1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:01,880 Speaker 1: I feel like he's the one, but I don't want 2 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one 3 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 1: if you're saying that, sorry, Calm Down with Aaron and 4 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. 5 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 2: Aaron. 6 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: This segment is brought to us, not just you us. 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 2: See here we go Michelle Mrie. 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: Any advice for a gallon her fifties who just made 9 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 1: a career change overwhelmed? Congrats for doing it. That's Jajone's sister. 10 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: That's awesome. Give yourself some grace, as you like to say, 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: how could you not be overwhelmed if you're doing something 12 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: for the first time in your twenties thirties. Just know 13 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: that making a career change at any age is a 14 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: big deal, So give yourself some grace. I also think 15 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: that I always go back to this thing that my 16 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: dad always says to me. You're the author of your 17 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: own story. If you don't like the way that things 18 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: are going, then start rewriting. So be very proud of 19 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: yourself that this is a new chapter. And who knows 20 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,320 Speaker 1: what could happen, Because my biggest fear in life is 21 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,199 Speaker 1: just rereading my same thing and then being like God, 22 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: my life is so boring or I'm so stuck, so 23 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 1: for you to have, you know, in Aaron's words, the 24 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: cojones to do that at any age. I mean, you 25 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: really should be very proud of yourself and remember that, like, hey, 26 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: if that doesn't go, well, make another change. Like you're 27 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: not stuck unless you think you are. So congratulations to you. 28 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: Michelle on that anonymous dating again, Oh sorry. 29 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 2: Babe, you read it? Oh you go ahead? 30 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 1: Dating again says He says he sees a future, but 31 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: he's scared to commit and it not work out. Any advice. 32 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: I feel like he's the one, but I don't want 33 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one 34 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: if he's saying that. Sorry, uh uh uh huh, I'm 35 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: sorry if I. 36 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 2: If they I I always adhere to this. 37 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: If they want to, they will, whether that's when you're dating, 38 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: if they're not calling you, if they're not texting you, 39 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,679 Speaker 1: if they're not taking you out on dates, if they're 40 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: not doing certain things, it's because they don't want to 41 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: like a guy. And you know how we are. If 42 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,240 Speaker 1: you want to do something, you're gonna do it. So 43 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: he sees the future, but he's scared to commit Okay, well, hello, 44 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: that's a red flag right there if you're just starting out, 45 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: like I don't know what age or you know, maybe 46 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: you guys are younger and he's like, hey, like this 47 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,920 Speaker 1: is fun cool, But like if you're doesn't matter what 48 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: age you are and you want a commitment and you're 49 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:35,799 Speaker 1: not getting. 50 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 2: That, I agree. I agree. 51 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: It's hard to hear sometimes, but I think that's so 52 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: well said. Also, you don't want to waste your time now, 53 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: like you already waste it a little bit, So move on, sister, 54 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 1: there's better stuff out there. Move on all right, Christina, Kay, 55 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: it's Father's Day, and know both of you are daddy's girls. 56 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: Where do we start on Father's Day gifts for our 57 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: dads and our husbands? 58 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 2: Right now? For me, it's pretty easy. 59 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: I feel like, and I've said this, with gifts for 60 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,800 Speaker 1: Mother's Day, you can't get enough frame photos of my 61 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: dad or my husband with my child and their grandson 62 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: and also child. So for me, it's frames anything I 63 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: can do because I feel like we get great ones 64 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: all the time and it's just updating it. So things 65 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: like that I think are perfect. And I know Macy's 66 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: has a great, great selection on that. What about you 67 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: for your dad? Qte ol scott One stop shopping. Macy's 68 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: does have everything. I love doing a gift basket. I 69 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 1: love doing things that I know that the individual will like. So, 70 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: for example, my dad likes working outside, my dad likes running, 71 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: my dad likes you know, different projects. So get a 72 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: gift basket. Go buy him some running shorts, Go buy 73 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 1: him running shoes. Things like that that sort of will 74 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: feel very specific to the individual. Also, cards, I am 75 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: a big like, don't just give the gift and not 76 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: have a card. I growing up, my mom was like, 77 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: do not open that present until you read the card first, 78 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 1: because that is the most sentimental thing. So just be 79 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: thoughtful and intentional about it. And if it's from the heart, 80 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: then the person that you're giving it to we'll know 81 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:28,159 Speaker 1: love it. Anonymous, how do I balance loving my boyfriend 82 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: but hating his best friend who's a bad nun. 83 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 2: I have a problem with this. That's hard for me. 84 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 1: I don't know how to do that. That would be 85 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: my question too. I think I would just have honest communication. 86 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 1: True story for me, I wasn't really crazy about some 87 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: of my husband's friends, and then honestly, recently one of 88 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 1: his really good friends and I were at a wedding 89 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 1: together may or may not have been overserved, and we 90 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: both started crying, probably from the wine. But listen, people 91 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: are different, people go about things, different people have instances 92 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: in their lives. But like I look at him now 93 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: in such a different eye or light or whatever. 94 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 2: That Yeah, I. 95 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: Probably wasn't the easiest on him, but I wouldn't know 96 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:13,920 Speaker 1: how to do with it. 97 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 2: How did that happen? 98 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: Did you say, like there's always been tension with us? 99 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: And because yeah, so finally like we're at such a 100 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 1: good point of our relationship. 101 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 2: It was great. 102 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 1: And he said to me, which I really appreciated. He said, 103 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: I knew I would break you, like I knew you 104 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: would like me. You just had to give me a chance. 105 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 2: Wow. 106 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:40,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Well it sounds like you both are stubborn. 107 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I know, like we're stubborating. Yeah, we don't 108 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: like something, But I also like having a change. I 109 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: like an opportunity to change someone's opinion where it's like 110 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: I'm in a real place of like full transparency. I 111 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: haven't had a situation where I like went straight to 112 00:05:58,040 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: the source and I was like, look, you have not 113 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 1: been very nice to me since I've met you, and 114 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 1: I don't know what your deal is, but what what 115 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,840 Speaker 1: is it? Have I done something to you? You know whatever? 116 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 1: And then once we hashed it out like it was 117 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: actually so nice. Now I have a different opinion of 118 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: the person too. 119 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear who this is. Oh yeah, 120 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,159 Speaker 2: you're gonna like this story. 121 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:20,119 Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, click on the link, swipe up for more. 122 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,919 Speaker 1: But yeah, I think in general there's something to be 123 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: said because I like directness as I've gotten older, like 124 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: don't I always say, don't waste my time, don't make 125 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 1: me do the mask. So if you've got a problem 126 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: with the best friend, I actually think your boyfriend too 127 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: will respect this. If you say to your boyfriend, do 128 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 1: you mind if I talk to Ted Billy and you 129 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 1: go straight to Ted or Billy Bill and Ted's excellent adventure. 130 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 2: Here's an adventure. 131 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: You go, Hey, I know you don't like me. I 132 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: don't like you, but we both love the same person. 133 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: So how can we make this work? Because it's not 134 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: fair to him. It's not fair to your boyfriend to 135 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 1: as a referee between two people he cares about. And 136 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: I said this, Thank god, thank god, my best friend 137 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: on this podcast here and my boyfriend are closer than 138 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 1: her and I even are, because it makes my life. 139 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: I learned so much, so much easier to have that relationship. 140 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 2: Because advice Eartha that you and Garrett are close. 141 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never had a relationship where you have liked 142 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: the other person is actually a word disdain. Don't come 143 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: to my side of my town and come to my 144 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: fucking instaurant. Ever, you got a lot of her, a 145 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: lot of nerve. Griswold, missus Stormer. Are Steve and Jarrett 146 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: against throwing pillows on the bed? Seems like all husbands are. 147 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 1: Oh no, you can't be with us if you don't 148 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: if you can't handle the pillows. You know what I 149 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: got Steve for Christmas last year was pillows. 150 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 2: Pillows. I actually bought Steve pillows. 151 00:07:55,960 --> 00:08:00,800 Speaker 1: He sleeps with six fucking pillows, Okay, two on the head, 152 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: one in front, one in back, one on his knees. 153 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, you met the right girl then, because we 154 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: are Macy's Home store with as many pillows. 155 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 2: As we're there. Yeah. 156 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: No, Sarrett loves a good fluffy situation. He's into it. Yep, 157 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: he loves us at least. Okay, Anonymous about to be 158 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: roommates with my best friend. Any tips to make sure 159 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: we stay friends. All I've been watching here is Friends 160 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: because it makes me miss home, don't I know. 161 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 2: I was just going to say it, don't do it? 162 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 2: Do it. 163 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 1: I love you so much. I would never want to 164 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: live with you. No, I don't want to live with me. 165 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: There's stuff No I'm saying like this about there would 166 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: be stuff that I do that I don't even know 167 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: I'm doing that's going to annoy you, and. 168 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 2: It's not fair. Don't do it. Do it. But but 169 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 2: since you already are on the least, go to Macy's 170 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 2: to furnish your new apartment. Go to Macy's to furnish 171 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 2: your new apartment. 172 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: But also I would say this, it's all about managing expectations. 173 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:09,319 Speaker 1: And as my father says, which I did not adhere 174 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: to have the divorce before the wedding. So you need 175 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: to sit down with your best friend now roommate and say, hey, 176 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: let's do some non negotiables here. What are things that 177 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: I'm going to do that's going to drive you nuts, 178 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: Like don't clean up around the sink, don't do this, 179 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 1: don't write down all the things that you know already 180 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: are going to just drive you fucking nuts, so that 181 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: you can go okay. She doesn't like if I leave 182 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: you dishes in the sink, so try to get in 183 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: front of any potential arguments. And then I would also 184 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: say this too, make sure that you guys like have 185 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: your own alone time in the house, because if you're 186 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: on top of each other, you're going to resent the person. 187 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 2: They're not going to be your best friend. So good luck. 188 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: I would love a follow up in six months, say 189 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: to reach out and touch someone, and reach out and 190 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: go to Macy's dot com. 191 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 2: This singer was dropt to. 192 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: You by Macy shotmasons dot com for all your knees, 193 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:06,319 Speaker 1: whether it's Father's Day, whether it's home decor, or whether 194 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: it's an I'm sorry gift. Because you and your roommate 195 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: are now not best friends, we love you Macy's and 196 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 1: I love you. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is 197 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 1: a production of iHeartRadio. 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