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Speaker 2: My boyfriend lied to his parents and expects me to

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Speaker 3: Well, my boyfriend and I have been together four years.

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Speaker 3: We live across the country from his parents, so this

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Speaker 3: Christmas is the first time I will actually be meeting them.

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Speaker 3: They're hosting us at their house for two weeks. I'm

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Speaker 3: siblings that still live at home. He has met my

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Speaker 3: parents quite a few times because they live in the

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Speaker 3: same area as us, and he moved here for school

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Speaker 3: about ten years ago and loved it and found a

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Speaker 3: job and stayed. Everything is going amazing. I love how

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Speaker 3: right after we moved in together two years ago, and

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Speaker 3: a relationship is just progressing naturally, we aren't really in

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Speaker 3: a rush to try to move quickly or anything. But

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Speaker 3: I will call it a very serious relationship.

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Speaker 1: Mmm.

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Speaker 3: So anyway, yesterday we boarded our six hour flight. Seemed

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Speaker 3: a little bit nervous and fidgety, but I know that

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Speaker 3: he doesn't fly very much, so I attributed it to

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Speaker 3: that and told him I was there for him if

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Speaker 3: know if I could do anything to calm his nerves.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, He said it was fine and we were

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Speaker 3: having a pretty good flight. Now, part way through the fight,

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Speaker 3: he grabs my hand and tells me he wants to

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Speaker 3: tell me something.

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Speaker 2: They're trapped on the plane. This is not good.

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Speaker 3: He tells me that his parents think that we are

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Speaker 3: a fairly new relationship. Okay, they don't know that we

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Speaker 3: live to get there. They don't know that he is

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Speaker 3: close to my family. He told them that we met

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Speaker 2: Years ago.

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Speaker 3: We had a lot of the same classes and met

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Speaker 3: tells me that they think he lives in an entirely

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Speaker 3: different city. All right, really quick, why do you think

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Speaker 3: what are your conspiracy theories on why he's lying.

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Speaker 1: Parents could be racist. I feel like we've seen that

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Speaker 1: in a few stories of his parents. All right, could

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Speaker 1: be just snooty, super entitled parents, and they're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: Like to add to her options option three, oh religious parents, religious,

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Speaker 3: we don't want them, you know, Codlaiden before Merit good one.

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Speaker 3: Ka Tera Rain says, I didn't know snakes on a

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Speaker 3: could be any of those options. Anything else we'd like

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Speaker 4: There's definitely parents have some sort of aggtations on this guy.

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Speaker 2: He's not meeting them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, the classic honestly, the classic spineless You know you

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Speaker 1: and they're not standing up, and.

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Speaker 3: Maybe he's like, oh my my parents wouldn't like this girl.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm not gonna I think.

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Speaker 2: But I don't. I really think my mom would not.

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Speaker 1: Just just her look is like something my mom would

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Speaker 3: He tells me that they think he lives in an

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Speaker 3: He told me that a few white lies about making

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Speaker 3: He gave them a totally random familial backstory on me.

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Speaker 3: So is this a red flag or a green flag?

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Speaker 2: This is a very red flag.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he is literally lied about, like his whole life,

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Speaker 1: your whole life, everything to his like his his entire.

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Speaker 2: Life is a lie to his parents, the whole That's.

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Speaker 1: Gotta be the reddest flag out there, right, all right, Riley, Right.

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Speaker 4: But I'm so curious to hear what I have to say,

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Speaker 4: green flag, because this is his way of earning an income.

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Speaker 4: So he has to put up expectations in order to

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Speaker 2: And a man with a job, you know, I just

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Speaker 4: And he probably has another job. So what do you

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Speaker 3: You're telling me a man with two full time jobs

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Speaker 1: Come on, Mingming says, black flag. Wow, that's yeah. It's

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Speaker 1: kind of like like the pirate graft. Yeah, the pirate flag.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: If this is your full time job, you let's say,

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Speaker 4: It's gonna be twenty four hours for a whole week,

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Speaker 2: Basically, you're like, this is passive incoming.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so you just makeshift this whole life in order

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Speaker 3: Red says Briley, is all about getting that paper, amen, brother.

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Speaker 2: How to make it happen. He's a provider, guy.

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Speaker 3: He's a provider. Well, let's see what this provider has

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Speaker 2: So I feel.

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Speaker 3: Extremely uncomfortable with this, And I was honestly pretty sure

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Speaker 2: That he'd made up a huge story about us and me.

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Speaker 3: I realize now I've only actually spoken to her in

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Speaker 3: trust him. You think you think, dude? Run this is

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Speaker 3: the biggest Like, not only is he lying to his

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Speaker 3: an accomplice. Yeah, he's asking you to maintain the lie.

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Speaker 3: Don't do it. Do not become an accomplice in his buffoonery.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we can't do that.

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Speaker 1: Sell us as huge red flag he's literally a professional liar.

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Speaker 3: At this point, it sounds possibly compulsive. Yeah, m great,

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Speaker 3: possibly compulsive. It makes me feel like I can't trust him.

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Speaker 3: He promised me that this is the only thing he's

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I've only lied about my whole life.

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Speaker 1: It's just one thing only. I only hooked up with

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Speaker 1: my affair partner a thousand times. But it was one person.

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Speaker 1: It was one person, was one thing. You're gonna get

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Speaker 1: mad about this one thing. He said he lied about

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Speaker 1: it because he wanted his parents to be happy. I

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Speaker 1: hate this reasoning. Yeah, you know how much we hate this.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, when people say I'm lying to keep people happy,

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Speaker 3: that is that is not the flex you think it is.

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Speaker 3: You're just lying. It's not giving anyone happy anyway. He

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Speaker 3: Would it be reasonable to assume that these are the

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Speaker 3: only lies he is told and he hasn't fabricated anything

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Speaker 3: within our relationship, John.

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Speaker 1: No, No, he is absolutely told. I mean, you got

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Speaker 1: a chance this and also like again he told like

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Speaker 1: So it's like absolutely there's other stuff. And also like

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Speaker 1: just the way of him saying like I like self prompted,

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Speaker 1: Oh I promise this is the only thing I'm lying about.

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Speaker 2: That's what a liar would.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. A man is a professional. It's like like

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Speaker 3: being like, oh, like Michael Jordan, he probably doesn't play

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Speaker 3: man is practicing. Man practicing four am shooting free throws.

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Speaker 3: He is not, right, Riley knows right.

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Speaker 4: He's also gambling a lot the what Michael Jordan loved

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Speaker 2: So he's competitive in every single nature. Yeah, it bleeds

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Speaker 2: into every part of your life. Exact golf, poker.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, slot, beating children at basketball exactly.

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Speaker 2: Michael Jordan beat children. So it was like a seventeen

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was like, oh, I'll give you these shoes

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Speaker 1: if I don't make it or something I don't win

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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, like he would.

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Speaker 1: He wouldn't let the kids win, like and it was

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Speaker 4: And there was a seventeen year old being like, I'm

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Speaker 2: Just holds up. Actually, that's pretty funny. That's pretty funny.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie, honestly, I'm that's sick anyway. Also

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Speaker 3: like I feel like for that seventeen year old, that's

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Speaker 3: probably the coolest moment ever to play with Michael Shortan. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: come on, I never told me that they didn't know

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Speaker 2: He always made it seem like they did. He's lying

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Speaker 3: I'm not really sure where to go from here or

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Speaker 3: how to tell him that I don't want to do this.

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Speaker 3: His parents paid for our tickets. Would the nice thing

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Speaker 3: him sort this out on his own when we get

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Speaker 3: home and just play along. I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 3: We got here yesterday and everyone is fabulous, But so

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Speaker 3: far I just kept my mouth shut about everything. The

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Speaker 3: first big family dinner is tonight, where I expect how

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Speaker 3: most of the conversation will be about us and what

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Speaker 3: we do, and it's gonna.

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Speaker 1: Come up and I'm not going to handle it. Relevant comments.

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Speaker 1: We got an update. We're less than a quarter through

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Speaker 1: this story. But Johnny Baha me, what do you think

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest? I think, like if I if

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Speaker 1: I was on to be honest. Yeah, first time we've

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Speaker 1: seen honesty appear in this story. I've I've always lied

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Speaker 3: All right, Well, I'm glad that you're finally, you know,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you don't want to be like Op anymore

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Speaker 1: Like you're about to get there, you can't go anywhere

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Speaker 3: And then a play back, Yeah, because I don't want

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Speaker 3: Just close my mouth and let him sort this thing

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Speaker 3: He's lying because he's afraid to disappoint his parents heard,

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Speaker 3: If he gets fired from his job, he might just

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Speaker 3: That's the level of truthfulness and integrity you can expect

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe they're like Ivy league educator people.

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Speaker 2: Have you followed him to work? Yeah? Where's your building at?

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Speaker 3: Where's your building? Yeah? Yeah, show me those designs on paper.

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Speaker 2: I think I have to.

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Speaker 3: Tell him either he just to come clean or I'm

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what does Gizzer say? I need to know? Dizzer says, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I feel like most people think of an architect as

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Speaker 3: to assume they wouldn't respect his choices unless they're crazy,

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Speaker 3: I feel betrayed for his parents. They paid his way.

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Speaker 3: It's so frustrating to feel trapped in the situation. We

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Speaker 1: It's all him, this is I don't think it's the parents,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this guy, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I feel like op he is still talking from this

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Speaker 3: Yeah no, But we got in updert update. So I

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Speaker 3: I actually decided not to go to the first family dinner,

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Speaker 3: and I'm unsure if I'm going to stay.

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Speaker 2: At this point.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I think that's okay, there we go, but I

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Speaker 2: Pretty little live, pretty pretty little lies.

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Speaker 3: It's also not simple enough for me to break away

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Speaker 2: I have a thought. Give me your thought, John.

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Speaker 1: Sop is like, I want to I want to help

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Speaker 1: I want to fix him. Here's what I would do.

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Speaker 1: It always works, so it always works. I think there

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Speaker 1: What's your plan for completely coming clean to your parents

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Speaker 1: Only if he is one hundred percent self motivated to

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Speaker 3: I think Ope may find that he's not able to

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Speaker 3: to have a big conversation. Plan is a brunch. My

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Speaker 3: I'm going to explain to them that I didn't even

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Speaker 3: We both wanted to make sure that my boyfriend came

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Speaker 3: Talking to my boyfriend, there was definitely some tears, and

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Speaker 3: I think he's going to feel so much weight off

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Speaker 3: much for the advice and support everyone. There's more relevant

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Speaker 2: And I don't. I I just don't know if it

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's I don't think it's like I'm

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Speaker 3: I think you gotta. I think you gotta do the work.

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Speaker 4: you happy because he wants to keep you in his life. Yeah,

438
00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:21,120
Speaker 4: so none of this is really coming from him.

439
00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:22,600
Speaker 2: It doesn't sit right.

440
00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,440
Speaker 1: With me yet, but hey, let me know what you

441
00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,560
Speaker 1: guys think for your answers in the chat. I would

442
00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:29,480
Speaker 1: be less skeptical if he came up with this whole plan, yeah, yeah,

443
00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 1: I would at least be less. Yeah, Like his plan

444
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you're gonna lie for me, right, that's

445
00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 1: his plan, and and and he said it on the

446
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,840
Speaker 1: like it was very much like, oh, I'm kind of

447
00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 1: like trapped you into it, and so you don't have

448
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,320
Speaker 1: much time to think or move and react.

449
00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:45,280
Speaker 2: It's so manipulative.

450
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,359
Speaker 3: Yeah no, And I think going back to what you said,

451
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,480
Speaker 3: like have him do it self motivated? This does this

452
00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:55,600
Speaker 3: feels like you're orchestrating it so it happens, which I

453
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:57,919
Speaker 3: think is the wrong move. Yeah right, Because it's like

454
00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:01,960
Speaker 3: I I do think Op can make her boyfriend tell

455
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,160
Speaker 3: the truth, But like you said, I don't think it's

456
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 3: going to be a self motivated truth. I think it's

457
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 3: going to be like trying to appease her, and that's

458
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 3: not coming from a good place. Yes, we got some

459
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 3: relevant comments. T Fresca says, is this the cultural thing?

460
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 2: Maybe? I know some ethnicities.

461
00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 3: Get so much crap from parents' kids and then just

462
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: learn to lie reflectively. Of course you should break up,

463
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 3: but since you don't want to snoop on his actual life,

464
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 3: is he likely lying about what he's lying about hope?

465
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Speaker 2: He says.

466
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Speaker 3: I don't think so. Honestly, they're pretty secular, whitebread Irish folk.

467
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Speaker 3: I honestly couldn't see it being cultural. But maybe, I

468
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 3: guess I'm not sure what Irish people are normally like

469
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 3: with their kids. Maybe this is another comment. Maybe the

470
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 3: boyfriend is lying about being an architect. I know for

471
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 3: sure he's an architect. I'm not worried about that part.

472
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Speaker 2: Genuinely. He does a lot of work from our home

473
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Speaker 2: office home office.

474
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 3: We also hosted the Christmas party for his office last

475
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Speaker 3: two years, so I know his bosses and co workers

476
00:21:56,600 --> 00:22:01,400
Speaker 3: really well hired actors. Dude, I'm one hundred percent positive

477
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 3: they would have corrected me or not mentioned him during

478
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 3: conversations and discussions about design projects. He's in a semi

479
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,680
Speaker 3: senior role at his work, and I frequently stop by

480
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:11,919
Speaker 3: his office after work. We usually meet in the reception

481
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,480
Speaker 3: area to drive home. His office also is the same

482
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 3: name and job title project manager on his door. Trust me,

483
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,639
Speaker 3: he couldn't be fabricating the career with me so close

484
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 3: and our general relationship with the office. Not trying to

485
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 3: argue with you or anything. As I'm sure there's other lives,

486
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 3: but his career and our bills are totally kosher. There's

487
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 3: no worries there. I am an industrial designer and familiar

488
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 3: enough with the career and worked in the field long

489
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,120
Speaker 3: enough that I would catch a live about his work

490
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Speaker 3: pretty instantly. My guess is that it's something to do

491
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Speaker 3: with his parents funding him and assuming he has an

492
00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 3: education degree, because that's what he told them he was

493
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Speaker 3: taking for some reason, whether he knew right away that

494
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 3: wasn't what he was going to do or changed once

495
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 3: he got to school, I honestly have no idea. We

496
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,959
Speaker 3: haven't had time, we haven't we hadn't met yet at

497
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Speaker 3: that time. The reason is so strange and frustrating for me.

498
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,160
Speaker 3: Because he has a.

499
00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 1: Fabulous career and we got update number three coming right up.

500
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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

501
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 3: It feels like so much to have to type out,

502
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 3: so I'm going to try to condense it to be

503
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 3: as straightforward as simple as possible. Basically, the brunch went

504
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 3: really well. I was very impressed with my boyfriend. He

505
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 3: was actually really forthcoming and laid pretty much everything out.

506
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 3: He apologized to me and his parents, and he gave

507
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Speaker 3: me an opportunity to tell them anything I wanted to

508
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,880
Speaker 3: tell them about my actual family and my actual life.

509
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 3: They were really interested, and it was really refreshing to

510
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 3: just start getting to know someone on an honest level.

511
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:42,160
Speaker 3: He basically came clean about absolutely everything, including some other

512
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 3: personal stuff that I didn't even know about that he

513
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 3: had told both myself and them, so there are more lies.

514
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 3: He apologized and promised he was going to take steps

515
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 3: to earn our trust back, including therapy. It really actually

516
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 3: felt like it brought us closer together. His parents were

517
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 3: quite hurt and initially upset, but I think it really

518
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 3: did a lot for what they thought of me as

519
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 3: a partner for their son and future daughter in law,

520
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 3: which I'm really happy about. They were really supportive in

521
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 3: the end and told him that basically, at the end

522
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 3: of the day, he is still loved and they just

523
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,120
Speaker 3: will have to start building the trust up again. I'm

524
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 3: going to continue staying at their house now and they

525
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,439
Speaker 3: will tell his siblings together. I actually ended up sitting

526
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 3: down for a cup of tea at their place with

527
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 3: his mom, and she did explain to me that she's

528
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 3: going to talk to him privately about the pressure he

529
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 3: might have felt to lie to them. I guess they

530
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 3: realize now that they put more pressure on him than

531
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 3: any of the other kids because he was originally going

532
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,480
Speaker 3: to follow in his dad's footsteps as an English teacher.

533
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 3: He told me that she really likes me and she

534
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 3: hopes it doesn't affect my view of their family or

535
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 3: her son. And also she thanked me for pushing for

536
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: honesty and she can't wait for the opportunity to get

537
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Speaker 3: closer to us. By the way, if you want to

538
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545
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Speaker 2: do it.

546
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 3: But my boyfriend also seems so much more open to

547
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 3: having conversations about coming back and having them come stay

548
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 3: with us. It really worked out in the long run

549
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,439
Speaker 3: for me to not make any hasty decisions because I'm

550
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 3: really happy with how this turned out.

551
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 2: To me.

552
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 3: Just seems like mistakes on both ends that culminated in

553
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 3: really bad choices on his end. Thank you again everyone

554
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 3: for the advice. It seems like OP he took none

555
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 3: of the advice that the internet gave. Yeah, but I'm

556
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 3: glad it ended well. But I don't know if it

557
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 3: actually ends like I'm just.

558
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 4: A boyfriend Doe what she talked to the boyfriend she mentioned, Yeah,

559
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 4: she thought she was like, I'm just gonna play along

560
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,360
Speaker 4: with it because they bought me a flat.

561
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:55,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, character development. I think this is good step. Yeah,

562
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 3: I just I just don't I think this is a

563
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 3: great step. I just don't think it's a.

564
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like OP is like brushing

565
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 2: it under the rug too quickly.

566
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, And maybe it's one of those things

567
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,919
Speaker 1: where it's like, is it possible. Yeah, it's like a

568
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 1: point one percent like thing, if one point one percent

569
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: chance of someone just kind of like, you know what,

570
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna completely change a born again you know,

571
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 1: truth is a born again not liar being like, Okay,

572
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just gonna I'm gonna come out and

573
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell the truth, and I'm gonna you know.

574
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 2: Is it possible.

575
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:35,479
Speaker 1: I think so, But it's it's that's it's it's a

576
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:36,159
Speaker 1: long shot.

577
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 2: It's very unlikely. That's That's what I'll say about.

578
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just I'm just not entirely convinced, but I

579
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 3: would love to know what you guys think.

580
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 2: In the comments, they're both twenty eight. Also, that's old. Wow.

581
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,199
Speaker 2: I was just I was just surprised they're acting this

582
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 2: way to say.

583
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly at the old old age. Dude to twenty

584
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:58,119
Speaker 3: eight year old should know better. Oh dude, actually, dude,

585
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: literally like here the word twenty eight couple. Sorry, hearing

586
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: that number come out of my mouth just makes me

587
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,120
Speaker 3: if I knew two twenty eight year olds, I might Yeah, dude,

588
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 3: I might have to am I at that to twenty

589
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 3: eight year olds, you know, mercy kill Oh.

590
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Speaker 1: God, But that is where that story, but not where

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Speaker 2: Oh God.

598
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Speaker 1: So my girlfriend and I have been together for almost

599
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Speaker 1: two years now and she's the only girl I have

600
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Speaker 1: ever dated. I love her so much, but she can

601
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Speaker 1: be really insensitive sometimes and I'm starting to think I

602
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Speaker 1: might not be able to get over this one.

603
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:50,919
Speaker 2: God. So here's what happened.

604
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Speaker 1: Jeez, you can't get over it, but she got over it.

605
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 1: You gotta get on your brother, and it's all over

606
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: your brother.

607
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Speaker 2: Oh God.

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Speaker 1: time stop reddits. So we were laying in bed talking

612
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: about fantasies and stuff.

613
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 2: Oh God, I do I hate where this is going.

614
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,679
Speaker 1: I see you in the chat and she started telling

615
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 1: me about how she's always had this fantasy of being

616
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: dominated by a really muscular tall guy. At first, I

617
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: didn't care. Hey, honestly, I saw this. I saw this

618
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: man drenched and soup in his in his underpants yesterday.

619
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Speaker 2: I was wrenched.

620
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 4: What was that one story? I had a hard I

621
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 4: had a heart on. What I remember the kiddy being

622
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 4: all over the mattress, the kitty wetness all over the mattress.

623
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 4: He said, I had a heart on. Yeah, that's yeah,

624
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 4: me too, Me too, john O.

625
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 2: I don't understand.

626
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 4: He was running around in his underwear, and I was

627
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 4: like I had heard on a wait.

628
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 2: What did he you had a heart on when I

629
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: was running in my underwear? Yes, yes, I did. Not

630
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: at work, right, Oh god?

631
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: Not at what someone called the head of hr Christian

632
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,480
Speaker 1: clean up this mess. I was laughing about and saying, well, sorry,

633
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: I can't help you with that, unless you're willing to

634
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: give me a few years to hit the gym and

635
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: see if I can pull it off. It didn't matter

636
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: to me because it was just a fantasy. And it's

637
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: not like I don't have any fantasies secure so far.

638
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,479
Speaker 1: Oh god, yeah, but I see I see I see you,

639
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: I see you.

640
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: There's something coming, dude. There's an easy counter to this.

641
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 2: What is it? You just start describing her sister or

642
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: her mom. Yeah, dud, she definitely has a mom. Everyone

643
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 2: has a mom.

644
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: Going tit for tat emphasis on not the tat, oh boy.

645
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: But then she says, well, you can never be that.

646
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: I'm talking about someone like your brother.

647
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 2: Oh Jagger to the.

648
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: My brother is like six' five and a former defensive linem.

649
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: Yep so this man is a.

650
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: Building oh my, god this man is a, building brick house.

651
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: Building this man is.

652
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 2: So, dude this is so. Bad this is so.

653
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Speaker 1: Bad so he said, sensitive this is this is straight

654
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Speaker 1: light like firing.

655
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Speaker 2: Squad this is a.

656
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 1: Brother when she said, THAT i told, her excuse, me

657
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Speaker 1: what's that supposed to?

658
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: Mean you know what it?

659
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: MEANS i, mean what else do you say to that? Dude,

660
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: like oh, GOD i Would oh could you? IMAGINE i

661
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: haven't okay, Story but, no, guys you're gonna you're gonna

662
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: want to stick around to the end of the episode

663
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:54,719
Speaker 1: for this.

664
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 2: ONE i feel LIKE i feel like we get it

665
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 2: doing it? Now or is this a little end of story?

666
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 2: Treat what do you? Think give us a little it's,

667
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 2: short give it to.

668
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 3: Us SO i had this ex and we were talking, about,

669
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 3: like you, know like past relationship, mishaps just like bad

670
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 3: dates and potential. Topic, yeah and AND i tell a

671
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: story and then she's, like, OH i have a crazy.

672
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 3: Story went on a date with this guy and he

673
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:24,719
Speaker 3: was talking up about like how his like you, know

674
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 3: his his member is shaped in a certain way and

675
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 3: it always makes like girls. Come and then she's like,

676
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 3: yeah and so when he came, OVER i came, Instantly

677
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 3: and that.

678
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 2: Was the whole, Story like why would you tell me that?

679
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 4: Story there's the bar everyone, is why would you tell

680
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 4: me that that?

681
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 2: Story there it is there's nothing.

682
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: For me in that. Story so now it's it's either

683
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: instant or. No, yeah she said it was shaped like a,

684
00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: mushroom And i'm, like they all are really. Ish she,

685
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: said oh, No i'm in it like body type, wise

686
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: that's the body Type i'm attracted.

687
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 2: To how is this? Helping is not? Hell? Thing SO

688
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 2: i told, her so.

689
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: You're saying you're more attracted to my brother than you

690
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: are to. Me this is just getting so much worse

691
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: by the. Second she, said, well, yeah but just physical.

692
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: Attraction you can't get mad at me for having a Tight.

693
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 1: OBVIOUSLY i was livid WHEN i heard, that BUT i

694
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,719
Speaker 1: didn't want to See, petty SO i ended that.

695
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 2: Conversation you don't have to See. Petty this is. CRAZY i,

696
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 2: yeah this is.

697
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 1: Crazy, also, okay this next, sentence keep in, Mind i'm not.

698
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 2: Short i'm six. One, yeah man's. Tall come, on man's, tall,

699
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,959
Speaker 2: dude but not. Built but he's not A he's not a.

700
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 2: Building you're not looking like your, brother not a.

701
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: Wall And i'm definitely not, muscular But i'm not too skinny.

702
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: Either so now my best friend thinks it's disrespectful and

703
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: THAT i should break up with. Her to be, honest

704
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: my self esteem is taking a big. Hit, yeah, yes

705
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: but is this really a good enough reason to break

706
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 1: up with? Someone SHOULD i bring it up with her

707
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: again and tell her how OFFENDED i? Am or just

708
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: let it? Go we have an. Edit we're about to

709
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: dive into a couple edits and. More but just to

710
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: quickly answer, this should we bring it? Up what should

711
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 1: we what should we do? Here should we bring? It

712
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: should we break? Up how long should.

713
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:19,719
Speaker 2: He bring it? Up two?

714
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 4: Years op is twenty, two girlfriend is twenty and brother

715
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 4: is twenty.

716
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: Six brother that adds.

717
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 3: Context, YEAH i feel like you probably should talk to

718
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 3: her about it if you want to stay in the.

719
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 2: Relationship definitely talk to her about.

720
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 3: IT i maybe she's like doesn't understand social cues and

721
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 3: doesn't understand why that would. Hurt it sounds like that's

722
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 3: what is my, Man but, dang, YEAH i maybe she's

723
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 3: so devalues physical attraction that it's, like, yeah, like, yeah

724
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 3: Obviously i'm more attracted him because he's way, hotter but

725
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: LIKE i just.

726
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 2: Don't i'm, LIKE i don't really care that much about, hotness.

727
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: But LIKE i don't, know like they're talking about LIKE

728
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: i don't. KNOW i feel LIKE i feel like she's.

729
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 1: Laughing it's pretty feel like she's IN i think it's

730
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 1: a red flag for. SURE i don't know if that

731
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 1: would be a hard one to come. Back, Yeah and

732
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: AND i think like to the question of like SHOULD

733
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: i bring it, up it's, like, yes you you are

734
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 1: very allowed to be hurt by that and be, like,

735
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 1: HEY i was hurt blot by. That that's the bare.

736
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: MINIMUM i think there is a world in which you

737
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 1: can talk through. This but, yeah, DANG i, mean LIKE

738
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 1: i can see it's it's so reasonable for him to be, like,

739
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 1: now like our our intimacy is just it's just clouded

740
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 1: by that, LIKE.

741
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 3: I guess someone's got to just hit the gym and

742
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 3: get some games and maybe some some, lifts get some platform.

743
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 3: Shoes needs, creatine ron needs. Creating Bro bro's gonna hit

744
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 3: the Iron. Church she's gonna you, know you, know pump

745
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 3: out the.

746
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 2: Pain you. Know Oh, God so he's gonna be pumping all,

747
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 2: right or brother Is but we haven't Had sean, rude

748
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 2: we haven't had. It We i'm so, sorry.

749
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: Guys, hey, Guys SO i didn't get to read all the.

750
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: Comments there's so many of. THEM i can, imagine BUT

751
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: i feel Like i've got to clarify. This LIKE i mentioned,

752
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 1: EARLIER i don't really have a problem with her being

753
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 1: attracted to a different body. Type i'm attracted to a

754
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: different body type than. Hers AND i also don't have

755
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: any problems with her fantasy of her wanting to be

756
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 1: dominated by said body. Type i've got my own. Fantasies

757
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: my problem is her saying that it's with my. Brother

758
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: that is the most fair. Thing, Yeah opie's BEING i

759
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: think totally secure in like all of the Other, Dude

760
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 1: i'm so GLAD i don't have a. Brother always kind

761
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 1: of one of a. BROTHER i, MEAN i just this

762
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 1: just because of this specific. Situation this specific situation is

763
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: making me THANKFUL i don't have a six four muscular.

764
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 4: Brother yeah, yeah my brothers are going to turn into.

765
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 2: That you're little. Ones i'm the.

766
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 4: RUN i was eight pounds six sounds as they were

767
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 4: all like pushing ten pounds when they were.

768
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 2: Born it's. Crazy how are they? Now? Huh how tar

769
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:01,399
Speaker 2: are they?

770
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: Now?

771
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 4: Dude sawyer is taller than my. Mom he's like five

772
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 4: seven right.

773
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: Now what percentile is that for his age for.

774
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 4: A twelve year? OLD i have to look into, that

775
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 4: BUT i. DON'T i think like maybe eighty percent for.

776
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:18,919
Speaker 1: Sure but, anyways back To OPI's tall problems at at number.

777
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 1: Two after reading some of the, comments a lot of

778
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: people seem to think that this will lead to her

779
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,760
Speaker 1: cheating with. Him, HONESTLY i don't see that happening because

780
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: she really hates, cheaters and even if she wanted to do,

781
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: it there's no chance in heck that my brother does.

782
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 2: That, hey shout out to a, BROTHER i. Guess more

783
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 2: relevant comments.

784
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:36,720
Speaker 1: Imagine if you told her you're attracted to her friend

785
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: with bigger front airbags and a bigger, butt or that

786
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 1: she's not as attractive as your or that she's not

787
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 1: as attractive as your other, friends and then also tell

788
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: her that she'll never be like. That she would be

789
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 1: pissed as all heck and and would give you, crap

790
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: and rightfully, so because that is effed, up you, know

791
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: good point put put put it in the Other it's

792
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: truly something how she'll tell you easily she's attracted to

793
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 1: someone else physically more than, you her own. Boyfriend it's

794
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 1: also more hurtful how she said you can never be

795
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 1: that and uses your brother as an example of what

796
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: she's attracted.

797
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 2: You, again it's using the brother as an. Example that

798
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: was the nail in the. Coffin it's.

799
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 1: Demeaning even though it might sound like an honest comment from,

800
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 1: her it's still insensitive of her to say that there

801
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,839
Speaker 1: are things that people should just know not to say

802
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:26,759
Speaker 1: to others and or say out. Loud if you love

803
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 1: her and want to keep this relationship, going you have

804
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 1: to sit her down and have an honest conversation about.

805
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: This tell her that her insensitive, comments while sounding like

806
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: harmless comments to, her actually hurt you and make you feel.

807
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 1: Uncomfortable tell her that if you want to make comments

808
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: about her whether they're about her, weight, looks closed, body.

809
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 1: Etc she would feel uncomfortable and would not like it at.

810
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 2: All, yeah put in. Perspective put it in.

811
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: Perspective, YEAH i agree with everything this commentary is. Saying right,

812
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 1: now just let her know. This maybe she might understand

813
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 1: if you show, her if you show her that her

814
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 1: comments can calme off as hurt and that sometimes she

815
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: just needs to keep her words in comments to. Herself

816
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: if afterwards she still doesn't, understand then maybe you have

817
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: to rethink your relationship with. HER i think that's good

818
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: to see how she. Reacts you, know that's a good.

819
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 1: Point think about. It will you really lower your self

820
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 1: esteem and confidence hit rock bottom because of your? Girlfriend

821
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: no one deserves to be told that they'll never be

822
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: what others are. That, Yeah actually that is such a

823
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 1: good call. Out it was that that follow up comment is,

824
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: like oh you'll never be? That, yeah that She lily

825
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: just kept piling.

826
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 2: On.

827
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: YEAH i think it's debatable that that one's even worse.

828
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 2: Than the brother.

829
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 1: One, yeah because it's, like, hey you Will it's almost

830
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 1: like saying you will never be WHAT i am fully attracted.

831
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 3: To, yeah and it's pretty messed. Up it's pretty messed.

832
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 3: Up that that's a that's a triple hit combo right.

833
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 3: There that's a ko oh.

834
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: Yeah find someone who respects you first and foremost and

835
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 1: loves you for your traits that you possessed now as

836
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 1: well as your.

837
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 2: Flaws yeah, yeah, yeah your flaw of being six.

838
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,919
Speaker 1: Old like, wow some one who can help you grow

839
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: and develop as a person that has good character and

840
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: a good.

841
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 2: Heart And ope responds this. Comment thanks for the. Advice

842
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 2: i'll try this. Approach that was a quick. Response that

843
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 2: was a quick.

844
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: Response this is the equivalent of you telling her you

845
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 1: wish she looked more like your favorite corn. Stars it

846
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: ruins woman's self esteem in the same way she ruined.

847
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,360
Speaker 1: Yours but when you know the person they're close to,

848
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: you it hurts way.

849
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 2: More, yeah it's. Real that's like real. Life this isn't

850
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 2: something you need to.

851
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: Forgive if you find it intolerable to think, About i'd

852
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: say to give it time for you to think it,

853
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: over but don't be harsh on yourself if you can't

854
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: move past. It everyone has their. Limits and we have

855
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: an update. POLL i want you to guess not whether

856
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: they should break up or, not but guess if they break.

857
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: UP i think they are breaking. UP i think they're breaking.

858
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 1: UP i hope they break.

859
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 2: Up for some. Reason something in me is saying that

860
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 2: they're going.

861
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 1: To stay together FOR i don't know my, reddit my

862
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 1: redditit senses ARE.

863
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 2: I, mean it's Just i'm going two.

864
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 3: Years, yeah it is two years a, while BUT i

865
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 3: feel like this is just so it's just so.

866
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 2: Insensitive it's yeah and so far.

867
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 3: It's a triple. Hit it's just like boom boom. Boom

868
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 3: she didn't hold, up doesn't feel like she's. Remorseful, No.

869
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 3: No her follow up to like like what are you?

870
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: Saying basically, like, hey why are you saying this is

871
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 1: like oh, no it's just like something you'll never. Be, yeah, okay,

872
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:24,399
Speaker 1: great thanks for making it ten times.

873
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 2: Worse, yeah it's an exactly hit like you.

874
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 1: Said, yeah people are basically it looks like people are

875
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: saying they're going to break. Up i'm a hold out

876
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 1: with my my twenty percent stay gang for.

877
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 2: NOW i mean it is two.

878
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 3: YEARS i think they should have a, conversation but it's

879
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 3: pretty unacceptable to say something like. THAT i don't think

880
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 3: it's breakup worthy in, itself BUT i do think this

881
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 3: show is a general disregard for your. Feelings AND i

882
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 3: think if she doesn't show some kind of, REMORSE i

883
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 3: think that like rudeness and that hurtfulness would come back.

884
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 1: Again you've heard of the orange, test but have you

885
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,439
Speaker 1: heard of the linebacker brother. Test, uh it's a test

886
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: as well as. Time it's a tricky. One but ladies and,

887
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 1: gentlemen we've got something even trickier this next. Updates all,

888
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: right Said Hey's John og. Host we're gonna get back

889
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 1: to the, stories but a quick three minute break of

890
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 1: ads from our. Sponsors, hey, Guys so it turns OUT

891
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: i might have been overreacting a little.

892
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 2: Bit WHAT.

893
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 4: I was not expecting that or my girlfriend SAID i was, overreacting.

894
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 1: Overreacting and she's not with my brother and they're hanging.

895
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 2: Out it's. Great you Know sam's.

896
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: OVERREACTING i don't want to say anything even IF i.

897
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 1: Did you, Know, OH I i'm just a scrawny six one.

898
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 1: DUDE i sat her down yesterday and started telling her

899
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 1: how UNCOMFORTABLE i felt because of what she, said and

900
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: explained to her THAT i was hurt because of what

901
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: she said because she knows how competitive my brother AND

902
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: i can.

903
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 2: Be at that, point If i'm being.

904
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: HONEST i was fully prepared to break up with her

905
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: if she didn't get, it especially because almost all of

906
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: the comments on the first post were saying that this

907
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 1: is a sign of. Disrespect but she then said she

908
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 1: didn't realize how messed up the comment she made was

909
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 1: until after it, happened and she swear she's never even

910
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: thought about him that, way and that she was just

911
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: thinking of guys who had the body type she was talking.

912
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 4: About so you never had that thought, before but the

913
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 4: second you had that, thought he popped in there.

914
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: Immediately what's, Worse he's the first guy that came to

915
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: My all of her explanations make it, worse RIGHT i.

916
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 3: DO i, mean of the terrible explanations that she's, had

917
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 3: this one is the best in the arsenal, Right but

918
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 3: it's like, saying, LIKE i don't, know the rubber bullet

919
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 3: is the best thing to, play what's the Thing Russian roulette? With,

920
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 3: yeah it's like it's still gonna, hurt it's still To,

921
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: yeah you don't want.

922
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 2: To put that on your. Temple you might knock yourself,

923
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 2: out yourself brain.

924
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 1: Damage, YEAH opi he's got some ct right. Now she

925
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 1: also said that there's no other guy she'd rather be

926
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 1: with a spicy a spicy sleepwise or. Romantically she seemed

927
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: really immorseful about the whole, thing and even said that

928
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: IF i had said the same thing about one of her,

929
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: friends it would have unalived her spirit and she Would

930
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: and she just kept, apologizing calling herself stupid and asking

931
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 1: If i'm mad at. Her SO i told her to

932
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 1: just forget about. It AND i know she doesn't think

933
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 1: before she speaks, sometimes And i'm glad to know that

934
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 1: she didn't mean anything by.

935
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 2: It just real.

936
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 1: QUICK i don't think you need to, uh totally dismiss your.

937
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: Feelings, yeah it's, like.

938
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: Hey i'm still kinda gonna get over gonna need to

939
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 1: get over it or process, it you. Know SO i

940
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: appreciate the the remorse and, everything but.

941
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 3: Like, hey you know what she. Did she did come

942
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 3: with an. Apology she did, though that has to be

943
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:38,359
Speaker 3: lauded a little.

944
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 1: Bit AND i think it is possible that we can,

945
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:44,360
Speaker 1: recover that we can, recover and that she's being that

946
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: she's being one hundred percent genuine.

947
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 2: ALL i think it's. POSSIBLE i think's. Possible, agreed, agreed.

948
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: Everything worked out for the best And i've decided That

949
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 1: i'm going to try to be less insecure from now,

950
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 1: on And i'll also try try to stop overreacting to

951
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 1: stuff like.

952
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 2: That, again it definitely wasn't an.

953
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 1: Overreaction, yes, OVERREACTION i, think be like calling her names

954
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 1: and being.

955
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: Vicious you you were beyond understand.

956
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: It let your feelings be, free be, free like it's okay.

957
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 2: You you didn't do anything you know bad or. DESTRUCTIVE i,

958
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 2: think over, yeah it doesn't seem like.

959
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,840
Speaker 1: It thanks to everyone who gave me, advice especially the

960
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: top comment from a previous.

961
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 2: Post thanks for that helpful advice and. EDIT i read

962
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 2: some of the.

963
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 1: Comments and to all the people who think that she's

964
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 1: lying and then did she going to cheat on?

965
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 4: Me?

966
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 2: Eventually let me tell you, THIS i know for a

967
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 2: fact that she was telling the.

968
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: Truth, okay we've got some sort of super, secret you,

969
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:37,280
Speaker 1: know source of. TRUTH i can tell whenever she's, LYING

970
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: i can tell that's that's that's.

971
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 2: It just trust, me, Bro just trust, Me.

972
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 1: Bro we've known each other for a long time and

973
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,280
Speaker 1: she's not a very good, liar AND i can safely

974
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 1: say that she would never cheat on.

975
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 2: Me she's not that kind of. Person comment number.

976
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: One i'm happy for you one sticking up for yourself

977
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,400
Speaker 1: and to that your girlfriend acknowledges your, feelings and we

978
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: have update number.

979
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 3: TWO i think she did do a good, thing, yep

980
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 3: by owning up to, it and he did a good

981
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 3: thing by expressing his. FEELINGS i just feel like the

982
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 3: one THING i would like is not for him to

983
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 3: be so apologetic about and say he's, overreacting BECAUSE i

984
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 3: REALLY i don't think anyone in chat or any of

985
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 3: us believes what he did was an Overreacting.

986
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 2: Sylla, says he's entitled to his. Feelings, yeah, Exactly AND i.

987
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 1: Think that it's a good thing and a very healthy

988
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 1: thing in a relationship to not have BECAUSE i think

989
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: the next time something like this, happens, like, Oh i'm

990
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 1: just overreacting AND i should. Be he's being perfectly. Reasonable,

991
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: YEAH i, agreed you, know. Agreed But i'll also give

992
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: it up To Liz wentz common in chat, saying let's

993
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 1: see how it plays.

994
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: Out, yeah we got another. Update we got another. Update all,

995
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 2: right let's, see we'll see if she continues her good.

996
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 1: Streak the Girlfriend update number, Two so we made up

997
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 1: like a week, ago things kind of went back to

998
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: normal for a. While uh, oh until until we got

999
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: into a fight.

1000
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 2: Over my coworker texting at four.

1001
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: Am it was work related, Stuff i'm, new SO i

1002
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:05,760
Speaker 1: asked her for some, help but she got really upset

1003
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: for some, reason even even AFTER i showed her the

1004
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: text and there was clearly nothing going.

1005
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 2: On is he? PROJECTING i THINK i think she's.

1006
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: Projecting, OH i see, YOU i see, YOU i see.

1007
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: You she got mad and shouting at, me Said i'm

1008
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: being very suspicious by not setting boundaries with my. Friends

1009
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: WHEN i told her she was, overreacting she flat out,

1010
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 1: said don't act like you didn't go. Crazy WHEN i

1011
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 1: SAID i wanted to f your.

1012
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:43,400
Speaker 5: Brother, no, no, no no, no she said that the

1013
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:44,399
Speaker 5: silent part out.

1014
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 2: Loud no, Gotcha, no you've been caught own. Handy, no

1015
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,839
Speaker 2: and you know, what you know what she said it out.

1016
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 2: Loud you know what she failed. Before but this is the.

1017
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: TRUTH i THINK i think that the way they had

1018
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:07,080
Speaker 1: that initial, conversation she made him feel like he was

1019
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: overreacting because she, said don't act like you didn't go

1020
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 1: crazy like.

1021
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 2: That you, overreacted you, Know holy, moly she is so.

1022
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 2: Projecting ali says she's a.

1023
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 3: CHEATER i don't want to go that, far BUT i

1024
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 3: also at the same, part DO i want to go that?

1025
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 1: Far let's go? There, okay let's go, there all. Right

1026
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 1: it honestly took me like a minute to process what

1027
00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: she just. SAID i am so shocked so And i'm

1028
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: not proud of. THIS i got really mad, too and

1029
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 1: said some nasty stuff about, her and she said some

1030
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 1: nasty stuff about.

1031
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 3: Me and, yeah it's pretty much. Over, HONESTLY i think probably.

1032
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 3: Good we called. It we called, it can we freaking called?

1033
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 2: It called? It you didn't call?

1034
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 4: No?

1035
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 2: Sorry sorry? Sorry you called it the. RELATIONSHIP i called.

1036
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:52,800
Speaker 2: IT i called.

1037
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 3: It john was, like they're staying. Together there's a weird.

1038
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 3: Feeling oh, WELL i guess you called it for the

1039
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 3: first up. DAY i called it for the third.

1040
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 2: Up no, YOU i. DIDN'T i didn't believe. It you

1041
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: you you got. That you got.

1042
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 4: That it's a happy, ending you, know you get the

1043
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 4: coworker and she gets your.

1044
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 2: Brother oh, god that's what happens. That oh. Man so

1045
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 2: that was all five days, ago still.

1046
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 1: Fresh at, FIRST i was just so pissed at her

1047
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:20,839
Speaker 1: THAT i was glad she's. Gone but now it's kind

1048
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:22,919
Speaker 1: of hitting me that it's really. Over and it's hard

1049
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,440
Speaker 1: to believe BECAUSE i always assumed we'd end up. TOGETHER

1050
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 1: i never even imagined myself with someone. Else so, yeah

1051
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: even though she really pissed me off and sets the

1052
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 1: messed up, STUFF i still wanted to be with her

1053
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 1: and really thought about. Mix, dude your brother thinking we're

1054
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 1: thinking he's going to hit you, know and do all this.

1055
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 1: Stuff it was, like were you there when we read

1056
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: the story about the person who she liked this guy's uh,

1057
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,840
Speaker 1: Fiance so she started like dyeing her hair and like

1058
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:53,400
Speaker 1: stealing her.

1059
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: Makeup, yeah all that. Stuff, yeah it's like she goes

1060
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 2: down that.

1061
00:48:56,520 --> 00:49:01,000
Speaker 1: Route but then, yesterday my brother's, ex she's a friend

1062
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,799
Speaker 1: of a FRIEND i see her, occasionally told me that

1063
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 1: she noticed my. Brother my girlfriend was flirty WHEN i

1064
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: went with my brother once at a party last. Year

1065
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 1: do not tell me that the brother actually did. Something

1066
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:20,840
Speaker 1: please don't tell me. That Please, now to be, honest

1067
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: THAT x isn't the most credible. Source she's known for

1068
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 1: a lot of, bs and WHEN i Asked josh about,

1069
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: IT i believe his. Brother he told me that's never

1070
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,840
Speaker 1: happened and he would not lie about. That so either

1071
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 1: she's lying or he just didn't, notice WHICH i think

1072
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:38,080
Speaker 1: is still possible regardless of what whether it is true or,

1073
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 1: not it just made me realize THAT i wouldn't be

1074
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: able to get it out of my. Head and maybe

1075
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 1: it was a me. Problem i'm not, sure but her

1076
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: attitude about it definitely didn't. Help so even though it,

1077
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: HURTS i blocked her beleeted all the pictures and all

1078
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: of that.

1079
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 2: Stuff i'm ready to start moving.

1080
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,239
Speaker 1: On life's kind of weird right, now BUT i just

1081
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 1: got employed, recently my first real, job And i'm excited,

1082
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: that So i'm going to be okay. AGAIN i just

1083
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 1: wanted to thank everyone for the great. Advice thanks and

1084
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 1: some relevant. Comments WHEN i SAID i wanted to f your,

1085
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: brother so it was, him not just his body. Type,

1086
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: Yeah i'm honestly just wondering how the f you were

1087
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: supposed to set boundaries with your coworker when you're. New,

1088
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: yeah this was it was exacting.

1089
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 2: Projecting what are you supposed to tell every girl at the?

1090
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 1: OFFICE whoa make sure you don't ever text me Though

1091
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: i've got a girlfriend buster.

1092
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 2: That's like SOMEONE i.

1093
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 1: Know, huh oh my, GOD i. Know we met three

1094
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 1: days ago but don't even think about, it. Missy, seriously

1095
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:43,439
Speaker 1: what the f sounds like she was trying to start

1096
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 1: a fight over nothing for the sake of.

1097
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 2: It to be, honest you are better. Off whoa and

1098
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 2: we have a third.

1099
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:52,399
Speaker 1: Update there's a third. Up there's a third. UPDATE i wasn't.

1100
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: PREPARED i thought we were. ENDING i, thought oh my,

1101
00:50:55,800 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 1: god are we? Ready my story senses are. TINGLING i

1102
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 1: feel like the brother and her have done. Something Now i'm.

1103
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 1: Afraid i'm a little. Afraid Now i'm. Afraid i'm hoping not.

1104
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 2: Well there's only one way to find. Out Oh, god

1105
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: is it?

1106
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: Okay IF i twenty two male ask out my ex

1107
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: girlfriend's best friend twenty female plot mother freaking best whip.

1108
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 1: Friend this is this is this is peak twenty year

1109
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:36,839
Speaker 1: old activity radio short short answered that THAT i don't

1110
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 1: think that's a good. Idea, YEAH i don't think that's

1111
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:43,399
Speaker 1: a good. Idea give yourself some, time some, time give

1112
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: your some some. Space, dude she's going to be around.

1113
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:48,759
Speaker 1: There you're that girl is going to be around your.

1114
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 1: Brother so, hey, guys first of, ALL i just want

1115
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 1: to say That i'm not doing to doing it to

1116
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 1: hurt my ex or. Anything like. That i'm just honestly

1117
00:52:00,560 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: so attracted to her. Friend ope that we gotta we

1118
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 1: got a chill a little, bit a little late to

1119
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 1: the ball game, here. Man that conversation was weeks. Ago yeah, yeah,

1120
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 1: yeah see that was the rebuttal that you should have thrown.

1121
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: It oh my.

1122
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 1: God my ex AND i broke up about a month

1123
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 1: ago because she said she had some fantasy to be

1124
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: spicily dominated by my, brother to which she started a

1125
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 1: fight AND i kind of escalated from.

1126
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 2: There i've posted about it.

1127
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 1: BEFORE i realized this whole thing looks bad on my

1128
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: side and that people will probably Think i'm gonna go

1129
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 1: out with her friend out of spite or just to

1130
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 1: make her jealous or something like.

1131
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 2: That BUT i swear that's not. IT i really really

1132
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 2: like this.

1133
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:43,760
Speaker 1: Girl she's funny as heck and really, cute and she watches.

1134
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 2: Football.

1135
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:48,439
Speaker 3: FOOTBALL i, mean she's probably gonna be watching your, brother

1136
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:49,280
Speaker 3: who's the defensive.

1137
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: Lineman, Broke you're just having a girl after girl going

1138
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 1: after your. Brother he's, like oh, wait, Wait John, Smith,

1139
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:01,240
Speaker 1: like is your Brother Rob?

1140
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:04,400
Speaker 2: Smith whoa of the you know This smith?

1141
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:08,399
Speaker 1: FROM i don't know if you know, this BUT i

1142
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: really like football and you know WHAT i love more than?

1143
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:15,880
Speaker 2: Football football. Players are you ready for? This they love? Football,

1144
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 2: Right he's, Like, hey let's go to the bar and

1145
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 2: let's catch a game. Together pulls up to the. Bar,

1146
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:25,720
Speaker 2: yep whose jersey is she? Wearing? His she's wearing the brother's.

1147
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 1: JERSEY i can see, it, DUDE i can see it

1148
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 1: as clear as.

1149
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 2: Day So i've got a major crush on.

1150
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: Her we've been texting constantly for two weeks AND i

1151
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: can tell she likes me. Too she's being super flirty

1152
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:40,840
Speaker 1: and calling me cute and. STUFF i really want to

1153
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 1: go out with, her but at the same, TIME i

1154
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 1: don't want to be that.

1155
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 2: Guy, dude you're gonna be that.

1156
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:48,120
Speaker 3: Guy do you have any indicator that she's into, you,

1157
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:50,760
Speaker 3: because like you, realize.

1158
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: This is so, risky, dude so. Risky you need to tell, Her, hey,

1159
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: like you're my girlfriend's best.

1160
00:53:58,200 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 2: FRIEND i just got to have a.

1161
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 1: Relationship you're really, Cool but LIKE i think we need

1162
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: to if she's actually friends with your, girl if she's

1163
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: best for any if she's best friends with your ex,

1164
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 1: girlfriend if she goes out with, you then she is

1165
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,160
Speaker 1: a terrible.

1166
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:16,960
Speaker 3: Friend yes to your ex. Girlfriend there's no way this

1167
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 3: ends in your.

1168
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: Favor, yeah this is this is, no this is this

1169
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 1: Is Christopher due, says do. IT i, mean, sure if

1170
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: you want to let the intrusive thoughts.

1171
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 2: Win oh, god.

1172
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 1: Bro as much AS i disliked my, ex she still

1173
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:31,879
Speaker 1: used to be an important person to. Me So i'm

1174
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:33,719
Speaker 1: not sure IF i should do it or. Not SO

1175
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:36,240
Speaker 1: i Guess i'm on here to see what y'all.

1176
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:39,239
Speaker 2: Think, no don't do. It what would you do if

1177
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:42,839
Speaker 2: you're in my? SHOES i wouldn't do. It quick.

1178
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:45,800
Speaker 1: EDIT i also forgot to mention she told me to

1179
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:47,200
Speaker 1: keep a secret if we ever go.

1180
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 3: Out oh so she. Does she is into. It another,

1181
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 3: yeah another is into. It but that's a red flag

1182
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 3: on her. Part another freaking red. FLAG i don't think

1183
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 3: it's a GOOD i don't. Like maybe you could do

1184
00:54:58,040 --> 00:54:59,839
Speaker 3: this and get away with, it BUT i don't think

1185
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:00,960
Speaker 3: it's gonna be a fruitful.

1186
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 2: RELATIONSHIP i, mean this sounds she sounds. Like it sounds.

1187
00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:07,520
Speaker 3: Toxic but, hey, dude maybe a little toxic and crazy

1188
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 3: can be fun for a. While so it blows up

1189
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 3: in your face or blows something. Else, hey, hey, yeah

1190
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 3: blows down the.

1191
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 1: Mushroom apparently just until she's ready to tell her, friend

1192
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 1: and we have another fourth update coming in the. Pipeline,

1193
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:27,799
Speaker 1: YEAH i hope he is not making good. Choices this

1194
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:28,400
Speaker 1: is this is.

1195
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 2: Bad this is. Bad, yeah this is. Bad, bad this is.

1196
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: Bad this is. Bad if if, if if this is

1197
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 2: really real and you tell, her, hey this is too.

1198
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:37,840
Speaker 2: MUCH i.

1199
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 1: DON'T i don't want to be that guy to THE.

1200
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:41,960
Speaker 1: X i NEED i should could use some space, AT

1201
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 1: i need some. Time we need to give it a long.

1202
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:46,600
Speaker 1: Time if this is gonna, happen if it's really not

1203
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: a month after a two year, relationship a, month absolutely

1204
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:54,239
Speaker 1: not get At you cannot do. That, No i'm, Sorry i'm,

1205
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: now but we have a fourth. Update oh my, god

1206
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 1: let's go by twenty two male girlfriend twenty? Female is

1207
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:08,240
Speaker 1: it the same twenty?

1208
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:12,279
Speaker 2: Female your? Joke we still don't know the. Rum there's

1209
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 2: still a one percent.

1210
00:56:13,280 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: Chance oh my, god my girlfriend AND i have been

1211
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: together for almost two months and she's still keeping our

1212
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:25,919
Speaker 1: relationship us hot for you. Guys, hey, Guys i'm back

1213
00:56:26,000 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 1: BECAUSE i need some more. ADVICE i broke up with

1214
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:32,759
Speaker 1: my ex over three months, ago and it definitely wasn't

1215
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 1: a clean and healthy.

1216
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 2: Breakup you don't SAY.

1217
00:56:35,120 --> 00:56:37,520
Speaker 1: I don't think anything about what you've talked about has

1218
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 1: been clean or. Healthy, no we pretty much hate to

1219
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 1: show there's guts. NOW i posted about it. Before the

1220
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 1: problem is that my current girlfriend is my ex's best FRIEND,

1221
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,800
Speaker 1: BFFs so freaking.

1222
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 2: Message oh my.

1223
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:53,360
Speaker 1: God so when we first started, dating we figured it

1224
00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:55,360
Speaker 1: would be best to keep it under wraps for a.

1225
00:56:55,400 --> 00:57:00,040
Speaker 1: While general, rule if you have to lie about something you,

1226
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 1: doing it's probably not a good. Thing with the exception

1227
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:06,759
Speaker 1: of like gift surprise gifts Like.

1228
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 3: Jim And pam uh had their office romance be a

1229
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 3: little private for the first four.

1230
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:15,319
Speaker 2: Months you got, Me there got, You you got, me

1231
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 2: there got. You but most, times most, times most. Times

1232
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 2: that was.

1233
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 1: A really great, exception, Though we figured it was best

1234
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:22,919
Speaker 1: to keep it on our wraps for a, while especially because

1235
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 1: our breakup was only a month old at that.

1236
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:25,440
Speaker 2: Point oh my.

1237
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 1: God whenever we'd want to go, out we'd go somewhere

1238
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 1: far away so no one would see. Us we'd almost

1239
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 1: only hang out at each other's places. Anyways it also

1240
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:39,040
Speaker 1: helped that everyone was. Quarantined by the, way if you

1241
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 1: don't want to be driven crazy LIKE i am right

1242
00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 1: now by this insane, story or you know what you

1243
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 1: do want to be driven crazy by some delicious piping hot.

1244
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,000
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1245
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,600
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1246
00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:56,120
Speaker 1: chock full of stories just like.

1247
00:57:56,160 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 2: This but oh my, god Oo, pee why are you

1248
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 2: doing to? Yourself? Why? Why? Why this is?

1249
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: Peak this is peak twenty year old behavior for twenty ye. Old, yeah,

1250
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 1: peak great stuff right, here. Textbook we successfully kept it

1251
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 1: a secret so. Far in, fact the only one who

1252
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 1: knows is.

1253
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 2: My brother because he's right there in the, middle oh.

1254
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:19,760
Speaker 1: Man and we had to tell him because he's also my.

1255
00:58:19,920 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 1: ROOMMATE i don't know. Why that just still makes it.

1256
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: Worse but now it's been two months and the, hiding

1257
00:58:27,320 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: and the hiding that was fun at first is getting

1258
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: kind of. Annoying now my girlfriend still doesn't want to

1259
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: tell anyone because she's afraid of losing her.

1260
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 2: Friend i've lost that, friend.

1261
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:39,400
Speaker 1: Sweetheart this is this is, already this is already you

1262
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: have lost that.

1263
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 2: Friend oh my. God just like.

1264
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 1: Common sense, here someone who is best friends with your

1265
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 1: ex probably shares a lot in common with, Her LIKE

1266
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:52,440
Speaker 1: i don't not to say you should never do, that

1267
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: BUT i.

1268
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 3: DON'T i don't know, steakychy sticky yechys Is katie.

1269
00:58:56,160 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: Paluden't she seriously told me that we should wait until

1270
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 1: my ex gets a new.

1271
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:03,880
Speaker 2: Boyfriend like that's gonna be. Great how is that gonna

1272
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 2: day until her? Brother his brother? Phones, ah you should introduce.

1273
00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 1: Her so Now i'm really bummed about the whole situation

1274
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: and honestly don't know What i'm supposed to.

1275
00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 2: Do thanks again for the. Help you have screwed up so.

1276
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 3: Royally first of, all you should HAVE i, mean breaking

1277
00:59:28,680 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 3: up girlfriend. Good, second living with your, brother you know.

1278
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 3: WHAT i think that's. Cool but, uh, third dating your

1279
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 3: ex girlfriend's best. FRIEND i, MEAN i don't know what

1280
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 3: you both were. Thinking this is. Terrible this is. Terrible,

1281
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 3: Uh you've made a very bad choice and it's gonna

1282
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:52,560
Speaker 3: end in a pool of.

1283
00:59:52,640 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 1: Drama it's gonna be so. Bad it's gonna be so. Bad,

1284
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 1: versus if you had just, said, hey let me let

1285
00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 1: me get some time to, like have some, SPACE i

1286
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: feel like you would have eventually realized, Like, okay you know,

1287
01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: WHAT i just needed a little. Break, YEAH i can

1288
01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:11,640
Speaker 1: give it more than thirty calendar days do BEFORE i

1289
01:00:11,800 --> 01:00:15,600
Speaker 1: jump into my next Day's john next full full committed

1290
01:00:15,640 --> 01:00:20,600
Speaker 1: girlfriend girlfriend relationship. Day oh my, god but, wow that

1291
01:00:20,760 --> 01:00:24,280
Speaker 1: is where that story and this episode. Ends oh if

1292
01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: you love, us make sure to. Subscribe we love you

1293
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 1: and see you.

1294
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 2: Tomorrow