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Speaker 1: Hey there, folks. In today's Love Stories series, a couple

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Speaker 1: that's been together over a decade and we can't believe it,

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Speaker 1: not after you hear how he dumped her years ago.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to this special Cuffing season edition of Amy and TJ. Rose.

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Speaker 1: This was one folks are gonna hear here in a minute.

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Speaker 1: But I've heard of some breakup stories. This is worse

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Speaker 1: than texting a breakup.

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Speaker 2: It's so bad that I can't believe that they've now

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Speaker 2: been married for seven years.

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Speaker 3: Let's just put it that way.

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Speaker 2: And we're talking about a beloved couple, a couple that

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Speaker 2: I know most of you have seen on the Ballroom

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Speaker 2: Dancing with the Stars, Peter Murgatroyd and Max Schmerkowsky. They

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Speaker 2: actually met on Broadway, but they started dating when they

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Speaker 2: were on Dancing with the Stars, and then they stopped

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Speaker 2: dating while they were on Dancing with the Stars, which

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Speaker 2: is never fun because that's why people say you shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: I can't say what they say.

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Speaker 1: What do they say?

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Speaker 3: They say you shouldn't poop where you eat?

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Speaker 1: Is that what they say? I thought it was Pen

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Speaker 1: and Company, inc.

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Speaker 3: Oho.

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Speaker 1: Oh god. What we're trying to say is you're not

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Speaker 1: supposed to day people at work. We certainly would be

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Speaker 1: advocates of that policy. You should never ever, under any

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Speaker 1: circumstance days somebody work. But it ended up working out

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Speaker 1: for them. But you said they broke up for a

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Speaker 1: little while, and it's one of the stories or one

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Speaker 1: of the questions we've asked the couples in our series,

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Speaker 1: asking about how close they've gotten the breaking up, But

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Speaker 1: they actually broke up, and he did it in a

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Speaker 1: way that I think the video will show both of

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Speaker 1: our jaws is.

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Speaker 3: We're dropped, it's true.

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Speaker 2: But to hear how far they've come and once they

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Speaker 2: committed or recommitted back to one another, it's so cool

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Speaker 2: to hear how they operate with their three kids. In fact,

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Speaker 2: they're so busy they actually had to do this interview

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Speaker 2: you're about to hear in their closet, and that's how

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Speaker 2: we begin our interview with Max and Peter. Peter and Max,

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Speaker 2: so good to see both of you coming to us

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Speaker 2: from your closet. I love it. I just love seeing

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Speaker 2: your faces. But it's especially fun to see where you

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Speaker 2: are right now.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, it's so nice to be here. Thank you

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Speaker 4: so much for having us. This is going to be

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Speaker 4: really fun.

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Speaker 3: You will you say that?

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Speaker 5: Now, welcome to the closet. Welcome. Yeah, this is definitely

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Speaker 5: space we spend the most time, and if we decide

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Speaker 5: to do any kind of business activity, I take calls here.

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Speaker 5: Peter's office is literally right there.

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Speaker 4: And hibernate here and I just shut the door from

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Speaker 4: the babies.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's excellent. But what a life? What a life?

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Speaker 2: It's amazing, it's amazing. Those are all good problems to have.

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Speaker 2: All right, we're going to launch right into our questions.

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Speaker 2: So the first question we've asked all the couples is this,

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Speaker 2: each of you, if you would use three words to

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Speaker 2: describe your relationship right now?

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Speaker 3: Peter, I'll go, I'll start with you.

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Speaker 4: I got to think of some nice ones right now. Okay,

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna be really honest.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we listen and we don't.

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Speaker 4: Stressful, Okay, three children, two babies, stressful, passionate. Can I

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Speaker 4: say cohesive, like we're working together as a team.

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Speaker 3: That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: Laughing at our answers.

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Speaker 5: The answers, there's no. I don't think there's right answer

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Speaker 5: is no. I think I think my first word was

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Speaker 5: and this is describing our relationship, you know, not like

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Speaker 5: our life and the setup in the situations. But the

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Speaker 5: first way I felt some reason, I was busy. You know,

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Speaker 5: we've never been I've never felt that way with us.

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Speaker 5: It was always just the two of us, and then

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Speaker 5: the three of us for for a while and then yeah,

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Speaker 5: for six years we just had shy and it was incredible,

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Speaker 5: is I would say, I would say, for some reason,

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Speaker 5: we're fighting, but not in a way of fighting each other,

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Speaker 5: but in the form of I just don't know vernacular,

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Speaker 5: like we are fighting to make sure that we you know,

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Speaker 4: Our date nights and we try to Yeah.

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Speaker 5: And then the last one is loving because at the

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Speaker 5: end of it all, even the frame fight, you know,

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Speaker 5: the little cuddle, the little foot touch, you know, it's

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Speaker 5: all I need and we both kind of on the

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Speaker 5: but can I feed touch?

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Speaker 3: No, literally I totally get that.

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Speaker 4: If we've just had like some tea or something and

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Speaker 4: we go to bed, I'll feel the foot just slowly

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Speaker 4: come in and touch my toe and I'm like, oh, okay,

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Speaker 4: here we go, yes, and then we roll over and

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Speaker 4: have a kiss and we're good.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. But last night she did the thing and I

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Speaker 5: was like, that's it. That's where I draw a line

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Speaker 5: is when she goes above the sheet and I and

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Speaker 5: they need the sheet and she's already sleeping and I'm

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Speaker 5: trying to the foot and the sheet between us. Yesterday

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Speaker 5: I was like, No, that's it. I can do it.

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Speaker 5: I rolled over and I went to bed.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we have a question on the list about fighting,

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Speaker 1: and you all have answered like question about intimate touch,

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Speaker 1: all these others already.

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Speaker 4: We can elaborate.

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Speaker 1: All right, next question here for you guys. And we

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Speaker 1: had to take it back back to the beginning. Was

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Speaker 1: there immediate chemistry when you first met.

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Speaker 4: No, because we were in different relationships at the time.

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Speaker 4: He was engaged. I was with a long term boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: So when we met, it was very much high on

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Speaker 4: Peter Heim. I'm Max. He we met on Broadway. He

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Speaker 4: came to be headline our show, which.

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Speaker 5: Did you just say the word I came to be

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Speaker 5: the star of the show.

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Speaker 4: Do you see what I'm dealing with?

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Speaker 6: Is why she immediately disliked me very much. She was like,

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Speaker 6: this guy walked in, who does he think he is brought?

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Speaker 2: Not?

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Speaker 5: She was the list.

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Speaker 4: It was very, very cordial, very workplace environment. It wasn't anything.

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Speaker 4: There was nothing on the radar. But again until he

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Speaker 4: again to do another stint with our show, I was

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Speaker 5: But I crack. He cracks. I started, I have, I have,

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Speaker 5: I have contributed to some cracks.

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Speaker 4: There were some cracks.

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Speaker 5: Every time I had a pr event to promote the show,

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Speaker 5: they'd be like, well, who do you want to take?

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Speaker 5: And it was a cast of like twenty four incredible

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Speaker 5: name again? You know, make sure that's like, of course

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Speaker 5: I don't know her anything.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, there was definitely attraction and.

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Speaker 4: Not in the beginning, that's what they're asking.

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Speaker 5: Well again, deep inside, possibly probably, you know.

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Speaker 4: Because not from me.

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Speaker 5: As soon as I got single and there was a

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, he was the star of the show.

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Speaker 3: He had a lot of options.

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Speaker 5: I'm all for two here with the way she presents us.

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Speaker 3: So that's amazing. All right. Next question, who' said I

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Speaker 3: love you first?

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Speaker 4: Well, we were dating for about maybe four or five

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Speaker 4: months when we wanted to. We both wanted to say it,

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Speaker 4: and I remember we made up a phrase called just

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Speaker 4: we just said pickles to one another, which is so random,

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Speaker 4: but we use the word pickles to sign off on

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Speaker 4: Because we didn't really want to say it because it

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Speaker 5: But I was definitely but he was the first one.

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Speaker 5: I'm one thousand percent more emotional in those type of

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Speaker 5: things in our relationships, So you know, I would have

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Speaker 4: Actually, I screenshot all my texts from back in the day,

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Speaker 4: of course, just to like paper trail. Yeah, paper trail.

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Speaker 4: He he was the first one to say I want

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Speaker 4: to I want to marry you. You know, this is

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Speaker 4: where we're going to get married. And and then he

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Speaker 5: We broke up. Yeah, but that's what men do when

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Speaker 5: they're in love. They run. We we I've acted on this,

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Speaker 5: you know, primeval emotion. It was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 5: what is this that I'm feeling my closet, all her stuff,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, it was very jarring for me to

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Speaker 5: Now it's just like, well.

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Speaker 3: Wait, so you broke up because you you're in the closet.

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Speaker 4: Freaked you out?

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Speaker 5: No, I think I think it was the fact that

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Speaker 5: did the thing that all stupid men do. We're just like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: cofeet and I remember was the dumbest breakup ever.

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Speaker 4: And I had just bought him an eight thousand dollars

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Speaker 5: Irresponsible, I would say, this is respons my children, but you.

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Speaker 4: Have to realize how crazy that was. I gave it. No,

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Speaker 4: And then literally five days.

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Speaker 5: Later, I was so in love, there's no reason for

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Speaker 5: expensive presents. It's you know what I'm saying, My love

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Speaker 5: I was like not. She bought me this sting I

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Speaker 4: Of days later.

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Speaker 5: And I drove her to the airport she was flying

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Speaker 5: to LA. I brove her. Today she hasn't I haven't

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Speaker 5: said a word. This is true story. She's now at

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Speaker 5: we have to part ways. And as soon as she's

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Speaker 5: just give it time, let's just do this. And I did.

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Speaker 4: No. He said go do you boom, just go do

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Speaker 4: you for a second, I'm like, oh, okay, Yeah. It

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Speaker 4: was It was terrible. It was terrible.

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Speaker 2: That's almost like an in person way of breaking up

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Speaker 2: over text, Like you waited till she was on the

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Speaker 2: other side.

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Speaker 5: No, this is this is worse because she can't even

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Speaker 5: text me. She got on the plane and got no reception,

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Speaker 5: so this is like she had six six and a

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Speaker 5: half hour flight to think about all this. It was terrible.

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Speaker 5: It was horrible, really bad.

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Speaker 3: Why did you take him back?

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Speaker 4: Yes, because she came back groveling just at my feet,

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Speaker 5: Go to school in La Bro. We're not We're not

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Speaker 4: It's funny. Once we had Shy in January twenty seventeen,

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Speaker 5: I don't know she was. She should have said that,

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Speaker 5: So we have these beautiful, gorgeous memories, photos, videos. I'm

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Speaker 1: Are here, right? You'll never took a honeymoon?

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Speaker 5: None?

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 5: We can we stop having babies?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we're now like, okay, this summer, I'm not getting pregnant.

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Speaker 4: We are going away. We're hopefully hopefully got a plan

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Speaker 5: I don't know how that's possible, but.

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Speaker 3: Put it on the division board for now.

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Speaker 6: It's more than fact that, like you travel with kids,

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you?

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Speaker 4: Thank you?

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Speaker 3: Who's older?

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Speaker 5: Two times? Thank you? I mean people keeping keep coming?

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, well I guess no, but.

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Speaker 5: I like it with my brother. It's the same thing

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Speaker 5: like it when people are like which one of years older? Again?

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Speaker 3: Exactly? Oh, I know, you get to a certain point.

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Speaker 3: It's not what you want to talk about, all right.

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Speaker 3: We've asked everybody this. Feel free to answer it.

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Speaker 2: How you choose, how would you describe your sex life

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm just very attracted to her, so that

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Speaker 5: what we all are. But again, it's about this chemistry.

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00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 5: As long as this chemistry is intact, everything else going

440
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 5: to work out.

441
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 4: I will say, though, I feel like the longer you

442
00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 4: wait in the sex life, like you know, they say,

443
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 4: don't go two weeks without having sex, so don't go

444
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 4: three days without having sex or something.

445
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,360
Speaker 5: It's I don't say that, but I really do think.

446
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:50,199
Speaker 4: It affects us. You know. I feel like he's more tense,

447
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 4: he gets more like agitated with things or stressed, you

448
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 4: know what I mean. And when there's more sex, there's

449
00:22:56,560 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 4: more love, there's more a joy, there's more lightheartedness, you know.

450
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,679
Speaker 5: I would I wouldn't say it's for the lack off

451
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 5: and you get I think it's when you are in

452
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 5: that sort of agitated state because of the outside stuff

453
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 5: or even the inside stuff we don't see. I try

454
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 5: about some unrelated to sex things you know you have

455
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 5: to be able to. I mean it's sex can fix that,

456
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 5: you know, it can also fit the same page. And

457
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 5: you walk off and like, what was that about? Like, okay,

458
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 5: by the way, I thought of a new idea maybe

459
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 5: that you know, I don't know.

460
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 1: We have to tell you all. That is the most detailed,

461
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: psychologically sound sex answer we've gotten from any couple.

462
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,880
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I thought were no.

463
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 1: Doubt about it.

464
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 5: I mean we also didn't get into specifics so about

465
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,639
Speaker 5: the hips and we don't have to.

466
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 3: Yes, two professional dancers, I'm sure you guys.

467
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 4: But in terms of how much it's changed, honestly, it's

468
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 4: just be honest, it's just less because of children. But

469
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 4: we don't don't have six hours a day to stay

470
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 4: in bed anymore.

471
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:17,119
Speaker 5: But better in quality. Yeah, you know, so with the

472
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 5: quantities nights. There's no marathons for.

473
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 4: Now, there's no sex marathons.

474
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 5: No, but a couple of times somebody came in knocking,

475
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 5: shy walked in. It was just it.

476
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 4: Sounds a disaster. There's one time that is a disaster.

477
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 5: She jumped I don't.

478
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 4: Anyway, we won't go.

479
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 5: She jumped across the room. I'd never seen like across

480
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 5: the room. I'm like, I don't knowsed. I was like,

481
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 5: whoa guys like with blank like mummy, mummy, he.

482
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 4: Said, he said, Mummy, you sound like daddy's hurting.

483
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 5: You sound like, oh my god, this is terrible.

484
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 4: You're sorry, that's terrible.

485
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 3: You know what, It's so relatable. I mean, everybody has

486
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 3: a story that is hilarious.

487
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,439
Speaker 1: The next question here is something you'll actually allude it

488
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: to earlier talking about the toes the feet touching in bed.

489
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 1: But how important, I mean, aside from sex, is physical

490
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: touch to you all? Do you just you walk down

491
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 1: the street holding hands? Do you find yourselves always kind

492
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 1: of finding a way to rub up against each other.

493
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 4: If you will, Yes, he we are both. That's part

494
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 4: of our love language. But he particularly is like this

495
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 4: all day and I have to do one of these

496
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 4: ones or he gets mad at me, he thinks that

497
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 4: or something.

498
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 5: So I don't understand if I'm already committed, right and

499
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 5: you know, there's the only source of that that I have,

500
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 5: why can't I have access to the source. Don't I

501
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 5: have like a key entry level, like it's a club

502
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 5: for one, it's a free.

503
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 4: Kissed off during the day or so.

504
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 5: But that's not fair because that cannot come with like, look,

505
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 5: you cannot have other sources, right, That's the only one

506
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 5: you've got. But sometimes you can come and the door

507
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 5: is locked. I'm like, okay, but that's not you know,

508
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 5: I just want I just so all the time.

509
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 4: We love holding hands and touching.

510
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 3: That's sweet. That's sweet. I love that work.

511
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 2: Conversely, you guys are very fun and it feels like

512
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 2: you've got a really healthy back and forth, like you

513
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 2: you know how to fight, but you know how to

514
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 2: not even fight, but argue through communication, like you can

515
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: tell and humor. Yeah, but how often do you fight?

516
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 2: And is there something that you fight about the most?

517
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 5: Yes, we fight mostly about kids eating. Okay, I can't

518
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 5: I have, I have, I have probably something in my

519
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,399
Speaker 5: past I have. I need therapy for the way I

520
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 5: was brought up, for sure. I come from yours. So

521
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 5: Sar I was born nineteen eighty, very to like twenty

522
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 5: year old a couple of twenty year old. Literally they

523
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 5: were twenty and they you know right now, I'm thinking

524
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,479
Speaker 5: about this, I'm like, can you imagine if we were

525
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 5: twenty and headed and headshy. It's just impossible to even

526
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 5: think about that. So I believe that there was some

527
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 5: The way I was brought up was very instinctually fundamental, basic, right.

528
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 5: This is it's meat, fish, chicken, soup. You know this

529
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 5: that hot food once a day because it's good for

530
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 5: the digestive track and probiotics and some this and some.

531
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 5: I mean, I can go on and it's insane. It's

532
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 5: coming out of my pores. I can't help it, right,

533
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 5: So I'm looking at this and Peter comes from a

534
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 5: completely opposite side of the world. Yes, she comes from

535
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 5: a world where they work their foot and free and

536
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 5: he eat when they eat banana and they're it's a chicken,

537
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 5: and here's a soup. And here I grow up with much.

538
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 4: Try everything on your plate. But you don't have to

539
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:00,120
Speaker 4: finish every.

540
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 5: I grew up with. If you don't finish, you don't

541
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 5: you did, You're dead. To me, there's consequence, you know.

542
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,360
Speaker 2: That's how I was raised backs like seriously, second generation.

543
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 2: They were Germany Germans like, very strict, very similar.

544
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 1: My parents are from the South. We brought up that

545
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 1: I've had standoffs with my parents all night. You ain't

546
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: getting up from that table until you finish your dinner.

547
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 5: My brother Val, the superstar champ father on his he

548
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 5: had soup on his head plainy a time because he'd

549
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 5: actually talk back, you know, the second kid whatever, I

550
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 5: never go back, you know, I would just take it

551
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 5: and like be silent. He's like, well, what are you

552
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 5: gonna do? She'd like soup on the head, you know. So,

553
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 5: I mean there was a drastically different environment. We only

554
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 5: fight about the kids. But again now eight years later.

555
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 4: Because research shows if you're trying to force food on

556
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 4: children and you make them sit, even if they're trying

557
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 4: and screaming, it doesn't do any good. That's what I

558
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 4: have come to learn, as in that makes them not

559
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 4: want to eat it more. You know, why don't you

560
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 4: give them a little bit to taste it and you

561
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 4: don't have to force them to eat the whole thing anyway.

562
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 5: And I come to you as a research of like

563
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 5: this is this is the body that it produces. And

564
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 5: I'm like, this is a great, great body. How do

565
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 5: I do that? You know what? I know a way

566
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 5: that is guaranteed it's this this way. I am not

567
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 5: sure if he goes down. It's like, pop, I want

568
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 5: I want ice cream. It's like seven thirty in the morning.

569
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 5: Even if I mean it has to be like Santa

570
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 5: is on our roof, you know what I mean? Like, okay,

571
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 5: you know, but other than that. She looks at me

572
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 5: and I'm like steam coming on my ears, like yes,

573
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 5: of course, shy, you can't. And everything inside of me

574
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 5: is just but I don't get it. Why would you

575
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 5: have ice cream for breakfast? Why not protein? Protein?

576
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 4: Sometimes you're exaggerating right now, Okay.

577
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 5: I'm not. I'm just saying that's the only everything else.

578
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 5: We don't fight, we you know.

579
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, this has got to get settled though.

580
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 1: At some point this guy, what's the compromise then if

581
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: you've all been going through this.

582
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 4: Fourth all the time. Because she's like, am I done yet?

583
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 4: Papa like, and I'm like, yes, baby, you're done. He's

584
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 4: so nervous if Papa's gonna say no, finish all of this.

585
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 5: And then I'm like inside my mind and in my

586
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 5: heart I'm like, yo, shut up at you. At myself, I'm.

587
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 4: Like, he's eating three quarters, He's completely fine.

588
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 5: I come up. I look at his plate and I'm

589
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 5: like and I can't. I'm like, here, let's do two

590
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 5: more spoons. Why I don't understand myself.

591
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 3: It's so funny, though, Max, I so relate to that.

592
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 2: I had the timer set on me, and if it

593
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 2: buzzed then then I would lose, Like I couldn't go

594
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 2: out on Friday. Then I couldn't see my friends Saturday.

595
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 2: And my days of grounding we just add up to

596
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 2: weeks because if I didn't finish.

597
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 3: But it's funny. We feel like we have to then

598
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: impose that on our children too.

599
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 1: But to Peter's point, to your point about research that

600
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: kids don't end up liking that stuff, I am a

601
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: grown man. I don't eat a single damn thing that

602
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: I ate when I was growing up as a kid. Really,

603
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: to my diet is nothing like it. Well, I'm from

604
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 1: the South and it's a different type of but nothing

605
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: I ate as a kid do I eat today? So

606
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: maybe there's something to.

607
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 7: The research, Maybe not the research type.

608
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: All right, how about this, guys? You fight about the food,

609
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 1: but a lot of couples go back and forth on this.

610
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: Do you go to bed angry? Do you make a

611
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: point of making sure you don't.

612
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 4: Sometimes we go to bit angry. Yeah, because I don't know.

613
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 4: I think I find it hard if he said something

614
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 4: to piss me off during the day, or he's done

615
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 4: something I don't know. I'm not the one to like

616
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 4: come back first. I don't think unless I know that

617
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 4: I've had a part of it, or that I've done

618
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 4: I've said something I shouldn't, or you know. So yeah,

619
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 4: there's definitely times that we go to bed angry, but

620
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 4: the food comes in and that's when it kind of

621
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 4: foot together.

622
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 5: So I think we're fundamentally different in this way. Also

623
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 5: where you know, when she fights, it's like we walk

624
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 5: up in the morning and I don't know it's for me,

625
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 5: Monday morning something happens. Mentally I am a nightmare to her,

626
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 5: to me to like, I'm just a nightmare for about

627
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 5: two hours and then I go work out and something changes.

628
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 5: For the rest of the week, I'm fine, but Monday

629
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 5: morning stresses.

630
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 4: It's just like a Monday morning stress thing.

631
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 5: I don't know. I don't know ever since pandemics, something happen.

632
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 5: But anyway, so like I go out and make coffee

633
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 5: and something in shy it's like I w on cereal.

634
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 5: I'm like, no, Dwight would you have cereal again? You

635
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 5: need hearty breakfast some nonsense like that, right, and then

636
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 5: she would react and she will and then she just

637
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 5: turns off and I'm like and then six seconds later

638
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 5: I come up to her and I say hey, and

639
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 5: she's like please, and I'm like, what what did I do?

640
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 5: She's like, look, you ruined my day that sentence, you

641
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 5: ruined my date. I'm like, at seven thirty eight, I

642
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 5: pruned your day for me. I turned into like sir,

643
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 5: I turned into like a Robert de Niro in Enraging Bull.

644
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 5: I swear to god, I'm like, seven thirty but I

645
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 5: need hold what anyway? Fundamental difference between us is that

646
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 5: I will fight and then immediately if we have a discussion,

647
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 5: immediately right, I will then Okay, fine, let's keep it moving.

648
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 5: That's it. We're done. I thought got my point across.

649
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 5: You got your point across, black eyed, black Eye.

650
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 4: I can't be My feelings are hurt.

651
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 5: Bro, she'll be. She'll be pissed till tomorrow morning. And

652
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 5: if you do it again, we will humulate. And I'm like,

653
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 5: you know.

654
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 6: What, It's just, it's crazy, it's crazy.

655
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 5: I don't understand how you going to be pissedel it's

656
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:26,720
Speaker 5: like seven hours. We can be pissed for seven minutes.

657
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 3: It's exhausting to be pissed for seven hours.

658
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 4: I think it's because in the morning, I want peace.

659
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,320
Speaker 4: I want the day to start beautifully. It's a Monday morning.

660
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 4: I want everything to just roll on how it's meant to. Like,

661
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,439
Speaker 4: why do we need to talk about cereal or hot

662
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 4: food right now? Give the child cereal for once? For

663
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 4: God's sakes, you know he's fine. I grew up on

664
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 4: cereal and toast, and you're like, he's fine. You know

665
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 4: that's just my point.

666
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 1: Okay, See it's this guy. I'll say this to Max

667
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 1: and Robes. I said this. There are plenty on this thing.

668
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 1: You will or I'll just speak for broths. She wants

669
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: you to get over it quickly when she's the offending party, right,

670
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: don't don't hurt me, don't pause the fight and then

671
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: be upset with her. Yes for not getting it over

672
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: getting over it quickly that you just started off.

673
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 5: But the thing is I for me, it's both ways.

674
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 5: You can offend me to my core, but if we

675
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:28,399
Speaker 5: immediately have this duke it out, then you can move it.

676
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 5: Just give me a hot I feel.

677
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 3: The same way. I can. I can move on quickly.

678
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 3: Even if you piss me off. I can.

679
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 2: I can't get over it because I actually funny enough

680
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 2: if I'm gonna use the same thing you said, Peter,

681
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 2: I want peace, and above all, I'm like life is short.

682
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to spend the next twenty four hours upset,

683
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: so I am gonna let it go. I don't know,

684
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 2: And yes, I know it's easier when I'm the one

685
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: who's upset you for sure, But I do think I

686
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 2: still do that when it's I might need I might

687
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 2: need a little time, but I don't need seven hours.

688
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 3: I don't need twenty four hours.

689
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: I might need the weekend.

690
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 4: Okay, do love it?

691
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so funny. Oh my god.

692
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 2: I love listening to couples where one of them is

693
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 2: exactly the way I am, and then one of.

694
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 3: Is exactly the way DJ is. It's hilarious. What do

695
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 3: you love most about each other?

696
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 4: I love his resilience and passion for providing for his family.

697
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: He never stops. He's never stops with ideas and thinking

698
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 4: about you know, the next five years, ten years, And

699
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 4: he's a great planner. And I really appreciate that with

700
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 4: about a partner. He's very strong willed. I like that too.

701
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 4: I'm more of the softy So I it's our yin

702
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 4: and yang thing. I knew I was going to be

703
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 4: with somebody that is more headstrong and opinionated and stuff

704
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 4: like that. So they're the things that kind of pissed

705
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 4: me off, but also the things that I love the

706
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 4: most too.

707
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, No, we're definitely ying and yang. We definitely fully

708
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 5: compliment that other. You know, there's a lot of stuff

709
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,800
Speaker 5: that we are now on the same page completely through life.

710
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 5: We got here through you know, the right type of

711
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 5: you know, understanding. Again, we're both very passionate first, we're

712
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 5: not really pragmatic. We're pragmatic later, and so we get

713
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 5: ourselves in trouble, but we get ourselves in trouble as

714
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 5: a couple, and then we get ourselves out of trouble

715
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,359
Speaker 5: also as a couple. And in that there's a lot

716
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 5: of strength, a lot of building. I think that we

717
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 5: have a very strong foundation. Dare I say we you know,

718
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 5: we are a couple of people from in public spotlight.

719
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 5: That adds as you guys definitely know, uh, And so

720
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 5: we're also proud of that the way we go through this,

721
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 5: I feel like we have this sort of you know,

722
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 5: not evil eye, but where I come from, my culture

723
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 5: is all about you know, you know, superstitions and stuff

724
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 5: like that when you're in public eye a lot of time,

725
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 5: my mom just praise all the time for us not

726
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 5: to get like some kind of black voodoo and stuff.

727
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 5: But that's relevant to a lot of people's energies get

728
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 5: in the middle of you. And so for us to

729
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 5: continue being this way.

730
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 4: You haven't said what you love about me?

731
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 5: Oh what? I love everything. She's She's literally the I'm sorry.

732
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 6: I wanted to say, like, I love us. I love

733
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 6: us for that reason.

734
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 5: For the way we compliment, for the way you know,

735
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 5: I don't have to be some things that she can

736
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 5: take on and and we know that. Uh. And I'm

737
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 5: free to be myself with her. There are certain things

738
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 5: she wants me to change my facial expression when I

739
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 5: express myself sometimes, I love you, I love everything. For

740
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 5: the fact that the way your mother are children is

741
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 5: number one. I wouldn't be with her if she was

742
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 5: a different mother. It would have been very difficult to me.

743
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 5: I grew up with an incredible mother, so that's very important.

744
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 5: But I also love that above that, I am important

745
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 5: to her and we are at the peak of that importance.

746
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 5: If I didn't feel it from it would also be

747
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 5: very difficult for me to have spent my life leading

748
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 5: up to this point, fall in love with someone and

749
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 5: then get sort of replaced by three off springs. You know,

750
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 5: it'd be very hard for me to sort of deal

751
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 5: with that for the rest of our life.

752
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: You know, Max, you got away with words. Man, I

753
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 1: love it. Brother.

754
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,479
Speaker 2: It's funny because Max, is that exactly what my parents said,

755
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 2: that they put each other first. They put each other

756
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 2: first above my brother and Yeah, and they really believe

757
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 2: that that is part of the reason why they've been successful.

758
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 1: Still, it's hard to hear I.

759
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 2: Heard it, but I get it, like as this as

760
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 2: the offspring, I've heard that.

761
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:41,240
Speaker 5: But it's harder to hear as later in life because

762
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 5: we've never heard that. Our parents were like, it's all

763
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 5: about the kids, kids, kids, kids, blah blah blah. Our

764
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 5: mom had only been raising us, and then we did

765
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 5: see how it's difficult for her to transition for them

766
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 5: as a couple of you know, empty nestas. As you said,

767
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 5: a lot of people have a problems with that. I

768
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 5: would love to be in the place where I definitely

769
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 5: I'm going to miss my kids. Like I said, we

770
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 5: teared up over the fact that they're going to go

771
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 5: to college. They're still under two. But we you know

772
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 5: when that happens, however, said, I'll be I'll turn back

773
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 5: around and it'll be back to us again, you know,

774
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 5: And so then it'll be again the same place that

775
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 5: we were in when we're just mad and in love

776
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 5: and all that. That's what I'm looking forward to, right.

777
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 1: We do have a couple of practical questions about the relationship. First, finances,

778
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 1: How do you all handle finances as a couples everything together?

779
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: Do you all keep anything separate?

780
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 4: We have our separate corporations, separate companies. I have my

781
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 4: beauty company that he has his dance studio business that

782
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 4: he's had since he was sixteen. Everything is separated. I

783
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 4: think we have one joint account, but we don't even

784
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:54,280
Speaker 4: use it. Everything gets paid for together, as in our

785
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 4: business management team, just you know, pools from each of

786
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:02,399
Speaker 4: us to pay things. We don't count who pays for what,

787
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 4: who pays for dinner. So I feel like our relationship

788
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 4: it's bigger than that it's stronger than me saying oh,

789
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,920
Speaker 4: I've paid for the mortgage.

790
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 5: It doesn't it doesn't make sense to our time. But

791
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,760
Speaker 5: we're not dating, we're not splitting the bill. The ideas

792
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 5: that our financial structure is, you know, given our LLCs

793
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,759
Speaker 5: and all that stuff, but it all goes into one,

794
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 5: you know, one source. We are a family. We put

795
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 5: everything into the part. We had few conversations along the

796
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 5: way of like, you know, but what about this and

797
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,919
Speaker 5: what about that? And I'm like, look, I said it

798
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 5: to me. It's strange when you know, families like us

799
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 5: start to separate things and have separate this and separate that,

800
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 5: where one business management team they have oversight of our

801
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,879
Speaker 5: finances and accounts. And I think it's the right thing.

802
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 5: You know, the conversations nowadays about like opinions if you will,

803
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 5: on on TikTok and social media about everything and financial

804
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 5: structure of families among them, and you know, one joint

805
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 5: account for bills, separate accounts for you know cash, I

806
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 5: guess pocket money and all that stuff. Like yeah, however

807
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,800
Speaker 5: you want to call it, sure, you know, have freedom

808
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 5: and all that, as long as it's all together. You know,

809
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 5: the one thing that Peter is never going to find

810
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 5: out about me. Is some separate accounts or some kind

811
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 5: of like offshot things and things like that, investment opportunities,

812
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:31,479
Speaker 5: Like I didn't get into this partnership. Also, we are partners.

813
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,360
Speaker 4: I mean, yes, something happens.

814
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 5: I have no choice, guys. You know, Also that stuff

815
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 5: for us was you know, we didn't need to you know,

816
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 5: and I understand, you know, people that come into this

817
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 5: relationships with companies and part of entities that require you

818
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 5: to you know, write some things. But for us, we're good.

819
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 4: We're fine, pretty simple.

820
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 5: You guys asked a long time ago about for a second.

821
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,720
Speaker 5: You know, I just want to give back the marriage question.

822
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 5: It was important to us because we grew up traditionally,

823
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 5: not maybe conservatively in some words, but traditionally enough to

824
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 5: like I wanted to be married. I wanted my partner

825
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 5: for life to know that she's for life, you know.

826
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 5: And I wanted to be committed because for me personally,

827
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 5: also the way I am, the who I am, it's

828
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 5: a lot less confusing when it's committed. You know, I

829
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 5: want to be committed. I wanted to be official, whatever

830
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 5: that means. If the society decided that's how we make it,

831
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 5: then let it be that. So I was looking forward

832
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 5: to all this.

833
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: The next practical question has to do with the household

834
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: as well chores. How do you all handle it around

835
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 1: the house? You got kids to deal with, but also

836
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 1: as far as the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry of

837
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 1: course has it. Oh, Peter's making a face, so please

838
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 1: tell us how's it?

839
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 4: I mean, I do most of it. I'm just going

840
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 4: to be honest. I mean, we have a full time

841
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 4: nanny five days a week to help us with children

842
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 4: in that aspects. So she helps with some laundry for

843
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 4: the for the babies and stuff. She cooks some meals

844
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 4: for me for the babies. But generally speaking, yes, I

845
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 4: will be the one to do most of that stuff.

846
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 4: You like to cook, though, I just wish you'd do more.

847
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 6: I love cooking. I hate laundry. The laundry thing is

848
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:21,360
Speaker 6: just absurd to me. I want to do.

849
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:26,160
Speaker 5: I want to figure out like reusable undergarments of some

850
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 5: sort that are like both at the same time smell,

851
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 5: nest and clean. Because this is crazy. You wash the

852
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 5: whole thing.

853
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 4: We just our laundry.

854
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 5: This this is a practical closet. If I show you

855
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 5: the rest. There's a lot of stuff. I wear it,

856
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 5: she wears it, but it's just constant. I'm like, I

857
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 5: don't know. I can't not eat, but I can not

858
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 5: wear a lot of stuff, you know, just washing so much?

859
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do it.

860
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 2: Laundry is one of those things though, that has gotten

861
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 2: to just about every couple.

862
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:13,439
Speaker 3: It's affected everyone. And have you all when you fight?

863
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 2: Have you all ever come close to or at least

864
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,320
Speaker 2: said threatened to break up to get divorced?

865
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 3: Do you go nuclear in moments?

866
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:27,959
Speaker 4: God? No, it's I think if that happened, like those

867
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 4: words like I feel like we're going to get divorced

868
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 4: or something like.

869
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:36,280
Speaker 3: That, or I want a divorcee Oh my god, No.

870
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:40,359
Speaker 4: That would almost put a seed into our heads that

871
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 4: that was going to happen in the future.

872
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 5: I think, I mean we as far as it went

873
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:47,800
Speaker 5: like well, what are you gonna do? You know what

874
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 5: I'm saying like that, that that's where it ends, like

875
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 5: we both know the D word is the thought process here,

876
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:55,439
Speaker 5: but obviously it's not gonna happen.

877
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 4: No.

878
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 5: I think it's like it's late for us at this point.

879
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 4: We actually have like kind of you to see you

880
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 4: started this rule that we we don't swear at each other.

881
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 5: No, I didn't start there.

882
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 4: I was going to say, we don't say.

883
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 5: I don't understand that. Blah, No, that's safe.

884
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:12,760
Speaker 4: That does not that does.

885
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 5: Not happen at somebody else. I'm not the guy to say,

886
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 5: you know, you know, not not not to curse, but

887
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 5: at her, like you know you were this and that

888
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 5: and the other, like even in dramatic fact, you know,

889
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 5: because I think it's.

890
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 4: So hurtful, and it's so it tarnishes something. If he

891
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 4: were to call me an F and B or something

892
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 4: like it would that would really tarnish our relationship, I think.

893
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 5: Yeah. And then again, if you let for me, I'm

894
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 5: very sarcastic and very dry humor already, So if I

895
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 5: and if I want to go hurtful, I have hurt

896
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 5: people verbally and I'm not proud of it, and it

897
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 5: was awful moments in my life. But to be in

898
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 5: a relationship for the person that you love, that you

899
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 5: let yourself get to a certain point, there's something wrong

900
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 5: with you, you know. So for me, words have incredibly

901
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 5: heavy meanings and they're not reserved for this, for this

902
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:14,919
Speaker 5: relationship at all.

903
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 1: That is one of the best. We're going to do

904
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 1: a wrap up of all of the some of the

905
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,760
Speaker 1: best advice we've gotten from all the couples we interviewed

906
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 1: ten of them. Wrap up episode that is going to

907
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 1: be included because that is a small but such a

908
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: significant thing. Take profanity out of your argument to a discussion.

909
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 1: It makes such a.

910
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 2: Difference you make a pact, especially if you tend to

911
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 2: curse just in general when you're angry, say we are

912
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 2: never going to curse at each other.

913
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: But saying are you crazy? Hits differently than are you crazy?

914
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 1: It really but.

915
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,880
Speaker 5: It's like, it's are you an idiot? She said?

916
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:53,760
Speaker 4: I said that one time? An idiot? It felt awful

917
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 4: coming out, but I was so heated. I forget this

918
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 4: was years ago.

919
00:47:58,360 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it was also my reaction.

920
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 4: He was so hurt.

921
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 5: I was so I was like, oh, it was the

922
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 5: idiot direct.

923
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,359
Speaker 4: I think I've said it one time to each other

924
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 4: just and this was maybe five years ago, and from

925
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 4: then on we saw the reaction of each other and

926
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 4: we're just like, never again. We allowed ourselves to have

927
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 4: that one time.

928
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:21,760
Speaker 1: And it's like, that's good advice.

929
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 2: Guys.

930
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 1: All right, last few and we're gonna let you get

931
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 1: out of here. But this one is a cool one.

932
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: If you could get anybody who is about to go

933
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 1: in and get married, and you could say one last

934
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:37,280
Speaker 1: thing to them before they decide to make that decision,

935
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 1: to say, I do is there something you would make

936
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: sure everybody kept in mind or remind them of or

937
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: don't want to go as far as say and warn

938
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: them of. But what would you say to somebody to

939
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 1: make sure they consider before they got married.

940
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,919
Speaker 4: Communication and compromise is everything in a marriage when you're

941
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 4: dealing with completely well with us, like we're very opposite

942
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 4: in a lot of things and very similar a few.

943
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 4: I feel like compromise and communication is everything with his

944
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 4: you know, English and second language type of thing, Like

945
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 4: there's some things that he says that I would take

946
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:15,279
Speaker 4: to heart, like I want to tea or something. He

947
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 4: didn't mean it that way. It was the tone of

948
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 4: the voice, and I'm coming around to his tone. He's softened,

949
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 4: I've hardened up a little bit. And the compromise of

950
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 4: that with how each other feels with those sensitivities really

951
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:32,919
Speaker 4: helped us understand each other more.

952
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I would say I would say, just

953
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,799
Speaker 5: make sure that you want to do it. You know,

954
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 5: a lot of people want to do it for a moment,

955
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:46,799
Speaker 5: but you can't really know how it feels to do

956
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 5: it for life. But I think you can hold yourself

957
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 5: accountable a little bit in making that decision. I think kids,

958
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 5: especially younger generation nowadays, is very fast to make a

959
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 5: decision because you can also change the decision. We are

960
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 5: free to make choices. Right, well, then well then don't

961
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,720
Speaker 5: call it getting married, call it getting pre married before

962
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 5: you actually get married. And then whence you stay married,

963
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 5: then you can call it that. You know, I don't

964
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 5: know because.

965
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 6: If you're going to be jumping in and out and

966
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:21,399
Speaker 6: having kids with different people and as we say, muzzled off,

967
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:24,359
Speaker 6: but you know it's not right and it's not right

968
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:24,839
Speaker 6: that you.

969
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 5: Don't have to commit and you don't have to feel

970
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 5: that way. So I think it's much.

971
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm in a space also that just to handy

972
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 4: back onto that. I feel like, if you're not happy,

973
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,799
Speaker 4: don't stay in it for the kids.

974
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 5: That's my point one hundred million.

975
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 4: My point of view is if it's not working, better

976
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 4: to better to part ways early. I went through that

977
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 4: with my parents. I wish they parted ways. I told

978
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,480
Speaker 4: them to part ways but stuck together for the kids.

979
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 4: And you know, I love my mom to death. She's

980
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 4: the best. But now she's seventy three, and you know,

981
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 4: I would love her to find somebody else. It's different then,

982
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 4: you know, So I'm I'm I'm on that wavelength of no,

983
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 4: it's okay, it's okay to get divorced if you need

984
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 4: to do that, if it's not the right decision for

985
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 4: your family and kids.

986
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, like I'm going into marriage, it's a

987
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:30,360
Speaker 5: big decision. So if you don't take it as a

988
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 5: big decision, don't do it. Do it later, do it,

989
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 5: give a second, you know, have a kid if you

990
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 5: want to, you know, But this whole commitment stuff, it

991
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 5: has to be heavier weighted, you know.

992
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 1: Nowadays, you know that that would a hell of an

993
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 1: add because people do go back and forth. And I

994
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 1: think there's been to experience the two of us sitting

995
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 1: here have had with that very thing. And I think

996
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 1: there are other people have gotten that advice, like it

997
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 1: doesn't matter you sacrifice and you make sure you stay

998
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 1: together for the sake of the kids. That there are

999
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 1: people who we have heard give that advice and.

1000
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 5: Don't believe that at all. And I'm the guy with

1001
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 5: like family first stayed, got it, but I don't believe that.

1002
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 5: The reason why is again going back to that, the

1003
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 5: fact that the whole thing is held on us and

1004
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 5: on this relationship, in this chemistry. There's a cracking Dad.

1005
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 5: It's like a cracking foundation. You can plant, you know,

1006
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 5: put you know, flowers in your windows, but if that

1007
00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 5: building's cracked down there, it's never going to be safe.

1008
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 5: And so to be in that kind of unsafe on

1009
00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 5: the edge, will it wont it it? Will it last?

1010
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 4: Stupid? Yeah?

1011
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 5: And so it's not necessary to be in that state

1012
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 5: of stress. Go be happy somewhere else. I also have

1013
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 5: a very you know example of someone who I knew

1014
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 5: very well. She turned eighteen. The father gave a flower,

1015
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 5: said bye bye, and left on that day because he

1016
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 5: stayed just for her. She didn't even know. Her mom

1017
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:57,240
Speaker 5: didn't know, he hated the mom didn't like the daughter

1018
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 5: said that like the daughter of the relationship. The fact

1019
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 5: that it was like whatever, So you know, he has

1020
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 5: a great, happy family now and moved on with life.

1021
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 5: So you never know.

1022
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:13,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's and it's something to consider it, especially

1023
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:15,760
Speaker 2: when you've lived enough life. You know, every decision leads

1024
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 2: to the next. And you know, I remember a therapist

1025
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 2: telling me this, would you want your daughters to be

1026
00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 2: in the marriage you're in? And if the answer is no,

1027
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:29,120
Speaker 2: you're showing them that that's what marriage gets. And that

1028
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 2: a light bulb went off for me on that one.

1029
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 3: All Right, we're gonna ask you.

1030
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 2: It's kind of a cheesy question, but it's what we've

1031
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 2: ended with all of our couples. You all have been through,

1032
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 2: and it's so cool to see how much you've been through,

1033
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 2: the ups, the downs, the breakups, the fame meeting, on

1034
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 2: the job meeting, when you were with other people. What

1035
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 2: is the key to your success? What is the key

1036
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 2: not just to the fact that it's lasted, but that

1037
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 2: it's so good and you're so happy even in all

1038
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,279
Speaker 2: the chaos chemistry.

1039
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 5: I just read it easy again, just.

1040
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:06,759
Speaker 4: Being actually really are attracted to each other and we

1041
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 4: love each other.

1042
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't. We may not agree, we may not

1043
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 5: feeld some kind of way. We may after this interview

1044
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 5: move on like this like not in but right now, Okay,

1045
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 5: we're good. It's like, but we're so busy and we

1046
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 5: you know, but we we still were like, we're in it,

1047
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:31,399
Speaker 5: having this moment right here at the end of it.

1048
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 5: My feeling is like, Wow, we really are great couple.

1049
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 5: You know, we've we've gone definitely more therapy.

1050
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 4: For sure, we haven't done any therapy.

1051
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 5: As you can tell, I would need many hours because

1052
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 5: I need to speak this out. I'd rather I'd rather

1053
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 5: have one of my friends therapize us for free, because

1054
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 5: it's going to cost a lot. You can.

1055
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 1: This has been great. We keep We've said at the

1056
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 1: end of absolutely every single one of these interviews, we

1057
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 1: have personally gotten some out of it. We feel more encouraged,

1058
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: more optimistic, and we feel better about our relationship by

1059
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 1: talking to another couple. And I look, we know you

1060
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 1: all wouldn't have sat down bro though probably if you

1061
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 1: all weren't already pretty good.

1062
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 2: It's a lot of trust that the other person isn't

1063
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 2: going to throw you under the bus, right right.

1064
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,240
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, I mean that's that's also a lot of trust.

1065
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 5: And this is some of these questions is like and

1066
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:33,840
Speaker 5: she says, I'm like, oh, really cool. I mean, it's awesome.

1067
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 5: I think that's also a key to your healthy relationship.

1068
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,280
Speaker 5: You keep finding things about to check it out, speak

1069
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 5: it out, you know, change your mind, change your opinion,

1070
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,320
Speaker 5: get adjusted, and keep it moving.

1071
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. It's been so fun.

1072
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you.

1073
00:55:47,840 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 2: Thank you, because I know that this takes in a way,

1074
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 2: it takes courage to be this honest and open and

1075
00:55:55,600 --> 00:55:56,480
Speaker 2: letting people in.

1076
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:57,359
Speaker 3: But you are.

1077
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 2: You are a power couple, and you've always been a

1078
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 2: couple that we have looked up to and have been

1079
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 2: cheering on. So it was awesome to get to know

1080
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 2: this side of feel a little bit more, a lot

1081
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 2: more actually, So thank you.

1082
00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:11,080
Speaker 3: Thank you for being so willing to do this. We

1083
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Speaker 3: appreciate you so much.

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Speaker 4: Guys, thank you.