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Speaker 1: We got a brand new Second Date podcast for you today. Hey,

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Speaker 1: it's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. And I am

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Speaker 1: so curious what people think of this woman's we'll call

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Speaker 1: it a life rule. Does that sound of a relationship

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Speaker 1: rule that she has? Yeah, it's definitely controversial. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I can see the upside and the downside of it,

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Speaker 1: you know, and I think she breaks her own rule.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, so interesting. That's a really good point. It's

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Speaker 1: a really good point. You're gonna understand what we're talking

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Speaker 1: about in just a second here, But we always love

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Speaker 1: to highlight your comments. Leave them, let us know what

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Speaker 1: you think of the show. Thank you so much. And Alexis,

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Speaker 1: what do you like today? Yeah, Karen Skander said, I

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Speaker 1: used to listen to you guys driving to my college

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Speaker 1: classes every day, and four years later, now I have

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Speaker 1: my four month old baby girl listening with me. You're

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Speaker 1: probably teaching her all the words. Yeah, her first world

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Speaker 1: is going to be Second Date Update update. Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: That's so sweet. Thank you so much for being here,

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Speaker 1: and your brand new Second Date starts right now.

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Speaker 2: The Second Date up date. What do you do if

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Speaker 2: you're on a date with someone and in the middle,

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Speaker 2: you feel like it's going mah, nick, do you a

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Speaker 2: order a round of shots to get the party going?

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Speaker 1: You know, it really depends on the establishment.

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Speaker 2: Option. Be fake like you're choking. So she gives you

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Speaker 2: the Heimlick and at least you get some action out

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Speaker 2: of it.

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Speaker 1: A couple of broken rams too, and a.

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Speaker 2: Great story or c have a very honest one on

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Speaker 2: one breakdown about how this date is actually going so far.

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Speaker 2: I think I took the Heimlich option over that one,

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Speaker 2: and I wonder if our listener Tina wishes she had

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Speaker 2: done the same. So let's talk to Urtina. Welcome to

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Speaker 2: the show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. That intro makes it sound like you

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Speaker 1: told your date in the middle of it that it

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Speaker 1: was going terribly well.

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Speaker 2: You send us an email about this person's profile that

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Speaker 2: you met on Hinge, and I'm just going to read

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Speaker 2: some of the things that you sent from his bio

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Speaker 2: before we even get to the story.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm interested.

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Speaker 2: So according to this his name is Josh, he's a

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Speaker 2: specialist in education. His profile says he's dating with the

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Speaker 2: intention of marriage.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, sounds like a stable guy, good.

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Speaker 2: Career, and he's into skyscrapers and tropical fruits. Not sure

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Speaker 2: why we would need to know that information for this,

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Speaker 2: but it's it's nice to be over informed sometimes. So

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Speaker 2: you ever put a big apple on the big apple

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Speaker 2: this guy would freely out.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like if there's a lull in your date, you

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Speaker 1: just bring him to a tall building and he's really excited.

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Speaker 2: Yes, all right, now we have an idea about who

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Speaker 2: Josh is. Clearly you met him on the app. So

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Speaker 2: what did you two do for your date?

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Speaker 3: We actually went to the dow the zoo Zoo.

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Speaker 1: It's a cute date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we got a couple of waffle combs and we

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Speaker 3: just walked around but then animals and just talked a lot.

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Speaker 3: All right, that's good, Well he did he talked a lot?

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Speaker 2: Oh okay. Does that have anything to do with the

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Speaker 2: thing I mentioned earlier about when the date's kind of going?

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Speaker 4: Man?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's the one who asked me.

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Speaker 2: Oh, he asked you how the date was going?

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Speaker 3: Yes, because I was being kind of quiet and so

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Speaker 3: maybe he wasn't sure if I was having fun, so

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Speaker 3: he just asked, like, is the date going? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Is that the first question he asked you? Because it

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Speaker 1: sounds like he was talking.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what did you say?

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Speaker 3: I was like, do you want me to be honest?

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Speaker 2: I would have been like, no, no, and that would

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Speaker 2: have made it fun, right, like lie to me. Anyway.

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Speaker 3: What happened, Yeah, because he said yes please, So I

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Speaker 3: told him directly, Well, honestly, you're talking a lot.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, good feedback next day, as a person who

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Speaker 2: talks a lot, it's good to know that. Well maybe,

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Speaker 2: but some people might take that differently. Did Josh seem

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Speaker 3: No, he seemed more confused, like as if he didn't

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Speaker 1: Oh he did.

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Speaker 3: We hung out for another hour, ended up grabbing drinks

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Speaker 1: They're offering alcohol at every kid's place these days. Parents

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Speaker 2: Them to like slough shots.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I think it's just beer and wine typically. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It's just to take the edge off.

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Speaker 1: It's not to turn up doing body shots at the zoo.

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Speaker 2: Maybe.

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Speaker 1: I mean if you bring your own in.

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe a little bit of beer. A little bit

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Speaker 3: It actually did.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's just nervous, right, Maybe you're just a strikingly

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Speaker 2: You said it, she's not denying that. Well, how did

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Speaker 4: Well, at the very end.

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Speaker 3: We just hugged and said goodbye. But while we were there,

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Speaker 3: we worked on like an antelope puzzle and we did

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Speaker 2: So the date actually got better then after you told

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it actually did. Like, I mean, he's more mindful.

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Speaker 3: He asked me questions, he allowed me to be Yeah.

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Speaker 1: You did an antelope puzzle. Yeah, I mean it's a date, jeh.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sorry you said it just led to

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Speaker 2: a hug at the very end. There was no kiss.

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Speaker 3: No we text since then, but they've all been pretty short.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like now maybe he's overthinking things and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, he talked too much before and now he's

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I can see that he's over compensating, or.

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Speaker 3: It could be something completely different that I didn't pick

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Speaker 1: Okay, but you're definitely feeling the vibe like he is

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because like I'm sending him Freddy text and Ferdy

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Speaker 2: She's like Antelope Skyscraper, Guava fruits. Problem is wrong with

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you said it.

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Speaker 2: Je follow me for my sexy Emoji handbook coming later

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Speaker 2: on in this winter names. No spoilers, no spoilers. Okay, first,

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Speaker 2: we got to finish this second date update. We'll call Josh,

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Speaker 2: get some answers, and do it right after this hold

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Speaker 2: on Second Date update. I've learned two things so far today, Okay. One,

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Speaker 2: you don't think at the zoo.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I don't believe you, of all people didn't know that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like you sniff out a beer.

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Speaker 2: Wherever it is Zoo frequenter. But look for Brook and

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Speaker 2: Jeffries listener Zoo Crawl coming soon. We'll meet you by

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Speaker 2: the Baboons for Jaeger Bombs.

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Speaker 1: I think It's like, I responsible, you have a beer, Jeff.

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Speaker 1: They don't only days Yeah. On Brook and Jeffries listener

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Speaker 2: The second thing I've learned is with enough constructive criticism,

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Speaker 2: you can change a man. Brooke already knew that. She

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Speaker 2: tells me everything.

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Speaker 1: It is not worth your energy.

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Speaker 2: I said that because our listener Tina was honest on

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Speaker 2: her date when Josh asked, how do you think this

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Speaker 2: you'd probably be going better if you talked a little less.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, he heard her, you know, like that's the

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Speaker 2: He's like, oh okay, exactly. Their day actually went pretty

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Speaker 2: good after that. He didn't run off and cry near

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Speaker 2: had fun. They got drinks, did puzzles. So maybe there's

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Speaker 3: I mean, like, we had fun together and he's like

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Speaker 2: Well, the fact that he could adjust and take constructive

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Speaker 1: Well, and anybody who's a talker knows that if you

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe let's take some of our own advice. There,

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Speaker 2: I shut it, and we're gonna call Josh. Let's listen

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Speaker 3: Here we go great, Thank you, guys.

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Speaker 2: You're welcome. Hello. Hey is this Josh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Who's hey Josh?

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Speaker 1: Josh?

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Speaker 2: Good morning?

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Speaker 5: How many parts there?

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Speaker 2: What's going on? Yeah, there's there's a lot of us

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Speaker 2: in here. Because we're a show. We're called Brooke and

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Speaker 2: Jeffrey in the Morning, kind of like a Morning Zoo.

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Speaker 5: If you will.

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Speaker 1: I worked on a show called The Morning Zoh.

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Speaker 2: God supposed to be a joke.

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Speaker 2: You're on the radio right now, Josh. Uh?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Why? Why is because we're doing a segment called a

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Speaker 2: second Date Update waiting for response.

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Speaker 1: It's okay, he doesn't know what it is.

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Speaker 2: That's all right. That's a segment we try to help

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Speaker 2: out listeners who have gone out with someone and they're

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Speaker 2: not getting a call back for a second meet up.

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Speaker 2: So that's the case with you and one of our

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Speaker 1: No, you're not letting the pause happen. Well, you're to

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Speaker 1: give him a being. You know, he's processing a lot

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Speaker 2: Don't force it. I'll try it again, Tina. Yeah, Tina,

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Speaker 2: I remember Tina. Okay, so I know this is probably

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Speaker 2: Tina before calling you, and she told us about your hangout.

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Speaker 2: She mentioned the vibe between you may have changed after

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Speaker 2: of the date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 1: What did you think about her response?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, of her feedback, I mean she used this analogy.

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Speaker 5: See she called it the stop light rule.

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Speaker 1: Okay, stop light rule when she was talking about how

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're not familiar with that. What is the stop

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Speaker 5: Well she says that when you've been talking for twenty seconds,

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Speaker 2: And this is all feedback you're getting on a first date. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm counting, keep going.

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Speaker 1: You're not talking enough now that would be difficult.

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Speaker 3: Josh, my god, Like, you make me sound so horrible

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Speaker 1: He was making you look bad. He was just saying

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Speaker 4: What.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but like, where's the lie?

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Speaker 5: Like I didn't say anything that was not true?

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, to be honest, when you were talking to

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Speaker 1: Why are you so offended? You gave him feedback and

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Speaker 3: Because he has a tendency to like drone on and on,

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Speaker 3: Did you not ask me to give you honest feedback?

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Speaker 4: Like accountability, accountability, Like it's not your fault.

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Speaker 3: You're a long talker. You just acknowledge it. And the

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Speaker 1: I don't don't think it's a compliment. You think it

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Speaker 2: Now potential in you. Yeah, one day right soon.

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Speaker 4: I meant it like he's improving every second and he

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Speaker 3: And I also feel like the hosts are not even

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Speaker 2: That's true. I really don't pay that much attention.

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Speaker 2: Like so there, take that advice.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm always open for getting better, Josh, but if

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Speaker 2: Like actually the stop like things already been taken, so

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Speaker 5: Maritime lawship relationships are not supposed to be this hard, especially.

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Speaker 3: But this isn't hard. It's a little I told you

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Speaker 1: It feels like one of those roundabouts where you don't

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Speaker 2: I'm going to give everybody the red light here, okay,

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Speaker 2: And I'm just going to tell you a little fun

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Speaker 2: This is everybody, all of us here, and every person

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Speaker 1: Shut up, What does that have to do with him

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Speaker 1: thinking she was rused flaws? Okay, there's an easier way

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Speaker 5: Yes, I think the twenty second rule is real because

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Speaker 2: Yeah speech, no more advice is needed, And I just ask,

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Speaker 2: So that's a big yes from Tina is looking to

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Speaker 2: what do you say, will you be her project? I say,

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Speaker 2: under like twenty words, I'm going to give you a

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Speaker 5: I don't want to feel like I'm going to traffic

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Speaker 2: So a big note from me.

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Speaker 1: It's interesting most people think traffic court is fun. Well,

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Speaker 1: it didn't work out, Tina. It's off. It's so much

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Speaker 2: Jeffrey in the morning, red Light, green Light, yellow Fatal

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Speaker 2: and squid Game and apparently in the dating world too.

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Speaker 1: How do you not make that connection earlier?

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Speaker 2: wouldn't pay any attention to her. Alexis, you're gonna start

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Speaker 2: holding up colored cards and when it flashes yellow means

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Speaker 1: I get red carded and you just.

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Speaker 2: Long Brook to get We know he left one was

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Speaker 2: a little wonky and he wasn't interested. We've heard the stories.

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Speaker 1: He was always interested. Job doesn't matter how wonky things are.

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Speaker 2: But if you need help in your dating life, like

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Speaker 2: Brooke did back in her teenage years, you can always

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Speaker 2: email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling

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Speaker 2: you back. And go check out all of our Second

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