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Speaker 3: My sister is making a big deal out of my

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Speaker 3: wife's service dogs.

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Speaker 1: It's just a dog.

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Speaker 3: We me female, twenty two him male. Live in a

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Speaker 3: different state from my family. However, we often travel back

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Speaker 3: to my home state for special family occasions birthdays and Christmas.

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Speaker 3: For example, my wife is a twenty two year old

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Speaker 3: military veteran and once she discharged, it was medically. By

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Speaker 1: Question real quick two chicks where this is a dude.

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Speaker 3: Oh uh ope, it just as we me female him

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Speaker 3: She has been diagnosed with PTSD anxiety and depression and

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Speaker 3: this is talking about the wife.

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Speaker 1: Yes, ok, I got it, and has.

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Speaker 3: Spent several stints in psychiatric hospitals, one for four months.

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Speaker 3: She was prescribed an assistant service dog who we have

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Speaker 3: trained under the supervision of a registered organization, and she

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Speaker 3: will call her. Daisy is formally qualified and papered. She

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Speaker 3: goes pretty much wherever we go, including interstate flights in

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Speaker 3: ambulance to hospital, and also was interned with her at

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Speaker 3: a psychiatric unit. My family are all aware of this

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I mean you kind of need yeah.

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Speaker 3: However, the last time we visited for my niece's twenty

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Speaker 3: my niece about whether Daisy was accompanying my wife to

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Speaker 3: the party, which I responded that she was, as my

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Speaker 3: eighty people and loud music together in one room. My

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Speaker 3: and they already know this, being very familiar with Daisy's

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Speaker 3: my niece and also said similar things, not outright saying it,

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Speaker 3: I just said, if my wife feels she needs her,

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Speaker 3: she will be attending. Sometimes my wife has been able

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Speaker 3: to do small things without her, but never big events

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Speaker 3: like parties, even shopping centers and restaurants. Daisy comes with her.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, if Daisy's not coming, then Opie's wife's not coming.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Someone's got an analogy, or someone works for the

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Speaker 1: pound and anytime they see a dog they do robotic

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Speaker 1: it to the pound. That's my only two things here.

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Speaker 3: One of those like animal control people in the movies

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Speaker 1: Here, large net with them where they.

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Speaker 3: Come to animal control people really just have large nets.

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Speaker 4: They have the sticks with the little pushing.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah a fun fact. Never ask anyone

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Speaker 3: This is it bad?

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Speaker 3: Anyway, the party came and went. My wife had to

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Speaker 3: take four valuum to cope, but managed to sit through

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Speaker 3: Other people throughout the evening went over to talk to her,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well Daisy is the dog. Oh yeah maybe no,

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Speaker 3: Again, it was inferred that the event wouldn't be suitable

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Speaker 3: Dog, yeah, you don't notice they're chill. There's just so chill.

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Speaker 3: You just can't pet, you pat them because they're working.

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Speaker 3: Before my wife had her breakdown, she was not a dancer,

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Speaker 3: It's just the sister suggesting something which doesn't seem like

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Speaker 1: Used to I think we see what the problem is here.

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Speaker 3: I think that your sister just doesn't want her to

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Speaker 3: Last time she was down. She didn't take her everywhere.

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Speaker 3: Even her PTSD has been questioned, as in my sister's words,

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Speaker 1: Dude, I love the part where they got to the

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Speaker 3: It's like, why are we making up all these excuses

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's stop being around the bush here, please.

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Speaker 3: It's you. You don't like Daisy for some weird reason.

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Speaker 1: You know what. But I think this sister just likes

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like, this is perfect, this is perfect.

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Speaker 1: We all know someone that just likes to be stressed

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Speaker 1: out all the time. If only people could understand what

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Speaker 1: peace feels like, yeah, they'd probably pursue more. Yeah, Carly,

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Speaker 1: have you found peace yet?

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Speaker 3: I found peace?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just like you know, I know how to find

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Speaker 4: No, no peace.

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Speaker 3: Yeah times. Although you know what last night I'll tell

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, I'd love to hear more about this soon.

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Speaker 3: Update One, I am a woman. It's a same gender marriage,

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Speaker 1: I knew that I spot two women in a story immediately.

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Speaker 3: Two. Her volume is only two milligrams. She took four

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Speaker 3: They could be in Canada.

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Speaker 2: Mmmm.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they've all reached nirvana for Please refrain from calling

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're getting right to it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we don't need to beat around those bushes anymore.

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Speaker 1: No, we just need to shave them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can't wait for that to happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's gonna be like, well, I just assumed that's

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Speaker 3: do that, Taka stubo. Taka taka's too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can have a heart attack fortress attack. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: And then it just says I've been having you should always.

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Speaker 3: also given up booze. She drinks zero percent beers now,

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Speaker 3: I still see her nightmares at night, her sitting in

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Speaker 3: You know the story. I've tried to encourage her to

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Speaker 3: Thank you for your kind words. I'm not the perfect

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Speaker 3: I work really hard on letting go. My sister seems

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Speaker 1: I think your wife goes to this wedding.

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Speaker 3: But well, oh oh, you think that she's just not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm still confused what her proposition is, what her

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Speaker 3: It seems like everyone's got various different anxieties going on

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Speaker 3: And then we have Opee, who's getting anxious about this

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Speaker 1: I guess, all right, I know what card? You got

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is what you went through. Can you have

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Speaker 1: A make it look like a human. I like that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: two options here, Carly. Which one?

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Speaker 3: It's a trench coat and you revealable beautiful dress underneath.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's a third option. He's a dog in a

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Speaker 4: He's got a dressed on underneath.

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Speaker 3: Don't worry, he's dressed really. Update two two months later,

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to know what the actual problem was.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to lie to you, and then you

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Speaker 1: Someone said, do we think it's a female and female

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Speaker 1: I haven't gotten really any gifts of it.

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Speaker 3: She said she never said Daisy couldn't come. I guess

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Speaker 3: Et cetera. Et cetera. We could have just done that.

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Speaker 3: We could have just said, I don't quite understand what

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Firstly, my wife and Daisy are together over ninety

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Speaker 3: My sister then brought up a motorbike event that my

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Speaker 3: So how did I explain that? I said, I didn't

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00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:40,600
Speaker 3: know about that, and I wasn't even sure my wife

441
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,080
Speaker 3: was going. When I spoke to my wife later on,

442
00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:45,560
Speaker 3: she said she hadn't decided yet if she was going,

443
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 3: as it was months away and she wouldn't know how

444
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 3: she would feel, and that if she went, Daisy would

445
00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:53,400
Speaker 3: be going as they have support vehicles and she could

446
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:56,280
Speaker 3: travel on that while my wife was on the bike. Wait,

447
00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 3: like one of those little motorbikes with the little sky

448
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:04,520
Speaker 3: I love that, Like in aristocats when it's the two dogs.

449
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:06,919
Speaker 2: See and now dog in the side car in his

450
00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:08,240
Speaker 2: trench coat with goggles on.

451
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,919
Speaker 3: Brilliant. Obviously, my wife would only attempt the trip if

452
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 3: she was in a good place. I was riding a

453
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 3: motorcycle long distance takes a lot of concentration and energy.

454
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 3: At this stage, she thinks she's probably not going, but

455
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,920
Speaker 3: it's nice to dream. My sister said she never said

456
00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:27,879
Speaker 3: anything about Afghanistan, promptly followed by I know there is

457
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,359
Speaker 3: a rock in Iran as well. Also two places my

458
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:33,119
Speaker 3: wife hasn't been in the navy either, so that didn't

459
00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:33,920
Speaker 3: really help her case.

460
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 1: Aren't those old landlocked countries?

461
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I think the sister is trying to say, well,

462
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,679
Speaker 3: I wasn't saying that she couldn't just have trauma if

463
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 3: she wasn't in Afghanistan, like I know Iran in Iraqa places,

464
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 3: And he's like, well, this doesn't really matter because it

465
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:48,840
Speaker 3: wasn't in this place.

466
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:53,239
Speaker 1: Okay. Iran has some stuck Iraq has a little bit

467
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 1: of water, a little bit, just like a little bit

468
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 1: story touch, and we're in Afghanistan is landlocked, so she's.

469
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 3: Not going to navy there anyway. It was a whole

470
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:06,160
Speaker 3: lot of emotional justifying and defending your position, gaslighting, et cetera.

471
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 3: It was exhausting and emotionally draining, and I was an anxious,

472
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,120
Speaker 3: crying mess by the end of it, trying to defend

473
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 3: my wife's medically diagnosed conditions and her medically prescribed assistance dog.

474
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:23,359
Speaker 3: We're in Australia Assistance Dog's equal service dogs. My sister

475
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 3: said the whole point was she just wanted to be

476
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,200
Speaker 3: able to discuss it, and that I was just like Auntie,

477
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:31,240
Speaker 3: someone she hates. So that was another punt in the guts.

478
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 3: I finished up by saying, I feel we have discussed

479
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,159
Speaker 3: it now and there was no need for further discussion.

480
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 1: And at this point your nephew's cool with it. Yeah,

481
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: say we're doing it.

482
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:43,880
Speaker 3: We're doing it too bad, whatever, tough nuts.

483
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,119
Speaker 1: You're gonna be difficult with this scenario. I'm gonna do

484
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:48,479
Speaker 1: my own thing. I've realized recently.

485
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 3: You just got to do that sometimes if there are

486
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:54,400
Speaker 3: literally no consequences, like she can't do anything other than

487
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 3: throw a fit, then just do the thing.

488
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to.

489
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 3: Since then, I've been very anniky, feeling like I won't

490
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 3: have a family if we didn't get over this, like

491
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 3: she'd turn her kids against me, misrepresent what I was saying,

492
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 3: et cetera. So I kept calling, trying to have friendly,

493
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,639
Speaker 3: normal chats, trying to get back to a happy place.

494
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 3: I was totally out of control and desperate to smooth

495
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,200
Speaker 3: things over. I ended up on medication just to cope

496
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 3: with my anxiety. Sorry, if this is all a bit scattered,

497
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 3: I'm finding it hard to write about it, as I

498
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 3: don't want to think about it in spiral and better now,

499
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 3: more in control, but it's been a couple of months

500
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 3: getting there. Since the argument, we have been civil, but

501
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 3: it's a weird vibe, like a big fat elephant sitting

502
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 3: in the room. Today I was having a conversation with

503
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 3: her and things were a little warmer until she started

504
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 3: talking about her uncle, who admittedly is a bit of

505
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 3: a strange guy and who she also hates, saying, how

506
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 3: Darry decide my niece, her daughter has a problem with them.

507
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 3: He has sent her a text message that she didn't

508
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,400
Speaker 3: reply to, so he wrote to me saying he didn't

509
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 3: mean to upset her, he was just making assumptions. Then

510
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,439
Speaker 3: she starts ranting about how this family has a real

511
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 3: problem with that, people making assumptions about other people's intentions.

512
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 3: What do you mean by that?

513
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: Do you looking at me when you said that?

514
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 3: Yeah? She was like, she's like, this family has a problem.

515
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 3: They're always assuming.

516
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 1: I see a common denominator here.

517
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:18,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

518
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 3: Ended up, He's like, are you saying about me? And

519
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 3: then she goes, are you assuming that?

520
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 2: Dude?

521
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 3: You can't win this.

522
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 1: Sisters hates half the people that are mentioned in this story. Yeah,

523
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she hates you too. Slightly, dude, figure.

524
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 3: It out, which I knew was having a go at

525
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,399
Speaker 3: me and my wife. So I cut her off and

526
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 3: said I'd better let you go back to work and

527
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 3: said goodbye. My sister is never going to admit fault.

528
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,919
Speaker 3: She's always the victim. Everyone else is over sensitive or

529
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 3: just plain wrong, and it's just so disappointing and maddening.

530
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 3: But there's nothing to be done. It's either I stand

531
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 3: up and we fight and she never talks to me again,

532
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,360
Speaker 3: or I just try to focus on her good points

533
00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 3: she does have them, and ignore this behavior. Surely, deep

534
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 3: down she must feel bad. Maybe I can't imagine how

535
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,119
Speaker 3: she can possibly think her behavior is okay, but maybe

536
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 3: she does all I can do is have boundaries, but

537
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 3: try to assert them gently and without too much conflict.

538
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

539
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,200
Speaker 3: I think you are working yourself up over this whole

540
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 3: situation when your sisters just kind of causing problems, but

541
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 3: there's no actual problem. She can't get your wife kicked

542
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 3: out of the wedding. She hasn't said don't come, So

543
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 3: I think I think we just say she's been a

544
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 3: little difficult and leave it at that.

545
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's being very difficult. It's weird. I don't know to step away.

546
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 3: On a positive note. I spoke to my nephew again

547
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 3: when I rang him for his birthday, and he brought

548
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 3: it up again. I was going to leave it, and

549
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 3: reassured me that he'd spoke to his fiance and both

550
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 3: of them are happy to have Daisy there, and it's

551
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 3: been all a big misunderstanding and he didn't want his

552
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,640
Speaker 3: mom and I to fall out over this. He's such

553
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 3: a good kid, oh man. Now, he also knows his

554
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 3: mom very well, but like everyone, takes the path of

555
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 3: least resistance. He even defended her, saying that he probably

556
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 3: gave her the wrong impression. He didn't he's just trying

557
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 3: to take the responsibility off his mom, which is something

558
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 3: he would do as he wants everyone to get along.

559
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 3: I wish, just for once she could see that sometimes

560
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 3: her behavior is really hurtful and ease up on the

561
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 3: judgment and controlling behavior. She never takes responsibility for her

562
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 3: harsh words. Anyone have any ideas what makes someone behave

563
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 3: this way? Because I'm stumped. Thanks for listening. I can't

564
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 3: talk to anyone else.

565
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 1: I believe emotional manipulating people over the years and getting

566
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 1: what you want creates people like this.

567
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it all leads up to us.

568
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 1: You can see the little slight things that she's doing, yeah,

569
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: and how she's interacting with people. And I know, I

570
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 1: know for a fact she stresses the h double hockey

571
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 1: sticks out of her son. Yeah I could. Oh my gosh,

572
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 1: if I had a wedding plan with her, I'd rather

573
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:48,360
Speaker 1: call my ears off.

574
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm also wondering, I've been wondering this the whole story.

575
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 3: What is the age difference between Op and her sister?

576
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 3: Because four years really? Yeah, they said that, I'm assuming.

577
00:26:58,600 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: Well.

578
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: At the beginning of the story, Op said she was

579
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 3: twenty two that.

580
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 1: Was her niece or I think her wife was it

581
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 1: twenty two years in the military. That's my also, so

582
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,120
Speaker 1: I think they were twenty two years in the military.

583
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 4: We meet female, twenty two, him male?

584
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 3: Who's him? None of this makes sense? Who's twenty two?

585
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: Yeah? I was confused.

586
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,560
Speaker 3: Who's to say? That is the end of that story,

587
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 3: and we've got another one coming right up.

588
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: Back to your story, tell what happened last night?

589
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 3: So basically I'm in a sketch group. Who does that

590
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 3: last night? So we had been asked by like a

591
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 3: person that one of my friends in the sketch group

592
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 3: knowss yeah, to like come be in their show. And

593
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 3: we've done it once before where they host and then

594
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 3: we come on the show and like a bunch of

595
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: other groups, you know, improv sketch groups come on very well,

596
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 3: it's just the improv scene and sketch scene. So we

597
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:54,159
Speaker 3: had done it for and last time I went, the

598
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 3: hosts were honestly like eh, but like the other groups

599
00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 3: were good, so it's fine. This time it was blackout show,

600
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 3: and that basically means that the sketches are very short

601
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 3: and then you like blackout, so it's like more set

602
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 3: up punchline. So like one of them last night was, uh,

603
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 3: they were reenacting like the ghost scene with like with

604
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: the guy, like doing the whole thing over while she's

605
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,719
Speaker 3: playing with the pottery, and then they made the joke like, oh,

606
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,160
Speaker 3: we really shouldn't be playing with grandma's ashes. So it's

607
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 3: just like really quick jokes.

608
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 1: How long is it's like two minutes maybe.

609
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 3: No, probably even less than that, like a minute, and

610
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 3: you're only doing one. We're doing three. So everyone had

611
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 3: three sketches and there's like a bunch of groups there,

612
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,719
Speaker 3: so we actually we kind of pushed back against them

613
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 3: and we're like, this is the sketch we're doing and

614
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 3: it's a little bit longer, and they were like, you

615
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 3: can't do that, and we're like, well, you either can't

616
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 3: have us or this is what you're did. So we

617
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 3: have these three sketches that we're gonna do and they're

618
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 3: all kind of like connected to each other. And we

619
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 3: get there and the host literally just the whole time,

620
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 3: every time he does the introduction or like he does

621
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 3: the little in between bits between each of the sketches

622
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 3: and stuff, is just talking about how depressing his life is,

623
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 3: and just the whole time He's like, and this happened

624
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 3: this year, and like everyone's having a terrible year, right,

625
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 3: and like last year was terrible and this year is

626
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 3: probably gonna be terrible. And you know, my girlfriend and

627
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 3: I broke up and this sap been and I had

628
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 3: a medical thing and sideburns, No what was it, I

629
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 3: don't remember. Come on, And the whole time, it was

630
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 3: just like one thing after another and we're sitting there

631
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 3: like what is going on? And then we finally get

632
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 3: to do our sketch and the guy who's doing the

633
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 3: tech is messing up everyone's sketches and everyone's cues. We

634
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:40,920
Speaker 3: literally feel like we're going crazy and all of the

635
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 3: people like maybe ninety percent of the sketches that people

636
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 3: are doing are not good, but everyone is laughing like

637
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,239
Speaker 3: crazy because the audience is basically just people who are

638
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 3: performing with you know the exception of a couple friends

639
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 3: who had shown up. But people are laughing like crazy,

640
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 3: and I feel like I'm being gas lit into thinking

641
00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 3: that these things are funny and they're not. And there

642
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 3: was one sketch that I thought would have been funny,

643
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 3: but there's a group of people that are just laughing

644
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 3: so hard that it turns around and is no longer

645
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 3: funny because I'm like, why are they laughing so hard? No,

646
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 3: it's not that guy. It was just like, so no,

647
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 3: you keep really keep showing me a picture of the

648
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 3: same guy. It genuinely was just so dreadful. I have

649
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 3: never left a show in my life because I think

650
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 3: it's rude. I had to leave the show the second

651
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 3: that we finished our three sketches. I was like, I'm

652
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 3: going insane. I need to get out of here. And

653
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 3: it was like eleven o'clock by that time, and it

654
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 3: wasn't so over until eleven thirty. I was like, I

655
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 3: need to get out of here. I'm going crazy. It

656
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Speaker 3: was just trauma, dump and bad, and uh, we're never

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Speaker 3: doing that again.

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Speaker 1: I've been to comedy shows where the guy just talked

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Speaker 1: about how bad everything is sight we just have pity

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Speaker 3: It's like, it's not even funny. It's not funny, it's

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Speaker 3: just bad. And we're also not even here to hear

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Speaker 3: about that.

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Speaker 4: It's not your set, dude.

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Speaker 3: No, Like he's hosting, but he's just a to like

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Speaker 3: It was dreadful. But we've got another story.

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Speaker 1: I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to

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Speaker 3: It's one of our own.

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Speaker 1: So if you're here, speak up, stand up. As Op says,

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Speaker 1: here's some context. After they split up, my mom moved out,

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Speaker 1: and my younger brother and I were with her most

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Speaker 1: of the time. Dad was paying her rent through the

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Speaker 1: family business, a car dealership, but because of the VID

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Speaker 1: it had closed down, so my mom had to move

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Speaker 1: back in with us.

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Speaker 2: Ugh.

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Speaker 1: Those two years where my parents lived together were h

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Speaker 1: double hockey sticks. But we sold our family home in

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty one. My mom bought a house my dad

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Speaker 1: rented less than a month or two moving my mom

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Speaker 1: got a boyfriend. My dad was really pissed off about it. Shocker.

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Speaker 1: He was being a hypocrite. He started dating someone around

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Speaker 1: the same time as well. My parents knew this woman

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Speaker 1: for years as she was the sister of one of

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Speaker 1: my dad's employees. As my mom didn't like her from

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Speaker 1: the start, and she's usually right about her gut feeling,

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Speaker 1: although I wanted to form an opinion for myself, so

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Speaker 1: I didn't listen to anything my mom said about her. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so everyone's got boyfriend girlfriend's here in the families and

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Speaker 1: they're trying to make each other jealous.

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Speaker 3: Everyone doesn't like each other.

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Speaker 1: For the next two years, I barely saw this girlfriend

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Speaker 1: of his. I had met her twice while my mom's

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Speaker 1: boyfriend was around all the time. It was hard for

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Speaker 1: me to get used to her boyfriend as I was

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Speaker 1: sixteen at the time, but all fell into place. Now,

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Speaker 1: it's weird when he doesn't usually pop over. Meanwhile, the

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Speaker 1: girlfriend was still a stranger. My parents' divorce was still

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Speaker 1: going on in the background. Oh, there was a heavy

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Speaker 1: debate on finances and pensions, and was unbearable to see

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Speaker 1: them happily talking one moment, then despising each other the

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Speaker 1: next moment. After two years of my dad renting, he

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Speaker 1: suddenly decided he was going to buy a house with

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Speaker 1: his girlfriend and that me, my brother, and her two

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Speaker 1: daughters were going to live together.

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Speaker 3: Whoa happy ceremony? That's crazy. You can't just say, like,

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Speaker 3: I know, you've really never met her, but we're living

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Speaker 3: together now.

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Speaker 1: Have you not seen Foolhouse? Yeah? That worked out great.

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Speaker 3: Did they just move in together? No talk?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. There's just the first TV show that

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Speaker 1: popped in my head with a lot of people living

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Speaker 1: on the same roof.

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Speaker 3: But also, aren't they they're all related? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who's says these people aren't all related?

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Speaker 3: We know they're not.

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Speaker 4: I would hope not. They're dating each other.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, mom and dad are related. Okay, boyfriend girlfriend's

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Speaker 1: not related, But everyone else is somewhat related. Not everything

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Speaker 1: has to be through blood, Sophia.

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Speaker 2: I thought you were about to get real southern on us,

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Speaker 2: like Alabama southern on us.

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Speaker 1: This could be a happy family, could be all right

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Speaker 1: if everyone puts their minds to it. Anyways, contacts about

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Speaker 1: my father, he is an especially greedy and spiteful man.

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Speaker 1: After losing his business, he refused to go back to work.

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Speaker 1: You just sell assets and begin dipping into the joint

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Speaker 1: pension he had with my mom, stressing her out. Now

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Speaker 1: he wanted to throw even more money at something without

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Speaker 1: my parents being officially divorced. Their girlfriend's dad passed away

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Speaker 1: around the same time, and the house hunting, and I

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Speaker 1: know my dad was secretly over the moon about this.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry they could up the budget because of her inheritance.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, you're I was secretly over the moon about

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Speaker 3: his girlfriend's dad passing away.

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Speaker 1: Don't you know that he's a greedy man.

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Speaker 3: He's like the money. You don't understand, dopey, we gotta

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Speaker 3: be rich.

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Speaker 1: We got a modern day mister Crabs right here.

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Speaker 3: Thanks money many, mate.

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Speaker 1: He's extremely materialistic. A month before moving, I met her daughters,

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Speaker 1: her baby's at them for one night and didn't have

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Speaker 1: much conversation with them. Then all of a sudden we

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Speaker 1: were in the same house. Things were simple. At first.

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Speaker 1: I was trying my best to get to know the girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: ignoring all the things my mom warned me about. Over time,

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Speaker 1: it slowly got worse. She's an absolute clean freak. If

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Speaker 1: I have one glass in my room, it's a pig sty.

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Speaker 1: Some clothes on the floor, it's a hazard. Some junk

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Speaker 1: in my drawers, I'm unhygienic. May I just say. By

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Speaker 1: the time I moved in with the stranger, I was

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Speaker 1: an adult. I was eighteen years old. I think she

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Speaker 1: desperately wanted my relationship with my mother to be strained

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Speaker 1: so she could be the mother who stepped up.

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Speaker 3: Step mom, step mom. You can't step up like that.

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Speaker 3: You have to earn respect, not just demand.

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Speaker 1: It didn't work out at all, and that's when the

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Speaker 1: cranks started to show. Unfortunately, my younger brother was easy

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Speaker 1: to manipulate. My brother has finally started to realize what

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Speaker 1: kind of person she is. Luckily, but over half a

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Speaker 1: year ago he was close to her. My Mother's day,

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Speaker 1: my dad and the girlfriend refused to give him any

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Speaker 1: money to get my mom a present. So he ruffled

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Speaker 1: around the cupboard and found an old card to give her. Unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: it was not appropriate. I can't recall exactly what it said,

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Speaker 1: but I know it was not the kind of card

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Speaker 1: a son would give his mother on Mother's Day. Oh

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Speaker 1: that's so sad.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to give his mom a card. At

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Speaker 3: that point, you choo got some pencils ake your own?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I was about to say you got paper, dude.

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Speaker 1: When he told the girlfriend how unhappy it made mom,

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Speaker 1: she found it hilarious, saying it really made her day. Yep,

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Speaker 1: this is a is there evil parents?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, not good people here.

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Speaker 1: If I entered the house and didn't say hello to her,

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Speaker 1: she would throw a hissy fit to my dad. But

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Speaker 1: she wanted to be the one to greet me first. Ever.

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of mental health issues and my

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Speaker 1: brain is most of the time foggy. Everyone knows by

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Speaker 1: now that if I forget to greet you, it's not

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Speaker 1: out of spot.

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Speaker 4: Those rules also make me so uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: I had an ex whose dad always was like, I

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Speaker 2: have to be the first one that you say hi to,

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Speaker 2: and I have to be the first person that you hug.

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Speaker 3: So weird, that's so weird?

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Speaker 4: What is this power trip?

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Speaker 3: Feels very self centered?

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Speaker 4: It was I hated it.

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Speaker 1: How about like when I get around to.

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Speaker 3: It, Yeah, maybe I don't want to hug you anymore.

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Speaker 4: Maybe I don't want to give you a huge every.

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Speaker 1: Time I go to Angie's house, like if her mom's there,

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Speaker 1: I'll like say, hey, what's up. We're like whoever's around.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna go hunt for him? Is that what

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Speaker 1: he wanted you to do is like go find him?

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Speaker 2: Like he was typically in the same room, and I'd

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Speaker 2: have to go into that room, no matter where I

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Speaker 2: was going and be like hello, so and so, and

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Speaker 2: then he wouldn't stand up. I just had to like

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Speaker 2: awkwardly lean down.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, no, yeah.

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Speaker 2: And if I didn't, it was like a hole to do,

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Speaker 2: like a whole thing. And I was like, I like this.

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Speaker 1: That, Like, Carli, you're usually a jolly person, so that

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Speaker 1: must feel out of I can't.

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Speaker 3: Tell if you're being sarcastic or not.

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Speaker 1: Really, that must be out a character for you to

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Speaker 1: not greet people.

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Speaker 4: What I greet people.

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Speaker 1: Carl is the most jolliest person I know. Guys.

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Speaker 4: See, the thing is just because I don't smile a

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Speaker 4: lot and have RBF. You make it sound like I'm

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Speaker 4: a miserable human. I say hi to people.

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Speaker 1: She's always smiling. That's like, look at her now, she's

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Speaker 1: having a hood over there. It just feels weird that

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Speaker 1: that person would put that on you, even though you're

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Speaker 1: the most jolly person I know, Claus.

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Speaker 4: I don't know where we're going with this, though.

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Speaker 1: It's like that person made you look like a mean

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Speaker 1: person for not greeting him, but you're like the most

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Speaker 1: jolly person I know that.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 4: It was a big power playing.

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Speaker 1: If I wanted my partner at the time to come over,

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Speaker 1: I had to ask her permission. Oh, my dad's I

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Speaker 1: have two older brothers, and when they were living at home,

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Speaker 1: they could bring friends and girlfriends over without ever asking.

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Speaker 1: I know these issues sound minor, but they get worse.

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Speaker 1: Nor nor Oh turns out she's been going through my drawers.

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Speaker 3: My drawers, I'm going through my drawers.

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Speaker 1: Whenever I was out of the house, she would go

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Speaker 1: through my room, clean it, then shame me about whatever

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Speaker 1: she found to my.

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Speaker 3: Dad, weird weird alerts, get out of my room. I

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Speaker 3: would be like, if I found out this stuff, I

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Speaker 3: would not be living with my dad.

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Speaker 1: I'd be asking to be okay. Though I went through

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Speaker 1: all your stuff once, you'd be okay, there's not really

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Speaker 1: that much to do.

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Speaker 3: I've been through all of your drawers.

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Speaker 1: Drawers under your bed, all those a lot of stuff

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Speaker 1: under my bed.

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Speaker 4: Riley knows. He checked.

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Speaker 1: I gave up going through claus and you got too

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Speaker 1: many sweaters in there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a lot of sweaters in there.

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Speaker 1: some journal notes. One night, she got really wasted, started

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Speaker 1: complaining in my face about how my mom calling my

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Speaker 1: dad a victim of her. In reality, it was more

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Speaker 1: of the other way around. I suppose she liked to

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Speaker 1: paint a picture of my dad stepping up to a

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Speaker 1: mistreator and leaving them. Some of that probably came for

875
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Speaker 1: my dad, but I can't be sure my mom left

876
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Speaker 1: my dad. Fun fact, he once said to my mom

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Speaker 1: that he was moving in with her for convenience. He

878
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Speaker 1: would never admit that now, though my dad has never

879
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Speaker 1: cared for my mental health problems, But as soon as

880
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Speaker 1: it comes to her anxiety, he coddles her. He tells

881
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Speaker 1: me off for not being sensitive around her. I've had

882
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: a rocky relationship with my dad for years. We fall

883
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Speaker 1: out a few times a year and then don't see

884
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: each other for months. She would shame me for this, saying,

885
00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 1: at least your dad is still alive. I've got to

886
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: a point where I wasn't even allowed to mention my

887
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: mom in front of her. But as soon as she

888
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 1: gets out of the house, my dad wants to start

889
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Speaker 1: talking about my mom.

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Speaker 3: So that's weird. Is he like saying nice stuff or

891
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 3: like he's just ranting about your mom?

892
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: I think ranting? And what is she up to?

893
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 2: Yeah?

894
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 1: Has hern a boyfriend doing?

895
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 3: What's doing?

896
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 1: Yeah? They went out, I think that's the.

897
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Speaker 3: They have a nice time at dinner. What are you

898
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 3: here for her birthday? Did she like that necklace I

899
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 3: got her that year?

900
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Speaker 1: All of the dad's movements that I'm seeing is just

901
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 1: to create some kind of spite. Yeah for the mom. Yeah,

902
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 1: it's not working. She's living her own life. She's moved on.

903
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 1: So early October, I fall out with my dad again.

904
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Speaker 1: I leave and go back to my mom's. Meanwhile, my

905
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Speaker 1: mom has taken on my younger brother's full time so

906
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Speaker 1: he can be in one place for his final year

907
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Speaker 1: of school and study better. My mom works hard but

908
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,959
Speaker 1: doesn't earn a lot of money, so she goes after

909
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:52,720
Speaker 1: my dad for child support, which I believe is entirely fair.

910
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 1: My dad throws his toys out over this parm and

911
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: so does she. Pram with pram.

912
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:02,400
Speaker 3: It's like a stroller, right, pretty sure? Stroller?

913
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, people have strollers nowadays.

914
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 2: I didn't know that if that was the context of it,

915
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: but yeah, that's a word for a stroller.

916
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Speaker 1: British people in their prims and Australian and breakfast beans. Yeah,

917
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about you, honeybee. Happy New Year.

918
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Speaker 4: She went to bed.

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00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 1: Oh good, she watched this in the morning. A Happy

920
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 1: New Year, Lucy p if you're there, who's in the

921
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 1: New Year?

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00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:27,800
Speaker 3: You're yeah?

923
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: Okay. The girlfriend starts spouting absolute nonsense to him, saying

924
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: that what my brother is doing to my dad is

925
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 1: what my mom and I did to him. How everyone

926
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: is so horrible to my dad. She even tells him,

927
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Speaker 1: do you realize when your mom was pregnant with you,

928
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Speaker 1: she didn't know if your dad was the father?

929
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 3: Oh? Lord, Oh lord, she's just making things up.

930
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: Now, I checked with my mother. Not true. But what

931
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 1: kind of person says that to a fifteen year old?

932
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Speaker 3: A crazy person, a person who's jealous of your mom.

933
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 3: And how obsessed your dad still seems to be about her?

934
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 3: Oh my god, she just wants to sew discord.

935
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 1: But he also overheard her saying that she wanted to

936
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Speaker 1: throw all of my things out and turn my bedroom

937
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 1: into a playroom for her daughters.

938
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 3: Oh, you be literally evil, stepmommy, you're well, how do you.

939
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 1: Want to be the mom that step up if you're

940
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 1: trying to get rid of them?

941
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:26,360
Speaker 3: You're trying to get rid of all your step children

942
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 3: and they're not even your step children yet.

943
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 1: Long story short, my dad and I are talking again,

944
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 1: barely like the bareness of a bear's back. What what

945
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 1: like the barreness of a bear's back?

946
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 4: What a bear's back is fuzzy exactly?

947
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 1: That's how often they're talking.

948
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Speaker 3: It's not bear at all, fuzzy amount.

949
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: No, it's because it's not very bear. And that's how

950
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 1: often they're talking. Is as bear as a bear's back?

951
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 3: What if it's a shaved bear.

952
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 1: Well, then they're talking a lot. But this was a

953
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 1: shaved bear? Was it? Did I put shape bears an

954
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: adjective in this analogy?

955
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 3: Talking a lot at all?

956
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: I said, as bear as a bear's back, maybe.

957
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:06,399
Speaker 3: As bear as a Harry bears back?

958
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: Why do I have to? Can we all assume that

959
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 1: it bears Harry.

960
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:11,879
Speaker 2: Us too much?

961
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:15,879
Speaker 3: That's what you get, he says, bears a shaved tailed Louis.

962
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:17,399
Speaker 1: That's not what I was getting at. If they talked

963
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 1: a lot, then yeah, sure, they just barely talk. Let's

964
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 1: Harry bears back as bear as a Harry bears back.

965
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:25,959
Speaker 1: Is that? Does that helpful? You like an actress in that?

966
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 3: I would like that.

967
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 1: Anyways, I'm still not allowed over there, and that's because

968
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: of her. Everyone in the family knows she hates me,

969
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: yet he won't admit it. Mam was telling my eldest

970
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 1: brother some of the things she's been doing, and his

971
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: immediate response was, oh, yeah, she hates Lea. It's supposed

972
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 1: to be my dad's turn to have me at Christmas,

973
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: but he said, nothing really hurts. How he puts so

974
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 1: much effort into this woman and her girls and happily

975
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: pushes me to the side whenever I mildly inconvenience him.

976
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 1: Those girls will grow up not knowing the man he

977
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: truly is. My dad and I were much better off

978
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,360
Speaker 1: when it was just him, me, my little brother and

979
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 1: that rented house.

980
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 3: Well, you know, and we can't do much about it.

981
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 3: Now he's dating this girl and she's stinky, and he's greedy.

982
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,479
Speaker 1: Stinky in a in a mental abuse kind of way.

983
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 1: She's a clean, free she can't really be stinky.

984
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:20,280
Speaker 3: That's true.

985
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:23,760
Speaker 1: Unless you think the smell of core rocks is stinky.

986
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 1: Than yes, she is.

987
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 3: I think the smell of her be a stinky But anyway,

988
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 3: that's the end of that story. But we've got comments.

989
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: Okay, these comments are from the video I stole my

990
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 1: friend's girlfriend, Now she might leave me, posted on July

991
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,840
Speaker 1: fifteenth or twenty twenty five. And what is the summary?

992
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:45,320
Speaker 3: Sophia dldr from storyline says Opie fell for his friend's

993
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:48,800
Speaker 3: ex girlfriend after a holiday and they started dating. Now

994
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 3: she's stuck between him and her ex, struggling with depression,

995
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 3: sleeping over at the excess place and sending him love messages.

996
00:45:56,400 --> 00:46:00,439
Speaker 3: I remember this one. Opie loves her deeply, you can't

997
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,799
Speaker 3: move on, and worries about her mental health while being

998
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 3: trapped in an impossible situation. If you're curious to know

999
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 3: the full story, you can go watch the.

1000
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 1: Full video right here.

1001
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,280
Speaker 4: I do not remember this one.

1002
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: You weren't here.

1003
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 2: I was asking if either of you did.

1004
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: She did I remember this dude? We gave you the summary.

1005
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 1: Where have you been?

1006
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 3: Where have you been? Riley? Really, he's been in rage

1007
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 3: bait town.

1008
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 4: That wasn't even a rage bait too. That was just

1009
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 4: me being like, have you listened to this one?

1010
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 3: When I heard you listen to the recap?

1011
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 4: I meant the og part.

1012
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 3: Anyway, We've got some comments.

1013
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 2: Kells ty seventy five. First story, the girl cheats on

1014
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 2: her boyfriend with me and then she wants to cheat

1015
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 2: on me with him. Well, duh, How you get them

1016
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,359
Speaker 2: is how you lose them, or at least how she's

1017
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 2: trying to lose you. I don't feel bad for OP,

1018
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 2: but I do think this girl needs to grow up

1019
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,800
Speaker 2: and move on from these guys. What an immature group?

1020
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 1: True?

1021
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 3: That freaking trueman Cosmic.

1022
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: Inkwell says, have you heard about the guy who made

1023
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 2: an AI girlfriend? But then chat GBT maxed out the

1024
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 2: interactions and it completely reset.

1025
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 3: He lost his girlfriend.

1026
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, because like what chat does is it memorizes some

1027
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 1: of the things you do, and if you reset your

1028
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 1: account or anything like that, all gone. If a subscribes,

1029
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: it's sort of like going through a breakup.

1030
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 2: Dang, It's like fifty first dates, but with AI. The

1031
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,240
Speaker 2: next first prompt is just a recap.

1032
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, recap, okay, recap. Remember every said I love each other?

1033
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 1: Dingas by do you love me?

1034
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 3: You love me?

1035
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 2: Bumble Lee Bee's Knees fifty five nine says the description

1036
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 2: of the crying and running into the road and not

1037
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 2: remembering what happened after, To be honest, sounds like an

1038
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 2: autistic meltdown, not that an holistic person couldn't have a

1039
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 2: similar experience, but it's often a blur after the fact.

1040
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 3: What do you want me to do?

1041
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 1: Riley? I was, I was literally talking about that comment

1042
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:01,320
Speaker 1: Nothing about you, Carley.

1043
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 2: Comment for Angela Jamie fifty one fifty five says story one,

1044
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 2: the three of them need to love themselves more.

1045
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:09,240
Speaker 4: This is sad.

1046
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, and get back with the egg of them.

1047
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story and the comments

1048
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 3: and the episode. So if you love us, make sure

1049
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 3: to subscribe.

1050
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:19,799
Speaker 1: We love you

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Speaker 3: And see you tomorrow,