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Speaker 1: fell in love with this woman who I met once

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Speaker 1: in the Hamptons, and her name is a Latia. And

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Speaker 1: now that I've seen all the videos, she said she

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Speaker 1: Page six and they were calling her, and you know,

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Speaker 1: hot shit and um Balick was gracious and what has

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Speaker 1: debate here. He was at fault, but I don't believe

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Speaker 1: And her husband even imitated her accent, saying, and I

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Speaker 1: I was called Bethan high school and college. I always

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Speaker 1: And I was trying to be Devil's advocate and can't

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Speaker 1: They love feeding into it, and it's usually someone who's

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Speaker 1: And so that means that any kind of press will

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Speaker 1: through this terrible situation with this gun accident, and they

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Speaker 1: have houses in remote places like I think Vermont and

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Speaker 1: Why is she going in giants, sweatshirts, two coffee houses,

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Speaker 1: an espresso, Get a fucking espresso. Mr Coffee, You'll get

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Speaker 1: So it feels like she really has addicted that. And

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Speaker 1: I really really feel badly for him. Somehow, thankfully she

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Speaker 1: Why would why do people allow the lie to be true?

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Speaker 1: And everybody deserves a second chance, and everybody makes mistakes.

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