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Speaker 1: It's the Best Bits of the Week with Morgan number two.

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Speaker 2: What's up, everybody, It's time for the Best Bits this

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Speaker 2: weekend and a lot of y'all's favorite guests.

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Speaker 3: Miss Amy is joining me. How are you hi?

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Speaker 1: Good?

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Speaker 2: We were just eating some food, We had a little

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Speaker 2: break and now we're ready to dive in and doing

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Speaker 2: the Best Bits is a little bit different. So I'm

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Speaker 2: going to share with you all the bits that are

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Speaker 2: included this week and then we'll just have a fun

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Speaker 2: conversation for a little bit. So coming in at the

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Speaker 2: number seven spot, Lunchbox wants to back out of a

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Speaker 2: hosting event that we were both on that was kind

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Speaker 2: of controversial for a lot of reasons. Abby shared a

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Speaker 2: big update in her dating life. We had Ryan Blaneyon,

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Speaker 2: who if you're a big NASCAR fan then you would

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Speaker 2: totally know him. Eddie and I arm wrestled each other.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that happens, thanks to you. Sorry about that.

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Speaker 3: Nope, that's okay.

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Speaker 2: It happened the Twelve Days of Bobby Bone Show Christmas.

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Speaker 2: It was a whole song version that we did and

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Speaker 2: it was just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: It was so funny. But I also apologized for my tone.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, mine. I couldn't even sing mine.

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Speaker 2: I listened back and I was like, I wasn't even

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Speaker 2: singing because I was saying ducked and I was trying

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I was like duttee. So that was there.

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Speaker 2: We did the driving test, which shout out to both

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Speaker 2: of us because.

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Speaker 3: We are some of the best on the show.

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Speaker 1: It's ironic, huh, it is ironic.

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Speaker 3: And then we had our saint dude Radiothon.

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Speaker 2: So all some really exciting stuff happened this week, and

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Speaker 2: you can check that out with Best Bitch Just the Bits,

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Speaker 2: All right, Amy, you ready to dive in?

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Speaker 3: I talk about some things.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel I told you re energized because of

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Speaker 1: the food. We just said, yes, I needed to pick

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Speaker 2: But well, so shout out Amerigo. They had heard me

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Speaker 2: talking about their cheese fritters on The Best Bits.

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Speaker 1: Which I just had my first cheese fritter.

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Speaker 3: What do you think You're amazing?

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Speaker 1: So good? You were dipping it in honey mustard, but

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Speaker 1: I dipped it in the caesar dressing. But I also

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Speaker 1: think it would have been good dipped in Mari and era.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which they typically start with this honeymustard and mari

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Speaker 3: In the country.

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Speaker 1: It was good, little spicy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it has a little kick to it. Yeah, so

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Speaker 3: shout out. Then they brought it. But I like sharing

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Speaker 3: my favorite places.

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Speaker 2: So if you're in town and you're visiting Nashville and

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Speaker 2: you want an Italian restaurant, America is one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or an Italian Yeah, the same thing. And the

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Speaker 1: spicy isn't bad at all. It's just a surprising kick

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Speaker 1: I had a little bit of lasagna too, and that

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Speaker 1: had a bite of Ray's ramasou.

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Speaker 3: What she said was like the best you've taked.

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Speaker 1: That's the best terra missu I've ever had. I don't

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Speaker 1: Ray had just walked in with a slice and like,

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Speaker 3: One bite, and I ran in here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, perfect Okay, so shout out to them really awesome

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Speaker 2: that they sent us over some lunch. But I want

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Speaker 2: to talk about the wildest way you've made a friend, Amy,

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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna share a story with you, and it

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Speaker 2: might like ring some bells. So my best friend and

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Speaker 2: I have fifty teen years our best friends all because

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Speaker 2: I was in middle school. She messaged me on Facebook

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Speaker 2: and I was dating my high school boyfriend at the time.

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Speaker 3: She was two years older than me.

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Speaker 2: He was also two years older than me, and she

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Speaker 2: and like surprised, we uh, we know all about what

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Speaker 1: Sounds like an episode on a TV show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, and it was and he was like

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Speaker 2: totally shocked. He like threw a fit and we were like, huh,

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Speaker 2: so we're breaking up with you? And now her and I,

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Speaker 2: I mean happily ever after we've been best friends ever since.

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Speaker 1: Gosh. That is definitely, uh, a very interesting way, you know, honestly,

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Speaker 1: how I met Bobby, Like I'm thinking like going up

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Speaker 1: very random and unique. Kat Defada, who is co host

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Speaker 1: my Four Things podcast her She replied to an email

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Speaker 1: or she sent me an email sorry that I had requested, like,

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Speaker 1: And she came in and you know, you have no

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Speaker 3: See, isn't that crazy.

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Speaker 2: I also think it's always so wild too, because we

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Speaker 2: it's like you're in school with somebody and that's kind

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Speaker 2: of how you make friends, but like, adult friendships are

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Speaker 3: They end up for they're never how you expect.

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Speaker 1: And so we have her other friend's mom to thank

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Speaker 3: See, that's so cool.

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Speaker 2: and you're like, dang, this is wild. It's just one

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Speaker 3: How it started. Crazy. Never would have suspected that.

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Speaker 2: And shout out to the really crappy guy who created

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Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all definitely have a good story with that.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yours too, though.

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Speaker 2: I'm so curious how people have met their friends, so

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Speaker 2: have some cool friendship stories too.

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Speaker 3: But let's also talk cat updates. How is Maggie doing?

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Speaker 1: Oh like actual cats? Not yet?

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Speaker 1: So Maggie's a staple for me, So it feels good.

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Speaker 1: Shira just got her a cute little Christmas caller. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's really cute. So Shierra worked a book fair a

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Speaker 3: Okay, like selling things. She's actually working on this.

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Speaker 3: That's why there's dogs, there are service dogs.

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Speaker 2: They feel energy, So it could be feeling that, okay,

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Speaker 3: She just has these little quirks batter that are hilarious.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, And I'm like, you know who your litter

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Speaker 1: Why did you think this white basket on the counter

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Speaker 2: But okay, that makes me feel better at least Maggie's score.

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Speaker 2: It's worse than dog pe Okay, all right, well we

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Speaker 2: Okay, we're about to get controversial. Amy you ready for this? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: what is the most controversial thing you think you did

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Speaker 1: Well, do you have one? Because you could go first

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Speaker 3: I have two.

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Speaker 2: Okay, one of them being my bangs like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: more comments about, unsolicited comments of people being like you

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Speaker 2: shouldn't have done that, and why do you do this

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Speaker 1: I love your bangs, Yeah I.

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Speaker 2: Do too, but it still confuses me, like I won't

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Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, it's my hair, but whatever, thanks.

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Speaker 2: And then I just recently posted my mom's potato soup

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Speaker 2: For, So creates a taste. And I learned, like after

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Speaker 2: I've learned that just about everything has a negative I mean, heck,

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Speaker 2: that calls for margarine. Yeah, you're good, and I'm like,

440
00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:41,440
Speaker 2: I think I'll be okay for this one. But man,

441
00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:45,000
Speaker 2: people are really like adamant, which I totally respect. Like,

442
00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,800
Speaker 2: moving forward, I'll make sure if I can substitute. I

443
00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:51,639
Speaker 2: totally will, but I just had no idea that Butter

444
00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,960
Speaker 2: versus Margarine was gonna be this huge argument.

445
00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:59,080
Speaker 1: Well, so yours are Bangs and butter, and yeah, I'm right.

446
00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:00,919
Speaker 1: When you started talking a minute ago, the first thing

447
00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:02,280
Speaker 1: that came to mind was like, oh, duh, yeah, I

448
00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:04,520
Speaker 1: got a divorce that was pretty controversial for some.

449
00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,320
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but that's not like controversial in a way

450
00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:10,840
Speaker 2: that you did anything wrong. Well, according to some people,

451
00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:14,080
Speaker 2: I did okay it that way, but dang, yeah, that's yeah, no,

452
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:14,520
Speaker 2: there is.

453
00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:19,240
Speaker 1: I would say the support, I mean was overwhelming, Like

454
00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:24,280
Speaker 1: I probably expected a little bit more negativity than I got,

455
00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:27,199
Speaker 1: But there was still a few people that just couldn't

456
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:31,240
Speaker 1: help themselves but to you know, reach out of course,

457
00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 1: some lovingly and out of concern. Of course they know

458
00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:40,440
Speaker 1: nothing about the full story at all whatsoever, but I'm

459
00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:42,159
Speaker 1: sure they felt on their heart to make sure that

460
00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:47,600
Speaker 1: I knew that, you know, we had adopted kids, and

461
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:50,879
Speaker 1: how could we do this to them? Like, trust me, fully,

462
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:55,760
Speaker 1: were already if anybody's thought anything, like, we've already thought

463
00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:58,240
Speaker 1: it too, because it's not like something we were wanting

464
00:19:58,280 --> 00:19:58,600
Speaker 1: to do.

465
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,840
Speaker 2: So I hate that you had to deal with those

466
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,359
Speaker 2: comments because it's already a really hard life situation.

467
00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 1: It was those were, you know, small compared to the

468
00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:16,320
Speaker 1: supportive ones, but it's still controversial to be in that

469
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,760
Speaker 1: situation and for people to have opinions about your life

470
00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,880
Speaker 1: when you know it doesn't really impact them in any way,

471
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Speaker 1: shape or form.

472
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've always found that was super interesting. Like, I love,

473
00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:31,440
Speaker 2: I love getting feedback. There's a lot of feedback that's

474
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:32,720
Speaker 2: helped me in doing different things.

475
00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 1: I agree feedback is great.

476
00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,840
Speaker 2: But some people take feedback instead of it being feedback,

477
00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:38,640
Speaker 2: it's an opinion.

478
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:39,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's criticism.

479
00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:43,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not like hey, lovingly like this is really

480
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 2: awesome what you're doing. Here's something else that you can

481
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:48,439
Speaker 2: maybe do that will help or maybe it won't. A

482
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 2: lot of it's like you're doing this wrong or you

483
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,200
Speaker 2: did this wrong, instead of it coming from a place

484
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,400
Speaker 2: of love. I think that's what it is the struggle,

485
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 2: and that always struggles me because I've never done that

486
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,840
Speaker 2: on social media in my entire life. Ever written somebody

487
00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,360
Speaker 2: and said hey, do this a different way.

488
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 1: Like, hey, did y'all try a couple therapy? Because I

489
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,240
Speaker 1: really feel like if you did that, it could help.

490
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,440
Speaker 2: Could you imagine yourself sending that to somebody.

491
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 1: Yes, we went to couple therapy for a year every

492
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Speaker 1: week most of those weeks two hours a week, and

493
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 1: then Tom, our therapist, said we could go down to

494
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,719
Speaker 1: an hour, so we graduated.

495
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 3: See you put, you put in the work.

496
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,920
Speaker 2: But like for you, like somebody you follow, would you

497
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 2: ever be like I really think they need to know

498
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:36,400
Speaker 2: that this is the way I feel about this.

499
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: No, but you know, it's a it's it's a weird

500
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 1: thing because we want connection and feedback with our listeners

501
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 1: and we are putting so much out there. So I

502
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 1: guess I I do expect. I'm not complaining about it

503
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 1: because I'd rather have people reaching out than you know,

504
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: not because I do think that some of them it

505
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 1: is from a place of concern that they did mean well.

506
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: But would I do that not necessarily? Yeah, No, I

507
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 1: would try to reach out with support even if I

508
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: didn't understand it. It's not my job to understand it,

509
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:15,439
Speaker 1: and I would just want them to like, hey, I

510
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,919
Speaker 1: have no idea what's going on here, but sending all

511
00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 1: the love.

512
00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:20,639
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, yeah, No, I'm with you.

513
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: So I would do something like that.

514
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that's why it's hard for me,

515
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 2: you know, to comprehend it. It's because it's just I

516
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 2: just never would I mean, all right, like helpful things

517
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,720
Speaker 2: or be like, I'm so proud of you, this is great.

518
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:34,919
Speaker 2: But at no point in time have I ever been like,

519
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 2: I have a negative thought and I should share that.

520
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

521
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,439
Speaker 3: But I'm with you, like I love that.

522
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 2: I love that people want to connect, and I think

523
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,199
Speaker 2: it's important that we have human connection. But it is

524
00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:49,400
Speaker 2: also remembering that people are human at the same time,

525
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 2: while you're leaving comments, that other person isn't AI.

526
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 3: They're not a robot. They're a real person, which we

527
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:55,479
Speaker 3: all know.

528
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: The computer creates some separation with that, like when you're

529
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 1: people and you're behind your phone, they don't seem real.

530
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,199
Speaker 1: It reminds me of when I first started radio and

531
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Speaker 1: I would get emails because we didn't have social media

532
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 1: as a way to comment to people, but I would

533
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 1: get emails. It would make me cry because I didn't

534
00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: have thick skin yet. I don't know that's fully thick,

535
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:23,360
Speaker 1: but I was just getting used to people having these

536
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 1: opinions about what I think, what I do, or what

537
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: I was saying on the air, and I would spend

538
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:34,880
Speaker 1: so much time thoughtfully replying, like so much time, way

539
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,919
Speaker 1: too much time. And when I would reply back to them,

540
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 1: then I would get another reply and then them saying,

541
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I didn't expect to hear from you

542
00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 1: so crazy. Love the show listen every day and I'm like, wait.

543
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:51,200
Speaker 2: What You're like, Wait, you just said a lot of

544
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 2: mean things.

545
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,959
Speaker 3: I'm not sure what's happening. And that goes back to

546
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 3: to like the fact.

547
00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 2: That they're like, get real, yeah, you're real. And there's

548
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 2: always a tone of social media. I've realized too, I

549
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,919
Speaker 2: am very sarcastic. I have a very like when I

550
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 2: respond to things, it's very humor like. Sometimes I'll respond

551
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 2: in all caps just to be like I'm yelling in

552
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 2: a funny way. But some people are like, why are

553
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 2: you yelling at me? I'm like no, no, no, no, no no,

554
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 2: I was joking, like it was meant to be a joke.

555
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 2: So I've also realized too that tone is really hard

556
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 2: on social media. Somebody could say something and have a

557
00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 2: really positive tone in person, but you type it and

558
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: if there's no explanation points or like hey, I love

559
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 2: this you're like, oh, this is horrible. This is the

560
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 2: worst thing I've ever read.

561
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 1: Tone in work emails or text with friends sometimes is hard.

562
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, Or like when somebody texts me like something short,

563
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 2: you're like, dang, I did something wrong that. It's just

564
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:43,239
Speaker 2: that tone in general with technology that I think has

565
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 2: made it really hard. So all that to say, we've

566
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 2: been controversial on twenty twenty three.

567
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,120
Speaker 1: Letter bangs, and of course there you go. I'm sure

568
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 1: other things a big tree.

569
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Speaker 3: Well, I wasn't ready for those.

570
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 2: Okay, speaking of social media, though, who's been your favorite

571
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 2: follow in twenty twenty three?

572
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, let me pull up my Instagram. I know

573
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: that I like peaceful Underscore Barb.

574
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh wait, is that like the Barb lady that

575
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 2: she shares a lot of.

576
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: Like quotes, like inspiring type quotes.

577
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: I think I've seen her before. There's also a Barb

578
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 2: that does like hacks too, like life Hack.

579
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 3: She's like an other bar follow her too.

580
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: She's like her Bio is everybody's grandma.

581
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: Yes, that's the Barber. I was thinking she's the great,

582
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 3: So peaceful.

583
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:32,200
Speaker 1: Underscore Barb is good. And then that Barbara is.

584
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 2: I just love a life hack I love wondering when

585
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 2: you can do things a little bit better.

586
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 1: Is this Barbara not coming up?

587
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 2: Shoot?

588
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't find that one now, but

589
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: those are some good ones, what about you? Yeah?

590
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,480
Speaker 2: So the one that I started following earlier this year

591
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 2: that I can't stop is Robert Irwin on TikTok, Steve

592
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 2: Irwin's son.

593
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: He's literally a mini Steve Irwin. I mean he's taken

594
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 3: over basically Steve's role.

595
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 2: He posts all these animal videos and he's very wholesome

596
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,679
Speaker 2: like Steve Irvan and and every way. Like it's almost

597
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 2: like looking at a new version of sever Wind.

598
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's so cool to watch. I love following

599
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:11,919
Speaker 1: nature type things and animals. I sometimes will go to

600
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: my search thang and do hashtag cat anything, and then

601
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 1: what that does is it causes all of the cat

602
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: videos to show up in my suggested just when they're

603
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:28,120
Speaker 1: randomly throwing videos into my feed, always cats, and it's great. See.

604
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 3: I love that.

605
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 2: I love when it's like animal videos, because then social

606
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:31,920
Speaker 2: media is a really positive place.

607
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 1: Yes animals, Yes, beautiful sunsets, sunrises, nature.

608
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 2: Like pretty birds, nature and animals can't be negative. So

609
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 2: like anytime I see it. It makes me happy. Besides like

610
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 2: the rescue stuff that makes me sad, but like all

611
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:46,879
Speaker 2: the other ones make me really happy.

612
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 3: Funny videos.

613
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: And then speaking of funny people, I like following Tray Kennedy.

614
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you love me. You've seen him in concert?

615
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 2: Oh on tour live.

616
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 1: How I firsaid, I'm went too his comedy show.

617
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 3: Okay, there it is.

618
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 2: I was like, that's not a culturt Okay, yeah, goodoo.

619
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: He did my four Things podcast and then I went

620
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 1: on his podcast, Correct Opinions, which actually my episode with

621
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,440
Speaker 1: him came out this week on his podcast.

622
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,119
Speaker 3: Oh that's cool, So go check that out, y'all.

623
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's called Correct Opinions and there's a YouTube video

624
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 1: of it too. They came to the house a long

625
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,360
Speaker 1: time ago. I didn't know if it was ever going

626
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: to go up, but I guess when they came to Nashville.

627
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: They recorded with a lot of different people, and then

628
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: mine happened to go up this week. They sent an.

629
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: Email, so we're just banking it all.

630
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: Whoop. I know. I was like, I could y'all get

631
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: in ahead? Love it? Yeah, and yeah, you're traveling to

632
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: a city and you've got different people like especially Nashville.

633
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 1: They probably have a lot of people they could go around.

634
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 1: I think they sat down with Shay from Dan and

635
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: Shay and Tyler Hubbard and I can't remember who else.

636
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,439
Speaker 3: But nice. But look at you and that company. That's awesome.

637
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

638
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 3: Oh you're like you're also a singer, Amy, Oh no not.

639
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: I'm definitely not a singer. But I do enjoy following

640
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: Trey and Deney Hayes, which we talked on the Shoes

641
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:06,680
Speaker 1: last year. She's really funny, So I like funny on Instagram,

642
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:10,640
Speaker 1: cats and encouraging my three categories.

643
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 2: Those are some strong categories. I'm very proud of you

644
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 2: for having a positive.

645
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 3: Social media feed.

646
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 1: Thank you, very good.

647
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna be right back. We could take a

648
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 3: little more quick break.

649
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 2: We did get into this like a little bit as

650
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 2: we're talking about Maggie and stuff, but like life update,

651
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 2: just checking in real quick. How are you? How are

652
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 2: you feeling?

653
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 3: Life going?

654
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: I feel good. Earlier this year I had some dry

655
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 1: mouth issues and then they went away and they're back.

656
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 1: So I'm having a hard time swallowing right now, like as.

657
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 3: We speak, all the updates. That's not what I was

658
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 3: prepared for.

659
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:53,959
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's uh a perriman apostle thing or something.

660
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 2: Forced yourself to swallow, like you're like.

661
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: Right now, times are really see that's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable, yeah,

662
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: but I mean there's worse things in life, for sure.

663
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: But I'm just bummed that it's back because I felt like,

664
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: oh yeay, it went away. But in true hormone fashion,

665
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: if it is related to that, then well it's time

666
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: for it to show back up again. I guess it'll

667
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: be an eb and flow type thing. I don't really know.

668
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 1: I have biotine, which is a mouth wash that helps

669
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: with dry mouth. Okay, so I can't really I can't

670
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 1: wait to get home and swish my biotine. That's that's

671
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: a life update for me, Like time March is on.

672
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 3: I wouldna say that was a time.

673
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 2: March is on for sure? Is like real a time

674
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 2: like for your age.

675
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 3: I don't know, Yeah, that would happen.

676
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be forty three. It's I'm in that window.

677
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: I mean, everyone is de Menopause actually happen.

678
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 1: For It's different for every woman, but I think I

679
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: am preparing for me for it to happen. I don't know.

680
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 1: Maybe by the time I'm close to fifty or in

681
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: my fifties or right before.

682
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 2: I don't know if there's like an age range or

683
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 2: if it's.

684
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: Like, well, let me look it up, because I don't

685
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: know for sure.

686
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 3: It's totally okay too.

687
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 2: I just didn't know if you had information on if

688
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 2: you're doing research.

689
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: And now you got me curious. I research it often,

690
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: and then I always forget because I don't it's not

691
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: stuff I want to retain, because I'm like, I'm not

692
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: really researching my because there's perimenopause. There's premenopause. I've read

693
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: the difference multiple times. Don't ask me the difference. I

694
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,479
Speaker 1: don't know. See, that's what I mean. Yeah, it's just

695
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: like not sticking. And maybe that's part of the it's

696
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: my brain. It doesn't quite work either. My vision is

697
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 1: getting worse. I've always had twenty twenty vision, like I

698
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 1: could read anything, and now when I look at the

699
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: back of a box to read something, you have to

700
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 1: hold it out a little bit. I'm yes, I'm squinting,

701
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: I'm pushing things away. So I think I'm going to

702
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: have to probably get some reading letters at some point soon.

703
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 3: I think that's pretty normal. Just know that that's pretty normal.

704
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure just about everybody els to get older

705
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 2: has some form of vision loss.

706
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: So oh yeah, I know that it's coming, but it's

707
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 1: just yeah, and I'm I'm okay with that. I just

708
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: gotta start handling. I mean, it's just a life update. Yeah, yeah,

709
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: what about you?

710
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 2: How I was not prepared for that one? No, that

711
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: was that was one.

712
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 1: You were prepared for, pairing menopause and me not being

713
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: able to read?

714
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 3: No, I really did. Honestly, I didn't know what you're

715
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 3: gonna tell me, but.

716
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: Like, I sure I have something more fun, but I

717
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 1: can't think of it.

718
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,239
Speaker 2: It didn't need to be fun. I just I just

719
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: was not prepared. Lindsey from Louisiana. This is one that

720
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 2: I pulled from the listener Q and A to put

721
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 2: it here. She wants to know like the best worst

722
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 2: part of being single after so long?

723
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: Well, coming up, it's going to be explaining that I'm

724
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 1: approaching menopause.

725
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 3: As the worst, right, So I just googled.

726
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 1: It and it's typically between ages forty five and fifty five.

727
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,479
Speaker 3: So okay, so you're you're so pre is what's happening

728
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 3: right now? And dang.

729
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 2: That kind of sucks that the pre takes for like

730
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 2: several years. Yeah.

731
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: I also felt a little crazy the other day. I

732
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: don't know what that was about, but maybe its related

733
00:31:58,480 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: to I just kind.

734
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 2: Of like, your hormones are just all over the.

735
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 1: Place, huh, I think. So. My friend and I were

736
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: joking about how, you know, sometimes you can keep your

737
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: hormones in check, but if you're around safe people, you

738
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: can just let it all out. And so I that

739
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 1: was happening, and I was expressing exactly how I was feeling.

740
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: And then that friend and I we went and walked

741
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 1: our dogs and we were laughing. She's like, oh my gosh,

742
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: I get the same way. And I said, but isn't

743
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: it funny that if I wasn't with you at this time,

744
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: and I was with someone that maybe I didn't know

745
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: as well or whatever, that I'd be like, oh, hey, yeah, everything,

746
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: how's your day so good? And then like to her,

747
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, but you know, it's.

748
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 3: Just safe spaces. You've you've found safe spaces in your life,

749
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 3: which is awesome.

750
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: But yeah, I guess I'm thankful for the awareness, but

751
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: I mean, it's not even like I'm controlling it. Like,

752
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: it's just it's some like my body knows I'm around

753
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: a safe person and it can just react yeah, and

754
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: then but I know for sure if I had been

755
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 1: with like somebody else, or if I'd been on a

756
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: first date or something, Oh, there's no way I would

757
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: have just in that moment reacted as crazy as I did.

758
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 3: So the dating the.

759
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: Worst, Yeah, I don't know, because I can you ask

760
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 1: the question again? Yeah, I haven't dated, so.

761
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: So she just wants to know, like the best and

762
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: the worst part of being single again after so long.

763
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 1: Ok, Okay, the worst for me after being married for

764
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: seventeen years is things honestly that been took care of

765
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: that I probably just so for granted. I mean, I

766
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: think that goes for both of us. We had our

767
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: things that we did and we did well, like Aaron

768
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: my tire. I am a big girl. I'll handle that now.

769
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 1: But normally he would see that and he would just

770
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: like take care of it. And I liked that.

771
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 2: I liked you liked having somebody to take care of things.

772
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: Yeaheah, And I could take care of other things. But

773
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 1: it's you know, that's that's hard, getting used to doing

774
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: certain things that you're not used to doing. Like when

775
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 1: I took the kids on the Thanksgiving trip to with

776
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,359
Speaker 1: my sister and her family. My sister said, I think

777
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: you're going to want to rent a car and I said, no,

778
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: we'll just uber and she's like, no, the things that

779
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:21,760
Speaker 1: we're doing, She's like, and we've got a family of six,

780
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: so we have our own car, you're going to need

781
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 1: to rent a car. And the thought, well Ben always

782
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 1: would rent a car, yea. And so that was one

783
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: of the things where I'm like, Okay, I gotta be responsible,

784
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 1: be an adult here, and it it. I was really

785
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 1: proud of myself. I know it may sound silly, but

786
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: I was just like, man, renting a car, that is

787
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 1: just like adulting at its finest. When I turned that

788
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: jeep back in, I'm so proud of myself. I even

789
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm renting another car this weekend. Now, it's like no thing.

790
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: I got this.

791
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 3: I just had to do the one.

792
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

793
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, it'll still.

794
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,919
Speaker 1: Feel like an adult thing for sure. But I would

795
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:59,439
Speaker 1: say that's a hard part adjusting to, you know, having

796
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:03,280
Speaker 1: to adult in ways that you don't didn't previously have to adult.

797
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 1: And I know Ben probably has a list of things too,

798
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 1: it's not that he was just doing things for me.

799
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 1: I did things for him as well too, and he's

800
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,879
Speaker 1: probably like, oh, who shuts all my drawers behind me

801
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,720
Speaker 1: because he used to leave doors open all the time.

802
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,800
Speaker 2: Or it's an adjustment when you're living by yourself again,

803
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 2: and that I think that's what.

804
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 3: Lindsay wanted to like find out for you.

805
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, so there's that adjustment and then I don't know.

806
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: I mean it's nice also being single, just getting to

807
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:40,359
Speaker 1: know myself better, having that time and wanting to go

808
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: into another relationship when that time comes, knowing myself way

809
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: better than I did at twenty five when I got married.

810
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 1: So that way I can know myself and who who

811
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:55,919
Speaker 1: I am, and I can have the tools to best

812
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: support me and that which which will make me a

813
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: better partner. I hope to meet somebody that is the same.

814
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 1: So we're our own people.

815
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 2: You know.

816
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: Our therapist actually Tom that Ben and I went to

817
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: for so long, Like he would put he put two

818
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,479
Speaker 1: hula hoops on the ground and then the huloops would

819
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,720
Speaker 1: overlap a little bit. Yeah, kind of like abandon DiGRA

820
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,279
Speaker 1: and he would have Ben stand in one hula hoop

821
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: and meet in another and then we would put one

822
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 1: foot into the middle part that was overlapping, and that

823
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 1: was the relationship. Like I am responsible for my hula hoop,

824
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: and then whoever you're in a relationship isn't responsible for

825
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 1: their hula hoop. Well, sometimes what we end up doing

826
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:41,240
Speaker 1: in relationships is we can hop into the other hoop

827
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: where we don't belong and try to change that person

828
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 1: or fix something with that person, or fix it for

829
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,320
Speaker 1: that person. And I think that was a big takeaway

830
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 1: for both me and Ben going into our next relationships.

831
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: I had some codependent behavior for sure, and I like

832
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 1: that I have the freedom now to work on myself,

833
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: work on my hula hoop, so that when I been

834
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 1: diagramed with another hulu hoop, you know, hopefully we'll both

835
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 1: at a place where we just kind of put our

836
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,359
Speaker 1: toes in and that's our relationship.

837
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: When you're a totally different person now, you're in a

838
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: totally different season of your life. You've experienced a lot alive,

839
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 2: So you being who you are right now is totally

840
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,280
Speaker 2: different than who you were when you first got married

841
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 2: to Ben.

842
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, and he's totally different too, And I do

843
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 1: think you can grow together and you should be different

844
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: people after ten years and you can still be happily married.

845
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:40,320
Speaker 1: If that's you know, how your relationship evolves. But I think, uh,

846
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: I think I like that time alone and also just

847
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 1: to watch whatever I want to watch.

848
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 3: That's hey, well a golden point there. I love that.

849
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 2: Okay, well, thanks LENDSI for that question. I wanted to

850
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 2: talk to you about two kind of date situations that I've.

851
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 3: Been on, okay, and see what you would have done.

852
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 3: So I did go on.

853
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 2: I've been trying to loosely do this like twelve dates

854
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 2: of Christmas thing where I try and get twelve dates

855
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 2: before Christmas because this was my problem. I will get

856
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 2: dates and then I cancel them because I don't want

857
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,320
Speaker 2: to go. There's a lot of energy to be vulnerable.

858
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 2: It's a lot of energy to keep talking about yourself

859
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 2: and learning about other people over and over just for

860
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 2: them to not work out. It's a lot and so

861
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: you get to a point you just want to cancel

862
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 2: dates all the time.

863
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 3: So I was like, well, and they don't have to

864
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,919
Speaker 3: be all first dates. They could be second, third dates.

865
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 2: If I meet somebody, it's just a matter of pushing

866
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 2: myself to go on more dates. Instead of canceling them.

867
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 2: It's really easy to cancel. And so I went on

868
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 2: a first date with a guy and he ended up

869
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 2: being fifteen minutes late, and right is about the fifteen

870
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 2: minute mark.

871
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,479
Speaker 3: I was like, this is probably where I should like leave.

872
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 1: Did he reach out at all?

873
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 3: He'd reach out.

874
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 2: Like at the beginning of that he was like, hey,

875
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 2: I'm going to be a few minutes late, which I anticipated,

876
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:51,399
Speaker 2: so I was like, okay, I'll be a few minutes

877
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:53,520
Speaker 2: like because he took an uber and I was like

878
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 2: that's fine. But he was like, okay, I'll be there

879
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: at this time, and he wasn't there, and I was

880
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 2: like okay, Like I got stood up, like I should

881
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: go home. I didn't know it was going to be

882
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 2: fifteen minutes. Like I knew it was going to be few,

883
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 2: I didn't know it would be fifteen and so literally

884
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 2: as he was arriving, I was kind of getting myself

885
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 2: together to be like okay, I need to like pay

886
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 2: my drink and I need to go. But then he

887
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 2: showed up and I still stayed with the date. But like,

888
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 2: if a guy is fifteen minutes late and it's not

889
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 2: exactly communicated, what would you have done.

890
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:21,919
Speaker 3: Do you have stayed and waited or.

891
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 1: I would have waited. I feel like fifteen minutes I

892
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: can still wait. And I guess I'm gonna have a

893
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 1: little grace for that situation, not knowing what happens. But

894
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: if date two, he's fifteen minutes late again.

895
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,240
Speaker 3: And it continued to be a problem, Yeah.

896
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: It's definitely not a good first impression because you would

897
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 1: think a first date, you're excited, You're trying to be

898
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: on time, or at least you would want to make

899
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: that person feel like this is a priority for you,

900
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: this is important. So if you are going to be late,

901
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 1: you send adequate updates.

902
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 2: Hmm. Yeah, And I did get he was a really

903
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 2: nice guy, Like he's very kind, and we had connections

904
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 2: from he went to k State two and we just

905
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 2: happened to be in the same city and I'm like, Okay,

906
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 2: this feels like this should be a cool thing. And

907
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 2: he was very nice, but we're definitely in different places

908
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 2: of our.

909
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:11,880
Speaker 1: Lives and meeting these people online.

910
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're all from Hinge. That was also another thing,

911
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 2: is like I get on Hinge and I want to

912
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 2: go on dates because they didn't you go through a

913
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: lot of roller coaster rides when you're dating. It's like, Okay,

914
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 2: I'll do all the dates and I want to meet

915
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 2: all the people, and then you'll go down You're like,

916
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to anybody. I don't want

917
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 2: to be on the dating now, I don't want to

918
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 2: do anything. Then you'll go back up again.

919
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 3: It's like this roller coaster ride because.

920
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 2: The more you meet people, you're like, dang, I'm never

921
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 2: gonna meet my person. It's kind of the roller coaster

922
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: ride that you're on. So currently I'm on the upside

923
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:37,479
Speaker 2: of it. I'm like, yeah, let's go on all the dates.

924
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 2: I'm sure I will come down to that.

925
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: So y'all are not.

926
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 3: No, no, we're not going to go on another date.

927
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:45,399
Speaker 1: So that's the second thing.

928
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 2: So the other one is a different guy that i'd

929
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 2: give my I gave my number two on Hinge and

930
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 2: we've only texted back and forth like ten times.

931
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 3: We have not met in person, we haven't FaceTime. We've

932
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 3: only met on Hinge and I gave him.

933
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 2: My number and he keeps calling me beautiful and darling

934
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 2: and they don't know how to respond.

935
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 1: Have Darlin with darlin apostrophe or darling just.

936
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 2: Darlin like no apostrophe but Darlin no g and it

937
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 2: kind of has given me the ick.

938
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I wouldn't be into that.

939
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 2: Right, Like I love pet names when you're dating somebody.

940
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 2: I think that's fine, it's an affection.

941
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I.

942
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:21,280
Speaker 3: Haven't met you yet.

943
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 2: We haven't even seen each other, like in on a

944
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: video chat, and you're like one of the first things

945
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 2: he said to me was like, hey, beautiful, how's your day?

946
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 3: Like, I don't know why.

947
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 2: I don't know why.

948
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 3: That gives me the ick.

949
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: Have you seen that show on uh netflick no Hulu.

950
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: I think it's called The Trail on Hulu.

951
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 2: Can google it.

952
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: I'm looking it up, but uh is it something like that? Okay,

953
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: the Perfect Husband betrayal the Perfect Husband And it's not

954
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: exactly what you're describing. But when he so, he was

955
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: reconnecting with his college girlfriend, like twenty years after college,

956
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: and he found her on Facebook or whatever. She had

957
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 1: commented something on his like another friend from college, and

958
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: he saw her and I guess he's like, oh, I

959
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: should send her notes. So he sends her a DM

960
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 1: and that's how it starts everything. And I feel like

961
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: he you should go watch it. I don't want to

962
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: give anything away because I knew nothing about it before

963
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: I started watching it. It was interesting watching it unfold because

964
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 1: I had no idea what was next. I was like,

965
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: what did this guy do that was so bad? Like

966
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: he seems like the perfect husband and he doesn't look

967
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 1: like he would do anything wrong. He was won Teacher

968
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: of the Year multiple times. I have dated one of those,

969
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 1: so I just was like, what's the catch here? And

970
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 1: then you're like, oh, but anyway, when you would see

971
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: how he would communicate with people and hit them up,

972
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,320
Speaker 1: like I'd be like, hey, beautiful, how's it going, Hey darling,

973
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 1: Hey beautiful, how's your day, it's just like out of

974
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:52,880
Speaker 1: the gate. I don't know something.

975
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 3: It's something about it being out of the game.

976
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that guy this guy at all whatsoever.

977
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: But this is also just a TV show record mendation

978
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: in a way to throw it in because it popped

979
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: in my mind of like that the messages he was

980
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: sending to people. I'm just like I would not be

981
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: into that, Like I would be more like turned off.

982
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,399
Speaker 2: But now, don't get me wrong, twenty year old Morgan

983
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 2: were probably like all about it. Thirty year old Mortgan

984
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 2: is sitting.

985
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:18,360
Speaker 3: Here like this feels weird.

986
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: Twenty year old, It's like, oh, heamn beautiful.

987
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I just I loved the compliment, you know,

988
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:24,320
Speaker 2: so yeah.

989
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 1: Because like how many girls is he sending beautiful too?

990
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: Or in seeing who bites?

991
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 2: That's my thing to you, I would do the perfect.

992
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,320
Speaker 2: I think he's doing that because he's also not remembering names.

993
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 2: He may have a roster and so instead of remembering names,

994
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 2: he just says pet names because I have seen that

995
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 2: happen before.

996
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: Or like Bad Surgeon, the show on Netflix that we

997
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 1: talked about on the show this week. Okay, so he

998
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 1: had multiple relationships and he had multiple cell phones, but

999
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 1: he would take videos of himself being like good morning, babe,

1000
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 1: I really miss you, but even never say their name.

1001
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 1: So what even doing? And once they put it all together,

1002
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,759
Speaker 1: she's like oh, because it's like, how would you have

1003
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: all this time to communicate with everybody and keep up

1004
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:11,719
Speaker 1: with it? And so he would just make generic videos

1005
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 1: or generic notes and then just copy and paste or

1006
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: you know, and send out the same thing.

1007
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 3: See that's what I'm saying. It's people who have a

1008
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 3: roster that do this.

1009
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 1: Yep, that's your true Yeah, another good drill.

1010
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 2: I'll watch it. Okay, I'll watch that one too. But yeah,

1011
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 2: so I'm be getting in the aic. But I will

1012
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,800
Speaker 2: say I'll leave this on this little note teaser.

1013
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 3: I did go on a date and it was really good.

1014
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 2: Oh okay, and I'm going on a second date with them, Okay,

1015
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 2: Like I haven't been excited about a guy like this

1016
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 2: in a long time, So I don't know if I

1017
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: will still be excited in a week after the second date.

1018
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: That could all change. But in the first date, we

1019
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,760
Speaker 2: went into a restaurant, we sat outside by the fire

1020
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:49,760
Speaker 2: and had drinks.

1021
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 3: We talked for four hours.

1022
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,439
Speaker 2: Okay, Abby, I Like it wasn't even about like personal things,

1023
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 2: like we just geeked out together. We talked about like

1024
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 2: all the things that I love to nerd out about.

1025
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 3: We talked about like our our traveling, things we've done.

1026
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 2: It wasn't like I never gave too much away, like

1027
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 2: I would literally say, you can't know that yet, Like

1028
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna go there yet.

1029
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 1: Because that would be pm I premature intimacy.

1030
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, and I don't do that. I was like, no,

1031
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 3: we can have.

1032
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 1: But like intimately knowing you all parts of you.

1033
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 2: Yes, And that's not what a first date's about.

1034
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 3: It's just seeing if you guys mesh.

1035
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 2: On a lot of things. And we did, and he,

1036
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 2: like the guy would come back. You're like, yeah, let's

1037
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 2: get another drink. I'm like, okay, this is great. It

1038
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 2: was a really good conversation. So I'm excited about the

1039
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: second day and I haven't been excited about this like

1040
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 2: for a while.

1041
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: So good. What are you going to do dinner?

1042
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1043
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 2: He wants to take me to dinner and then potentially

1044
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 2: go and do like a game of some kind.

1045
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 3: So little activity.

1046
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, so teezer for later. Who knows I could

1047
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 2: come back and say never mind, goodbye. All Right, we're

1048
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: gonna go head over to listener Q and A come

1049
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 2: meet us over there.

1050
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 3: In Part three, The Bobby Bone Ship Bobb Good Bones