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Speaker 1: All right now you no longer married Stephen Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: What should I do? I know? This letter to me

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Speaker 1: You raise your voice at him, he yells at you

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Speaker 1: and says you need to respect him. How come you know?

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Speaker 1: You guys don't respect each other and yourselves enough not

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Speaker 1: response to today's Strawberry letter, Sick of my husband Stephen Sherley.

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Speaker 1: what should I do? This is a crazy person writing

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Speaker 1: You disrespecting him when you talk. He disrespecting you when

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Speaker 1: all this craziness, they didn't took your sons all this,

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Speaker 1: you didn't have to take your car back. That's another

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Speaker 1: crazy person. Move the repo man gots to find my car.

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Speaker 1: I ain't. Can't it back down to the finance cup

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Speaker 1: I got, I ain't paid you, but I pick. You

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