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Speaker 1: Hi. I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship and

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Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling, railvalry. No, no, sibling.

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Speaker 1: You don't do that with your mouth revely. That's good,

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Speaker 1: are you okay? Elie? I hate my dogs, okay, because

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Speaker 1: I just want to tell everybody that's listening that Oliver

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Speaker 1: just looks so like you're annoyed, You're frustrated, you feel

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Speaker 1: like like it's like it's like there's like a look

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Speaker 1: on your face that's like something's wrong. I just I'm

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Speaker 1: tired of my dogs. I almost want to take a

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Speaker 1: picture of what Donut did to my backhouse, because it's

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Speaker 1: like such a great example of like the dog you

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Speaker 1: never want, except then there's these moments where he's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: he's cute and he's great and he's a bulldog and

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Speaker 1: he's so funny and he's hysterical and right now, but no,

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Speaker 1: but but yeah, back to what you're saying. I know,

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Speaker 1: I'm just talking about how there's a sense of sometimes

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Speaker 1: of entitlement when people are looking to get a job,

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Speaker 1: and like I don't know what. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: that feels like, because even now in my career, I'm

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Speaker 1: still like, I'll still work for a job, you know,

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Speaker 1: I'll still audition, I'll still show up and do whatever

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Speaker 1: I need to do. If I want to do something,

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Speaker 1: I put everything into it. I have no ego about it,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. If you want anything, you

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Speaker 1: have to go for it, which means you need to

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Speaker 1: follow up. The importance of following up, like if you're

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Speaker 1: going to interview with someone, if you're going to audition

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Speaker 1: with someone, Like there's there's something that is a wonderful

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Speaker 1: thing when you can call someone and say, hey, what

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Speaker 1: a blast, thank you for taking the time to see

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Speaker 1: me audition, thank you for taking the time for this interview.

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Speaker 1: And I really hope that it works out. If not,

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Speaker 1: I hope something down the line can. And you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean, like it goes such a long way,

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Speaker 1: Oh for sure. I mean even just from a strategic standpoint,

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Speaker 1: forget about whether you are believing it or not. Just

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Speaker 1: strategically it's a good thing to do, you know, it's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: this was great. You stay in their minds and relating

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Speaker 1: it back to Alison and her trying to find an intern. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean it's these kids, these college kids. I guess

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Speaker 1: they just don't really give much of a shit. I

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Speaker 1: guess that's maybe it's a generational thing. I mean, but no,

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Speaker 1: but that's it's interesting that you just said that, Alie,

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Speaker 1: because you're like, it's a good strategy. And I think

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Speaker 1: when when it comes to manifestation, it's not about strategy.

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Speaker 1: It's about like, it's about what you're putting in to

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Speaker 1: practice as a as a life practice without expecting outcome.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Like manifestation only occurs when the outcome is

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Speaker 1: about what you're putting out, not what you're getting back.

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Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Like I believe that I manifested

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Speaker 1: not because I expected an an outcome. I manifested because

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Speaker 1: I literally just put it out and in my mind,

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Speaker 1: if it's not that it's this, if it's not going

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Speaker 1: to be this, it's going to be something over here. Like,

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Speaker 1: manifestation doesn't necessarily happen the way you have an expectation

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Speaker 1: for it to happen, or how you can strategize or

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Speaker 1: calculate it. It's more like how you it's honestly, it's

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Speaker 1: it's the foundation of the nicheron Buddhism, right, niets dam

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Speaker 1: holding that I've been doing that. Your ex girlfriend, remember,

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Speaker 1: she was the first one that I knew who did it,

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Speaker 1: and then my my one of my trainers, Nicole did it,

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Speaker 1: and then I started doing it, and I've always been

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Speaker 1: doing it. In and out of doing that most of

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Speaker 1: my do you just do the chance or do you

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Speaker 1: do the actual book? I do the whole thing. I

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Speaker 1: do the I do the prayer, I do the chant.

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Speaker 1: I chant and then I meditate. But I always go

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Speaker 1: back to it because it there's something about that, that

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Speaker 1: energy of manifestation that I appreciate, and it's and sometimes

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Speaker 1: it becomes really materialistic for people, and that's where I

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Speaker 1: think it doesn't work. That's It's funny you say that,

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Speaker 1: because that's one of the reasons why I stop. Because

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Speaker 1: I would go to these meetings. I was like kind

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Speaker 1: of deep into it, and these people be like, if

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Speaker 1: rain gay kill. I'm like, this seems weird. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: that's not the of it. No, but that's not the

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Speaker 1: knew the whole book by heart. That's so great. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So SoC got Guy. Yeah, Soco got Guy International man.

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Speaker 1: That was such a big part of my life for

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Speaker 1: a while. It's so weird. You know. I watched the

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Speaker 1: documentary Tina, which, by the way, if anyone hasn't seen that,

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Speaker 1: so much is her struggle was so real and it

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Speaker 1: just forever. How about being Tina Turner? I can Tina

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Speaker 1: everything that she went through and then going fifteen years

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Speaker 1: the recognition? Hold on a second. I hope nobody takes

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Speaker 1: this personally, but I mean what I'm about to say, Okay,

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Speaker 1: don't take it personally. You should just be accountable to this.

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Speaker 1: The fact that a record label or any record label

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Speaker 1: executive was like, I don't believe in Tina Turner as

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Speaker 1: it took it took these It took these two amazing

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Speaker 1: company who literally like begged and her manager to say,

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Speaker 1: she's a she's a star, she's a light, she's a like,

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Speaker 1: how how can we not bring Tina Turner back into

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Speaker 1: needs to be playing stadiums off. The story just kills me.

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Speaker 1: What I loved about Tina is that she was a

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Speaker 1: But the thing is is there's this misconception that with

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Speaker 1: It's like, no, no, no no, that's not how any of this,

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Speaker 1: or for a particular situation. It's fun. You can make

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Speaker 1: Saturn mercury. I told you till October. How has that

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Speaker 1: been for you so far? It's been amazing. Good. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's been great. I feel great. I feel great. Thanks

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Speaker 1: just too negative. I don't want to get into negative space.

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Speaker 1: It's just in the quest to figure out what is wrong,

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Speaker 1: it because how can they be so attentive to each patient? Right,

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Speaker 1: but the universe made its move, and my job asked

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Speaker 1: me if I wanted to move in the middle of

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Speaker 1: a pandemic in twenty twenty to Greenville. I decided to

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Speaker 1: make it happen. I sold my house I loved, and

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Speaker 1: my husband, our beautiful six year old daughter, Savannah, and

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Speaker 1: our golden retriever moved to Greenville for a chance of

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Speaker 1: a new adventure. My head and agenda to be near

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Speaker 1: bread finally when he comes home. We moved away from

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Speaker 1: all security and my parents who I used to see

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Speaker 1: daily for a chance to live near my brother for once.

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Speaker 1: It was hard. We rent my brother's house and had

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Speaker 1: hopes of him moving back soon, But now it might

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Speaker 1: be twenty twenty three now before he moves back. Guess

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Speaker 1: I'll keep waiting. But you know what, God has a

439
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 1: way of working all things out. We love our new

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Speaker 1: adventure here, like we're finally living in a great town.

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Speaker 1: We've met new friends, my husband loves his new job,

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Speaker 1: Savannah loves her new school, and I still have hope

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Speaker 1: that one day we will all live together and have

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Speaker 1: that loving relationship that you guys show on every episode.

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Speaker 1: We think we can talk my parents into living in

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Speaker 1: both cities. If we are both in Greenville throughout the year.

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00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:25,360
Speaker 1: It gives me hope. Until then, I'll keep listening if

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Speaker 1: you will keep sharing. Thanks for bringing sunshine into so

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Speaker 1: many people's lives with your podcast. We are all saying

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Speaker 1: me too in our own ways. Love y'all. Oh Wendy,

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Speaker 1: I am saying that I've been to Greenville. I've been

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Speaker 1: to Greenville a ton like I play in a golf

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Speaker 1: tournament there for the last however many Yearsville is awesome,

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Speaker 1: Greenville's amazing. Love Greenville. I love this so much. And

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Speaker 1: you know what, It's so funny, isn't it, Because it's

456
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: like it's true, there's certain people. It's like her brother's

457
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: out there like doing all these things and doesn't. It's

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Speaker 1: like you're just it's like their brains are just different,

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Speaker 1: Like she stayed closer to her parents and didn't go

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Speaker 1: and do those kinds of things, and was always longing

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Speaker 1: that her brother would be around, they'd have some sort

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Speaker 1: of normal kind of it's gonna come. She's gonna that

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00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: to me, is a great manifesting beginning. I hope I

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Speaker 1: want Wendy to write us when it happened. It's so weird.

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Speaker 1: I know, even prior to reading these emails, you started

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Speaker 1: this whole thing off about talking about manifestation just in general,

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Speaker 1: and then the first emails about her putting on her

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Speaker 1: vision board manifesting sort of this new life or that

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Speaker 1: she where she can be close her brother, and it

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Speaker 1: fucking happened. I mean, weird, man. I know, I love it.

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00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: I love it awesome. And just the time that she

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Speaker 1: took to write this. I don't know, just I just all, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's true. I I it's so meaningful for for for me,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I I hope it is for other people

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Speaker 1: listening too. But like when I hear stories like this,

476
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Speaker 1: you realize that no matter how far away we all

477
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Speaker 1: think we are or by the way people might think

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Speaker 1: they are from me or you ali, like you're so interconnected.

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Speaker 1: There's so much there's you know, people, we we think

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Speaker 1: that we think that on the outside that there's such

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Speaker 1: a difference, that there's such such a huge you know

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Speaker 1: that you know, I know a lot of people sometimes

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00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 1: think that our lives aren't necessarily normal, and they're not.

484
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: They're they're they're not normal. Nobody's life is normal, right,

485
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Speaker 1: But there's such a there's when it comes to family

486
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Speaker 1: and dynamic and like how we all grow up and

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Speaker 1: live and how that how that then sort of turns

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Speaker 1: itself into who we are as adults in our relationships

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Speaker 1: with our siblings and our parents. It's so connected. Mm hmm. Yeah. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I just I just think that it's like everyone wants

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Speaker 1: to know, like what's the secret. It's like the secret

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Speaker 1: is you got to connect to your ship because it's

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Speaker 1: where we're all like we all that's where that's where

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Speaker 1: every single human being's energy is connected. We all have

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Speaker 1: a different circumstances, similar stories. Mm hm, No, it's true.

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Speaker 1: That's a that's a good point. We really do. I mean,

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Speaker 1: a lot of the feelings are the same. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: necessarily mean that again, circumstantially things might be different, but

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Speaker 1: the root of some of these feelings, they're so interconnected.

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Speaker 1: You know, the human experiences is never is never truly singular.

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Speaker 1: M hmm right, yeah, well that's why you have to

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Speaker 1: That's why it's important to talk about these things and

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Speaker 1: Kateen Oliver, I hope you guys are fabulous. Well, where

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Speaker 1: to begin? I am Brittany from a small town in Georgia.

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Speaker 1: I'm working at the hospital in the midst of the pandemic,

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Speaker 1: along with helping manage the COVID vaccine clinics. My sister

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Speaker 1: is actually working with a Department of Public Health and

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Speaker 1: she runs the vaccine clinics there. To say we are

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Speaker 1: tired is an understatement. I'm sending energy right now, Brittany.

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Speaker 1: This podcast has helped me in so many ways. It's

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Speaker 1: a place to go for tears, laughs, moments of realization.

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Speaker 1: But really, you guys always make me take a step

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Speaker 1: back in my life and really think about the happiness

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Speaker 1: and joy I have received from my siblings. My siblings

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Speaker 1: and I were not given the best childhood. Wait a minute, Alison,

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Speaker 1: did you put a sad warning on this? No you

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Speaker 1: did not. Okay, hold on, My siblings and I were

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Speaker 1: not given the best childhood. I have two brothers that

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Speaker 1: are younger than me and one sister who was a

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Speaker 1: year older than me. We sadly had a depressed, suicidal,

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Speaker 1: bipolar mother along with a father who had a very

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Speaker 1: bad addiction to drugsh We have so many horror stories

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Speaker 1: of what we witnessed and what we emotionally felt at

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Speaker 1: that moment. We were taken from our mother and father

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Speaker 1: at a young age and spent years waiting to be

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Speaker 1: reunited with our parents, constant phone calls of asking mommy

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Speaker 1: and Daddy when they would pick us up. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: it has caused us quite the abandonment issues. Yeah, my

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Speaker 1: father always has chosen women and drugs over his kids.

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Speaker 1: He has not witnessed any of our births. My mother

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Speaker 1: tried her best to raise four children while constantly battling

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Speaker 1: the demons of bipolar disorder. We sadly lost our mother

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Speaker 1: to suicide about eight years ago, and my father is

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Speaker 1: still trapped in the addiction world. Through many counseling sessions

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Speaker 1: and tears, we have become quite amazing people regardless of

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Speaker 1: what we have gone through. Wow, good for you, Jesus,

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00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 1: that's tough. Through all of the trauma and heartache, my

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Speaker 1: siblings and I have created quite the bond. We fight

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Speaker 1: for one another. We are always there for one another,

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Speaker 1: and me and me and my sister basically became mothers

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Speaker 1: at quite a young age. We financially support our brothers

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Speaker 1: and emotionally, really etc. My brothers have turned out to

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Speaker 1: be amazing young adults. My seventeen year old brother has

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Speaker 1: his own business and was giving a lot of honors

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Speaker 1: for baseball. He will graduate high school next year and

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Speaker 1: will also be attending college, hopefully for baseball if he chooses.

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Speaker 1: My other brother is also on the same baseball team

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Speaker 1: and has been given many honor. He has bipolar oh wow,

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Speaker 1: and constantly fights his own demons every day. He has

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Speaker 1: just gone into high school, volunteers at church groups to

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Speaker 1: help others, works a job, and he is fifteen. My

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Speaker 1: brothers are my pride and joy. My brothers are my

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Speaker 1: pride and joy. They continue to give us a reason

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Speaker 1: to work harder every day. My sister is the first

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Speaker 1: college graduate in our family, and I am still working

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Speaker 1: on my college degree. With toxic family members, lost gains,

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Speaker 1: given responsibilities that were never supposed to be ours, my

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Speaker 1: sister and I have turned out quite amazing. I am

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Speaker 1: resentful of the fact that my parents were never the

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Speaker 1: parents we needed, but whenever I think about it, it

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Speaker 1: has molded us. It's that perseverance, man, It's just amazing.

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Speaker 1: It has molded us into quite amazing individuals. Everything we

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Speaker 1: have lacked from our childhood was given to our brothers.

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Speaker 1: Not to say it was a blessing of losing my parents,

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Speaker 1: but we managed to make it and it is quite

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Speaker 1: a fascinating, quite an amazing feeling. Thank you guys for

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Speaker 1: your podcast. Kate, I've always loved you. You're such an

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Speaker 1: inspiring woman all of over, such an amazing man. Both

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Speaker 1: of your stories are inspiring, as you know, the emptiness

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Speaker 1: of a parent disappointing you from a young age. Wishing

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Speaker 1: you both lots of love. Brittany, dude, I did pretty good.

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Speaker 1: I did pretty good. Like I mean, I don't know

638
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Speaker 1: if i'd say that you kind of lost. I just

639
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: paused for you know, you know, look, this is one

640
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: of those stories. This is like you know to me,

641
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I know that Brittany knows because she says that,

642
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:57,320
Speaker 1: you know, she is amazing. First of all, you are amazing,

643
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:01,400
Speaker 1: and your sister sounds amazing, and your brothers sound amazing

644
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: and amazing. Is is is the is the word of

645
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:09,560
Speaker 1: this letter because she says that a lot too. So

646
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: it's what a beautiful thing to be putting that out,

647
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 1: but touching, touching on that real quick though, like Kate,

648
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 1: like when she says we've turned out we have both

649
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,280
Speaker 1: my sister and I've turned out quite amazing. Like you said,

650
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: her owning that is awesome. Yeah, yeah, yeah, because she knows, Yeah,

651
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 1: she knows, and you struggle. I mean, those are things

652
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: like you know, I don't know, you know, losing your

653
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 1: parent to suicide and knowing that that's I mean, it

654
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 1: sounds like they've known that that was a possibility throughout

655
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: being being young, but growing up with that kind of

656
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 1: instability is a very hard thing to come out the

657
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:55,399
Speaker 1: other side and and to just like keep fighting for

658
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 1: a better life. And that sounds like that that is

659
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 1: what not only Brittany and sisters doing, but what they're

660
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: what they've given their brothers. And yeah, and now the

661
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: fifteen year old has bipolar as well, so you know, yeah,

662
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 1: it's it's also it's also an unfortunate common story, meaning

663
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: that again, you know, Brittany the family, they're not alone.

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00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 1: I'm sure through her therapy, has realized that there's so

665
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 1: many families who've you know, go through this. You know,

666
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 1: we were talking about kids getting fostered with their siblings

667
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 1: and you know, it's just it's just that, you know,

668
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: mental illness reeks havoc on families if you can't get

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00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 1: the right help, and I just I might my hope

670
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 1: and I'm sure that their brother is is doing good

671
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 1: and is getting the right kind of counseling. And but

672
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: what an amazing story. How old is Brittany did she

673
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 1: say in this she I don't think she did. She well,

674
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: I know that the brothers are seventeen and fifteen. She

675
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: hasn't graduated college. I'm assuming she's in her twenties. Yeah,

676
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: this is just unbelievable. I just I want to talk

677
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: to them. It's incredible. I mean, the strength again in

678
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,240
Speaker 1: the middle and I was like, just when I was

679
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: trying to get through it, just the perseverance, the sort

680
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: of saying, no, this is what we were dealt and

681
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:39,759
Speaker 1: we're going to make it better. We're going to do

682
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like it's just her sister

683
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 1: graduating college and also probably working full time. I'm assuming,

684
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 1: like they look how hard they're working, and now she's

685
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: trying to you know. I mean, it's it's it's it's

686
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: just it's just amazing. And you know, addiction is a

687
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 1: really scary thing because you know, I always say, sometimes

688
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 1: you can't tell the smartest people you know to stop

689
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: using drugs. It's just such a hard thing to get

690
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 1: people to recognize when they have that kind of addiction.

691
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: The importance of getting clean. You can't tell them they

692
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: have to do it all on their own. You know.

693
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: It's a really really and it doesn't mean that their

694
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 1: father doesn't have isn't you know, doesn't have all great

695
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: qualities or could be you know clean, you know that,

696
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: but drugs, when they take a hold, it's just it's

697
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: just like man, it's relentless and oh sure, and then

698
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: you got to go back of course, and do you

699
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 1: know his their father's life, what did that look like it?

700
00:44:55,280 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: But anyway, this is just a great share. I think

701
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 1: the bond this is a great sort of representation of

702
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: siblings and how you can bond when the one thing

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00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:14,839
Speaker 1: that they have and they know they have is the

704
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 1: same experience with their parents, and it's brought them closer

705
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: to each other, more reliant on each other, more available

706
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,839
Speaker 1: to each other. You know, it's just so thank god

707
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 1: they have each other. It's just yeah, so perfect. Yeah, Brittany,

708
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: we love you. Thank you for sharing. That was just

709
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:44,720
Speaker 1: the just you are amazing. Okay. My name is Sarah

710
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: and I have been a fan of your podcast since

711
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 1: day one. Aside from the podcast, I have been a

712
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:51,760
Speaker 1: fan of your family as long as I can remember.

713
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: My husband and I dated for over seven years before

714
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 1: becoming engaged. Before he popped the question, I used to

715
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 1: say that we could be life partners like Goldie Hawn

716
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: Kurt Russell. Getting to know the two of you and

717
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 1: your family dynamics through this podcast confirms that you are

718
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 1: as delightful, warm, caring, and close knit as I have

719
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:14,320
Speaker 1: always believed. I would use similar words to describe the

720
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: dynamics of my own family, and we certainly appreciate a

721
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: healthy dose of humor with anything in life, which is

722
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: another reason why I think I've always been such a

723
00:46:22,560 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 1: big fan of yours. I have an older brother technically

724
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 1: half brother, but we have always referred to each other

725
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 1: as full siblings and two younger sisters. My parents have

726
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 1: been married for thirty plus years, and I had a

727
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 1: real wholesome, stereotypical Midwestern upbringing. With that being said, as

728
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 1: you always say, everyone and every family has their struggles.

729
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: My older brother is almost eight years older than I,

730
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: and I found it difficult to remain close to him

731
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 1: in our adulthood, which saddens me. One sister is thirteen

732
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: months younger and the other is almost eight years younger,

733
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 1: and we have always been like three peas in a

734
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: pod once we got past the phase of my youngest

735
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: sister being the annoying one who wanted to pretend she

736
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:08,719
Speaker 1: was older then what she was while we were growing up.

737
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: In recent years, I've seen my sister my younger sisters

738
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 1: struggle with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, alcoholism, thoughts of suicide,

739
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:24,399
Speaker 1: and legal issues. As we always say, everyone's got their shit.

740
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: My heart has been an immense pain at times seeing

741
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:33,360
Speaker 1: my sisters hurting and ultimately knowing that I alone cannot

742
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: take away their pain. On top of being an older,

743
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:40,439
Speaker 1: protective sister, I am also a mental health professional, which

744
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 1: only adds to the feeling like I should be able

745
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: to fix them. All of that aside and my work

746
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:50,279
Speaker 1: as a therapist, I serve primarily children in adolescents and

747
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 1: feel a great sense of pride and purpose in helping

748
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:56,240
Speaker 1: others work through their struggles. You too are a constant

749
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: companion on my commute to and from work, and I

750
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 1: look forward to your episodes every week, almost getting giddy

751
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 1: when I see the notification on my phone that a

752
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 1: new episode is available. You too have such a perfect

753
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: yin and yang dynamic in your conversations, and I appreciate

754
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 1: all of the things that your podcast has shed light on,

755
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:17,399
Speaker 1: including the light that it brings to my days when

756
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 1: other things personally or professionally just seems too sad or tough.

757
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: Keep up the great work, And I really think that

758
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 1: Oliver could have a shot at being a therapist someday.

759
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm interesting. I much love Sarah interesting, Allie, Ollie, you

760
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 1: could be a therapist or a life coach. Oh God,

761
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 1: can I just say something right now, Sarah Sharah, that's

762
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 1: very nice of you, but I'm gonna have to, like

763
00:48:50,800 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: very respectfully decline your suggestion. Gosh, all, let me tell

764
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,320
Speaker 1: you if he could, if he'd show up to the sessions,

765
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 1: let's just start with that right late, he'd be like

766
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: on on a gondola, like like zooming, like yelling at

767
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:21,280
Speaker 1: his kids, trying to do a sessions. But it's interesting

768
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:24,360
Speaker 1: the dynamic here where she is a mental health professional,

769
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 1: albeit working with children, you know, and and adolescents. But

770
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 1: still I wonder what that that feeling that adds to

771
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 1: the helplessness of Yeah, I'm trained to help you and

772
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: I fucking can't. Yeah, it's got to be crazy. It's

773
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 1: like having a child that you wish you could take

774
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 1: their pain away. You think you wish. It's like it's

775
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 1: like you and I saw you walk in the house

776
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: the other day. I kind of like made you come

777
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: to your friend's house. I was like, you got to

778
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 1: come over, like what are you doing? And you're like

779
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 1: sitting on the couch whatever. But when you walked in,

780
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: I just had a sense, a energetic sense, not saying

781
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 1: that you were necessarily in that place, but I like

782
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 1: I saw your like I could see like your chest

783
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: was like just like hold holding so much, and I

784
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 1: was like, oh, iish I could just like pull this

785
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,439
Speaker 1: out of my brother. I just want to like take

786
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: it like like like it's a demon, like it's a

787
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:26,279
Speaker 1: like it's an entity. And I want to I want to.

788
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:32,359
Speaker 1: I want to. I want to just suck it out.

789
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: I want to, like I want to exercise it out.

790
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:37,799
Speaker 1: I want to do it. Yeah, don't don't, don't say

791
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 1: suck it out. That is inappropriate. I want to, like no, no,

792
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 1: I want energetically for it to be sucked out like

793
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:51,800
Speaker 1: I want. I want to, Like I want you know,

794
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: when you have a booger that's like really deep in

795
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: your nose and you like get it and It's one

796
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,399
Speaker 1: of those boogers that you know, when it comes out,

797
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 1: it's gonna feel like it's in your brain and then

798
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: your entire sinus is clean. That's how I felt about

799
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: your anxiety when I saw you. I wanted to take

800
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: it and like release it so that you can have

801
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 1: a full wrath that your like body was empty this right.

802
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 1: I wanted your body to feel empty of that, and

803
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 1: and and and and I think as a as a

804
00:51:24,040 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: sister who cares about a sibling or or a brother,

805
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 1: whatever it's it is. It's one of those feelings you're like, oh,

806
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:38,799
Speaker 1: I just want to like help that go away. I know,

807
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:44,760
Speaker 1: but but you can only do so much, you know. Yeah, yeah,

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00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 1: you know. Well, it sounds like the headline is gonna

809
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: be weird. Kate Hudson wants to suck the demonside of

810
00:51:52,960 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 1: her brother. That's a great headline. We will definitely want

811
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 1: to know what we're talking about. So funny. Oh well, Sarah,

812
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,439
Speaker 1: I love how much you care. I love the work

813
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:16,879
Speaker 1: that you do. We need more mental health professionals out

814
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 1: there working with children. And yeah, I wish you could

815
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 1: say that it's getting better, but it's not. Unfortunately, so

816
00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: you know, thanks for that, and I hope your sister's

817
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 1: all right, and thank you for writing in. So this

818
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 1: was a comment on the Apple podcast, and we thought

819
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 1: it was it was just nice. So, okay, here we go.

820
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm a sixty six year old woman who has lived

821
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 1: my life with severe PTSD. I was physically and emotionally

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00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 1: abused as a young girl, and living a so called

823
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: normal life was just not realistic. I've always felt different,

824
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: but now I am more aware of why thanks to

825
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 1: inner child work. Oh that's by the way, I'd like

826
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 1: to Actually, we should talk to someone who does all

827
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 1: that inner child It's interesting. Yeah, I have had I

828
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 1: have had three siblings. My youngest brother died from a

829
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 1: drug overdose. I am not close to my living brother.

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00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 1: He's very close to off to having any relationship. My

831
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 1: sister and I are just now trying to get to

832
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: know each other. We all lived in an abusive home.

833
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 1: You guys, and your open, vulnerable relationship makes me feel

834
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: sane and somewhat normal. Love you so much and I

835
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 1: look forward to every episode. You guys are so fun

836
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: stay beautiful. Oliver, you are a precious man. Katie. Your

837
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: laughs make me laugh. You both are open and always

838
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 1: trying to be better humans. We all need to be

839
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: kind and love sometimes from afar, but kindness and love

840
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: is the answer to living with peace. I love getting

841
00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 1: to know you too. We are all human. We can

842
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:02,760
Speaker 1: live a life with forgiveness, love and kindness without judgment.

843
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 1: Enjoy your life with each other. Life's too short for

844
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 1: anything else. Oh oh, that's so wonderful. I mean, well,

845
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:16,839
Speaker 1: I mean, let me reframe that, you know, and it's

846
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's always nice to hear that even

847
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 1: when you're experiencing and in the work, like you can

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we have a friend and she

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Speaker 1: has a lot of PTSD, a lot of stuff, and

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Speaker 1: I you know, I'll be talking with her and I'll

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Speaker 1: like kind of like it, like stop and be like,

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Speaker 1: you know, sometimes we don't have to just work so hard,

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Speaker 1: like the uphill battle of trying, you know, because we're

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Speaker 1: always changing, like our life, we should always be looking

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Speaker 1: like there's no moment in your life where something does

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Speaker 1: it need to be kind of worked through something there's

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Speaker 1: always something. But when people have really experienced stuff like this,

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Speaker 1: like abuse, and sometimes you work so hard to feel

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Speaker 1: light m hm, that the work in itself is adding

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Speaker 1: to the to the Sometimes you just need to like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like it's okay to just oh yeah, you can overload

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Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, like you know, to work so hard,

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Speaker 1: like you know, and and and and I love what

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Speaker 1: I love what she's saying about peace and forgiveness. I

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Speaker 1: I I Lately this is like one of the things

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Speaker 1: I think about a lot, because we're living in such

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Speaker 1: the one thing that we're forgetting about movement and change

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Speaker 1: is forgiveness because it just doesn't cannot exist without that

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Speaker 1: piece of the puzzle. It just cannot. And when she's

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Speaker 1: it's when she says that, you know, you have to

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Speaker 1: be able to heart, You have to be able to

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Speaker 1: forgive the hardest things in order to find inner peace.

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Speaker 1: And just because you forgive doesn't mean that you like

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Speaker 1: you know, I I say forgiveness like a part of that,

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Speaker 1: you know, you can you can sort of marry with

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Speaker 1: your faith. A lot of people who have more religious

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Speaker 1: practices or spiritual practices have an easier time for with

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Speaker 1: forgiveness because they believe that, uh, something you know, are

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Speaker 1: bigger is going will be Like it's it's like when

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Speaker 1: someone says, I forgive you because you're your your your

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Speaker 1: words and your issues are with God, not with me.

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Speaker 1: You know, let God, let God be. You know, that's

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Speaker 1: a sort of a very kind of Christian like, let

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Speaker 1: God be the ultimate right witness. Right, but you can forgive.

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Speaker 1: But I think that there's still not associate. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think I think that. But I think that that's

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Speaker 1: a really beautiful concept, which is don't take on someone

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Speaker 1: else's even if it's inflicted you. You even if it's

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Speaker 1: even if it's challenged you. To carry that is to

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Speaker 1: give it power. Right, Well, forgiveness is selfish in a way,

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Speaker 1: you're doing it for yourself. I mean if you forgive

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Speaker 1: and let go like forgive, let go like God, you know,

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Speaker 1: I think then you can find real peace. You know.

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Speaker 1: I it's it's a it's it's it's like like our

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Speaker 1: therapist easier. You know, sounds simple, not simplistic because it's

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Speaker 1: so hard, but it's it's it's working that process that

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Speaker 1: I think brings people more lightness of being right, Well,

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Speaker 1: there's a root to everything, right, there's a root to

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Speaker 1: the pain of everyone, and and those who didn't get

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Speaker 1: to that route to break a cycle will then continue it, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then bring it. So it's about forgiving where they

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Speaker 1: came from, forgiving them based on what their situation was.

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Speaker 1: And again, it doesn't mean you have to associate and

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Speaker 1: become friends or have a new relationship with but it's

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Speaker 1: just an awareness a mindfulness of oh wait, they went

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Speaker 1: through this and didn't have the capacity to sort of

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Speaker 1: fix themselves, and then they passed it down. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to bring this back full circle because we started this

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Speaker 1: talking about Tina Turner and the abuse that she experienced

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Speaker 1: and watching her documentary and all of that, and when

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Speaker 1: she found Buddhism, and that was when she started to

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Speaker 1: release and forgive and let go and start to look

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Speaker 1: to let go of the control and the stop reliving

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Speaker 1: the story, you know, yep ye. And it's a very

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Speaker 1: challenging thing to do. But oh my god, everybody, again,

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Speaker 1: we love the email episodes. I know, they're so they're

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Speaker 1: so there, they're so therapeutic. I I it's like, I

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Speaker 1: I want to do this, you know, I guess that's

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Speaker 1: kind of like the Red Table talk that Jada and

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Speaker 1: the and right, It's sort of like there's something so

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Speaker 1: therapeutic about being able to talk about and like lineage.

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Speaker 1: We lose sight of our lineage. I was doing this

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Speaker 1: thing with I was I mean, I was looking through

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Speaker 1: Instagram and and someone had posted about and someone had

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Speaker 1: posted about this Bill Maher talking about how people actually

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Speaker 1: revere their elders in most because they're because of the wisdom,

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Speaker 1: the life that they live, the knowledge that they have,

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Speaker 1: and like lineage, and how important it is to keep

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Speaker 1: those things like you know, we we we need to

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Speaker 1: like have more reverence for our our siblings and our

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Speaker 1: older siblings and our younger like how we I don't

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Speaker 1: know what I'm trying to say. I'm trying to say

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Speaker 1: these these episodes. No, no, I'm trying to just just

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Speaker 1: give me a these email episodes that that's sort of

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Speaker 1: what I get from it. It's like I sort of

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Speaker 1: get reminded that that our story are our lineage, that's

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Speaker 1: the place we need to actually grow from. That's our

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Speaker 1: launching pad it and no matter how difficult it is,

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Speaker 1: you need to honor it. I know that sounds crazy

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Speaker 1: for people who but like honor it and then and then,

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Speaker 1: and that's where you launch from. And you can launch

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Speaker 1: in any direction. You choose any different direction, breaking the cycle.

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Speaker 1: But like honoring that everything has a story, comes from

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Speaker 1: from something, learning about it, understanding it so that you

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Speaker 1: can make better decisions for yourself. Right, you can either

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Speaker 1: continue it or break from it, you know, depending on

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Speaker 1: what that story is. Yeah, for sure, I love you,

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Speaker 1: my brother, I love you too. That was fun. Sibling

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Speaker 1: Revelry is executive produced by Kate Hudson and Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: Producer is Alison President, editor is Josh Wendish. Music by

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Speaker 1: Mark Hudson aka Uncle Mark. If you want to show

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