WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Is it Because I'm Black? 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.600 All right, let's get into our kick of the week, y'all. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.119 We are going to do the A, B C's of 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:14.000 Mother Earth. I looked up these kink slash fetishes that 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:16.840 I'm like, Damn, I don't know we've ever talked about it, 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:19.520 because what the fuck? So the first one, and I 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:21.279 want you all to guess what y'all think, It is 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:27.280 based on Latin roots and shit. So actorasty fetish. What 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:32.000 do you think that means? Actorasty? And I don't know 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:33.479 if I'm saying it right, but that's how it spelled. 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:40.480 Act I are a s t y actorasty fetish, all right, y'all. 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:41.360 HOST don't know. 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:45.159 So it is the sexual fetish known when someone is 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:49.360 aroused by the rays of the sun. Therefore, someone with 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:53.400 this fetish would love being intimate outdoors or under a 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:55.840 large window on a sunny afternoon. 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:59.040 What is the sun connected to acting? I don't know. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.120 I just thought y'all might know. Let and roots. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:04.319 I don't know this next one though, mind you, the 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:07.520 other egg the other a one was way too easy. 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:08.400 Y'all would have got it. 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:13.800 Aquaphilia, okay, fucking in the water aqua you know, all right, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:17.520 So this next one bronzophilia. 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:20.800 And this has nothing to do with lebron. 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:30.560 Ja damn tough bronzophilia. This actually I think I'm a bronxophiliac. 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:32.600 I don't know if that's the word, but this is me. 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:38.080 So Bronsophilia is the fetish when someone gets extremely aroused 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:39.399 by thunderstorms. 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:40.520 What the fun? 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:42.800 Yes, Oh, I ain't gonna hold you, okay, but I 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.240 bet the way I'm the way I rub my plussy 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:48.600 when it's raining, I'd be like, oh my god, time 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:50.840 to like go play with myself. When I hear that 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.920 goddamn rain and thunder, my whole body shuts down and 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:54.840 I just get horny. 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.520 Why because your body knows there's nothing else you can 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:02.040 do right now? You can't, Bro, you know what I 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.240 just said. So I went to Mexico to get this 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:09.280 dental shit done. Long story short, one of the days 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.840 it was crazy thunder. So my nigga wakes up and 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:13.720 he's like, damn that sucks. 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:17.280 And I was like, bro, we're on vacation to do. 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:21.160 Nothing and now actually in the best place. So we 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:23.680 come outside and it's all inclusive award and you can 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:25.480 tell they stress and they'll know what activities to do 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.320 for people. They were like, sawty, you know you guys 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:30.520 having a good day. I'm like, you're having a nigga. 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:32.800 I had that sex blaze on my face, you know what. 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:33.720 The little dried up. 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.760 Coming looked a little white. It looked like I had 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:39.320 some eggs of a flakes, just seemen. I love when 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:43.000 it rings. Give it to me, all right, and now 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.000 first seek. Let's see if y'all can get this. This 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:47.040 one was strange. 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:52.320 Chasmophilia, by the way, has something to do avoid you. 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.280 It's all about mother Earth. Oh. 0:02:56.320 --> 0:03:00.120 Chasmophilia, by the way, I love that. There's kinks that 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:01.880 we still don't know that I saw and I was like, 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:03.520 what the fuck? I don't think we ever talked about it. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:08.480 Close? What did you say? No, we was closer. 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:12.280 I'm thinking of something like feeling the ground, like grounding close. 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:17.040 Child Maphilia is an unusual and interesting fetish. What it 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:22.120 means is that one is aroused by crevices, caverns, and valleys. 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:25.200 Oh wow, okay, literally maybe. 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:27.000 A bitch one, which, to be fair, I did fucking 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:32.320 a cave in in in Jamaica. Now I don't I 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.400 haven't been to Green Canyon yet, so I don't know 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.480 if my mind would be turned on by wanting to 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.240 fuck in the can were. 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.119 Other people in the like how big is the cave? 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:41.800 Like the cakes? 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:43.840 The cave is like the sides of this room that 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.840 we're in, and there was a waterfall like blocking it. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.960 So it's a really dark cave the waterfalls coming down 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:53.160 and we have we we know, no bad. We were 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:54.800 the only ones in it. It's like a man made one. 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:55.600 It was at the Nude Poole. 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.520 Oh, it was like a fake cave cave, but it 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.400 was given cave no because like you know, when you 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.680 go on vacation you start walking with the bull shoes. 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.680 Yeah, no, no, no, not giving that care. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:06.360 It was given a cave in a pool, like. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:09.800 A belt cave. All right. 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:14.720 So for the Hoda, this is one I found online 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:18.239 and I was like, never thought of it this way. 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:24.920 This is called tactile exploration. So this is when and 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:26.960 this is a real vanilla tip by. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:27.559 The way, for y'all. 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:29.880 So when I read it, I was like, oh, I 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:32.719 never thought about that, but yes, this is great because 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:34.600 I feel it when I'm in other people's bed. So 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:40.680 tactile exploration is the introduction of very textures in the 0:04:40.680 --> 0:04:41.799 bedroom where. 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:42.359 You would have sex. 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:45.080 So you could either do this through bedding, you could 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:48.240 do it through clothing or even accessories. 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:52.640 So for example, silk sheets I ain't gonna hold you. 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:55.560 Gives a way different thing, a way different feeling when 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.480 you're having sex on your body, like silk sheets. I 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.200 had a nigga with silk sheets, and I was like, 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.200 this nigga is a whore because it felt like I 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:05.039 just knew. I said, oh, you have to be a slut. 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:08.000 First off, what nigga has silk sheets? But also it 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:09.640 made me feel like, why the fuck don't I have 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:13.719 silk sheets? Because silk sheets ate on your body like 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.640 you slide a little bit more and you don't feel 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:18.640 like mind you, it just doesn't feel as rough. 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:20.279 But also it's cold. 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.120 I'm like wondering right now if those silk shit sheet 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.920 things was recent, right, somebody listening. 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:26.680 To this like hold on. 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:33.960 Bruh silk sheets. I was like, oh, I need. 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.440 I've actually thought men were horries for having silk filler pastes, 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:38.840 because well. 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:43.960 That's well unless he got dreads or hair than it 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:46.440 is for him if he got braids or dreads. I'm 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:48.920 not even thinking it's for a bitch. I'm thinking this 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:50.400 nigga cares about his locks. 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.000 I say they do. Okay. 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:57.200 Another way to incorporate this is with temperature play, so 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:01.640 warmed or cooled objects to stimulate nerve endings. Now, this 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:04.200 is the tip that I found so interesting because I 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:05.000 never thought about it. 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:08.279 Oh she did do that, didn't she. 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.880 So a cool tip for this would be for those 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:17.920 of you with loube Now, yes, sometimes you just keep 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:21.919 it in your jaw, you keep it around. Well, the 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.800 tip is to actually place one of your loubs in 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:29.640 the fridge. Place them in the fridge, and it says, 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:33.920 instead of just applying it to your genitals, this could 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.560 be a fun way for you to incorporate a cold 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.520 sensation all over the body. Okay, so maybe just massage 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.039 oil in the fridge. Well, it's that astro glad liquid 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:42.760 in the fridge. 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:46.360 But I wonder I accidentally massaged my nigga with loub 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:49.320 once instead of oh shit, because. 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:50.800 It's just dark and I was about to ask you 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.080 what it does get a little thick after a while. 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.279 Okay, we just did this whole play and it was 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.920 so dumb. It was only three days ago, but basically 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:03.480 he got out the shower. Yeah, I think he told 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.440 me he wanted to do more role play while we 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:05.839 were at dinner. 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:07.200 I'm like, is there anything you want? 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:09.160 It was the part of that conversation I was saying 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:11.560 on our last episode, is there anything you want? And 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:14.280 he was like, I just don't want nose Like I 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:16.600 want us to do weird shit to each other's bodies, 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.280 like I want everykay to feel like a yes all 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:19.760 the time. 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:21.600 And I'm like okay. 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.120 So I got out the shower and he was laying 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.160 down on a towel. I think he was like loationing 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.600 up after his shower, and so I got out in 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:34.160 heels and panties and I was like, sir, thank you 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:36.800 so much for coming to the student massage back you 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:39.640 hope I do well. I might mess up, but I'm 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:41.040 hoping that I can please you. 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:43.360 Look at you with this bitch. 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:45.640 So I laid him down and I put the towel 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:49.440 over his eyes, and I turned the lights down because 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.240 for some reason, for me, I get nervous when the 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:58.680 lights are right. Okay, I'm just like, bro, you got it. 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.960 Instead, also like I got that I want scarf from 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:01.960 when I got bucked up, you. 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:02.520 Know what I'm saying. 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.960 I got green on my knee from the bruise, Like 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.480 it's too much, so I turned the light down. Now 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:09.720 I can't see lub or oil and they kind of 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:12.880 you know, and they do different things. Once it went 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:17.960 on his body, I knew it wasn't vitamin E and 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:20.200 I started to feel how thick it was, and the 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:23.320 nigga got hair, so it was but you know, I 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:26.000 was still at it. Also, he was like really good 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.320 of an actor, too good, And it started to make 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:31.880 me laugh because what was he acting like? I was like, 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:34.200 he was like, I'm not there, not there right, like 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.320 basically saying I wasn't doing anything. I was like, is 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.360 this better? So I started sucking stick and he's like, 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.640 my wife doesn't let me do that. 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:47.280 You just got a little taste of the Horrible Decisions Patreon, 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:50.079 But why it's up there. 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I'm in one place, she's in one place. 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:33.160 Just call this an l d are what longest his relationship? 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.080 We got to work on our freestyling, like it just 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:43.760 it just doesn't really hit Oh my god, restart Like no, 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.000 we're not restarting vision. 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.600 We're keeping this in. But then we might need. 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:54.840 To start like you knows, Hey, if any of y'all 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:57.720 are giving Quincy Miller and want to come ghost write 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:01.400 us a few wild intros, hey hit us up in 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:01.959 the email. 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:03.520 Is that the Drake ghostwriter guy? 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:06.960 And is bitch? And is more? 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:10.600 I think it's Quentin Quincy Miller. I think was a ballplayer. 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:14.560 I think it's Quenton Miller. It's a cute start the 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:18.360 ball player. Yeah, that was a ballplayer yesterday. 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:21.240 And it was so shocking to me because it's been 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:24.800 so long, and I was like, oh, you're trying to 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:25.160 funk me. 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:30.719 Was he was he of young age or of seasoning? 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:32.200 Good question? 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:37.000 What kind of trick was he you ask? Wow, I 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.200 was at the Tesla charging station. Okay, he can on 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:44.000 the phone, and I guess you can kind of hear, 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:46.120 and you know, my speaker turned off. I would like, bitch, 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.000 and what did nigga was saying? Oh, your speaker always 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:49.400 turned up? 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:53.040 You like embarrassing bitches while they tell people, Oh. 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:53.360 You're right. 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:57.000 Well, this particular conversation, me and my homegirl was talking 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:00.240 about how this nigga uh was trying to talk her 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.120 and her homegirl She's like, whatever, I'm a trick on, 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:03.559 Like we both do trick on a nigga. 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:07.720 So boom, I get out to unplug my car. He 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:11.240 was like, y'all ruthless. 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:13.600 So I actually don't know what he's talking about because 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:17.920 I don't realize he was hearing the conversation. So I'm like, huh, 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:19.880 and he was like, I'm just playing with you. He's like, which, 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:21.719 I couldn't hear what you was saying? What kind of 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.280 advice you was trying to give? He was like, damn 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.079 women women crazy nowadays. 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:26.679 Huh. 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:29.480 He's like, I ain't been out, Oh I'm in the. 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:30.199 Game in a while. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:34.079 And I was like, so he was older, Okay, okay. 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.120 So I'm about to get in the car. He's like, wait, wait, wait, wait, 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:39.200 wait where you where are you running to? I was like, 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:41.160 to my home. 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:44.560 You should have said to my man, my man, my man, 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:47.800 do you see this hand? This is what I'm gonna do. 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.120 I'm just playing, I always say, but I'm gonna start 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:51.120 doing it till I get married. 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:52.000 Do you see this hand? 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:57.400 So uh, he immediately said when he said you running 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:58.640 at home, you must got a man at home. 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:00.600 I was like, I do he ain't got a wife 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.000 at home? And he was like no. 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:05.680 And all I could think is not in this home 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.840 that I'm sitting now, not in this particular home. So 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:10.920 as I'm about to get in a car, He's like, well, 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:15.480 I charged my car probably every other night, so I'll 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.040 see you again if you coming this time. 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:23.839 What that was it? That was the pickup line? I said, 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:27.240 thanks so much. Okay, that's given overseas player. I need 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.120 to know who it was if you know the name, 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:29.880 because you know, I know. 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:34.400 Was the Tesla truck. So it just gave little dick. 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:37.959 I need a big car. Whoa Tesla truck gives a 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:38.640 little dick? Now? 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:43.079 Word, you know, I'm telling Alex on you. I'm telling Alex, 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:46.760 I'm telling Alex. You're talking about him on the pod. 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:51.080 I wasn't talking about Alix, but he got a Tesla truck. 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:53.960 Okay, because I do be judging niggas with the Tesla truck. 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:55.840 You can't see it, don't you be like, uh. 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:58.080 Tell me you don't do that. I don't mind it. 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:02.760 I think it's kind of robotic. It just it. It 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:06.600 made me think that they're into conspiracy theories and might 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:07.640 have a robot at home. 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:11.960 LEXP would like to speak, because the nigga came back 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:15.160 that slaby, then motherfucker's be scruggling. 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.360 I'd be seeing the Tesla truck go around and around 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:19.600 and around and around trying to look for parallel parking. 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:24.839 Hell no, I mean, well, here in Atlanta there's parking spaces, 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:31.880 so now it is, or here in Atlanta you could 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:35.959 pretty much pay twenty to sixty dollars to ballet everywhere. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.760 Like everywhere you go and pull up to in Atlanta 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:40.720 got vallet. But you can ballet at the mall. 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:41.240 You know. 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:44.120 I tried to do a little fucking nice act that 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:45.800 I went on a date with a niggain in Atlanta. 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:47.080 It was very short lived. 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.880 Right when I broke up with o Bed and I 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:52.760 remember when we pulled up to the spot. 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:53.240 He was like. 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.040 I was like, I could take care of Vallet. He 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.200 looked at me like that was cute. 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:01.280 Love and drog dealer tell me what I do? 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:04.520 Oh my god, I'm on my pomcast. 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:06.679 Okay go, I'm we all right. 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.160 Well, y'all, this is gonna be an interesting one today. 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:11.360 Again. 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:13.880 If you have a letter where you want me and Weezy, 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.680 who are not experts at anything, probably accept podcasting to 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:22.280 give you advice. Email us at decisions pod at gmail 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:26.520 dot com. This week, one of our listeners wants to know, 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:28.720 is it because I'm black? 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:33.760 Let's get it to it. First off, I'm a huge fan. 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:36.600 Big shout out to you sisters for always making me 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:40.720 feel seen and validated as a multifaceted and sexually. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:43.200 Liberated black female background. 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.120 I'm a black girl living in Maine, so it can 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:49.880 feel very isolating not having girlfriends and my folks in 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:52.960 close proximity to be able to have these more intimate 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.600 and sometimes embarrassing combos. So I'm a faithful listener to 0:14:56.640 --> 0:14:58.440 the show and love being able to relate to the 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:03.040 concerns guests makes me feel like I'm not the only 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:05.960 one in her head sometimes, and I finally felt like 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.040 I needed to write in for a bit of advice. 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:10.080 I also want to just say I googled the black 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:13.720 population in the state of Maine one point eight to 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:15.080 two and a half percent. 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:20.840 Ooh girl, I'm gonna just guess yes, because it's because 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:21.280 you're black. 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:29.960 Right before we even read the rock. So here we go. 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.440 So I have been having sex with a Hispanic gentleman 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.120 for over fifteen years. 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:41.560 Damn girl, this is a situation. Sit not that pingos 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:42.080 that bueno. 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:46.120 Okay, so this might not be the problem we thought. 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:49.280 It's not even a white all right. We've never taken 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:54.560 anything beyond the physical. However, when we got together, I 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.560 was significantly overweight at the time, so my confidence didn't 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.040 pursue seriously, and I never really felt like it was 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:05.320 anything to be taken serious. I was just grateful for 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:07.960 a good time and somebody who saw the same thing 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:08.360 in me. 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:10.280 Oh girl, I've been there. 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:15.920 We never dated, just met as mutual friends in the home, 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:20.320 and we were young, horny kids that fell in lust. 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:25.280 Fast fast forward. He's always around on the back burner. 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:29.040 If I call him, he comes faithfully. Now, I was 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:32.960 married in twenty twelve and don't play about loyalty, so 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:37.040 whenever relationships I've had became serious, I would be honest 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:41.200 and cut him loose. In that marriage, I had one child, 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:45.240 and when that relationship ended, I reached out to him first. 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:49.360 Over the years, I've had a few other long and 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:54.080 serious relationships, all that have ended, and him too. His 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:58.040 child was born shortly after mine. When we reconnected after 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:01.040 ending our relationships, he told me at least twice during 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:05.000 intercourse I should have had his child, though I don't 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:07.159 know if he means it or just does it to 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:11.480 be more aroused. But he's never tried, even with me 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:14.920 crying out to come in me once by a sheer accident. 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:19.600 The sex is just so passionate and intense. I've never 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.520 had someone satisfy. 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:21.680 Me like that. 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:26.719 His dick literally feels made for me, and he always comes, 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:28.120 no matter the location. 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:31.400 Time he responds and lets me. 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.199 Know he wants me to time like hey, Pussy's sister. 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.600 If he's out of sound, he lets me know I'm 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:41.120 a priority when he gets back. Now, when we started fucking, 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.200 we were in our late teens early twenties. So when 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:46.639 I got married, he slept with a friend of mine. 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:50.360 Crazy part is he told me not her. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:52.119 I hit him up. 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:55.119 When my divorce closed, he came over and let me 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.520 know what happened before we fused, which I appreciate because 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:00.679 it allowed me to choose if I still wanted him. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.800 And years later, girl, and years later, when he was 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:07.480 in a relationship, I messed with someone who I later 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:09.840 found out was a friend to him. Do either of 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:12.520 us still talk to those outside people? Nor was it 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:14.800 anything but once on each end? 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:16.920 But here's my dilemma. Here we go. 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:21.000 When we have sex, it's the best I've ever had. 0:18:21.960 --> 0:18:24.080 He takes good care of me, and I like to 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:28.359 think vice versa. Right now, we are both not in relationships, 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.959 so we fuck a few times a month, no condoms, 0:18:32.280 --> 0:18:35.159 but I trust him. I've never had him not be 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:38.720 honest about if we should wrap up as a precaution. 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:42.359 The last year or so, the sex has changed and 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:47.040 became even more intimate or always, but no more crazy 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:50.200 from the back hair pulling. He wants me on my back, 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:54.960 kisses me passionately, slow grinds in me, watches my face 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:57.320 expressions bites me when I growl. 0:18:57.640 --> 0:18:58.440 He's focused. 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:02.280 Sometimes I myself dreaming of taking it to another level 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:05.199 because it's so good. He says little things to me 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:10.159 like he knows he can't be faithful. He likes attention 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:12.760 and shit and I do too, But I hate reducing 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.800 what we have to just fuck buddies because it does 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:20.240 feel like more to me. I don't want to like him, 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:23.840 but I genuinely like who he's been to me, honest, 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:28.000 raw and genuine. If not fucking get out, Oh it's 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:31.200 not fucking get out, it's nice combos sex. 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:32.160 And the genuine connection. 0:19:33.000 --> 0:19:35.680 I am older now and no, I can't change who 0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:38.240 he is, and I'm not looking for a relationship, but 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:42.000 I'm in deep. Am I wasting myself by just enjoying 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:45.280 him when I do have him? I don't want sex 0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:48.439 with anyone else, but I'm sure he does and I 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:49.080 don't mind. 0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:54.120 And is it because I'm black? His baby mama is Hispanic? 0:19:54.440 --> 0:19:57.720 And I've always wondered if citing a black girl is 0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:01.879 the problem, if citing a black girl's apot, I don't know. 0:20:02.480 --> 0:20:04.840 Not a lot of options amain like that, but I 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:08.199 do try to date. I just feel pointless when physically 0:20:09.119 --> 0:20:11.800 I feel like that's where I want to be, and 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:13.800 I'm getting older, and I feel like neither of us 0:20:13.880 --> 0:20:16.919 want to start again our children are older. But I 0:20:16.960 --> 0:20:19.840 would for him because I feel like it wouldn't be hard. 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:22.280