WEBVTT - Love Versus Being Loved

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<v Speaker 2>I do this for you by me, Beto. I do

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<v Speaker 2>this with so much love.

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<v Speaker 1>And today I really want to explore, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>complicated question of life, love and everything in between. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>episode is a deep dive into a timeless question.

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<v Speaker 2>Loving versus being loved? Which one feels better? Which one?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you more of a lover or are you more

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<v Speaker 2>of like? Love me? Love me?

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<v Speaker 1>And if you are a love me? Does that make

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<v Speaker 1>you selfish? Loving and being loved are two sides on

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<v Speaker 1>the same coin, you know, because it's all loved, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>no bad vibes, but the energy feels different.

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<v Speaker 2>They are both bringing a unique joy and challenges. What

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<v Speaker 2>exactly is love?

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to talk about the difference in between

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<v Speaker 1>loving someone and being loved, and I honestly feel that

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of us are constantly looking for love in

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong places because we feel felt or didn't grow

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<v Speaker 1>up feeling loved, whether it is by your mother or

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<v Speaker 1>your father, your siblings, or whatever the case may be.

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<v Speaker 1>In my case, I am going to speak from the

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<v Speaker 1>perspective of being in a relationship with someone at some

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<v Speaker 1>point in life and something in a habit that I've

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<v Speaker 1>worked really hard on breaking is I've had the build

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<v Speaker 1>a bear syndrome, the build a man's syndrome where you

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<v Speaker 1>find someone broken somewhat and you feel the need to fix.

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<v Speaker 2>Them, and that is my way of loving.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to love you by fixing your hurt, by

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<v Speaker 1>fixing the broken pieces that I feel that I can repair.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is the biggest mistake we can do. Because

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<v Speaker 1>people come as they are. They need to be loved

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<v Speaker 1>and accepted for who they are as they are in

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<v Speaker 1>that moment you meet them. In life because yes, people

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<v Speaker 1>can grow, evolve, and change, but you have to love

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<v Speaker 1>them with their challenges. The biggest mistake you can do

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<v Speaker 1>is try to change someone. No one can be changed

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<v Speaker 1>unless they choose to change if they want to change,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because if you feel like you want to

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<v Speaker 1>change someone, then that means you need to find somebody else,

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<v Speaker 1>someone that is what you visualize, someone that is what

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<v Speaker 1>you want to love, because you would hate for someone

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<v Speaker 1>to try to change you.

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<v Speaker 2>And been there, done that.

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<v Speaker 1>Loving someone, I've learned that is to love them with

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<v Speaker 1>flaws and all, whether it's your friend, whether it's your

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a father, a mother. We've had situations, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>we've all seen it where you have an alcoholic father

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<v Speaker 1>or a mother or drug addict, whatever, and you have

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<v Speaker 1>to love people how they are, for who they are

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<v Speaker 1>in that moment in life. You can help them in

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<v Speaker 1>their journey. But there's a difference between helping and changing,

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of times we feel that we we

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<v Speaker 1>do it with love. So it's okay to change someone

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<v Speaker 1>and that's not okay. We all express our sense of

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<v Speaker 1>love for one another differently.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, my mom shows me her love.

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<v Speaker 1>Obviously by well obviously through food because it's a very

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<v Speaker 1>Latino things. She shows me her love through food, but

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<v Speaker 1>she also shows me her love through being really hard

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<v Speaker 1>with me. She expects a lot out of me because

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<v Speaker 1>in many occasions, you know, they can see things that

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<v Speaker 1>we can't see for ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>And that also happens when.

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<v Speaker 1>We feel that, oh, you know, I am going to

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<v Speaker 1>love you by trying to change who you are and

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<v Speaker 1>I am going to change you by forcing you to

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<v Speaker 1>see the best in you. And we don't all receive

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<v Speaker 1>that love the same way. And also, you know, when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to being loved by you know what it

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<v Speaker 1>is to be loved as a Latina or from the

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<v Speaker 1>Latino perspective. In many occasions when it comes to relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>we've seen that there's women that have accepted men as

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<v Speaker 1>well that I have accepted this love that can be

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<v Speaker 1>very toxic. You know, Oh, I love you so much

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<v Speaker 1>that I am going to change you. I am going

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<v Speaker 1>to treat you with this masculine love that can become toxic,

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<v Speaker 1>that can become hurtful. I like those relationships where they

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<v Speaker 1>slap you and then they they like, you know, that's

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<v Speaker 1>just me because I love you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I have heard it you, or because I love you

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<v Speaker 2>so much, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Did this, and we in many occasions are in so

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<v Speaker 1>much need of love that we accept the wrong type

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<v Speaker 1>of love.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that make sense? I mean, I'm going to speak

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<v Speaker 2>from my perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>I've spent in many occasions that I was raised without

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<v Speaker 1>a father, and that, you know, affected the way that

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<v Speaker 1>I see love from the male perspective. I've been in

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<v Speaker 1>many relationships that have been toxic, that have been not healthy,

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<v Speaker 1>but looking for that love and acceptation. Like I want

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<v Speaker 1>you to accept me, I want you to want me.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to embrace me. You accept things that

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<v Speaker 1>obviously are not good for you, that shouldn't be tolerated,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're always seeking to be to be loved right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that makes you, in many occasions, become the lover.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to love you because I wasn't loved. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to love you the way that I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>was loved. I want to do this for you, and

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<v Speaker 1>in many occasions, that person may not want that, that

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<v Speaker 1>person may not need that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why therapy is so important. I'm not going to lie.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>The older I become, the more I understand that finding

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<v Speaker 1>a professional that can help you really is important. When

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<v Speaker 1>we love someone, we experience the incredible feeling of nurturing,

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<v Speaker 1>caring and providing support. You know, when if someone loves you,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a beautiful validation of worthiness and it can boost

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<v Speaker 1>your self confidence.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's extremely important.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have to appreciate those people that put the

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<v Speaker 1>effort into trying to show us how much they care

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<v Speaker 1>about us, because in many occasions, when.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not prepared for that, what we can do is

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<v Speaker 2>push them away.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, a lot of us don't know what it

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<v Speaker 1>is and don't know how to accept and receive being

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<v Speaker 1>loved by somebody else.

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<v Speaker 2>We can push them away without even noticing. And I really.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel that those things can come from traumas, from our

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<v Speaker 1>earlier ages of how we were loved, how we were treated,

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<v Speaker 1>even in school.

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<v Speaker 2>It could be anything.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be one traumatic situation can affect the way

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<v Speaker 1>that you perceive love from your family, from your friends,

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<v Speaker 1>from your loved ones. All those things really do matter.

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<v Speaker 1>I never want to be the one to point fingers

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<v Speaker 1>and judge any of the parents because now as a

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<v Speaker 1>parent myself, I understand how hard it is. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>workaholic because I'm trying to give my daughters, the best

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<v Speaker 1>future possible. And in many occasions, kids don't really care

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<v Speaker 1>about none of those things. They care about the time

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<v Speaker 1>and the quality time that you spend with them. And

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<v Speaker 1>then that from the Latino perspective, from the immigrant perspective,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of our parents didn't spend too much time

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<v Speaker 1>with us growing up, and they didn't give us all

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<v Speaker 1>that love and affection that we were seeking for because

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<v Speaker 1>they were so busy trying to be a parent, a

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<v Speaker 1>parent that had to have a you know, not only

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<v Speaker 1>one job, but two full time jobs besides being a parent.

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<v Speaker 1>Who weren't you know, at home as much as we

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<v Speaker 1>may have wanted to, who may not been able to

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<v Speaker 1>support us the way that we wanted to work, or

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<v Speaker 1>just show us that love and appreciation the way that

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<v Speaker 1>we wanted to write, because they were so cut up

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<v Speaker 1>working and trying to provide for us, and all those things,

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<v Speaker 1>believe it or not, do affect you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll see how it affected me.

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<v Speaker 1>It affected me because I have become a workaholic, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>seeing the way that my mom had four jobs and

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<v Speaker 1>was barely ever there for me. She would come out

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<v Speaker 1>of work super late at night. That was her time

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<v Speaker 1>to clean, cook, whatever prepare meals for me in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>She would leave at six o'clock in the morning to work.

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<v Speaker 1>I would barely see her, maybe to you know, umbsito

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<v Speaker 1>lamagana to wake me up, and I would have to.

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<v Speaker 1>She would leave like you know, the breakfast or lunch,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, ready for me to take it home. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I wouldn't see her again to the next day

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning. And I knew the rules and regulations

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<v Speaker 1>of when you come from school, close the door, don't

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<v Speaker 1>let anybody in, even if they not you know. I

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<v Speaker 1>knew what it was to have to be basically raised

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<v Speaker 1>on my own for a very long time, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was her way of trying to fine ends meet as

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<v Speaker 1>an immigrant with no documents back then at that time,

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<v Speaker 1>she had to figure out ways to financially stay afloat.

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<v Speaker 2>With a child. And at that moment maybe I judged her.

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<v Speaker 1>Now as an adult, I thank her and I respect

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<v Speaker 1>her for the grind, the hustle, the things that she

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<v Speaker 1>had to do. I think that sometimes we can be

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<v Speaker 1>very ungrateful with our parents and not you know, give

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<v Speaker 1>them their credit for all the hard work that they

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<v Speaker 1>had to do to raise a child in this world

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<v Speaker 1>in these times things have changed.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like back in the days when La Vesina, Elvesino.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever your neighbor would.

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<v Speaker 1>Be like, Oha, take care of my kid for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of hours, I'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 2>Those days is gone.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to figure out who you know, what babysit

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<v Speaker 1>or what nanny, what daycare center, whatever it is you

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<v Speaker 1>have to do in order for you to go out work, hustle,

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<v Speaker 1>grind and unfortunately all those things. You know, the way

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<v Speaker 1>the society is set up can affect the love and

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<v Speaker 1>support and the structure that you feel from your household,

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<v Speaker 1>from your mom, from your dad, the quality time that

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<v Speaker 1>you get to spend, and in many occasions as you grow,

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<v Speaker 1>you try to find that and replace that love in

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<v Speaker 1>other places, whether you do it with your friends, whether

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<v Speaker 1>you do it in relationships, or whether you do it

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<v Speaker 1>with other things.

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<v Speaker 2>We see people that you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Try to fill up that void with drugs, alcohol, with sports,

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<v Speaker 1>with dance, with games, with Whenever we feel that we're

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<v Speaker 1>not loved, whenever we feel that there's a gap, whenever

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<v Speaker 1>we feel there's a space missing in there, we usually

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<v Speaker 1>try to fill it up with other things. All the

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<v Speaker 1>things that I personally have suffered and been through because

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<v Speaker 1>everybody in life has gone through their own stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's be clear about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody's perfect and everybody is struggling with their own demons

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<v Speaker 1>in one way or another. Nobody's life is perfect, no

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<v Speaker 1>matter how perfect they make it seem through social media.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody is going through their things.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of people that portray to be, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so happy and have a perfect life outside the exterior

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<v Speaker 1>of them, But when that door closes, they're really looking

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<v Speaker 1>and searching and seeking for love. They want to be loved.

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<v Speaker 1>In many occasions, like myself as an entertainer, I am

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<v Speaker 1>accustomed to giving of me. I give my voice, I

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<v Speaker 1>give my talent, I give my personality, I give you

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<v Speaker 1>my body, I give my image, I give my charisma,

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<v Speaker 1>I give my I give I'm a giver. But in

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<v Speaker 1>many occasions, because I give so much, people don't worry about.

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<v Speaker 2>Pouring back into my cup.

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<v Speaker 1>People don't worry about maybe she needs love, maybe she

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be you know, maybe she needs back.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody really worries about that.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's you know, in many occasions, even when you

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<v Speaker 1>see artists that you know, their life changes and their

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<v Speaker 1>live shifts, and many things may occur is because you

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<v Speaker 1>become so used to giving that your your cup gets empty,

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<v Speaker 1>and you also need love, and you also need that support.

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<v Speaker 1>And like I say, in many occasions, this happens also

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<v Speaker 1>with her parents. This also happens with the wives. This

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<v Speaker 1>also happens with fathers. This also happens because let's say

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<v Speaker 1>I heard this one too, also from a male perspective,

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<v Speaker 1>that as fathers or as men, they're expected to be strong,

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<v Speaker 1>to be brave, to provide, to be the provider, to

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<v Speaker 1>be the protector, to give you. You're supposed to do

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<v Speaker 1>all these things. But who protects you, who loves you,

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<v Speaker 1>who caters to you, who comforts you, who hugs you?

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<v Speaker 1>And I think there, we're so caught up in all

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<v Speaker 1>the things that we're doing ourselves, you know, we're so

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<v Speaker 1>caught up in wanting to be loved and be taken

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<v Speaker 1>care of, in the validation and all these things for ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>that we forget to be that loving person for someone else,

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<v Speaker 1>that we forget to fill up that cup that spades

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<v Speaker 1>that emptiness for somebody else. The smallest question of like

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<v Speaker 1>how can I help you? Can I be there for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Just even a simple hug you may not know what

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<v Speaker 1>that person is going through, because as much as they

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<v Speaker 1>may try to portray, we're all out here in this

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<v Speaker 1>world portraying this facade, the facade of being happy. We're

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<v Speaker 1>so loved, everything is perfect, we look good, we eat well. Everything,

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<v Speaker 1>Especially now with social media, we're in a world where

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<v Speaker 1>we're so accustomed to portraying this happiness and everybody's good,

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<v Speaker 1>these perfect relationships where nobody argues and everybody's always in

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<v Speaker 1>a vacation with matching outfits, that it's like when that

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<v Speaker 1>door closes, what is really going on? How do you

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<v Speaker 1>really feel those business that have become multimillion dollar you know, businesses,

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<v Speaker 1>and everything seems good. Can we see the behind the scenes?

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<v Speaker 1>Can we see you cry because your business didn't go well?

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<v Speaker 1>You know that you lost money, that they ripped you up?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I see the behind the scenes. Everybody has their

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable side. Everybody has had to sacrifice something, Everyone has

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<v Speaker 1>had you know has gone through a heartbreak. Everybody has

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<v Speaker 1>gone through something. Why is it so hard for us

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, vulnerable and just transparent with our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are we so busy trying to portray this perfect

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<v Speaker 1>life that's not true? Why is it so hard for

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<v Speaker 1>us to say I need to be loved, I want love.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel empty, I need something, I need someone to

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<v Speaker 1>help me fill up this void.

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<v Speaker 2>And as much as you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Supposed to do that for yourself, because self love is

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<v Speaker 1>the most important thing, I understand that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's great. You can love yourself as much as you want.

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<v Speaker 2>But we're human.

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<v Speaker 1>We're meant to have human can We weren't born in

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<v Speaker 1>this world by ourselves, right, We're meant to have human connection.

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<v Speaker 1>And sometimes we just want to be loved. Not by ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to be loved by somebody else. It could

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<v Speaker 1>be your friend, It could be your mother, it could

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<v Speaker 1>be your father, it could be whoever. It is. Just

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<v Speaker 1>love overall is universal. You may not speak the same language,

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<v Speaker 1>but you can feel what it is to be loved.

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<v Speaker 1>And it could be from the smallest things. As like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, my mom loves to love me, loves to

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<v Speaker 1>love people through food.

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<v Speaker 2>That is her way.

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<v Speaker 1>She likes to cater, she likes to see you eat.

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<v Speaker 1>She likes to know that her food what she did

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<v Speaker 1>with her hands, you know, being able to cook a

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<v Speaker 1>hot meal for you and fulfill that hunger in your stomach.

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<v Speaker 2>That is her way of showing you her love.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember my mom would argue with me, or be

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<v Speaker 1>upset at me, or you know, give me my whoopings,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she would come with a plate of food,

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<v Speaker 1>and that was her way. And later on through life

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<v Speaker 1>I understood that was her way. There's people that show

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<v Speaker 1>their love by being physical. They like to touch, they

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<v Speaker 1>like to hug, they like to There's others that like

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<v Speaker 1>to give things. You know, there's different ways of showing

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<v Speaker 1>your love. Some people show their loves by giving, by gifting.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to give you this, and this is my way.

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<v Speaker 1>And I understand that part too, because if you work,

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<v Speaker 1>and your work requires sacrifice, and you use your sacrifice

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<v Speaker 1>money to buy something to give, to provide for somebody

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<v Speaker 1>to show them or your token of.

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<v Speaker 2>Love, you got to appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's also important to know overall the people

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<v Speaker 1>that surround you, how do they love to be loved?

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<v Speaker 1>And I also think it's important as that other person

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<v Speaker 1>on the other side, use this conversation that we're having

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<v Speaker 1>right now for you to bother, to take time to

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<v Speaker 1>ask somebody the simplest question, how can I love you?

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<v Speaker 2>How can I love you better? How can I show

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<v Speaker 2>you how much you mean to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it sounds really corny, but you have no

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<v Speaker 1>idea how that simple question that can feel awkward can

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<v Speaker 1>change somebody's life, can change your relationship, can change the

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<v Speaker 1>dynamic of the situation or the life that you're living

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<v Speaker 1>at this moment, the smallest question. I know it feels awkward,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you are an awkward person like me, then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm socially awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>Text it. Maybe texting it makes you feel more comfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>Out of no word, out of the blue. How can

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<v Speaker 2>I love you better?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's important to ask each other. How can

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<v Speaker 1>I love you better? What can I do to be

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<v Speaker 1>a better person for you? Since I am part of

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<v Speaker 1>your life? And honestly, there is no one size fits

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<v Speaker 1>all answer. It's a matter of perspective and personal experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of us may find more happiness in giving love,

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<v Speaker 1>while others are extremely happy in just receiving it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't think that makes you selfish either, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like everybody has their own ways, were all

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<v Speaker 1>born with different mechanisms, and that's okay too.

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<v Speaker 2>But here's the beauty of it all. Love.

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<v Speaker 1>Love is love, you know, and it feels good whichever

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<v Speaker 1>way it may be, it enriches you, It enriches your life.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not an either or situation, Okay, It's a delicate

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<v Speaker 1>dance between loving and being loved that makes our relationships

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<v Speaker 1>so profoundly fulfilling. And that's really what matters at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day, you know, just trying to figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out naturally, it's the best way to go about

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<v Speaker 1>it with no pressure.

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<v Speaker 2>So how do we find balance?

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, would be the question for me, because it's very

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<v Speaker 1>hard to figure it out and there's no rule books.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say that there's no rule books on how

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<v Speaker 1>to live your life. But how do we navigate the

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<v Speaker 1>intricate interplay of love in our lives. It starts with

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<v Speaker 1>self awareness, understanding what you need, what you can give,

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<v Speaker 1>how to have open communications, you know, just freely feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like you can be honest no matter what it is

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<v Speaker 1>that you're feeling. Feeling like you can communicate openly really

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<v Speaker 1>is important. And understanding and also talking about expectations and boundaries.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I expect this, I want this, How can

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<v Speaker 1>I do this? I think communication overall is the key

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<v Speaker 1>to me when it comes to love, to loving or

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<v Speaker 1>being loved don't be afraid to talk. Okay, here's where

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<v Speaker 1>you can take home with you. As I wrap up

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<v Speaker 1>today's episode, remember that the magic of love lies in

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<v Speaker 1>giving and receiving. Embrace both sides, Cherish the love you give,

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<v Speaker 1>and savor the love that you receive.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me that's not fire. That quote right there?

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<v Speaker 1>You better you better use that as a caption on

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<v Speaker 1>your Instagram post.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, guys, by.

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<v Speaker 1>The way, like I always say, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for joining me on this thoughtful journey of today's episode.

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<v Speaker 1>love love as much as you can love the love

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<v Speaker 1>that you receive. My beautiful listeners, stay true to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Embrace the people around you that surround you with positive energy.

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