, and in reality it's not. You know, 74 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: we always I always say this beauty comes from within, 75 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: That's where beauty starts in your heart. But you have 76 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: to believe it. Now, are there things that we can 77 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: do to better our physique to feel better working out 78 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: all of that stuff? I talk about it all the time. 79 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: I think, yes, of course, there's always room for improvement. 80 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:18,479 Speaker 1: But we also have to understand that those people that 81 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: say these things are not happy with themselves, because if 82 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,919 Speaker 1: they were, they would not have time or energy to 83 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: focus on you. They're focused on you for a reason. 84 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: Might there must be something that they love about you. 85 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 1: But the first and the most important thing is that 86 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: you love yourself from within first, that you love who 87 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: you are, that you love your mind, that you love 88 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: your heart, that you know your characteristics, that you know 89 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: your value before anything else, because that's going to radiate 90 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: from the inside out. Now it doesn't matter because I've 91 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: lost about seventy pounds and still people talk crap, they 92 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 1: want to say something, but I'm okay with it now 93 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: because I'm just like and even then, when I was 94 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: seventy pounds heavier, you guys, I was like, okay, cool, whatever, 95 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: Like I still think I'm cute, you know. It's like 96 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: I still but there were times that it hurt my feelings. 97 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 1: But now I'm like, you know what, they have an 98 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: issue with themselves. That's something that they need to work 99 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: on within themselves. They're just projecting, so keep that in mind. 100 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: I know, again, it's a lot easier said than done, 101 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 1: and it hurts our feelings. But little by little, once 102 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: you like start not giving an F, You're really not 103 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: going to give an F, you know what I mean, 104 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: Like the more you practice that. So I hope that helped. 105 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: I feel like I went around in circles, but I 106 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:38,039 Speaker 1: hope all of that that I said helped. Our next 107 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: question comes from janc. 108 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 5: Hi Kieki's I totally love you and your show and 109 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 5: what you're all about I just wanted to ask would 110 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 5: you be having a big wedding or small wedding? 111 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:57,040 Speaker 1: Yancey. I like your question. Okay, you guys, these questions 112 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: are great. I'm loving this. Okay. So I want to 113 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: have a small, big wedding. I want to have a 114 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: private wedding. I want it to be just people that 115 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: I absolutely one hundred one hundred trust. I want to 116 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: have a civil wedding, and I want to have a 117 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 1: church wedding as well, like the spiritual blessing one as well. 118 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: I want both to be very intimate. But when I 119 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: say intimate, it's not just going to be twenty people, 120 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 1: because there's a lot of people in my life that 121 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: are important that I trust. So it's going to be 122 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: a small, big wedding. So anyways, Yancey, thank you so 123 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: much for your question. Okay, So our next question comes 124 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: from Danny. 125 00:06:47,200 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 2: Espanol Komo manijaste or commas manijalo in La depressionsbboo many 126 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 2: how case, look at the auto momentos case, look at 127 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 2: telemanta is. 128 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So Danny's asking if I've suffered from depression. 129 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: She knows that I've gone through quite a bit in 130 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 1: my life, and what do I do on a daily 131 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: basis to feel better about that? You know what I 132 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: mean to not let that affect me as much. She's 133 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 1: also asking if I've ever attempted suicide as well, So 134 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: we're going to talk about that first. I'm gonna respond 135 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: in Spanish, Okay, Danny is to sport ca so lem 136 00:07:49,440 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: the media e o spero two pero see momentos, the 137 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: pression a s perposa pers com tres versus e medida 138 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: pero mal mal pero mouertes e c silo, pence lopencelavilla, 139 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: chinos las ultimus versus varias in commodos messs lopenztoloss, fernilos 140 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: mil dose and then del dos mil dos condolo pence 141 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: casolos if we came in my majors moosa lando yam 142 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 1: perdon telor commundo pa lost yes, the el porque pero 143 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: c siloe, pensao c cos dificiles lokelos sake, jose, lavidas 144 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 1: er moosa, corrasson del mundos bueno, not toll as personas 145 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: el mundos buenas per persona's affecting albun kei oh men 146 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: momentos mimmy persona mo mo inportant vida los ciendo per 147 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: ma man dvid t remivida por ce la vida pero 148 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:27,439 Speaker 1: and jeli. That's for the selkiso a qui a c 149 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 1: k o lvo marsael oke ras on then go keo 150 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: plosvo serfs also ce miss momentos on the sty three 151 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: stell on the sty, the primidia, the makiro is the 152 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:56,079 Speaker 1: saganosrest not the okay no okay call a friend alto 153 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: mi fe alfe, mims okay person i personaska man bib lokerioslico. 154 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:23,839 Speaker 1: So you guys, I was just telling Danny that, yes, 155 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: I have had moments of depression and moments where I've 156 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: wanted to take my own life. The first time was 157 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: when I was eighteen. The second time or second times, 158 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: because I thought about it every single day for two months, 159 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:43,760 Speaker 1: was in October twenty twelve, the second time in my 160 00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: life that my mom and I stopped talking and I 161 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:49,599 Speaker 1: was very sad. And if you guys want to know 162 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:50,959 Speaker 1: a little bit more about that time in my life, 163 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: go ahead and read my book Forgiveness, where I explained 164 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:55,839 Speaker 1: in detail. But it was a very difficult time in 165 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:57,319 Speaker 1: my life, and I'm telling you I thought about it 166 00:10:57,320 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: every single day. And of course my mom was a 167 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: very important person in my life, but she shouldn't even 168 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: have that power. No one should have that power over 169 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: our lives to want to take our own life, because 170 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, even if my mom 171 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:13,839 Speaker 1: gave me life, absolutely, but the reason I'm here is 172 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 1: because God gave me life. God wants me to be here. 173 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 1: I really truly believe that, and I owe him more 174 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: to be happy. And yes, I have sad moments, and 175 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: yes I have times when I don't want to get 176 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,559 Speaker 1: out of bed, But at the end of the day, 177 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: I owe it to myself. I owe it to God 178 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: and to the reason why God has me here, which 179 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: is my calling and my mission. And if I work 180 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: every single day towards that, and I take a step 181 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: towards it, then the depression is less and less and less, 182 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So that's basically what I 183 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: was telling Danny, and she wanted to know what do 184 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: I do? So it's my faith. At the end of 185 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: the day, it's my faith, you guys. So that basically 186 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: concludes this episode. I want to thank you guys. So 187 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: much for your questions. And if you have a question 188 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: and you'd like me to answer, it could be about 189 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 1: absolutely anything. As you saw they were asking me about 190 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: my wedding, They're asking me about so many different things. 191 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: So you feel free to leave me your question at 192 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: speakpipe dot com slash Cheekys and Chill podcast Okay, and 193 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,160 Speaker 1: I will gladly answer the question from the bottom of 194 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 1: my heart and with like a big sister basically you know, 195 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:13,679 Speaker 1: or a cousin or a best friend something you know. 196 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 1: So you, guys, thank you so much for listening to 197 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: this episode. I love you, guys, and I will catch 198 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 1: you on the next episode of Dear Cheeky's or Cheekis 199 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: and Chill. 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