Speaker 1: Rooking Jewels second date update. The girl that's on the
Speaker 1: phone to do a second date update today didn't even
Speaker 1: think that her story qualifies for a second date update
Speaker 1: because she's been out on more than one date with
Speaker 1: this guy, which makes it even more confusing why he
Speaker 1: wouldn't be calling her back. Yeah, her name is Marie,
Speaker 1: and Marie, how are you hi? I'm great, How are
Speaker 1: you guys? Good? You definitely qualify for a second date
Speaker 1: update even though you've been out with this guy a
Speaker 1: few times. How many times have you gone out? Three?
Speaker 1: We've had three dates, three dates with this guy, and
Speaker 1: now he's just disappeared on you. Exactly. That is so annoyed.
Speaker 1: I don't know why people do that to each other. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're telling me, all right, So tell us about how
Speaker 1: you met him. We met on a dating website and
Speaker 1: we were actually talking on the website for I say,
Speaker 1: almost three weeks total. So you guys talked for like
Speaker 1: three weeks online and you've been on three dates. You're
Speaker 1: talking about over a month of knowing this guy and
Speaker 1: then he just bailed on you. Yeah, exactly. Definitely, only
Speaker 1: over a month since we've been talking. If it sucks,
Speaker 1: if you've gone on three dates? Like, how far have
Speaker 1: you guys? This sounds weird about how far have you
Speaker 1: guys gone physically? Look, well, I'm just saying like I
Speaker 1: don't know what their relationship is like if they already
Speaker 1: spent the night at each other's house, Because three dates,
Speaker 1: that's okay, you know, Actually no, we haven't the four
Speaker 1: this we've gone, we've we've made out, that's that's it,
Speaker 1: all right. Well, I guess we don't need every single
Speaker 1: date unless you feel like there's some details we need.
Speaker 1: But what happened the last time you guys hung out? Well,
Speaker 1: you know, the first dates were fine. We basically got
Speaker 1: for coffee once and then dinner and then so the
Speaker 1: third date, the last date that we had, we went
Speaker 1: out to a bar, so it was a little different environment,
Speaker 1: a little fun, a little noisy, loud, But he ended
Speaker 1: up bringing a friend. Did he tell you beforehand that
Speaker 1: he was going to break a friend? No, which at
Speaker 1: first I thought, well, maybe we're that comfortable with each
Speaker 1: other already that it's okay. So then I actually ended
Speaker 1: up palling one of my girlfriends and she came over.
Speaker 1: Oh well that's a good idea. So how did that go?
Speaker 1: It turned out to be a great night. He ended
Speaker 1: up buying Sequila shots and it was really fun. And
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I was surprising. I've dated
Speaker 1: quite a lot, and I was pleasantly surprised with where
Speaker 1: things were going. And he's definitely a little quirky and
Speaker 1: has his ways, but I like that. And you guys
Speaker 1: are practically married at this point. You've been kind of
Speaker 1: seeing each other for about a month now, you've met
Speaker 1: each other's friends. I mean, that's all there is left
Speaker 1: to do, right, I mean, I thought we were moving forward,
Speaker 1: at least to something further than where we were at.
Speaker 1: Do you think there's a possibility that he was freaked
Speaker 1: out that maybe you were moving faster than him. I
Speaker 1: guess it could be a possibility. I mean, at this point,
Speaker 1: I really don't know what happened. I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: think I came across as crazy at all. To me.
Speaker 1: We were both moving forward together, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: You said that he had quirks that you liked a
Speaker 1: lot of times. That's code for he's kind of weird.
Speaker 1: You know. There's just little things about him that at
Speaker 1: first I kind of found it endearing. And he has
Speaker 1: his ways, likes to talk a little tangent, but then
Speaker 1: he gets excited about the things that he's talking about,
Speaker 1: and he has a gap in his teeth, which is
Speaker 1: so it's just so cute and it just makes him
Speaker 1: makes him who he is. I think diastema is the
Speaker 1: technical term for that, if you were curious, what is it? Diastema?
Speaker 1: Is it really? That's a term for a gap in
Speaker 1: your teth? Yeah, I've dated a lot of dental assistance.
Speaker 1: If you ever need to talk about his tooth gap again,
Speaker 1: you can use the doctor's term for it if you want. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, that's good to know. I will I would
Speaker 1: love to talk about it with him if he will
Speaker 1: ever call me back. Or so, what was the last
Speaker 1: thing that he said to you? Um? So, it's been
Speaker 1: eight days since our last date when we were at
Speaker 1: the bar, and I've actually tried to call him a
Speaker 1: few times. I texted him a bunch and I've gotten
Speaker 1: one response and it had one word and it just
Speaker 1: said sorry, Oh that's all I got. Did you respond
Speaker 1: to the sorry? Yeah? I did. I wrote back, what
Speaker 1: the hell do you mean? And I haven't gotten any
Speaker 1: response from that. So are you hoping? I mean, because
Speaker 1: that sounds like a break up to me. I mean,
Speaker 1: like you don't have to have a breakup talk because
Speaker 1: he only went on three dates. But a sorry text
Speaker 1: means I'm I'm done. Yeah, I mean at this point,
Speaker 1: i'd at least like an explanation. You know, I feel
Speaker 1: like I deserve one. You know, we've had this background
Speaker 1: together for over a month now, and we've been out
Speaker 1: three times, and then you know, to not even give
Speaker 1: me anything. I'm just sorry. I'm just I scept setting.
Speaker 1: It's I don't know, I don't even know. Why did
Speaker 1: you stop him online yet? Is his dating profile still up? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: I mean it's all it's all still there. It's all
Speaker 1: normal and nothing that he haven't changed anything. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: we'll play a song, come back, call him and get
Speaker 1: your second date update. All right, great, or third date
Speaker 1: update or whatever you want to, but we'll get it
Speaker 1: right after this. Looking jubil in the morning, today's second
Speaker 1: date update is a serious one because the girl on
Speaker 1: the phone was left at the altar. That's right. It's
Speaker 1: a very very sad story. Oh my god, way more
Speaker 1: in depth than any of our other second date updates.
Speaker 1: Is she pregnant too? She might be it, you don't know.
Speaker 1: She said that she hasn't hooked up with the guy
Speaker 1: yet in that way, but weirder things have happened. She
Speaker 1: was basically married to this guy. They've been dating for
Speaker 1: about a month now, and they've gone out on three
Speaker 1: dates in that time. The last time they saw each other,
Speaker 1: they had fun, they partied with a few friends. Then
Speaker 1: he didn't text her back. She didn't hear from him
Speaker 1: for a little while, kept texting him, and he finally
Speaker 1: just sent her one text that said sorry, and that's
Speaker 1: the last she's heard from him. Marie, are you ready
Speaker 1: to call your fiance? Wasn't that serious? I'm ready, I'm ready.
Speaker 1: Are you mad at him right now? Are you angry
Speaker 1: with this dude for just ghosting on you? Basically? I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be angry at him, but I'm
Speaker 1: I am, and I'm mostly confused. I really just want
Speaker 1: to answer depending on his answer, I guess you can
Speaker 1: judge if you're angry. Yeah, yeah, good boy. All right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dallas phone of her right now and see
Speaker 1: why he's stopped calling you after three dates. Here we go, Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: I was looking for Paul. Yeah, let's see Hey, Paul,
Speaker 1: what's up? How are you? This is Jewil from Brook
Speaker 1: and Jewil in the Morning. It's a radio show. Okay, um,
Speaker 1: what do you want? I'm calling you because we recently
Speaker 1: got an email about you from one of our listeners.
Speaker 1: Her name is Marie. Uh okay. She asked if we
Speaker 1: could get you on the phone and find out why
Speaker 1: you stopped calling her. Really. Yes, it's a segment that
Speaker 1: we do on our show called the Second Date Update.
Speaker 1: Do you have a few minutes to tell us why
Speaker 1: you're not talking to Marie anymore? I mean I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know what she's told you or whatever, but
Speaker 1: I mean I've kind of already sent her attacks like
Speaker 1: saying sorry, and I just I don't know. Yeah, Well,
Speaker 1: she told us about the text, but she doesn't know
Speaker 1: why because you never gave her an explanation. So she's
Speaker 1: just more curious than anything. Honestly, I don't think I
Speaker 1: really want to tell her. Yeah, but Paul, Hey, Paul,
Speaker 1: have you ever gone out with a girl that you
Speaker 1: liked a lot and then she just stopped talking to you?
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, but yeah, so doesn't it kind of
Speaker 1: suck when you don't know why? Yeah? I just I
Speaker 1: don't know if if I can tell her, I don't
Speaker 1: know how to really tell her. So, but the thing is,
Speaker 1: you're not telling her right now, you're telling me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I don't know, man, But I mean you
Speaker 1: said you talked to her, so you're probably just gonna
Speaker 1: repeat you know what I told you. So's I don't know.
Speaker 1: You can pick, you can pick and choose information. Why
Speaker 1: don't you be straight with us and then we'll decide
Speaker 1: what she needs to know? Was she moving too fast?
Speaker 1: That's what we were thinking, like maybe she was ahead
Speaker 1: of you. No, I mean, don't get me wrong, it
Speaker 1: was not. It's nothing that she did, Okay, wasn't her
Speaker 1: fault at all. It was all on me, okay, and
Speaker 1: this is all to do with me. Okay. Well then
Speaker 1: if it's your fault, why don't you just tell us
Speaker 1: what happened? I mean, if it's not anything that's going
Speaker 1: to embarrass her. The thing is is like it was
Speaker 1: just it was just bad, Okay, Like I kind of
Speaker 1: want to like move on from it. You just forget
Speaker 1: like it ever happened. It is what it is kind
Speaker 1: of thing, Just move on. There was so bad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's weird. Did she tell you about the last day
Speaker 1: that we had, like when we went to the bar.
Speaker 1: She didn't tell us much. She just said, you hung
Speaker 1: out at a bar with some friends. Yeah, well all right,
Speaker 1: Well I was pretty drunk because you know, we were
Speaker 1: there with friends, drinking a lot. I drank a probably
Speaker 1: a way more than I should have. But we were
Speaker 1: having a good time, you know, and you know it.
Speaker 1: That's where I messed up. All right, Well, my mind
Speaker 1: automatically goes to, you were there with friends? Did you
Speaker 1: mess around with whatever friends or something? Drunk? I mean
Speaker 1: all right, I mean that sounds like, yes, that sounds
Speaker 1: like a dog. All right. Well, let me just well,
Speaker 1: let me just explain. Okay, So I don't know why,
Speaker 1: Like we're drinking, like we're twenty one again, and so
Speaker 1: I'm coming back from the bathroom and I've passed her friends.
Speaker 1: We start talking in the hallway. I don't even remember
Speaker 1: like how we got to the point, but we start
Speaker 1: making out, and I, like, in like mid making out,
Speaker 1: like I sober up like instantly, like that moment of clarity,
Speaker 1: like what the hell are you doing kind of thing.
Speaker 1: And at that point I was like, WHOA, I gotta
Speaker 1: get out of here, like, this is not how I am,
Speaker 1: This is not who I am. Like, so I like
Speaker 1: called my uber and I got the hell out of there,
Speaker 1: like pretty much at that point, all right, that's understandable.
Speaker 1: And what a crappy friend she has. It's making out
Speaker 1: with some guy that she's crushing on, Like that sucks. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I don't want to put it on on her.
Speaker 1: I mean, like literally, I know how to drink, and
Speaker 1: that was not how you're supposed to drink, like drugs,
Speaker 1: So like I'd take a lot of blame for that.
Speaker 1: You're kind of taking responsibility, but then you're kind of
Speaker 1: blaming alcohol. You can blame it on the goose right now,
Speaker 1: all right, So well that's understandable. Then why you'd be
Speaker 1: like and does it suck? Though? I mean it sounds
Speaker 1: like you guys were having a fun time dating. Does
Speaker 1: it suck that you made this mistake and now you
Speaker 1: don't feel like you can talk to her? Totally? Dude,
Speaker 1: Like we hit it off. It was like we had
Speaker 1: conversations that like probably come married people don't have, so
Speaker 1: it really sucks. But at this point, like I don't
Speaker 1: know how one she'll take it to, how to bring
Speaker 1: it up and then like three house, she'll feel like
Speaker 1: for the rest of the relationships. I've got some ideas
Speaker 1: on how you can bring it up to her, actually
Speaker 1: have a really good idea. Okay, I think you should
Speaker 1: just talk to her because she's actually on the other
Speaker 1: line listening to this phone call. What yeah, Marie, how hey?
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to say it. I mean,
Speaker 1: did this seriously happen? I mean, this is totally not
Speaker 1: how I wanted to tell you, or even tell you
Speaker 1: really because I don't really know how to bring it up.
Speaker 1: Like it's why I just kind of texted sorry, I
Speaker 1: was going to text you like this page and a
Speaker 1: half long text, and I was like, well that's weird,
Speaker 1: so I didn't text it, and then I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm so disappointed. I mean me too, I
Speaker 1: mean right now, I feel like even more so because
Speaker 1: now you're finding out this way and like, that's not
Speaker 1: who I am. I don't believe my friend did that.
Speaker 1: I mean she wanted anything to me? Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: want I don't want you to blame her. I mean,
Speaker 1: like I'm taking responsibility for it, like I guess, I guess, Well, well,
Speaker 1: let me let me just say this, like it totally
Speaker 1: wasn't emotional at that point because there was no connection.
Speaker 1: Like when I got that woman to clarity, I was like,
Speaker 1: what is going on and it was just one yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: like that's it. I don't even know her name, to
Speaker 1: be honest with you, and I don't really care to because,
Speaker 1: like I said, it's not it wasn't emotional at that point.
Speaker 1: It was like one physical I mean, I don't even
Speaker 1: I don't even think you made out with me that night, Maria.
Speaker 1: It's bad no matter what. But at least he's kind
Speaker 1: of a stand up guy about it. I mean a
Speaker 1: lot of guys, a lot of guys would do this
Speaker 1: and then they would continue to talk to you. They
Speaker 1: probably text your friend be like, hey, don't mention what happened.
Speaker 1: Like at least he was a big enough man to
Speaker 1: be like, I screwed up and now I shouldn't continue
Speaker 1: this relationship. Yeah, yeah, you're right. But it's also like
Speaker 1: the biggest red flag ever. I mean, if he's already yeah,
Speaker 1: if he's I mean not that he's cheating on you,
Speaker 1: because you haven't had that guy's talk yet, but if
Speaker 1: even in the beginning he's already making out with other
Speaker 1: chicks while you're there. I don't know, he said, he's
Speaker 1: never done that. It's not like you. Yeah. Yeah. The
Speaker 1: thing is, Marie, I really like you, Okay. I think
Speaker 1: we had a really good connection and I think we
Speaker 1: still do. I just, yeah, is there any way you
Speaker 1: can forgive me? I don't know what I can do
Speaker 1: to maybe that, you know, you could forgive me for
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, I mean, I'm glad that I'm finding
Speaker 1: out now. And I can't believe that my friend didn't
Speaker 1: even think that she needed to tell me. I mean,
Speaker 1: at least you're telling me. At least she was just
Speaker 1: going to keep it super. That's not a good friend. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's he was pressured into telling you and didn't
Speaker 1: even realize he was telling you he was never going
Speaker 1: to talk to you again. Actually, was that have really
Speaker 1: been the situation where you're just gonna you just thought
Speaker 1: you'd never wanted to talk to me again, like I said,
Speaker 1: the one that got away kind of kind of situation.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, it's been eating me up inside,
Speaker 1: so I probably would have ended up calling you, I
Speaker 1: don't know, even tomorrow and the next day eventually I
Speaker 1: would have called you. That's kind of sweet. It's kind
Speaker 1: of sweet. It clearly upset him so much that he
Speaker 1: knew he did something wrong and there was a reason
Speaker 1: why he you know, was so upset by it and
Speaker 1: then had to just leave. I mean, it just shows
Speaker 1: how much he cares. Yeah, I thought we had a
Speaker 1: really good connection, um, you know, and it was Yeah,
Speaker 1: I acted on so many levels. So I don't I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know why I have such a
Speaker 1: hard time believing you, Paul. I don't feel like you're
Speaker 1: just feeding her lines at this point. Would you forgive
Speaker 1: her if she made out with one of your friends
Speaker 1: at night? I would have to know the situation. I'd
Speaker 1: have to know all the details. I'd have to know
Speaker 1: all the information. Like me personally, this situation it was
Speaker 1: only physical my mind. You know, I was with Marie
Speaker 1: that night. I was not with her friend. I couldn't, like,
Speaker 1: emotionally kiss you then afterwards, because I knew what I
Speaker 1: just did. Oh, I mean, really I did it for you?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, No, you did not. I mean some
Speaker 1: things of the night like make more sense now, and
Speaker 1: you did say that you're sorry, and well, I think
Speaker 1: this is a perfect point to ask, Hey, Paul, would
Speaker 1: you like to go out on a second date with Marie?
Speaker 1: We will pay for it. Yeah, absolutely, I would love to. Marie.
Speaker 1: Would you be willing to give Paul another shot? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I really would. Don't give him another shot after this one, though,
Speaker 1: like that will never happen again. Okay, Marie, I can
Speaker 1: promise you that, you really promise, I promise. Well, congratulations
Speaker 1: you guys. It's finally a successful second day. We haven't
Speaker 1: had a couple go out on a second day in
Speaker 1: a while. I guess this is like a fourth day
Speaker 1: for you guys, because have been out on three days.
Speaker 1: That will be number four. Yeah. Yeah, you know, Paul,
Speaker 1: I'm a forgiving and understanding person. Then I'm excited to
Speaker 1: go out with you again. Um. You know, I got
Speaker 1: to be honest. I don't think that I'm going to
Speaker 1: be talking to my friend anymore. I hope that's not,
Speaker 1: you know, weird or anything, but I just see I
Speaker 1: don't need her in my life anymore. I mean, I
Speaker 1: fully support that. I think that any friend that would
Speaker 1: do that to you is he's not a true friend.
Speaker 1: I agree. Well, I'm glad this worked out. And whoever
Speaker 1: said the phrase you can't have your cake and eat
Speaker 1: it too wasn't true. We just learned that in a
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