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Speaker 1: This is intergalactic John, this is Alien Sarum on the

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Speaker 2: My family's talking to me again. After I won the lottery.

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Speaker 3: Well, well, well.

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Speaker 2: So I twenty one female won the lottery quite a

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Speaker 2: while ago. I don't really need to go further into

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Speaker 2: how much, but it's a lot. I've decided to donate

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Speaker 2: a lot of it to charities, especially towards nick you

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Speaker 2: babies since my son was in there, and then put

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Speaker 2: the rest away.

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Speaker 3: That's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Nice God take care of those little babies. By the way,

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Speaker 2: this comes from user a lot of inner throw away

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice.

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Speaker 2: Goofley, but we don't have all the answers. We're not

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Speaker 2: Woodrow Wilson. We only know what we would do, So

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Speaker 2: let us know what you would do down in the comments.

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Speaker 2: And Opie says, I didn't tell anyone about this whole thing,

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Speaker 2: because I knew friends and family twenty four to fifty

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Speaker 2: eight male and female. That was I'm gonna say that

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Speaker 2: was really unnecessary to put that in there.

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Speaker 3: It such a large range.

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Speaker 2: I knew that they could turn into money grubbing folks.

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Speaker 2: But I decided to tell my sister, who really needed

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Speaker 2: the money to pay rent for herself, and told her

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Speaker 2: not to tell anyone because of these reasons.

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Speaker 3: You fool.

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Speaker 4: Why did you tell her?

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Speaker 2: She went against my wishes and contacted them.

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Speaker 4: Why did you do that?

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Speaker 3: I gave you one job, one job.

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Speaker 2: I mentioned to her that he'll try prying back into

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Speaker 2: our lives. So yeah, most of my family, being my

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Speaker 2: dad and his side of the family isn't talking to

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Speaker 2: me because his family hates his children for being half

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Speaker 2: Japanese half European.

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Speaker 3: Well, that family sucks.

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Speaker 2: May I just say, what a cool combo. He listened

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Speaker 2: to his own mother and went back to his home country,

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Speaker 2: but he is still in contact with my sister and

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Speaker 2: brother who are the same as me. And just to recap,

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Speaker 2: we're talking about dad, okay, Dad talking about Dad?

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I was devastated at first, but eventually moved on not

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Speaker 2: having much closure from my dad. I've never met my

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Speaker 2: mother either, apart from her giving birth to me and

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Speaker 2: handing me over to my dadanh she laughed. After having

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Speaker 2: three kids and depression, Well, as you can see, my

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Speaker 2: family is back and talking to me as if nothing

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Speaker 2: happened and gas lighting me as per usual as before,

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Speaker 2: saying I'm crazy and that my dad never left.

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Speaker 4: Wait, that's insane. That's absolutely insane for them to say

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Speaker 4: he was here this whole time. Oh, Pierre, are you

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Speaker 4: feeling okay? Your dad's been here every day. I mean

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Speaker 2: Time when he went on a business trip.

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Speaker 3: Maybe that's what you're thinking of.

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Speaker 4: That's weird, that's weird that they're doing that.

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Speaker 2: My quote unquote grandmother would come over to my house

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Speaker 2: this point I was wondering to myself why I was

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Speaker 2: letting these people in, and eventually told them to leave

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Speaker 2: after they asked to look after all of my money.

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Speaker 2: Now they're slashing my tires, stealing my mail, trying to

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Speaker 4: Well that's when we get the police involved. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 4: they're slashing your tires. Camera, camera right here, camera right here.

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Speaker 4: Boom boom boom, right on your car. You set a

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Speaker 4: the act, we arrest them. You keep your money.

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Speaker 2: Big facts. My mother also got into contact with me too,

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Speaker 2: for the first time in my life, and immediately asked

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Speaker 2: I mean, depending on how much money you made, you

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Speaker 5: Now.

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Speaker 4: I think you use the money to hire the best

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Speaker 4: lawyer and the biz for what sue them for slashing

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Speaker 4: your tires for harassment, did they Yeah, they've been harassing them.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Okay, go back to that. I kind of unlocked in. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because they oh yeah, slashing my tires, steal my mail.

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Speaker 2: That's a felony, trying to talk. Yeah, okay, yeah, do

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Speaker 2: you have footage of that? Yeah, because if you do

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Speaker 2: have any footage of that, I would definitely.

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Speaker 4: That's what that old toad was, toad tirad of me,

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Speaker 4: going camera, camera camera.

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Speaker 2: We have some top relevant comments users. Skrill talk says,

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Speaker 2: call the cop. Yeah, most of the things you listed

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Speaker 2: was illegal. A restraining order could be put in place.

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Speaker 2: It sounds harsh, but it seems necessary.

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Speaker 4: No, no lawyer, but that sounds illegal.

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Speaker 2: Opie says, Hey, thanks, I think I might file a

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Speaker 2: police report about the tire slashing and mail stealing. I

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Speaker 2: don't know why I haven't done it sooner. Maybe I've

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Speaker 2: just been giving them excuses since they're related to me.

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Speaker 4: Probably.

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Speaker 2: A deleted user says, tell your sister the money's gone.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she'll tell them and they'll back off. Get restraining

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Speaker 2: orders and call the police if they are on your property.

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Speaker 2: Slashing your tires and stealing your mail is illegal. Being

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Speaker 2: related to you isn't an excuse, Opie says, thanks. I

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Speaker 2: am considering a restraining order. It seems like my best

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Speaker 2: report and set up some cameras around the property. Op

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Speaker 2: replied to deleted comment, it is a coincidence.

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Speaker 4: What was a coincidence?

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Speaker 2: What was a coincidence?

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Speaker 3: It's just a coincidence.

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Speaker 2: Oh uh, the mom, the mom reaching out. I'm wondering

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Speaker 2: who has contacted her? My mother, and I'm guessing it's

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Speaker 2: mother is European user dork chops mm. You have a

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Speaker 2: common problem on our relationships called family itis. Basically, people

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Speaker 2: to them, and society teaches you that you're supposed to

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Speaker 2: Just because you are related to them doesn't mean they

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Speaker 2: look at this rationally. You need a friend that can

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Speaker 2: You need to make it clear to them that if

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Speaker 2: they keep messing with you, extremely bad consequences will follow.

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Speaker 2: Oh p replies family itis. I love it. I do

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Speaker 2: have an emotional connection with them. I think I'm too

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Speaker 2: much of a pushover it. Need to work on that.

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Speaker 2: I enable too much and need to stand up. I

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Speaker 2: And there is an update two months and two days

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Speaker 2: and two hours and two seconds later.

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Speaker 4: Oh boy, Yeah, I just agree with all those comments

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Speaker 4: saying let's get the police involved, let's get let's get

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Speaker 2: In the words of Ludacris, stand up. Ba boom boom

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Speaker 6: In the words of the Red Hot Chili Peppers, Gal,

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Speaker 6: mister Chili Pepper, I didn't know we were to have

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Speaker 6: a guest on today, So nice to meet you.

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Speaker 3: Nice to meet you.

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Speaker 2: The Code of Story times, I realized people were trying

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Speaker 2: I actually have a bit of a learning disability. So

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Speaker 4: The way that he said, that's funny. Everyone's wondering where

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Speaker 2: I'm actually just I'm learning to say. It's like when

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Speaker 4: When someone says, like someone's talking to someone with a

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Speaker 2: So we ended up having to move, which is no problem,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't you doesn't your backhurd from carrying around all

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Speaker 4: And then he starts doing the no face, except instead

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Speaker 2: Eh, hey, buddy, I'm hungry and I want you to

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Speaker 2: feed me my nannie feed me your money.

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Speaker 4: That was really good.

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Speaker 2: He then asked if we could meet again, so I

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Speaker 2: Yet I felt a bit off. We were probably sitting

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Speaker 2: been broken into conspiracy. Conspiracy trying to steal your stuff.

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Speaker 2: Also like just to loop back into the how dumb

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Speaker 2: And it's like, what did they think? You were just

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Speaker 2: I realized at that point that dad used me as

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Speaker 4: Grandma broke into your house.

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Speaker 2: People do crazy things for money, man, Grandma I guess

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Speaker 2: she doesn't need that knee surgery after all. I asked

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Speaker 2: aren't you prosecuting them for breaking and entering?

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Speaker 4: They literally broke and entered, and we have.

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Speaker 4: This isn't just harassment, this is crimes. Crimes are being

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Speaker 3: I had the evidence, we're here to burgle your turts.

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Speaker 2: What is that from over the garden.

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Speaker 3: Wall for burglars ware.

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Speaker 4: To burgle your turts?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And he's like, we're not burglars. We're not We're

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Speaker 2: I had the evidence. I was so wound up. I

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Speaker 4: I knew him and Grandma were in coats. Grandma was

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Speaker 2: Yes, my my criminal grandma.

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Speaker 4: The Grandma's just like, what are you talking about's court.

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Speaker 4: I would never do such a thing, officer, and they're like,

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Speaker 2: She's like, fine, got me. They just told one hundred

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Speaker 2: They were standing there pretending to be worried and sad

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Speaker 3: Well, Grandma, that's on you.

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Speaker 4: I simply that you know what, if you break into

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Speaker 2: I'm about to I'm gonna, I'm gonna bust out the

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Speaker 2: Woody Harrelson from Zombie Land, and I'm gonna I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: hundred dollars bills. I agree. I think that. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: think that's been done. Yeah, happy, happy four years in prison.

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Speaker 3: Dad dress them quicker.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean that would be my only advice,

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Speaker 4: which you've already done. So we're on track.

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Speaker 2: And they're moving, they're moving and shaking, and dad's in prison.

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Speaker 3: So love to see it.

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Speaker 4: Love to see it.

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Speaker 2: Public service announcement. If you happen to stumble upon a

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Speaker 5: And it was Dakota's and he lost it, so you

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Speaker 4: Don't tell the government. Bring it to me.

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Speaker 2: They will take it from you. If you find buried treasure,

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Speaker 2: don't tell anyone because the government will take it away

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Speaker 4: If grandma had stolen that money, how would she even have,

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Speaker 4: you know, put it away again?

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Speaker 2: Like did they? Are they so dumb? They thought you

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Speaker 2: had a Scrooge McDuck money pile in there.

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Speaker 4: I thought you had a money pit that you were

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Speaker 4: diving into every day.

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Speaker 2: At least right now I have a protection order against them.

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Speaker 2: They cannot come near me or my family or the property.

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Speaker 2: As for my partner, my son, I apologized to him

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Speaker 2: and said I shouldn't have met my dad. He understood

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Speaker 2: and just said that it's normal to crave love. I'm really,

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Speaker 2: honestly heartbroken that my family would do this to me.

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Speaker 2: But at least we've moved into a better property. I

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Speaker 2: on my new family. Thank you for reading. And there

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Speaker 2: are some comments here. Deleted user says, I feel really,

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Speaker 2: absolutely terrible for you, but I laugh my behind off

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Speaker 2: at your grandmother's injury. Poetic justice hope, he says, ha

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Speaker 2: ha ha, I laughed too. She deserved it. She's still

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Speaker 2: in hospital being treated for her knee, but her trial

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, this is gonna be like usual.

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 4: Unusual suspects the unused. Yeah, she comes in with her

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Speaker 4: little Uh no.

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Speaker 2: Stop, you're spoiling the usual suspect. User Sissy says, what

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Speaker 2: about your sister after she found out about your dad's arrest?

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Speaker 2: Does she feel guilty in any of this? Op says

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Speaker 2: she thinks she did nothing wrong. Deleted user says, I'm

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Speaker 2: so sorry this happened to you. Did you get the

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Speaker 2: jewelry back? Opie says, I did not. I assume they

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Speaker 2: sold them, but it's fine because they weren't important. I

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Speaker 2: stored the important jewels in a safe.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's good.

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Speaker 4: I like that, OPI plan for this.

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Speaker 3: Uh and and you're fine.

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Speaker 4: Now you just lost your oculus, which you know what.

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Speaker 4: We need to spend more time in the real world,

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Speaker 4: not on in VR anyway. So really they did you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you know, that's that's debatable. It's demodable,

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Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story is we've got

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Speaker 4: a little replaced a munto.

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Speaker 3: My parents tried to trap me for an arranged marriage.

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Speaker 2: In like a cage or a snare or like a

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Speaker 3: Twenty five female have been living in Australia for the

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Speaker 3: last four years. Last month I fractured my hands and

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Speaker 3: had to get surgery. My parents, fifty seven male and

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Speaker 3: come to India to get it fixed. Their reasoning it

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Speaker 3: it would be easier to have someone take care of me.

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Speaker 3: By the way this comes from, it just bro whisting.

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Speaker 3: And if you submit your own stories, go to the

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay storytime supreddit and we're here to give

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Speaker 3: good advice. Goofily, But we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 3: We just know we would do in the situation, So

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Speaker 3: and Opia says. I understand their concern, but I wanted

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Speaker 3: I decided to fly to India. After talking to the doctors,

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to go to India for various reasons. First,

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Speaker 3: various marriage proposals for me, even oh I have made

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Speaker 3: it abundantly clear that I don't want an arranged marriage.

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Speaker 2: And lastly, my father has been digging a pit to

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Speaker 3: He's building a cage. Like, oh my god, Dad, stop

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Speaker 3: building a cage.

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Speaker 2: God, stop building the marriage cage. I told you I'm

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Speaker 2: not going to get in the marriage no matter how

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Speaker 2: many little snacks you put in there. Did they put

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Speaker 2: the doctor who's going to fix her hand inside the

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Speaker 2: marriage cage?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Right, twist the doctor is who is the proposed.

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Speaker 3: Husband, fixes her hand, puts a ring on it. Easy.

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Speaker 3: I've been planning on telling them about my non Indian

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Speaker 3: done that. Also, I came back from India after a

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Speaker 3: up my father to tell him that I want to

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Speaker 3: get the surgery done here, he blew up. He screamed

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Speaker 3: at me for ten minutes, saying things like, you have

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Speaker 3: know the best. Just because you got a little bit

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Speaker 3: we're a live.

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Speaker 2: Hey, that doesn't have anything to do with what you

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Speaker 3: I just want insurance fix my hand, that's all. Also,

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Speaker 2: I can't tell you about yet. And if you're so

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Speaker 2: worried about you know, oh, you think you got a

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Speaker 2: care of everything, well, then why don't you send me

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Speaker 2: some of that money? Right? Since you want to take

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Speaker 3: Your family because you prefer this independent life. We don't

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Speaker 3: stay with people there that you call friends, because they're

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Speaker 3: And then he swished his emo haircut and slammed the

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Speaker 2: He posted a mirror selfie on Instagram and said life,

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Speaker 2: It's just not fair sometimes.

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Speaker 3: Not fair, and just nobody understands.

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Speaker 2: In Lincoln Parks playing in the background, and.

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Speaker 3: He blocked me after that.

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Speaker 2: Hmmm great, Yeah, you don't want to see your life,

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Speaker 2: do you blocked?

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Speaker 3: This was four weeks ago. I got the surgery done,

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Speaker 3: haven't heard from them at all. I called my mother

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Speaker 2: Bro, they blocked you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't even think you could reach out if

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Speaker 2: Just like, if you really wanted to talk to us,

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Speaker 2: you would have sent a messenger pigeon. Yeah, you would

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Speaker 2: have sent a scroll on a raven.

444
00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:42,040
Speaker 3: If she wanted to, she would and that applies to

445
00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:46,800
Speaker 3: daughters and whatever. Apparently she doesn't. They had concerns about

446
00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:49,200
Speaker 3: me getting my surgery done here and I got solutions

447
00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:51,920
Speaker 3: to their concerns, they still insisted I come to India,

448
00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,399
Speaker 3: which just makes me believe that all they care about

449
00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,240
Speaker 3: is control. They wanted me in India to ease my life,

450
00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,280
Speaker 3: but when I decided to get the surgery done here,

451
00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:02,359
Speaker 3: they did not to put additional stress on me. Also,

452
00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:04,600
Speaker 3: it's their anniversary in a couple of days, and I

453
00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:06,560
Speaker 3: might not get a chance to wish them. I am

454
00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,359
Speaker 3: working hard to be a strong independent woman and I

455
00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,639
Speaker 3: want to have the best relationship with my parents, But

456
00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:14,520
Speaker 3: I'm just afraid that having that kind of relationship would

457
00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:16,800
Speaker 3: come with me having a lot less control over my life.

458
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,080
Speaker 3: Am I the hole for not giving that up? And

459
00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 3: there is an edit? But what would you say, Dakota?

460
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're totally the a hole for not letting your

461
00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:28,960
Speaker 2: parents in completely manipulate you and put you in a pit,

462
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,880
Speaker 2: put you in the marriage pick. No, you're not the ahole.

463
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:35,679
Speaker 2: Your parents are garbage, your parents are silly.

464
00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 3: That's probably very true that it's all about control. I

465
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,680
Speaker 3: don't think that's something that they probably notice to them,

466
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:44,960
Speaker 3: Like I feel like, to people who want control, they're

467
00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:46,880
Speaker 3: just like, ah, it's just like a given that they

468
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 3: have control that they need it, and then they don't

469
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 3: really know how to explain that. I guess, so you

470
00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:54,040
Speaker 3: wouldn't really be able to like get that out of them,

471
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,400
Speaker 3: like for them to admit that it's all about control.

472
00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:58,640
Speaker 3: But I mean, at least for your peace of mind

473
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:00,720
Speaker 3: and understanding me that.

474
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 2: I think you're right about that. And as Kim Fine

475
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,960
Speaker 2: puts it, I'd rather boof one sea urchin for every

476
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 2: hour of flight time than take a twenty four hour

477
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: flight to be physically vulnerable and trapped by my parents

478
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 2: while they also tried to contract pimp me is like,

479
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:17,720
Speaker 2: very well, put Kim, there.

480
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:18,680
Speaker 3: Is an edit here.

481
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:20,160
Speaker 4: Wow, this blew up.

482
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:22,879
Speaker 3: I wasn't expecting this supposed to reach so many people.

483
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for your comments. I really appreciate it.

484
00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:28,480
Speaker 3: I'm going through them and I'll try to reply to all,

485
00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,600
Speaker 3: but it might just be a little slow. How dare

486
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:33,439
Speaker 3: you hope he go faster? I saw a lot of

487
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:35,840
Speaker 3: comments suggesting that they might marry me off when I

488
00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:37,880
Speaker 3: go back. I don't think they can force me into

489
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 3: a marriage, and surely any self respection guy wouldn't want

490
00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 3: to marry someone who doesn't want him.

491
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:42,800
Speaker 2: I don't know anymore.

492
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,040
Speaker 3: I just knew that there would be a lot of

493
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 3: emotional drama, manipulation and whatnot when I refused to look

494
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 3: at the potential suitors and I didn't want to be

495
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 3: there in such a vulnerable condition dealing with that. Overall

496
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,199
Speaker 3: judgment from the comments is that op, he is not

497
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 3: the a hole and would you have another edit?

498
00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 2: Yay ba edit.

499
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 3: Taking into account a couple of comments and a DM.

500
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 3: Maybe the term hostage is too extreme of a word,

501
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 3: and I apologize as it wasn't for quick bait, but

502
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 3: because I was extremely emotional when I wrote this. I

503
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,160
Speaker 3: twenty eight female India, am so exhausted of fighting. I'm

504
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 3: writing this on my phone in a very emotional stage,

505
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 3: So apologies if it isn't well formatted or isn't very

506
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 3: well written. Three years ago, I made a post about

507
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 3: how my family stopped talking to me because they didn't

508
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 3: travel back home to my home country to get my

509
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 3: surgery done. Three year time, that's crazy. Hello, things never

510
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 3: really got better. I started talking to them maybe a

511
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 3: year after my surgery when they reached out, and it

512
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 3: wasn't great. All we did was fight and any cordial

513
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 3: conversations were conversations of no value. Essentially just limited to

514
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:47,360
Speaker 3: how work.

515
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:48,320
Speaker 4: Going, what did you eat?

516
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 3: Blah blah blah. Last year, they showed up to Australia

517
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 3: out of the blue and I didn't handle that well.

518
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 3: My partner and I met them, but suffice to say

519
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 3: they weren't very happy. Coming back to today, I came

520
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 3: to visit them in India with my partner is staying

521
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,120
Speaker 3: with us for a week and then two weeks without him.

522
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 3: They were adamant they only want to spend time with me.

523
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 3: I was keen to work on the relationship because I

524
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 3: do want to get married and have the option to

525
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 3: have potential kids and I can't really slash don't want

526
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 3: to do that without them involved in my life. I'm

527
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 3: dating an Australian guy, twenty eight male who I've been

528
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 3: in a relationship with for over five years. They made

529
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 3: an excuse so we couldn't stay with them together, but

530
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 3: they met up with us for lunch that day my

531
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 3: partner was leaving. Ever since I've started staying with them,

532
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 3: they started talking about how I should extend my trip.

533
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 3: I've made it very clear about how I can't, and

534
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 3: I've had multiple fights with them over this. One of

535
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,680
Speaker 3: them where my dad started talking about how I'm essentially

536
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 3: filth and I live in filth, and he can't believe

537
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:49,159
Speaker 3: he's been loving filth this entire time. Papa, I'm a

538
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 3: real girl. I'm not a filth.

539
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: Pa, I'm not a filth mom. So I'm the daughter.

540
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,399
Speaker 3: Please, Papa, look at me.

541
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 2: Please they I cannot see past your five feelthy stink smoke,

542
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 2: I say, is a bunch of green air around you

543
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:05,680
Speaker 2: because y'all so filthy.

544
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 3: They've been taking me around our relatives and didn't let

545
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 3: me leave the day I had my return ticket. I've

546
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 3: cried so much talking to them, but apparently the plan

547
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 3: always is what they want from me. They've said I'm

548
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 3: not allowed to leave anymore because apparently I've become a

549
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 3: very negative person and they are worried about me.

550
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 4: What.

551
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're gonna do false imprisonment on you because

552
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 2: we don't like how we don't like your attitude right.

553
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 3: What They have said that the Australian chapter is closed

554
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 3: for me and I'm staying here from now on. Wow, Papa, Papa,

555
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 3: I don't want to stay in the tower. Papa.

556
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 2: Please, did you know though, that you can just like

557
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 2: I don't know? Book A car to the airport and

558
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 2: leave anyway. You know.

559
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wonder how that's working. Link do they where

560
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 3: do they? Do they live in some sort of area

561
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 3: where it's hard to get.

562
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 2: There or something, or like, yeah, that could be it.

563
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,200
Speaker 2: Maybe they're out in the in the in the country.

564
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 2: Did your dad build.

565
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 4: A cage to put you in?

566
00:24:57,480 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 2: Did he did to throw you in?

567
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 3: Radkota's Joke's correct all along.

568
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 2: This is the pit we've dug for your negative attitude.

569
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:08,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'll put all the negative energy into the pit,

570
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 3: into the pit, and then he just pushes you into.

571
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 3: It's like you're just too negative. Why don't you just

572
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 3: jump right in. I'm so scared, and I really don't

573
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 3: know how to deal with the situation, and I am

574
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 3: looking for advice from anyone at all. I want to leave,

575
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 3: but I'm worried they're going to stand guard at the

576
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 3: door from now on and won't let me walk out.

577
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 3: My brother is physically bigger and stronger than me, and

578
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 3: he isn't on my side either. There are some responses

579
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: from Ope to various comments. We've been going around my

580
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 3: relative's place, but I'm scared to just walk out because

581
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: I know I'll be stopped and then my passport.

582
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 2: Will be seized.

583
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 3: Oh wow, I'm just really really scared. I've been too

584
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 3: deserved to think rationally, and I just wanted to seek

585
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 3: advice from other people because calling cops seemed too extreme.

586
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 3: But my aunt has threatened to tear my passport or

587
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:55,719
Speaker 3: lodge an fr against me for of made up reason,

588
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 3: so I'll be tangled in court cases and won't be

589
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 3: able to leave. Oh my god, this is reraazy.

590
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we have a comment here here, Renny,

591
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 2: and I think that your your best bet would be

592
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 2: to go to an embassy of some kind, like the

593
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: Australian Embassy maybe if you can or do you have

594
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: any you know, yeah, you just gotta you gotta lie,

595
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 2: You gotta lie somehow and be like, oh, yeah, I'm

596
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 2: just going down, but just going to the store. You know,

597
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 2: I don't know. If you have your documents, you just

598
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 2: keep them, keep them close, just be like, yeah, I'm

599
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 2: popping out to the store and then just disappear. Yeah,

600
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 2: play along, be like you know what, you guys are right,

601
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: you guys are so right, and then you know, just

602
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 2: play along. However, you have to make it if you

603
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 2: have if you still have your documents and then just disappear.

604
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 3: That is scary. Though this like it was like kind

605
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 3: of it came from just annoying like parents, get off

606
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 3: my bag, to like, holy crap, I'm now Rapunzel in

607
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 3: this house.

608
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:51,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, they put you in the pit. That's crazy.

609
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just really scared to do this alone here,

610
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 3: but I guess I have to. I've been holding my passport,

611
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,160
Speaker 3: my visa, and my credit cards on me at all.

612
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,879
Speaker 2: That's so good. Okay, so literally just get to the

613
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 2: airport and leave now. Yeah, as much as you can, like,

614
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 2: whatever you gotta do.

615
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 3: I'm worried my father can escalate things further because I've

616
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 3: never expected things to turn out this way and they did.

617
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 3: My boyfriend can book tickets for me, for sure, but

618
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 3: he's not in the country, so his involvement will be limited.

619
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 3: The house isn't too big and the door makes a

620
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 3: lot of noise when opened. Sorry, I know it sounds

621
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 3: like an excuse, but I'm really scared of getting caught

622
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 3: and making things so much worse. But I know i'd

623
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 3: have to do that, and that's the only way. We're

624
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:30,199
Speaker 3: leaving for my parents' place tomorrow from my grandparents I

625
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 3: have had no opportunity to escape yet because I've constantly

626
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 3: been surrounded by too many people. But I know I'll

627
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 3: have to act when we're at my parents. I understand

628
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 3: your point, but my parents didn't fund my studies abroad. Yes,

629
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: I was able to move there with their massive support,

630
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: and for that I'd be thankful, But uprooting my entire

631
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,920
Speaker 3: life I've built in the last few years on their

632
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:50,919
Speaker 3: terms is not fair on an adult.

633
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: I don't know why.

634
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 3: The only reason you'd cut off a daughter you've raised

635
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 3: since she was a child is because she married someone

636
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,679
Speaker 3: you didn't pick. Was that love so fragile? Thank you

637
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 3: so much, which for your reply, I appreciate you citing

638
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 3: the text that they hold so dear my family. My

639
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 3: relatives love me so much, but their love borders around possession.

640
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 3: I've heard such foul things from them, including how no

641
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:13,920
Speaker 3: other girl in the family would ever be given an

642
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 3: opportunity to grow from now on because of the example.

643
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 3: I've said after being trusted, I'm so exhausted of being

644
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 3: blamed for every freakin' problem.

645
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's not on you. That's on that for

646
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 2: being scumbacked. Yeah, has nothing, really nothing to do with you.

647
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like terrible, terrible people because it's like if

648
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 3: you try to think from their perspective, and this is

649
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 3: absolutely not me vouching for them, but it's like they

650
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 3: probably are just thinking, like, oh my gosh, what happened

651
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 3: to my daughter? Why is she so negative? Why doesn't

652
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 3: she agree with me anymore? Like it's crazy to think that.

653
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 3: Like the solution to that isn't like, I don't know,

654
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 3: a conversation. It's just like, no, you have to stay

655
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 3: here because that's the bad place, and if you go

656
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 3: to the bad place, you'll be bad and you're gonna

657
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 3: be so negative.

658
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 2: To stay here and marry who we say. And also,

659
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 2: no women in our family will ever be alone to

660
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: have thoughts or lives of their own because of you. Yeah,

661
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 2: like what I would get out of there and never

662
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: speak to these people again.

663
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, that is so so frustrating. I can enable roaming

664
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 3: and then hopefully make calls. Booking Uber would be fine,

665
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 3: but it would be good to have a way to

666
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 3: make calls if needed. I honestly don't care about money

667
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 3: at this point. I also have an eesim that only

668
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 3: has data, so I can still access the internet. He's

669
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 3: been acting all lovey since then, and this has always

670
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 3: been the pattern. I'm guessing this is the dad. Yeah,

671
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 3: he spews hateful things at me and then acts normal

672
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 3: the next day or extra loving, and I'm supposed to

673
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 3: forget all about it. I've always been told that his

674
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 3: anger is just built up frustration. But when I get angry,

675
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 3: I'm told I need to see a psychiatrist or a counselor.

676
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 3: And we do have a second update, so hopefully something

677
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 3: has actually happened.

678
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 2: Yeah. Literally, just take all your documents. I mean, if

679
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 2: you don't have anything super important that you brought with you,

680
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 2: I would just abandon it and just be like I'm

681
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 2: getting out of here. Yeah, I would be. I would

682
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:03,239
Speaker 2: be very worried that they would conspire to take your

683
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 2: documents away from you, and then you'd be really up creek.

684
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 2: But book the car, get out of the country. Yeah,

685
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 2: and then cease all contact with these people. Maybe write

686
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 2: them just like a one message of like y'all yeap,

687
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 2: just just incomprehensibly backwards and controlling, and I'm gonna go

688
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: ahead and continue to build my life in Australia. Do

689
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 2: not contact me and lose my number.

690
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 3: Do you have a second update from five days later.

691
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:36,959
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here.

692
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's three

693
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: minutes of ads from our sponsors.

694
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 3: Thank you everyone for all your concerns, suggestions, and for

695
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 3: giving me hope. I didn't want to update sooner because

696
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 3: it struck me very late that there is a small

697
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 3: possibility that my brother uses read it. The chances of

698
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 3: him coming across this post were a slim, but I

699
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 3: didn't want to risk anything. In short, I ended up

700
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 3: running away from home. I'm still contemplating if the decision

701
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 3: I took was too extreme for the situation, but I

702
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 3: think I'll go crazy if I go down that rabbit hole.

703
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 2: I don't think it was. And also, you didn't really

704
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 2: run away from home. You ran away from the people

705
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 2: trying to keep you from going home.

706
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 3: You ran back to home. A couple of friends of

707
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 3: mine had a friend who I met last month, but

708
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 3: was hesitant to reach out because he was a fairly

709
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 3: recent friend in a town three hours away. So my

710
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 3: boyfriend and my friends planned my getaway. I was constantly

711
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: surrounded by my relatives and parents to plan things. But

712
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 3: for everyone reading, I am of sound mind and the

713
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 3: decision to do this was mine alone. I snuck out

714
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 3: the night that we came back home from my relatives

715
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 3: on the pretext of going for a walk, but I

716
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 3: know they'd probably have found out not too long after

717
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 3: I left. My friend was waiting in his car close

718
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 3: to my place and he drove me to the airport.

719
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 3: It was perfect because booking a cab would have had

720
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 3: issues with timing. I didn't know when would be a

721
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 3: good time to sneak out, so having a friend around

722
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 3: gave me the flexibility to sneak out at my own convenience.

723
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 3: We're we got it. We got it.

724
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: Go in, you did it, They did it, made a plant.

725
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 3: Followed through, had friends help you out.

726
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 2: It seemed like you worked out well. You avoided all

727
00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 2: cages and snares and yeah.

728
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 3: Yes, all the booby traps along the way, and you

729
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 3: did it.

730
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 2: You did the thing, Thank goodness.

731
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 3: So satisfying. The priority was getting out of the country

732
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 3: as soon as possible, without even knowing what the best

733
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: way was to get to Australia. This was also crazy

734
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 3: timing with the Indigo fiasco. Not sure if it helped

735
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 3: or hurt our chances.

736
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 2: Not sure what fiasco that is.

737
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 3: Let us know in the chat if you do, or

738
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 3: if Carly can find it on the internet to look.

739
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 2: It up right now. The Indigo Fiasco.

740
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 3: I can only do this because of the immense support

741
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 3: from my friends back home, who spent a lot of

742
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 3: time planning the roots and booking the flights for me

743
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 3: so as to not provoke any suspicions from my family,

744
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 3: and very little time for them to act. I've had

745
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 3: messages from them and a few calls. All I've done

746
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 3: is message them that it was my decision to leave

747
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 3: and list a couple of points on why, and that

748
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,239
Speaker 3: I had been keen to work on the relationship if

749
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 3: they can try to come around in my life choices.

750
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: Thank you everyone again, and especially to people who reached

751
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 3: out to make sure that I'm doing okay. And that

752
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 3: is the end of that story.

753
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 2: And the Indigo. The Indigo fiasco is about an airline

754
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 2: and its operations. It's it's an airline in India going on.

755
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 2: Apparently they were having a fiasco of some kind and uh,

756
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: there weren't it weren't. Yeah, so but she got.

757
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 5: Out when I Google that that's showing like a day

758
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 5: ago for that fiasco.

759
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 3: This is recent I'm gonna check.

760
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, very very recent.

761
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, that was a kind of a crazy story. Dang.

762
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 5: Yeah that last update I think is nine days ago.

763
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 2: Wow. Wow to thesers, well again, glad you got out. Yeah,

764
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: super glad.

765
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:43,920
Speaker 3: My goodness. That was that was controlling times a million million.

766
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 3: We've got another story coming up. Stay where you are.

767
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: My mother lied about my ancestry, so I forbid her

768
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 2: from meeting my kids.

769
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 3: You must stay away from me and my son. We're

770
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 3: keeping it such a reference.

771
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 2: So for some background, I have known we'll call her

772
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 2: Diana since we were eleven years old. I am twenty

773
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 2: eight and she is thirty two. We were the last

774
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:09,240
Speaker 2: in our immediate family to do our ancestry DNA tests.

775
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 2: Initially I did to find out my regions where else

776
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,720
Speaker 2: I came from other than being Aboriginal. My big sister

777
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 2: Diana did hers for that reason too, but also because

778
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 2: she's always had a feeling that she doesn't belong to

779
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 2: her biological dad, as she doesn't look like our big

780
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: sister CALLI. By the way, this comes from user impossible

781
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: Swan seventy oh nine, direct from the r slash Okay

782
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,280
Speaker 2: short time subbured it and if you want to submit

783
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 2: your own story, submit them there, and we're here to

784
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 2: give good advice. Goofly, But we don't have all the answers.

785
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 2: We only know what we'd do, so let us know

786
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments, Endop says. Diana's

787
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 2: results showed that our big sister, Calli, who she thought

788
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,800
Speaker 2: she shared a dad with, is actually her half sister.

789
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 2: My results revealed that my younger brother, James twenty and

790
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:57,319
Speaker 2: his sister Alice nineteen are my half siblings, although I've

791
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 2: always known them to be my full siblings. Intrigue and shock, whoa,

792
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 2: whoaa what it turns out Cally and I share the

793
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 2: same biological father. After getting our results, Diana confronted our mother, Marie.

794
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 2: Marie denied everything, offered no apology, and showed no remorse.

795
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 2: Three weeks later, when I got my results, she reacted

796
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 2: the same way. We spent four months searching for Diana's

797
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:26,280
Speaker 2: biological dad. During this search, Marie only gave us three

798
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 2: names and didn't offer any help. With matches from ancestry

799
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 2: and family trees found online, we eventually found who this

800
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 2: man is. This search was cut short a lot of

801
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 2: times due to the impacts of stolen generations and genocide

802
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 2: on family trees, as his grandmother was stolen from her mother.

803
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 2: After discussions with Diana's biological father, she found out that

804
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 2: he knew all, along with stories of taking her to

805
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 2: spend time with his family when she was very young.

806
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 2: We thought Marie knew too, and confronted her again together,

807
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 2: seeking answers and accountability. We waited to get DNA confirmation

808
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 2: with Diana's biological dad. We wanted her to admit the truth,

809
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 2: and I wanted to know if she knew about my

810
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,720
Speaker 2: biological father who passed away when I was four months old,

811
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 2: and hid that truth too. Marie still showed no remorse

812
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: or accountability. She refused to believe the ancestry results were accurate.

813
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,959
Speaker 2: She even denied that I belonged to my biological dad

814
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,280
Speaker 2: and that my big sister Cally and I look alike,

815
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 2: despite us being spitting images so much so that she

816
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 2: can unlock my phone with facial regulation. Why are we

817
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 2: denying the truth so hard? Just come out and say it,

818
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 2: You say, yeah, you.

819
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 3: Got me, You got me, caught exposed.

820
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 2: We tried to help her see, from our point of

821
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 2: view as a mother, how she should have been with

822
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 2: my situation, just console me and apologize, and with Diana's

823
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:55,800
Speaker 2: situation the same. Instead of giving Diana name, she should

824
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 2: have been the one to reach out to who she

825
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 2: thinks her father could be. And her response, why is

826
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 2: it up to me to find her father? Cause you lied?

827
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 2: Because you lied the whole time. Yeah, I mean it's

828
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 2: not even that it's up to you. It's just that

829
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 2: we could be doing this as a combined front.

830
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 3: You'd just like help out a little bit, be a

831
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 3: team player if you like.

832
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 2: It's not just the paternity lies themselves that have upset me,

833
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,959
Speaker 2: it's how she treated us after we confronted her. She's

834
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:24,879
Speaker 2: caused a rift between me and Diana and our two

835
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 2: other sisters, Callie and Alice, who live with her. She

836
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: even contacted my dad and told him some sort of

837
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 2: lie and turned him against me. He is not tech

838
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,719
Speaker 2: savvy in the slightest, so whatever she told him, he

839
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 2: would believe. She is more concerned with trying to protect

840
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 2: her image rather than caring about our feelings and what

841
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 2: we're going through. She has shut Diana and me out

842
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: of her life. Being an Indigenous Australian means a strong

843
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 2: connection to my country culture and heritage. It's my identity,

844
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 2: it's everything. Discovering these lies has made me feel like

845
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 2: my whole body is being ripped in half. It's an

846
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 2: indescribable feeling. Well, you just did describe it, and it

847
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 2: was pretty vivid, but yeah, it's I can understand that

848
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 2: being earth shattering. It's like you have this entire identity,

849
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: your whole life, and then you realize, wait, it's not

850
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 2: all that I thought it was. There's another I'm yeah,

851
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: it would be confusing.

852
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 3: Totally, especially if she's been so weird about it. Yeah,

853
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 3: if she just kind of out outright said like, yeah,

854
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 3: my bad, I lied. Here's the truth, and then just

855
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: like actually let you in on the truth. But now

856
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 3: she's still being like all guarded and like avoiding about

857
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 3: the situation. It's like, well, you're making it even.

858
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 2: More weird than it is. You're making it worse. You're

859
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 2: making it worse.

860
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 5: Ma.

861
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 2: It breaks my heart to know I have to relearn

862
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 2: everything I've known and explain this to my children, who

863
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 2: I've taught their whole lives, who they are and where

864
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: they come from. I even stood in front of my

865
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: mother trying to explain these things to her while I

866
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: could barely talk through crying, and I still saw no

867
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 2: shred of emotion from her. And we do have a

868
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,919
Speaker 2: little bit more of this story left. I do think

869
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 2: your mother's coldness does warrant some level of disconnection from her. Yeah,

870
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's just a lot. It's a lot,

871
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,399
Speaker 2: a lot to process. Yeah, absolutely, and there's a little

872
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,840
Speaker 2: bit more story. I've always considered how this may affect

873
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 2: her since we found out, but I've had enough and

874
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 2: no longer give a care. Why should I when she

875
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 2: can't even for a second put herself in my shoes

876
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 2: and give me a hug or ask if I'm okay.

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Speaker 2: I'm never one to let my personal feelings come between

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Speaker 2: my children's relationships with their family, but I do not

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Speaker 2: feel comfortable allowing her to be in my children's lives,

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Speaker 2: given how little empathy she's shown towards these big revelations

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Speaker 2: that have changed my entire life. This has had such

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Speaker 2: an impact on me and my sister's lives that I

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Speaker 2: find myself being triggered by small things and breaking down crying.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to move forward other than being

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Speaker 2: there for Diana and staying strong for my kids. I

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Speaker 2: honestly don't think I can move forward with my mother

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Speaker 2: without an actual, genuine apology and accountability. And that's the

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Speaker 2: end of that story. And I think that's what you

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Speaker 2: should tell her. Yeah, you should say, hey, this is

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Speaker 2: a and I'm sure your mom is being very defensive

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Speaker 2: because it's like, yeah, entirely on her for being deceptive

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Speaker 2: or avoid end of this and then her reaction to it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think you tell her that, and then maybe one

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Speaker 2: day she does that and then the door can open again.

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Speaker 2: That is the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: It sure is.

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Speaker 2: And we have some comments from a previous video. Sure

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Speaker 7: First, uh, this comment comes from video My girlfriend's CEO

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Speaker 7: groomed her for two years and assaulted her on a

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Speaker 7: work trip. Horrific Remember this one and that was posted

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Speaker 7: on December twelfth, twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Here's the TLDR. OP warned his girlfriend for two years

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Speaker 2: that her boss wanted more than work. She said Op

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Speaker 2: was imagining it on a work trip. The boss finally

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Speaker 2: tried to have an affair and everything blew up. She

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Speaker 2: lost her job, then their finances fell apart and op

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Speaker 2: may have to move countries for work. Now op Is

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Speaker 2: are hurt and stuck choosing between leaving alone or starting

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Speaker 2: over together after everything came crashing down. If you're curious

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Speaker 2: to know the full story, you can go watch the

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Speaker 2: full video.

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Speaker 5: And we have some comments.

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Speaker 3: What a wild freaking story that was come at one.

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Speaker 5: Lauren mcmurdy. In a situation like that, even if HR

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Speaker 5: is present, you go straight to an employment lawyer, and

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Speaker 5: then you go to HR with the lawyer. She's not

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Speaker 5: calling OPI in an absolute panic when her sleezy boss

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Speaker 5: is volunteering to leave his wife and kids after she's

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Speaker 5: had an affair. She'd do that after an affair if

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Speaker 5: the sleeves bag wasn't going to leave his wife.

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Speaker 3: The reality is she.

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Speaker 5: Feels guilt and shame because Opie told her about her

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Speaker 5: sleeves bag boss and she was so happy professionally that

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Speaker 5: she ignored those warnings. She feels stupid in circumstances like

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Speaker 5: this that would be heavy. But she needs an employment

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Speaker 5: lawyer and should report him to the police as well.

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Speaker 2: Agreed that was good advice, Very very good thorough by

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Speaker 2: Rob Sledge.

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Speaker 5: Groupie My husband was so oblivious that I even told

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Speaker 5: him I'd really like to date you, presuming you're not

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Speaker 5: seeing anyone, And it still took getting together several more

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Speaker 5: times for him to get the hint. And that was

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Speaker 5: after I'd been kind of chasing.

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Speaker 3: Him for two years.

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Speaker 5: Some people are more oblivious than others.

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Speaker 3: Interesting true words true words. That is, like very oblivious

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Speaker 3: that that commenter said saying I would like to date you,

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Speaker 3: I am interested in you romantically, and they're like, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think they might just want to be friends. Like

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Speaker 2: she's choking right, she's got bad jokes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you just like to near the tone of her

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Speaker 3: voice and a joke.

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Speaker 5: Comment three by hey hey uh one oh one oh one.

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Speaker 5: I feel like the girlfriend wasn't given enough grace in

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Speaker 5: the first story. They were horribly taken advantage of, so

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Speaker 5: it doesn't feel like the time to confront them about

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Speaker 5: Opie's feelings. I don't remember the story, but I'm sure

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Speaker 5: commented four by k Bang You k a Bang You

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Speaker 5: twenty five, twenty nine.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

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Speaker 5: One thing I pay attention to is if and how

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Speaker 5: someone takes responsibility for their part and actions. If someone

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Speaker 5: is able to admit their mistakes and is gracious towards themselves.

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Speaker 5: Do they have a personal feedback look to help them

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Speaker 5: learn from their mistakes and hopefully change for the better,

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Speaker 5: or do they only blame outside actors and forces.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you gotta still look inward. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: it always pays to look inward.

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Speaker 3: Inside yourself emotionally and spiritually.

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Speaker 2: But I believe that was the last comment, that sure was,

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Speaker 2: which means that's the end of that episode. So if

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