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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Avery is on the phone today for our first Date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Writers.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Avery, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Rider?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's been about Oh gosh, it's it's been

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Speaker 3: about two weeks since I've heard from him. We went

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Speaker 3: on this really lovely date where we went biking, like

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Speaker 3: actual biking, and we went to the park and on

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Speaker 3: the trail and I was trying to play it cool.

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Speaker 4: I was having a good time, but I got to

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Speaker 4: be honest. You know, I haven't ridden a bike an

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Speaker 3: Pe, so I definitely fell aw.

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Speaker 5: W Are you okay?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I'm good. It may have even been three.

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Speaker 3: Times, but uh god, the writer was so sweet. He

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Speaker 3: was a total gentleman. He helped me up and he.

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Speaker 4: Laughed with me. He laughed with me, not at me,

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Speaker 4: and so I thought he was super charming and that

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Speaker 4: it was going well. We stopped for smoothies afterwards, we

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Speaker 4: sat by the lake. We talked for like over an hour.

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Speaker 4: It was so sweet. It was It's just.

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Speaker 3: One of those like unexpected connection moments. And he was

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Speaker 3: so chill, like writer is annoyingly attractive and confident, not

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Speaker 3: hockey at the same time. And when I spoke, he

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Speaker 3: just he listened. I like, he actually listened to me

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Speaker 3: talk about everything, including my my really weird little pottery

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Speaker 5: I love how excited we get when somebody listened as

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Speaker 5: nice and so.

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Speaker 6: Do you know that, Like you know, we hear that

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Speaker 6: a lot on these first date follow ups, and I mean,

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Speaker 6: I get it, but it's just it's the simple things

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Speaker 3: I know, I agree, and he he just made me

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Speaker 4: Being judged even.

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Speaker 3: When I crashed into that side.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, I haven't had that kind of.

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Speaker 3: Connection in a very long time. So it felt been

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Speaker 4: And like not forced. And I'm not trying to plan

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Speaker 4: want to know what happened.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, do you know what could have happened?

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Speaker 6: I mean, obviously it wasn't your falling because he stick

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Speaker 6: stuck around for a while after that.

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Speaker 7: We don't know, I've heard that, but would be terrible.

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Speaker 5: Did anything else happen?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, guys, I don't know, but I the one thing

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Speaker 3: moment where I panicked when a squirrel ran.

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Speaker 4: Across the path. And I don't I don't.

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Speaker 3: Mean like a little panic, I full blown, free to

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Speaker 4: To play it off, and so I just screamed.

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Speaker 3: At the squirrel and was like, not today, demon. But

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Speaker 4: He almost like he laughed.

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Speaker 3: He seemed like he wasn't weirded out, you know, almost

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Speaker 4: The joke with me. And you know.

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Speaker 3: He didn't seem like, oh my gosh, this is a

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Speaker 4: Over a squirrel on the bike path, so like it.

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Speaker 3: Was a real meltdown, just like, ah, yeah, I was

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you think maybe that's what might be the

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Speaker 2: reason that you are getting ghosted, is just the reaction

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Speaker 3: I that's gotta be it, because nothing else happened. Everything

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Speaker 7: Well, Okay, off the bike. Also, we'll see if that

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Speaker 2: Well, play a song, come back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if I tell us why he's ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date if you still want one. Okay, okay, person,

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow.

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Speaker 1: Up, next first date follow up powered by the Advocates

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: Avery is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude nam Writer. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: her and maybe get her a second date if she

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Speaker 2: still wants one. But first, Avery, remind us about your

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Speaker 2: date real quick before we call him.

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Speaker 4: Sure.

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Speaker 3: So, about two weeks ago, I had the most wonderful

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Speaker 3: date with a guy named Writer. We went biking on

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Speaker 3: a bike trail and it was so much that's fine,

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Speaker 3: but it was my first time biking in many, many years,

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Speaker 3: so I did fall a few times, but he helped

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Speaker 3: me back up and other than that we got smoothied

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Speaker 3: and we had a really great time with a lot

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Speaker 3: The only thing that I can think of that might

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Speaker 3: have scared him off is when we were biking, a

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Speaker 3: silly little squirrel ran out in front of me, and

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Speaker 3: I freaked out because I don't like rodents.

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Speaker 4: But that's all I can think of.

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Speaker 3: I texted him the next day.

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Speaker 4: I thanked him for a.

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Speaker 3: Great date, and I sent him a picture of me

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Speaker 3: smiling with a smoothie few days later to be like,

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Speaker 3: oh ho, look we did smoothies. But I have gotten

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Speaker 3: nothing back from him, so I'd love to see what

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Speaker 7: All right, are you ready for us to call on?

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Speaker 4: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to

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Speaker 2: writer please. Yeah, this is em Hey writer, how are you?

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Speaker 7: This is the Jubil Show. It's a radio show.

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Speaker 5: Hi writer, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 8: Oh hello, what's up?

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Speaker 7: How are you have your end? My name is Jewbel.

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Speaker 7: By the way, have you ever listened to the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 8: I think I have heard the show before.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well we're calling you today because one of

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Speaker 2: our listeners actually emailed us about you.

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Speaker 8: Oh wait, is this about Avery?

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Speaker 5: Oh you knew right away?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we do a segment called the First Aid

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Speaker 2: follow up on our show.

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Speaker 7: Maybe you already knew that.

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Speaker 2: I guess where if you go somebody and they don't

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Speaker 2: know why, they can email us to get you on

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Speaker 2: the phone and ask. So, yes, it is about Avery.

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Speaker 2: Oh do you have a second to tell us why

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Speaker 2: you're a ghostinger?

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Speaker 8: Yeah? I mean I figured this might come up eventually.

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Speaker 5: Oh really what happened?

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Speaker 8: I mean, she's beautiful, like drop dead gorgeous, but she

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Speaker 8: sent me this photo and it was her and like

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Speaker 8: unicorn underwear, holding a smoothie and doing this weak face.

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Speaker 8: I just don't I don't know it was. It was

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Speaker 7: So you didn't like it?

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Speaker 5: You really painted the picture rider.

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Speaker 8: It was like she was trying to be It was

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Speaker 8: like a six year old trying to be sexy. That's

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Speaker 8: what it was. It was creepy, Yeah, a little bit

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Speaker 2: I don't know, it's not of you, dude, say that

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Speaker 2: with getting a picture like that, never actually was it was.

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Speaker 5: It the unicorns that made it that way or was

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Speaker 8: It was the whole thing, but yeah, the unicorns really

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, so that's the reason your ghostinger is.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, and there was some other stuff too. It's like,

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Speaker 8: so she calls her bed the snuggle Headquarters.

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Speaker 5: You don't like that. That's kind of cute.

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Speaker 8: It's like elementary's cool. I mean she was also like

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Speaker 8: I love it, you know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, okay, writer, thank you for being honest with

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Speaker 2: you know that she's actually on the phone listing and

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Speaker 4: Wait, so you didn't like the unicorns for real?

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Speaker 8: Like those are sexy? Hey?

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Speaker 3: Avery, Hi, Oh my god, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: I didn't realize that being playful is like a deal

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Speaker 8: I mean, it's not that you're being playful, it's just

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Speaker 8: Lisa frank Landerie holding it Smoothie. I mean he kind

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Speaker 4: I was dropping a mic, a mic of joy and.

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Speaker 3: I love and body positivity, and I mean, come on,

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Speaker 8: I mean, look, you are totally a vibe and you're

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Speaker 8: You know, I live in the real world. You seem

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well I should have mentioned and I have a

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Speaker 3: it freaked me out. Okay, And I don't know what

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Speaker 8: What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: Well, you clearly don't have feelings or have any understanding

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Speaker 4: I didn't realize you were this serious. It's such a bummer.

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Speaker 5: What does that mean.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, he said earlier that the squirrel calls meltdowns,

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Speaker 8: I don't know, it's it's a little much for me.

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Speaker 8: It just feels like I'm dealing with like elementary school.

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Speaker 8: I don't know whoa writer?

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Speaker 4: What would you like for a woman to send to you?

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Speaker 4: You know, just a perfect portrait in business casual, like

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Speaker 4: fully covered.

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Speaker 8: I don't know, maybe like regular lingerie without like unicorns

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Speaker 8: and glitter and stuff. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, I I guess I'll just find somebody who

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Speaker 7: What, well, writer, would you like another day with Avery?

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Speaker 7: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 8: No? No, I think I'm good. She's she's one of

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Speaker 4: Well, that's totally fine.

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Speaker 3: You can have fun with a woman who likes to

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Speaker 3: Sorry, Oh my gosh, Well you're the one who's gonna

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Speaker 3: be sorry when you're bored and you're wishing for unicorns,

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Speaker 3: or you're.

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Speaker 4: Wishing for something fun and sparkly because your.

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Speaker 3: Next date is with a girl that's totally Baige

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