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Speaker 1: Hi. This is Laura Vandercamp. I'm a mother of five,

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Speaker 1: an author, journalist, and speaker. And this is Sarah Hartunger.

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Speaker 1: I'm a mother of three, a practicing physician and blogger.

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Speaker 1: On the side, we are two working parents who love

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Speaker 1: our careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds.

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Speaker 1: Here we talk about how real women manage work, family,

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Speaker 1: and time for fun, from figuring out childcare to mapping

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Speaker 1: out long term career goals. We want you to get

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Speaker 1: the most out of life. Welcome to best of both worlds.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. This is episode two hundred and eighty,

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Speaker 1: airing in mid December of twenty twenty two. Whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: we're talking about the year in review, so we'll be

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Speaker 1: reviewing all sorts of things that did happen in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty two. And to prepare for this episode, Sarah and

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Speaker 1: I both listened to our Goals episode that was looking

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Speaker 1: forward to twenty two and I know that sometimes there

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Speaker 1: might be no relation between the goals you set for

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Speaker 1: a year and what winds up happening in the course

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Speaker 1: of a year. I'm sure we've had some years that

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Speaker 1: have gone a wee bit like that, particularly of late. However,

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Speaker 1: I think that you know, it's interesting to do a

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Speaker 1: year in the review episode with that in mind. So Sarah,

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Speaker 1: you listen to the old episode. Is that something you

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Speaker 1: normally do? No, it is not. I do try to

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Speaker 1: listen to the episodes that you do alone, Like if

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Speaker 1: we have a guest that I didn't get to interview,

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Speaker 1: I love to hear what they have to say. So

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Speaker 1: I listened to those episodes, often best forwarding through the

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Speaker 1: initial banter with us together. So I don't listen to

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Speaker 1: myself all that often. I recognize I probably should listen

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Speaker 1: to myself a little bit more often since I am

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Speaker 1: a podcaster, I suppose, And so this was an exercise

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Speaker 1: in both wanting to see what my goals are and

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Speaker 1: also just sucking it up and recognizing that it's probably

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Speaker 1: you know what, I liked it. I enjoyed our episdis

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Speaker 1: more than I thought I would. And I think many

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Speaker 1: years ago I didn't love hearing my own voice, but

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Speaker 1: perhaps doing this for long enough, I've just gotten used

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Speaker 1: of fun to listen to. I actually listened it to

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Speaker 1: it with Genevieve in the car. She was like, is

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Speaker 1: that you so? I mean there's two initial things. I mean,

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Speaker 1: one is like, the way you hear your voice in

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Speaker 1: just because they're not familiar with it because of that.

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Speaker 1: But then we also all have our own verbal tics.

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Speaker 1: I recognize that I say you know a lot. I

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Speaker 1: that are spontaneously discussed. That's less of an issue in

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Speaker 1: Before Breakfast because those are scripted. I do listen to

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Speaker 1: it there. I don't think I say you know, I

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Speaker 1: I'll take these like strategic pauses when I know I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to word something in a more nice way, perhaps

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Speaker 1: trying to sound more politically acceptable. I'm doing it right now. No,

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Speaker 1: it because we do it anyway. It's not the sort

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Speaker 1: where the goals episode for last year, but we wanted

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Speaker 1: plan for where I'm going to put my twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: I did not complete said journal every single day. I

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Speaker 1: In twenty twenty one, I set a goal to read

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Speaker 1: it and finished on December twenty seventh. This year, my

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Speaker 1: that is worth celebrating. I'm sort of having this moment

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Speaker 1: of like whether I want to attempt to earn a

433
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,640
Speaker 1: tiny extra little bit in terms of like a few

434
00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 1: thousand dollars to hit a rather arbitrary but round number.

435
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 1: So try to see if I'm like suddenly hustling in

436
00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 1: December for this episode is behind a thousand dollars paywall. Sorry,

437
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 1: it's like I just or it'll be some ridiculous number.

438
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 1: It'll be like nine hundred and ninety five, like just

439
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:55,400
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Well don't adjust it for inflation, because then, yes,

440
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 1: you might be sad. But that's awesome and that's amazing,

441
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 1: I mean, especially because the world is I feel like

442
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 1: still ramping things back up from having been asleep for

443
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 1: a couple of years, and like even in the beginning

444
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,640
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty two, like you're speaking, probably wasn't at

445
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,439
Speaker 1: its full capacity yet. So twenty twenty three is going

446
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 1: to be amazing. Let's hope. Let's hope. How about you, Sarah,

447
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,879
Speaker 1: Work work, Yeah, so work work. I wanted to go

448
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 1: to a live conference, although I admitted in the Goals

449
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 1: episode that I knew that was not under my control,

450
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: so it was an outcome goal and not a process goal.

451
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: We had a whole dive into that, which was kind

452
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 1: of cool. I did not get to go to a

453
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 1: live conference because the conference that I did end up

454
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: having a poster accepted at was only held virtually, so

455
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 1: it wasn't even I think I talked about my institution

456
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: like not allowing us to travel, but that actually was

457
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: no longer the issue. The conference itself just did not exist.

458
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 1: I did go virtually, it was not very fun. This year,

459
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 1: it's going to be live and I'm definitely going. However,

460
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 1: I got an invitation to speak at a conference next week,

461
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 1: not on medical related stuff, on type stuff, so maybe

462
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:03,959
Speaker 1: that counts. I'm going to a live conference, I'm going

463
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 1: to be there, so check kind of My next thing

464
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: was I wanted to improve my shutdown ritual, and yes,

465
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 1: I feel like I have. I think this was like

466
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:16,640
Speaker 1: a year that I left with my inbox, my work

467
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 1: inbox the most empty, felt really really good about it.

468
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 1: Like sometimes there would be something I got really better at.

469
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 1: Is if there was a really long, detailed patient interaction

470
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 1: I was going to have after hours, I was like,

471
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 1: we are doing that as an appointment. They are coming

472
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 1: in like, which actually helps twofold Number one, it increases,

473
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 1: you know, your engagement with your patients, which they're always

474
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,239
Speaker 1: looking at those kinds of metrics, and number two like

475
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 1: the patient feels better taken care of and I'm not

476
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: doing it in a rush way. So I don't know.

477
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 1: I feel like I got better about inbox management and

478
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 1: feeling like I was totally done by the end of

479
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 1: the day, so I'd say yes. And then the third

480
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 1: one was I wrote, I want to take notes during

481
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 1: meetings so I can stay engaged, but instead I pivoted

482
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 1: to quit every role I had that in all going

483
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 1: to meetings where I wasn't a completely active participant. And

484
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:06,119
Speaker 1: so I will call that one accomplished as well, in

485
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,159
Speaker 1: a very different manner than I set out to do.

486
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: So I love it. I think, well, that's great. Many,

487
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 1: maybe many people should set that as a goal for

488
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:16,439
Speaker 1: the upcoming year. To not go to meetings where you

489
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 1: are not an active participant, like please, if there's a

490
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 1: meeting where you are able to multitask through, for instance,

491
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: like a virtual meeting where you're just checking your email

492
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 1: the whole time, that might be a sign that maybe

493
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: your input wasn't quite so critical, and maybe don't go

494
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 1: to that one next time. All right, So, category of Home,

495
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: Family and Relationships, what did you What were the things

496
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,879
Speaker 1: that happened this year based on your set twenty twenty

497
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 1: two goals? I mean home was enormous because we bought

498
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: a house and moved and and you knew you were

499
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 1: going to do this, yes, right, that was all my goals.

500
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: And we even like did the floors and I didn't

501
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 1: even say I said we were going to paint and

502
00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 1: like replace one piece of carpet, but instead we did

503
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: well most of the floor, so that was huge. I

504
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 1: did not organize it. I did do some pretty aggressive

505
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 1: decluttering before we move, because you kind of have to

506
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: do that. But I did not do the detailed organized

507
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 1: to be sixty five journey through our home that I

508
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 1: wanted to do, which other people should do, by the way,

509
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:17,920
Speaker 1: we do. We still want to do it, and I'm

510
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: totally doing it next year, so we'll talk about that

511
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 1: in the goals episode. Also, so yes, and then what else?

512
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: One on one dates with the kids? I did some

513
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: of these. I think I wanted to do like one

514
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: per month with each kid. That was too many. But

515
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: I did do some dinner dates with the kids one

516
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: on one that were really fun, and Josh and I

517
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 1: went out on dates, probably on average ones per month,

518
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 1: which I really enjoyed. I wanted to complete the twenty

519
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 1: twenty photo book and I did a couple months ago,

520
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: and I'm hoping to get through twenty twenty one as

521
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 1: well by the end of this year. And then finally,

522
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 1: I had a savings goal of twenty percent towards wealth building,

523
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: and that counted some money being put into the house

524
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 1: because some how I rationalized that that was wealth building.

525
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think we're close ish maybe we

526
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 1: weren't far, but I don't feel like I kept a

527
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,680
Speaker 1: handle on tracking that as well throughout the year. As

528
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: I'd like to. So we're definitely going to do a

529
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: detailed deep dive into our financial situation at the end

530
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,199
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty two. Sounds good. Yeah, Well, especially as

531
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: things change, is your income is coming from different places

532
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: and part of it's going to be quite a bit

533
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 1: more variable than it would have been in the past.

534
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: That's that's definitely going to be something worth looking into. Yeah.

535
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: My major goal for the year was to move, which,

536
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: as with Sarah, I knew was happening. In my case,

537
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: it was happening January fourth, so as our goals were

538
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 1: being set for a twenty twenty two, this was shortly

539
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 1: coming up. But I wanted to move and make the

540
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 1: house feel like home. And I will say not everything

541
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 1: is done, like my upstairs bathrooms, so they were still

542
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,679
Speaker 1: like in a state of rubble the moment because they

543
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: ripped up the floors to solve the leaking issues and

544
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: we're still waiting to get tiles put back down. Not

545
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 1: everything is done, but a lot of it is, and

546
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: we're making progress on stuff, and it is a really

547
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 1: cool house, Like I'm really enjoying it now having lived

548
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 1: here for a year. I'm aware of how lovely the

549
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 1: yard is, for instance, in all the different seasons, just

550
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 1: looking out on this autumnal vista of the trees. I

551
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: had worried about that because with my old house we

552
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: had some really lovely trees in the backyard and I

553
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm gonna be missing this, you know,

554
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: beautiful orange Bradford pears and the red maple that we

555
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: see them to gather. And it's just this brilliant thing.

556
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 1: And now I'm like, well, I've got even more. I've

557
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: got reds, orange, yellow, wherever. And it's great. So excited

558
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 1: about that. So you know, I said, throw some parties.

559
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: I had listed this as another small random goal, like

560
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: in parentheses on our goal setting workshop thing we did

561
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: On December fourteenth, twenty twenty one, we actually did two

562
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: rather sizable parties in our new house. One that was

563
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 1: for parents at my youngest kids preschool and one that

564
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 1: was for some friends and family coming over for tranquility.

565
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: By tuesday, we also hosted two birthday parties. And now

566
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: we have the formula down for like having an outdoor

567
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 1: party that you can put people on this patio where

568
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: they can see the trees, you know, put our card

569
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: tables up. We have our nice igloo cooler with the

570
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: ice for the drinks, and you know, have even an

571
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: outdoor trash can that we put out when we have parties.

572
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: So it's all good. It's great. Decorate beautifully for Christmas

573
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two. You were planning ahead, Yeah, I well,

574
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: because I was in that season. I was like, well,

575
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: I'm not doing much with my house this year because

576
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 1: we're moving, and then maybe it'll be next year I'm

577
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: going to do well. No, I had on my on

578
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: my planner the calendar four end of October that I

579
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: was going to call this company that we found that

580
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 1: does professional outdoor light installations. I was like, that was

581
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: gonna be really cool. We're going to do the full

582
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: on thing with the trees and all that. And then

583
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: I had a moment where I just kind of like

584
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: cheaped out and I just I didn't want to do it,

585
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: like I didn't care enough, Like I kept putting it off,

586
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 1: like I didn't call them in October, and then I

587
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,239
Speaker 1: didn't call them at the beginning of November, and I'm like, well,

588
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 1: at this point, I know other people are going to

589
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: start call them too, Like you know, it's not it's

590
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: going to be harder to get on their schedule. It's like,

591
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 1: why do I keep putting it for in and this

592
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: because I don't really want to. You didn't want to

593
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 1: spend the money. I didn't want to spend the money

594
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: on it. We'll see, we'll see. I don't know. Maybe

595
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: it's something I'll do in the future, but I or

596
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,479
Speaker 1: maybe a kid will do a minimal version of that

597
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: and make you happy. Yeah. I also do not have

598
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: fresh flowers everywhere in the other worlds lovely though, but

599
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: we do have a lot in the new yard, and

600
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: my husband has totally developed a hobby of planting trees

601
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 1: and flowers. He's gone like full on gentleman farmer here,

602
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: you know, in terms of his botanical knowledge and stuff.

603
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 1: So I think we're going to reap the benefits of

604
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: this over time, as all these new shrubs and trees

605
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: and plants keep growing and flowering and stuff. So that's great.

606
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: And then I had said start traveling with the big kids,

607
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: and yeah, we went to Paris over spring break, which

608
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: was quite a bit of fun. And I had not

609
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: booked that when we did our thing in December, so

610
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: that was something that came out of them. We had

611
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 1: a lot of fun you know. I also did some

612
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,479
Speaker 1: other things, like individually with the big kids, you know,

613
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: and I continuing to spend time with them is a

614
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: big goal because I want them to still talk with me,

615
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: enjoy hanging out with me and all that. Yes, and

616
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: we recognize the years where they're actually living at home

617
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,400
Speaker 1: start to kind of dwindle rapidly all of a sudden. Yeah, yeah,

618
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: all right, Well we have just a few other highlights.

619
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: I'll try not to repeat stuff we did. My kids

620
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: went to sleep away camp for the first time. That

621
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 1: was exciting. They're not going back. They had a great time.

622
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: They decided they're ready to move on. I'm cool with it.

623
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: So that was interesting. I changed my job like crazy.

624
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: We've already talked about that. The BLPA launch went well.

625
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: I would say our travel highlight was that we went

626
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: to Universal Studios along with Amelia Island and that was

627
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: just a lovely trip this summer. Although I think our

628
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: twenty I'm hoping our twenty twenty two travel highlight will

629
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: actually be after this episode airs, which is our ski

630
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: trip that we're planning during Christmas week, So stay tuned

631
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: for a report on that because it's going to be

632
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: quite the adventure, and then I had a lessons learned category,

633
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: and I will say transitions can take a long time,

634
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 1: and if you decide you want to change things in

635
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: your work life or your home life, just be prepared

636
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: for a longer road than you might desire, because once

637
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: you get excited about the new reality, you want it

638
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: to happen. But so many parts have to fall into

639
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: place for these things to happen in a calm and

640
00:32:56,160 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: logical manner. So I'm speaking about my residency role, and

641
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: you know, in retrospect, I'm glad that we took the

642
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: time to make sure that the program is really really

643
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: well taken care of and they are thriving under the

644
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 1: leadership of the new program directors, so it ended up

645
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 1: working out. And then also just that I always feel

646
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: like I'm relearning this, but seeking out expert services is

647
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: almost always worthwhile when you're struggling either for mental health

648
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: related issues, for actual health related issues, for things like

649
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: graphic design, or using all the millions of apps that

650
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 1: are in the kind of entrepreneurial world these days, Like

651
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: I can't do all that myself. I shouldn't because I'm

652
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: not going to do a good job. So getting experts

653
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: to help is great, and then it's also a way

654
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: to support like other small businesses and I love to

655
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: look for, you know, businesses owned by women or people

656
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: of color and things like that. So yeah, it's great, Yeah, awesome,

657
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 1: good things to you know, learn as we're reviewing what

658
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: worked and didn't work in the year. Yeah, I say

659
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: a couple of travel highlights. Well, Paris was obviously great,

660
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: but sort of smaller ones. Going to Washington, d C.

661
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: To see the cherry blossoms. This is something I just

662
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 1: want to do every year now. And we went as

663
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 1: a family on a weekend, but it wasn't quite perfect

664
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 1: timing because they weren't fully in bloom yet. I kept

665
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 1: watching the camera. There's this cherry blossom camera that's on

666
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 1: the top of the Mandarin Oriental that looks out at

667
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: the Jefferson Memorial, so you can see if they're blooming,

668
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: and they were certainly blooming when we went on the weekend.

669
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Speaker 1: But I knew that we're going to peek on Tuesday,

670
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 1: and I went, well, I work for myself. I'm going

671
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 1: to get on a train on Tuesday get down to Washington,

672
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Speaker 1: d C. And I did. I walked around for like

673
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: three hours and then got on a train and came back.

674
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 1: You know, it was pretty straightforward. I think I would

675
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: have done it for a meeting, Like if I had

676
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 1: a meeting in Washington, d C. I would have taken

677
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: the train down and come back. So why not do

678
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 1: it for this so, you know, remind myself that I

679
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: can do stuff like that. We did a wonderful leaf

680
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 1: peeping trip that was on my review. We do this

681
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 1: most years. Go see my brother in the fall and

682
00:34:55,640 --> 00:35:00,839
Speaker 1: he has some gorgeous upstate New York scenery. There. Surprising

683
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 1: highlight for me is that I have now driven in Manhattan.

684
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: And I lived in Manhattan for nine years, and yet

685
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 1: I never drove because I don't know, I just the

686
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: whole thing seemed very terrifying to me. So I always,

687
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:19,439
Speaker 1: you know, if I had to leave, I was taking

688
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: some you know, a cab out of the city or

689
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: something we were going with Michael or whatever. But it

690
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 1: was just it's now even living out of the city.

691
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 1: I've been in, you know, I'm sure dozens of times

692
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: since we left, and I was always taking the train

693
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: or taking a car service or Michael was driving. And

694
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 1: then there were a couple of things. This year that

695
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: it just it was better for me to drive. You know,

696
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: I was doing the videos and one of them was

697
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,919
Speaker 1: being filmed in Harlem and at a restaurant there, and

698
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: so it was gonna be hard to get there and

699
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: then get to the places north of the city that

700
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 1: I was needing to film the rest of the day.

701
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,799
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Okay, I will just drive, and I did,

702
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 1: and it was fine. I went over the GWB without incident,

703
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:04,239
Speaker 1: and so emboldened by that. When Jasper and I went

704
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 1: in for his kind of Mommy day we did went

705
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: to see Harry Potter and The Curse Child in August.

706
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 1: I drove in parked for the night. You know, we

707
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: took subway when cabs and whatever walked around on to

708
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: see stuff while we were there, but then left with

709
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: the car again and you know, drove in and out

710
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: of the Lincoln Tunnel just fine. It worked. So I

711
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 1: feel like I have like grown up in a way

712
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: that as a driver that I had had not before.

713
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 1: So yeah, I feel like you should get a special

714
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: badge on your driver, a special badge, a driving badge,

715
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 1: because I didn't. I mean, I got my license when

716
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 1: I was sixteen, but then I didn't really ever drive

717
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: until we moved to the Burbs when I was you

718
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: know what, I was like thirty two. Yeah, so it

719
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: was it was not something i'd really done, so I

720
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: had to kind of relearn to drive at age thirty two.

721
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 1: And then, you know, I've slowly been building up my confidence.

722
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 1: Of course, now I drive all the time with the kids.

723
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: But still it's a highlight. Just lots of people know,

724
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:06,240
Speaker 1: I do these TBT scorecards every week that I say,

725
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 1: if I've been following the rules in tranquility by Tuesday,

726
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: and that's been good. I've been mostly sticking with it,

727
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: which is a highlight. Lots more walks, more piano playings,

728
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: more observing of the bedtime. But I also want to

729
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 1: give a shout out for all the little adventures that

730
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 1: I had in the course of the year, just like

731
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: random stuff like taking my kids to this wolf sanctuary

732
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 1: in Pennsylvania, are going ice skating, so yay on that,

733
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: And then you know, I guess finally we all just

734
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 1: managing five kids in four schools surviving the first semester

735
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 1: of that. There should be a badge for that too.

736
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: There should be a badge for that too. The sheer

737
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 1: logistics of our lives right now are It's complex. The

738
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 1: three ring circus metaphor is apt, and I am trying

739
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 1: to think of myself as the ring master, right and

740
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: I have directed like in one ring, people are like

741
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: driving motorbikes, like six motorbikes around a dark sphere, all

742
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 1: around each other. And in another one there's like lions

743
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: leaping through hoops, and then in another one somebody's like

744
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: on a tight rope and making sure that they don't

745
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: fall off. But you know, it's all mostly working as

746
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: a good circus should, and so I'm trying to kind

747
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 1: of appreciate that, give myself appropriate pats on the back,

748
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 1: and shout out to others too. But it's like I

749
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: would like to make it even more that it can

750
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 1: run with a little bit less of my involvement. So

751
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 1: that is a goal maybe for the new year, what

752
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 1: we can talk about. But it's also been you know,

753
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: just a challenging year with still having a toddler. We've

754
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: had a lot of childcare sort of turmoil, which again

755
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 1: is nobody's fault. You know, longtime blog readers know that

756
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: our you know, longtime nanny had a very serious injury

757
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 1: at the end of October that we've been sort of

758
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 1: dealing with the thought of that and having temporary care

759
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,800
Speaker 1: and things. So it's it's just it's been a lot,

760
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 1: but we've come through, so yay, yay. All right, Well

761
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: we can get through our listener question, which this fairly

762
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 1: minimal this time. Is there anything you plan on eliminating

763
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: or saying no to in twenty twenty three. Well, I

764
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:20,879
Speaker 1: don't know. I like to think I'm pretty good at

765
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: saying now. I guess it doesn't bug me as much

766
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,760
Speaker 1: to say no to things. I know some people really

767
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 1: don't like to say no kind of. I don't know.

768
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: I'm not an obliger, and I well, I don't know.

769
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm not very nice. I don't know what they

770
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 1: It just doesn't bug me as much. I think to

771
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: say no to things that I don't want to do,

772
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 1: and so I would like to continue with that. And

773
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: sometimes I think there's probably more things I should say

774
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: yes to, but it's always kind of easier not to,

775
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 1: how about you. Yeah, Mostly I just want to make sure,

776
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 1: since I am now employed part time, to make sure

777
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: that job really doesn't bleed too far around the edges

778
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,279
Speaker 1: of what it's supposed to be be which can be

779
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 1: hard because I don't want to say no to patient demands,

780
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: but at the same time, like I can't be adding

781
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 1: in extra clinic slots if I'm paid for X number

782
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 1: of sessions per week. So I think that is going

783
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 1: to be something that I have to navigate carefully that

784
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 1: I didn't used to as much because even though I

785
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: was only half clinical, I was fully employed by that company,

786
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 1: so the division wasn't so critical. But now I feel

787
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: like I just do need to be careful in order

788
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 1: to be fair to myself since there are so many

789
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 1: other things I want to do with the rest of

790
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 1: my time, both in my creative life and then just

791
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:45,320
Speaker 1: for me and my time with the kids. And obviously

792
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: I took a very significant voluntary pay cut, but that

793
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 1: hour's cut has to be proportional. So yeah, that's going

794
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: to be my challenge for next year. Excellent, well, real quick.

795
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Speaker 1: Love of the week. I mean a lot of these

796
00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: things we've been talking about have been love of the weeks.

797
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: I guess one love of the week I have is

798
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: having certain episodes that we do every single year. On

799
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 1: some level, it makes it sound like it would be easier,

800
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 1: like if we have things that we repeat, but I

801
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: think it also makes us think about it more because

802
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: we know it's coming up and so you have a

803
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: longer lead time to start processing. And I know both

804
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 1: of us were doing our year review kind of process

805
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: over the past few weeks as we knew this episode

806
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 1: was coming up, and we've been doing a lot of

807
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 1: goal setting as we knew that episode is coming up

808
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 1: shortly in the next few weeks. So yeah, it's good

809
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: to have those because it makes you continually think about

810
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 1: it and hopefully we continue to do them a little

811
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: bit better. Yes, well, I will similarly add my level

812
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: of the week would be our retreats because they were

813
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 1: such a fun highlight this year, both to have some

814
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: time for just protected creative work and to hang out

815
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: with you and just to relax. So hopefully more of

816
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: those in the year to come, and definitely worth a

817
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: love of the week. Absolutely. Those are another love of

818
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,959
Speaker 1: the week for me too, a year on the review highlight.

819
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: I guess neither of us actually really mentioned that in

820
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: our travel but because you were local, but for me,

821
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: I had never been to Key Largo before, so now

822
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 1: I have there's many other keys we could check out.

823
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,839
Speaker 1: We could check out all the keys exactly all right, Well,

824
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: this has been best of both worlds. We've been doing

825
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: our year in review for twenty twenty two. We will

826
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: be back next week with more on making work and

827
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:24,840
Speaker 1: life fit together. Thanks for listening. You can find me

828
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 1: Sarah at the shoebox dot com or at the Underscore

829
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: Shoebox on Instagram, and you can find me Laura at

830
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: Laura vandercam dot com. This has been the best of

831
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 1: both worlds podcasts. Please join us next time for more

832
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: on making work and life work together.