WEBVTT - “DO YOU EVEN LIFT?” 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:01.319 All from Joe. 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:05.600 Hello. Yeah, what's your name, sir? 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:07.640 My name is Joe. 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:08.959 How's it going, Joe? 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:12.160 Dude, it's going pretty good. It's nice to talk to you, finally. 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:14.240 Nice to talk to you too. 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:14.480 Man. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:18.880 I'm uh, I'm in a chill mood. I think everything's 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:19.680 gonna be okay. 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:22.040 But who knows that? 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.960 Yeah, I mean who knows? I think, Uh, I don't know. 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:30.040 I think I got to just start accepting life for 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:32.120 whatever it is. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:34.800 Yeah. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:36.960 Maybe I don't know. Maybe I don't know. I don't know. 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:39.160 I don't know how much I I fucking won't shut 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:40.920 up about this on the on the show, and it 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:42.760 just in my own brain. But I don't know how 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:46.960 much of life is how much of life is improving 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.879 external circumstances versus accepting them. 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:54.560 I think it's combination of both. 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:59.840 But sure, yeah, no, I mean that's kind of going 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:01.000 off for what I want to talk to you about 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:01.720 a little bit today. 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:02.920 Yeah. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:06.880 Like, I've just had a few few circumstances in life 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.360 that kind of kind of hit me early on and 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:11.080 now it's just, you know, I'm trying to deal with them. 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.840 But I don't know, man, I feel like they kind 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.000 of get me down sometimes and cards to get out 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:17.200 of that depression, you know what I mean? 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.920 Okay, what? Yeah? What are they? So? 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:22.920 Dude? I was big into the gym a few years ago, 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.120 and honestly I had I had a few injuries that 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.240 I never took care of and they devolved into something 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.880 pretty bad. And then I don't know, over time it 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:34.399 got it got worse and worse. Eventually I had surgery, 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:36.360 you know, I got some you know, I got some 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.280 racist and back issues now. So lifting has kind of 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.319 never been the same since then, and that was like 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:44.080 a big thing that kind of made my life really important. 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:44.240 Man. 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.640 Now it's pretty it's pretty hard to find something that 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:49.240 brings me the same meaning, you know what I mean? 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:54.720 Hmm, Okay, So you can't lift anymore because of these injuries. 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:57.600 It's not that I can't, It's just that it's it's 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:02.320 a little, uh, I have some limitations, that makes sense. 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:04.880 Yeah? Sure? How old are you? 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:07.400 I am twenty two? 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:11.120 And you said that lifting you're having a hard time 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:13.480 finding something that gives you the same amount of meaning. 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:16.480 Yeah, bro, it's like that. That really brought me a 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:18.600 lot of meaning back because I used to work at 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:21.160 a gym and I still do some personal training, but 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.480 that was really a big thing for me in my teens, 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:26.920 Like in high school I used to do a lot 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.679 of lifting to track and stuff like that. And then 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:31.680 I finally got a job at the gym when I 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:34.000 was like eighteen, so that was exciting for me. And 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.760 then yeah, I was just really into it. And then 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:39.880 these injuries came up, and like, you know, I knew 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:41.640 in my head that you know, they were going on, 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:43.920 but I hadn't really gotten them checked out, and like 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.240 a timely mannered they kind of developed into something worse. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:49.239 So over time it just got, you know, worse, and 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:52.400 now it's years later, I'm having a hard time just 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:54.040 coping with that, if that makes sense. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.840 Yeah, so why do you think you can't find anything 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:57.840 else that gives you meaning? 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.320 I feel like that was a good way for me 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.680 to kind of deal with the mental stuff I had 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:07.760 going on. So I kind of, you know, I told 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.880 you I have a lot of anxiety that I was 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.040 just kind of born with. Yeah, so I sort of 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:16.280 I sort of struggle with that, and you know, the 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:17.920 lifting was a way for me to deal with that. 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:23.160 And then also just like my insecurities, dude, honestly, like, 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:26.000 I just you know, I've never been like fully, I 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:27.320 don't know. There there were some things that I was 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.800 insecure about in high school, you know, my height, ship 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:32.000 like that, and then I would always lift and I'd 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.240 be like, you know, this is this is the way 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:36.520 that's going to make me feel better. So that that 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:38.520 was kind of a big thing for me. 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:43.560 So the meaning you get when you say meaning, I mean, 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.480 do you really just mean like because me, I don't 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:48.680 know if is meaning the words you mean because do 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:50.480 you just mean like it makes you feel better or 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:51.360 physically mentally? 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:54.600 I would think I would say that, yeah, you know 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:56.360 if that If that doesn't make sense, I guess I'll 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.360 kind of put it like this. It was it was 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:00.800 more so the whole, the whole unity in it too, 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.440 because that was also a little bit into a little 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:06.160 bit into bodybuilding. Yeah, so it was more like I 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:08.320 had these visions of like, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:11.440 do this bodybuilding thing, and I'm constantly working towards this, 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:14.920 uh this one goal, and that would sort of become 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.039 that sort of become my motivation. Every day. I'd be like, Okay, 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.359 you know, I'm gonna get this, uh this amount of 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:22.160 meals in I'm gonna, you know, go hit the gym 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:24.640 for this amount of time, hit hit these uh these 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:27.000 muscle groups, and it was it was going pretty well, 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:29.839 and I enjoyed it a lot. And you know, like 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:31.320 I said, I had, I was dealing with some other 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:34.599 stuff like anxiety, some insecurities. And then you know that 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:36.520 was even around the time, like I wasn't doing so 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:38.279 well in school, so I'd be like, Okay, you know, 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:41.400 I'm not gonna I'm not gonna worry about school because 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:42.800 I got this other thing going on in the in 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.360 the gym, and that's I guess that sort of uh 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.360 that was very satisfying for me, you know what I mean, 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:49.000 I don't know, just. 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:51.760 I guess. 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:53.800 Does that make sense when I say meaning now? 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:56.120 Uh? Yes, yeah. 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.080 So one of the things I like to think about 0:04:58.120 --> 0:04:59.960 a lot, and I think about this with my own life, 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:05.880 is like there's kind of these uh this there's like 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:09.760 desires that you have as a person, sure, and then 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:13.840 there's vessels to fulfill those desires. Not to get uh 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.160 actually this is not I was gonna say, not to 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:19.400 get spiritual, but this is like actually very not spiritual 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.279 at all. This is like this is like this is 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.880 like logistical, empirical, actionable ship. 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:28.840 So so you. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.839 Want like, yeah, you want community, You want to be 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:31.680 around other people. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.240 You want to have a fucking computer all the time. 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:36.000 You want to be around to the people you want 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:37.840 to It sounds to me and and like like like 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:41.320 you know, clarify, but it sounds like bodybuilding. It was 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:44.440 something you were good at, so you felt competent. There 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.839 was other people involved in it, so you had a community. 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.159 I mean, those two things alone make can make a 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:57.000 person very happy. And the bad news is that your 0:05:57.040 --> 0:06:00.480 body is basically made a fucking tissue paper and can 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.680 get fucked up very easily, and it's unfortunate that that's 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:04.279 what happened. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.680 But the good news is that. 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.200 Of the things that exist in the I mean, you're 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:14.440 only twenty two, you got a good fifty eight more 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:18.560 years left to live. Maybe we'll see, but yeah, but 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:24.400 there's so infinite many things that I'm sure you could 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:28.159 find out in the universe that you can get good 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.320 at to give you a sense of competence, and that 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.200 you can do with other people to give you a 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:36.360 sense of community. So just like I know it gets 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:39.040 hard and I've been there, before where you get really 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:42.839 invested in a hobby or a thing, or a career 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:46.320 or just anything, and then you're like, oh, I don't 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:47.320 know if you know what. 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:48.440 You don't want to go back down. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.400 You don't want to climb down the mountain because you're 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:53.560 so invested in. However much time you put into a 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:55.800 thing feels like if you tried to do it again, 0:06:55.839 --> 0:07:00.520 it would take forever but the best you but it's 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.839 to sit and kind of dwell and be like, oh, no, 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:07.719 I'm fucked because I can't do this one specific thing 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:11.000 out of the infinite things that will fulfill my desire 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:14.720 for community and feeling like I'm worth a shit. 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:18.360 Is not a good idea because there's so many. 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:24.760 It's like it's like the it's the abundance versus scarcity scarcity. 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:26.600 People always get mad at me when I say that word, 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:30.560 this abundance versus scarcity mindset, You know what I mean? 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:34.760 So so what else? So is there anything else that 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:39.840 you can do? Like the wheelchair basketball or what's going on? 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:43.480 Luckily it's not at that point yet. I mean, I'm 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:45.520 pretty like, I'm pretty fine. To me, I might have 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.320 over exaggerated a little bit. It's just you know, kind 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.040 of thinking about from where I was a few years 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.560 ago to where I am now. You know, there are 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:54.320 just times when I feel like, Okay, maybe I could 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.240 be doing I could be at a little bit of 0:07:56.280 --> 0:08:00.000 a better position. Sure, you know if these injuries never happened, 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:01.520 like kind of going off. 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:02.520 But that stuff. But you can't. 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:05.520 But you can't, you I'm I'm you can't think about 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:10.360 that that way. Yeah, you can't, because life just throws 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.920 fucking wrenches at you and. 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:19.640 You just have to, Uh, I don't. 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:23.760 I just think you have to kinda take take it 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.480 all in, like you were not, like like nothing was. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:31.160 Ever going to be perfect. Maybe maybe maybe for some people. 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.960 It is, but not but for most people nothing, nothing 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:35.640 was ever going to be perfect the whole time. 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.040 Yeah, man, And you know, just to I mean kind 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:40.240 of go off of that. I was thinking more about 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:42.760 how just for for a long time, I think I've 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.960 I've built this kind of almost body, this morphia sort 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.200 of thing going on. We're now like when I'm when 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:50.000 I'm in the gym or i'm training someone, I see, 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:51.840 you know, I see these other people and I know 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:53.840 it's not a good, good habit to be looking at 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.600 other people or comparing, but you know, sometimes it's hard 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:58.040 to be like, Okay, you know, what if what if 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.280 this never happened and you know, had to had I've 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.600 been able to achieve you know what this guy's got 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:04.600 going on, And I know that that's not healthy. But 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.720 I'm just being honest with you here that that's Those 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:08.360 are the thoughts that kind of come into my mind. 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.880 And yeah, I'm kind of slowly working my way out 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.400 of that, you know, years and years course of kind 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:15.000 of body body image problems. 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.439 Yeah, Joe, you already know this, but you you, you, 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:20.679 and there are natural thoughts that we all have. We 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.560 look at we're always comparing ourselves to other people because 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:28.040 there's no there's no real like fucking guidebook to anything, 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.480 So you're just always looking at other people. I do 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:34.960 this too, and I have to remind myself you can't 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:39.600 fucking do that, you know. Yeah, you can't compare, You 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:41.440 really can't. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.480 You really can't compare. Not only you really can't. 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:48.840 Not only you not only can you not compare yourself 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:51.560 to other people. That's gonna fuck you, but you're gonna 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:57.240 really fuck yourself if you compare yourself to other potential 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:02.960 versions of yourself were events difference, Like if you sit 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:05.320 around and you're like, you're like, oh, my life could 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:08.280 have been so much different if this happens, or if 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:12.040 this didn't happen, or if I didn't make this mistake. 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:18.520 But it's just just no reason to do that. 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:21.000 If you you know, if you're gonna compare yourself to anyone, 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:25.679 compare yourself to the version of yourself that decided that 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:27.640 none of that shit matter, then you and that you 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.760 were gonna go off and make a good life for 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:33.840 yourself anyway, if you're gonna compare yourself to anyone, compare 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.199 yourself to that guy, because that's that's the guy that 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:37.120 that you could still be. 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:40.760 You know. Yeah, man, you know, trying to remind myself, 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:42.640 you know, we're only in a competition with ourselves. So 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:44.960 I mean it's hard when like it's writing in your 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:47.640 face sometimes, but it's just it's just every day Bail 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.400 trying to kind of reinforce that, Yeah, that makes a 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:52.040 lot of sense. 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:54.599 No, I'm always uh. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:58.920 I mean also just I know, I know you're not 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.360 with the whole comparing yourself to other people thing. 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.400 It's a strong like. 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:09.040 Unhappy, it's a strong sense of unhappiness and that. But 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:16.120 there's also there's another version of it where like, uh, 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.199 you can compare yourself to people who are where you 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:20.000 can you compare yourself to people who are like less 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:23.080 fortunate than you, and you're like, well, at least I'm not, 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.080 you know, Like I think for a while, I was 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.040 a lot of times in my life where I was 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:31.719 kind of self conscious about my height, you know, and 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:33.200 I'm like, yeah. 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:34.800 I don't know if you heard me, but that's that's 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:37.520 another thing that I was kind of almost compensating forward 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:39.920 with this living thing because I'm I'm barely five seven, 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:45.360 Like I'm trying to I'm trying to, you know, deal 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:47.240 with that is also you know, something that I grew 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:48.760 up with, you know, in high school and. 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.400 With all these Yeah, i mean I'm barely five seven too, 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:53.760 but it's always but you know how much worse it 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:54.840 could have been for us. 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:56.360 It could have been so much. 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:59.079 Worse for a fucking that fucking angry Bagel guy on. 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:01.680 YouTube, like we could have in the Angry Bagel on YouTube, 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:04.640 like you really can't do you you know what, you 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:06.600 know what it is, and I actually I'm so glad 0:12:06.600 --> 0:12:08.120 that you called in to talk about this because I 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:12.320 just came, really, I came to an epiphany about. 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:14.160 This that I'm happy to share. 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:19.880 Is like, I'm really I'm beginning to really feel like 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:26.439 comparing yourself to other people, you're trying to cherry pick life. 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:30.520 You're trying to like take everything that's good about everyone 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:33.480 else's life and everything that ever could have been good 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:37.560 about your life and remove everything that's bad and cherry 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.800 pick yourself this perfect life made up. 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.000 Of only the things that are good about about other 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:48.920 people's lives and you. And you just can't do that. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.560 You can only have you can only have somebody else's 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:54.800 good things. When you're like, when you're comparing yourself to 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:57.880 another person, you can only have their good things if 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:02.160 you take all the bad things that happened to them too. 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:05.240 Like when you're watching a guy in the gym and 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.200 you're like, oh, this guy's in good shape. I wish 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.440 I could be in as good shape as him. You're 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.160 not disc you're discounting all how all everything in that 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:14.920 guy's life the horrible. 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:15.560 You know what I mean? 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:18.520 You have that comes in a package deal. You can't 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.679 just take all the good things out of everything you 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:26.720 see and use it to make perfect life that doesn't exist. 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.480 So you just gotta take you just. 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:31.240 Gotta kind of I guess, I guess take stock of 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:35.600 whatever is good in your own life and just be like, 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.360 thank god, I have this little more. Thank God I'm 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:41.959 five six and I'm not you know, the to whatever 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:43.560 how the bagel guy's heights. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.480 Yeah, you know, thank god I have. 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.920 I have fucking have have something. You know, if you 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.600 sit around and you're like, I have this thing, but 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:53.680 it's not enough. I need this guy's thing, and I 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:55.880 need I need this guy's thing, but I don't want 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:58.880 this guy's thing. This guy's has this thing that I 0:13:58.880 --> 0:13:59.280 don't want. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:00.760 But I. 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.440 Yeah, you can't, but I don't want you know, his 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:08.839 horrible childhood or whatever the fuck you know you can't 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:11.120 do you just can't do that. And I and by 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.600 the way, I'm like giving, I'm giving a whole spiel 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.640 right now, but I forget this all the time, and 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:17.960 I'm I'm like, oh. 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.120 Yeah, man, it's human. It's human nature to to feel, 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.120 you know, Like you said, these stuffs are natural, and 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:25.000 I think we're all dealing with them, to be honest, 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:27.840 and nobody's perfect, so we're never gonna be able to 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.920 be in a situation where we see someone who's you know, bigger, better, 0:14:31.000 --> 0:14:33.840 whatever the case might be, and just automatically, you know, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:36.240 just remind ourselves that we, you know, we shouldn't be 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.160 doing that. I think it takes a lot of time, 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:41.480 and you know, honestly, talking to you, it's been you know, 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:44.520 awesome getting that that insight and you know, just continuing 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.520 to practice that stuff is super important. 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:47.640 There's also. 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.120 Well I also think about it a lot in my 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:54.200 own self because I think a lot of the times 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:58.040 I wish that, uh, like you, like you wish you 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:02.600 didn't make certain you just wish you made different decisions 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:04.880 in your own life, or you wish something. You just 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.880 wish that certain things didn't happen a certain. 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:13.280 Way, and you can't. But you also made good decisions. 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:15.760 With your life, you know, and you think about that. 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:22.600 You can't. You can't. You can't cherry pick this ship. 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.800 It's just your life and the way you lived it, 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:30.480 and every single thing about you up until this point 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:33.880 in your life is what it is, and it's major 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:37.720 who you are, and you're grateful. You got to fucking 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:42.560 ever be anything and go from there, and go from there. 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:45.080 Yeah, don't don't. 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.480 Dwell, don't dwell that you that you that your legs 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:49.920 are broken. I mean that probably sucks. By the way, 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:54.800 I just see I'm I'm yeah, yeah, I mean that. 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.320 Probably my legs aren't broken. It's not that bad. 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.160 But okay, because I was talking to you, I was 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:01.280 talking to and I was kind of like I was, 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:02.840 I was thinking about my life, and I was like, well, 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.280 at least my legs aren't broken like this guy's legs. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:09.040 Yeah, yeah, No, No, I'm kind of over exaggerating it. 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.160 It's more of just like I have like little pains 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.720 here and there from like hold injuries. It's nothing that's 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:16.480 like immobilizing or anything like that. But I get exactly 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:17.040 what you're saying. 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:21.160 Yeah, well, well, thanks for letting me, Thanks for letting 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:22.520 me go on this fucking. 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:26.560 Gary Vaynerchuk's speech to you, this folk. 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:28.960 Man, Thank you THO was really insightful and I'm glad 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:31.000 I finally got to, you know, talk to you that 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:31.880 that shit was awesome. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:33.120 What's your name again? 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:35.120 My name is Joe. Joe. 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:36.520 Is there anything else you want to say to the 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:40.560 people of the people who are folding their laundry while 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:41.480 they're listening to this. 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:47.440 Yes, you know, continue to have a positive outlook on 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:51.120 life and keep keep being you. I think he said 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.760 a best while. I appreciate it. 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:53.000 Man. 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:56.320 Hey, thanks Man. Take take to Joe, take care of Joe. 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:56.880 See you later. 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:58.600 Man, you two while talk you Man. 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:05.880 Yeah, I don't know. I'm just thinking about this stuff 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:07.800 a lot. I've been thinking about this stuff a lot 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:11.520 because I've been thinking about. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:14.240 My own personal goals in life, and I've decided that 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:20.119 my main goal for twenty twenty five, I'm gonna d 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:24.080 I'm gonna finish out this year. I'm not gonna put 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:27.000 a pressure to start this year. But my main goal 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:30.920 for twenty twenty five is to not be going insane 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:31.639 all the time. 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:33.760 It's my main goal. 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:37.080 Because I feel like I'm really grateful for the way 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:41.200 that my life is panned out so far. I've gotten 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:44.560 to meet so many people, I've got to do so 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:48.280 many really cool, incredible things. I really think if I 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:54.160 died tomorrow, I did it. You know, I did good. 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.720 So now I'm just like and I'd like to continue 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:00.480 living the rest of my life creating things and. 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:05.280 Doing stuff. But if I have to go, if I 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:08.719 have to go, insane to do it, you know what 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:11.040 I mean? Then I don't know if it's worth it. 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:12.760 I'm gonna keep rambling. 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:18.639 This is fun because like h like, anxiety can be 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.320 kind of can be like a motivator, can motivate you 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:24.000 to do things, can motivate and put kind of a 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:31.639 fire under your ass to accomplish stuff. And and it 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:35.760 also makes you afraid of losing of losing things too, 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:40.560 And so that kind of motivates you to do things. 0:18:40.880 --> 0:18:45.199 And and you kind of think if you kind of 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:49.840 think to yourself like, oh, I need this anxiety that's 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.840 going insane. I need it to be and to do 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:59.080 anything to be like uh, to accomplish things in my life. 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:02.720 And to a certain degree, I think that is a 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:03.440 little true. 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:05.760 I think that is a little true. 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:12.560 But also at a certain point, the anxiety just makes 0:19:12.600 --> 0:19:14.560 your At a certain point, you have to you have 0:19:14.640 --> 0:19:19.600 to have a little meeting with your you're the parts 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:24.600