1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: All right, it's time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey dot com 4 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, isn't that right, Steve, Yep, 5 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: come on, that's it. Yeah, we've been getting a lot 6 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: of letters. I'm tired. We have, we really have. Thank you, guys. 7 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 8 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one. Yeah. But your 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: chances of it, though, they're good. Okay, they are no 10 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: one I know. Well, eventually we get to all we 11 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: get to a lot of them. All right, Hey, everybody's 12 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 1: there are times. Time for the Strawberry Letter with my friends, 13 00:00:50,640 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: surely strong Thank you junior. Subject untime is it so 14 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,560 Speaker 1: good that is clouding my judgment? Dear Stephen Shirley. I 15 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: am a forty three year old single mom of two. 16 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,199 Speaker 1: For the past year, I have been seeing a nice 17 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: forty three year old gentleman that I met on the 18 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: Plenty of Fish dating site. When we met, I told 19 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: him that I was ready for a relationship, not just 20 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: to hook up for sex. He said, let's see where 21 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: it goes. Two weeks later, after talking on the phone, 22 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: we finally met up and we ended up having sex 23 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: that first night. Darned Steve, it was so good that 24 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: I could not stop. We continued to have sex at 25 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: least once a week, and he started staying overnight at 26 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: my house. About six months later, I asked him, so, 27 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: are we together? He said no, we're just friends. He 28 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: told me that we should just stop having sex and 29 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: just be friends because I was getting too emotionally attached 30 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: to him. Not even a week went by before he 31 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: was back in my bed. The sex is so darn 32 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: good that I cannot stay away from this man. But 33 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: I really wanted a relationship. The whole time we've been together, 34 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: I have been taking him to and from work. He 35 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: does not have a car or his own place to live. 36 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: I also cook for this man and give him money 37 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 1: when he needs it. He does pay me back each time. 38 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: I'm giving one hundred percent of myself to him, but 39 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: he has the nerve to only like me as a friend. 40 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: It makes me feel like he's just using me. Is 41 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: the good sex clouding my judgment? What's really going on here? 42 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 1: Please advise? Okay, okay, seriously, seriously, if you were here, 43 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: I would physically shake you so hard, try to shake 44 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: some sense into you. You know, you maybe forty three 45 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: year olds, but you're doing way too much, okay, I mean, 46 00:02:55,440 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: just talk about over and above and beyond. That's all you. 47 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: That's all you're You're doing way too much, and I 48 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: disagree with you. No, he's not using you. He doesn't 49 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:09,679 Speaker 1: have to. I mean, you won't even give him a 50 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: chance to use you because you're right there. Let's go 51 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 1: down the list. You give him sex when he wants it, 52 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: You cook for him, you drive him to and from work, 53 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 1: he stays with you, and you give him money. What 54 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: are you doing? What are you doing? I mean, don't 55 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: you take him to and from work? I gotta ask 56 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: you that. So why do you have to give him 57 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: money too? It's too much, You're doing too much. I 58 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: just don't understand. You know, you have to get some 59 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: self respect. You have to you have none. Okay, you 60 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: have to stop this. I'm glad you wrote us. Nothing 61 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: is that good where you have to lose your dignity 62 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: and your low self esteem. Nothing is that good, okay, nothing, 63 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: I don't care. Nothing is for you to lose your 64 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: self respect like that, and that's what it is. It's 65 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 1: not that the sex is so good. You're just you're 66 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: caught up. You gotta get you know, get a hold 67 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: of yourself. Here. This man has nothing to offer you 68 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: but sex, and you want much more and he's not 69 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: giving it to you. Steve Hell Lord lady forty three, 70 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: single mother too. You met a forty three year old, 71 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: very nice gentleman on a dating site called Plenty of Fish. 72 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: When we met, I told him that I was ready 73 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: for a relationship, not just hooker for sex. He said, 74 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: let's see where it goes. See right there, you say 75 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 1: you're ready for a relationship, not just for a hook up. 76 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: He say, let's where it goes. Guess what you missed 77 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 1: that he didn't say. He did not say what he wanted. 78 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: He ain't even say yeah, that's what I'm looking for 79 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: to All he said was let's see how I go. 80 00:04:57,839 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, by you've been talking to him on 81 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: the phone, You finally meet with him. You ended up 82 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: having sex the first night, donn it, Steve? I know 83 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: it was so good I could not stop. We continue 84 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:14,720 Speaker 1: to have said it sex at least once a week, 85 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: and he started staying overnight in my house. Six months later, 86 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: I asked him, so we together? He said, now we 87 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: need together. He told me we should stop having sex 88 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 1: and just be friends because I was getting too much 89 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: emostly attached to him. You ready for this? Not even 90 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: a week went by and he was back in your 91 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: bad boy in here doing it boy, and he had 92 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: got it turned up. He ain't that bringing it. And 93 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: I'm about to tell you why this sex is so 94 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 1: damn good. I can't stay away from this man, but 95 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 1: I really want a relationship. The whole time we together, 96 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: I've been taking him too and from work. He does 97 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: not have a call, he does not have his own 98 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: place to live. I cook for this man and give 99 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 1: him money when he needs it. Now, when I come back, 100 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna explain some things too. You have a minute now, 101 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: I just say, Well, first of all, let me tell you. So. 102 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: You find him on a dating site called Plenty of Fish, 103 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: And of all the man in here, you get the 104 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:27,480 Speaker 1: one damn catfish that was in there. You didn't bought 105 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: a damn bottom dwell and scavenging naster ass cat good 106 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:36,559 Speaker 1: one steve all the fish in the seat, and which 107 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: one you pull out a catfish. All right, hold it 108 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: right there is, Steve, Hold it right there. We'll have 109 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three 110 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:50,239 Speaker 1: after the hour today. Subject is it is so good 111 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: that is clouding my judgment? You're listening, all right, Steve. 112 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter. It is so good it's 113 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: clouding my judgment. Yeah, she'd met this man on plenty 114 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: of fish. She didn't pulled out the one damned fish. 115 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: She didn't want a catfish bottom dwelling scavenger. They've been 116 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: sleeping together, he just had. She can't stop. Once a week, 117 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: six week, six months ago. Back. She finally asked him, man, 118 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: an't we together? He said no, No, he don't know 119 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: we need together. What do you say? No, No, he 120 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: don't know we need together? Where you get doing from 121 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: what you're talking? I spend night over here. We together 122 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: if you give me money. No, No, we're just friends. 123 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: They know we need to we need to stop having sex. 124 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: Just be friend because you getting too emotional. You know, 125 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: I don't I don't like to be attached to stuff. 126 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: You know. I ain't attached to no card note, I 127 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: ain't attached to no mortgage and no rep payment. You know, 128 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: I ain't attached to no kitchen nowhere while I'm cooking, 129 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: I ain't attached to no money. Don't you see me? 130 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: I alwait meeting something. The sex is so damn good, 131 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: I can't stay away from He give me the money back. 132 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: But he don't have a car or house. He needs 133 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: money all the time, and you gotta take him to 134 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: and from work. My question for you for we went 135 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: on break was where does he work at the paper? Rob. 136 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out what job he got where 137 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: he can't get a car, a house or need money 138 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: all the time. Now you want to ask me, let 139 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: me explain something to you about this good sex you have. 140 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: You're having sex with a man that ain't got a call. 141 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: You're having sex with a man that need a ride 142 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: to and from work. You having sex with a man 143 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: that ain't got his own place. You got having sex 144 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: with a man that can't cook, and you having sex 145 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: with a man that need money all the time for 146 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:55,839 Speaker 1: him The reason his sex is so good for food. 147 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:13,199 Speaker 1: Listen to me your entire mind. I know you had 148 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 1: to bleep that, but that's the best way to say. Yeah, 149 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: here's another reason. See this is called BS that he's 150 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,959 Speaker 1: giving you. This is just BS. Now cleaner way to 151 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:30,839 Speaker 1: say it is BS is called benefits screwing because he 152 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 1: has to produce the type of screwing that produces benefits. Yeah, 153 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: so now he is that giving his all in all 154 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: and he got to because he probably working part time. 155 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 1: He got time shop in this guilt. Yeah, he don't 156 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: have the stress that most men have on a lot 157 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: of men can't perform calls the stress. But he ain't 158 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 1: got none. He ain't got no mortgage, he ain't got 159 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: no car. No, what is he stressing for? He is 160 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:05,839 Speaker 1: to be asked to benefit screw Oh? He just in 161 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: that performed. All his energy is in his sexual performance. 162 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 1: He can't buy you a coat for Christmas. He can't 163 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 1: bring you a plate from stein Mar. He can't bring 164 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 1: them kids and y'alls are taught from Walt mat He 165 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: can't bring you a happy meal from McDonald's. And when 166 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,439 Speaker 1: it dude getting money, it's so rare. He downed a 167 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 1: Chick fil A on a Sunday talking about how to 168 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:41,959 Speaker 1: hell theyin't you know, but if you had money doing 169 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: the week, you know that they ain't over on right? 170 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: This man that you think you want to have a 171 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: relationship with Why would you want a relationship with him? 172 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: Somebody you got to take care of and can't do 173 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: nothing for you except good sex. Then that's all it 174 00:10:59,840 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: is is. It's just good sex. It's nothing, no other 175 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 1: benefit to him. And let me tell you something, just 176 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,199 Speaker 1: gonna well all because you know why it's gonna well 177 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: because you're gonna mess where I need something. Everybody needs 178 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: something every ninety and I don't care who y'all and 179 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: when you need it. Since that's who you're passing out 180 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 1: all you're loving to, you're gonna want it from him. 181 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 1: And guess what he gonna tell you? You ask me 182 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 1: for money? We ain't know. We're just friend. We're just friend. 183 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: You know I ain't got I just bother from money 184 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: of you last week. Now I can pay you back 185 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: what I owe you. Will that help you? Man? She 186 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: said he was a nice gentleman. He is an You've 187 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 1: got to be nice when you ain't got nothing. Well, 188 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be mean. I ain't got no where to go. 189 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: You got to pick me up. What the hell I'm 190 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: gonna be mean? Fault? You got to be nice. You 191 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: got to drop me off and pick me up. Understand 192 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:00,200 Speaker 1: that he just getting out. Soon as he jumped in 193 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 1: the car, he started rubbing your thighs. He was happening 194 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 1: as soon as he get in the car, his hand 195 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: on that pretty thigh and you're in his sweating like 196 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:14,680 Speaker 1: a runaway. Cause big Clefus Jackson Raynad the fourth he's 197 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 1: been to come up in hill Clefus Jackson Raynaud the folk. 198 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: It's fenning to come up in Hill's fence to be old. 199 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: And I would lady, she wants a relationship Steve with 200 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: who he can't do nothing for you or your children. 201 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: He's a bad example of a man. He's forty three. 202 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: He don't have a car, he don't have his own place, 203 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: he don't cook any ball money from you, and he's 204 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: forty three. You want a relationship with him, you got it. 205 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: He's doing the only thing he can do, and that's screws. 206 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: He can't do nothing now he I told you ask 207 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: him for a coach. This crew all right, we gotta go, Steve. 208 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:02,480 Speaker 1: Email us your Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's strawberry 209 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: letter at Steve Harvey, just a coat wool coach at 210 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey, at them you're listening to the Steve Harvey 211 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 1: Morning Show.