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Speaker 1: Here's a question for you, guys. Is your partner your

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Speaker 1: best friend? Were you friends before you became romantic? How

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 1: It seems, despite the popularity of dating apps, most relationships

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Speaker 1: start the old fashioned way.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Most of them do with people who are friends first.

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Speaker 1: In fact, researchers have found that sixty six sixty six

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Speaker 1: percent of people were platonic friends with their partner before

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Speaker 1: starting a romantic relationship.

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Speaker 2: So, Steve, I gotta go to you.

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Speaker 1: Do you believe there are benefits to being friends with

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Speaker 1: someone before you date them?

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Speaker 3: I mean, it is. It's not necessary, right, but it is,

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Speaker 3: But it's not necessary. And a lot of relationships start

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Speaker 3: the other way first, they get physical before they're good friends.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and.

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Speaker 3: I'm right right now I'm married to my best friend

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Speaker 3: because I ain't got nothing.

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Speaker 4: You ain't got no what.

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Speaker 3: I ain't got no real friends, No, you know I ain't.

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Speaker 3: I don't really have no dudes I share everything with.

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Speaker 3: I just don't. I've grown out of that space.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask you this because this is always

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Speaker 1: puzzled with me. What about people who are friends? They're really,

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Speaker 1: really good friends. We have a lot of strawberry letters

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Speaker 1: about this. They're really good friends, and then they try

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Speaker 1: to be romantic and it doesn't work out and the

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Speaker 1: friendship gets all weird after that.

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Speaker 3: You know, look, look, look, look, look, I said a

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Speaker 3: hundred times. I'm not gonna stop saying, if a man

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Speaker 3: is attracted to you, it's hard for him to stay

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Speaker 3: your friends.

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Speaker 2: Right, you said that all about it.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how, I don't and I don't know

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Speaker 3: why we keep debating this thing. If a man is

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Speaker 3: attracted to you, it's gonna be really hard for him

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Speaker 3: to stay your friend. It's really hard. So let's just notice.

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Speaker 3: If you know that you're attractive to this guy and

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Speaker 3: y'all just friends, it's just until you see a crack

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Speaker 3: in the door.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, A physical friend and physical friends. What a

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Speaker 2: physical friend like a friend with benefits.

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Speaker 5: About We're gonna be physical, but we're gonna be friends,

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Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. That's not a physical friend.

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Speaker 1: That's a kind of relations that's a friends with benefit type.

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Speaker 3: That's a sexual relationship.

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Speaker 2: Call it what you want to call it.

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Speaker 3: It's a sexual relationship, and eventually feelings on one one

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Speaker 3: of the parts it's gonna get it.

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Speaker 2: Usually the woman usually the woman exactly, Yeah, you love that.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 4: Ain't nobody sign up for love? It's supposed to be

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Speaker 4: just a nice.

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Speaker 2: Physical says the host, Are Ready to Love?

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Speaker 1: Radio Tommy and TV Tommy, I got you, I got you.

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Speaker 4: You ain't all the way crazy, Tommy, Far from it.

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Speaker 1: So Steve, it is still your contention that men and

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Speaker 1: women it's hard for them to be friends without being physical.

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Speaker 2: That is that what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: If the man is attracted to you, I've never seen what?

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Speaker 2: How what.

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Speaker 4: That's that?

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Speaker 5: So then the question is what we just brought up

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Speaker 5: Shirley with the with the segment to be friends?

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Speaker 2: Can you first and then date?

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Speaker 5: And you're saying that if you are friends and that

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Speaker 5: man is a woman, But you said what we're trying

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Speaker 5: to say, If you're gonna be friends first and then

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Speaker 5: you're gonna date, how to that work? If you say

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Speaker 5: men and women can't be friends.

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Speaker 3: If a man is attracted to you, eventually, when there's

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Speaker 3: a crack in the door, he's going to an if

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Speaker 3: he can put his foot into the door.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and be more than friends?

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Speaker 3: Right with yes, be more friend These relationships that turn

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Speaker 3: start out that way, you can turn out and blossom

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Speaker 3: into wonderful and beautiful relationships. It can happen then sometimes,

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Speaker 3: and that's a great way for it to start because

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Speaker 3: you started as friend. It's a great thing to happen.

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Speaker 3: Now here's a sad part. It attracted to you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, we gotta go, Steve, hold on, we gotta go.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back with more of the Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show at twenty minutes after right after this.

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Speaker 2: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, we're back, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Let's try to clear this up once and for all

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Speaker 1: if we can, because there's so much debate about this.

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Speaker 1: Can men and women be friends and once they cross

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Speaker 1: that physical line, can they still be friends? Because sometimes

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Speaker 1: that gets weird. So let's let's try to clear this

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Speaker 1: up because it is a debate, ongoing debate between men

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Speaker 1: and women. All the time you say what.

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Speaker 4: Man, these can be arguing with me, and every time

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Speaker 4: it comes out this way, I'll.

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Speaker 3: Be telling them.

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Speaker 2: You say it.

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Speaker 3: Men and women can be friends only if the man

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Speaker 3: does not find the woman attracted or is not attracted

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Speaker 3: to her for whatever the reason. If a man finds

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Speaker 3: you attractive and is attracted to you, and is your friend.

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Speaker 3: I want you to understand that the moment there is

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Speaker 3: a crack in the door, a chink in the armor,

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Speaker 3: and he see a way he can fit in and

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Speaker 3: be more than your friend more. You'll do that, absolutely,

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Speaker 3: he will unequivocally. Now, can you you start a friendship

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Speaker 3: that way and it blossomed into a relationship? Yes? And

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Speaker 3: you know why the blossom into a relationship because he's

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Speaker 3: been attracted to you the whole time period. Yeah. Now

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Speaker 3: here's the sad part that you don't want to hear.

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Speaker 3: If the man is not attracted to you or find

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Speaker 3: you unattractive, you can be his friend.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we'll be debating this for centuries to come.

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