WEBVTT - Pros and Cons of Sharing Your Parenting Journey Online 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:06.040 Welcome, welcome, welcome to the show. I am your girl, 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:10.000 Amada Lera, and you're listening to Exactly Amada, a production 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:12.000 of iHeart. By the way, Thank you guys so much 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.520 for tuning in. Forgive me once again. I don't know 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:16.720 if it's the weather. I don't know, no say okay, 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:18.680 tapasta know what's going on. All I know is that 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:21.720 my voice peas coming in and out. By the way, 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:24.280 don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on your favorite 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:28.320 podcast platform, Rate us five stars and leave us a review. Okay, 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:30.800 we love, we love, we love to Go check them 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:32.440 out and see what you're having in your mind. 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And if you 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.600 are a parent, you know exactly what I'm talking about. 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:09.400 But today I want to talk about the pros and 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:14.280 cons of sharing your parenting journey on social media. Y'all 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:16.360 know exactly what I'm talking about, and you know what 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:18.920 I'm going to use a perfect example of someone that 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:22.120 I feel that has received a lot of BackFlash from 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:27.120 posting her parenting you know, methods and the things that 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:31.040 you know she does in her household. Do you guys know, Coco. 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:33.600 Anytime that she posted a video with her daughter on 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:36.720 social media, everybody has something to comment, whether it is 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:39.440 that she gives her daughter kids in the mouth, whether 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:41.520 it was that she was breastfeeding her daughter for way 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:43.760 too long. I think her baby must have been like 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:45.760 three years old and she was still breast feeding, and 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:49.120 people had a lot of opinions about that. And you're, 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:52.480 you know, if you're Nate Cannon, for example, and you 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:56.000 are out here having multiple children with different mothers, but 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.040 you have your you know, he has his own method. 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.680 You know, he has his own method, He has his 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:03.120 own beliefs, he has his own reasons why he wants 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.760 to have a big family. But that also is criticized 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:09.160 amongst social media and everybody else and like that, there's many, 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:12.760 many cases where you can even talk about your children, 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.000 post your children on social media. Even what they're wearing 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:19.280 can be a topic of conversation, what they're not wearing, 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:22.080 the type of gifts that they're receiving, the type of 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:25.760 luxury life that they are or not receiving, or living. 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.960 Anything can be a topic of conversation for people to 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:32.080 be all up in your business. Even the way that 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:34.960 you want to raise them, religious beliefs, the way you 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:37.720 want to discipline your children. Now, with this whole new 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:40.480 era of gentle parenting, shout out to all of those 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:43.880 that do gentle parenting. You know, if it works for you, amen, 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:46.480 it may not work for everyone, and that's okay too. 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:50.160 You know, personally, I want to stick to the traditional methods, 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:51.880 the ones that my mother used with me, because it 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:54.160 work with me. And yes, we are in a different era, 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:57.200 we are in a different generation. Things have changed. But 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.840 I feel that this is only but my personal opinion. 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:06.440 These new methods, these new ways of raising the new generation, 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.359 has led up to a lot of disrespect, has led 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:13.800 up to a lot of you know, kids with no discipline, 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:17.519 no vision, no goals. They're not driven a lot of them. 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:20.320 I'm not generalizing, I'm just saying there's a big group 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:24.160 of this new generation that have been raised differently, not 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:27.320 with the morals, principles, and values that a lot of 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.360 us from back in the days were raised in or 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:33.760 our grandparents, etc. I really do feel that we have 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:36.119 lost a lot of respect for the elderly, for those 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:39.200 that are older than us, and not only that, just 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:45.080 respect over the world, society, humanity, and I respect everybody's 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:49.480 you know, parenting methods and skills. I just feel like 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:52.080 I personally want to go the tradition away. We're going 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.480 to be discussing the benefits of sharing your parenting journey 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:58.320 on social media, the pros and cons right, because there's 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:01.680 also great things about it too, things like just asking 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.640 for help on social media. There's a big community of 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:08.760 parents that are willing to give pointers, tips, suggestions on 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.160 how to raise your kid, what you should do, what 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:14.120 you shouldn't do, how it can affect them, because that's 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.479 another thing the world that we live now. I'm not 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:20.320 saying that before bullying didn't exist, for example, but now 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.320 we have more access into actually seeing what's going on. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.880 I also believe that the kids now have more access 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:29.480 to the internet to many other things that do end 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:33.359 up affecting their mental state and can make them behave 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:36.120 in a way that they obviously shouldn't. I feel that 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:39.520 there's also you know, on social media, there's a lot 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.040 of pages where they teach you what are the right 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:46.080 methods of raising your kids. You know, there's punishments, there's 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:48.640 like let's sit down and have conversations. There's a lot 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.480 of other methods right that you can do. And in 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:54.280 that aspect, I love that social media can be very supportive, right, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.240 But then we also have the other side where you 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:00.640 decide to be a parent, you decide to just share 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.560 your experiences, and all of a sudden, it's not just 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.560 your family having comments of like, don't put this on 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:09.440 the baby, don't do this this way, don't feed them that, 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.039 don't this, don't that. But then now you have a 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:15.640 whole world of people through this social media app who 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:18.440 you don't even know. But for some reason, we continue 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.679 to look for validation of these people, and now they're 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:24.520 commenting on the way that you're raising your child or 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:27.440 what you're doing, which, by the way, in many occasions 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:29.520 it has gone all the way to the point of 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:32.760 like you're thinking that you're just doing a post, there's 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:34.960 one post that you thought was funny, that was cute, 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:36.839 that it's just of you and your kid doing whatever 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:40.440 fun activity. In your mind, it can even lead up 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:42.920 to your child being taken away from you. You also 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:45.360 have these people on social media where you're telling them 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:47.479 about your experience, and instead of being a you know, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:51.080 supportive community, people are just criticizing everything you're doing as 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.200 a parent. So, like I said before, it's not just 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.200 your family that may criticize you or tell you how 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:58.800 you should raise your kids. But now you have social 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:00.000 media and a whole bunch of people that you don't 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.760 even know who the hell they are having opinions about 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:05.640 how you should raise your children. You know, sharing your 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.840 parenting journey on social media can be beneficient in many ways. 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.400 It can help you connect with other parents who are 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.919 going through similar experiences, and it can also help you 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.920 build a community of support around you. Sharing your parenting 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.960 journey on social media can also help You'll help you 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:22.800 document your child's growth and development, and I think that 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:25.240 that's a beautiful thing because you could always go back, 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.120 Like I personally created a page for my daughters. By 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.240 the way, go follow them at Las Royal Twins at 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:37.400 Last Royal Twins on Instagram. I basically created a page 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:41.760 for them once they turned three months. They turned three 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:45.200 months and they currently have about two hundred and forty 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:49.159 one thousand followers. People just like to see them grow. 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.400 I think that's such a beautiful thing, being able to 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:57.120 showcase their weekly you know growth. Me learning this is 0:06:57.160 --> 0:07:01.440 also me sharing my motherhood showcase, seeing how I, from 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.320 a woman am became a mother and I'm learning how 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:07.520 to raise these amazing, you know, baby girls that eventually 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.480 will be women. But in this same space, I've had 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.760 a lot of people criticize me. I had people criticize 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:16.560 me about the sizes of the bowl that they put 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:19.080 on their head. I've had people criticize me about the 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:22.440 dresses that they use. I've had people criticize me about 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:26.480 their clothes being cheap or too expensive. It's not worth 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:29.040 it because people always feel the need to give a 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:33.240 negative comment instead of seeing the fact that while you know, 0:07:33.320 --> 0:07:36.120 this person is really taking care of these children, look 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:39.480 how beautiful they got them dressed. Or I love the 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:42.240 pictures that they're posting and I want to clarify something 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:43.960 for all of y'all that is out here on social 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:46.880 media criticizing these parents. First of all, you don't know 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:49.880 what this parent has to go through to raise this child. 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.040 You really don't know what this person and this person 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:56.840 overall us the people we post what we want people 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.360 to see about us on our social media. That doesn't 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.440 mean that is the truth. That doesn't mean that that 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.080 is your life. That doesn't mean that that's everything. That 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:07.120 is just some of your truth. That is just part 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:09.920 of the truth. You see what I'm saying. I think 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:12.480 that is important for us to learn to mind our 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.080 own damn business. And if you don't have nothing nice 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:18.200 or positive to say, because nobody asked for your opinion 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:20.960 in the first place, That's what I'm saying. It's already 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:22.840 tough out here in these streets. We live in a 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:25.760 tough world already, so then on top of that, have 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:37.480 somebody criticize you. However, there's also some withdrawals of sharing 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.120 your parenting journey on social media. A lot of parents, 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.080 like myself, we think it is a beautiful thing to 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:45.160 just showcase our babies because we're proud of them. We're 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:46.960 proud of our children. The same with that our parents 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:48.760 were proud of us. But in the world that we 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:52.880 live in, just documenting alone the journey of your child 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:58.880 growing up can be a safety issue as well, because 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.200 now we have so many crazy people as well on 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:05.319 social media that we don't know who's looking at the 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:08.840 background in the picture. You know the location, if you 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:12.040 share it, what are they wearing, things that your kids 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:15.320 are familiar to. If you even have a nickname for 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.640 your kid. Now you are sharing this information with the world, 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:20.920 And now anybody can just show up to your kids 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.360 school and be like whatever you know it is that 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:26.800 you call them, they feel comfortable and automatically just run 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.360 over there. There is just so much going on in 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:34.160 this world right now that even sharing your experiences as 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.800 a parent on social media with your children is also 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:41.319 a safety issue. You have to be concerned about the uniform. 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:44.319 Be careful if you post the uniform. Be careful of 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:46.839 you show kids with school you're picking them up from. 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:50.719 Be careful if you're showcasing by mistake. You know the 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:54.680 address of where you live, the neighborhood, the house, Be 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:58.520 careful if you're sharing locations if you are currently For example, 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.360 I never post in real time. So if you ever 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:04.880 see me be somewhere, I'm really not there anymore. That's 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:08.840 already been happened, maybe a few hours before or a 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.560 few days before. A lot of parents, a lot of 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.600 people don't know or may not be paying attention to 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.760 that and may think, Oh, that's not going to happen 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.440 to me. I'm not famous, I'm not knowing who cares 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:22.679 about me. Nobody's watching me. You just never know. So 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:25.440 even posting the experience with oh we're in Disney World 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:28.640 about to get on this right here, right now, you 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:33.040 never know who's watching. And I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:35.880 it's good to just have a detox of social media 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:38.840 because it's just too much going on these days. Like 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:43.080 as a public figure, if you think that you get 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:46.800 backlash in comments, only, imagine putting yourself on my shoes, 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:52.040 where I consistently get backlash from people, whether it is 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.360 you know, my life, my career, the things that they 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.440 see on TV and they assume that are real. But 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:01.319 in many occasions I be. I know, I'm not supposed 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:03.319 to say this, but I am. The truth of the 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.760 matter is if you see someone on TV getting paid 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:11.040 to entertain y'all through a TV show and you believe 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:14.840 everything that you see, then that's just on you. You 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:19.440 get what I'm saying, and you know, that's just on you. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:21.880 People will believe whatever it is that they see without 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.320 actually doing the research, or you know what, not even 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:28.680 doing the research, just using common sense, because if you 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:30.880 just stop for a second, use common sense, then you 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:35.040 think you'll realize that not things just don't add up 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.360 and don't make sense. And then that's why I also 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:40.880 respect a lot of parents who choose not to post 0:11:40.920 --> 0:11:44.960 their children, not to engage publicly, you know, showcasing their 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:48.559 kids or just having them participate in anything related to 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:51.520 the internet, especially when they're young. I respect people that 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.240 do that. I personally grew up as a child star. 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:57.079 I grew up in the public eye. I grew up 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:59.840 in the entertainment industry. So to me, I feel like 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.880 I want my daughters to also be you know, part 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.920 of my truth, part of my reality. You know, it's 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:08.800 the four of us to the wheel falls, you know, 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.320 the wheels fall off, like we move together, we do 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:15.920 things together. I'm trying to create my daughter's platform, Last 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.920 Royal Twins. I think I've done a good job so far. 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.120 I feel like when they get older. I've worked hard 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.800 enough to create a platform where later on, just their 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:28.240 name alone, their brand alone, will hold weight for whatever 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:29.960 it is that they decide to do later on in 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:33.079 their career. And that's how I perceive it. I worked 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.520 very hard to be where I am. If I can 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.160 just open that door, that avenue, that platform for my 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:40.320 daughters and later on they can decid to do as 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:44.160 they please, then that's what I'm doing. That's me. There's 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:46.320 a lot of parents like me. There's parents like Beyonce 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.440 who has, you know, her daughter on stage on tour 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.640 with her, and we respect that even though that they 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:55.040 you know, she's received some backlash. She's received some negative 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:59.240 comments about her daughter's performance, her daughter's hair, her daughter's looks, 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:02.400 her daughter's because people love to be negative, the same 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.480 way that Kim Kardashian has the same thing with her children, 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:09.040 the same way that there's been many there's been many 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:12.960 artists who have chosen to make their children a public figure. 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:17.320 But with that publicity comes a lot of backlash that 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.320 we have to as parents. We have to know how 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.760 to educate our children and prepare them for society and 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:28.320 prepare them for the negative the negative comments of the world, right, 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:30.840 I think that that really comes from home, just building 0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:34.640 their confidence, building up who they are, letting them know that, 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:38.600 you know, they can feel secure with you, protected by you. 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.560 It's just a lot, honestly to deal with, you know, 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.360 it's a lot to deal with and something else to who. 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.280 I'm not gonna lie. Social media can also be so 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:50.040 time consuming you don't even notice when you are living 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.200 more through your social media than you're really living your 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:55.440 real life. You're more concerned and worried about showing this 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.440 perfection of a life that really doesn't exist instead of 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:01.120 living your real life. And that also goes for your 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.720 parenting skills. I've seen a lot of parents that post, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:07.000 you know, their kids on this like perfect for the pictures, 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:10.720 but in real life, they're not living that way. You know, 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:14.280 They're over here busy buying the most expensive Jordans or 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:16.640 outfits that they can imagine so that they can look 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.680 perfect for this picture for social media, so that society 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.960 can approve of their parenting, so this society can approve 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:30.080 of their children's looks or whatever, instead of living real life. 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:32.760 And even myself, yes, I'll post my daughters in a 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.960 beautiful photoshoot like I do myself, and then I'll post 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:39.040 them in like diapers and assured and no shoes and 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:42.760 just being regular human beings, being regular babies, and just 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:45.880 living life. I think it's important to showcase the balance 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:49.200 of what it is to be a parent, the balance 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:52.040 of children as well, if you so choose that. Here 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:55.280 comes another one. How can sharing your parenting journeys on 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.440 social media help to connect with other parents? Like if 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.680 you have been through a situation where you felt like 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:03.320 I need some suggestion. I'm a new mom, I'm a 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:05.960 new dad, I don't know what to do. Do you 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:10.120 rather ask for help on social media or do you 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:13.240 first go to your family, because then even even then 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:16.480 that can be an issue too. You have in many occasions. 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:20.560 You know, our mothers, our fathers meaning their grandparents, have 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.480 a lot to say about your parenting skills. You know, 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.000 they have their methods of the way that they raised 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:27.640 you and the things that you should do. But at 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:31.240 the same time, the world has changed, right, things have changed, 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:34.359 even though kids haven't. It's all the same thing, but 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.600 there's other ways of doing things. So what do you do. 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:40.400 Do you go ask for help with them? Or do 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:42.840 you just you know, mind your own business and let 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:44.880 me just ask social media, because I feel that here, 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:48.240 you know, if they give me an opinion, or if 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:50.760 they have something to say, I won't feel as offended, 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.040 I won't care, or whatever the kids may be. How 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:55.440 do you feel you should go about it? Then, something 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:57.480 else I honestly want to know, because that is a 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:01.160 valid question, is how much are you supposed the document? Like? 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:07.200 How much is too much? What can you really say? 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.240 How many pictures? There's too many pictures? How many posts 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:16.560 is too many posts? I've seen parents posting videos of 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.520 their kids, you know, once they pooped all over their face, 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:21.840 all over the That's something that that child will most 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:23.640 likely have to carry with them for the rest of 0:16:23.680 --> 0:16:26.520 their life, right even going into school. You as a 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:28.840 parent may find it funny, but if you really look 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:31.040 into how it can affect your child's life in the 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:36.000 long run, it really can. You know. I've seen a 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:38.240 parent who posted a video of their kid on the 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:40.440 floor who got approach and put it in their mouth, 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:41.880 and they thought it was funny, so they just said 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:44.280 it a post. For the rest of their life, that child, 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:46.520 you know, is going to have to live with that 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:50.280 information because thanks to the Internet. Things stay here and 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:54.800 forever will remain here, and especially if they are a 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.000 public figure, or if they're somebody known, or if they 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.320 have a lot of followers, or if the video goes viral, 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:01.880 you know, that's something that they're going to have to 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:04.919 live with. I feel that there's some things that as funny, 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:07.160 as funny as it may seem to you, I don't 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:08.919 think it should be posted on social media. This is 0:17:08.920 --> 0:17:11.040 only my opinion as a parent. You have the rights 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.280 to do as you please, but if your child is 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:19.120 in an uncomfortable situation, an awkward situation, I don't think 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:22.960 that it's funny to I don't want to say humiliate, 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:27.720 but humiliate your kid for views, likes, and attention. That's 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:30.159 just me. I love to pose my kids on the 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:33.560 most positive lights of them having fun and looking cute 0:17:33.560 --> 0:17:36.320 and playing with each other, showing sisterhood. You know, I've 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:40.240 created Last World Twins Empire. My Airbnb is all uplifting 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:44.160 them and on that logo is their faces, is their brand. 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:47.520 I would never do anything that can jeopardize their brand, 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:50.399 their look, what they represent, and what I'm trying to 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:54.160 build for them either right, that's just me, not all 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.560 parents are like me, and I respect that, and everybody 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:58.800 has the rights to their opinion and to do as 0:17:58.840 --> 0:18:00.960 they please. But I think is important for us is 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:04.280 just be a little bit more considerate when it comes 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:06.159 to the things that you're going to post on social media. 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:09.680 My question is when it comes to parenting, why is 0:18:09.720 --> 0:18:13.840 it that we consistently continue to feel as if we 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:19.400 need the approval of social media, the approval of society 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:21.240 and other people we don't even know. Do you know 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.639 the level of anxiety that brings to a parent, the 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.639 level of anxiety it brings to your child. And also 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:30.159 let's go back into the things that we post on 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:32.840 social media. Let's talk about the older kids as well. 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:37.040 You know, now there's cyberbullying, there's so much things going 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:39.639 on on social media that as parents, we also have 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:42.560 to be careful of what we post because it can 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:47.880 really affect and damage their mental health, their emotional you know, stability, 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.200 and it can also get physical because we have children 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:56.320 that don't know how to use their anger and they'll 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:58.680 use it on themselves. We even have kids that we've 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:01.680 seen and I'm talking about general things because a lot 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:03.960 of times we don't think about things but it's right 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:06.640 there in your face. As parents, should we be more 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:08.680 careful on the things that we post on social media 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:12.080 when it comes to our children and our family? As parents, 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:15.640 should we continue to post, you know and just feel 0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:18.800 it like this is basically I'm just documenting my child's life. 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.040 But even in that process, what can be posted and 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:25.240 what shouldn't be posting? How do we manage these things? 0:19:25.440 --> 0:19:28.160 What about the privacy of our children? When do our 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:31.439 children officially have the rights to say I want to 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:34.360 be private, I want a private life. I don't want 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:37.880 this information exposed. As parents, do we listen to them? 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:40.280 When do we listen to them we feel that because 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:42.600 we gave birth to them or we raise them, we 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:46.040 have the rights over their privacy. That is a very important, 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:49.760 you know question, because whenever my children are old enough 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.080 to tell me, Mom, I don't want to do this anymore, Mom, 0:19:52.119 --> 0:19:54.560 I want to live a private life. Mom, stop posting 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:58.160 me mom on I will do that out of respect 0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:00.359 to them, because I think it's important for us as 0:20:00.400 --> 0:20:03.879 parents to pay attention and listen to what they are requesting, 0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:06.520 because they are too a separate human being and they 0:20:06.520 --> 0:20:08.359 have a voice that needs to be listened to, but 0:20:08.840 --> 0:20:12.359 till then, when do we know what is the limit? 0:20:12.680 --> 0:20:15.520 What is too much? We got to be careful with 0:20:15.560 --> 0:20:19.879 sharing personal informations like full names, birth addresses, all those things, 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:22.119 because there's a lot of crazy people out here and 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:26.080 we don't even know who's watching, who's paying attention, who's 0:20:26.119 --> 0:20:30.040 documenting all this information. How can we also balance sharing 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:34.679 our parenting journeys with maintaining privacy overall even with our families. 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:37.400 Some things we just have to learn on our own 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:39.600 as parents, and we got to deal with them because 0:20:39.640 --> 0:20:42.600 there's no guidebook on how to live your life. There 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:46.960 is no guidebook. There's no like, there's no guidebook on 0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:49.320 how to raise your own kid. You figure that out 0:20:49.359 --> 0:20:52.840 as you go. So sometimes even the privacy of that 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:56.600 in your household, in your family needs to be there. 0:20:57.400 --> 0:20:59.480