WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Red Light Green Light

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<v Speaker 1>We got a brand new Second Date podcast for you today. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>it's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. And I am

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<v Speaker 1>so curious what people think of this woman's we'll call

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<v Speaker 1>it a life rule. Does that sound of a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>rule that she has? Yeah, it's definitely controversial. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I can see the upside and the downside of it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and I think she breaks her own rule.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, so interesting. That's a really good point. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a really good point. You're gonna understand what we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about in just a second here, But we always love

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<v Speaker 1>to highlight your comments. Leave them, let us know what

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<v Speaker 1>you think of the show. Thank you so much. And Alexis,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you like today? Yeah, Karen Skander said, I

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<v Speaker 1>used to listen to you guys driving to my college

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<v Speaker 1>classes every day, and four years later, now I have

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<v Speaker 1>my four month old baby girl listening with me. You're

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<v Speaker 1>probably teaching her all the words. Yeah, her first world

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be Second Date Update update. Yeah, that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so sweet. Thank you so much for being here,

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<v Speaker 1>and your brand new Second Date starts right now.

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<v Speaker 2>The Second Date up date. What do you do if

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<v Speaker 2>you're on a date with someone and in the middle,

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like it's going mah, nick, do you a

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<v Speaker 2>order a round of shots to get the party going?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it really depends on the establishment.

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<v Speaker 2>Option. Be fake like you're choking. So she gives you

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<v Speaker 2>the Heimlick and at least you get some action out

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<v Speaker 2>of it.

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<v Speaker 1>A couple of broken rams too, and a.

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<v Speaker 2>Great story or c have a very honest one on

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<v Speaker 2>one breakdown about how this date is actually going so far.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I took the Heimlich option over that one,

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<v Speaker 2>and I wonder if our listener Tina wishes she had

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<v Speaker 2>done the same. So let's talk to Urtina. Welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. That intro makes it sound like you

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<v Speaker 1>told your date in the middle of it that it

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<v Speaker 1>was going terribly well.

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<v Speaker 2>You send us an email about this person's profile that

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<v Speaker 2>you met on Hinge, and I'm just going to read

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<v Speaker 2>some of the things that you sent from his bio

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<v Speaker 2>before we even get to the story.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm interested.

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<v Speaker 2>So according to this his name is Josh, he's a

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<v Speaker 2>specialist in education. His profile says he's dating with the

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<v Speaker 2>intention of marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, sounds like a stable guy, good.

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<v Speaker 2>Career, and he's into skyscrapers and tropical fruits. Not sure

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<v Speaker 2>why we would need to know that information for this,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's it's nice to be over informed sometimes. So

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<v Speaker 2>you ever put a big apple on the big apple

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<v Speaker 2>this guy would freely out.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds like if there's a lull in your date, you

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<v Speaker 1>just bring him to a tall building and he's really excited.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, all right, now we have an idea about who

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<v Speaker 2>Josh is. Clearly you met him on the app. So

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<v Speaker 2>what did you two do for your date?

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<v Speaker 3>We actually went to the dow the zoo Zoo.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a cute date.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we got a couple of waffle combs and we

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<v Speaker 3>just walked around but then animals and just talked a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, that's good, Well he did he talked a lot?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay. Does that have anything to do with the

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<v Speaker 2>thing I mentioned earlier about when the date's kind of going?

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<v Speaker 4>Man?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he's the one who asked me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, he asked you how the date was going?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, because I was being kind of quiet and so

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<v Speaker 3>maybe he wasn't sure if I was having fun, so

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<v Speaker 3>he just asked, like, is the date going? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that the first question he asked you? Because it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like he was talking.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what did you say?

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, do you want me to be honest?

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<v Speaker 2>I would have been like, no, no, and that would

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<v Speaker 2>have made it fun, right, like lie to me. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>What happened, Yeah, because he said yes please, So I

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<v Speaker 3>told him directly, Well, honestly, you're talking a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, good feedback next day, as a person who

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<v Speaker 2>talks a lot, it's good to know that. Well maybe,

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<v Speaker 2>but some people might take that differently. Did Josh seem

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<v Speaker 2>offended by the critique.

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<v Speaker 3>No, he seemed more confused, like as if he didn't

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<v Speaker 3>know he was doing it. But he heard me out

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<v Speaker 3>and then he tried to take constructive criticisms and he

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<v Speaker 3>did a good job of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh he did.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, good, Yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>We hung out for another hour, ended up grabbing drinks

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<v Speaker 3>there because at the Zoom you can buy beer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and I didn't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>They're offering alcohol at every kid's place these days. Parents

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<v Speaker 1>are just like.

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<v Speaker 2>Them to like slough shots.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I think it's just beer and wine typically. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not like.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just to take the edge off.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not to turn up doing body shots at the zoo.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean if you bring your own in.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, maybe a little bit of beer. A little bit

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<v Speaker 2>of alcohol helped make the conversation go a little bit better.

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<v Speaker 3>It actually did.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it's just nervous, right, Maybe you're just a strikingly

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful woman and he couldn't think straight, and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>he was talking so much at the beginning.

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<v Speaker 2>You said it, she's not denying that. Well, how did

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<v Speaker 2>you leave things at the very end?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, at the very end.

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<v Speaker 3>We just hugged and said goodbye. But while we were there,

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<v Speaker 3>we worked on like an antelope puzzle and we did

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<v Speaker 3>it together and it was fun, so it was cool.

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<v Speaker 2>So the date actually got better then after you told

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<v Speaker 2>him like he was talking too much.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it actually did. Like, I mean, he's more mindful.

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<v Speaker 3>He asked me questions, he allowed me to be Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You did an antelope puzzle. Yeah, I mean it's a date, jeh.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm sorry you said it just led to

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<v Speaker 2>a hug at the very end. There was no kiss.

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<v Speaker 3>No we text since then, but they've all been pretty short.

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<v Speaker 3>So I feel like now maybe he's overthinking things and

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<v Speaker 3>he's taking what I said too seriously.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, totally, he talked too much before and now he's

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<v Speaker 2>not talking enough.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I can see that he's over compensating, or.

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<v Speaker 3>It could be something completely different that I didn't pick

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<v Speaker 3>up on.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but you're definitely feeling the vibe like he is

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<v Speaker 1>not responding enough to ask you out again obviously.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because like I'm sending him Freddy text and Ferdy

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<v Speaker 3>picks and he not responded. That never happened.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like Antelope Skyscraper, Guava fruits. Problem is wrong with

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<v Speaker 2>this man?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you said it.

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<v Speaker 2>Je follow me for my sexy Emoji handbook coming later

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<v Speaker 2>on in this winter names. No spoilers, no spoilers. Okay, first,

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<v Speaker 2>we got to finish this second date update. We'll call Josh,

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<v Speaker 2>get some answers, and do it right after this hold

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<v Speaker 2>on Second Date update. I've learned two things so far today, Okay. One,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't think at the zoo.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I don't believe you, of all people didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I feel like you sniff out a beer.

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<v Speaker 2>Wherever it is Zoo frequenter. But look for Brook and

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<v Speaker 2>Jeffries listener Zoo Crawl coming soon. We'll meet you by

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<v Speaker 2>the Baboons for Jaeger Bombs.

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<v Speaker 1>I think It's like, I responsible, you have a beer, Jeff.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't only days Yeah. On Brook and Jeffries listener

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<v Speaker 1>Zoo crawl Less passes out in the bar closures.

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<v Speaker 2>The second thing I've learned is with enough constructive criticism,

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<v Speaker 2>you can change a man. Brooke already knew that. She

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<v Speaker 2>tells me everything.

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<v Speaker 1>It is not worth your energy.

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<v Speaker 2>I said that because our listener Tina was honest on

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<v Speaker 2>her date when Josh asked, how do you think this

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<v Speaker 2>is going with us? And she was polite but said,

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<v Speaker 2>you'd probably be going better if you talked a little less.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, he heard her, you know, like that's the

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<v Speaker 1>amazing thing.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, oh okay, exactly. Their day actually went pretty

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<v Speaker 2>good after that. He didn't run off and cry near

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<v Speaker 2>the snake cage like most guys would. He actually stuck around,

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<v Speaker 2>had fun. They got drinks, did puzzles. So maybe there's

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<v Speaker 2>another factor playing into all this that we don't know

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<v Speaker 2>about yet. So, Tina, even though he has all these issues,

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<v Speaker 2>why is it that you want us to reach out

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<v Speaker 2>to him today?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like, we had fun together and he's like

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<v Speaker 3>a great guy totally.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the fact that he could adjust and take constructive

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<v Speaker 2>criticism and be mature about it. I think that's a

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<v Speaker 2>big green flag.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and anybody who's a talker knows that if you

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<v Speaker 1>get nervous, your mouth just doesn't shut up.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, maybe let's take some of our own advice. There,

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<v Speaker 2>I shut it, and we're gonna call Josh. Let's listen

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<v Speaker 2>to ourselves. I'm dialing Josh's number right now. Hopefully he

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<v Speaker 2>picks up.

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<v Speaker 3>Here we go great, Thank you, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>You're welcome. Hello. Hey is this Josh?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Who's hey Josh?

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<v Speaker 1>Josh?

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning?

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<v Speaker 5>How many parts there?

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on? Yeah, there's there's a lot of us

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<v Speaker 2>in here. Because we're a show. We're called Brooke and

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<v Speaker 2>Jeffrey in the Morning, kind of like a Morning Zoo.

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<v Speaker 5>If you will.

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<v Speaker 1>I worked on a show called The Morning Zoh.

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<v Speaker 2>God supposed to be a joke.

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<v Speaker 3>I know.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on the radio right now, Josh. Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Why? Why is because we're doing a segment called a

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<v Speaker 2>second Date Update waiting for response.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay, he doesn't know what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all right. That's a segment we try to help

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<v Speaker 2>out listeners who have gone out with someone and they're

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<v Speaker 2>not getting a call back for a second meet up.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's the case with you and one of our

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<v Speaker 2>listeners named Tina.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you're not letting the pause happen. Well, you're to

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<v Speaker 1>give him a being. You know, he's processing a lot

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<v Speaker 1>right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't force it. I'll try it again, Tina. Yeah, Tina,

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<v Speaker 2>I remember Tina. Okay, so I know this is probably

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<v Speaker 2>a lot. I'll just tell you that we spoke to

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<v Speaker 2>Tina before calling you, and she told us about your hangout.

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<v Speaker 2>She mentioned the vibe between you may have changed after

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<v Speaker 2>you asked if everything was going okay in the middle

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<v Speaker 2>of the date.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you think about her response?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of her feedback, I mean she used this analogy.

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<v Speaker 5>See she called it the stop light rule.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, stop light rule when she was talking about how

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<v Speaker 1>you were talking too much.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're not familiar with that. What is the stop

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<v Speaker 2>light rule? Okay?

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<v Speaker 5>Well she says that when you've been talking for twenty seconds,

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<v Speaker 5>it goes from a green light to a yellow light

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<v Speaker 5>because you've started to talk too long. Twenty seconds, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>twenty seconds. And then you said, once you hit forty seconds,

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<v Speaker 5>it's a red light.

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<v Speaker 3>What.

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<v Speaker 2>Ok that's not a general rule. You're saying.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, she explained the whole thing to me, and she

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<v Speaker 5>said that I sped past the red light at least

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<v Speaker 5>two to three times, which and I'm like, okay, I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't know that, like there was a traffic.

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<v Speaker 1>Law for I mean, I guess to get to get

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<v Speaker 1>conversation going back and forth, back and forth like that, ping. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to count while you were talking. Just now

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<v Speaker 1>I heard it. I didn't lose it.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is all feedback you're getting on a first date. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we were having.

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<v Speaker 5>Drinks and like got a little bit of my story

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<v Speaker 5>out and she was like, you still have the green,

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<v Speaker 5>but only for another seven or eight seconds.

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<v Speaker 2>She's you're still.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was just one example and then they

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<v Speaker 1>moved on from it.

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<v Speaker 2>She's got one of those big speeding guns. She's knocking him.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm counting, keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not talking enough now that would be difficult.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the rule, but it's stressful.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that how it felt, Josh?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean and I felt like I was like

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<v Speaker 5>on like my like driving test.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, when I was sixteen, the.

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<v Speaker 5>Instructor was like speed up, now, slow down, I use

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<v Speaker 5>your blaker merge so I just kind of like lost

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<v Speaker 5>all my confidence.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, I love the way you parallel park that paragraph. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that was perfect. It's understandable. And you know what, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to tell you something here, Josh. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>Tina meant for it to come across that way. And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna let her tell that to you herself, because

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<v Speaker 2>she is on the other line right now waiting for

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<v Speaker 2>me to hit my red light so you can stop talking.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm going to give her the green to go,

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<v Speaker 2>So Tina, go ahead. The intersection is yours.

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<v Speaker 3>Josh, my god, Like, you make me sound so horrible

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<v Speaker 3>even listening this whole time. Yeah, and you're making me

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<v Speaker 3>look pretty bad here, Like, well, well, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>He was making you look bad. He was just saying

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<v Speaker 1>it was overwhelming, Tina. It was a lot for him

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<v Speaker 1>to think about.

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<v Speaker 4>What.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, but like, where's the lie?

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<v Speaker 5>Like I didn't say anything that was not true?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, to be honest, when you were talking to

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<v Speaker 3>the radio, I stopped listening after about like twenty seconds.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you so offended? You gave him feedback and

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<v Speaker 1>now he's giving you feedback.

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<v Speaker 3>Because he has a tendency to like drone on and on,

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<v Speaker 3>and he actually thanked me in a moment, and like,

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<v Speaker 3>don't forget that, you think, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, what do you say to that?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you not ask me to give you honest feedback?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay I did, but like I wasn't expecting you.

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<v Speaker 4>Like accountability, accountability, Like it's not your fault.

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<v Speaker 3>You're a long talker. You just acknowledge it. And the

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<v Speaker 3>goodness is you're trying to get better, and like I

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<v Speaker 3>see the potential in you and it's so great.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't don't think it's a compliment. You think it

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<v Speaker 1>is to tell people you see potential in them. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like you like the person for how they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Now potential in you. Yeah, one day right soon.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't mean it like that.

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<v Speaker 4>I meant it like he's improving every second and he

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<v Speaker 4>needs me because like clearly, because now it's obvious like

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<v Speaker 4>he hasn't learned his lesson because he is still talking.

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<v Speaker 3>And I also feel like the hosts are not even

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<v Speaker 3>paying full attention.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true. I really don't pay that much attention.

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<v Speaker 5>They're not paying attention, like like I'm sure they are

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<v Speaker 5>because you're being rude and insensitive.

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<v Speaker 2>Like so there, take that advice.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I'm always open for getting better, Josh, but if

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't come with a helpful analogy and a short one,

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<v Speaker 3>then it's kind of lost on me.

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<v Speaker 2>Like actually the stop like things already been taken, so

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<v Speaker 2>you need to find another sort of like commuter thing,

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<v Speaker 2>some bicycle lane.

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<v Speaker 5>Maritime lawship relationships are not supposed to be this hard, especially.

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<v Speaker 3>But this isn't hard. It's a little I told you

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<v Speaker 3>what it was, I explained to you how it works,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm pointing out when you go too long, So like,

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<v Speaker 3>what's so hard about that?

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like one of those roundabouts where you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what the third exit.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to give everybody the red light here, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm just going to tell you a little fun

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<v Speaker 2>fact about me is that I am not I am

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<v Speaker 2>not the best talker either, but I think something we

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<v Speaker 2>can all agree on. Even Brooke will back me on.

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<v Speaker 2>This is everybody, all of us here, and every person

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<v Speaker 2>on earth, has areas in their speech they could personally

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<v Speaker 2>improve on.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut up, What does that have to do with him

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<v Speaker 1>thinking she was rused flaws? Okay, there's an easier way

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<v Speaker 1>to say that our speech.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, I think the twenty second rule is real because

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<v Speaker 5>it gets after that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah speech, no more advice is needed, And I just ask,

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<v Speaker 2>would you care to both improve each other's lives immensely

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<v Speaker 2>by going out with one another one more time and

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<v Speaker 2>we'll pay for it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I would do it again and do it

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<v Speaker 3>for charity reasons.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's a big yes from Tina is looking to

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<v Speaker 2>work and change you over the next few years. Josh,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you say, will you be her project? I say,

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<v Speaker 2>under like twenty words, I'm going to give you a

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<v Speaker 2>yellow light on this. Yeah, I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to feel like I'm going to traffic

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<v Speaker 5>court every day for the rest of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>So a big note from me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's interesting most people think traffic court is fun. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't work out, Tina. It's off. It's so much

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<v Speaker 1>for something.

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<v Speaker 2>Jeffrey in the morning, red Light, green Light, yellow Fatal

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<v Speaker 2>and squid Game and apparently in the dating world too.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you not make that connection earlier?

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<v Speaker 2>True funny probably should have, but maybe we should use

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<v Speaker 2>it on this show. As soon as Brook starts telling

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<v Speaker 2>one of her pathetic, ugly duckling childhood stories where she

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<v Speaker 2>tried to show skin to the mailman and even he

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't pay any attention to her. Alexis, you're gonna start

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<v Speaker 2>holding up colored cards and when it flashes yellow means

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<v Speaker 2>time to start wrapping the story up.

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<v Speaker 1>I get red carded and you just.

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<v Speaker 2>Long Brook to get We know he left one was

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<v Speaker 2>a little wonky and he wasn't interested. We've heard the stories.

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<v Speaker 1>He was always interested. Job doesn't matter how wonky things are.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you need help in your dating life, like

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<v Speaker 2>Brooke did back in her teenage years, you can always

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<v Speaker 2>email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling

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<v Speaker 2>you back. And go check out all of our Second

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<v Speaker 2>Day podcasts. They're up online where you get yours at

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<v Speaker 2>Brook and Jeffrey